@innocence2216 whole story is that her parents pushed her really hard to be this perfect celebrity in a way that was almost abusive and her eating disorder was kind of an act of rebellion but I'm not 100% sure about that but I think your interpretation of the song is good
Dear Alanis, thank you for expressing the wisdom in such an excellent way! Some parents may not be wise enough. But sometimes it s just us thinking we need to be perfect to be loved.
there are a lot worse parents than those that want their kids to do well - if you're a kid that thinks mom or dad expects too much from you - suck it up and take the shit - as long as they don't nonce you ,u will be ok... if you've got a roof over your head and food in your belly then count yourself lucky -- do what ever it takes to make your parents happy - they die pretty quick-
@iampunitan sometimes id rather have no home than to be screamed at everyday that my 4.0 isn't good enough. That when i clean the whole house on my day off that it isn't good enough.
@ladygagaeckler sorry mate - i was talking shit - i know it's hard ( living up to your parents expectations ) the hardest thing is not being able to leave home and go on your own way because you've got a little brother or sister , that you just can't leave alone with your mom and dad. it's shit being screamed at.. and you probably feel like nobody else has it as hard as you but growing up is like taking a fuckin beating .. you do heal and you will be stronger..good luck mate. Alanis4ever
@iampunitan we need love to and affection for who we are! not only for what we do and that we obey but for who we are... and we need touch and hugs that are positive! children that doesnt get this affection and love can actually die from it... we need all this physical things but that isn´t the only thing we need... it is not that easy as you say... I know because I´ve been living under this huge preassure and it DO kill you inside... we need to hear that we are okay as we are...
I was shown this in english class today, and at first all i could think of was "what a bitch!!" ... but, then my teacher explained that she was displaying the ignorance and arrogance of some parents. mind=blown
I feel identified with this song. I've always been a good student, used to be in the honor roll, used to be a quiet girl.. but I felt it wasn't good enough to my parents. they wanted me to be a better student. I didn't know what to study, I was between Arts and Science... My parents wanted me to study medicine, and I'm doing that.. but because it is my choice. The day I got into medical school, was the first time they told me how proud were of me. But I keep asking... am I good enough?
My father used to push me about my weight, and my hair, and my style and everything else... he left us in the middle of the night for another family... and the daughter he always wanted. Head cheerleader, blond (I am naturally blond, but I used to dye my hair black), preppy, skinny size 00... I was never good enough... now it's been 2 years... I am thinner, I work 3 jobs, let my blond locks grow, and he calls me all the time telling me how proud he is... now I am the perfect daughter....
@xMusicalMelancholyx Fuck that. You sound perfect.Be yourself. We don't need to thive off of other peoples approval. Us ladies wear that "S" on our chest. Be you & be damn proud of it. Wish ya the best. I love this album.
she SO overcompensates in her lyrics and speaking. ever since it was pointed out to her what a dumbass she is for not understanding the meaning of irony. fake it 'til you make it, alanis.
@bagyourface umm...no matter how much life is "handed to you", that doesn't change how much your parent are or arent proud of you. actually, i think when someones parents are really rich, thats the hardest on them, because thay end up superficial and dont care about the well being of their child
@bagyourface She's talking about narcissistic parents and telling it from their perpective, not complaining. Please look into the song before you go making comments like that.
Wow, these comments are so sad. For all of you who are feeling pressured by your patents or like your not perfect. You are! And I'm sending good thoughts your way -3 Be strong!
I hope that people know they don't have to be perfect. Imperfection is infinitely more interesting. There's no one definition of "perfect". Perfection is not objective, it's different to everyone. So I hope people know that the closest they can get to being perfect is being exactly who they are or who they want to be, for them and not for anybody else. Unfortunately, people do forget that. Hell, even I forget it. I would just like people to know it sometimes.
I loved the jagged pill album but skipped over this song until now. I will say that every parent should listen to this song or read the lyrics. Very clear messages on what not to do as a parent, teacher, partner or friend.
@172richelle No, I mean this one specifically. In the album version, her voice sounds much different and less authentic (I've heard it), but this one is different (I can tell by the voice), maybe it's on the acoustic version of the album? I'll see if I can find out.
My mom used to listen to this all the time and sing it to me and I hated it. I thought it was sad, depressing, and too much pressure. Now that I'm older and I think back on it, I would give anything for her to sing this song to me again, to give me all her attention.... I wish I could have made her proud.
@xxhostiletakeoverxx You think it would be wonderful, but imagine instead *NOTHING* you do measures up. Ever. You're just simply not good enough and you'll get their attention...if you are. So it's a constant struggle to strive for a goal you cannot reach. A mug's game.
I'd rather have been left completely alone or simply told nothing could ever be good enough. But the reality is, either way it sucks.
I think this song has two meanings. Yes it does talk about the overbearing parents but it also says that if you try harder your going to be greater. Think about it. The second one I said is a little harder to see. Disagree with me if you will but that's my interpretation of the song.
@thatonekid20111 Yes I can see what you mean. The part of the message you have identified is there and I think it means....yes your wife, husband, child, student, ...whatever will be greater but there is a cost that comes with that.
And you can be great without taking that route. In other words the means by which you arrived at greatness is not worth the cost. i.e...Michael Jackson for one. And probably Alanis Morissette for 2.....obviously I think her song is experiential.
Sad part is, although I know many parents who are like this, there are many people whom I've looked up to in some way who this song can be applied to. Like I'm not quite good enough to be in their presence even...
@535mexican this is just my interpretation but basically the song is from the point of view of overbearing and demanding parents, family and friends. the lyrics are words that many people have probably heard at some point in their life, hurry up, thats not good enough, try harder, etc. its a beautiful song that speaks to anyone who has ever felt the pressure to perform better in life...its sad and touching, it reminds us to be people that love others simply for who they are. hope this helps.
I have such a bad memory (prob for good reason so I let it be)...but one of my closest friends played this for me recently (she was v worried,and I couldn't recall why), then I heard it,,and I cried and cried...I bawled - it threw me so hard back to when I felt I wasn't good enough, I used play it over & over, it threw me back to that time that I buried deep down.......oh just let me be....let me be myself and I swear I'll be good at it
I relate to this song so strongly. The first time I heard it, I realized that this is how I've felt most of my life. My parents never actually tell me they won't love me, and I don't think they even realize they're like this. But they try to live through me and control my life. They put so much pressure on me, and they yell and make me feel like shit if I don't do something exactly perfect. I can only imagine how they'd treat me if I wasn't a genius, if I wasn't an A student and a great athlete.
@Anabana21yeh ....so many parents are like that...and even when they stop being so hard on u...then it's so late...Already too hard on oneself by then...by then can't measure up
@Anabana21yeh ....so many parents are like that...and even when they stop being so hard on u...then it's so late...Already too hard on oneself by then...by one can't measure up
actually its more about how a parent is pushing their child to be the best not becausehe/she wants them to be perfect but for the ability to relive life through the child. The line says ill live through you and idk its a really cool song and i can somewhat relate but not to this extreme i said NO to lliving the life for what my parents wanted well SOME aspects such as what college Ill b attending and what classes i want to take and all is well. Im a rly good kid though
Sometimes i SEE myself AS this parent....so i come here and listen to this, and it helps keep me in check. My 4th grader is a Soccer prodigy female, and my 1st grader talks and dallies, more than he learns how to read. I hear myself in these words, and .... i come here...and cry... and check myself. It's not hard to become that type of parent, especially being in my 40's with such youngsters. Love and thanks to the poster, and all the comments. God Bless. Pray 4 me 2 be a better mom.
@jamieana9 You re a good mom, a great mom infact. You know why? Because you LOVE your children so much and want the best for them, and that is completely obvious in your post. No body gave parents the handbook on how to encourage your children to do their best without being too pushy or upset them too much. Every parent struggles but you want the best for them, for them to be successful. Just make sure they know you love them and are proud of them and trust me they will thank you for it :) xx
@jamieana9 You re a good mom, a great mom infact. You know why? Because you LOVE your children so much and want the best for them, and that is completely obvious in your post. No body gave parents the handbook on how to encourage your children to do their best without being too pushy or upset them too much. Every parent struggles but you want the best for them, for them to be successful. Just make sure they know you love them and are proud of them and trust me they will thank you for it :) xx
@jamieana9 I read an article once about a man who had "pushy parents". He vowed not to do the same to his own children. When his son grew up he asked his father why he had never forced him to keep playing the piano, he regretted giving it up. He blamed his father for letting him, for not being pushy enough. Parents can't win. You can't get it right. The important thing is hat a child knows he is loved. You can forgive a person their mistakes if you know they were well intended.
@jamieana9 i come to this song and cry not feeling good enough for my family i try so hard. and im just so damn tired. i dont think they understand how much pressure is on me.
@morenojacob2 Well the song is basically about a child and the parents of the child. This situation is where the parent wants the child to be perfect. And it puts pressure on the child. So the kid is struggling but the parent don't see it because their so engrossed in pride that they can't see the child struggling. It leads to the child feeling horrible if they don't get the A on the test or first place in a sport. They have to be perfect for their parents to love them.
Wow, This is so true. Alanis is so Amazing that I feel like she's following me and writing everything that happens in my life. Wow!! I love you ALANIS!!(:
One of my favorite songs from her. I have struggled with this all my life. Trying to please others and be what I think they expect me to be. I have a step parent who told me I would be on welfare and basically amount to nothing. I'm a "people pleaser" and it seems like no matter how hard I try I always screw up. Never "good enough". Anymore I just don't care. Sometimes I feel like I'm invisible to the world. Maybe that's how I deal. Hiding behind my "walls".
My parents took this "perfection habit" to the extreme theyd hit me if i wasn't "perfect". i lived like that for since i was 7years old till last year wen i finally told someone bout it (im 14 now)..the only regretable thing about tellin someone is that i cant see them anymore =(....i loved them even though i was never enough to be me...i dont see how i could hav luved them even after wat they would do to me....i still lie awake wondering bout it...im just glad to not hav to live with it anymore
Sadly, my mother was this way...this song makes me sad...but gives me hope to show all those kids I come into contact with that their best is absolutely is all anyone wants! Everyone has different talents and interests...why do parents feel a need to shape children into EXACTLY what they want. And "with everything I do for your, the least you can do is keep quiet"......SO FKD up!!!!!!!!
My family is like this but I completely rebel against them. Even though I act like I don't care what they think, I do and it still hurts. Even when I didn't rebel and I did what they told me it still wasn't enough.
Oh gosh, all of these songs from Jagged Little Pill are bringing back so many memories. This was one of my favorites, this and Forgiven. Oh how I miss the 90's. Best music ever. Makes me also really miss Jewels first CD, I remember they were my two favorite CDs then and still are. <3<3 Love ya Alanis!!
the little girls at my studio are doing a dance to this song at it is soooo amazing and i love it and they do suchh a good job at it and i love how they are so little and it just makes PERFECT sense. hah(:
please tell me what version of this song this is. i know the jagged little pill album back to front but this version is simply amazing. i got goosebumps while listening!!!
I know, so tragic; and it's reflected in many of her songs. Having suffered from anorexia myself, I can identify with the perfectionistic expectations and sense of being burdened by it. She is an incredible musician, though.
@crashedxox then you get some arse holes commenting on her putting a few pounds on.her lyrics mean a lot in my life n many others. shes brilliant and just as brilliant live x
Fuck assholes and parents of this nature. Rot with your dead and decaying hearts.
arielliax 5 days ago
"You're an annoying and selfish person. " sorry, mom.
EmileeMaeJay 4 weeks ago
as someone who feels like a failure, this is the soundtrack of my life.....
OceansideRamona 1 month ago 3
@innocence2216 whole story is that her parents pushed her really hard to be this perfect celebrity in a way that was almost abusive and her eating disorder was kind of an act of rebellion but I'm not 100% sure about that but I think your interpretation of the song is good
sydneyanddiesel 1 month ago
@innocence2216 I'm not sure of the whole story but I think the
sydneyanddiesel 1 month ago
I just sent some baggage to emotional bag check and this is the song I got back.
I got 10 seconds in before I started sobbing.
Thank you so much, whoever you are who sent it.
Nikaraptor 2 months ago 5
Dear Parents...
bubbleybubbles1997 2 months ago 3
Dear Alanis, thank you for expressing the wisdom in such an excellent way! Some parents may not be wise enough. But sometimes it s just us thinking we need to be perfect to be loved.
channelforlenilele 2 months ago
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dgdhqgdyukqud 2 months ago
@innocence umm no its about her parents
MsTylerDee 3 months ago
I'd like to dedicate this song to all the Asians in the world.
kimmymac14 3 months ago in playlist shuffle/favorites
People are talking about parents but isn't this song about anorexia?
innocence2216 3 months ago
@innocence2216 Well, I guess it could be applied both ways
DistantCityLight 1 month ago
@spicylatindancer --- you are so right on that!
mistylatteable 3 months ago
My mother might as well have written this to me. I will never live up to my little brother! I will never win her love like he did. :'(
jkseiden 3 months ago
@jkseiden Story of my life ):
kaikaiwil17 3 months ago
adorable ...it is like a ...
burcudaria 3 months ago
even though my parents never said this to me, I hear it everyday. It's in everything they say or do, and it's killing me slowly....
peggyloveoscar 3 months ago 2
there are a lot worse parents than those that want their kids to do well - if you're a kid that thinks mom or dad expects too much from you - suck it up and take the shit - as long as they don't nonce you ,u will be ok... if you've got a roof over your head and food in your belly then count yourself lucky -- do what ever it takes to make your parents happy - they die pretty quick-
iampunitan 4 months ago
@iampunitan sometimes id rather have no home than to be screamed at everyday that my 4.0 isn't good enough. That when i clean the whole house on my day off that it isn't good enough.
ladygagaeckler 3 months ago
@ladygagaeckler sorry mate - i was talking shit - i know it's hard ( living up to your parents expectations ) the hardest thing is not being able to leave home and go on your own way because you've got a little brother or sister , that you just can't leave alone with your mom and dad. it's shit being screamed at.. and you probably feel like nobody else has it as hard as you but growing up is like taking a fuckin beating .. you do heal and you will be stronger..good luck mate. Alanis4ever
iampunitan 3 months ago
@iampunitan we need love to and affection for who we are! not only for what we do and that we obey but for who we are... and we need touch and hugs that are positive! children that doesnt get this affection and love can actually die from it... we need all this physical things but that isn´t the only thing we need... it is not that easy as you say... I know because I´ve been living under this huge preassure and it DO kill you inside... we need to hear that we are okay as we are...
kristenellie 3 months ago
I was shown this in english class today, and at first all i could think of was "what a bitch!!" ... but, then my teacher explained that she was displaying the ignorance and arrogance of some parents. mind=blown
Music14Lover14 4 months ago
@Music14Lover14 same :P
like legit EXACTLY the same (creepy)
SuperBadboy97 4 months ago
No one is perfect... :P
MultiGakka 4 months ago
i'm 22.... i gave up caring what my parents think ... i'm never gonna be perfect and i'm damn proud of that
boomingpearl 4 months ago 4
Goosebumps<3
Simple as that, stop arguing and enjoy the music
deazer420 4 months ago
I'm 27 and I've given up trying to please my parents or anybody else. We can't please everybody. Life is not perfect. Life's a mess, and that's okay.
TheShoredup 4 months ago 5
I feel like this when I want to eat... anorexia is horrible.
xMusicalMelancholyx 5 months ago 5
I feel identified with this song. I've always been a good student, used to be in the honor roll, used to be a quiet girl.. but I felt it wasn't good enough to my parents. they wanted me to be a better student. I didn't know what to study, I was between Arts and Science... My parents wanted me to study medicine, and I'm doing that.. but because it is my choice. The day I got into medical school, was the first time they told me how proud were of me. But I keep asking... am I good enough?
Ariasu2609 5 months ago
this song reminds me of when i had anorexia, i used to listen to this song all the time :/
coralsummer1993 5 months ago
Ok.. i just cried after listening to this...
That's never happened before. Wow.
pancakeing 5 months ago
for those who try to make me be something i'm not.
cherlynn1957 6 months ago
I wish I could make my parents proud. I am never pretty enough. Never smart enough. Never thin enough. Never good enough for anyone. I am imperfect.
Jaydensmama19 6 months ago 6
This song is so damn true
DistantCityLight 6 months ago 2
My father used to push me about my weight, and my hair, and my style and everything else... he left us in the middle of the night for another family... and the daughter he always wanted. Head cheerleader, blond (I am naturally blond, but I used to dye my hair black), preppy, skinny size 00... I was never good enough... now it's been 2 years... I am thinner, I work 3 jobs, let my blond locks grow, and he calls me all the time telling me how proud he is... now I am the perfect daughter....
xMusicalMelancholyx 6 months ago 5
@xMusicalMelancholyx Fuck that. You sound perfect.Be yourself. We don't need to thive off of other peoples approval. Us ladies wear that "S" on our chest. Be you & be damn proud of it. Wish ya the best. I love this album.
SunnydayJay 5 months ago
para lucia.... Shine on little girl... Lisa XXX
lieselottevanneste1 6 months ago
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she SO overcompensates in her lyrics and speaking. ever since it was pointed out to her what a dumbass she is for not understanding the meaning of irony. fake it 'til you make it, alanis.
she is so full of shit and full of herself.
bagyourface 6 months ago
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way to bitch about a life that was handed to you on a silver platter. fake it 'til you make it, alanis.
bagyourface 6 months ago
@bagyourface umm...no matter how much life is "handed to you", that doesn't change how much your parent are or arent proud of you. actually, i think when someones parents are really rich, thats the hardest on them, because thay end up superficial and dont care about the well being of their child
edwardsbella1000 6 months ago
@bagyourface She's talking about narcissistic parents and telling it from their perpective, not complaining. Please look into the song before you go making comments like that.
daj4444 6 months ago
@daj4444 i've looked very, very well into this song, and come to that conclusion. :)
bagyourface 6 months ago
Parents*
MySunshine45 6 months ago
Wow, these comments are so sad. For all of you who are feeling pressured by your patents or like your not perfect. You are! And I'm sending good thoughts your way -3 Be strong!
MySunshine45 6 months ago
I hope that people know they don't have to be perfect. Imperfection is infinitely more interesting. There's no one definition of "perfect". Perfection is not objective, it's different to everyone. So I hope people know that the closest they can get to being perfect is being exactly who they are or who they want to be, for them and not for anybody else. Unfortunately, people do forget that. Hell, even I forget it. I would just like people to know it sometimes.
miceruletheworld42 6 months ago
I loved the jagged pill album but skipped over this song until now. I will say that every parent should listen to this song or read the lyrics. Very clear messages on what not to do as a parent, teacher, partner or friend.
50hellkat2 6 months ago
WHY WE HAVE TO BE PERFECT ?
sfa223 6 months ago
the name of album jagged little pill thats included that song "perfect"
172richelle 7 months ago
@172richelle No, I mean this one specifically. In the album version, her voice sounds much different and less authentic (I've heard it), but this one is different (I can tell by the voice), maybe it's on the acoustic version of the album? I'll see if I can find out.
daj4444 6 months ago
Does anyone know which album this version appears on? Thanks.
daj4444 7 months ago
My mom used to listen to this all the time and sing it to me and I hated it. I thought it was sad, depressing, and too much pressure. Now that I'm older and I think back on it, I would give anything for her to sing this song to me again, to give me all her attention.... I wish I could have made her proud.
PsychoPop92 7 months ago
What i would give to have someone to pay attention to wether or not i was doing something right.
xxhostiletakeoverxx 7 months ago 5
@xxhostiletakeoverxx You think it would be wonderful, but imagine instead *NOTHING* you do measures up. Ever. You're just simply not good enough and you'll get their attention...if you are. So it's a constant struggle to strive for a goal you cannot reach. A mug's game.
I'd rather have been left completely alone or simply told nothing could ever be good enough. But the reality is, either way it sucks.
One of the reasons I chose not to have kids.
LadyMysanthrope 6 months ago
My step dad was just like this I hated him for it Thank God my mom Divorced him
musiclover777p 7 months ago
Fuck you dad, and that whore of a bitch you call you're second wife.
NoEscapeFromDarkness 7 months ago
I think this song has two meanings. Yes it does talk about the overbearing parents but it also says that if you try harder your going to be greater. Think about it. The second one I said is a little harder to see. Disagree with me if you will but that's my interpretation of the song.
thatonekid20111 7 months ago
@thatonekid20111 Yes I can see what you mean. The part of the message you have identified is there and I think it means....yes your wife, husband, child, student, ...whatever will be greater but there is a cost that comes with that.
And you can be great without taking that route. In other words the means by which you arrived at greatness is not worth the cost. i.e...Michael Jackson for one. And probably Alanis Morissette for 2.....obviously I think her song is experiential.
50hellkat2 6 months ago
the 'ill live through you' part reminds me of those kid beauty pageants...
CodeDarkBlue 7 months ago 2
So true and there are so many people like that
Aunjel22 8 months ago
This reminds me of Andrew from The Breakfast Club
hollyxmama 9 months ago
Sad part is, although I know many parents who are like this, there are many people whom I've looked up to in some way who this song can be applied to. Like I'm not quite good enough to be in their presence even...
SpicyLatinDancer 9 months ago 16
Should be the opening theme song to that show on TLC "Toddlers in Tiaras"
VicodinAsylum 9 months ago 85
@VicodinAsylum ....that show is so disturbing
webby720 1 month ago
@VicodinAsylum I so agree with you. It is a shame.
floyd2127 1 month ago
can someone explain this song to me.
535mexican 10 months ago
@535mexican this is just my interpretation but basically the song is from the point of view of overbearing and demanding parents, family and friends. the lyrics are words that many people have probably heard at some point in their life, hurry up, thats not good enough, try harder, etc. its a beautiful song that speaks to anyone who has ever felt the pressure to perform better in life...its sad and touching, it reminds us to be people that love others simply for who they are. hope this helps.
jessaprincepessa 8 months ago 3
I have such a bad memory (prob for good reason so I let it be)...but one of my closest friends played this for me recently (she was v worried,and I couldn't recall why), then I heard it,,and I cried and cried...I bawled - it threw me so hard back to when I felt I wasn't good enough, I used play it over & over, it threw me back to that time that I buried deep down.......oh just let me be....let me be myself and I swear I'll be good at it
Elepa838 10 months ago
The lyrics are annoyingly close to home. Bitch...I'd forgotten that shit.
Hardysamnin 10 months ago 2
I BECAME A PARENT IN 1996 @ 17YRS.OLD AND MY SON NOW IS 14 AND IM APPRECIATE ALANIS FOR MY MIND-SET
Judisali 10 months ago
I relate to this song so strongly. The first time I heard it, I realized that this is how I've felt most of my life. My parents never actually tell me they won't love me, and I don't think they even realize they're like this. But they try to live through me and control my life. They put so much pressure on me, and they yell and make me feel like shit if I don't do something exactly perfect. I can only imagine how they'd treat me if I wasn't a genius, if I wasn't an A student and a great athlete.
SlugfireMich 10 months ago
This song is so sad but true! Parents like this want to be ashamed of themselves.
Anabana21yeh 10 months ago
@Anabana21yeh ....so many parents are like that...and even when they stop being so hard on u...then it's so late...Already too hard on oneself by then...by then can't measure up
Elepa838 10 months ago
@Anabana21yeh ....so many parents are like that...and even when they stop being so hard on u...then it's so late...Already too hard on oneself by then...by one can't measure up
Elepa838 10 months ago
My mom couldnt have said it better herself...
Forealways 10 months ago
How long before you screw it up How many times do I have to hurry up Everything I do for you, the least you can do is keep quiet
Wow, that hit home for me...
Seventec9 10 months ago 6
this makes me sad listening,but I love the song!!!
broadwaycrazzy 11 months ago
i think its about pushy parents..
yasmin4494 11 months ago
i think the song is about kids not feeling like they they are good enough because of there parents
1bad66ss396 11 months ago
its actually about her stuggle with anorexia, and bulemia, if you're perfect then no one will stop loving you, i can relate so weell to it
shenzycacy 11 months ago
i have a friend whose life is like this.
every game we have, every PRACTICE we have, her dad brings her to tears.
at home, she's not allowed to eat more than he tells her, because he wants her to stay that size.
if he can't control something about her life, it's HER fault.
elinotemerald 1 year ago
actually its more about how a parent is pushing their child to be the best not becausehe/she wants them to be perfect but for the ability to relive life through the child. The line says ill live through you and idk its a really cool song and i can somewhat relate but not to this extreme i said NO to lliving the life for what my parents wanted well SOME aspects such as what college Ill b attending and what classes i want to take and all is well. Im a rly good kid though
linguini12345 1 year ago
prefer the other version,gr8 song nevertheless.
357chronic 1 year ago
4 people are perfect, apparently .
taimatsuko 1 year ago
she does my poses... the one on the couch and the one where she pulls her eyebrows up... :P
Cjsewall1 1 year ago
god; this song speaks to my heart
TheHippieWitch 1 year ago
i simply love this song...everything in it! So, glad I found this!
mytwistdsky 1 year ago
yeh. thanks for that mother. really.
xXxMMMusicxXx 1 year ago 2
Sometimes i SEE myself AS this parent....so i come here and listen to this, and it helps keep me in check. My 4th grader is a Soccer prodigy female, and my 1st grader talks and dallies, more than he learns how to read. I hear myself in these words, and .... i come here...and cry... and check myself. It's not hard to become that type of parent, especially being in my 40's with such youngsters. Love and thanks to the poster, and all the comments. God Bless. Pray 4 me 2 be a better mom.
jamieana9 1 year ago 25
@jamieana9 your honesty astounds me - and I am so very similar .... thankyou
muddindogs 1 year ago
@jamieana9 You re a good mom, a great mom infact. You know why? Because you LOVE your children so much and want the best for them, and that is completely obvious in your post. No body gave parents the handbook on how to encourage your children to do their best without being too pushy or upset them too much. Every parent struggles but you want the best for them, for them to be successful. Just make sure they know you love them and are proud of them and trust me they will thank you for it :) xx
Anabana21yeh 5 months ago 2
@jamieana9 You re a good mom, a great mom infact. You know why? Because you LOVE your children so much and want the best for them, and that is completely obvious in your post. No body gave parents the handbook on how to encourage your children to do their best without being too pushy or upset them too much. Every parent struggles but you want the best for them, for them to be successful. Just make sure they know you love them and are proud of them and trust me they will thank you for it :) xx
Anabana21yeh 5 months ago 2
@jamieana9 I read an article once about a man who had "pushy parents". He vowed not to do the same to his own children. When his son grew up he asked his father why he had never forced him to keep playing the piano, he regretted giving it up. He blamed his father for letting him, for not being pushy enough. Parents can't win. You can't get it right. The important thing is hat a child knows he is loved. You can forgive a person their mistakes if you know they were well intended.
SpocksSister08 5 months ago 5
@jamieana9 remember... if the kids say they dont want to do some sport or something dont force them.... not like thats the job they want to do
boomingpearl 4 months ago
@jamieana9 i come to this song and cry not feeling good enough for my family i try so hard. and im just so damn tired. i dont think they understand how much pressure is on me.
ladygagaeckler 3 months ago
I don't get dis song. Any help?
morenojacob2 1 year ago
@morenojacob2 Well the song is basically about a child and the parents of the child. This situation is where the parent wants the child to be perfect. And it puts pressure on the child. So the kid is struggling but the parent don't see it because their so engrossed in pride that they can't see the child struggling. It leads to the child feeling horrible if they don't get the A on the test or first place in a sport. They have to be perfect for their parents to love them.
Azriellia 1 year ago
"I'll live through you" through "Why are you crying?" Are some of the most powerful and relatable lyrics i have ever heard.
KrE8IvEcHaOz13 1 year ago
@KrE8IvEcHaOz13 me too!
MoonPisces029 1 year ago
Wow, This is so true. Alanis is so Amazing that I feel like she's following me and writing everything that happens in my life. Wow!! I love you ALANIS!!(:
i1oveMusic01 1 year ago
She is so pretty . Amazing woman .
roxalicious22 1 year ago 2
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kyla0824 1 year ago
One of my favorite songs from her. I have struggled with this all my life. Trying to please others and be what I think they expect me to be. I have a step parent who told me I would be on welfare and basically amount to nothing. I'm a "people pleaser" and it seems like no matter how hard I try I always screw up. Never "good enough". Anymore I just don't care. Sometimes I feel like I'm invisible to the world. Maybe that's how I deal. Hiding behind my "walls".
cappygirl1971 1 year ago 4
deep
erevaj 1 year ago
so true so sad well done alanis
dawnskee10 1 year ago
i can barely feel this song
tiffanycutieful 1 year ago
This reminds me of my father. :/
kay3veno 1 year ago
My parents took this "perfection habit" to the extreme theyd hit me if i wasn't "perfect". i lived like that for since i was 7years old till last year wen i finally told someone bout it (im 14 now)..the only regretable thing about tellin someone is that i cant see them anymore =(....i loved them even though i was never enough to be me...i dont see how i could hav luved them even after wat they would do to me....i still lie awake wondering bout it...im just glad to not hav to live with it anymore
AnimexXxEmo 1 year ago
Sadly, my mother was this way...this song makes me sad...but gives me hope to show all those kids I come into contact with that their best is absolutely is all anyone wants! Everyone has different talents and interests...why do parents feel a need to shape children into EXACTLY what they want. And "with everything I do for your, the least you can do is keep quiet"......SO FKD up!!!!!!!!
mychaeliac 1 year ago
if only parents could see how much it hurts their kids to want so much...
Juijk 1 year ago
this feels exactly like me espicailly more nowadays
brokenin24ever 1 year ago
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spiddamunkky 1 year ago
One of my favorites from her best album.Lyrics so true.
clublife32 1 year ago
Parents.. or significant others. :oP
AmberRoseTV 1 year ago
sad song
rio197 1 year ago
God loves you the way you are.
You don't have to deserve it.
Just take it, it's a gift.
And His love will always fill your heart
jeanine1989 1 year ago 4
My family is like this but I completely rebel against them. Even though I act like I don't care what they think, I do and it still hurts. Even when I didn't rebel and I did what they told me it still wasn't enough.
AnastaishaRIOT 1 year ago
This song reminds me of my family, but sometimes I hope that love isn't really contingent upon how well I do in life.
I hate my parents for what they did to me and my brother, but I love them because they are my parents. If only they felt the dame way.
WolffPupsSubmission 1 year ago 2
This is the best version ive ever heard i love it :D
BubblyyChubblyy 1 year ago 2
all of those parents who force their 6 year kids into beauty pagents. should listen to this song and wake up.
TheTeamcrue 1 year ago
can u plse hv the url of this video. thx.
nelllynn147 1 year ago
Oh gosh, all of these songs from Jagged Little Pill are bringing back so many memories. This was one of my favorites, this and Forgiven. Oh how I miss the 90's. Best music ever. Makes me also really miss Jewels first CD, I remember they were my two favorite CDs then and still are. <3<3 Love ya Alanis!!
aleigha0707 1 year ago 3
the little girls at my studio are doing a dance to this song at it is soooo amazing and i love it and they do suchh a good job at it and i love how they are so little and it just makes PERFECT sense. hah(:
katelynjennifer55555 1 year ago
my opinion is i really like this song and this arrangment sounds beautiful
dadaimlovinit 2 years ago
i love the song so much! It may be cheesy but i tear up everytime...i know someone whose rents are like this and it drives her mad...
shezawesome15 2 years ago
nice song
i can relate it
msfritzie1205 2 years ago
please tell me what version of this song this is. i know the jagged little pill album back to front but this version is simply amazing. i got goosebumps while listening!!!
cyclistnomore 2 years ago
Is the jagged little pill acoustic version (10th anniversary edition) ;)
jonathanjovik 2 years ago
cheers buddy :-)
cyclistnomore 1 year ago
love this song ♥
xcandyproductionsx 2 years ago
she suffered from anorexia =[
crashedxox 2 years ago 47
I know, so tragic; and it's reflected in many of her songs. Having suffered from anorexia myself, I can identify with the perfectionistic expectations and sense of being burdened by it. She is an incredible musician, though.
whisperingwillows99 1 year ago
@crashedxox then you get some arse holes commenting on her putting a few pounds on.her lyrics mean a lot in my life n many others. shes brilliant and just as brilliant live x
TheKaz1977 1 year ago
:'-(
peanutbutters09 2 years ago 2
Awesome song....so sad, and yet I can think of a bunch of parents like that...
eminemrox29 2 years ago 76
!st comment! holy shit! This is awesome But I'm not a big fan of the acoustic of the song.... but it's still beautiful.
MCRxSimsXAnime 2 years ago 2