Yet another video that I never got...grrr. So glad the visit happened for your Aunt. Great advice. When my kids were growing up I used to take them to volunteer at a local alzheimer's home for military. So heartbreaking so many times because so many of them are completely forgotten by their families.
@familymatters1234 Oh wow, and it's not as though I make them on any sort of schedule you could expect! :-) Yeah, now we need to get them together again; but her cousin broke her arm. I tell ya, once things start going downhill, it's really bad. One thing after the other. But these two - my aunt and her cousin are not alone; they have family with them every day. So many people are there alone; no one to love them. It is heartbreaking - you chose the perfect word! You have a good heart.
Very good advice here. I think the Golden Rule applies here as in all situations... treat people how you would like to be treated. And I also think you build up good karma by taking care of and giving attention to the aged.
@paxukulele You are right of course; I think a lot about what I'd want if I were in her position and try to provide that, but also think about what I know of her likes and dislikes; using those as the main guideline. I love her and we've been friends in addition to family for a long time, so it is a gift to me to be able to spend time with her from a selfish point of view. I feel badly that she has to live like this; she really didn't want to. But we try to make the best of it. :) Thank you John
Hey Liz...Good to see your sweet face. I go to nursing homes and visit those who do not have anyone to visit. I started going when I was in my teens. I feel a connection to older ppl. I think it stems from growing up in a house with my grand parents, older aunts and uncles always were living with us. Some to recover from illness. My grand lived with us permanently after my grandfather died suddenly. Yes, there are alot of lonely butters in the home. They melt my heart. HugZ to you and Aunt Jean
@1jojolicious Hi- thank you so much for the kind comments. Oh, what a lovely thing to do! There are so many of them that are alone but interesting to talk to. I will chat with them, but the staff has made it clear that if they ask for anything else, to just tell the staff/ they may not be allowed. It makes sense, so that's what I do. Chat, praise a new hairdo or for walking instead of being in the wheelchair. They love it - they react so beautifully. It's heartbreaking really. Thanks again hon.
You are so right! I worked in nursing homes years ago as a nurses aid, then in people's homes as a home health aid which was mostly elderly. People really don't seem to get it. Having a visitor once in a while is not enough. These are human beings, and they are still a human being when you're not there.
@SinisterLadybug Exactly. I feel so badly for those who never seem to get visitors. What a shame. But of course you never know unless you have a reason to be there. My Auntie says "Don't get old".
So good to see you again Liz! You are so right. I worked in a nursing home for a while and it was sad to see so many patients that had been left there with no family to visit. Very sad. Yes, OMgoodness!! I would go wild without some kind of internet connection. Especially if I were somewhere for months and couldn't get out. I do hope your Auntie is doing better. xoxo, Melissa
@imperceptibleme Oh Melissa - you are such a dear. It is painful to watch the people who never get visitors. They seem so sad and pitiful. And when they ask for me to do things for them, it breaks my heart to have to say no. But the staff there is insistent that no one other than staff help them. It makes sense, but is so sad. Yeah, let's get busy now and make sure EVERYONE in our family knows not to dump us someplace without connectivity! Auntie is hanging in there and that's about it. Hugs!
Your message is reaching home, Liz. I have many regrets regarding your comments. On occasion they haunt me. Life's lessons are sometimes hard knocks and then, suddenly - POOF - gone. What's left? Regrets. I wish that for no one.
I'm glad you liked the card. Meeting those who attended ST - it would have been a treat if you had been one. - roc
@popparoc46 Oh Roc, I learn more each day; enough that I hope I'll understand if I feel lonely when my time comes. I think having electronic contact may help us more than the current generation; we're just so used to being in easy contact. Regret is such a horrible thing in these situations; we can't go back in time. We can only move forward. With any luck, wiser, even if sadder. Thank you for the thoughtful and kind comments. You are a dear!
@ABQdoubleG Oh Gigi - your mom will never be neglected, I'm sure of that! You heard me because you already know that. You must see a lot of lonely, neglected patients in your sort of work. No one you love ever will be though and I'll bet you give a lot of comfort outside of nursing skills to those who most need it - make them realize they have a friend in you. That they can talk to you and that they can trust you to listen, keep their confidences and treat them with the dignity they deserve.
Liz, it's great to see you! I've been wondering where you were the last few days. Oh that's so wonderful that they got to visit with each other! Your aunt is so lucky to have you. :) Jim
@CountryComesToTown Jim, thank you SO much. She is so lovely; I am a very lucky woman to had had her in my life all these years. I'm hoping we can arrange a visit again next month - keep your fingers crossed. :)
That was very good advice... i have already told anybody that will listen that if i end up in some sort of care home i need to be put in one with wifi!
Also, yes, visiting an elderly relative often is such a big deal not only for them but for yourself..... because later, when they are gone at least you have the comfort of knowing you did all you could...and for the elderly relative, seeing a smiling face of a loved one means more than anything
@twish1999 Trish, you are so wise for such a young woman! :) I'm so glad she's close to me so that I can go every day. Her love is a great gift, for which I'm deeply grateful. And with any luck, I'll have as long and happy life as she has. And of course end up in a more connected nursing home! When you're old enough, why don't we get rooms next door to one another?
Great advice Liz, we all need to be reminded now and then.
Loving the red nail polish!!!
Its funny but its not one of the things we think of when picking a nursing home, but its so true in this day and age we dont want to be cut off from the world outside.
@longcara Thank you Cara! I got my toes and fingers done and just love it. You're right, it's not but boy will I be talking about that when my time comes!!!!!
Good advice! My MIL learned how to use Web TV years ago (she is now passed) and it opened up her world when she lived in a retirement home and eventually went into assisted living. She kept in touch with everyone - wrote emails and was able to see grandkids pictures, etc. It made a world of difference to her! Nice to see you Liz!!
@mysteryglo Thanks Judy! Yes, Aunt Jean started on WebTV and was upgraded to a regular computer just a few years ago. Now, nothing. They have no wifi and very limited phone coverage. One of my sisters has a satellite card in her lap top and she brought it to help aunt Jean do her emails one day, but she can't keep doing that; her job is on the road all the time. so, nothing. :( It makes visitors and cards so much more important. I'm glad for your MIL - mine did too until the cancer got her.
Good to see you again! That pumpkin looks like the perfect Halloween decor! Easy to set up and just as easy to clean up!
Great message, Liz. Your Auntie is very lucky to have you stopping by daily! How exciting that must have been for her to see her lifelong "buddy" again. Definitely some longevity in your family! Let's hope there will be a few more visits soon...:-) *hugs*
@GreatGig1 Oh Caylyn!!!!!! Yeah, she gets so lonely! I'm trying to get my brother to commit to staying in town to give us a couple of days off to go camping but without someone to back me up, one day at a time is all I can manage. I took 2 1/2 days last month and she worried sick about me even though I called the nurse to ask them to tell her where I was. I'd been exposed to strep and stayed away til I was sure I didn't have it. Gotta get a flu shot this week. :)
I have a friend who is a home health nurse. She says you would not believe the number of seniors living alone that need to be in nursing homes but can't afford to who have no one to even manage their meds and grocery shopping much less visit often. It's so sad. At least in the nursing homes there are other people around they can talk to. Sweet message and a reminder we'll be there one day soon
@jcrefasi1 Oh gosh, how sad. We did the math - to get her a home health nurse would cost $14,400 a month. That is simply not an option and medicare can't cover that. I honestly don't blame some older people for being sort of cranky - they've lost everything and are treated like dolts. The fact that one's mind doesn't process at the same speed it used to does NOT mean it is gone. Aaargghh. Great comment - thank you so much.
@hallbe Good for you! Ben, you are a great guy. Oh, I guess I could name this puppy! Instant (2 hour) upload from netbook didn't include options like that.
that is such a good tip. waves~~~
crosspecans 3 months ago
@crosspecans :) Thanks Susan.
thizizliz 3 months ago
Yet another video that I never got...grrr. So glad the visit happened for your Aunt. Great advice. When my kids were growing up I used to take them to volunteer at a local alzheimer's home for military. So heartbreaking so many times because so many of them are completely forgotten by their families.
familymatters1234 3 months ago
@familymatters1234 Oh wow, and it's not as though I make them on any sort of schedule you could expect! :-) Yeah, now we need to get them together again; but her cousin broke her arm. I tell ya, once things start going downhill, it's really bad. One thing after the other. But these two - my aunt and her cousin are not alone; they have family with them every day. So many people are there alone; no one to love them. It is heartbreaking - you chose the perfect word! You have a good heart.
thizizliz 3 months ago
Very good advice here. I think the Golden Rule applies here as in all situations... treat people how you would like to be treated. And I also think you build up good karma by taking care of and giving attention to the aged.
paxukulele 4 months ago 2
@paxukulele You are right of course; I think a lot about what I'd want if I were in her position and try to provide that, but also think about what I know of her likes and dislikes; using those as the main guideline. I love her and we've been friends in addition to family for a long time, so it is a gift to me to be able to spend time with her from a selfish point of view. I feel badly that she has to live like this; she really didn't want to. But we try to make the best of it. :) Thank you John
thizizliz 4 months ago
Hey Liz...Good to see your sweet face. I go to nursing homes and visit those who do not have anyone to visit. I started going when I was in my teens. I feel a connection to older ppl. I think it stems from growing up in a house with my grand parents, older aunts and uncles always were living with us. Some to recover from illness. My grand lived with us permanently after my grandfather died suddenly. Yes, there are alot of lonely butters in the home. They melt my heart. HugZ to you and Aunt Jean
1jojolicious 4 months ago
@1jojolicious Hi- thank you so much for the kind comments. Oh, what a lovely thing to do! There are so many of them that are alone but interesting to talk to. I will chat with them, but the staff has made it clear that if they ask for anything else, to just tell the staff/ they may not be allowed. It makes sense, so that's what I do. Chat, praise a new hairdo or for walking instead of being in the wheelchair. They love it - they react so beautifully. It's heartbreaking really. Thanks again hon.
thizizliz 4 months ago
You are so right! I worked in nursing homes years ago as a nurses aid, then in people's homes as a home health aid which was mostly elderly. People really don't seem to get it. Having a visitor once in a while is not enough. These are human beings, and they are still a human being when you're not there.
SinisterLadybug 4 months ago
@SinisterLadybug Exactly. I feel so badly for those who never seem to get visitors. What a shame. But of course you never know unless you have a reason to be there. My Auntie says "Don't get old".
thizizliz 4 months ago
So good to see you again Liz! You are so right. I worked in a nursing home for a while and it was sad to see so many patients that had been left there with no family to visit. Very sad. Yes, OMgoodness!! I would go wild without some kind of internet connection. Especially if I were somewhere for months and couldn't get out. I do hope your Auntie is doing better. xoxo, Melissa
imperceptibleme 4 months ago
@imperceptibleme Oh Melissa - you are such a dear. It is painful to watch the people who never get visitors. They seem so sad and pitiful. And when they ask for me to do things for them, it breaks my heart to have to say no. But the staff there is insistent that no one other than staff help them. It makes sense, but is so sad. Yeah, let's get busy now and make sure EVERYONE in our family knows not to dump us someplace without connectivity! Auntie is hanging in there and that's about it. Hugs!
thizizliz 4 months ago
It's very good to see you again!
fehquig 4 months ago
@fehquig Thank you Andy. I really must be more consistent!
thizizliz 4 months ago
Very good advice! Thanks! <3
Tobie2 4 months ago
@Tobie2 Thank you Susan - you are a dear!
thizizliz 4 months ago
Your message is reaching home, Liz. I have many regrets regarding your comments. On occasion they haunt me. Life's lessons are sometimes hard knocks and then, suddenly - POOF - gone. What's left? Regrets. I wish that for no one.
I'm glad you liked the card. Meeting those who attended ST - it would have been a treat if you had been one. - roc
popparoc46 4 months ago
@popparoc46 Oh Roc, I learn more each day; enough that I hope I'll understand if I feel lonely when my time comes. I think having electronic contact may help us more than the current generation; we're just so used to being in easy contact. Regret is such a horrible thing in these situations; we can't go back in time. We can only move forward. With any luck, wiser, even if sadder. Thank you for the thoughtful and kind comments. You are a dear!
thizizliz 4 months ago
@thizizliz Nice to know we are there for each other, Liz.
popparoc46 4 months ago
@popparoc46 (((((Roc))))))
thizizliz 4 months ago
Good message, thank you and I heard you, I am listening.
ABQdoubleG 4 months ago
@ABQdoubleG Oh Gigi - your mom will never be neglected, I'm sure of that! You heard me because you already know that. You must see a lot of lonely, neglected patients in your sort of work. No one you love ever will be though and I'll bet you give a lot of comfort outside of nursing skills to those who most need it - make them realize they have a friend in you. That they can talk to you and that they can trust you to listen, keep their confidences and treat them with the dignity they deserve.
thizizliz 4 months ago
Liz, it's great to see you! I've been wondering where you were the last few days. Oh that's so wonderful that they got to visit with each other! Your aunt is so lucky to have you. :) Jim
CountryComesToTown 4 months ago
@CountryComesToTown Jim, thank you SO much. She is so lovely; I am a very lucky woman to had had her in my life all these years. I'm hoping we can arrange a visit again next month - keep your fingers crossed. :)
thizizliz 4 months ago
Great vlog Liz...and love the Lampshade Hat...!
xyzllii 4 months ago
@xyzllii Thanks - its the coolest look out here in LA. Try it! :) Thanks for watching Kristine.
thizizliz 4 months ago
That was very good advice... i have already told anybody that will listen that if i end up in some sort of care home i need to be put in one with wifi!
Also, yes, visiting an elderly relative often is such a big deal not only for them but for yourself..... because later, when they are gone at least you have the comfort of knowing you did all you could...and for the elderly relative, seeing a smiling face of a loved one means more than anything
:-)
twish1999 4 months ago
@twish1999 Trish, you are so wise for such a young woman! :) I'm so glad she's close to me so that I can go every day. Her love is a great gift, for which I'm deeply grateful. And with any luck, I'll have as long and happy life as she has. And of course end up in a more connected nursing home! When you're old enough, why don't we get rooms next door to one another?
thizizliz 4 months ago
@thizizliz
LOL! yes i rather look forward to it!
twish1999 4 months ago
Hi Liz! Great to see you again & wonderful message for us all. hugs, Chris
bugsinrug 4 months ago
@bugsinrug Thanks for watching Chris - you are such a dear. Hugs to you too! :)
thizizliz 4 months ago
Good reminders.. great to see you. :)
AnnyaMoon 4 months ago
@AnnyaMoon Hi! :) Thank you for watching. It's nice to hear from you.
thizizliz 4 months ago
Great advice Liz, we all need to be reminded now and then.
Loving the red nail polish!!!
Its funny but its not one of the things we think of when picking a nursing home, but its so true in this day and age we dont want to be cut off from the world outside.
longcara 4 months ago
@longcara Thank you Cara! I got my toes and fingers done and just love it. You're right, it's not but boy will I be talking about that when my time comes!!!!!
thizizliz 4 months ago
YEY for Auntie Jean having her wish come true :)
silverscreamgrl 4 months ago
@silverscreamgrl Oh dear Beth - you should have seen her joy!!!!!! It's remarkable what healing powers happiness has.
thizizliz 4 months ago
Good advice! My MIL learned how to use Web TV years ago (she is now passed) and it opened up her world when she lived in a retirement home and eventually went into assisted living. She kept in touch with everyone - wrote emails and was able to see grandkids pictures, etc. It made a world of difference to her! Nice to see you Liz!!
mysteryglo 4 months ago
@mysteryglo Thanks Judy! Yes, Aunt Jean started on WebTV and was upgraded to a regular computer just a few years ago. Now, nothing. They have no wifi and very limited phone coverage. One of my sisters has a satellite card in her lap top and she brought it to help aunt Jean do her emails one day, but she can't keep doing that; her job is on the road all the time. so, nothing. :( It makes visitors and cards so much more important. I'm glad for your MIL - mine did too until the cancer got her.
thizizliz 4 months ago
Good to see you again! That pumpkin looks like the perfect Halloween decor! Easy to set up and just as easy to clean up!
Great message, Liz. Your Auntie is very lucky to have you stopping by daily! How exciting that must have been for her to see her lifelong "buddy" again. Definitely some longevity in your family! Let's hope there will be a few more visits soon...:-) *hugs*
GreatGig1 4 months ago
@GreatGig1 Oh Caylyn!!!!!! Yeah, she gets so lonely! I'm trying to get my brother to commit to staying in town to give us a couple of days off to go camping but without someone to back me up, one day at a time is all I can manage. I took 2 1/2 days last month and she worried sick about me even though I called the nurse to ask them to tell her where I was. I'd been exposed to strep and stayed away til I was sure I didn't have it. Gotta get a flu shot this week. :)
thizizliz 4 months ago
cute pumpkin
and I love ur lampshade hat. lol
great message ;)
IreneK43 4 months ago
@IreneK43 Well Irene, it is the season for costumes, right? LOL! Tis true. :)
thizizliz 4 months ago
@IreneK43 Oh my Irene you notice everything..Nice hat! Cute
XOXOXO
tweetnes 4 months ago
I have a friend who is a home health nurse. She says you would not believe the number of seniors living alone that need to be in nursing homes but can't afford to who have no one to even manage their meds and grocery shopping much less visit often. It's so sad. At least in the nursing homes there are other people around they can talk to. Sweet message and a reminder we'll be there one day soon
Thanks Liz
jcrefasi1 4 months ago
@jcrefasi1 Oh gosh, how sad. We did the math - to get her a home health nurse would cost $14,400 a month. That is simply not an option and medicare can't cover that. I honestly don't blame some older people for being sort of cranky - they've lost everything and are treated like dolts. The fact that one's mind doesn't process at the same speed it used to does NOT mean it is gone. Aaargghh. Great comment - thank you so much.
thizizliz 4 months ago
Great message Liz!! I just ordered some treats for my aunt in your honor!!
hallbe 4 months ago 2
@hallbe Good for you! Ben, you are a great guy. Oh, I guess I could name this puppy! Instant (2 hour) upload from netbook didn't include options like that.
thizizliz 4 months ago