The true core of the problem is todays ultra-feminist black grandmothers who rebelled and went from being strong black women who were the rock of their families to being loud and extremely proud strong totally independent gangsta b****es who have extremely warped concepts of strength and masculinity.
As is very concisely explained in the book called "The Black Girl Curse" no one had ever heard of strong totally independent black women before the advent of mass govt assistance in the mid 70s.
Black women in fact betrayed themselves when they completely turned their backs on all of their elders, the church, black men and black business and completely dumped their entire support base in exchange for drugs, discos, dog tracks and government assistance programs of every concievable kind in the mid 70's.
There is in fact an extremely informative book called "The Black Girl Curse" that very in-depthly covers this exact subject.
I LOVE BLACK WOMAN who think like LASHID4U But i'm scared of Black girls with a White Eurocentric mindset. That is some scary shit! I'm seeing a lot of sistas like this and they have NATURAL HAIR. Can u imagine?!! Natural hair and love white people more then their own. Afrocentric crackers. lol
@SuperKingsincere lol ..thanks ...Yeah, I was saying in a vid how people shouldn't be so quick to jump to the conclusion that a sista w/ a weave is a sell-out, cuz when you think about it, most of those sistas who wear the weaves, fake nails and lashes are the LEAST likely to be interested in white men! lol ...but this is not to say that my au natural sistas have this attraction to white men, although many sistas I've seen that were white wm, happened to have natural hair
EXAMPLES: I went out last night to a Housemusic party mixed crowd. The sistas who came there PRETENDED like they did'n't see us brothas. "AIRS" We are mostly intellectual, hip, Conscious, handsome, humble brothas. Guess who smiled at us? The Cuban girls so we danced with them and had fun. This White girl came up to me and told me she loved my dancing and went and bought me a drink. The sistas walked by us with poker faces.
It is highly unlikely that black men fear black women, rather they are disgusted with the attitude of their women. This concept should not be difficult to understand.
@Mechanized0 Many black women, like myself, have dealt with more than just a "bad attitude" and a "rolling neck" ...We have dealt with rape, abuse, abandonment, disrespect, being called bitches and hoes (unjustly) ...So, is it fair for me to just reject and diss all black men? Would you "understand" that concept/ideology?
@Lashid4u, Black men aren't afraid of black women, not at all. It's just that black women are very standoffish if you aren't the man that's on their wish list, so black men tend not to fool with black women because he's not the man they want to attract that's 6ft or taller making a 100k+. Plus black women today are so masculine now it very unattractive. Black women femininity today is of that of a feminine gay male. I've seen women get mistaking for studs. They might be another aspect of it.
@Lashid4u, Thanks, I'm glad you didn't take offense of what I've said. I don't believe in being nice by sugar coating things. I've never been a good ass kisser(nice guy) or liar, so i'm not going to start now. I don't think that it applies to all black women but a lot though. My standards are pretty high for black women because I've been around really good respectable black women. The problem is with black men is the entitlement for coochie & women is the entitlement for material possessions.
Let me give you an example, Where i live, i walk by some sistas and say hello in passing and they keep walking as if i had just ask to rape her. Which at some point causes us black men just not speak to sistas at all. I know its not right to take it out on the sistas thats not that way but whats a black man to do..lol
Another example, A buddy of mine was telling me how black wemen are here and my response was, "Say it aint so". so he showed me. We got in his truck and pulled over to ask a sista for directions, the truck didnt look so hot but she kept on walking. BUT!! when we parked the truck and got in the corvette and ran across that same sista. Need i say what happen?
@ceddyvette Do you know how many white guys could tell the same story? lol ...You remember those 80s teen movies, where the hot chic always looked over the "nice" guy for the rich jock? Well, even though this is Hollywood, these flicks were directed by WHITES who, obviously, have experienced this ...If y'all think this is just a "black thing", that says that y'all need to get out more..meet more people..lol & smh
Yeah, you might be right. I might need to get out more due to the fact that i live by the beach in "CALI" and thats what most of the black women here look at. Dont get me wrong, im not saying all black women are this way but most curtainly are. Now you seem to be a down to earth black woman and i like that. But try this, go on a site and pretent to be a black man looking to meet someone. Lets see whatcha come up with and get back with me..wink
oh and while youre pretending to be a black man looking to meet someone, make sure youre a black man thats, lets say um, 5'10, makes about 30k yrly, and live in an apartment. This is not me nah..lol Im 6'1" and not quite at 6 figures...yet. But this is you, k. It would be interesting to see what the convos would be like...smile
Hey sista, well my response is that its not that black men are afraid of sistas, i think is that alot of sistas come with high and unrealistic demands. Now you mentioned that a sista that has herself together, looking good and all that. Well its all good buy we as black men sometimes sees it that tho she looks great, she also might have this high and unrealistic demand. Now it might be wrong for us to assume but visit a black dating site, Its unreal..lol..
When you go to that site its like they are trying to build a man to what they want him to be instead of corresponding and getting to know the person. Now a sista that, like you said, dont look like she has it all together, seems like she would appreciate a nice conversation without having so many demands. Now i know i might be wrong, but it just seems that way to us. And i know its sad cause its nothing wrong with a sista that has it together.
No its because black women either tell you that theyre gay or they don't wanna deal with you...not even on a friendship level. They play hard n stay alone. :o
FIRST AND FORMOST..\ BLACK WOMEN AND BLACK MEN NEED TO LOOK AT EACH OTHER ON AN INDIVIDUAL BASIS..THERE ARE GOOD BROTHERS AND BAD BROTHERS, BAD SISTERS AND GOOD SISTERS..ALOT OF BLACKWOMEN ARE ANGRY AT BLACK MEN AND ALOT OF BLACKMEN ARE ANGRY AND BLACKWOMEN..EQUAL DISTRIBUTION OF ECONOMICS DOES NO EXIST AND EVERY BLACK WOMEN WHO HATE BLACKMEN REALLY DISLIKE THEMSELVES AND LIKE WISE FOR THE black male. Both black men and women were created by a male and female.
Black men are not afraid of black women, young lady. About 90% of all black men still marry black women. This whole "black men marrying white women" is being overblown and exaggerated.
Yes, there is a sense of fear with what black women have generally been leaning towards recently because it seems more and more black women are too convinced of the "interracial" philosophy... which actually means we have to act and talk white and also be cool with the whole gay thing because that's what our sisters doing. Cultural genocide. To cap that off you got the economic system which we know is designed to be against the masses of us unless we start working together...
maybe, maybe not. depends on the context you place that "fear". Ive could be what you call one of those guys who "fears" dealing with a certain subgroup of black women within the african american diaspora. But the fear isnt because i might get hurt, its becuase i fear my own reaction to some percieved disrespect from the other party. But there are those who are actually straight up afraid, but i dont think its a major issue. In the end, its a culture thing. change the culture, people will too!
Are Black Men Afraid of their Own Women? i dont what the monkeys are doing but white guys think you look disgusting just look at the hoe in this video ....yikes
@thegodofwar2009 Really if that's how you feel then fine>>>>But just know that all those PLAIN JANE brainwashed NAZI inpersanting classless,no identity,SUPER INBRED Bitches on your page can't hold a candle next to her! Hoe your the HOE....trying to find out where you fit in this world...just because you may have the same skin as the NAZI..You would not be claimed, YOU ARE IMPURE in their eyes.. GET YOUR MIND RIGHT BEFORE IT"S TOO LATE>>>>>>SEEK REAL KNOWLEDGE!!!!!
@thegodofwar2009 Like I said before....GET YOUR MIND RIGHT.......YOUR JUST MAD BECAUSE YOU OF HAVE NO COLOUR!!!!!!! YOU MIGHT THINK THAT WHITE WOMEN ARE BETTER LOOKING(LIES)!!! BUT FOR ONLY TO SIT ON Y.T AND SPEW HATE....NOT COOL.....ILL PRAY FOR YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
@safire718 well to be honest Black is the absence of color (and is therefore not a color) and white is the blending of all colors so get your facts straight biatch you have no color just a shadow
@thegodofwar2009 White bitch, please (and quit trying to bite our slang) ...A shadow? No baby, in case your ign'ant ass didn't know, it's called melanin - we have our own, built in, sun screen ...We don't have to worry about sitting in the sun w/o turning into a burnt orange ..and I'll take this black skin, ANY DAY, over skin that's gonna be wrinkled by the time I'm 35 (btw, I'm OVER 35 ..LOLOL!)
I think my discomfort around many black women stems from what happend in school and college I'm not one of those black men who look to run off with women from other races but I have to be honest I find that women of other races are easier to approach and just seem "sweeter/nicer" overall
MY SISTERS AND BROTHERS JUST GET TOGETHER . IF YOU CANT SEE YOUR BEING BRAIN WASHED BY TV . THEN I FEEL SORRY FOR YOU . IF THEY CAN GET IN YOUR MIND ! THEN YOU ALREADY LOST . TO BE FREE IS TO BE FREE IN YOUR MIND . I AM TRULY FREE BECAUSE I DONT GIVE ADAM ABOUT WHAT THEY SAY ABOUT ME ARE MY PEOPLE . WERE GOOD ! NO RACE IS PERFECT . BUT EVERY ONE IS FOCUSED ON US . NOW WERE LOOKING AT ARE SELFS . THINKING ARE WE REALY MESSED UP LIKE THEY SAY WE ARE . NO ! WE ARE JUST FINE FREE YOUR MIND ! 1# LOV
If a woman wants u to be a thug/criminal, if she threatens to call the cops on you, if she doesnt respect you or BM in general. If she likes speaking negatively about you and BM in general Brotha be afraid no matter what she looks like!
As far as approaching I have 2bn the mood 4 some shit when approaching blk women..I have 2 say 2 urself "okay if this bitch start trippin im not gonna go off.
im gonna keep it moving no matter how rude this bitch is" some try 2
penalize u 4 talking 2 them & go way out of the way 2 try 2 make it seem u
aren't worthy...this is REVERSE psyche many times.
esp if they see u wining
Some behavior/traits they have came from crackas.
u get a similar vibe when crackas (TRY) 2 look down on u
Personally we choose not to like to be in the prescence of many.
I don't like it when my sisters blame bad or dumb behavior on the zodiac.
I don't like materilaism.
I don't that "so 2002" comment or the attitude of keeping up with the jonses.
"What females are they talking about?"
You saying sisters don't judge men with their eyes? You are telling me you know sisters that treat a man in rags with the same respect as a modern day dandy?
@NoMoreLiesWS You don't wanna be around your Mama? Your sister? ..Your child? ..I mean, what makes these females the exception? Well, anyways, the lil' shit black men complain about aint NOTHING to what black women could complain about - trus, as a victim of rape, abuse and molestation, I could tell you that I'd rather deal w/ just a "rolling neck" anyday! Yet, most bw STILL wanna be w/ black men ..So, are you saying that bm are straight wusses, compared to black women?
@Lashid4u wusses? some are... one would have to be to chose to stay with a woman that has no respect for us... Name calling will let me know what time it is.
you can say something silly like brothers are scared of yall, but real talk, i would be scared of a woman that always disrespected me and threw words at me I'd never take from a man...
I have seen it before, sisters that like to use fighting words with men, but cry if we speak as harsh call us monsters.
@NoMoreLiesWS Btw ..I have other videos you may wanna check out, dealing w/ black female and black male relationships and stereotypes (i.e. Sapphire, She's a Bitch, Black Buck, White Women Have More Love) ...but if you wanna move on, still, then, oh well ...I have my man...
@evelsteev Um ...I didn't know I was holding you back ....Regardless, I question you speaking on something that would not and should not, whatsoever, concern you...That's the problem with whites - always in the next man's territory
Myth: All men being natural hunters. Some cases. We forget throughout history there has been herders & farmers as well. Putting more effort into securing food instead of gambling. Meaning some men chase women, while others only approach if they honestly feel it will lead to something. I know guys that hound women, especially when she's looking exceptionally nice. But I figure she's getting enough attention already, and instead decide not to waste each others time by being another number.
I WILL JUST ANSWER THE TITLE TO THE VIDEO !!! TOO MUCH BEATING AROUND THE BUSH IN THIS VIDEO !! LOL HELLLLL NO WE AINT SCARRED OF YALL ! WE ARE SCARRED OF THE 911 PHONE CALL YALL MAKE AFTER STARTING MESS !!!! LMAO
Just commenting on the title: I am not afraid of the Black woman - I'm just not emotionally attached to most of them. I can find physical beauty in a Black woman, sometimes even a personality I'm attracted to. But for those girls (too many) who display that negative and defeatist attitude, reckless behavior, and promote negative stereotypes (like in many of these videos) I am NOT INTERESTED. Too many real women in the world to worry about them.
@milackk7 Okay, good for you ...I am sure that many black women aren't too interested in you, either....So, it all plays out, well...
...I'm questioning black men who DO still have a connection w/ black women - I don't expect those who are uninterested in black women to even seek videos concerning black women
@Lashid4u Not that I care for your response, but I am around Black women every day. They make their advances, but I'm just not interested. And even for those Black women who are super intelligent, educted, speak well, have a great temperament (basically, a normal woman) - they're either take, or have friends that get in the way. Too bad, 'cause Black women are beautiful....just engendered in a culture that doesn't support them well.
@Lashid4u I am a Gemmi also, i am not being sarcastic when i say this but personally speaking, here in NYC attractiveness is one thing, the mentality is another. Simple minded men would try to talk to anything on the street like your so call thug, but round minded men, bm such as myself knows there has to be more than just looks. There is nothing intimidating about a bw in 2011 trust me if that brother has things going for him, but i cannot stress, if the mentality is not right, brothers are
@Lashid4u pt4.#3 Most time if a brother is well dressed, forget urban wear, but a good slacks, vest n good shoes with a neat trim of his beard, most sisters will look at dudes like that, roll their eyes n suddenly start chewing as if they always had gum in their mouth, again, u give off a negative vibe, why approach u? it has become so like the norm these days that the attitude, the confrontational, bw have become so prevalent in the b. community, bm are realizing that many of u are not worth
Alot of Black Women are afraid of being genuine, as well as, friendly so they put this hard exterior on and say the Black man is intimidated. I'm personally disgusted at this type of divide and conquer tactic. Any sane Black Man shouldn't give these type of women the time of day. If a man intimidates a woman, best believe he will be more accommodating than the so-called, strong independent Black Woman BS. Which is being fueled by mis-information.
Its amazing how she contradicted herself in the end. Talking about how black men are intimidated or afraid to approach black woman, but then at the same time they should be realistic in who they approach??
The nice guy is doing exactly that, being realistic in who he approaches. Yet thugs approach anyone realistically or not and they get praised for their boldness...lol
@repo21 No contradiction, at all. NEVER be afraid to try to make a move, and you don't know how that "pretty girl" really is (she may be lonely, too, from guys being forever afraid to talk to them) ...However, don't get outta touch w/ reality, and I say this, because music videos have been deceptive, making guys think that any and every girl is available ...and although we should be selective, there are guys (and girls) who feel they can be ultra-picky, although they don't fit their own standard
@repo21 I agree, if bw can be selective why can't bm be selective, i also agree they confusing us with thugs who would sleep with an animal and these bw think that is something manly, or bold because the thug has balls. Please, B.S, as well rounded bm know that many of these thugs are looking for what a woman can do for them, like leach off of them for their money and for their things even their pussy, but as a bm with the same things, we are independent of bw n don't need to kiss your ass.
u know, everytime i look at your videos u approach the subjects with kindness and insight...i love sistas like u. i don't think brothers are intimidated by sistas, but i just think that they don't wanna b rejected; so they choose the more comfortable path which is usually silence. that being said, two potentially wonderful people miss out on each other, and the cycle continues until these guys muster the confidence to speak up. brothers need to be a little more resiliant at dealing w/rejection.
@wakeen01 ..and I THANK U for just being understanding and HONEST, not trying to sound all "hard" in not admitting to fears that guys may have ...The young man I'm with, now (from my college) is someone who most would see as a "computer nerd" (well, it's better to call him "a gamer" lol), most females would not put him in the "Denzel" category of looks ...and he's no "baller" ..but I love him, dearly, and the fact that he was assertive (NOT aggressive) and just HONEST did it for me...
@Lashid4u pt2. are just not checking for ya'll. I think personally speaking that many bm have been through enough b.s with many bw regardless how they dress on down to customer service. N e bm that reads this, hit thumbs up to the shitty customer service u get from a bw vs a wm being serviced by a bw.
I for one personally do not feel connected to bw of today. I don't feel it, i don't see it and i just do sense it. We have came to the realization that many bw are damaged goods, n the last thing
@Lashid4u pt3 a brother wants is a confrontational bw just simply for saying hello. First off, many bw hardly smile, they always look upset and angry, who would want to approach an angry looking person? many of them are so use to looking upset that they do not know they look upset subconsciously. 2nd, just because a bw knows she may be looking good, her body language can give off this not so humble tone about it, like showing off, brothers can spot this a mile away, since not sincere about it
@Lashid4u pt5. the effort but it would sure help if the decent genuine good bw speak out against the belligerent bw that seems to give all bw a bad image can sure help us filter u guys out, it would make our jobs much easier because to approach a bw in 2011 is going in at your own risk, u don't know if she;s going to curse u, ignore u like wtf i am standing in front u being polite u don't appreciate that? n most time we know, just trying to be nice many bw think we want to get in your pants
@Lashid4u pt6 when in all we may just like to get to know u for u but u all put this wall up in the first instance its like geez why do u have to make me feel as if i done u something wrong in your past? other experiences of bm maybe different for which i cannot speak on all bm but some would agree my points can be valid. Now as for other races of women that round minded bm usually seek after are women that are friendly n polite in a genuine way. they are more open in knowing your interest
@Lashid4u pt7 to most bw give off this vibe as what can u do for me n only me. I mean it is what it is, this has nothing to do with how much money a bw makes or how many degrees a bw has a bm especially of 2011 could careless, but if your not willing to try becoming a partner in building something with a team effort then it guess it all goes back to the mentality, of your not willing and able, no matter how well u dress, whats the point of approaching in the first place? if a bm is about buildin
when a woman allows a man to be her provider, she's called a gold digger. so if she wants clothes, food, shoes and a movie, she a gold digger but when she makes things happen for her self, she takes the place of the man's role. i was nice and sweet to a BM and he couldnt handle it, i think men are confused about being men period. black men are definitely afraid of a strong successful black women and they fear black women when she gets a attitude LMAO bitch nigga
Yes I fear them and im not ashmamed of it. they taught me to be afraid of them. Every time im out on the street or in a shop or on a bus or train and I see one of them shouting and cussing at someone, I become a little more afraid. Watch how many will respond abusivly to this post LOL!!!
@al6032 Yes I was scared of my Mom in my early childhood due to her abusive and violent behavior.
She only stopped being violent because I grew up and obviously became too physically strong for her. But the emotional and mental abuse continues to this day.
I do not fear black women phisically but I find them emotionaly tough, I dont really want to deal with my mother all over again. Sorry
Face it America. The Black Female is an evil, nappy-headed, twisted, monstrosity booty-shakin, bitter, trash-talkin, masculine-packin BITCH!!!!!. Their attitudes are ferocious like upset African jigaboo Babboons. For years, they have diabolically worked against the Black Male. Black Feamale porch Monkeys are the bottom of the barrel. They are Scum. In America, They are used to further the oppression of the Black Male by sidelining with the European Standards. Fuck the Evil Black woman!!!!
Beautiful women always love thugs are bad guys all the time. Most women love bad guys. Men don't want to be with a ugly woman if they can help it. Women will never realize that bad guys are a DEAD END ROAD. Deaf/Prison/Possible being beat to deaf./ Lied to most of the time. I will never understand that attraction to all this smoke and mirror bull crap. But women make their bed so they live in it. Excitement kills!
@nativemrv19722 the same can be said for men who drool like dogs toward a womans azz but not toward her heart. why are there no famous intellectual women in society today because men worship whores and envy bad guys. alot of women are happy single and some men are too dumb to see that Excitement Lives, it lives without a man womp womp and AMEN. if there wasnt a God, thats when Women would be screwed. Bless
@pOeROsesyadig No. That's what most men do. There just looking for sex. Women get played when they dump a good man that is into you for a fantasy man that's not into you. Simple. Dating is about finding the best mate not a Fantasy player. A dream. Women get played when they fall for the guy in bed. Most of the time the guy they want is no good for them. And if the woman wants to be single say so don't play stupid games.
@nativemrv19722 You just answered my question, what MOST men do. that alone means, there's a small selection of good men and not BIG. also, i think you need to be more clear about what women you're talking about because alot of guys make it seem like, WOMEN who CHOOSE to be single are miserable, when thats not the case. Women who choose to be single avoid men and dont have to say anything. point blank. Have a nice day
@pOeROsesyadig No. I am saying most women rather be with bad guys because they think they are more exciting than nice guys. I am talking about good looking women. Not so nice looking women. Not so nice looking women have to take what they can get. And this problem is mostly a American problem. Other women in other counties respect good are nice men.Why date men that you know are bad for you? That's very stupid.
News flash . He's not intimidated by your sucess, he just does'nt want you. But your pride wont allow you to accept the fact that you having a lot to offer in terms of material wealth( which is all you have to offer) does'nt make you more desirable.Thats why he will go back to Buttermilk Bottom, Mississippi , and find old bald headed jet black Dothea , with no teeth and cant read, but respects him while you eat dinner by yourself everynight
the answer to the black women black men problem is ......the fact that women now got the right to work and make more money than a man.....that never existed 100 years ago women stayed in their place.......but now the relationship the ......natural role of man and women is destroyed......
man no longer is the provider and the female the subject of the man ...so there is no solution nothing but doom for black men and women....and all races in the western lifestyle.
Obviously we are afraid. Look out this woman in the video. Her deep voice, kinky hair, though she's obviously altered it. Trust me, I know I am black! Secondly the whole southern accent that the average black woman carries is just plain self-degrading. If you have the educaton, act like it and start speaking in proper English. Then she has the nerve to yap about Chakka Khan and "Deva Mode". Give me a break! Black women just need to give up. Even my own mother is sick of the new generation.
black men r not afraid of our own women cuz we do not currently hv our own women. black women belong to the white man/american society. think not, ask ur self y many black women wear weave or straighten their hair( 2 get or keep a job). if black women devoted themselves 2 black men like they did white men then they wouldnt need a job! shalom.
(cont)"Thug" issue. What women fail to keep in mind when approached by these "thugs" is that they are men of NO scruples &/or no morals. They have ill-intent from the onset. They pretend to be caring and of good qualities,only to achieve a goal,then they tend to flip,once they have achieved that goal. The reason they can even put up a front for that long is that they have revenge on the brain the WHOLE TIME. Women need to meet GOOD MEN half way,& humble themselves,which they dont want to do.
I have to say,1st off,I appreciate you for making this video my sista.Women as courageous as you give me hope,bc you seem to genuine in your presentation,not pretentious. Let me say that women dont seem to understand that the same things that they feel,we(men) are capable of feeling as well. I think that women tend to have unrealistic expectations & ideas.Who what to keep getting shot down all the time or talked to crazy and made to feel less than for your efforts? Oh& about the (cont)
In my opinion we blackwoman/man need to respond to each other with patience and understanding. Also the ability to articulate your thoughts doesn't make you more intelligent or less its just the way ones brain is wired. Finally our people i.e blackwoman/man have issues that need to be addressed hopefully we'll do this together. As for me I prefer sisters with a conquer the world mentality, and learn and grow on the way Peace sisters
@GOPFORCEDABORTIONS That's because when it comes to liberty and independence, they go ape and jump off the deep end. American women do not know how to submit to their man. And the system does not help. How many countries hand a woman a welfare check so that she won't have to work nor depend on a man for support? Women in general do not know what they want. They are highly confused. How many times will a man and woman go into a store and only one finds the exit door within 10 minutes?
She's like, "You know, umm, but umm, you know, I'm just saying, you know, but um, you know, umm, umm, you know, but you know, and umm, you know, you never know, you know, you know, um but, you know what I'm saying, but um?"
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Lashid4U says that why Black women will go out with a thug because he will approach a Black female where other Black men won’t.
The only problem with your statement is a THUG will more than likely have VD, have other kids by different women, not paying child and still living with his mama.
i say black men is becoming afraid of you sistas cause there is just too much drama that comes with being with you. sistas got the law in their back pocket, yall always bringin a nigga in front of judges that rule in ya favor, and when you call police on some domestic violence ish, you tell the officer where ya man is keepin his gun or some other shit that only him and you suppose to know. you're suppose to be backing us not handing us over to the next man. other women dont do that to their men.
@shotcalla134 Speaking from experience, all women do that. When a woman tells the police where your protection is, it usually means that she is fooling around and plans on leaving you. Most of the fucked up chit women do comes from the influence of their triffling "friends" who have no man, no life, and who are just plain miserable. I once went with a woman who I thought was a "Can-Do-No-Wrong Mother Teresa", only to find later that she was ticking time-bomb.
Look, here's the simple truth. Women COMPLAINED, for decades, that men need to "find their female side," and all that. Then, when they TRIED that, you women accused them of being "soft." The truth is, YOU'RE ALWAYS CONFUSED.
I left a short relationship where I was "stepping up," strong. The woman DIDN'T LIKE IT, and said, "What are you trying to do: Run my life," in so many words. But, BEFORE that, that was just about precisely what she wanted me to do!
Well, I was not directing the comments to you as an individual. And I suppose it's unfair to direct the comments to women IN GENERAL, which is what I was doing. But, having come out of this crazy relationship, I reflected over the TONS of men I've talked to, and compared notes with. And this led me to the conclusion that MANY women ARE confused about what they REALLY want (or don't want) in a man. I don't play that game anymore. I stay away from complicated URBAN women.
It's not that we're afraid of you, we just don't like you loud mouthed, stuck up, coneited, manly, haughty, highminded, neck rollin, out of shape black women who loves to please the white man more than your own men. why deal with proud black women when I can get a feminine Dominican, Brazilian, or Mexican woman who loves to stay in shape, keep her mouth closed and please their men.
Besides, u "sistas" have embraced feminism which has destroyed the black household, u should be proud!
@grandgod1 I'm just gonna reply in THANKING YOU for letting viewers know when the subject begins (in the video) ...But those who viewed the video I made just prior to this one may understand why I felt the need to address my hairstyle before going into the subject ...It's just about communicating (I see some viewers as "friends" that I've gotta catch up with)
@Lashid4u Actually it took her to about 2:37 because after she says she's going to start talking about the subject at 2:24, she had to say "umm" about 5 or 6 times before she finally got to saying something.
Anyway, as far as what you did say, black woman like thugs because they assert themselves. WOW. Well then, maybe you all should stop complaining when your thug asserts himself into every woman on the block, and asserts his hand upside your head. I mean, you get what you ask for.
A culture of men afraid of their own women...damn, thats deep. If I had to be honest, I think at some point Black women just no longer registered in my head anymore as women. I see white, Asian, and hispanic women and jump on it. But Black women...my brain just tells me to go the other way. In the psyche, Black woman have become ugly.
I wouldn't say that we're afraid or intimidated. However, some brothas are afraid. But I do think that a lot of women (particularly a lot of Black women) underestimate just how vain they can be. Most sistas only want a brotha to acknowledge and pursue them purely for ego-maintenance. So that they can go tell their friends about how some "tired" brotha just tried to holla at 'em and how they dissed him.
Are black men afraid of their own women? Not this Black man, I love my own race of women! I prefer black women over all women. Black women are the sexiest females in the world.
Your video was fascinating to watch and liked what you had to say. I would like to respond to one of your questions". . .are Black man afraid of Black women..." Let me speak for myself. As a Black male, I am afraid of certain Black women because I don't want to project the image of trying 'throw lines' when speaking to Black women. I am well-educated and articulate. But it seems that since "many" Black women have to put up a shield, it is difficult to communicate with them.
Black women are not humble anymore.She get a weave a degree and a job and she thinks she's the sh&t.Even the most average looking chick.It's a turn off to black men.I miss the black women of the past.Still love ya'll though....just won't marry.
No the more intelligent black men do not see a reason to chase black women. Why would he? If the black woman is so strong and independent just work chill and get your money why even complain.
Hey. I'm a black woman (college educated) who's currently engaged. I started a website called "Black Love Poster" to show that black women DO fall in love and are in happy relationships. I just want to put that out there.
sorry to bust your bubble but black men don't wanna deal with drama, that's all. when we look at todays black women we see no passion. only cold love.
@MrMrMrBrooksashad Yeah, yeah, yead ..but you still respond to this depressing shit, which means that you still wanna "hang out" w/ the depressed..lol
I notice this guy was like way kinda taller than me and he was muscular built kinda similar to a football liike body stature. And all i said was dang u tall aint u and i looked @ him and all he had was a big smile on his face n kinda quiet n he had dat shy auraa i got frm him. Um think how can a guy that fine be shy.
I remember wen i was on the bus it was this handsome blackguy on there and i noticed that he kept on lookin at me. But we happened to be gettin off @ da same stop.
black women are to much on feminism you all treat black men like we dogs!! all that shit black women say to down grade us what you expect us to do??? of course we dont want to to mess with yall if our own women are putting us down ask beyounce how many dam songs does she have about a good man treating her right lol none they all about negative image of black men on how we should pay her bills and ladies leave your man at home the club full with ballers??? lol so you cheat on your man
who wants a loud weave wearing woman who has several children by different men, most black women have not had fathers so they never learned how to deal with men. I am not afraid of black women I just would prefer not to date them.
@khandi121329 Well, why are you making it a "preference" to seek videos on black women? You guys are so fullashit. If I didn't like black men, there's no way I would even care about what they hafta say ...I'd just get a white man, and move on. That's when you can spot bitter bullshit, and sorry methods of attention seeking...You name is "Khandi"? White woman, maybe?..???
@Lashid4u khandi refers to my first love 121329 refers to our birthdays you confrim my point how could a seek out black women in a search and you come up that is as fake as your hair the topic caught my eye how many of your black female friends have many kids by many men or was there a blackman in your home when you were a child. blackwomen are lost you prove my point
Sweetheart, if this young man is bitter he has every reason to be. The women that god gave us to be our mates are no longer woman, and no longer serves us a purpose. When a Black man comes to that realization it can become a little depressing.
How can I describe this? Black women do things in such a way that causes me to not trust them. It doesn't matter the type of woman, they all do it. I know that telling the truth can be uncomfortable sometime but when it comes to talking to a man in this culture it is somehow ok for a woman to lie. I'm never going to build up any trust with anybody, not right now.
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The true core of the problem is todays ultra-feminist black grandmothers who rebelled and went from being strong black women who were the rock of their families to being loud and extremely proud strong totally independent gangsta b****es who have extremely warped concepts of strength and masculinity.
As is very concisely explained in the book called "The Black Girl Curse" no one had ever heard of strong totally independent black women before the advent of mass govt assistance in the mid 70s.
pc0p1mp 2 weeks ago
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Black women in fact betrayed themselves when they completely turned their backs on all of their elders, the church, black men and black business and completely dumped their entire support base in exchange for drugs, discos, dog tracks and government assistance programs of every concievable kind in the mid 70's.
There is in fact an extremely informative book called "The Black Girl Curse" that very in-depthly covers this exact subject.
pc0p1mp 2 weeks ago
Interesting point about the fake nails and weaves. Yeah, they tend not to be interested in Whitemen. lolWhen are you gonna make another vid.
SuperKingsincere 1 month ago
I LOVE BLACK WOMAN who think like LASHID4U But i'm scared of Black girls with a White Eurocentric mindset. That is some scary shit! I'm seeing a lot of sistas like this and they have NATURAL HAIR. Can u imagine?!! Natural hair and love white people more then their own. Afrocentric crackers. lol
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@SuperKingsincere lol ..thanks ...Yeah, I was saying in a vid how people shouldn't be so quick to jump to the conclusion that a sista w/ a weave is a sell-out, cuz when you think about it, most of those sistas who wear the weaves, fake nails and lashes are the LEAST likely to be interested in white men! lol ...but this is not to say that my au natural sistas have this attraction to white men, although many sistas I've seen that were white wm, happened to have natural hair
Lashid4u 2 months ago
EXAMPLES: I went out last night to a Housemusic party mixed crowd. The sistas who came there PRETENDED like they did'n't see us brothas. "AIRS" We are mostly intellectual, hip, Conscious, handsome, humble brothas. Guess who smiled at us? The Cuban girls so we danced with them and had fun. This White girl came up to me and told me she loved my dancing and went and bought me a drink. The sistas walked by us with poker faces.
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"Are Black Men Afraid of their Own Women?"
how bout in Africa
Are Black Men in Africa afraid of their own women???
dfdtdfdx 2 months ago
@dfdtdfdx NO SHE MEANS AA MEN
cookiesmonsterize 2 months ago
Some guys are scared. Some don't want to put up with the bullshit that a lot of these BW put you through.
e84fresh 2 months ago
It is highly unlikely that black men fear black women, rather they are disgusted with the attitude of their women. This concept should not be difficult to understand.
Mechanized0 4 months ago 3
@Mechanized0 Many black women, like myself, have dealt with more than just a "bad attitude" and a "rolling neck" ...We have dealt with rape, abuse, abandonment, disrespect, being called bitches and hoes (unjustly) ...So, is it fair for me to just reject and diss all black men? Would you "understand" that concept/ideology?
Lashid4u 3 months ago
@Lashid4u, Black men aren't afraid of black women, not at all. It's just that black women are very standoffish if you aren't the man that's on their wish list, so black men tend not to fool with black women because he's not the man they want to attract that's 6ft or taller making a 100k+. Plus black women today are so masculine now it very unattractive. Black women femininity today is of that of a feminine gay male. I've seen women get mistaking for studs. They might be another aspect of it.
reddbro7TV 3 months ago
@reddbro7TV Thank you for your perspective :)
Lashid4u 3 months ago
@Lashid4u, Thanks, I'm glad you didn't take offense of what I've said. I don't believe in being nice by sugar coating things. I've never been a good ass kisser(nice guy) or liar, so i'm not going to start now. I don't think that it applies to all black women but a lot though. My standards are pretty high for black women because I've been around really good respectable black women. The problem is with black men is the entitlement for coochie & women is the entitlement for material possessions.
reddbro7TV 3 months ago
@Lashid4u
Let me give you an example, Where i live, i walk by some sistas and say hello in passing and they keep walking as if i had just ask to rape her. Which at some point causes us black men just not speak to sistas at all. I know its not right to take it out on the sistas thats not that way but whats a black man to do..lol
ceddyvette 3 months ago
@Lashid4u
Another example, A buddy of mine was telling me how black wemen are here and my response was, "Say it aint so". so he showed me. We got in his truck and pulled over to ask a sista for directions, the truck didnt look so hot but she kept on walking. BUT!! when we parked the truck and got in the corvette and ran across that same sista. Need i say what happen?
ceddyvette 3 months ago
@ceddyvette Do you know how many white guys could tell the same story? lol ...You remember those 80s teen movies, where the hot chic always looked over the "nice" guy for the rich jock? Well, even though this is Hollywood, these flicks were directed by WHITES who, obviously, have experienced this ...If y'all think this is just a "black thing", that says that y'all need to get out more..meet more people..lol & smh
Lashid4u 3 months ago
@Lashid4u
Yeah, you might be right. I might need to get out more due to the fact that i live by the beach in "CALI" and thats what most of the black women here look at. Dont get me wrong, im not saying all black women are this way but most curtainly are. Now you seem to be a down to earth black woman and i like that. But try this, go on a site and pretent to be a black man looking to meet someone. Lets see whatcha come up with and get back with me..wink
ceddyvette 3 months ago
@Lashid4u
Oh, and make sure you pick out one that appears to have it all together nah..smile
ceddyvette 3 months ago
@Lashid4u
oh and while youre pretending to be a black man looking to meet someone, make sure youre a black man thats, lets say um, 5'10, makes about 30k yrly, and live in an apartment. This is not me nah..lol Im 6'1" and not quite at 6 figures...yet. But this is you, k. It would be interesting to see what the convos would be like...smile
ceddyvette 3 months ago
@Lashid4u
Hey sista, well my response is that its not that black men are afraid of sistas, i think is that alot of sistas come with high and unrealistic demands. Now you mentioned that a sista that has herself together, looking good and all that. Well its all good buy we as black men sometimes sees it that tho she looks great, she also might have this high and unrealistic demand. Now it might be wrong for us to assume but visit a black dating site, Its unreal..lol..
ceddyvette 3 months ago
@Lashid4u
When you go to that site its like they are trying to build a man to what they want him to be instead of corresponding and getting to know the person. Now a sista that, like you said, dont look like she has it all together, seems like she would appreciate a nice conversation without having so many demands. Now i know i might be wrong, but it just seems that way to us. And i know its sad cause its nothing wrong with a sista that has it together.
ceddyvette 3 months ago
yes, they are, who would want to screw a primate.
thincow12 4 months ago
No its because black women either tell you that theyre gay or they don't wanna deal with you...not even on a friendship level. They play hard n stay alone. :o
WickedWitch1988 5 months ago
@WickedWitch1988 I guess I'm not a black woman, cuz that doesn't describe me one bit ...Just ask my men, who is sitting next to me :)
Lashid4u 4 months ago
Love Ur hair in this vid. ;)
83TruthSeeker 5 months ago
@83TruthSeeker T'anks!
Lashid4u 5 months ago
@83TruthSeeker Oh, how I miss that hair..lol
THANKS!
Lashid4u 5 months ago
FIRST AND FORMOST..\ BLACK WOMEN AND BLACK MEN NEED TO LOOK AT EACH OTHER ON AN INDIVIDUAL BASIS..THERE ARE GOOD BROTHERS AND BAD BROTHERS, BAD SISTERS AND GOOD SISTERS..ALOT OF BLACKWOMEN ARE ANGRY AT BLACK MEN AND ALOT OF BLACKMEN ARE ANGRY AND BLACKWOMEN..EQUAL DISTRIBUTION OF ECONOMICS DOES NO EXIST AND EVERY BLACK WOMEN WHO HATE BLACKMEN REALLY DISLIKE THEMSELVES AND LIKE WISE FOR THE black male. Both black men and women were created by a male and female.
All came from black Africa
iliveonce11 6 months ago
@iliveonce11 I agree
Lashid4u 6 months ago
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iliveonce11 6 months ago
Black men are just tired of black woman and their bullshit.
MrPrettyBoyChina 6 months ago 6
@MrPrettyBoyChina Check out my recent video, "Black women WONT Play their Part" ...It's PERFECT for your response...
Lashid4u 6 months ago
@Lashid4u
Black women dont really like thugs, or nice guys (some may do).
They like the guy in the middle. Half nice, half thug. A guy that respect them and treat them as queen at same time tough (confident man).
The nice guy avoids confrontation and the thug treat them like crap, so they choice the more masculine, the thug.
Thats my opinion
sansez 6 months ago
Just the Bs
JohnB5304 7 months ago
Black men are not afraid of black women, young lady. About 90% of all black men still marry black women. This whole "black men marrying white women" is being overblown and exaggerated.
leston4life 7 months ago
Maybe they think the white woman are more beautiful.
I am 50/50 and don't judge anyone, just saying what I think.
IFoundMyUsername 7 months ago
@IFoundMyUsername Then, they think that the white man is more beautiful, too (she is of his seed)
Lashid4u 7 months ago
Yes, there is a sense of fear with what black women have generally been leaning towards recently because it seems more and more black women are too convinced of the "interracial" philosophy... which actually means we have to act and talk white and also be cool with the whole gay thing because that's what our sisters doing. Cultural genocide. To cap that off you got the economic system which we know is designed to be against the masses of us unless we start working together...
NooneNewer 7 months ago
Maybe, they look scary.
Carloschagas83 8 months ago
maybe, maybe not. depends on the context you place that "fear". Ive could be what you call one of those guys who "fears" dealing with a certain subgroup of black women within the african american diaspora. But the fear isnt because i might get hurt, its becuase i fear my own reaction to some percieved disrespect from the other party. But there are those who are actually straight up afraid, but i dont think its a major issue. In the end, its a culture thing. change the culture, people will too!
JGvisions 8 months ago
you just answered your own question at the end
antgerm21 8 months ago
I don't know if they are afraid. Theres one thing I do know. You have one hell of a sexy mouth. Wow!!!
smoke24462 8 months ago
I didn't realize black women belonged to me. Their certainly not acting like they belong to me or should be with me.
rdrstar 8 months ago
you people are funny!! :)
mspurr24 9 months ago
Are Black Men Afraid of their Own Women? i dont what the monkeys are doing but white guys think you look disgusting just look at the hoe in this video ....yikes
thegodofwar2009 9 months ago
@thegodofwar2009 Really if that's how you feel then fine>>>>But just know that all those PLAIN JANE brainwashed NAZI inpersanting classless,no identity,SUPER INBRED Bitches on your page can't hold a candle next to her! Hoe your the HOE....trying to find out where you fit in this world...just because you may have the same skin as the NAZI..You would not be claimed, YOU ARE IMPURE in their eyes.. GET YOUR MIND RIGHT BEFORE IT"S TOO LATE>>>>>>SEEK REAL KNOWLEDGE!!!!!
safire718 9 months ago
@safire718 thats how i feel and its also a fact ...white women are best looking women on earth and blacks are ugly ...sorry suck for you .....hoe
thegodofwar2009 9 months ago
@thegodofwar2009 Like I said before....GET YOUR MIND RIGHT.......YOUR JUST MAD BECAUSE YOU OF HAVE NO COLOUR!!!!!!! YOU MIGHT THINK THAT WHITE WOMEN ARE BETTER LOOKING(LIES)!!! BUT FOR ONLY TO SIT ON Y.T AND SPEW HATE....NOT COOL.....ILL PRAY FOR YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
safire718 9 months ago
@safire718 well to be honest Black is the absence of color (and is therefore not a color) and white is the blending of all colors so get your facts straight biatch you have no color just a shadow
thegodofwar2009 9 months ago
@thegodofwar2009 White bitch, please (and quit trying to bite our slang) ...A shadow? No baby, in case your ign'ant ass didn't know, it's called melanin - we have our own, built in, sun screen ...We don't have to worry about sitting in the sun w/o turning into a burnt orange ..and I'll take this black skin, ANY DAY, over skin that's gonna be wrinkled by the time I'm 35 (btw, I'm OVER 35 ..LOLOL!)
Lashid4u 9 months ago
I think my discomfort around many black women stems from what happend in school and college I'm not one of those black men who look to run off with women from other races but I have to be honest I find that women of other races are easier to approach and just seem "sweeter/nicer" overall
BlackMessiahX 9 months ago 11
@BlackMessiahX Well, I appreciate your honesty...
Lashid4u 9 months ago
@BlackMessiahX I experienced the same thing.
blackbolt75 4 months ago
what was the point of this video? somebody tell me please
boo843348 9 months ago
look nice on you
pistonear 10 months ago
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thinkalott33 10 months ago
If a woman wants u to be a thug/criminal, if she threatens to call the cops on you, if she doesnt respect you or BM in general. If she likes speaking negatively about you and BM in general Brotha be afraid no matter what she looks like!
mindcontrol31 10 months ago
As far as approaching I have 2bn the mood 4 some shit when approaching blk women..I have 2 say 2 urself "okay if this bitch start trippin im not gonna go off.
im gonna keep it moving no matter how rude this bitch is" some try 2
penalize u 4 talking 2 them & go way out of the way 2 try 2 make it seem u
aren't worthy...this is REVERSE psyche many times.
esp if they see u wining
Some behavior/traits they have came from crackas.
u get a similar vibe when crackas (TRY) 2 look down on u
DC hoes
DoomCity202 10 months ago
Niggas aint scared of the Black Woman
But when the black woman hooks up with that white judge its a wrap.
She knows it at this point too......which makes it even worse.
That dynamic duo has ripped many niggas in half.
The dudes who chase pussy don't have shit but kids by different women.
No we're not scared of yall .... just the consequences of a poor choice
cause the black woman don't play.....If yall fail....you WILL pay nigga!!!!
BTW its 10xs easier to win & get chosen than chase.
DoomCity202 10 months ago
Black Men Are not afraid of women...
Personally we choose not to like to be in the prescence of many.
I don't like it when my sisters blame bad or dumb behavior on the zodiac.
I don't like materilaism.
I don't that "so 2002" comment or the attitude of keeping up with the jonses.
"What females are they talking about?"
You saying sisters don't judge men with their eyes? You are telling me you know sisters that treat a man in rags with the same respect as a modern day dandy?
I doubt that.
evidence?
NoMoreLiesWS 10 months ago
@NoMoreLiesWS You don't wanna be around your Mama? Your sister? ..Your child? ..I mean, what makes these females the exception? Well, anyways, the lil' shit black men complain about aint NOTHING to what black women could complain about - trus, as a victim of rape, abuse and molestation, I could tell you that I'd rather deal w/ just a "rolling neck" anyday! Yet, most bw STILL wanna be w/ black men ..So, are you saying that bm are straight wusses, compared to black women?
Lashid4u 10 months ago
@Lashid4u wusses? some are... one would have to be to chose to stay with a woman that has no respect for us... Name calling will let me know what time it is.
you can say something silly like brothers are scared of yall, but real talk, i would be scared of a woman that always disrespected me and threw words at me I'd never take from a man...
I have seen it before, sisters that like to use fighting words with men, but cry if we speak as harsh call us monsters.
Dish only if you can take.
NoMoreLiesWS 10 months ago
@NoMoreLiesWS Btw ..I have other videos you may wanna check out, dealing w/ black female and black male relationships and stereotypes (i.e. Sapphire, She's a Bitch, Black Buck, White Women Have More Love) ...but if you wanna move on, still, then, oh well ...I have my man...
Lashid4u 10 months ago
Afraid? No, ANNOYED. LOL!
evelsteev 11 months ago
@evelsteev You are not black, so, WHY are you even speaking on this?
Lashid4u 11 months ago
@Lashid4u Oh sorry, I thought I could date whoever I felt like. LOL
evelsteev 11 months ago
@evelsteev Um ...I didn't know I was holding you back ....Regardless, I question you speaking on something that would not and should not, whatsoever, concern you...That's the problem with whites - always in the next man's territory
Lashid4u 11 months ago
@Lashid4u If you're not "holding me back" then why wouldn't it "concern me?" That makes no sense.
evelsteev 11 months ago
@evelsteev
Then isn't it wise to stay away. Why are you on her channel if you're so annoyed?
BelTriniCurls 8 months ago
@BelTriniCurls So I can let people know how annoyed I am. LOL
evelsteev 8 months ago
@evelsteev
SMH
BelTriniCurls 8 months ago
@BelTriniCurls SMD
evelsteev 8 months ago
@evelsteev lol
BelTriniCurls 8 months ago
Myth: All men being natural hunters. Some cases. We forget throughout history there has been herders & farmers as well. Putting more effort into securing food instead of gambling. Meaning some men chase women, while others only approach if they honestly feel it will lead to something. I know guys that hound women, especially when she's looking exceptionally nice. But I figure she's getting enough attention already, and instead decide not to waste each others time by being another number.
middleofmars 11 months ago
I WILL JUST ANSWER THE TITLE TO THE VIDEO !!! TOO MUCH BEATING AROUND THE BUSH IN THIS VIDEO !! LOL HELLLLL NO WE AINT SCARRED OF YALL ! WE ARE SCARRED OF THE 911 PHONE CALL YALL MAKE AFTER STARTING MESS !!!! LMAO
micpeee 1 year ago
Just commenting on the title: I am not afraid of the Black woman - I'm just not emotionally attached to most of them. I can find physical beauty in a Black woman, sometimes even a personality I'm attracted to. But for those girls (too many) who display that negative and defeatist attitude, reckless behavior, and promote negative stereotypes (like in many of these videos) I am NOT INTERESTED. Too many real women in the world to worry about them.
milackk7 1 year ago
@milackk7 Okay, good for you ...I am sure that many black women aren't too interested in you, either....So, it all plays out, well...
...I'm questioning black men who DO still have a connection w/ black women - I don't expect those who are uninterested in black women to even seek videos concerning black women
Lashid4u 1 year ago
@Lashid4u Not that I care for your response, but I am around Black women every day. They make their advances, but I'm just not interested. And even for those Black women who are super intelligent, educted, speak well, have a great temperament (basically, a normal woman) - they're either take, or have friends that get in the way. Too bad, 'cause Black women are beautiful....just engendered in a culture that doesn't support them well.
milackk7 1 year ago
@Lashid4u I am a Gemmi also, i am not being sarcastic when i say this but personally speaking, here in NYC attractiveness is one thing, the mentality is another. Simple minded men would try to talk to anything on the street like your so call thug, but round minded men, bm such as myself knows there has to be more than just looks. There is nothing intimidating about a bw in 2011 trust me if that brother has things going for him, but i cannot stress, if the mentality is not right, brothers are
NYDASH28 1 year ago
@Lashid4u pt4.#3 Most time if a brother is well dressed, forget urban wear, but a good slacks, vest n good shoes with a neat trim of his beard, most sisters will look at dudes like that, roll their eyes n suddenly start chewing as if they always had gum in their mouth, again, u give off a negative vibe, why approach u? it has become so like the norm these days that the attitude, the confrontational, bw have become so prevalent in the b. community, bm are realizing that many of u are not worth
NYDASH28 1 year ago
Alot of Black Women are afraid of being genuine, as well as, friendly so they put this hard exterior on and say the Black man is intimidated. I'm personally disgusted at this type of divide and conquer tactic. Any sane Black Man shouldn't give these type of women the time of day. If a man intimidates a woman, best believe he will be more accommodating than the so-called, strong independent Black Woman BS. Which is being fueled by mis-information.
splizot 1 year ago
black women are going extinct.
phattown213 1 year ago
I love the hair and good video. :)
missladylove100 1 year ago
Its amazing how she contradicted herself in the end. Talking about how black men are intimidated or afraid to approach black woman, but then at the same time they should be realistic in who they approach??
The nice guy is doing exactly that, being realistic in who he approaches. Yet thugs approach anyone realistically or not and they get praised for their boldness...lol
repo21 1 year ago
@repo21 No contradiction, at all. NEVER be afraid to try to make a move, and you don't know how that "pretty girl" really is (she may be lonely, too, from guys being forever afraid to talk to them) ...However, don't get outta touch w/ reality, and I say this, because music videos have been deceptive, making guys think that any and every girl is available ...and although we should be selective, there are guys (and girls) who feel they can be ultra-picky, although they don't fit their own standard
Lashid4u 1 year ago
@repo21 I agree, if bw can be selective why can't bm be selective, i also agree they confusing us with thugs who would sleep with an animal and these bw think that is something manly, or bold because the thug has balls. Please, B.S, as well rounded bm know that many of these thugs are looking for what a woman can do for them, like leach off of them for their money and for their things even their pussy, but as a bm with the same things, we are independent of bw n don't need to kiss your ass.
NYDASH28 1 year ago
no one is afraid of black women,black women are afraid of nice guys.as long as a man is going up side her head she good
RidingOn30s 1 year ago
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coilzard 1 year ago
u know, everytime i look at your videos u approach the subjects with kindness and insight...i love sistas like u. i don't think brothers are intimidated by sistas, but i just think that they don't wanna b rejected; so they choose the more comfortable path which is usually silence. that being said, two potentially wonderful people miss out on each other, and the cycle continues until these guys muster the confidence to speak up. brothers need to be a little more resiliant at dealing w/rejection.
wakeen01 1 year ago
@wakeen01 ..and I THANK U for just being understanding and HONEST, not trying to sound all "hard" in not admitting to fears that guys may have ...The young man I'm with, now (from my college) is someone who most would see as a "computer nerd" (well, it's better to call him "a gamer" lol), most females would not put him in the "Denzel" category of looks ...and he's no "baller" ..but I love him, dearly, and the fact that he was assertive (NOT aggressive) and just HONEST did it for me...
Lashid4u 1 year ago
@Lashid4u pt2. are just not checking for ya'll. I think personally speaking that many bm have been through enough b.s with many bw regardless how they dress on down to customer service. N e bm that reads this, hit thumbs up to the shitty customer service u get from a bw vs a wm being serviced by a bw.
I for one personally do not feel connected to bw of today. I don't feel it, i don't see it and i just do sense it. We have came to the realization that many bw are damaged goods, n the last thing
NYDASH28 1 year ago
@Lashid4u pt3 a brother wants is a confrontational bw just simply for saying hello. First off, many bw hardly smile, they always look upset and angry, who would want to approach an angry looking person? many of them are so use to looking upset that they do not know they look upset subconsciously. 2nd, just because a bw knows she may be looking good, her body language can give off this not so humble tone about it, like showing off, brothers can spot this a mile away, since not sincere about it
NYDASH28 1 year ago
@Lashid4u pt5. the effort but it would sure help if the decent genuine good bw speak out against the belligerent bw that seems to give all bw a bad image can sure help us filter u guys out, it would make our jobs much easier because to approach a bw in 2011 is going in at your own risk, u don't know if she;s going to curse u, ignore u like wtf i am standing in front u being polite u don't appreciate that? n most time we know, just trying to be nice many bw think we want to get in your pants
NYDASH28 1 year ago
@Lashid4u pt6 when in all we may just like to get to know u for u but u all put this wall up in the first instance its like geez why do u have to make me feel as if i done u something wrong in your past? other experiences of bm maybe different for which i cannot speak on all bm but some would agree my points can be valid. Now as for other races of women that round minded bm usually seek after are women that are friendly n polite in a genuine way. they are more open in knowing your interest
NYDASH28 1 year ago
@Lashid4u pt7 to most bw give off this vibe as what can u do for me n only me. I mean it is what it is, this has nothing to do with how much money a bw makes or how many degrees a bw has a bm especially of 2011 could careless, but if your not willing to try becoming a partner in building something with a team effort then it guess it all goes back to the mentality, of your not willing and able, no matter how well u dress, whats the point of approaching in the first place? if a bm is about buildin
NYDASH28 1 year ago
when a woman allows a man to be her provider, she's called a gold digger. so if she wants clothes, food, shoes and a movie, she a gold digger but when she makes things happen for her self, she takes the place of the man's role. i was nice and sweet to a BM and he couldnt handle it, i think men are confused about being men period. black men are definitely afraid of a strong successful black women and they fear black women when she gets a attitude LMAO bitch nigga
pOeROsesyadig 1 year ago
Yes I fear them and im not ashmamed of it. they taught me to be afraid of them. Every time im out on the street or in a shop or on a bus or train and I see one of them shouting and cussing at someone, I become a little more afraid. Watch how many will respond abusivly to this post LOL!!!
Melchizedek86 1 year ago
@Melchizedek86 actually, your post has me crackin' up..LOL
Lashid4u 1 year ago
@Melchizedek86
you fear black women what so scary about them ? now i understand if you scared of your mother but women come on man, toughin up a little bit
al6032 1 year ago
@al6032 Yes I was scared of my Mom in my early childhood due to her abusive and violent behavior.
She only stopped being violent because I grew up and obviously became too physically strong for her. But the emotional and mental abuse continues to this day.
I do not fear black women phisically but I find them emotionaly tough, I dont really want to deal with my mother all over again. Sorry
Melchizedek86 1 year ago
@Melchizedek86 LOL that's funny. There will be sisters who will laugh at this because there are sisters who do this however not all of us.
SaySay208 1 year ago
WRONG!
juseph29 1 year ago
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Face it America. The Black Female is an evil, nappy-headed, twisted, monstrosity booty-shakin, bitter, trash-talkin, masculine-packin BITCH!!!!!. Their attitudes are ferocious like upset African jigaboo Babboons. For years, they have diabolically worked against the Black Male. Black Feamale porch Monkeys are the bottom of the barrel. They are Scum. In America, They are used to further the oppression of the Black Male by sidelining with the European Standards. Fuck the Evil Black woman!!!!
single4themoment 1 year ago
Beautiful women always love thugs are bad guys all the time. Most women love bad guys. Men don't want to be with a ugly woman if they can help it. Women will never realize that bad guys are a DEAD END ROAD. Deaf/Prison/Possible being beat to deaf./ Lied to most of the time. I will never understand that attraction to all this smoke and mirror bull crap. But women make their bed so they live in it. Excitement kills!
nativemrv19722 1 year ago
@nativemrv19722 So true, too much pleasure usually ends with pain.
Melchizedek86 1 year ago
@nativemrv19722 the same can be said for men who drool like dogs toward a womans azz but not toward her heart. why are there no famous intellectual women in society today because men worship whores and envy bad guys. alot of women are happy single and some men are too dumb to see that Excitement Lives, it lives without a man womp womp and AMEN. if there wasnt a God, thats when Women would be screwed. Bless
pOeROsesyadig 1 year ago
@pOeROsesyadig No. That's what most men do. There just looking for sex. Women get played when they dump a good man that is into you for a fantasy man that's not into you. Simple. Dating is about finding the best mate not a Fantasy player. A dream. Women get played when they fall for the guy in bed. Most of the time the guy they want is no good for them. And if the woman wants to be single say so don't play stupid games.
nativemrv19722 1 year ago
@nativemrv19722 You just answered my question, what MOST men do. that alone means, there's a small selection of good men and not BIG. also, i think you need to be more clear about what women you're talking about because alot of guys make it seem like, WOMEN who CHOOSE to be single are miserable, when thats not the case. Women who choose to be single avoid men and dont have to say anything. point blank. Have a nice day
pOeROsesyadig 1 year ago
@pOeROsesyadig No. I am saying most women rather be with bad guys because they think they are more exciting than nice guys. I am talking about good looking women. Not so nice looking women. Not so nice looking women have to take what they can get. And this problem is mostly a American problem. Other women in other counties respect good are nice men.Why date men that you know are bad for you? That's very stupid.
nativemrv19722 1 year ago
News flash . He's not intimidated by your sucess, he just does'nt want you. But your pride wont allow you to accept the fact that you having a lot to offer in terms of material wealth( which is all you have to offer) does'nt make you more desirable.Thats why he will go back to Buttermilk Bottom, Mississippi , and find old bald headed jet black Dothea , with no teeth and cant read, but respects him while you eat dinner by yourself everynight
tbursee 1 year ago
the answer to the black women black men problem is ......the fact that women now got the right to work and make more money than a man.....that never existed 100 years ago women stayed in their place.......but now the relationship the ......natural role of man and women is destroyed......
man no longer is the provider and the female the subject of the man ...so there is no solution nothing but doom for black men and women....and all races in the western lifestyle.
ankhenaten2 1 year ago
@ankhenaten2 I hear ya...*nmh*
Lashid4u 1 year ago
Duh ?
What Space Shuttle did the Sista JUST get off?
Erionnacirema 1 year ago
your hair is beautiful! love the curls.
prettylyricsmarie 1 year ago
Who would hire you?
gigwalnutz1 1 year ago
Obviously we are afraid. Look out this woman in the video. Her deep voice, kinky hair, though she's obviously altered it. Trust me, I know I am black! Secondly the whole southern accent that the average black woman carries is just plain self-degrading. If you have the educaton, act like it and start speaking in proper English. Then she has the nerve to yap about Chakka Khan and "Deva Mode". Give me a break! Black women just need to give up. Even my own mother is sick of the new generation.
Daron125 1 year ago
black men r not afraid of our own women cuz we do not currently hv our own women. black women belong to the white man/american society. think not, ask ur self y many black women wear weave or straighten their hair( 2 get or keep a job). if black women devoted themselves 2 black men like they did white men then they wouldnt need a job! shalom.
MrEarl0805 1 year ago
@MrEarl0805
Well spoken fellow Israelite brotha!!
absalom0412 1 year ago
@absalom0412 thanx, i appreciate hearin positive feedback, cuz it happens few and far in-between!
MrEarl0805 1 year ago
(cont)"Thug" issue. What women fail to keep in mind when approached by these "thugs" is that they are men of NO scruples &/or no morals. They have ill-intent from the onset. They pretend to be caring and of good qualities,only to achieve a goal,then they tend to flip,once they have achieved that goal. The reason they can even put up a front for that long is that they have revenge on the brain the WHOLE TIME. Women need to meet GOOD MEN half way,& humble themselves,which they dont want to do.
ReadyRedd123 1 year ago
I have to say,1st off,I appreciate you for making this video my sista.Women as courageous as you give me hope,bc you seem to genuine in your presentation,not pretentious. Let me say that women dont seem to understand that the same things that they feel,we(men) are capable of feeling as well. I think that women tend to have unrealistic expectations & ideas.Who what to keep getting shot down all the time or talked to crazy and made to feel less than for your efforts? Oh& about the (cont)
ReadyRedd123 1 year ago
In my opinion we blackwoman/man need to respond to each other with patience and understanding. Also the ability to articulate your thoughts doesn't make you more intelligent or less its just the way ones brain is wired. Finally our people i.e blackwoman/man have issues that need to be addressed hopefully we'll do this together. As for me I prefer sisters with a conquer the world mentality, and learn and grow on the way Peace sisters
cmtgforever 1 year ago
@GOPFORCEDABORTIONS That's because when it comes to liberty and independence, they go ape and jump off the deep end. American women do not know how to submit to their man. And the system does not help. How many countries hand a woman a welfare check so that she won't have to work nor depend on a man for support? Women in general do not know what they want. They are highly confused. How many times will a man and woman go into a store and only one finds the exit door within 10 minutes?
fanbutton 1 year ago
What is this woman talking about?
She's like, "You know, umm, but umm, you know, I'm just saying, you know, but um, you know, umm, umm, you know, but you know, and umm, you know, you never know, you know, you know, um but, you know what I'm saying, but um?"
And that was not even half of it. WTF?!!
fanbutton 1 year ago
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QLEANQLASSY 1 year ago
You are a scatter brian
Alenjaman 1 year ago
I think black men just want prettier and less ghetto women.
SatinTiffany 1 year ago
Lashid4U says that why Black women will go out with a thug because he will approach a Black female where other Black men won’t.
The only problem with your statement is a THUG will more than likely have VD, have other kids by different women, not paying child and still living with his mama.
whaledog77 1 year ago
I'm afraid of White Women. FLOCKA!
sonyradio2 1 year ago
i say black men is becoming afraid of you sistas cause there is just too much drama that comes with being with you. sistas got the law in their back pocket, yall always bringin a nigga in front of judges that rule in ya favor, and when you call police on some domestic violence ish, you tell the officer where ya man is keepin his gun or some other shit that only him and you suppose to know. you're suppose to be backing us not handing us over to the next man. other women dont do that to their men.
shotcalla134 1 year ago
@shotcalla134 Speaking from experience, all women do that. When a woman tells the police where your protection is, it usually means that she is fooling around and plans on leaving you. Most of the fucked up chit women do comes from the influence of their triffling "friends" who have no man, no life, and who are just plain miserable. I once went with a woman who I thought was a "Can-Do-No-Wrong Mother Teresa", only to find later that she was ticking time-bomb.
fanbutton 1 year ago
Look, here's the simple truth. Women COMPLAINED, for decades, that men need to "find their female side," and all that. Then, when they TRIED that, you women accused them of being "soft." The truth is, YOU'RE ALWAYS CONFUSED.
I left a short relationship where I was "stepping up," strong. The woman DIDN'T LIKE IT, and said, "What are you trying to do: Run my life," in so many words. But, BEFORE that, that was just about precisely what she wanted me to do!
You're confused!!
schism4291 1 year ago
@schism4291 HOW am I confused, when I am NOT one of these women that you speak of (who complained)?
Lashid4u 1 year ago
@Lashid4u
Well, I was not directing the comments to you as an individual. And I suppose it's unfair to direct the comments to women IN GENERAL, which is what I was doing. But, having come out of this crazy relationship, I reflected over the TONS of men I've talked to, and compared notes with. And this led me to the conclusion that MANY women ARE confused about what they REALLY want (or don't want) in a man. I don't play that game anymore. I stay away from complicated URBAN women.
schism4291 1 year ago
@Lashid4u
It's not that we're afraid of you, we just don't like you loud mouthed, stuck up, coneited, manly, haughty, highminded, neck rollin, out of shape black women who loves to please the white man more than your own men. why deal with proud black women when I can get a feminine Dominican, Brazilian, or Mexican woman who loves to stay in shape, keep her mouth closed and please their men.
Besides, u "sistas" have embraced feminism which has destroyed the black household, u should be proud!
absalom0412 1 year ago
@schism4291 hahah bingo
tpatterson0 1 year ago
Damn, It took her 2 min. 24 seconds to start talking bout the subject, she shattered!!!
grandgod1 1 year ago
@grandgod1 I'm just gonna reply in THANKING YOU for letting viewers know when the subject begins (in the video) ...But those who viewed the video I made just prior to this one may understand why I felt the need to address my hairstyle before going into the subject ...It's just about communicating (I see some viewers as "friends" that I've gotta catch up with)
Lashid4u 1 year ago
@Lashid4u Actually it took her to about 2:37 because after she says she's going to start talking about the subject at 2:24, she had to say "umm" about 5 or 6 times before she finally got to saying something.
Anyway, as far as what you did say, black woman like thugs because they assert themselves. WOW. Well then, maybe you all should stop complaining when your thug asserts himself into every woman on the block, and asserts his hand upside your head. I mean, you get what you ask for.
Yobachi2007 1 year ago
A culture of men afraid of their own women...damn, thats deep. If I had to be honest, I think at some point Black women just no longer registered in my head anymore as women. I see white, Asian, and hispanic women and jump on it. But Black women...my brain just tells me to go the other way. In the psyche, Black woman have become ugly.
MaxwellPayne84 1 year ago 2
I wouldn't say that we're afraid or intimidated. However, some brothas are afraid. But I do think that a lot of women (particularly a lot of Black women) underestimate just how vain they can be. Most sistas only want a brotha to acknowledge and pursue them purely for ego-maintenance. So that they can go tell their friends about how some "tired" brotha just tried to holla at 'em and how they dissed him.
mooncooninc83 1 year ago
Are black men afraid of their own women? Not this Black man, I love my own race of women! I prefer black women over all women. Black women are the sexiest females in the world.
BlackwomenareQueenz 1 year ago
@BlackwomenareQueenz true black women are the most sexy women on the planet
tpatterson0 1 year ago
Your video was fascinating to watch and liked what you had to say. I would like to respond to one of your questions". . .are Black man afraid of Black women..." Let me speak for myself. As a Black male, I am afraid of certain Black women because I don't want to project the image of trying 'throw lines' when speaking to Black women. I am well-educated and articulate. But it seems that since "many" Black women have to put up a shield, it is difficult to communicate with them.
montgal52 1 year ago
Black women are not humble anymore.She get a weave a degree and a job and she thinks she's the sh&t.Even the most average looking chick.It's a turn off to black men.I miss the black women of the past.Still love ya'll though....just won't marry.
59westfederal 1 year ago
No the more intelligent black men do not see a reason to chase black women. Why would he? If the black woman is so strong and independent just work chill and get your money why even complain.
EandA23 1 year ago 2
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bglhonline 1 year ago
sorry to bust your bubble but black men don't wanna deal with drama, that's all. when we look at todays black women we see no passion. only cold love.
bigcatlife 1 year ago
@MrMrMrBrooksashad Yeah, yeah, yead ..but you still respond to this depressing shit, which means that you still wanna "hang out" w/ the depressed..lol
Lashid4u 1 year ago
Your hair is the bomb!!!
Thank you for talking about this topic sis.
Peace!!!
lundyncanada 1 year ago
I notice this guy was like way kinda taller than me and he was muscular built kinda similar to a football liike body stature. And all i said was dang u tall aint u and i looked @ him and all he had was a big smile on his face n kinda quiet n he had dat shy auraa i got frm him. Um think how can a guy that fine be shy.
thesassiest 1 year ago
I remember wen i was on the bus it was this handsome blackguy on there and i noticed that he kept on lookin at me. But we happened to be gettin off @ da same stop.
thesassiest 1 year ago
a women issues is not a mans problem they want to bring it on a man so they can have some one to blame for there fuck ups
ANDREW26101 1 year ago
black women are to much on feminism you all treat black men like we dogs!! all that shit black women say to down grade us what you expect us to do??? of course we dont want to to mess with yall if our own women are putting us down ask beyounce how many dam songs does she have about a good man treating her right lol none they all about negative image of black men on how we should pay her bills and ladies leave your man at home the club full with ballers??? lol so you cheat on your man
ANDREW26101 1 year ago
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khandi121329 1 year ago
who wants a loud weave wearing woman who has several children by different men, most black women have not had fathers so they never learned how to deal with men. I am not afraid of black women I just would prefer not to date them.
khandi121329 1 year ago
@khandi121329 Well, why are you making it a "preference" to seek videos on black women? You guys are so fullashit. If I didn't like black men, there's no way I would even care about what they hafta say ...I'd just get a white man, and move on. That's when you can spot bitter bullshit, and sorry methods of attention seeking...You name is "Khandi"? White woman, maybe?..???
Lashid4u 1 year ago
@Lashid4u khandi refers to my first love 121329 refers to our birthdays you confrim my point how could a seek out black women in a search and you come up that is as fake as your hair the topic caught my eye how many of your black female friends have many kids by many men or was there a blackman in your home when you were a child. blackwomen are lost you prove my point
khandi121329 1 year ago
@khandi121329 What the hell are you talking about? Stop watching tv (scripted-ass Maury Povich) to learn about black people
Lashid4u 1 year ago
@Lashid4u
Sweetheart, if this young man is bitter he has every reason to be. The women that god gave us to be our mates are no longer woman, and no longer serves us a purpose. When a Black man comes to that realization it can become a little depressing.
MaxwellPayne84 1 year ago
How can I describe this? Black women do things in such a way that causes me to not trust them. It doesn't matter the type of woman, they all do it. I know that telling the truth can be uncomfortable sometime but when it comes to talking to a man in this culture it is somehow ok for a woman to lie. I'm never going to build up any trust with anybody, not right now.
WildL23 1 year ago