I 100% agree that we need to support EVERYONE. No matter your orientation, religion, ethnicity, socioeconomic status, etc. We have to take a class about that in order to become a teacher. I have always felt this way but I guess the class is there for those who haven't thought about their role as a teacher in this way.
I'm an ally and I am a "good ally." I never do the stuff you're talking about because it's just not right. I fight for the LGBT community. And great point, your sexuality is not your only identity. Gay or straight. There is no difference. Love is love and my love isn't any better or worse than your love :)
It is sexist to refer to lesbians as "gay," or to lump lesbians and gays together as "gay," in the same way that is sexist to use terms such as "mankind" or "Family of Man" to refer to both females and males.
When referring to lesbians, or to "lesbians and gays," please be mindful and respectful of this, and refer to us as lesbian. (And yes, "lesbian" can be used as an adjective, not just as a noun.)
gay means happy, queer means strange or weird, straight means something that doesn't have any curves or bends. the terms are heterosexual and homosexual. and homosexual/lesbian are the same. homosexual means you attracted to the same sex.
I think being a good GLBT ally begins with calling BS when someone makes disparaging queer jokes/remarks--whether or not you know of any GLBT people within earshot. Shut that crap DOWN, because it's the right thing to do.
Also: Prefacing a statement with "Now I'm not gay myself, but . . . " is starkly different, IMHO, from capping a statement with ". . . and for the record, I'm hetero." Phobic hetero people need to hear that not all who share their sexual orientation also share their phobia.
my entire school becomes one GIANT bad ally when they all wore purple armbands when some gay kids died (I dont know the full story of what happened) They all went on about gay rights, and how they support the gay community, but the day after, they were back to their old apathetic or homophobic selves.
You say an ally is someone who doesn't make your identity everything that you are. Your identity IS who you are. Sexuality is not identity. What you should do is stop giving a crap about what people who don't even know you think about you. I'm a straight girl, sure, but I still have problems from people who don't like how I dress or some other complaint. These people are just sad individuals who have such an empty life that they feel the need to judge others to make themselves feel superior!
You sir, are an idiot. Why do you think its wrong for someone who supports equal rights for you to say so? I mean, would you rather them not? You can't pick and choose who "allies" are. Take whatever support you can get.
@soundscape718 ...continued from last post.... But yes, self-hating LGBTQ people can be the problem in many instances, such as so-called "ex-gays" who act like they've changed their sexual orientation (even though they only stopped having homosexual relations/relationships and have not actually "turned straight.") These individuals are part of the problem, backing up heterosexual people who are ignorant of LGBTQ people and issues.
@soundscape718 Sometimes self-hating closet cases, whether gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, etc. need more support, education, resources, etc. though, so I wouldn't be so quick to judge them. A lot of self-hating LGBTQ people feel that way because of the family dynamics they were brought up in and it's not really their fault. Some of us are just more lucky than others to have accepting people around us (even if it's not our family members)...continued on next post...
@soundscape718 .....continued from last post......I don't know what the nanny card is & it really wasn't that far-fetched that I thought you were hating on bisexuals, b/c it is quite common for LG people to say that bisexuals are "copping out," when in reality you meant that some bisexuals may take advantage of their orientation and pretend to be straight.
@soundscape718 I apologize if I misunderstood what you meant. Yes, there are plenty of closeted gay men AND WOMEN who pretend to be bisexual or straight to fit in etc. Yes, there are some bisexuals who are in "straight" relationships and try to pretend to be straight to fit in etc. Unfortunately though, some people just assume bisexuals in "straight" relationships are straight/pretending to be straight when that is their own assumption....continued in next post
@soundscape718 Oh come on, you're doing exactly the opposite of what he said being a good ally is...not supporting people of your own community...you're not being very supportive of bisexual right there. That is the most ignorant thing I have ever heard. Reasons like THIS is why I find myself closer to the transgender community than the gay community. Sometimes gay and lesbian individuals are more ignorant of bisexuality than straight individuals. How do you expect to receive my support?
It is so important to be an ally. You have to be the change you want to see in the world and you have to work your ass off for it. Peoples minds are changing and taking off the blinders that have been imposed on them. Go help at protests, participate in the say of silence make tee shirts! Do whatever you can to help make this country have true equality
Fantastic points! GREAT job pointing out the interconnectedness of ALL social justice movements.
It's also important to remember that LGBTQ people ARE also people of color -- AND white AND people living with disabilities -- AND poor people -- meaning, that every one person has multiple social identities, these identities -- AND therefore,oppressions -- canNOT be disentangled.
Ex. a gay person of color is NOT just oppressed by homophobia/heterosexism, but by racism as well. This means that an LGBTQ person of color's experience of heterosexism/homophobia is NOT the same as a white LGBTQ person's experience of heterosexism/homophobia.
Also, white women (NOT black people/people of color) are the group that has benefited from Affirmative Action more often than ANYONE else/ANY OTHER GROUP
I say that b/c the Aff Action discussion ALWAYS focuses on race/blacks/people of color -- which is misleading, and helps to fuel white people's opposition to Aff Action policies.
@llouw1 "I kind of support gay marriage, but it fading on my (because I am christian)."
Thank you for your support and understanding. I would issue caution by clarifying that your being a Christian should influence only what you believe and what you do - not structure our secular society to mimic your beliefs.
I am not Christian - I am not an atheist. You should always ally with us despite differences and encourage liberty, freedom, and equal participation in society for all citizens. Thx
i think i'm a good ally, at least i try to be. i think the important things are to be supportive, aware and open. and i think it's important to listen to the people i want to support (like by watching yours and similar vlogs). there are some experiences that i just won't have as an ally but i can still do my best to understand them.
okay 1 i think people who have to say "i'm not gay" befor explaining how they are "there for" is not being a good friend it is just a reason for them to make sure you don't hit on them
2 thank you so much for talking about people who are not just homosexual men,(like lesbians) because a lot of the time when people think same sex they think gay men and being not only a in my teens being lesbian whos looked down upon makes it hard cuz it can feel like no one is looking out for me so thanks
Almost everything you said summarizes an organization called the "Anti-Defamation League" or ADL. You should check them out if you don't already know about them. I am donating money to them soon.
i think we (as the gay community) also need to be less heterophobic.... i guess you touched on that a bit with your supporting bis, pans, questions, curious etc, comment, but seriousy, ask a bisexual how much support they have from the gay community when they're in a gay relationship compared to when they're in a straight one... it's disappointing. We have to remember heterosexuals are not the enemy too (:
@nutgirl89 very true, i have all types of friends from all walks of life, and i love the variety, it broadens your perception and enhances your life, equality is for everyone and respect should be given to all types of people and if someone is shitty then smile and walk away...that kinda defuses what they were saying ....
dude, you're like totally HOT. This is my first ever time watching your videos, and i LOVE them. just wondering, but have you ever thought about posting a blog about the first time you lost your gay virginity? it's just I know everyone has their story, and I was just wanting to know yours, and i'm sure everyone else is too lol ;) you're just SOOOOOO cute!
An ally isn't a friend who is straight and makes hateful remarks because their religious up ringing has made them feel justified because their belief system doesn't allow them to be open minded and accept their Gay friends as good people too! Great Video! I accept everyone who is kind and allows people to be who they are without judgment, no matter if their Gay, Bi-sexual, Trans-gender, or Straight! They can't help it if their straight! LOL! Just kidding on that last remark!
I'm against gay marriage... you're fighting the wrong battle, dude.
I don't support a coercive governing body forcing a "legal" binding document on any two individuals who happen to love each other. Marriage is a religious thing which I want no part of and even straight marriage should not be recognized by the state either. Common sense people, come on... Separation of church and state! This is coming from a pro-liberty voluntaryist/anarchist gay guy. I will never support gay marriage. :3
"First, being gay is a choice, and is not in the same ball park as being disabled, black, etc. "
Is it not the same? While I agree with you that having romantic and/or sexual relations with someone is a choice, gay or straight - but at a basic level, the underlying attraction and propensity for happiness is not a choice. As you find the opposite gender attractive, we innately find the same gender attractive. This is very much like any minority, even if not based on external appearance.
Being gay is a choice, and the thing about gay people is you try to make it like its a normal choice to make, you try to say we're just like Blacks, or hispanics or other minority groups, but you're not like them. You made a choice, and its not a normal thing. I don't look down on gays, its a sin, just like any other sin. Sorry but just as you think you were born gay, I think you made a choice for you to be gay. Sorry. God Bless.
People are born gay. We are just like any other minority group, except we don't have equal rights.
You think it is a sin. Not everyone agrees with you. It's one thing to have your own beliefs, but it's another thing when you try to push those beliefs on other people and take away rights and privileges just cause you think it's right.
Once again, people are born gay. Saying it's a choice allows you to somehow justify your actions.. that's sad.
You're not a minority group? and you shouldn't have a right to be married. Because marriage by law is between a man and a women. I think partners should be given some kind of legal rights, but at the end of the day I don't agree with people who are gay. The thing is, people who are gay not only want to get married, but they want everyone to be ohkay with it, and I'm sorry I'm just not ohkay with a marriage between a man and a man or a women and a women.
You see your wrong again. I don't care what you or anyone else thinks. I just want to be treated equally. And so do millions of other gay (and non gay) people.
There is no "unless your gay" clause in the constitution.
Gays are people who have sinned, nothing more. They're just like everyone else, the only right they don't have is for two men or two women to get married. That is not taking away your rights. That is a law. Gays are just ordinary people, who don't deserve to be discriminated against. They're a group of people. Not a minority.
Religion is very much a choice yes. I believe gay people are people who gave into there sexual temptations of being with someone of the same sex. And in the bible it outlines that this is wrong, but I don't think it is a horrible sin, I just think it is a sin but you shouldn't look down upon someone for being gay because everyone sins I just can't support it. I don't think people can't be partners and have be legally bounded but I think marriage and sexual relations between the same sex is bad
You're so out of line with your ideas/thoughts. Sounds like you've been brainwashed by some Christian group. Do yourself a favor and don't let them feed you with their propaganda anymor.e
Please further explain how I'm out of line with my thoughts and ideas, you're allowed to be attracted to the same sex, just as I am allowed to think it is wrong, it is all a matter of opinion, and I think that being gay is a sin, I'm sorry if that offends you. But I don't think you're going to hell if you're gay, because I believe being gay is just like any other sin and if you pray for forgiveness it will be given. Being gay is on the same level as having sex before you're married both are sins
i'm glad you made this video. Me and my friend, who lead the Gay-Straight Alliance at our school, just advertised how to be an Ally, actually. It was pretty successful.
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what if i dont agree with homosexuality, but i accept homosexuals exist? does that mean you homosexuals have a right to cause trouble for me?
also are you going to stand up for rapists and pedophiles? they need to be stood up for also? the hurt people as much as transgenders mutilate themselves? and homosexuals fits each others arses?
it was a comparison of psychiatric evaluations determining differences in brain construct within these populations, that is currently believed to be the explanation why these 'conditions' are incurable.
these studies correlate with data collected from the aflicted individuals of these groups, in that they all express sincerely that they "are the way they are, and that is how 'god' made them".
Hence they should also have rights, unless you take a hypocritical stance on such 'persecutions'?
if instead of hiding the evidence, I DID NOT COMPARE THEM, THE SCIENCE THAT HAS GIVEN RIGHTS TO THE HOMOSEXUAL COMMUNITY HAS ALSO FOUND SIMILAR DISMORPHISMS IN RAPISTS AND PEDOPHILES WITH RESPECT TO BRAIN ANATOMY, PARTICULARLY THAT OF THE SEXUAL DETERMINATING PARTS.
T H A T IS WHAT I HAVE SAID. if YOU cannot face it, that is another thing....
mmm, no sorry, what is bullshit is telling me how to be an 'ally', there is no alligance of LGBT's you know, you are hardly jedi's lmao.
look that is reason that homosexuals got rights, according to the study they trully cannot help it, it isnt a choice it is due to the construct of their brain that made them that way.
unfortunately due to political pressure, the same rights have not been given to rapists and pedos, as they have similar mutations. the media is again them, as it was to you
why the fuck are you talking about homosexuals and rapists/pedos like they're one in the same? I don't give a shit about all this study shit you keep bringing up. you're disgusting, and you need to grow up, badly. and be an ally. and you just proved to me that you don't even know the definition of an 'ally'.
Umm haha ok buddy...well going by what's actually said in the video (if you even watched it), you would make a pretty shitty ally. Ok, you think homosexuality is gross....proof you need to grow the fuck up and get real.
well then dont expect to find any allys then, mock me and ill start mocking homosexuals. and ill start hating them
parents time would be better spent on hetrosexual children, send the homos to the orphanages, afterall they dont breed, so theirs no long term benefit, and they are too proud of their sexuality, big deal, you like to play with feces.
perhaps you should grow up and get real, pooboy...
besides, do you not believe that homosexuals are born homosexual? because if you dont i can see why you dont accept the studies that not only suggest this but similar for rapists and pedophiles.
again, i am not grouping them together, the study has only found a similarity between the dismorphisms in these individuals, although one could say that all of these groups deviate from the socially accepted normal sexual FUNCTIONAL practices...
No, that was the only 'study' you mentioned that I agreed with. This study...do you have a link? And yeah, gays are a minority, so of course they 'deviate from the socially accepted sexual practice" I don't know what you mean by functional...sex doesn't have to be all about reproducing, you know. and is it even bad to be 'deviate' from the norm? I don;t get your point
it was all one study, on rapists, murders, pedophiles and homosexuals, compared with hetrosexuals, based on brain samples. it is on the internet but it is a professional published document, if you have access you should be able to find it. its not commonplace anymore since all this pro homosexual media, it kind of undermines it all, and validifies the pedos etc.
if you have access, look through gender determination orcas, its a bit bitty, but its all there.
omg my first best friend did that 2 years later I stop talkin to her cause I became " The gay friend to help with all my relationship bullshit!" it got VERY annoying!
I agree with what your saying. And as an answer to what I think makes a good ally: someone who supports and works for gay rights before they know anyone who is gay. Someone who isn't afraid to tell a straight friend that they support gay rights. Someone, who realizes that you are who you are and that no one should ever have to hide who they truly are, no matter what your sexuality or gender identification. That is what an ally is to me.
I agree with your definition of "ally", particularly the reciprocity of the responsibility and the ability for open discussion/disagreement on some points; hypocrisy is worse than an open acknowledgement of differences.
I have good friends who totally support my being gay and gay rights in general but not gay "marriage" for example. Just as I have good friends who are atheists and I am a Christian; we will likely never be allys on those subjects!
With regard to straight people who make our identity everything we are..
Bear in mind that there are a number in our own gay community who make their identity everything they are. In a way it's a coping mechanism in the early stages of coming out. Some people unfortunately stay stuck at that stage. People in our community need to be more supportive of each other and pro-active in helping others come to full acceptance or fully out of the closet. I like you videos.
I completely understand your frustration, and your desire to"make it right".Unfortunately, i have found most people don't appreciate being "preached to",as you are doing in your video.Perhaps that is how YOU should behave with other people, since you feel very strongly about this.I think an ally is someone who respects my opinions and my essence,though they don't agree with my delivery of those opinions.Stop trying to make everyone like you, and start appreciating others for where they're at!
i love you videos! ur amazing and if there was a better way to say what you just said i dont know what it would be. if there was an award for people that stand up for whats right id vote for you and not just coz ur a babe lol
I like the fact that you said "to me" so as to not essentially command people on how to act, rather, stating an opinion.
I was reading the comments and I liked this one by JustForTheDead - "To me, an ally is someone who just doesn't care about my sexuality." and adding on, rather myself and not basing assumptions on people because of sexuality or any fact such as race, age, etc.
I totally understand your position. I have been fighting to our GLBT club to help the multicultural clubs out. I believe in what you said. "If we don't support them, then why should we expect them to support us." I have been more active in other clubs besides the the GLBT club.
wow that was amazing that must have been some inspiration that you got I read it and it was really amazing I agree. because I'm bi but that situation hasn't happened to me but everytime I hear someone say thats gay or other things like that it irks me. I wish I was that great of an ally but I agree with what the person on that link was saying because their are sometimes when I screw up with the people that I care about and the only thing I can say is sorry.
I kinda grew up with all kind of friends, like f.x: one of my friends is bi, but mostly dating other boys, and he has been gay for the last two and a half years now. In my class there were two handicapped boys, and they became my friends. In class there used to be this african boy, but he went to another school two years ago, be we see him sometimes, and there's this boy from Japan too. I care about every one of them, and I think my life would be much more boring without them :D
An ally is a person who doesn't give a crap. Doesn't make it a big deal, and can accept who you are, and not what you are. Doesn't have to vote for gay marriage acceptance is enough.
As for me being an ally, I very much fall short on the religious aspect, and I will never change my ways on that. Why support something which wants you stoned to death? I accept Christians for who they are, but their faiths? So long as it's not expressed to me, I guess I don't care.
Any who I have never had this kind of thing happen to me because most people don't' think I'm gay until I personally tell them ( which I usually do when they make some stupid remake about gay people or a closeted gay person. and how it is their business if they have to be around them. Or my friends out me before I can say anything to that same person.)
It can get on my nerves though. but only on a really bad day... Which is rare for me anyway.
I agree completely with Dan on this one.. But to be able to be a good ally... you honestly need one in return.. One that is more then willing to argue politics and opinions where they differ, and provide give and take.... One key thing that an ally, especially a minority ally.. needs to keep in mind is that derogatory words are just that... words, they don't hurt if you let them.. and when meant as just a joke they need to be taken as such.
Some pro-gay heterosexuals might be a little misguided by the way they express their support, but if their heart is in the right place, I don't see any reason to judge them for failing to express themselves to a certain standard.
To me, an ally is someone willing to get out there and vote when the day comes. That's what really makes the difference.
I treat everyone the same. You're a person. Simple as that. Now, a vast majority of the world I treat with indifference but I feel no need to go and make their lives worse (unless a bad fit of psychosis kicks). So I just treat all people, dispite who or what they are indifferently and equally so. I wouldn't call myself an "ally" but I'm not opposition nor am I surpressing anyone.
i dont think id use the term "ally" because that means that theyre "on your side" and when it comes to something as delicate a topic as this, where it can srsly hurt pplz feelings, i dont think sides should be taken
but imo an "ally" would be someone who treats you the same way no matter what race, orientation, etc. you are. i dont think there should be any factor to change the way someone thinks about different people even if they are different, because all pplz are, in some respects, the same
I'm gay, but I think an ally is someone who CAN take a joke. I wouldn't mind having equal rights under the law as str8 citizens, but even the srt8s got nothing on the Corporate Entity citizens. Nevermind allies man, our Republic just got sold out 1/21/2010 by a supreme court ruling which allows corporate entities the "freedom" to buy off what was left of our civil liberties. I'm proud to say I'm gay & I don't care anymore.
thanks for the love GDPROPHET! this is totally exactly right on. @lsbpt89 I don't mean that people mean ill-will in their attempts to be an ally. Its that people don't KNOW how to be an ally and so they try too hard. I think they should just be genuine. ASK. If you don't know how to be an ally, rather than get all awkward and shit and say OMG I TOTALLY <3 GAYS when it's out of context, just say, "yo, I feel kinda awkward about this, but I'm just wondering, how can I be an ally to you?"
I wonder how a day for you is... It seems so inspiring. Like you always come with great videos and such that really makes you thing. I do think you should be the voice of LGBT community. Or at least one of the voices if you feel others should too. You are very smart and legit and beautiful as well. People not only want to watch you, they also want to listen to your words that give us strength. I mean you make me proud being bisexual. You make a lot of people being apart of LGBT
.I have a friend that is one of the best allies i have ever come across. Being a strait male he is never afraid to be called gay for what he believes in he is fantastic. i could continue for hours on how great of a friend he is but that isn't required. i must say this video is one of the best i have seen on the topic, because it is the only one that i have seen that has dared to call the LGBT community to action. many times we want what is best for us at any cost, even at the cost of others
I believe that I am a good ally because I havr actually have (noviloently) protested in my public school to help raise awareness of the laws and other things that makes gays/homosexuals/bisexuals/transexuals hide there true self away. I am an ally and I am wy more than willing to prove it.
I get where you're coming from, but I don't think that the people that do that are as selfish and self-centered as "alphafemme" portrays them.
I think that they don't know how to act and react with us gays, so they end up trying too hard to make up for I don't know what, by ranting about being all for it.
I don't judge them, I think that they act to the best of their ability. They don't do it with a mean intention (or is it just me trying to see the best in each person?).
Read the comment that alphafemmesf wrote. I think that's true, people should ask if they don't know how to be about it.
@alphafemmesf My mistake, I got the wrong message from what you wrote. I agree with you, people should just ask. I still don't take it personally, neither as a bad thing.
I 100% agree that we need to support EVERYONE. No matter your orientation, religion, ethnicity, socioeconomic status, etc. We have to take a class about that in order to become a teacher. I have always felt this way but I guess the class is there for those who haven't thought about their role as a teacher in this way.
Anameleth13 4 weeks ago
I'm an ally and I am a "good ally." I never do the stuff you're talking about because it's just not right. I fight for the LGBT community. And great point, your sexuality is not your only identity. Gay or straight. There is no difference. Love is love and my love isn't any better or worse than your love :)
Anameleth13 4 weeks ago
@dudeproductions100:
FYI everyone (not specific to this video!:):
It is sexist to refer to lesbians as "gay," or to lump lesbians and gays together as "gay," in the same way that is sexist to use terms such as "mankind" or "Family of Man" to refer to both females and males.
When referring to lesbians, or to "lesbians and gays," please be mindful and respectful of this, and refer to us as lesbian. (And yes, "lesbian" can be used as an adjective, not just as a noun.)
yrbabuena 6 months ago
I'm asexual, it's even more rare than being gay.
globalchaos1984 8 months ago
i tottaly agree
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kmsuperman30 8 months ago
gay means happy, queer means strange or weird, straight means something that doesn't have any curves or bends. the terms are heterosexual and homosexual. and homosexual/lesbian are the same. homosexual means you attracted to the same sex.
btw: I am heterosexual
dudeproductions100 8 months ago
I think being a good GLBT ally begins with calling BS when someone makes disparaging queer jokes/remarks--whether or not you know of any GLBT people within earshot. Shut that crap DOWN, because it's the right thing to do.
Also: Prefacing a statement with "Now I'm not gay myself, but . . . " is starkly different, IMHO, from capping a statement with ". . . and for the record, I'm hetero." Phobic hetero people need to hear that not all who share their sexual orientation also share their phobia.
blurr1969 9 months ago
my entire school becomes one GIANT bad ally when they all wore purple armbands when some gay kids died (I dont know the full story of what happened) They all went on about gay rights, and how they support the gay community, but the day after, they were back to their old apathetic or homophobic selves.
Xloi63 11 months ago
What's wrong with Jews?
mihais13 11 months ago
i love all people11111111111111
cindymcmahan11 11 months ago
You say an ally is someone who doesn't make your identity everything that you are. Your identity IS who you are. Sexuality is not identity. What you should do is stop giving a crap about what people who don't even know you think about you. I'm a straight girl, sure, but I still have problems from people who don't like how I dress or some other complaint. These people are just sad individuals who have such an empty life that they feel the need to judge others to make themselves feel superior!
BetrayedAndAmused 11 months ago
lol when my friend told me he was gay I was like ok cool so we still gonna hang at your place tonight right
FernATang 1 year ago
You sir, are an idiot. Why do you think its wrong for someone who supports equal rights for you to say so? I mean, would you rather them not? You can't pick and choose who "allies" are. Take whatever support you can get.
DEADM0O53 1 year ago
Thanks for the video.
hockeyarmadillo 1 year ago
@soundscape718 ...continued from last post.... But yes, self-hating LGBTQ people can be the problem in many instances, such as so-called "ex-gays" who act like they've changed their sexual orientation (even though they only stopped having homosexual relations/relationships and have not actually "turned straight.") These individuals are part of the problem, backing up heterosexual people who are ignorant of LGBTQ people and issues.
ChristineLeeM 1 year ago
@soundscape718 Sometimes self-hating closet cases, whether gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, etc. need more support, education, resources, etc. though, so I wouldn't be so quick to judge them. A lot of self-hating LGBTQ people feel that way because of the family dynamics they were brought up in and it's not really their fault. Some of us are just more lucky than others to have accepting people around us (even if it's not our family members)...continued on next post...
ChristineLeeM 1 year ago
@ChristineLeeM well for me is the family ting, my mom and dad divorced 4 years ago and i wasnt bi back then
64xD 1 year ago
@soundscape718 .....continued from last post......I don't know what the nanny card is & it really wasn't that far-fetched that I thought you were hating on bisexuals, b/c it is quite common for LG people to say that bisexuals are "copping out," when in reality you meant that some bisexuals may take advantage of their orientation and pretend to be straight.
ChristineLeeM 1 year ago
@soundscape718 I apologize if I misunderstood what you meant. Yes, there are plenty of closeted gay men AND WOMEN who pretend to be bisexual or straight to fit in etc. Yes, there are some bisexuals who are in "straight" relationships and try to pretend to be straight to fit in etc. Unfortunately though, some people just assume bisexuals in "straight" relationships are straight/pretending to be straight when that is their own assumption....continued in next post
ChristineLeeM 1 year ago
@soundscape718 Oh come on, you're doing exactly the opposite of what he said being a good ally is...not supporting people of your own community...you're not being very supportive of bisexual right there. That is the most ignorant thing I have ever heard. Reasons like THIS is why I find myself closer to the transgender community than the gay community. Sometimes gay and lesbian individuals are more ignorant of bisexuality than straight individuals. How do you expect to receive my support?
ChristineLeeM 1 year ago
It is so important to be an ally. You have to be the change you want to see in the world and you have to work your ass off for it. Peoples minds are changing and taking off the blinders that have been imposed on them. Go help at protests, participate in the say of silence make tee shirts! Do whatever you can to help make this country have true equality
jessicalynnstrom 1 year ago
You are a sweet guy
wood2323 1 year ago
blehhhh preachy. but i guess thats what your audience wants. but blehhhh
zaboomafoo323 1 year ago
you sound like sxephil, maybe he's gay too
sylvial1985 1 year ago
hi, its look like you can be a good presiedent of the u s a .
or a good ammbassdor
sharontz1 1 year ago
Fantastic points! GREAT job pointing out the interconnectedness of ALL social justice movements.
It's also important to remember that LGBTQ people ARE also people of color -- AND white AND people living with disabilities -- AND poor people -- meaning, that every one person has multiple social identities, these identities -- AND therefore,oppressions -- canNOT be disentangled.
knowyourenemy1 1 year ago
@knowyourenemy1 (contd):
Ex. a gay person of color is NOT just oppressed by homophobia/heterosexism, but by racism as well. This means that an LGBTQ person of color's experience of heterosexism/homophobia is NOT the same as a white LGBTQ person's experience of heterosexism/homophobia.
Also, white women (NOT black people/people of color) are the group that has benefited from Affirmative Action more often than ANYONE else/ANY OTHER GROUP
knowyourenemy1 1 year ago
@knowyourenemy1 (contd #3):
I say that b/c the Aff Action discussion ALWAYS focuses on race/blacks/people of color -- which is misleading, and helps to fuel white people's opposition to Aff Action policies.
knowyourenemy1 1 year ago
u r cute, u take it up da butt?
ps: Im gay, but u r cute ha
Linternauter 1 year ago
I don't mind if someone is gay, or black or anything like that.
I kind of support gay marriage, but it fading on my (because I am christian).
But at the same time, I still support gay people in general (for I have a gay friend and a gay uncle).
I'll be glad to stand for you.
llouw1 2 years ago
@llouw1 "I kind of support gay marriage, but it fading on my (because I am christian)."
Thank you for your support and understanding. I would issue caution by clarifying that your being a Christian should influence only what you believe and what you do - not structure our secular society to mimic your beliefs.
I am not Christian - I am not an atheist. You should always ally with us despite differences and encourage liberty, freedom, and equal participation in society for all citizens. Thx
rjs0416 1 year ago
I guess that's true.
(I still support gays in particular which is why I posted this comment)
llouw1 1 year ago
i think i'm a good ally, at least i try to be. i think the important things are to be supportive, aware and open. and i think it's important to listen to the people i want to support (like by watching yours and similar vlogs). there are some experiences that i just won't have as an ally but i can still do my best to understand them.
woahzombies 2 years ago
hun,
ur nipples are hard lol
onexiba 2 years ago
okay 1 i think people who have to say "i'm not gay" befor explaining how they are "there for" is not being a good friend it is just a reason for them to make sure you don't hit on them
2 thank you so much for talking about people who are not just homosexual men,(like lesbians) because a lot of the time when people think same sex they think gay men and being not only a in my teens being lesbian whos looked down upon makes it hard cuz it can feel like no one is looking out for me so thanks
love1shippo 2 years ago
I actually LIKE the Don't Ask Don't Tell. :-X It gives us gays a way out if and when we want it. LOL!
Nemle22 2 years ago
EXACTLY! Well said mate.
FTMUKOfficial 2 years ago
Good point!! Very nice!!
peavaal 2 years ago
1. Your so hot, It's not just because you have a sexy body and a beautiful face, and hot stubble, 2. Your so smart and that's hot too
atwab 2 years ago 6
@atwab You read my mind with this comment.
attackofthepoprocks 1 year ago
Almost everything you said summarizes an organization called the "Anti-Defamation League" or ADL. You should check them out if you don't already know about them. I am donating money to them soon.
DrNHand1994 2 years ago
WHERE ARE YOUUUUU!!!??? 8/ It's been a couple of weeks and i'm worried...
pigflavacandy 2 years ago
are you realyy gayyy??
you are really hot:)
SAMANTHAG6 2 years ago
yea ia gree 100% (ur hot)
pokepokemonmon 2 years ago
i think we (as the gay community) also need to be less heterophobic.... i guess you touched on that a bit with your supporting bis, pans, questions, curious etc, comment, but seriousy, ask a bisexual how much support they have from the gay community when they're in a gay relationship compared to when they're in a straight one... it's disappointing. We have to remember heterosexuals are not the enemy too (:
nutgirl89 2 years ago 2
@nutgirl89 very true, i have all types of friends from all walks of life, and i love the variety, it broadens your perception and enhances your life, equality is for everyone and respect should be given to all types of people and if someone is shitty then smile and walk away...that kinda defuses what they were saying ....
Fuzzellhead 1 year ago
Personally I prefer being Horde.
Wait, what are we talking about here?
wobina 2 years ago
dude i like this video u did, of all the vids i saw, this had got to b the best thing EVER!!
AJD2012 2 years ago
I like your point of view ~ U rock!
5*****
SoaringEleven 2 years ago
dude, you're like totally HOT. This is my first ever time watching your videos, and i LOVE them. just wondering, but have you ever thought about posting a blog about the first time you lost your gay virginity? it's just I know everyone has their story, and I was just wanting to know yours, and i'm sure everyone else is too lol ;) you're just SOOOOOO cute!
mxsmth140 2 years ago
An ally isn't a friend who is straight and makes hateful remarks because their religious up ringing has made them feel justified because their belief system doesn't allow them to be open minded and accept their Gay friends as good people too! Great Video! I accept everyone who is kind and allows people to be who they are without judgment, no matter if their Gay, Bi-sexual, Trans-gender, or Straight! They can't help it if their straight! LOL! Just kidding on that last remark!
starblue1986 2 years ago
I dig your shirt btw ^__^
Liontaryist 2 years ago
I'm against gay marriage... you're fighting the wrong battle, dude.
I don't support a coercive governing body forcing a "legal" binding document on any two individuals who happen to love each other. Marriage is a religious thing which I want no part of and even straight marriage should not be recognized by the state either. Common sense people, come on... Separation of church and state! This is coming from a pro-liberty voluntaryist/anarchist gay guy. I will never support gay marriage. :3
Liontaryist 2 years ago
ALLY SUCK!!!! Horde FTW
Bloodfin2003 2 years ago
You totally beat me to this video topics O_O rude. j/k -thatshellatoomuch
7GaysAWeek 2 years ago
if you want to go into psychology daenumen
anytime someone masturbates, technically they're gay
:DDDDD
ToXiC2MiNd 2 years ago
it is because it gets very lonely out there.
specialedd13 2 years ago
First, being gay is a choice, and is not in the same ball park as being disabled, black, etc.
iPaintba11 2 years ago
"First, being gay is a choice, and is not in the same ball park as being disabled, black, etc. "
Is it not the same? While I agree with you that having romantic and/or sexual relations with someone is a choice, gay or straight - but at a basic level, the underlying attraction and propensity for happiness is not a choice. As you find the opposite gender attractive, we innately find the same gender attractive. This is very much like any minority, even if not based on external appearance.
rjs0416 2 years ago
@iPaintba11
No it is not a choice. I (and many, many others) was BORN gay. i will die gay.
But, if the whole "choice" idea makes you feel better about your bigotry.....
divad838 2 years ago
Being gay is a choice, and the thing about gay people is you try to make it like its a normal choice to make, you try to say we're just like Blacks, or hispanics or other minority groups, but you're not like them. You made a choice, and its not a normal thing. I don't look down on gays, its a sin, just like any other sin. Sorry but just as you think you were born gay, I think you made a choice for you to be gay. Sorry. God Bless.
iPaintba11 2 years ago
WRONG.
People are born gay. We are just like any other minority group, except we don't have equal rights.
You think it is a sin. Not everyone agrees with you. It's one thing to have your own beliefs, but it's another thing when you try to push those beliefs on other people and take away rights and privileges just cause you think it's right.
Once again, people are born gay. Saying it's a choice allows you to somehow justify your actions.. that's sad.
divad838 2 years ago
You're not a minority group? and you shouldn't have a right to be married. Because marriage by law is between a man and a women. I think partners should be given some kind of legal rights, but at the end of the day I don't agree with people who are gay. The thing is, people who are gay not only want to get married, but they want everyone to be ohkay with it, and I'm sorry I'm just not ohkay with a marriage between a man and a man or a women and a women.
iPaintba11 2 years ago
You see your wrong again. I don't care what you or anyone else thinks. I just want to be treated equally. And so do millions of other gay (and non gay) people.
There is no "unless your gay" clause in the constitution.
If gays are not a minority, then what are they?
divad838 2 years ago
Gays are people who have sinned, nothing more. They're just like everyone else, the only right they don't have is for two men or two women to get married. That is not taking away your rights. That is a law. Gays are just ordinary people, who don't deserve to be discriminated against. They're a group of people. Not a minority.
iPaintba11 2 years ago
Well, I live in MA where gay marriage is legal. So, it's not the law everywhere, thank god. And in states where it may be the "law" it is unfair.
I am having trouble understanding your position. Do you believe gay people are really just straight people claiming to be different?
Religion is a choice... isn't it?
divad838 2 years ago
Religion is very much a choice yes. I believe gay people are people who gave into there sexual temptations of being with someone of the same sex. And in the bible it outlines that this is wrong, but I don't think it is a horrible sin, I just think it is a sin but you shouldn't look down upon someone for being gay because everyone sins I just can't support it. I don't think people can't be partners and have be legally bounded but I think marriage and sexual relations between the same sex is bad
iPaintba11 2 years ago
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Liontaryist 2 years ago
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mrquiet2009 2 years ago
You're so out of line with your ideas/thoughts. Sounds like you've been brainwashed by some Christian group. Do yourself a favor and don't let them feed you with their propaganda anymor.e
resisthk3 2 years ago
Please further explain how I'm out of line with my thoughts and ideas, you're allowed to be attracted to the same sex, just as I am allowed to think it is wrong, it is all a matter of opinion, and I think that being gay is a sin, I'm sorry if that offends you. But I don't think you're going to hell if you're gay, because I believe being gay is just like any other sin and if you pray for forgiveness it will be given. Being gay is on the same level as having sex before you're married both are sins
iPaintba11 2 years ago
Being born both bi-sexual and disabled, I can tell you that neither was a choice. I could not choose my genetic factors for either situation.
mrquiet2009 2 years ago
i'm glad you made this video. Me and my friend, who lead the Gay-Straight Alliance at our school, just advertised how to be an Ally, actually. It was pretty successful.
resisthk3 2 years ago
i dont mind that, as long as you dont persecute people whos ideologies are against homosexuality fundamentally, as this is not fair either.
daenumen 2 years ago
This comment has received too many negative votes show
what if i dont agree with homosexuality, but i accept homosexuals exist? does that mean you homosexuals have a right to cause trouble for me?
also are you going to stand up for rapists and pedophiles? they need to be stood up for also? the hurt people as much as transgenders mutilate themselves? and homosexuals fits each others arses?
daenumen 2 years ago
the fuck is wrong with you? the fact that youre comparing gays with rapists and pedophiles is bad enough as it is. just get out, you sad being.
resisthk3 2 years ago
it was a comparison of psychiatric evaluations determining differences in brain construct within these populations, that is currently believed to be the explanation why these 'conditions' are incurable.
these studies correlate with data collected from the aflicted individuals of these groups, in that they all express sincerely that they "are the way they are, and that is how 'god' made them".
Hence they should also have rights, unless you take a hypocritical stance on such 'persecutions'?
daenumen 2 years ago
if instead of hiding the evidence, I DID NOT COMPARE THEM, THE SCIENCE THAT HAS GIVEN RIGHTS TO THE HOMOSEXUAL COMMUNITY HAS ALSO FOUND SIMILAR DISMORPHISMS IN RAPISTS AND PEDOPHILES WITH RESPECT TO BRAIN ANATOMY, PARTICULARLY THAT OF THE SEXUAL DETERMINATING PARTS.
T H A T IS WHAT I HAVE SAID. if YOU cannot face it, that is another thing....
daenumen 2 years ago
ok...what a load of BS
resisthk3 2 years ago
mmm, no sorry, what is bullshit is telling me how to be an 'ally', there is no alligance of LGBT's you know, you are hardly jedi's lmao.
look that is reason that homosexuals got rights, according to the study they trully cannot help it, it isnt a choice it is due to the construct of their brain that made them that way.
unfortunately due to political pressure, the same rights have not been given to rapists and pedos, as they have similar mutations. the media is again them, as it was to you
daenumen 2 years ago
why the fuck are you talking about homosexuals and rapists/pedos like they're one in the same? I don't give a shit about all this study shit you keep bringing up. you're disgusting, and you need to grow up, badly. and be an ally. and you just proved to me that you don't even know the definition of an 'ally'.
resisthk3 2 years ago
? i operate by the term ally that is defined in the dictionary. i suppose you use the homosexual dictionary.
i do not want to be an ally, homosexuality is disgusting.
besides by the definition of this video, regardless of what i say or do i am an ally, essentially, its a 'catch all'.
daenumen 2 years ago
Umm haha ok buddy...well going by what's actually said in the video (if you even watched it), you would make a pretty shitty ally. Ok, you think homosexuality is gross....proof you need to grow the fuck up and get real.
resisthk3 2 years ago
err i did 'grow the fuck up' and i got a real as hetrosexuals are when they reproduce to produce homosexuals.
to quote from the video moron "to me an ally is someone who has their own opinion and not necessarily just my opinions" 0.52 to 0.58.
this of course contradicts "...will fight for gay marriage".
well im all for happy marriages, but i dont see homosexuals having those...two men cant make babies....
daenumen 2 years ago
umm...marriage is about babies? whatre you basing your opinions on...you come off as very narrow minded
resisthk3 2 years ago
oh sorry, it is now also important for homosexual romantic fantasies and legal contracts.
yeh i am, because i only want to see straight people. dont hate me or mock me because of my views, that isnt being an ally remember? lmao
daenumen 2 years ago
when you say something ridiculous like, "I only want to see straight people", I have every right to mock you. you're asking for the hate.
resisthk3 2 years ago
??
well then dont expect to find any allys then, mock me and ill start mocking homosexuals. and ill start hating them
parents time would be better spent on hetrosexual children, send the homos to the orphanages, afterall they dont breed, so theirs no long term benefit, and they are too proud of their sexuality, big deal, you like to play with feces.
perhaps you should grow up and get real, pooboy...
daenumen 2 years ago
how old are you? seriously?
resisthk3 2 years ago
agist as well as prejudist. damn you fucking poofters are nasty pieces of works arent you?
daenumen 2 years ago
besides, do you not believe that homosexuals are born homosexual? because if you dont i can see why you dont accept the studies that not only suggest this but similar for rapists and pedophiles.
again, i am not grouping them together, the study has only found a similarity between the dismorphisms in these individuals, although one could say that all of these groups deviate from the socially accepted normal sexual FUNCTIONAL practices...
daenumen 2 years ago
No, that was the only 'study' you mentioned that I agreed with. This study...do you have a link? And yeah, gays are a minority, so of course they 'deviate from the socially accepted sexual practice" I don't know what you mean by functional...sex doesn't have to be all about reproducing, you know. and is it even bad to be 'deviate' from the norm? I don;t get your point
resisthk3 2 years ago
it was all one study, on rapists, murders, pedophiles and homosexuals, compared with hetrosexuals, based on brain samples. it is on the internet but it is a professional published document, if you have access you should be able to find it. its not commonplace anymore since all this pro homosexual media, it kind of undermines it all, and validifies the pedos etc.
if you have access, look through gender determination orcas, its a bit bitty, but its all there.
daenumen 2 years ago
You're telling it like it is.
jjlucash 2 years ago
A good ally to me is someone who doesn't jump up and down when she finds out you're gay and yells 'We need to go shopping!'
No joke, that has happened to me. Even worse, it was a girl I had never met before and she knew absolutely nothing about me.
LazarusG 2 years ago 11
omg my first best friend did that 2 years later I stop talkin to her cause I became " The gay friend to help with all my relationship bullshit!" it got VERY annoying!
abrblambee 2 years ago
aww, that's so true about the shopping thing, my favorite is when they say we need to KARAOKE! but that's just because I am asian, :/ LOL!
DizzBetchh 2 years ago
Yeah, I've had this happen to me. fucking annoying.
resisthk3 2 years ago
I agree with what your saying. And as an answer to what I think makes a good ally: someone who supports and works for gay rights before they know anyone who is gay. Someone who isn't afraid to tell a straight friend that they support gay rights. Someone, who realizes that you are who you are and that no one should ever have to hide who they truly are, no matter what your sexuality or gender identification. That is what an ally is to me.
robxbff 2 years ago
lol understood! That ALWAYS happens!
kamui5252 2 years ago
I understand what you're saying, but I like to let someone know they're being supported. I don't go on and on, but I say "cool" or something
abejareina1989 2 years ago
adoro sempre ver todos os teus videos clips, estás de parabéms... continua sempre assim;)))
marcoinacio1 2 years ago
You make meaningful videos, Dan.
I agree with your definition of "ally", particularly the reciprocity of the responsibility and the ability for open discussion/disagreement on some points; hypocrisy is worse than an open acknowledgement of differences.
I have good friends who totally support my being gay and gay rights in general but not gay "marriage" for example. Just as I have good friends who are atheists and I am a Christian; we will likely never be allys on those subjects!
desktopmarco 2 years ago
at the beginning of this video i hated this video. but as it went on i really liked it.
very nice.
i agree with everything you said.
bradycyr 2 years ago
Dan you are awesome! so is that tight shirt showing your nipples :)
stevieray777 2 years ago 3
With regard to straight people who make our identity everything we are..
Bear in mind that there are a number in our own gay community who make their identity everything they are. In a way it's a coping mechanism in the early stages of coming out. Some people unfortunately stay stuck at that stage. People in our community need to be more supportive of each other and pro-active in helping others come to full acceptance or fully out of the closet. I like you videos.
JCJasion 2 years ago
First of all, much platonic love for mentioning asexuals. <3 As an ace, I feel it's nice to have our existence acknowledged. XD
This video is amazing, and to me, an ally is someone who accepts you wholeheartedly - everyone needs some sort of support and belief.
CelestialHarmony 2 years ago
I completely understand your frustration, and your desire to"make it right".Unfortunately, i have found most people don't appreciate being "preached to",as you are doing in your video.Perhaps that is how YOU should behave with other people, since you feel very strongly about this.I think an ally is someone who respects my opinions and my essence,though they don't agree with my delivery of those opinions.Stop trying to make everyone like you, and start appreciating others for where they're at!
tet43 2 years ago
i wouldn't mind it, at least they'd support you.
but I'm pretty laid back.
kanamesenpaixxx 2 years ago
I believe in animal rights but im not burning down slaughter houses
Animalrights543 2 years ago
PLEASE STOP THE GHETTOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO GESTURES they are disctracting
less01 2 years ago
i love you videos! ur amazing and if there was a better way to say what you just said i dont know what it would be. if there was an award for people that stand up for whats right id vote for you and not just coz ur a babe lol
JEZZAowns 2 years ago
I like the fact that you said "to me" so as to not essentially command people on how to act, rather, stating an opinion.
I was reading the comments and I liked this one by JustForTheDead - "To me, an ally is someone who just doesn't care about my sexuality." and adding on, rather myself and not basing assumptions on people because of sexuality or any fact such as race, age, etc.
BRX0102 2 years ago
I love you videos! you You are the wisest smartest dude around! should run for president! Keep up the good work!! Love you!
MarkieWatch100 2 years ago
very well said, including US being allies.
sTewPac22 2 years ago
I totally understand your position. I have been fighting to our GLBT club to help the multicultural clubs out. I believe in what you said. "If we don't support them, then why should we expect them to support us." I have been more active in other clubs besides the the GLBT club.
djdrew15 2 years ago
You Always Speak The Truth! :)
kenjiminase 2 years ago 3
Your videos make me smile :) thnks
maxlupinjoe 2 years ago 2
be a democrat
Ciathos 2 years ago
Love every vid you post, glad you continue to talk about serious stuff we should all be disscussing, but damn your nips could cut glass!
archmoonmage 2 years ago 2
I heard about the USA kicking out gay sexuals in the military if they are open about it. So lame!
ericos 2 years ago
wow that was amazing that must have been some inspiration that you got I read it and it was really amazing I agree. because I'm bi but that situation hasn't happened to me but everytime I hear someone say thats gay or other things like that it irks me. I wish I was that great of an ally but I agree with what the person on that link was saying because their are sometimes when I screw up with the people that I care about and the only thing I can say is sorry.
bossygirl10 2 years ago
LOVE THIS VIDEO! Being an activist, I think this video sums up well what being an ally truly is!
derron22 2 years ago
In the wise words of Dr Seuss, those who mind dont matter and those who matter don't mind :D
JJ19867 2 years ago
I kinda grew up with all kind of friends, like f.x: one of my friends is bi, but mostly dating other boys, and he has been gay for the last two and a half years now. In my class there were two handicapped boys, and they became my friends. In class there used to be this african boy, but he went to another school two years ago, be we see him sometimes, and there's this boy from Japan too. I care about every one of them, and I think my life would be much more boring without them :D
lauraLuff 2 years ago
Cant gays join the military?!?!?!
We can it in norway. We also have gay marrage <3
heipaadegduP 2 years ago 2
awesome video man :)
popsux4eve 2 years ago
uh i hate it when they say "im not gay but.."
thats pretty much saying i support you but would be
insulted and/or embarrassed if you thought i was bc im supporting who you are
sonjunkie 2 years ago 2
awesome
SELKILKT 2 years ago
To me an ally is someone who doesn't care what i am or what im about, someone who will just be there for me when i need them
AriaAsacura 2 years ago
An ally is a person who doesn't give a crap. Doesn't make it a big deal, and can accept who you are, and not what you are. Doesn't have to vote for gay marriage acceptance is enough.
As for me being an ally, I very much fall short on the religious aspect, and I will never change my ways on that. Why support something which wants you stoned to death? I accept Christians for who they are, but their faiths? So long as it's not expressed to me, I guess I don't care.
skipskops 2 years ago
To me, an ally is someone who just doesn't care about my sexuality.
JustForTheDead 2 years ago
All i noticed was you had a nipple hard on throughout the whole video :)
flygon666 2 years ago
Woo hoo, more Dan magic is born! XD
Any who I have never had this kind of thing happen to me because most people don't' think I'm gay until I personally tell them ( which I usually do when they make some stupid remake about gay people or a closeted gay person. and how it is their business if they have to be around them. Or my friends out me before I can say anything to that same person.)
It can get on my nerves though. but only on a really bad day... Which is rare for me anyway.
Roussalier 2 years ago
i dont mind when someone sez:: they are a supporter, then i can encourage them to act on it. 1 LIFE
sleekcartim 2 years ago
I agree completely with Dan on this one.. But to be able to be a good ally... you honestly need one in return.. One that is more then willing to argue politics and opinions where they differ, and provide give and take.... One key thing that an ally, especially a minority ally.. needs to keep in mind is that derogatory words are just that... words, they don't hurt if you let them.. and when meant as just a joke they need to be taken as such.
glafna 2 years ago
Some pro-gay heterosexuals might be a little misguided by the way they express their support, but if their heart is in the right place, I don't see any reason to judge them for failing to express themselves to a certain standard.
To me, an ally is someone willing to get out there and vote when the day comes. That's what really makes the difference.
JayBellBooks 2 years ago 3
I treat everyone the same. You're a person. Simple as that. Now, a vast majority of the world I treat with indifference but I feel no need to go and make their lives worse (unless a bad fit of psychosis kicks). So I just treat all people, dispite who or what they are indifferently and equally so. I wouldn't call myself an "ally" but I'm not opposition nor am I surpressing anyone.
PsytheWickedOne 2 years ago
I'm so relieved this was about "being an ally" and not "being on Alli". I don't think I'd be able to stomach a 2 minute talk on oily discharge.
burningsensation3 2 years ago
agree! with u! bcz u are so cute!...oh yea and bcz u got awsome thoughts!
mynameisasillyone 2 years ago
If they start spewing that, they're more likely not to be for it. Aka, yes, it's fucking bull.
0Krusnik0 2 years ago
I just luv ya Dan!!! heheh
francoisancebou 2 years ago
its about celebrating difference, not tolerating.
Lindsayanncory 2 years ago
you are right
guelphboy11 2 years ago
i dont think id use the term "ally" because that means that theyre "on your side" and when it comes to something as delicate a topic as this, where it can srsly hurt pplz feelings, i dont think sides should be taken
but imo an "ally" would be someone who treats you the same way no matter what race, orientation, etc. you are. i dont think there should be any factor to change the way someone thinks about different people even if they are different, because all pplz are, in some respects, the same
bloodyadaku 2 years ago
I'm gay, but I think an ally is someone who CAN take a joke. I wouldn't mind having equal rights under the law as str8 citizens, but even the srt8s got nothing on the Corporate Entity citizens. Nevermind allies man, our Republic just got sold out 1/21/2010 by a supreme court ruling which allows corporate entities the "freedom" to buy off what was left of our civil liberties. I'm proud to say I'm gay & I don't care anymore.
dumbelton 2 years ago
I'm 16, but sexually attracted to this guy :D
HerrSchokopudding 2 years ago
thanks for the love GDPROPHET! this is totally exactly right on. @lsbpt89 I don't mean that people mean ill-will in their attempts to be an ally. Its that people don't KNOW how to be an ally and so they try too hard. I think they should just be genuine. ASK. If you don't know how to be an ally, rather than get all awkward and shit and say OMG I TOTALLY <3 GAYS when it's out of context, just say, "yo, I feel kinda awkward about this, but I'm just wondering, how can I be an ally to you?"
alphafemmesf 2 years ago
you make good points.
but its like blah blah blah
xP
joben212 2 years ago
Excellent thoughts. And from a smart attractive guy. What a concept.
praestant8 2 years ago
love your vids man
zaynzaynzayn 2 years ago
I wonder how a day for you is... It seems so inspiring. Like you always come with great videos and such that really makes you thing. I do think you should be the voice of LGBT community. Or at least one of the voices if you feel others should too. You are very smart and legit and beautiful as well. People not only want to watch you, they also want to listen to your words that give us strength. I mean you make me proud being bisexual. You make a lot of people being apart of LGBT
MrBisexuallySexy 2 years ago
DUDE YOU JUST ROCK!!!!
ShamieWoW 2 years ago
.I have a friend that is one of the best allies i have ever come across. Being a strait male he is never afraid to be called gay for what he believes in he is fantastic. i could continue for hours on how great of a friend he is but that isn't required. i must say this video is one of the best i have seen on the topic, because it is the only one that i have seen that has dared to call the LGBT community to action. many times we want what is best for us at any cost, even at the cost of others
watsonrychi5 2 years ago
I believe that I am a good ally because I havr actually have (noviloently) protested in my public school to help raise awareness of the laws and other things that makes gays/homosexuals/bisexuals/transexuals hide there true self away. I am an ally and I am wy more than willing to prove it.
thenapster123456789 2 years ago
sucks that you didnt get picked.. :(
robertoi945 2 years ago
u got my vote
y0david65 2 years ago
I get where you're coming from, but I don't think that the people that do that are as selfish and self-centered as "alphafemme" portrays them.
I think that they don't know how to act and react with us gays, so they end up trying too hard to make up for I don't know what, by ranting about being all for it.
I don't judge them, I think that they act to the best of their ability. They don't do it with a mean intention (or is it just me trying to see the best in each person?).
lsbpt89 2 years ago
And I get that, I really do. I'm just trying to make the point that its not that hard, not that uncomfortable to be an ally :)
GDProphetXVII 2 years ago
Read the comment that alphafemmesf wrote. I think that's true, people should ask if they don't know how to be about it.
@alphafemmesf My mistake, I got the wrong message from what you wrote. I agree with you, people should just ask. I still don't take it personally, neither as a bad thing.
lsbpt89 2 years ago
"neither as a bad thing" is such bad phrasing, I'm sorry lol
lsbpt89 2 years ago
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Everyone should read what Jason Mraz wrote about equality on one of his blog posts. He's a great ally!
freshnessfactorfivethousand [dot] blogspot [dot] com/2009/12/2-with-liberty-and-equality-for-all [dot] html
lsbpt89 2 years ago
Love the video I totally agree :D
galarid8 2 years ago
It's offish. You get hotter every video. Like write it in the history books.
6142 2 years ago
5 stars for hard nipples.
stesheehan 2 years ago 5
whats up with the headlights on high beam? LOL
garyjsimm 2 years ago
+ agreed, but that doesn't mean I don't appreciate people saying to me "I support gay rights. etc"
lol, hard nips. n_nb
Denzerf 2 years ago 2
I totally agree!
will37841 2 years ago