The Sociopath Next Door • Martha Stout • Part 1

[the23snake]

MY NAME IS STABBY. WHAT'S YOUR NAME?

[CivilRights4Olympia]

"If despite your broke-ass-ed-ness can land a girl"-lol

[mickey77tube]

I think I have a sociopath next door. He moved my survey stakes, he threatened to beat up a 93 year old man. The police stick up for him and the judge sticks up for him, they are all sociopaths.

[bill4long]

I drink heavily to kill the sociopath within. Damn that sonofabitch!

[llel11]

one thing i think is a bit off about this reading is it assumes that these folks are in 'jobs'...while leaving out the female sociopaths who use their sexuality almost exclusively in life. i am not talking about prostitutes and strippers, because that work.

[TheChannyj28]

I grew up w/ a Sociopath. My brother...

[kuwaizair]

those silly vegan animal rights people say anyone, and everyone who hurts animal in anyway for any reason, those are psychopaths and sociopaths. yes, even homesteading people who raise livestock meat. yes, even a substance hunter. the same folk as poachers, abusers, vivicectors and dog fighters. hurrrrrrrrrrrrr. all that tofu helps them think this way.

[edwardtang1977]

To Psychos: Just in case you are watching this so you can improve on your manipulation. Let me tell you that normal people know exactly what you are doing most of the time. Normal people are better actors than you think. Normal people don't always respond to evil. But we do feel. In fact it is because we feel more than you that we are normal. We are x men to you ! You will never understand how it is to have empathy. You are fooling yourselves.

[morjan11]

@edwardtang1977 We hardly choose to be born this way. You don't know what it is like to have emptiness inside you. You could never fathom what it is like to have a partner that you know would take a bullet for you, and you can turn your back on them and never look back without a second thought. I would like to point out that perhaps you think you can pick us out - you would have met many which also slipped through your guard. Many of us live among you, undetected. We want to understand ourselves

[Guide2win]

I am a sociopath, not the violent kind and it makes me sick that we are treated like scum, some of us are genuinely trying,there is no cure, this is bullshit.

[VulcherHead]

Wtf kind of video is this? It's just a spinning cube all the time. This is worse than those lame videos that just pan around still images. Put this out as an mp3 or something, it doesn't belong on a VIDEO site.

[Jeffersonwazright]

I love being a sociopath and find you herd people amazingly boring.

[BlotBlackInk]

@Jeffersonwazright Well I don't envy you, I have a pretty rich emotional life, assuming you even are a sociopath I wouldn't know you well enough to say, a lot of people try to act like sociopaths because they think it's cool but really it's just pathetic.

[samaz2u]

Sociopaths but what about people who just fit in or maybe people who are mindless sheep; do they have morals or conscious. Do Sociopaths have emotions?

[ZMorpheus]

I dont' know who wrote it, or who is narrating it. But that person is a POS for talking in the first person. It's a manipulative technique called "carving" in the field of social enginieering. And by suggesting such an image, it's basically filtering the listener's perception to adopt it, even if it weren't true. That's why I stopped it after 5 seconds. The subject of sociopaths is vague and distinct. None of these descriptions will fit literally one person. That's why it's generally BS antics.

[TheNightwing01]

@ZMorpheus The subject of sociopaths is not even remotely vague. Hare's check list makes it pretty clear on how to diagnose someone that is afflicted with this disorder. Psychopaths/sociopaths can even be genetically tested for, and MRI's show specific areas of the brain as non functional, or low functioning. Please educate your self before making such statements.

[sumbodyshero]

OR, you've got a real bungsbee brewing in the kennel.

[GZA036]

Imagining yourself as these people feels insane...??? not really.

[fdjizm]

So, basically it's being a perfect business, awesome :)

[montyhades]

What this book won't say due to people that don't know or understand, is that there are different types of sociopaths, and there is the type that knows all that and change the ways to hide from others. Sociopaths that have evolve to be better than what is known. You might be a best friend or family of one of those type.

[MauryaCadre]

Is it a sociopath that put "It's 3 o'clock" in this audiobook at 12:08 ?

[MauryaCadre]

@12:08 "It's 3 o'clock." WTF!!!?

Fuck you! Trying to scare the shit out of me... In part 2 they have some kind of electronic sound go off... Fuck off, scary fucks!

[medini2]

@MauryaCadre i have a problem with that shit, too!!!

it is really nuts they''re playing games with people who absolutely don't want to play any games.

are we being programmed to see psychopaths everywhere at 3 oclock??? huh? or are we being played for fools with pavlov's bell in part 2?

[karategirl994]

@clergame, no, actually feeling sympathy for a sociopath only makes things worse because they WANT you to feel pity for them. They can't feel sorry for anyone because they can't feel sympathy or guilt.

[clergame]

Is feeling sorry for someone the same as having a conscience? Can someone be a sociopath and still feel sorry for someone?

[Rosebunse]

@clergame I suppose they may. But it all boils down to them just not being able to feel certain feelings. Some try to mask this and it often works. Most sociopaths aren't monsters, they just can't feel certain feelings and this effects how they act. It's a disorder, I suppose.

[BlotBlackInk]

@clergame Nope

[GuyJon57]

great voice for this presentation

[hotguybmx760]

this is the most confusing topic ever. I bought this a while back and it confused the hell out of me.

[kharnvelzyghur]

had a brother like this. went after my father with a knife. lucky the rest of the family was around. bound tied and took him to the police. he's consistently on meds now. insanity is one thing but some people are just born rascals, selfish and amoral. psychosis on top of that doesnt help. you'd wonder if there was a god. i sure hope not, otherwise i'd have to find a way to fist fuck that motherfucker.

[alwayson09]

"immoral" by who's standards? And conscious being "universal" LOL! It is nothing more than weakness. People like me will use up people like you and spit you out, never caring in the least. You know, I am currently attending school (on your tax money) for a bachelor's degree in computer science; intending to completely destroy others with that degree on my climb to wealth (which for me is happiness, travel, lavish meals etc.), this brings me great pleasure. Thank you for paying for my education!

[SPAYPET]

I recommend this book to everyone I know. It really helped me understand people more. I don't yell at the tv anymore when I see a 60 Minutes (or something) segment on alleged killers.

[MrSpemat]

this book gives insight into how to deal with Borderlines and Narcissists…

[opalescence84]

So are psychopath and sociopath the same thing? I always thought there was some difference. How do they are arise? Do children ever display traits of psychopathy or is it more probable that the traits are in some way learned and developed over time?

[Shyvoice]

@opalescence84 You may get two seperate answers for your question "Are pyschopaths and sociopaths the samne thing. Some psychologist believe that they are and other professionals believe that psychopaths are more organized and "advanced" then sociopaths (BASED on my understanding) ... i hopethat helpss!

[DianaMC412]

I had a child with one of them, its a unique hell no one understands. Ive spent years studying them to figure out how to get them into the "abandonment" stage. Im hoping that is were we are at now. but we will see

[tmpeters]

@DianaMC412 Thanks for sharing, Diana. Vocabulary affects thought and thought inevitably results in action. I said this to a friend. "When someone you consider trash intimidates or frightens you and if you are indeed intimidated and / or frightened, you assume the status of the trash." Her situation may differ from yours but the right vocabulary was impetus to affecting her mood, body language and response. Now she tells me, "he's a son of a bitch but he's my son of a bitch. I'll sort him out"

[446646]

I knew there was something wrong about me but I never would've guessed that I was. sociopath. Oh, well.

[DanMcCaffrey]

Just look at the headlines: Casey Anthony, Rupert Murdoch, Silvio Berlusconi, Mortage crisis brokers - Sociopaths are all over the front page...

[DanMcCaffrey]

Just look at the headlines: Casey Anthony, Rupert Murdoch, Silvio Berlusconi, Mortage Crisis - Sociopaths are all over the front page...

[luigiperso]

@DanMcCaffrey , wtf is Berlusconi or 'Mortgage Crisis' to do with a serial killer who killed 52 children? Dumb generalizations.....

[PhilMyBod41]

why would having sociopathy really be a bad thing in this world your either first or last its that simple!!!!!

[VioletVeil1985]

@PhilMyBod41

You f***ing retard.

[BlotBlackInk]

@PhilMyBod41 That's a pretty narrow why of seeing things, there is such a thing as the great equalizer called death, I think in that light, winning isn't the most important thing.

[messiahschild]

the sociopathic spin ,hot one moment cold the next, gas lightning games they play are the worse.......it makes you question your own sanity....the thing about sociopaths is their behavior and sometimes their words doesnt make sense!!! pay attention/ this is always a red flag...or....they will have you in a heap on the floor!!!!

[ccgamom2]

@messiahschild "bullying provides them with an adrenaline rush.." Too true!

[PhilMyBod41]

can you be a sociopath if you like animails but no feelings for humans?

[angrybaglady]

@PhilMyBod41 Hitler was reputed to have loved animals and children, and was a vegetarian - perhaps that is a reference point!!! lol

[slobomotion]

Uprated and favorited. Cannot share -- YT no longer lets me.

[FloridaRaider]

Casey Anthony fits the description.

[1IIIIIIIIII1]

I THINK 4 OUT OF A HUNDRED PEOPLE IS WAY OFF....ID SAY ITS CLOSER TO HALF. 

[CygnusXrayOne]

Wow... so, I may be a partial and some what reformed sociopath. My complete lack of concern for what others think of me allows me to admit this without any negative feelings, including anything resembling shame. I have 'taught', or more like brain-washed, myself to have the effects and affects of a conscious. One of my redeeming qualities is a learned behavior of loyalty to my friends and family, not because it's 'right', but because it makes my life easier. This is opening my eyes to my nature.

[guydecervens]

Thanks for this upload. I married one of these. It's nice to understand what happened. It's the only way to move on.

[tmpeters]

@guydecervens Guy, you're most welcome. Martha's files are a liberating experience. You married one, you say. Safe to assume she has redeeming points. Everyone has. Could you summarize some of them? Beers

[curesriches]

The first person accusatory imagine is a bit disturbing. The successful psychopath has extremely split their spirit channel behavior from their physical.

A bit annoyed at the dissing of above and below as if only middle class none lawyer, politician can not be psychopath. Many fringe drop out persons are there because they wouldn't except the exigence of psychopath for success. In fact if our resident channel (sub conscience) is complaints of evil spirituality we are pushed to the periphery.

[poodlesusan]

Ah, thank you for uploading this, what an easy voice to listen to & learn from. DSM has inherent problems (shaped by insurance corps for billing schedules, & 3/7 of vague criteria seems scattershot), but those of us who have known sociopaths understand how to interpret these criteria. People who reject this information either have not (yet) suffered by a sociopath, or are in denial.

[tmpeters]

@poodlesusan You are most welcome Susan. An encounter with one makes him (not the imbecile) an excellent teacher. On the micro, one found in the family is (pardon the French) a ‘son of a bitch’ but to qualify the phrase, ‘he is OUR son of a bitch.' The conjunction (OUR) is the operative. It signals solidarity. It signals coalescence. It discourages unsolicited interference. Most of all, it offers reprieve to make good. On the macro, the same conjunction is the operative. Beers - Tommy

[poodlesusan]

@tmpeters sorry, are you praising the value of sociopaths in family & society? my understanding is they are a product of sick families and sick societies, which reinforce the sociopath's behavior not through a some "reprieve to make good", but from sickness. Again, a part of that is denial of the grave costs exacted by sociopaths. maybe i misunderstood you. thanks again, for your reply & the upload. ☼

[somecomputergeek]

6) Consistent irresponsibility - being responsible is a matter of perception. I think it's irresponsible to drive to work every day, so I work at home, and I don't work a full-time, 40 hr week, because I don't have to. Does that make me irresponsible?

7) Lack of remorse - How much remorse does the writer have for those that have been slaughtered in Iraq in her name?

I'm guessing she was with somebody diagnosed with APD and wrote this book to justify yelling at and abandoning him.

[somecomputergeek]

1) Failure to conform to social norms - like Martin Luther King Jr? Just about every rock star ever, or anyone who has ever made a real difference?

2) Deceitfulness, manipulativeness - This applies to everyone I've ever met, and conflicts #1.

3) Impulsivity - failure to plan ahead. You mean spontaneous, or fun to be with?

4) Irritability, aggressiveness - this is a state of mind, and EVERYONE gets irritable.

5) Reckless disregard for the safety of self or others - an actual negative trait.

[2consul]

First, there is no room here for the words you use. Expletives are not arguments. Secondly, that you differ with a definition or two does in no way detract from Ms. Stout's able description of a certain range of persons; people who do whatever they wish, with and to others - their only constraint being fear of being incarcerated when what they do violates others' rights to be free from force, threats of force and fraud.

[r29]

this book is bull shit. She is just trying to make it sounds more exciting than it really is. BTW ASPD is not the same as psychopathy. Robert hare, much more professional, believes that only 1% of the population is psychopathic. The 4% number is for ASPD.