INTP INFP INFJ Role playing, chameleon personality

[cornyBandit]

@magister343 whoa magister, Ti dominants are all about going with the flow, fitting whats best at the time.The purpose is to fully understand and looking at things in many different perspectives.you should understand more about the cognitive functions, there are numerous sites that have thorough explanation about Ti that you might find useful :D

[helicopterpilot88]

i say things i don't believe in to gauge people's reaction, and also say things that are very extreme in uncomfortable situations. For instance when i am in an argument in an unfamiliar setting with people i don;t particularly know so well, and I am put down and feel i am backed in a corner. I will do something that absolutely offends every single person present, including the person whom antagonized me.

[helicopterpilot88]

@helicopterpilot88 I am constantly trying to figure out who i am. I typically dislike people around me, despite not knowing them. If i speak to them i do not reserve the attitude that i dislike them, but am polite and become perhaps judgmental and critical. I do not display these notions but may have a difficult time carrying a conversation, and likely seem more self critical than i am to them.

[tacoma200]

@blackout8903 Quantum mechanics and personalities, quite a comparison. I think each persons personality is unique, and not only that as we age and learn we are in a constant state of flux. P's especially constantly update their views (which is good if you are using logic and not emotion). Thanks for you input. It is greatly appreciated.

[marcrib79]

wow thanks... I'm a 21 yr old INTP, and this describes a lot of how I interact with people, I never really knew why I did this or why it came so naturally... most of the time I'm very stoic but I act according to the people around me and the atmosphere but only to an extent, if I feel like something really is nonsense I just stay quiet so not as to upset them or I just subtly and effectively change the subject.

[tacoma200]

@marcrib79 Thanks, it would have been so helpful for me to understand my personality when I was 21. I spent many years wondering why I thought so differently and second guessing myself. MBTI may not be perfect but understanding ones basic personality has given me much more confidence (emboldened).

[brackenck]

I am an INFJ married to an INTP. I can see my INTP do what you explained (i.e. role-play etc.) I think the safer he felt with me, that I accepted him no matter whether we agree or not, he started sharing his opposing views with me and my perspective was broadened. I was able to share where my deep convictions come from, and he was able to open my eyes to other points of view. But we both had to feel safe and fully accepted first.

[tacoma200]

@brackenck I'm glad you can relate. The way I look at the world, my thinking process, and my views are so different that it is very hard to just express my views with out getting the "deer in the head light look" from some personalities. It is much easier for me to feel them out first before expressing myself.

[chevyhighrider]

WOW! I am in between an INFP and INTP, but this Cameleon thing fits me to a T! I always felt so bad about it like I should be firm in my own belief instead of changing my view based on who I met. I am relly self defeating in this area, but now I am going to learn more about it because maybe its not so bad after all.

[dumb180]

I do this too, especially when discussing matters of religion. If I'm talking with a young earth creationist, I'll explore the issue from the presupposition that the earth was created six thousand years ago. Never mind that it's nonsense; looking at it that way could be interesting! I like to think of religious and political views as different hats we wear, and whatever the actual truth is isn't particularly important.

[insanityvideoskid]

INTPs don't have chameleon personalities. They just know how to deal with different types of people. I'm an INTP.

Also, I'm guessing that you aren't that interested in politics, or that you only looked to understand Obama. I didn't like McCain, but he would have made a better President. "Let us do, let us alone, the world runs by itself." This applies to the American government just like it applies to the French merchants who first spoke it.

You have a right to disagree, but so do I.

[soulseeker300]

yeah, its hard to be completely open with people when I first meet them since my opinions are much more thought out than other people's...

[tacoma200]

@soulseeker300 Exactly, and some people are so close minded I am never able to be completely honest and open.  Especially if they are a friend.

[Insatium]

I consider myself an INXP, right in the middle between thinking and feeling, and I relate to this. I find that there's no point to putting my views out in a social context because people can start to argue with them. I totally relate to this.

[magister343]

I'm an INTP. This sounds nothing like me. Adjusting one's personality to those around and trying to relate to others does not sound like a Ti dominant at all. I can easily consider alternate viewpoints and respect those whose ideas are radially different from mine and may not be eager for the conflict of expressing my own views, but changing myself to fit is not something I do.

The chameleon description sounds much more like an INFJ. INFJs in tertiary loops can easily be mistaken for INTPs.

[tacoma200]

@magister343 I think being a chameleon fits a T (thinker) just fine. I am not changing my views based on others, I am camouflaging my views and role playing (acting). I am not easily swayed and have a firm foundation and belief system, but I don't have to let others know that during conversation. I look at it as acting like a spy to learn or obtain information with out disclosing any.

[noobler9]

2 schools of thought, active chameleon, lazy lizard

you can't analyze what doesn't give off many cue's, and automatic narcissism due to a lack of shown personality kick in

I start twitching ever so slightly if I have to deal with a different point of view without correcting their mistakes if I disagree with them, otherwise I'm comfortable just mentally correcting their mistakes if I agree with their outcome, as long as it's logically consistent, (without talking)

[ClemsonBlueBelle]

This is awesome. Reading what you wrote in response to others & watching your video really helps me come to terms that I am also INTP. I have had many doubts about it b/c I know my emotions can be strong at times & I don't shy away from helping friends & family. I do trust logic over feelings, though. I often don't understand my feelings & generally try to ignore them if I cannot pick them apart & figure them out.

Thanks for this video!

[tacoma200]

@ClemsonBlueBelle I am glad we can relate in this way. It helps me listening to others with similar personalities also.  Thanks. ;)

[DesertSmeagle]

im intp. i also have some syptoms of j like i plan my actions in my head..but im not organized and i procrastinate alot..wuts the difference between and intp and intj's????but ya im intp..mimicing personality is my life..especially with sicial anxiety disorder.

[magister343]

@DesertSmeagle INTP and INTJ are essentially opposites. They do not share a single cognitive process. INTP = Ti>Ne>Si>Fe INTJ= Ni> Te> Fi> Se INFJ = Ni>Fe>Ti>Se INFP = Fi > Ne> Si>Te Ni~convergent thinking, vision, epiphanies Ne~divergent thinking, considering many alternatives Te~utilitarian, efficient Ti~understanding, truth, coherency for its own sake Fi~personal subjective value Fe~considering relationships with others Se~awareness of present sensory input Si~evoking comparisons, memories

[philipsmom2000]

I am INFJ and relate to this. It is great to hear you say that people are not objective. I have found that as well. I can identify with chameleon behavior, but I don't consider myself chameleon per se because I will share my personal opinions with people if they ask me. I am opinionated in writing where I can hide. In real life, I sometimes like to remain detached until I feel it is safe. Lots of people think I am INTP. It would scare me if anyone was perceptive enough to guess that I am INFJ.

[tacoma200]

@philipsmom2000 Yes it is easier to challenge a person when writing than in conversation. But in real life we prefer to be detached.  I can relate to this.

[airvou]

This rings so true, even for me, an INFP. A lot of the time I don't know how to deal with close-minded people and I don't want to argue with them, so I attempt to avoid them. It's tough because they're... everywhere.

[tacoma200]

@airvou Yes they are everywhere. As I get older and bolder I am more likely to challenge their beliefs. Often they cannot explain the logic behind their beliefs.

[jackooboy1]

I have found that by studying others you can anticipate a response to your infliction of a certain personality towards them... I find this is a manipulation that needs to be done and ultimately is gratifying for both parties...

I try the hardest with ESFJs... they're very difficult to get to know... and i usually feel slightly uneasy around them... even the ones in my own family...

[tacoma200]

@jackooboy1 Yes, ESFJ's, how do you talk to them without making them mad.

[jackooboy1]

@tacoma200 Just talk about fluff... and smile... or listen to them... It's still an art that's being developed with my sister... just remember, ideas upset them most of the time. 

[BellamysGirl]

You remind me of my father, he is an ISTP. He's also very open minded and has that sort of calm, rational energy you have. What you were saying there about the chameleon thing, I can also relate to that. I'm an INFP (extreme F) and it's also in my nature to question things and investigate.

P.S.I like your accent, lol

[tacoma200]

Thanks so much :)

[TheScreamingRetard]

just took a free test thing online. i got intp and it sounds like me.i feel like im surrounded by ignorant retards. it also seems that i have social anxoety/avoidance personality disorder... what the fuck. my dad says that im gonna fail out of collge and baseball if i dnt start being normal. he says to go out , make some frinds, and do normal things.. im 18 and this hurts my soul.. ughh how do i handle this. there is noone at my school like me. i sit ther quiet and thinkin im a loser.. ugh help

[ClemsonBlueBelle]

@TheScreamingRetard

Don't listen to them...it will make you unhappy & possibly suicidal...I have been told the same my whole life...I am now almost 28. I will never fit into what everyone else wants me to be. It is best to be you & do what makes you happy...ignore them.

[Mypersonallottery]

I am an INFJ and I can completely relate to what you say, I often mirror the people I'm with...I'm not the same with different people (even though this may be true for everyone), and I often argue the opposite point of view of what I believe just to make the discussion more interesting.... I never feel like inauthentic as well, but I can really identify with one opinion at the one moment and another at the next, even sometimes believing both to be valid...

[jroccobama445]

Jrocc is a INTP, I only mimic others to get them to open up, thenmanipulate their weakness. (I know I ain't Shit) ( You think I give 1)

[dolberman2]

Great vid. I read the same page online where you got most of your heading from - very insightful .The use of a chameleon facade among us INTP's really stands out as one of the major attributes on an INTP. Indeed, INTP's are not very good communicators so we have to rely on this "tool", which gets the job done nevertheless. I like how you said "everyone around me is so closed-minded" and that "I get new facts and take them into consideration and my view changes" Common sense to an INTP!

[MarmaladeINFP]

I'm an INFP. I'll sometimes act more like others just to fit in and I suppose I've played various roles at times, but I don't like to deceive people or simply play devil's advocate just to be contrary. Maybe a difference between INTPs and INFPs is that the latter values authenticity to a great degree. So, the two types probably tend to use their chameleon abilities for different purposes.

[tacoma200]

My parents and friends are strong F's. I care about them and don't want to disrupt their strong feeling about such matters as politics and religion so I try to keep my well thought out Thinking ideas hidden for the sake of peace. When I try to talk about idea's that are frowned upon in the conservative South it just upsets them so I try to fit in to avoid confrontation. I do try to be non-confrontational for the sake of peace, not to be contrary. Thanks for your comment, all ideas are important

[MarmaladeINFP]

That is funny. My parents are strong Thinking types, and they're both TJ which is a completely different world. I'm more interested in abstract theorizing than even my ENTJ dad. From being on INFP forums, I've come to realize that I'm rather intellectual for an INFP. But, in INFP fashion, my truth-seeking is inseparable from my ideal of authenticity. So, objectivity and subjectivity go hand in hand.

BTW my family lived in SC for years. This made my parents conservative, but I'm liberal.

[sapiensgeneboosted]

I am an INTJ, but i usualy get good along INTP people. I got to hunderstand that the little J/P that differences us stands upon that adaptability of INTPs to new environments. I can spot if a person is P or a J. P people are always trying to hunderstand the others even if they have to hide theyr true believes. Rational J people assume in general their believes because they have been rationalized already in a very comprehensive system. That seems to be what makes INTJ masterminds so confident.

[tacoma200]

Yes, I can totally relate to that.. I see great strengths in being a J (judging) type and always work on strengthening my judging function. I wouldn't want to give up the strengths of being a p (perceiving type) but would like to strike a balance.

[lostinitall4414]

Well it's a well known attribute of the INTP to take on the "social chameleon." For me it's been very difficult to reconcile in most circumstances, because SJ's in particular seem to be VERY closed minded and want a linear transition. I've often described my mind as a rampant train station without a conductor. Why? I try to see as many vantages as possible before I make a dissertation myself. I don't want to choose before all the facts are in. I definitely agree with what you've said.

[sasha7goya]

Yes, I would say everyone is 'different' in their own way, but I suppose the idea of uniqueness can also be functional.

My point was that 'playing chameleon' may not be the most effective way of interaction. Common ground could also be found by some bilateral effort, which can foster curiosity and even some real transformation/evolution and can be more constructive than actually pretending to be one's interlocutor.

[brikiss77]

I know I'm the one who's different Sasha you didn't have to mention it, but everyone is unique in thier own way.

[brikiss77]

So basically he pretends that he is the person he is talking too.

[sasha7goya]

Yeah, my question is : what happens when he's talking to an infp/intp? :D ('hide and seek' or 'the gallery of mirrors'?)

[tacoma200]

INFP's, INTJ's and INTP's are like talking to a close friend. We relate easily and I have no need to be a chameleon. I only become a chameleon if the other person is so different from me that he or she may not be able to relate so I have to become someone that they can relate to. You don't tell kindergarten students there is no Santa Claus which would cause chaos, you become one of them so you can have a conversation about St. Nick. I do have to be a little more gentle with INFP's.

[brikiss77]

Thank you this is a really good idea. As INFP I find my self somewhat distant from other people and hope to apply your idea next time I'm in a social situation.

[sasha7goya]

Hah! maybe YOU are too different from that other person to be able to relate :). Maybe it has nothing to do with him/her.

[tacoma200]

That is true to some extent. I'm the odd ball out. I'm the one that is hard to understand. Not them. So I try to get inside their heads or way of thinking for a harmonious conversation. NT's are especially hard for SF's to understand I think because we think more abstractly. I live in an area where they believe the bible word for word literally, are extremely conservative, and don't seem to be able to relate to anyone that is not of the same mind set so it would be exhausting to fight

[tacoma200]

Sasha, I do think I have learned to relate to most other points of view and as I said I am the odd one. I was raised very religious and conservative so it's not hard to relate to that group. But the more I have traveled and met new people the more my views have moderated. It is tough for me and I always feel isolated. I do not want to destroy my friends beliefs, what they live for, so I blend in. I'm sorry if I come off bad in the video but I'm not a good speaker this was one of my first.

[sasha7goya]

I know you do it to blend in. I didn't point to your 'oddness' as to something negative, I just wanted to see how you relate to it all. But I did see those kinds of effects of too much trying to compromise .. some people get to think you're something that you actually are not and they're the ones disappointed after all when they see some part of you that they did't suspect or expect to be there.

You come off ok in your vid, there's no reason to worry. Do you generally do better in writing?

[tacoma200]

Yes, I do better writing. I am taken more seriously in forums where they can't hear my speaking (which is not natural for me, I'm not a verbal person), or my accent/dialect. I forced myself to do these video's and risk being ridiculed for my Southern accent and lack of being articulate. I rarely prepare for a video just a few notes and random thoughts. I have to work hard to neutralize my accent in most of my more serious video's. Southerners are stereotypically though of as unintelligent

[sasha7goya]

This is partly strange .. they say extraverted perception in general goes hand in hand with very good oral communication skills (or at least as good as in writing). Or is it also a matter of practice? (I know for sure i'm more fluent in writing, no matter how intensively I could practice something else)

[tacoma200]

I really do care about people and do not want to disrupt their view of the world. I would rather have harmony than fight about it. My views on most everything are scientific, I doubt religion, superstition, etc which would make me an outcast in the rural South. I just accept others for who they are and don't try to change or condemn them. There is just a small percentage of the population here I can relate to, my view would be considered closer to normal in Europe, the North East, CA I think

[sasha7goya]

Have you ever thought about moving in those areas?

[tacoma200]

Yes, but my family is here and my parents are old. I want to spend as much time as I can with them.

[sasha7goya]

This is awesome. I'm aware of my parents' age, but that doesn't lead me to making a decision like yours. I cannot help admiring it.

[sasha7goya]

You said in another vid that you are borderline T/F ... are you more 'emotional' than T types are in general or just more willing to take people's personal views and feelings into account?

[tacoma200]

I always test a very strong T because I don't believe in making decisions based on feelings. When it comes to humans or living things I make an exception and do try to take others feelings, personal, views into account. My whole family and most of my friends are feelers. I have strong emotions but often suppress them, detach myself as a coping mechanism. When it comes to science and my belief system I am 100% T,but I am very empathetic, and caring about humans and conditons. My F is strong

[sasha7goya]

Do you work in the scientific field?

Just how much attention do you pay to emotions, feelings, etc? do you ever waste any time analyzing them or you try to detach as fast as possible?

[tacoma200]

Scientific:I was an electronic technician for the U.S. navy and I had a secret clearance (not top secret), I constantly change my scientific interest after becoming bored. Science, culture, art, music are my main interest. Feelings: Music, art, people in need, bring out a lot of emotion in me. Things that others may not get. I am not afraid of emotions and let myself go there very easily, I have loved others very deeply. But I always know I can control them or detach.

[sasha7goya]

Yeap, I guess that's what NTs generally feel (probably entp a bit less than the others) : as strongy as their feelings might be, they can always detach.

Is it so hard for you to remain focused on one scientific interest only or you actually exhaust it?

[tacoma200]

I do not pay attention to my feeling much. I put them aside, and generally don't trust them since they can change from moment to moment while facts are stable. But I do have them, they are strong, and I am glad I am able to to be in touch with them. I love feeling but they are just that, feelings.

[sasha7goya]

hah! Fs generally think feelings are more stable than facts :D.

[tacoma200]

Yes I think facts change but not as much as feelings (are feeling not subjective? I guess you could make a case that facts are subjective since they change with time and knowledge) To answer another question I can focus very deeply until I understand a scientific interest to my satisfaction then I loose interest and go to something else. The thrill is learning, understanding, clarity then there is no more interest after reaching that point. I jump around a lot while a J would master one area

[sasha7goya]

Do you see 'the worlds of facts' as totally objective? do you think facts can be considered and evaluated from one perspective only? Can't they have a strong contextual component?

(i'm not referring to scientifical material, but to whatever else can be 'tainted' by F stuff)

[tacoma200]

I generally consider the "world of facts" as being objective, if these facts are true. I find facts or what we perceive as facts to be in a constant state of change as our understanding and knowledge grows. Scientist are constantly having to reevaluate the facts as new information becomes available. As humans we are very limited in our understanding. It would not surprise me to see the laws of physics totally rewritten on day (maybe not in my lifetime) because of new discovery's.

[sasha7goya]

But I get your point - when you refer to the world of facts, you imply what is clearly visible and not necssarily subject to interpretation - as are natural sciences to me, for instance:). They may discover new things and approaches, but there is always a concrete world of interacting phenomena that cannot change.

[sasha7goya]

I suppose I see people's perspectives in general as subjective, not only feelings, emotions, etc. Actually the subjectivity involved in the appreciation of art (generally F-rooted domain) , for instance, is no problem at all. Other manifestations of F can sometimes be problematic and give rise to all sorts of prejudice (although I think all people are prone to this, I find it more serious when related to F).

[tacoma200]

I can be myself more around people that I know. No need for the chameleon characteristics. I do have to be very careful not to step on their belief system because this is their life and the most important thing to them. I don't want to hurt them or have them disappointed in me or worry about me because I don't share the same views. I am warm for an INTP liked by most of my peers and respected(but not understood) Einstein said people like me but they don't understand me(no I'm not that smart)

[sasha7goya]

Yeap. and Einstein also said that people never seemed to see 'the real him', they always stopped at what they wanted to see .. in him. How come you're an exception in a family of Fs? :)

[tacoma200]

I'm in no way as smart as Einstein but I have the same personality type. I,ve always questioned everything, they didn't. Non of my friends seem to question the way they were raised. It was only after moving away and seeing other cultures and people did I start to seriously examine my own belief system. One of the best things my parents did was buy me a set on encyclopedias. I read them cover to cover (no computers back then) and just absorbed as much information as I could.

[sasha7goya]

what do you do if a person you had to play chameleon with changes in the mean time? you change, too? :)

BTW, i think it's actually their ego that you try to reflect, not necessarily their persona. You try to be whom they think they are.

[tacoma200]

Most of my acquaintances and friends are static and set in their beliefs at an early age. I constantly adjust my views based on the latest information available to me. I think he chameleon aspect of my personality is more relevant to meeting new people I don't know. I have to have time to read them before I can engage in a conversation.  So I am usually quite and an observer till I understand them. I may ask questions to feel them out before revealing much about myself. I'm a good mediator

[sasha7goya]

Do you easily / rapidly understand all kinds of people you come across? don't you see F stuff as something rationally unexplainable and, consequently, uncontrollable?

[tacoma200]

I like feelers though it doesn't seem rational it does seem very human. I was raised by F's so I relate well. I just don't see basing my core beliefs on F. I like F stuff probably for those reasons. It does not lend itself to logical understanding. You are really analyzing me, which I don't mind. I'm very open when I can be.

[sasha7goya]

Hah! that's really funny.

But why do you think I'm a F?

[tacoma200]

I don't know you well enough to say what you are? :)

[sasha7goya]

Well, I guess the type of interest I have in F stuff could be a clue.

Anyway, it's weird that you suggest you find can F stuff interesting because it's not logically explicable. Most Ts simply discard it.

[tacoma200]

No not rapidly, I'm quiet, reserved, I may ask question to understand them. The length of time depends on how revealing they are about themselves.

[RodCornholio]

@tacoma200

Same here. Outstanding mediator from a very young age.

[sasha7goya]

From what i've seen, this chameleon-like ability can be the source (in time) for a variety of confusion and suspicion in the 'emulated persons' , particularly when the infp/intp/ ... /... tries to (or thinks he/she has to) play chameleon with (or for, if it pleases you) more persons simultaneously. Now that's a nasty scene. I even felt some sort of sympathy for the S types involved there ... who were bewildered and couldn't understand where the infp/.... / .... /.... they knew had gone.

[IndigoVagrant]

I will say however that as I have gotten older and seen the world change, I have found it necessarily that I change to change the world. I have pushed myself to share my opinions more and more to feel that I am being upfront with important issues.

Of course this can come at a cost.

But I imagine sometimes if we all came out with our opinions, that change could be made. Maybe one of the problems with the world is that the rational thinkers rarely speak up!

Counterweight ism if you will.

[IndigoVagrant]

Also, I don't think it is "wrong" what we do. It is simply a social coping mechanism.

I am often objective and rational in my beliefs of the world. I believe in "Universal Laws" and am very much a Libertarian/Constitutionalist. I strictly believe in limited government and personal liberty.

Many people would judge me in a negative light if I came out with my view on things all the time, leading to negative conflict and such, so I often act agreeable and use imitation to preserve my energy.

[tacoma200]

IndigoVagrant, I think you understand me completely and I agree with your assessment. I think in a very rational and objective way also and I just can't come out and say what I think to most people. My personality and way of looking at the world is just too difficult for most people to relate to so I relate to their way of looking at the world instead, which is very easy for me. It would be an endless debate if I spoke my mind freely.

[IndigoVagrant]

I really liked this video. You described something I do all the time.

With more subjective people, I act more introspective and use imitation.

With people I am comfortable with, people who are not judging or feeling types, I act much more extroverted.

[tearsbeers]

Hi I'm an INFP and i use the ESTJ in public,It's important to remember that Everybody can use all 8 types of personalities the hard part is controlling your instincts and learning when to use them in an appropriate situation

[kunztuber]

thanks for this post, I can really relate to this. It kind of haunts me though... it can leave an INFP wondering: "what the hell really is worth standing on" since it seems I can see genuinely the truth of many opinions.

[Rweigel80]

This is a wonderful observation, Tacoma!

[ebertdp]

this is why we get so tried because we became cameleon but it is a presiving true about your selfs,

[ebertdp]

not fit in but exept them but we can't be our full self becaus they wount understand us and just get confused.this is true.

[hockeyloverdb]

btw my dad is an INFP, and he is an interesting fellow :). Now that I thinka bout it, I see him do what you're talking about.

[idius]

As an iNFp working on my PhD in physics, I have a lot of iNTp friends and I've noticed them doing this mimicry, or trying anyway. It's annoying at times because they are usually bad at it. On the other hand, most people are oblivious and would never notice what the iNTp is really doing, so it works quite well for them. As an iNFp II have to mimic extroverts periodically and it can be exhausting. I also have to mimic iNTps at times and I end up feeling like a heartless, "bad" person afterward.

[tacoma200]

I am actually considered a very warm person by most that get to know me. I think I'm in touch with my feeling side in fact I have to suppress it to make logical decisions on life's most important matters. Empathy, sympathy, and caring are very much a part of my life. I don't think I am the stereotypical INTP (cold). I only take on others personality's to get along with them, never to manipulate them. Hopefully this makes sense.

[tacoma200]

Most people are very subjective so I let them talk and find out who they are and just try to be their mirror image (or mimic and take on their beliefs and personality) in order to get along and have a conversation. I never do it in a cold dishonest way. I'm not trying to be fake only understand and put myself in the other persons shoes to see how they formed their personal beliefs so I can relate. My beliefs are really quite simple, I believe in science and logic. I reveal myself in time.

[cheeseit126]

very intresting, im the exact opposite of you

yes i modify my personality depending on who im with but i counterbalance my personality and become their opposite.

if anyone knows anything about this please share it with me i would really like to do some introspecting if i could find the right place to start

[tacoma200]

That's interesting, if I became someones opposite such talking to a liberal as though I were a conservative I think it would turn into a sharp debate which takes a lot of energy from an introvert like myself. I love to debate sometimes but find it very draining, especially if the other person is very biased, close minded or illogical. You can't win over a passionate feeler by logic, so why waste my energy? I find that you become an opposite very interesting, and would love to hear more.

[tacoma200]

Maybe becoming a chameleon is an energy saving tactic used by some introverts. It much easier to let the other person express his views than engage him or her if I have opposing views.

[c7v]

Of course i take on the behavior of the other person(s). I dont know how else to act! I really dont have a personality at all. Being a chameleon you can take up the role of any personality at any time. I feel like it would be too hard to pick a personality or a way to act and then influence other people with it. I dont act on feelings at all, it doesnt make sense to me.Can you be outgoing without feelings? Everything you say is based on feelings, people always read the tone of your voice

[c7v]

it doesnt matter what you say, they may judge you by how they are perceiving you based on your facial expression, body launguage, tone of voice, ect. But i dont care about any of that, its all just acting. Your thoughts exist in your head, they are monotone, its up to you to determine what they mean or act them out, or to add feeling.But how do you do it when your pure thought?

[solaireluna]

I think this is common in your type

[tacoma200]

The chameleon behaviour can be particularly strong The INTP may even argue something that he doesn't really believe himself. Sometimes it is for the intellectual stimulation that comes with the challenge of arguing from a variety of standpoints. Otherwise, it may be to avoid early conflict before the situation has been fully assessed. Chameleons hide their true selves. INTPs do not do this cynically,or indeed all the time, but it is a result of the strong desire to remain detached and observe

[tacoma200]

In this sense, INTPs preference for intuitive perception (rather than action) with respect to people results in them resembling a chameleon. The INTP can fit into many different modes of behaviour, even contradictory ones, in order to get into the mindset of the other person. The goal is to gain enough intuitive data to analyse and assess the person. In doing this, the INTP remains somewhat reserved, never wholly identifying himself As chameleons, INTPs are therefore approachable and open

[tacoma200]

Thanks for the nice comment!! I've lived in California, Chicago, and other places and I can't shake this Southern accent. I agree assimilating, in order to understand other points of view does not mean one is not genuine, it's just a tool to understand others. Thanks again!

[canditj]

Thanks for your feedback on the video!

I love your accent. Reminds me of home (NC). I do the exact same thing. I find that I have made many different contacts, because of my ability to assimilate. I am very genuine and do not see this as fake, but just a way of taking in information and getting to know people.

I have a very open mind when it comes to other people. I think INTPs can do this, because we are very clear about what we believe, know and think.