Intimacy & Secrets, Beyond Sex & Sexual Intimacy, Romance

[lukaqota]

Intimacy is a long term relationschip.

[bakernade]

your fking background and music bores the fk out of me.

[1schwererziehbar1]

goddamn rocket science!

[hevarie]

love to see the expressions of your excitement!

[mellisamouse]

I also think this is why emotional cheating hurts the most.....when someone is getting in timate with someone new, while still in a relationship etc.... ;)

[STREAKER123]

Dear Caroline,

thank you for both of these videos. I think intimacy starts with being a better listener. A person has to be still to hear the world and other people. I will just keep trying to communicate better. Thanks Chris in Cleveland.

Stop by my page if you get a chance...

[bomberman6]

ok when giving a back rub should i say anything. see i figure to say sit down relax then what do i add anything like you smell nice or any other complements. Thanks for all your help and or anything ells should i do.

[bomberman6]

oh and one more thing how often to give a back rub and for how long. Just to do it right.

[bomberman6]

So um what would you say is the best way to get the pesrson into taking a back rub.

[bomberman6]

Thanks i need this cause right now i feel like someone riped out my stomach and turned it in side out.

[bomberman6]

See when we frist met we became friends cause that what we were looking for friends, so no wonder why there wasen't passion because we weren't looking for it at the time. Other wise i would of done things differently. But she does not seem to understand that. So what can i do to fill her with passion.

[psychetruth]

About the only hint I can give you is that "back rubs" are the often the bridge between friendships and romances.

You should take it slow though over period of many back rubs. You want to build up a high level of trust and comfort with physical intimacy over time. Make each back rub a little bit more intimate than the last.

Be careful not to make a move or sexual advance too quickly though or she will refuse your advance and be more apprehensive towards you.

[bomberman6]

So i need to know of ways i can get here to feel passion for me.

[bomberman6]

As you know like i said she is being stubbern. She thinks that if there is no passion at the start when frist met the person or something like that then there wont be. thats what she thinks. Then she figures that if you try to create passion then it's only lust. But you have to make that spark for something to happen in order for passion to be there. Not just by the persons frist thought of thinking if i don't feel it at the start then theres nothing.

[bomberman6]

ok, but what do you think could be some sulitions to try and get her to feel passionate about me.

[bomberman6]

cause in that sence she is being strubbern. If i said something like well is it possable that down the road if it happened there could be passion and she says that i would know if there was, i don't think so. Then she keeps saying were just friends. So she don't believie that passion could happen at any time, she thinks that passion is something given by god, not overly something we create. Then she figures that if people create passion it just lust. what do i do.

[psychetruth]

I'm sorry to hear about your situation. I've been in that same situation myself and it's not fun at all.

Honestly, if she has already decided that she won't feel that way about you than she probably won't. I would start looking for someone else.

I know that's probably not the answer you want to hear but where I've seen similar situations, they haven't ended well.

[bomberman6]

Hi i really need help/answers. I like this girl who i have been friends with for 4 and a half months but when we frist meet we were just being friends not at that point looking for anything ells. but i have had a talk with her about it and she just keeps sayngs that there was nothing there between us(the passion)and she wont change her mind on that. What can i do to change her mind and have her feel passion for me. I really need to know.

[audadvnc]

A couple weeks ago I was with an old friend (don't remember who) and during our conversation we completed each other's thoughts and senteces multiple times - I had to laugh when I heard about your line "you complete me".

[brock1216]

I enjoy this video =) it makes me really horny!!

[flubno]

Intimacy is when I stick my ding dong in your Do Do hole. Back that ass up, Girl ! Back it up.

[llsektorll]

This is a good video that I think everyone in a relationship should see. While watching it, my situation that I'm in right now makes a lot of sense. Sex isn't the most intimate expression it is just a form of expression of intimacy after you already established a connection with your partner.

[deankeat123]

(I marked my own comment as spam. It *is* spam! Sorry, I should've watched the whole video before posting.)

[deankeat123]

I think I will sign up for that psychology class I've been debating taking...

[slackdave]

Wow!! I just remember how I was talking to somebody about a great jamming I did once. The "communication" was so great that I had problems making eyecontact with the others because it was so.. ..intimate I guess.. Like I was baring myself too much.

[FernandoTorrera]

I feel its a personal view that shows your outlook on the subject. I have felt intiment with a dance partner when dancing and we moved together so well. Or singing with my quire when we were so in key with each other. Or when riding arby an arabian I barely have to give her the cue to go.On a good day riding when everything goes smoothly I feel physically connected to her like I can feel her legs but not mine. To me intimacy doesnt have to be sexual but when souls touch & everything just clicks.

[imLuvlee]

Thank you for the vdo, I really enjoy it .. I like when you said people are more like potential for communicating .. it's true !

[ballpark4]

lol.. I was telling the truth you see it as I was ragging on her but I wasn't. I said why. Intimacy should be between 2 people in love i:e marriage cuz if it's not it wont last very long. I know this from life. I learn things and I Try not to do them agian.. I couldnt be intimate with her for that reason because it wont work cuz when I get intimate Jr has a mind of his own if you catch my drift... That is why if I do plan on getting intimate with someone its going tobe my wife.. Enjoy your day

[pinkviolet77]

That's when it is what it should be: sacred and special. I think Siriundreamer gave a really great comment! Great video!  Thank you for it. :-)

[pinkviolet77]

I think you make some great points. I agree with you very much about communication creating intimacy. I think really knowing someone is what creates intimacy. I do think that there are a lot of people who have sex, and that is not an intimate experience in many situations, but it is meant to be! Intimacy is closeness. When you are close with someone and build that intimacy, how much more intimate will you be with that person when you do have sex?

[aryanovia]

Much more intimate. Lovely.

[aryanovia]

Communication, pinkviolet, can be far more intimate than sex or sex with another partner. People praying together, or chanting, have a much closer unison that the partner that knows what "you did last summer" so to speak. I would say the couple that prays together, stays together, and what is more intimate? A carnal union of animal sexuality, which has it's place, or the very foundation of all creation, the thought, the mind, etc...Sex can never trump communication, or Freud would be right.

[pinkviolet77]

And I thought you would love what I said and appreciate it. You confuse me. I thought sex was very special, sacred and intimate to you. I see that I'm wrong. It's very sad and unfortunate. I'm very sad to know this.

[aryanovia]

Pinkviolet, I am sorry you didn't distinguish between personal feelings and general thoughts. However, insults and the "you are :FILL IN THE BLANK:" etc...are not what Truth is made of...I was trying to stay on issue and would like to continue in that fashion. I apologize to the PsycheTruth and the YouTube community for this brief and personal confrontation having nothing to do with the issue at hand, and props to the video and all it says. "Communication is Universal." Kindness is key always!

[elgaed42]

Empfindungliebe begins with an Empfindung out of the spiritual realm, which then potentially triggers the meeting of these persons, and potentially produces an unbreakable spiritual-sentimental bond between them, telepathically as well as psychic-emotionally. This occurs at specific times in persons' lives depending upon their time of birth. If they live with false thoughts and feelings, however, they will not find their spiritual partner ("soul-mate").

[elgaed42]

Also, there are some persons who are better off alone, but they usually sense that for much of their lives.

[xJaysrox]

I loved your video, thx for the info...

PS:

My intimate moments are too intimate to share on youtube XD

[ballpark4]

Not being mean but I couldnt be intimate with you.. You sound like an old lady lol... And you make funny faces lol you'd be coo to hang with though

[pinkviolet77]

This is to ballpark4.

But you are being mean! Why? Nobody asked you if you could be intimate with her! Grow up!

[mercurial76]

Intimacy is simple. Do you know what your partner is thinking? Do you know how they feel? If you cannot answer any of these questions, then you don't have intimacy. Do you talk to other people about someone, seeking intimacy with them by proxy?

[mishtary]

thanks for this video. i really like it.

[glagadec]

Disarmingly touching and completely sincere. What a nice change from all the sarcasm and cruel irony of so much nowadays.

[Subfavscream]

Looks like you are in a church? Id love to see a video on the psychology behind why people believe in a god or gods.

[siriundreamer]

(cont.)Intimacy (like most vague verbage) is likened to an onion, in that it has layers. When you are in a psyche-bond with another person, & have sex, it IS the deepest form of innersteller communication that two people can share. Thus, it is the deepest form of intamacy when your bio-rythms pulse into unison as you reach sacred orgasm. Nice video-

much luv

[siriundreamer]

Hi. I think that you raises some great points, although I disagree with the sexual referances made here. Sex is ment to be a "sacred" merger between two people. I am aware that some do not practice sex in this fashion, but from those I know like this, they are also devoid of experincing emotional connections.

[JuciShockwave]

To me lust would be like cutting a fresh piece of paper and just throwing it away where as love is finding a paper, cut it and make something out of it that makes you so happy that you want to keep it. Intimacy is finding a clean perfect card board box, make something out of it, paint it with acrylic paint and it'll last forever. Sex alone doesn't do this thus one night stand isn't intimacy, it's cheap crappy paper someone wipe their ass with.

[Turpsup]

This kinda reminds me of a scene either from resident evil or silent hill. Like going into qa room and the cut scene starts, then u have sex.

[terrydonaldson]

what a swet voice- I could marry this one....

[Juggaloserialeater]

Great video Caroline. Seems true to me :)

[jimsim3]

To understand state of harmony with ones self expression.

[osten22]

My most recent relieving moment was when i explained to an independent and sort off objective source why i dont like porn and my thoughts behind that

[VioletKitty411]

thanks for sharing :-)

[refreshNhappy]

sex isn't intimate always. The mind is more intimate than anything...if you feel very connected with the person ... then of course having sex with them would feel intimate.If not...thats probably becasuse the connection isn't strong.

[saintlysecretions]

Why shouldn't a one-night stand be intimate?

One can be intimate without giving a crap, right?

Here's my innermost soul. So what.

[JuciShockwave]

Because that is an oxymoron. XD

[saintlysecretions]

It's an oxymoron in direct proportion to how seriously one takes oneself. True, there are a lot of oh so precious people out there. They've been trained to celebrate themselves as center of the universe. For them, intimacy is a great big weepy drama.

[oceanandguitar]

you are very cute when you smile... :) and I think intimacy is when you're so close to your partner that you almost feel like you don't know anyone more than that :)

[parispeter2]

Good video - maybe we could add that giving someone information about us implies that we trust them - in particular that we trust them not to misuse this information. We have no fear of them. Having no fear of the other, yes, that's intimacy. I think sex CAN be one of the most intimate experiences, though of course it's not always like that. It all depends on one's state of mind.

[bobsully]

I always enjoy your videos (messages.)

[desheik]

Playing music is very intimate because it involves having one mind. When you know what someone is about to say before they do that is definite intimacy. Sex is pretty intimate no matter what, it a physical union that should reflect a spiritual and mental and can happen "at first sight." more for men probaly. Go Plato.

[ManSeekingMonkey]

Ive read that love an intimacy is just a chemical reation to ensure that humans carry on the species and to divert us from becoming incest. It is just a developed animal instinct that humans take too far. You dont see animals complaing about not being intimate or longing for love, and if they do its just a natural rection. I like hearing another side of it but in my opinion we should just be.we are the only species on the planet that thinks we need to be happy and cant just live

[HoldinCoffee]

ATTRACTION is the chemical process that carries forward the species. Intimacy is different than attraction... its a higher-order event.

[ManSeekingMonkey]

true. but then the base emotion (attraction) will obviously affect the higher level of that emotion, love. Love is a direct direvative from attraction. And anyway the study i read was that LOVE was the chemical reaction, they specifically said love.

[tasha122277]

love is not a direct derivative of attracction. that is called lust. these feelings can lead to illusions of love at the begining of a relationship. obviously lust doesn't keep people together for 30+ years.

[ManSeekingMonkey]

lust is attraction, it is the physical want or liking of someone. And the article said that there are 2 stages of love. The first stage is, like you said the illusion. the second stage is true love and that is rare. go to carteblanche--dot--co--dot--za and click on story library and search for love. read for your self

[ManSeekingMonkey]

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