I'm currently single now. My x-bf and I were together for 6yrs and 3 of those years were long distance (1yr - he was in canada & I was in USA and 2yrs - I was in Germany and he was in USA)
It was ROUGH but we pulled through it. We are both very career driven artists.
Anyway, for us we ended up growing a part :(
But we are so BFF's now :)
We have great love, admiration and respect for each other... and we think we could come back together too :)
Really? Unless you're an amazing parent or brother or sister - there is no such thing as unconditional love. Ooops! I lie! Your long time pet probably loves you unconditionally too. As for the example of one partner contracting AIDS and the other leaving – well, isn’t that expected? Who was the partner “fudging” behind the back of the partner that DIDN’T contract AIDS? I wouldn’t stay in that relationship either. Clearly, my partner wasn’t protecting himself or me by sleeping with other people.
I've been in a long distance relationship for two years as well. What's really helped me as he's been overseas in Afghanistan is remembering all the great experiences we have when we are together. And when we do get into arguments, to take a breath and be understanding that we both have stressful moments. Love your videos!!
Dude you should probably start working on your arms a little bit more cause the huge titties are beginning to look a little bit odd next to your tiny arms. Otherwise, you're just perfect, keep it up :D
"we tend to, I think, uh, maybe not argue about those things that are kinda small and trivial and insignificant, that other people might... "*music starts* "turn your fucking music off" hahahahahah aww :)
Defo all about love affection communication respect being yourselves..understanding one anothers bad points...and accepting them...not always thinking the grass can be greener elsewhere.
I admit I am not a fan of "unconditional love" because if it would be unconditional then people wouldn't have certain types. In addition, "unconditional" might lead you to not notice when its better for you to stop.
I don't believe in unconditional love, because it's always conditional upon the person you love. People can change. My best piece of relationship advice would be to chill out and not behave like a douchebag.
I don't have a secret yet, but yours seems pretty nice. I tried sometimes, but I didn't get it, I guess I didn't found the right guy to give him unconditional love (and I had one who deserved it, but back then, I had these strange ideas about relationships and unconditional love wasn't amongst them so I screwed it up...I hope that next time someone loves me like that, I will do it better...
I've been married for a year to my man and been with him for a total of 5 years. My secret really isn't a secret. Open, honest communication and no judgements. If you are open and honest with your bf, gf, husband, wife or whatever and they are the same with you then it can be the most amazing thing in the world.
Lol u r excited like a kid in a candy shop!! It's cute n adorable... I would say trust and honesty, once those r established they will build a solid foundation for any relationship to grow n expand, of course acceptance must come along the way as well!!
The most important thing is conversation: long, short, personal, silly...anything. Its amazing when you can get to the point where your partner and you have no barriers. Even when your opinions are different, you find that by listening and talking about it, you can easily accept them and understand them. You may find that it makes you feel wiser and more likely to understand and open up to others.... :)
I'm also in a long-distance relationship, we met online, we have been involved for over 4 years. I have not seen him in person, because I have been unable to take a trip to visit him yet, but I am planning to visit him this year. I tend to miss him alot, but we talk every night. My secret is to give someone love and understanding when they need it, don't be stingy or miserly with your affection, love is free, why be stingy?
Hey Davy,glad to hear you're going on 3 years with your partner . . . my partner and
I just celebrated our 3rd year and so far I've learned that besides unconditional
love, trust and open communication go far in sustaining a realtionship. Love
and acceptance of the whole package helps. The only obstacle in a relationship is usually each other. So just accept what is, not what you wish was and you'll
Hmm, there's a lot I could say here... for us the things that have made our relationship so amazing are all about communication and respect. We have total disclosure, nothing goes unshared (we're poly so that includes feelings for other people). We trust each other to say when there's a problem so we can talk about it, and we take it in turns to play therapist if we're feeling low about something. We also have total freedom and respect each others choices, neither of us has veto power.
I would agree on the unconditional love and be able to give each other space to grow. If you give each other space, then when you get back, you're like, omg, I've missed you and you're not at each other's throats. Also, just leaving like little notes or something different can make it good as well.
hey I watch regularly your blog. I like it because it's fun and smart. I think that you could have done a better job for this video. something that is not obvious to hear make it worth it to watch your videos!
I think the "secret" is the ability to talk openly together and a strong understanding that both of you will change over time. I've seen a lot of relationships fail because each partner seems to resent when the other changes/grows. The commitment shouldn't be to the person as they were when you met them, but the person as a whole; you should embrace the totality of your partner and rejoice in their life journey as they grow, evolve, change.
In my opinion, being comfortable with your partner create unconditional love. When you have that, things like lies and fear become obsolete because the protective barrier between you and your l
Ok soo unconditional, you said as an example one boyfriend comes down with hiv, that to me sounds like cheating or at least an open relationship, so are you saying that is your boyfriend cheated and even continued to cheat on you you would be fine with that? also just because to people break up does not mean that their love for one and other ends, it can and often does me that it has just changed.
As you mentioned, I think it really helps to not argue over the small stuff. By definition, it's small. You may ruin an afternoon or evening arguing, and then you'll eventually make up and move on. Go straight the the moving on, and you've just greatly improved your day. I actually suggest this just as strongly in non-romantic relationships. If you can't stop arguing with someone, it's a sign you shouldn't have them in your life at all. If you love them, let things go!
A healthy ingredient is honest communication, which I believe creates "unconditional love". By being honest about your needs, wants, thoughts, etc. your partner is completely aware of who you are, where you feel your relationship is at, where they stand in the relationship, etc. thus no matter what happens, they'll love you unconditionally because you've been honest and open with them.
I think the most important thing that a relationship absolutely needs is Trust. As soon as both people start to trust each other the relationship is going in the right direction. I am not saying that no one should be jealous. I'm just saying Trust your partner. :)
To all who would like to go Britney Spears will be performing at the castro theater in a morning performance march 29th in san francisco hope to see you there davey my name on facebook is sean landreth
hi, i've been with my boyfriend for 3months now, and, we have already gone threw every basic relationship problem. Our parents not accepting each other,jealous ex's,bickering,etc. Although I'm young (17), I'm in love with him. its not unconditional but he has my heart. While I was watching this video, he and I were on bad terms with each other. Id just like to say thank you because we were about to separate. you made me realize that my relationship is good and worth keeping
My relationship secret: Expect to fight with your partner, and do all you can to not let that get in the way of loving them. Human beings fight, it's part of what we do. Let the fights o on, and then talk about why you have them. You'll be amazed what you can learn about yourself and your partner.
mmmmm interesting Davey...! My boyfirend and I will have been together for 11 years next month (77 Hetro years). It is interesting how the relationship over time has changed, as we have.
What I have found works is not loosing who you are as individuals in the relationship. Many people tend to loose who they are and what they have brought into the relationship.
I hate the term uncoditional love as i know many people who have used it to justify cheating relationship need some conditions.
mmmmm interesting Davey...! My boyfirend and I will have been together for 11 years next month (77 years Hetro years). I is interesting how the relationship over time has changed, as we have.
What I have found works is not loosing who you are as individuals in the relationship. Many people tend to loose who they are and what they have brought into the relationship.
I hate the term uncoditional love as i know many people who have used it to justify cheating relationship need some conditions.
I don't understand how can you get HIV if you don't cheat on your BF considering you two were already negative and neglecting very rare cases!!!!!! And I've never been in a relationship no matter how pathetic it sounds...
I will NEVER have a relationship for the rest of my life. The one that ended sucked and I'm still feeling like I'm picking up the peaces. 2. I'm not the best looking thing in the world and a lot of people use that against you. but it's good you have a relationship it's fun to see people in love.....
Could not agree more Davey! I truly think this is the secret to success in any relationship. If we could all fully accept one another this world would be a much more peaceful place. Thanks for sharing.
OK DAVEY! The secret to a fulfilling and romantic relationship is... LIVING YOUR LIFE IN THE OPEN! Show your face, secret boyfriend!! Love ya, Davey! :D
for the record, i did not roll my eyes :] i think it's great. congrats and yea, keep it up. i don't really know what to say. but yea. i think it's great and just wanted to say so.
My boyfriend and I will be celebrating our 1 year anniversary in April. Just the other day, we were arguing over something work related. Yeah, we work together, and everyone says, "You shouldn't get your honey, where you get your money", but oh well. It was something trivial, but got us both heated. After we had a chance to cool down. I told him it didn't matter, because I loved him unconditionally. I am so happy to know that you posted this video. I had to explain it to him. Love you!
My boyfriend and I will be celebrating our 1 year anniversary in April. Just the other day, we were arguing over something work related. Yeah, we work together, and everyone says, "You shouldn't get your honey, where you get your money", but oh well. It was something trivial, but got us both heated. After we had a chance to cool down. I told him it didn't matter, because I loved him unconditionally. I am so happy to know that you posted this video. I had to explain it to him. Love you!
My boyfriend and I will be celebrating our 1 year anniversary in April. Just the other day, we were arguing over something work related. Yeah, we work together, and everyone says, "You shouldn't get your honey, where you get your money", but oh well. It was something trivial, but got us both heated. After we had a chance to cool down. I told him it didn't matter, because I loved him unconditionally. I am so happy to know that you posted this video. I had to explain it to him. Love you!
i have only had 1 relationship it lasted 2-3 weeks and ended with a terrible break up that was all i needed i have now been single for a little over 10 years
Firstly, your boyfriend has the sexiest voice of any unseen boyfriend ever. Of all time.
Secondly, the most important thing that quite a few friends of mine have in their relationship is that they are great friends. They have similar interests, they have similar habits and modes of thought. And if times get rough, they're still great friends, no matter what. Which helps build an even stronger relationship. So friends first, then lovers.
I'm away from my hunny all the time and one of the best things that keeps us so close is talking and chatting as much as we can and sending eachother little gifts
even in a close relationship, my ex boyfriend found ways to cheat on me. (example: at his work... of all places) relationship advise: dont "come out" and go into a relationship right away! solve the shock with your family, and then go into one if your ready! (thats if your parents made a big deal of you comming out :D)
TRUTH AND HONESTY IS ABOVE ALL THE MOST IMPORTANT THINGS IN A RELATIONSHIP. so many of my relationships have failed because my partners are never honest with me. to me its the most important thing :) like this if you agree :)
I did not roll my eyes! I love unconditional love. Even though I am 19 and never have had a relationship or even a first kiss I completely believe that someone will love me unconditionally. And I am totally willing to wait... But hopefully not to much longer.
My advice is, like Rose says to Jack in 'Titanic', "Never let go". Also this relates to something I wrote in a poem once, "bumps are common on long drives". It is inevitable that things will go wrong sometimes. Big fallouts. Long disagreements. And also, distance and time seperations. But if you really love someone and you want them in your life, it can help to never think it's "too late". Love is strong, and you'll find out, despite all hardships, You'll both want each other back in your lives.
I love when my bf just shows up and wants to do something fun like go to a park for no reason. He says that he loves it when I leave him notes saying I love you or something when I get up first! But we should all love each other anyway!!!!!!!:)
you are very on point with unconditional love and I like the term cafeteria boyfriend..my last relationship was 6 years and i was definately a cafeteria boyfriend..I have learned since then to accept others differences because they are what makes the relationships interesting. My ex didn't like his sugar in his cereal so he used to sprinkle the sugar on each spoon full. It made me crazy.When i think back on it, it was unique and his way and should not have bothered me. Some never learn..I did
I have learned from talking to guys that have been through alot and from my own life that there are times when you hate...and yes i mean hate the person your with. Whether that was because of something they did or because its just always bothered you about them. The thing is...If you really love that person with your whole heart and believe that you are both right then dont sweat the little things...neither one of you are perfect and you both have to understand that you will both make mistakes
pharaoh88 two things to remember: one) HIV takes a while to be detected. I have a friend who came up neg for over a year, and then developed it. two) monogame is not required for a long term relationship. Most of the over twenty yr pairs I know straight and gay are "open" or at least "don't ask don't tell" on both sides.
After 33 years, My partner and I don't use the word boyfriend. We think of each other as the only person everything centers around. We have parents and sibs, yes, and outside interests (me the Church, he his Work) but he comes first over everything. Not his wants or demands, but his needs and his existence. He trusts that is true for me, and I trust it is true for him.....
Communication among all things. And I think that means being able to not only just talk on a very basic, casual level but to articulate things that mean the greatest to you as well as your worries, fears, concerns. That expression, to me, is make-or-break.
9 years on March 1st. If you'll spill your guts, reveal all of you, completely and totally without hiding anything, the good, the bad, your hopes, and dreams, dark and the desperate moments and really open yourself up to your partner the outcome and the future is going to be gorgeous.
well im currently going strong with my girlfriend of 1.5 years, who is now my fiance. id say that my 1 secret might be a bunch of secrets, but 1 of the major ones is communication. you have to talk to each other & let the other know whats on your mind & whats bothering you because if you dont talk about it, it will continue to bother you. the other is the little things, make a card or a sandwich or a kiss on the cheek to remind them that you love them. stick with the little things.
also i have a question. in the blog u mentioned something about your bf contracts HIV and then the other person runs away and thats not unconditional love. how did that person get HIV if they werent being unfaithful. i mean i know theres other ways to get it besides sex but its not as common as it used to be to catch it other ways. so im just saying it would really depend on the situation in that example u stated.
I've not had many relationships but I would say the best piece of advice i could give is communication, if there is anythign you don't like about whats happening talk to them about it otherwise you're going to build up all of this anger or resentment towards them and probably end up single again. Hope this is good advice :)
i would have to say my secret is just accepting my partner for who he is. and vice versa . we dont build these unrealistic expectations for each other and accept the flaws along with the qualities we love.
You can have all the unconditional love you can stand =) and have no communication, and the relationship can still go down hill. You have to talk to each other - about the good stuff, the bad stuff, and the down-right shitty stuff.
Oh, and I did n't roll my eyes. I was thinking about it, but then you said something and I changed my mind. =) Thanks for the video, have fun in Toronto!
ok ok .... emm i´ll get (next 27th) 3 moths with my boyfriend jejeje, emm and i know it is less than 3 years.. but jeje we have been honest each other and i am studying and i can´t follow him, sometimes he have to travel and i say to him i do not like you to traveling all the time but i support you and I LOVE YOU....
and i think my support to him is very important... and jeje smiling all my time with him jejeje he loves my smile jejeje.... x´s
I wasn't rolling my eyes at all, I was still laughing from the 7 to 1 ratio :D regarding the question, ummm, I pretty much agree with unconditional love being the only thing that it takes. As it is, it is very hard to accomplish that state, bye.
18 and 24/7, work, live, and love together. Not for everybody but we love it. Secrets = be kind to each other. Treat each other like you did on that first date 18 years later. Communicate. Forgive.
What happen's when your soon-to-be BF-in-training is considering quitting smoking for me, since he acknowledges I have a keen dislike for it... he's willing to push that addiction away for me o . o I'm a lil' worried it'll hurt him later on..
My partner & I have been together for 21 years, & the secret to our relationship is always being open & honest with each other..........we talk about everything.
a couple unlike most that anybody has ever seen.. we laugh, joke & are true to eachother.. loving unco- is a great way to start... :) but really soul mate, long distance & then finally being together we're hardly ever our eachothers sight :) we are a couple that does everything together & have done it the same way for two years most couples don't even keep up the samething after a month of living together.. not us :)))) Love you Davey!!
Well, to be very honest I am in a 2year long relationship & it started off long distance now we've been living together for 2years in august of this year. I think the true secret of a relationship is really finding the one that is truly your soul mate myself & my darling have went through some amazingly hard times during our long distance.. i think that helpt to becuz if you can trust them that far away then ya'll be okay. we love & love & love eachother plenty of times we've gotten told we are
There are always conditions and rules to abide by in a relationship. Fidelity is probably the most consistent condition. And okay, you may say what about open relationships? Then one or both people involved are stipulating that to be in together their has to be open sex involved.
In your example, the person may not want to be with someone HIV positive, but that does NOT mean they do not love the other person.
Love is unconditional, but all relationships have conditions. Even yours. Sorry.
If there is any doubt in your mind about a relationship, then end it. Don't carry it on in doubt... Believe me, I wish I'd told myself that 4 months ago! :)
i think my nest piece of advice would be have no secrets unless they are the good kind like surprise parties or presents, and always talk even if it is about the little things. Don't change who you are, you are perfect the way you are.
I think that once a couple stops laughing WITH each other then the relationship takes a turn for the worst. I have found the must success with my partner when we could laugh and smile with each other.
I have no secrets I have never dated anyone but I am an awsome friend :D iv been best friends with two girls for 10 years thats kinda cool an my secret to that is well we openly hate on each other um if we need time apart we just stay away from eachother, honesty, lovin each other for who we are but hating the stupid shit they do an um really couldnt get ride of them if i wanted to they know were i live an we share friends an they have my number an ya. hopfuly they change for the better
Honesty, trust and communication. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 6 months now. And I really know he is the one so in may I am going to ask him to marry me.
I have a great relationship with my boyfriend for 8 and a half years now. And the secret to our relationship? well there really is no secret, it is just there and we enjoy it big time :-)
Its going to be 3 months soon for my boyfriend and I. We have a VERY strong relationship and our secret is communication... 100% total and completely honest communication! Plus we get along very easily.
I'm in a long distance relationship too and my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years(it will be three in august). Secret: never give up, sometimes distance can be hard but don't give up
I'd say to aim for unconditional love, but if you're not quite at that point then at least try put an effort on communicating and agreeing to disagree.
I'm currently single now. My x-bf and I were together for 6yrs and 3 of those years were long distance (1yr - he was in canada & I was in USA and 2yrs - I was in Germany and he was in USA)
It was ROUGH but we pulled through it. We are both very career driven artists.
Anyway, for us we ended up growing a part :(
But we are so BFF's now :)
We have great love, admiration and respect for each other... and we think we could come back together too :)
All this to say... honest communication is key.
bobby24love 2 days ago
i did roll my eyes
mattlemerond 1 week ago
Really? Unless you're an amazing parent or brother or sister - there is no such thing as unconditional love. Ooops! I lie! Your long time pet probably loves you unconditionally too. As for the example of one partner contracting AIDS and the other leaving – well, isn’t that expected? Who was the partner “fudging” behind the back of the partner that DIDN’T contract AIDS? I wouldn’t stay in that relationship either. Clearly, my partner wasn’t protecting himself or me by sleeping with other people.
chozzree 2 weeks ago
I've been in a long distance relationship for two years as well. What's really helped me as he's been overseas in Afghanistan is remembering all the great experiences we have when we are together. And when we do get into arguments, to take a breath and be understanding that we both have stressful moments. Love your videos!!
higaloha32 1 month ago
yeah you were on point to wave your hands at 3:30.. got distracted by your pecs :DD
rikaisthebest 1 month ago
Each video I just look at his pecks...
bebelbarbs 1 month ago 2
Dude you should probably start working on your arms a little bit more cause the huge titties are beginning to look a little bit odd next to your tiny arms. Otherwise, you're just perfect, keep it up :D
kytlle 1 month ago
3 years equal 21 straight couple years XD that's too funny
DragonEmpireWriter 1 month ago 3
those pecs!
cedricrlongreen 1 month ago
At one time, you were funny/cute....now, you've just become another boring twink
depga 2 months ago
"we tend to, I think, uh, maybe not argue about those things that are kinda small and trivial and insignificant, that other people might... "*music starts* "turn your fucking music off" hahahahahah aww :)
benroddaismyname 2 months ago
Defo all about love affection communication respect being yourselves..understanding one anothers bad points...and accepting them...not always thinking the grass can be greener elsewhere.
zoiciteUK 3 months ago
I admit I am not a fan of "unconditional love" because if it would be unconditional then people wouldn't have certain types. In addition, "unconditional" might lead you to not notice when its better for you to stop.
inotaishu1 3 months ago
I did roll my eyes, when you suggested that gay relationships don't last as long as hetero relationships (confer the divorce rate [wink])
ddemaine 3 months ago
it sounded like the dog scratching the floor not music
lolzdboobs3 4 months ago
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GayKidMike 4 months ago
i wasn't rolling my eyes i was trying to fit a whole rice cracker thing in my... mouth
xlr8103 6 months ago 2
I don't believe in unconditional love, because it's always conditional upon the person you love. People can change. My best piece of relationship advice would be to chill out and not behave like a douchebag.
Zvezdi1990 6 months ago
turn your fucking music off, im recording a talky bloggg <33333333
immecourtney1 8 months ago 33
hrmmmm....
uo and right...?
the only two positions in his videos...!
peace...?
peace out...?
(smooch sound) ^2
thegaylucario 8 months ago
I don't have a secret yet, but yours seems pretty nice. I tried sometimes, but I didn't get it, I guess I didn't found the right guy to give him unconditional love (and I had one who deserved it, but back then, I had these strange ideas about relationships and unconditional love wasn't amongst them so I screwed it up...I hope that next time someone loves me like that, I will do it better...
CorvusBruxo 8 months ago
Turn your Fucking music off im recording a talke blog. I love it!!! sounds like me and my boyfriend.
iphonefetish 8 months ago 8
I've been married for a year to my man and been with him for a total of 5 years. My secret really isn't a secret. Open, honest communication and no judgements. If you are open and honest with your bf, gf, husband, wife or whatever and they are the same with you then it can be the most amazing thing in the world.
Gryphyn3 8 months ago
300 years, really? Talk about a special kind of relationship. xDDD
redrawrmonster 9 months ago
Lol u r excited like a kid in a candy shop!! It's cute n adorable... I would say trust and honesty, once those r established they will build a solid foundation for any relationship to grow n expand, of course acceptance must come along the way as well!!
bebe4choco 9 months ago
I love my girlfriend unconditionally, but I doubt that she feels the same for me. Even though I know this I love her anyways. <3
Kisuzumi 10 months ago
The most important thing is conversation: long, short, personal, silly...anything. Its amazing when you can get to the point where your partner and you have no barriers. Even when your opinions are different, you find that by listening and talking about it, you can easily accept them and understand them. You may find that it makes you feel wiser and more likely to understand and open up to others.... :)
FringedWithBlack 11 months ago
I'm also in a long-distance relationship, we met online, we have been involved for over 4 years. I have not seen him in person, because I have been unable to take a trip to visit him yet, but I am planning to visit him this year. I tend to miss him alot, but we talk every night. My secret is to give someone love and understanding when they need it, don't be stingy or miserly with your affection, love is free, why be stingy?
Muppephile 11 months ago
Pulled pork, lol insinuation.
Muppephile 11 months ago
I agree with pkessler. I want to see your boyfriend. By the way, you have a rocking face and body!
CarrollAP 11 months ago
Hey Davy,glad to hear you're going on 3 years with your partner . . . my partner and
I just celebrated our 3rd year and so far I've learned that besides unconditional
love, trust and open communication go far in sustaining a realtionship. Love
and acceptance of the whole package helps. The only obstacle in a relationship is usually each other. So just accept what is, not what you wish was and you'll
both be happier.
cekck 11 months ago
A.) I didnt roll my eyes
B.) I wish I had found ur channel earlier then I would come to the concert and met up with you. I think your super cool..
C.) I love youuu..
cndebbie 11 months ago
why are your shoulder too narrow and your breasts hanging out?! you are working out wrong dude!
carabinieri210 11 months ago
Hmm, there's a lot I could say here... for us the things that have made our relationship so amazing are all about communication and respect. We have total disclosure, nothing goes unshared (we're poly so that includes feelings for other people). We trust each other to say when there's a problem so we can talk about it, and we take it in turns to play therapist if we're feeling low about something. We also have total freedom and respect each others choices, neither of us has veto power.
tesscrazy 11 months ago
in strait age wen ur 35 ur 40
in gay age wen ur 35 its ur 21'st birthday ;)
sk8terboi9011 11 months ago
@sk8terboi9011 LOL!! wow I agree XD
JereTrinidad 11 months ago
I would agree on the unconditional love and be able to give each other space to grow. If you give each other space, then when you get back, you're like, omg, I've missed you and you're not at each other's throats. Also, just leaving like little notes or something different can make it good as well.
titanboyjonny 11 months ago
hey I watch regularly your blog. I like it because it's fun and smart. I think that you could have done a better job for this video. something that is not obvious to hear make it worth it to watch your videos!
Gio
giolindy 11 months ago
I think the "secret" is the ability to talk openly together and a strong understanding that both of you will change over time. I've seen a lot of relationships fail because each partner seems to resent when the other changes/grows. The commitment shouldn't be to the person as they were when you met them, but the person as a whole; you should embrace the totality of your partner and rejoice in their life journey as they grow, evolve, change.
taliesinsb 11 months ago
... Is dissolved and all that is left is trust and acceptance.
keymaster2205 11 months ago
In my opinion, being comfortable with your partner create unconditional love. When you have that, things like lies and fear become obsolete because the protective barrier between you and your l
keymaster2205 11 months ago
Ok soo unconditional, you said as an example one boyfriend comes down with hiv, that to me sounds like cheating or at least an open relationship, so are you saying that is your boyfriend cheated and even continued to cheat on you you would be fine with that? also just because to people break up does not mean that their love for one and other ends, it can and often does me that it has just changed.
darknessblinding 11 months ago
As you mentioned, I think it really helps to not argue over the small stuff. By definition, it's small. You may ruin an afternoon or evening arguing, and then you'll eventually make up and move on. Go straight the the moving on, and you've just greatly improved your day. I actually suggest this just as strongly in non-romantic relationships. If you can't stop arguing with someone, it's a sign you shouldn't have them in your life at all. If you love them, let things go!
Madelynn1984 11 months ago
A healthy ingredient is honest communication, which I believe creates "unconditional love". By being honest about your needs, wants, thoughts, etc. your partner is completely aware of who you are, where you feel your relationship is at, where they stand in the relationship, etc. thus no matter what happens, they'll love you unconditionally because you've been honest and open with them.
frrekul 11 months ago
I'm a big fan of complete and utter honesty. It lets us know whether our love is unconditional or not.
LeDairyQueen 11 months ago
"Try to accept the whole package"
I'm not sure the majority of the gay community has a problem with that. ;)
slothosaurus 11 months ago
I think the most important thing that a relationship absolutely needs is Trust. As soon as both people start to trust each other the relationship is going in the right direction. I am not saying that no one should be jealous. I'm just saying Trust your partner. :)
KAULITZ56 11 months ago
To all who would like to go Britney Spears will be performing at the castro theater in a morning performance march 29th in san francisco hope to see you there davey my name on facebook is sean landreth
castroboi21 11 months ago
another important aspect of relationships is communication.
maddyandkandi 11 months ago
you spelled staged wrong XD
ajarnoldaguirre 11 months ago
hi, i've been with my boyfriend for 3months now, and, we have already gone threw every basic relationship problem. Our parents not accepting each other,jealous ex's,bickering,etc. Although I'm young (17), I'm in love with him. its not unconditional but he has my heart. While I was watching this video, he and I were on bad terms with each other. Id just like to say thank you because we were about to separate. you made me realize that my relationship is good and worth keeping
bammer180and1 11 months ago
I just feel so bad. I'm always staring at his nipples. Gosh I'm like a str8 guy just looking down all the time. :)
poofsplat 11 months ago
the video quality is SOOO good here! are you using a different camcorder?
jasonchu82 11 months ago
about the closest i could come to giving relationship advice would be:
well if you've always been single (& probably will be forever...)
then you can't have a bad relationship or end up heartbroken or anything like that.
LOL LOL
XmasLightsGuy 11 months ago
Why are your nipples always hard, not saying its a bad thing, but why?
Jesselov3r 11 months ago
Yes your coming to my town!!!! And if you say "let's hang out" or whatever, how many people do you think will show up looking for you? :P
poprocker24 11 months ago
This is wonderful advice for couples, gay or straight.
SushiJelly 1 year ago
My relationship secret: Expect to fight with your partner, and do all you can to not let that get in the way of loving them. Human beings fight, it's part of what we do. Let the fights o on, and then talk about why you have them. You'll be amazed what you can learn about yourself and your partner.
Teknobard357 1 year ago 2
ok...so y r u topless??
MChell87 1 year ago
Although i never had a BF but i want one dat doesn't smoke or do drugs =)
YUTKAZ 1 year ago 2
I was staring at your chest for so long by the end of the video I swear it looked like boobs lol
josephjuvenile 1 year ago 3
mmmmm interesting Davey...! My boyfirend and I will have been together for 11 years next month (77 Hetro years). It is interesting how the relationship over time has changed, as we have.
What I have found works is not loosing who you are as individuals in the relationship. Many people tend to loose who they are and what they have brought into the relationship.
I hate the term uncoditional love as i know many people who have used it to justify cheating relationship need some conditions.
MrAndre1272 1 year ago
mmmmm interesting Davey...! My boyfirend and I will have been together for 11 years next month (77 years Hetro years). I is interesting how the relationship over time has changed, as we have.
What I have found works is not loosing who you are as individuals in the relationship. Many people tend to loose who they are and what they have brought into the relationship.
I hate the term uncoditional love as i know many people who have used it to justify cheating relationship need some conditions.
MrAndre1272 1 year ago
I don't understand how can you get HIV if you don't cheat on your BF considering you two were already negative and neglecting very rare cases!!!!!! And I've never been in a relationship no matter how pathetic it sounds...
CyrusFun 1 year ago
hey buddy!
U can get hiv in so many ways that cheating is only one of them. But it is true that sex is one of the fastest way with the bigest risk.
MrTadeq 1 year ago
Hey can we see Will again? We miss him.
philipjames33 1 year ago
We want to see your beautiful boyfriend!
xfreakx1687 1 year ago
I will NEVER have a relationship for the rest of my life. The one that ended sucked and I'm still feeling like I'm picking up the peaces. 2. I'm not the best looking thing in the world and a lot of people use that against you. but it's good you have a relationship it's fun to see people in love.....
suede74 1 year ago
my boyfriend just dumped me, i don't think i should give advice.
slatt490 1 year ago
What relationships? xD
MakeupbyaBaldGirl 1 year ago
WE WANNA MEET HIM!
gaber1346 1 year ago
Could not agree more Davey! I truly think this is the secret to success in any relationship. If we could all fully accept one another this world would be a much more peaceful place. Thanks for sharing.
fudruckers00 1 year ago
i really think you should show your boyfriend =) please consider asking him. love ya davey
archerspwn 1 year ago
OK DAVEY! The secret to a fulfilling and romantic relationship is... LIVING YOUR LIFE IN THE OPEN! Show your face, secret boyfriend!! Love ya, Davey! :D
jakisemo 1 year ago
Thumbs up if you didn't roll your eyes!
cheuini 1 year ago 66
@cheuini thats impossible
Boslatine 1 month ago
for the record, i did not roll my eyes :] i think it's great. congrats and yea, keep it up. i don't really know what to say. but yea. i think it's great and just wanted to say so.
crissemm42 1 year ago
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My boyfriend and I will be celebrating our 1 year anniversary in April. Just the other day, we were arguing over something work related. Yeah, we work together, and everyone says, "You shouldn't get your honey, where you get your money", but oh well. It was something trivial, but got us both heated. After we had a chance to cool down. I told him it didn't matter, because I loved him unconditionally. I am so happy to know that you posted this video. I had to explain it to him. Love you!
eeiti001 1 year ago
My boyfriend and I will be celebrating our 1 year anniversary in April. Just the other day, we were arguing over something work related. Yeah, we work together, and everyone says, "You shouldn't get your honey, where you get your money", but oh well. It was something trivial, but got us both heated. After we had a chance to cool down. I told him it didn't matter, because I loved him unconditionally. I am so happy to know that you posted this video. I had to explain it to him. Love you!
eeiti001 1 year ago
My boyfriend and I will be celebrating our 1 year anniversary in April. Just the other day, we were arguing over something work related. Yeah, we work together, and everyone says, "You shouldn't get your honey, where you get your money", but oh well. It was something trivial, but got us both heated. After we had a chance to cool down. I told him it didn't matter, because I loved him unconditionally. I am so happy to know that you posted this video. I had to explain it to him. Love you!
eeiti001 1 year ago
i have only had 1 relationship it lasted 2-3 weeks and ended with a terrible break up that was all i needed i have now been single for a little over 10 years
Vakrian 1 year ago
Firstly, your boyfriend has the sexiest voice of any unseen boyfriend ever. Of all time.
Secondly, the most important thing that quite a few friends of mine have in their relationship is that they are great friends. They have similar interests, they have similar habits and modes of thought. And if times get rough, they're still great friends, no matter what. Which helps build an even stronger relationship. So friends first, then lovers.
Willothemask 1 year ago
I'm away from my hunny all the time and one of the best things that keeps us so close is talking and chatting as much as we can and sending eachother little gifts
SleazeThrobb12345 1 year ago
Is Darth Vader your boyfriend?
miguelar 1 year ago
even in a close relationship, my ex boyfriend found ways to cheat on me. (example: at his work... of all places) relationship advise: dont "come out" and go into a relationship right away! solve the shock with your family, and then go into one if your ready! (thats if your parents made a big deal of you comming out :D)
R13L1001 1 year ago
My Partner and I have been together for 19 years. I think the 'secret' is that we're still best friends as well.
Timeframesm 1 year ago
yeah its quite clear he doesnt have a relationship and he probably just cruises XD
iletya 1 year ago
TRUTH AND HONESTY IS ABOVE ALL THE MOST IMPORTANT THINGS IN A RELATIONSHIP. so many of my relationships have failed because my partners are never honest with me. to me its the most important thing :) like this if you agree :)
danpotts13 1 year ago
For some reason I said "I love you too" at the end of this video
"I love you Davey!"
pingpongking98 1 year ago
I did not roll my eyes! I love unconditional love. Even though I am 19 and never have had a relationship or even a first kiss I completely believe that someone will love me unconditionally. And I am totally willing to wait... But hopefully not to much longer.
Danaabbee 1 year ago
We'll thank you for being so judgmental of everyone else's relationship. Unconditional love is a great concept but everyone has a breaking point.
PoeticPoppa 1 year ago
My advice is, like Rose says to Jack in 'Titanic', "Never let go". Also this relates to something I wrote in a poem once, "bumps are common on long drives". It is inevitable that things will go wrong sometimes. Big fallouts. Long disagreements. And also, distance and time seperations. But if you really love someone and you want them in your life, it can help to never think it's "too late". Love is strong, and you'll find out, despite all hardships, You'll both want each other back in your lives.
TowardNormalcy 1 year ago
Davey you did the "f u" peace sign again!
AllStater09 1 year ago
For give for get or just over look somethings
shshshshhs 1 year ago
don't wait for love, don't expect it, and before you know it, you'll find true love knocking at your front door.
ingodwesee 1 year ago
My advice is: Be random!
I love when my bf just shows up and wants to do something fun like go to a park for no reason. He says that he loves it when I leave him notes saying I love you or something when I get up first! But we should all love each other anyway!!!!!!!:)
666EvilSmile 1 year ago
you are very on point with unconditional love and I like the term cafeteria boyfriend..my last relationship was 6 years and i was definately a cafeteria boyfriend..I have learned since then to accept others differences because they are what makes the relationships interesting. My ex didn't like his sugar in his cereal so he used to sprinkle the sugar on each spoon full. It made me crazy.When i think back on it, it was unique and his way and should not have bothered me. Some never learn..I did
Trippleg1993 1 year ago
agree to disagree. Talk open and honestly. It's ok to be mad sometimes.
Harmonygirl2010 1 year ago
I want a bf but I live in a shithole hick town and it's difficult =/
hugznotdrugs2 1 year ago
The right to be mad at the person.
adambowling1 1 year ago
I agree with you: unconditional love. Make a commitment to a person and then stick with him/her through thick and thin.
thebluestofpeas 1 year ago
Wow! His voice is low enough for the both of you!
Dancypants1810 1 year ago 3
I have learned from talking to guys that have been through alot and from my own life that there are times when you hate...and yes i mean hate the person your with. Whether that was because of something they did or because its just always bothered you about them. The thing is...If you really love that person with your whole heart and believe that you are both right then dont sweat the little things...neither one of you are perfect and you both have to understand that you will both make mistakes
DevinJamesS11 1 year ago
I think it's spelled "staged". hehe. still cute though.
JJNeepinFilms 1 year ago
Woot for "Str8 People Years"!!!
TrulyRichard101 1 year ago
If you've had a boyfriend, then why do you use Grindr? Just curious. LOL
TrickyNicky990 1 year ago
i wanna meet him :D:D
Me242008 1 year ago
can we see him?? =) =) =)
matboy891 1 year ago 2
''You like people for their possitive traits,and love them for the bad ones'' Ok so I messed up that quote a little bit but whatever
95ConorOd 1 year ago
Things we need to see:
1) Your dick.
2) Your boyfriend.
3) Your boyfriend's dick.
Amen
pkessler 1 year ago 147
@pkessler Amen !!!!!! hahahahahahah
Marculinist 11 months ago
@pkessler Hell to the YES!
TheLemonstabber 10 months ago
@pkessler noooo some viewers are straight! he's half naked already!
MrWFW 8 months ago
pharaoh88 two things to remember: one) HIV takes a while to be detected. I have a friend who came up neg for over a year, and then developed it. two) monogame is not required for a long term relationship. Most of the over twenty yr pairs I know straight and gay are "open" or at least "don't ask don't tell" on both sides.
BrotherBob1000 1 year ago
After 33 years, My partner and I don't use the word boyfriend. We think of each other as the only person everything centers around. We have parents and sibs, yes, and outside interests (me the Church, he his Work) but he comes first over everything. Not his wants or demands, but his needs and his existence. He trusts that is true for me, and I trust it is true for him.....
BrotherBob1000 1 year ago 3
Is Scotty Dynamo the person you love unconditionally, because you mention him at the end of the video?
DEndter 1 year ago 2
Communication among all things. And I think that means being able to not only just talk on a very basic, casual level but to articulate things that mean the greatest to you as well as your worries, fears, concerns. That expression, to me, is make-or-break.
travisclau 1 year ago
9 years on March 1st. If you'll spill your guts, reveal all of you, completely and totally without hiding anything, the good, the bad, your hopes, and dreams, dark and the desperate moments and really open yourself up to your partner the outcome and the future is going to be gorgeous.
teekoohoo 1 year ago 2
Davy...you sold out...you had a video ad at the beginning...sadface.
furgustheblue 1 year ago
Davey, i think you should just do your videos blocking your chest, i feel it distracts me from your message. LOL
Im only kidding! XD
hXcJohN009 1 year ago
well im currently going strong with my girlfriend of 1.5 years, who is now my fiance. id say that my 1 secret might be a bunch of secrets, but 1 of the major ones is communication. you have to talk to each other & let the other know whats on your mind & whats bothering you because if you dont talk about it, it will continue to bother you. the other is the little things, make a card or a sandwich or a kiss on the cheek to remind them that you love them. stick with the little things.
innurblonde 1 year ago
you paint with such an amazingly large brush in most of your videos, it's irritating.
jdaemaens 1 year ago
also i have a question. in the blog u mentioned something about your bf contracts HIV and then the other person runs away and thats not unconditional love. how did that person get HIV if they werent being unfaithful. i mean i know theres other ways to get it besides sex but its not as common as it used to be to catch it other ways. so im just saying it would really depend on the situation in that example u stated.
pharaoh881 1 year ago
I've not had many relationships but I would say the best piece of advice i could give is communication, if there is anythign you don't like about whats happening talk to them about it otherwise you're going to build up all of this anger or resentment towards them and probably end up single again. Hope this is good advice :)
Homochild 1 year ago
i would have to say my secret is just accepting my partner for who he is. and vice versa . we dont build these unrealistic expectations for each other and accept the flaws along with the qualities we love.
pharaoh881 1 year ago
only one kiss....:( (at the end of blog)
jvtno5 1 year ago
Oh, and I forgot to ask how exactly do you figure a gay year, versus a straight year?
tamayn 1 year ago
I've been with my boyfriend for almost 7 years. For us, the secret has been the knowledge that tomorrow isn't guaranteed.
tamayn 1 year ago 2
You can have all the unconditional love you can stand =) and have no communication, and the relationship can still go down hill. You have to talk to each other - about the good stuff, the bad stuff, and the down-right shitty stuff.
Oh, and I did n't roll my eyes. I was thinking about it, but then you said something and I changed my mind. =) Thanks for the video, have fun in Toronto!
musicaljoplin 1 year ago
ok ok .... emm i´ll get (next 27th) 3 moths with my boyfriend jejeje, emm and i know it is less than 3 years.. but jeje we have been honest each other and i am studying and i can´t follow him, sometimes he have to travel and i say to him i do not like you to traveling all the time but i support you and I LOVE YOU....
and i think my support to him is very important... and jeje smiling all my time with him jejeje he loves my smile jejeje.... x´s
I LOVE HIM AND HE MAKES ME SO HAPPY¡¡¡¡ JR&Ozz
lovetea1990 1 year ago
Hugs male a relationship go alooong way:)
Learn to forgive and listen.
Abendzeit 1 year ago
loving a straight guy for 4 year~
JOCHSZCH 1 year ago
I wasn't rolling my eyes at all, I was still laughing from the 7 to 1 ratio :D regarding the question, ummm, I pretty much agree with unconditional love being the only thing that it takes. As it is, it is very hard to accomplish that state, bye.
rc100011 1 year ago
18 and 24/7, work, live, and love together. Not for everybody but we love it. Secrets = be kind to each other. Treat each other like you did on that first date 18 years later. Communicate. Forgive.
Kjazzinphx 1 year ago
So gay years and dog years are one in the same???
FallenAntiHer0 1 year ago 43
@FallenAntiHer0 that what unconditional love does to someone
Duo1 1 year ago
@FallenAntiHer0 I think he said straight years and dog years are the same....
ambraaaa 11 months ago
Being able to laugh together is the best advice i could ever give :)
Its the most important thing in myrelationship ~<3
Randomner2562 1 year ago
Spontaneous romancing. Little surprises like sending flowers to him at work for no reason or something
Anaprince 1 year ago
What happen's when your soon-to-be BF-in-training is considering quitting smoking for me, since he acknowledges I have a keen dislike for it... he's willing to push that addiction away for me o . o I'm a lil' worried it'll hurt him later on..
DamonHeartThrob 1 year ago
@kelis66 They were fine with it, i guess i was one of the lucky ones :)
Lisledl 1 year ago
My partner & I have been together for 21 years, & the secret to our relationship is always being open & honest with each other..........we talk about everything.
MrMichaelJBlack 1 year ago
a couple unlike most that anybody has ever seen.. we laugh, joke & are true to eachother.. loving unco- is a great way to start... :) but really soul mate, long distance & then finally being together we're hardly ever our eachothers sight :) we are a couple that does everything together & have done it the same way for two years most couples don't even keep up the samething after a month of living together.. not us :)))) Love you Davey!!
TheLesbianAngel09 1 year ago
Well, to be very honest I am in a 2year long relationship & it started off long distance now we've been living together for 2years in august of this year. I think the true secret of a relationship is really finding the one that is truly your soul mate myself & my darling have went through some amazingly hard times during our long distance.. i think that helpt to becuz if you can trust them that far away then ya'll be okay. we love & love & love eachother plenty of times we've gotten told we are
TheLesbianAngel09 1 year ago
im going to gaga on march 3rd in toronto, will you still be in TO?
xCraigg 1 year ago
There are always conditions and rules to abide by in a relationship. Fidelity is probably the most consistent condition. And okay, you may say what about open relationships? Then one or both people involved are stipulating that to be in together their has to be open sex involved.
In your example, the person may not want to be with someone HIV positive, but that does NOT mean they do not love the other person.
Love is unconditional, but all relationships have conditions. Even yours. Sorry.
c1nico 1 year ago
by all means, I don't mean offense. What you said just triggered me to think about it.
You never choose to fall in love, you just do, which makes all love unconditional.
Relationships have to have rules to survive, some don't need many.
But to love someone is not the same as being in love with someone.
c1nico 1 year ago
Lol I've never even had a relationship. And I know, I'm 16, I'm practically an infant. But I'd at LEAST like to kiss someone one of these days! :P
hearttopmodel05 1 year ago
If there is any doubt in your mind about a relationship, then end it. Don't carry it on in doubt... Believe me, I wish I'd told myself that 4 months ago! :)
Caradog93 1 year ago
COMMUNICATION. It's the be all and end all.
TheBassHeavy 1 year ago
I got 3 hidden clue about your Boyfriend.
He Gay. of course, He has a Hockey butt.. already knew that. And he is HIV positive... jk on the last one.
We NEED to know more.
delaneya1c 1 year ago
i think my nest piece of advice would be have no secrets unless they are the good kind like surprise parties or presents, and always talk even if it is about the little things. Don't change who you are, you are perfect the way you are.
mrmiahmoo 1 year ago
What is this relationship you speak of?
hubertpisces 1 year ago
I think that once a couple stops laughing WITH each other then the relationship takes a turn for the worst. I have found the must success with my partner when we could laugh and smile with each other.
riegjd2110 1 year ago
I have no secrets I have never dated anyone but I am an awsome friend :D iv been best friends with two girls for 10 years thats kinda cool an my secret to that is well we openly hate on each other um if we need time apart we just stay away from eachother, honesty, lovin each other for who we are but hating the stupid shit they do an um really couldnt get ride of them if i wanted to they know were i live an we share friends an they have my number an ya. hopfuly they change for the better
cooldood42 1 year ago
Honesty, trust and communication. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 6 months now. And I really know he is the one so in may I am going to ask him to marry me.
cooldude7777112 1 year ago
I have a great relationship with my boyfriend for 8 and a half years now. And the secret to our relationship? well there really is no secret, it is just there and we enjoy it big time :-)
FrankRebers 1 year ago
Always. Honesty and communication. By far top of the list.
seanlesuer88 1 year ago
omfg fucking gays!
madred1112 1 year ago
My secret to a fulfilling romantic relationship is honesty. Life is raw, love is pure, and I don't want to live a lie :)
sweetdeathofi 1 year ago
HONESTY AND COMMUNICATION
THEREALJIMJONES 1 year ago
Its going to be 3 months soon for my boyfriend and I. We have a VERY strong relationship and our secret is communication... 100% total and completely honest communication! Plus we get along very easily.
fucktheworld06 1 year ago
I'm in a long distance relationship too and my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years(it will be three in august). Secret: never give up, sometimes distance can be hard but don't give up
cuteanimeboy 1 year ago
How do you say blog without closing your mouth?
You need to close your mouth to pronounce the B
Are you a ventriloquist?
Danish4uDanish4me 1 year ago
You are pulling pork Davy?
toastedbum 1 year ago
I'd say to aim for unconditional love, but if you're not quite at that point then at least try put an effort on communicating and agreeing to disagree.
mariesoullier 1 year ago
You did the peace sign wrong again... You just told us to F off. :/
blooboy70 1 year ago
3 years and we still havn't seen his face:(
Bdazzlemylife 1 year ago 111
@Bdazzlemylife
I think it's because he's not out yet. I'm pretty sure Davey said that in a video once :/
randommonkeydance 1 year ago
@Bdazzlemylife Maybe the guy likes his privacy.
PianicFanatic 1 year ago