abandoned

[dazymayday]

i've met her dad he is very rarely there, in the 10 years i've known her iv'e seen him 1nce

[Amandaarockz]

ur daughter is very beautfifull and ur husband missed a lot during her life but that isnt ur fault that is his . ur doing just fine with her yuh dnt need a man to help you support a wonderfull daughter like you have she is precious and yuh should treat her like shes the most special kid in the world

[dogiron10]

even his mother may not love him - she could be lying

[ollyj2x]

This made me really sad.

[YouOweChildSupport]

This is all too familiar unfortunately! I can't believe a parent could abandon the children they bring into this world! They are the true loosers! All deadbeats should have their photos public. However, posting your child isn't something I would do, let alone where they live. Let the jerks wonder because they don't even deserve the privelage of photo if they take off without a trace! Castration is the only cure for deadbeat dads!

[deadbeatdads08]

You rock mom!! This is good, because alot of people expect us to brush this issue under the rug and then our kids grow up with toxic shame. This is great. Keep your head up. And check out my page there is a very moving video there. Once again you rock!!

[bchjunkie]

Thanks for the comment and the support you give to this issue. I really like the videos that are from an abandoned childs point of view also. Check out "Life without him". Your video is very powerful as well! I look forward to more.

[karenhearts99]

Same has happened to my kid and it hurts her but you seriously need to tell your kid about the good times with her dad or otherwise she will be messed up and your the one who will have to suffer for your mistakes and resentment.

Getting a kid to hold up a picture of her dad and ask her stuff that she doesn't know is going to mess with her head big time.

She has a mum and thats more than some kids have.

[shawnai9]

i agree with this statement i have a hard time with my daughter crying for her dad but i always tell her that he loves her .. cuz he does we still talk every now and then and theres still something there even if its only friendship

[shannonlilia]

God is the father of all. Your beautiful daughter is being raised by an intelligent wonderful woman. May you both live abundant lives. With or without a man. Peace.

[injuredkillz]

Sad

[spiderlegs2063]

I noticed, that little girls confidence & in my opinion her Mothers Love is where that comes from , if her Mother has to work doubletime to make ends meet will her little girl grow up hating the world like so many kids we see on the news ?

[janeyloubylou]

poor kid :(nice parenting:s

[spiderlegs2063]

look again bobo ..... do you really see a poor kid ? Love & Confidence seems more likely.

[kalr44]

OK, I get it, but I would never put my child through taping such a thing. It's just horrible for her, poor bugger...

[Tanja060100]

Unfortunality she is just one of many kids who never gets to know their dad.

[angelicque777]

If you are a father, and are not able to see your child... you are at the wrong place... What we are talking about there are NO LAWS AGAINST. Law only states that a parent has a right to his child, not that a child has a right to a parent... I think I too will make one... Maybe Oscar De La Hoya will see his son that way.

Angelicque Momma to Devon De La Hoya...

[ginya78]

wow! I think by you showing you daughter what MAN not to choose you are doing her a service. I am honest with my daughter about her father because I don't want her to think his behavior is 'ok'...so if she meets a man like him, she will RUN! God Bless your daughter, and I hope her father gets his head out of his ass and starts acting like a human being.

[bchjunkie]

Thanks for the comment. It looks like there are more of us in this boat than I was aware of! You are right, we do need to teach our daughters but most importantly, I think the mothers of sons need to take on the responsibility of teaching their boys not to abandoned their children.

[meredumais]

There are many, many in your boat, and I truly hope things work out for you both. I know Bloomington is a great community with excellent schools, and I hope you won't have to move. There is a psychotic 'men's movement' on YT blaming mothers for most abandonments and abuse. Sterling Solomon is the worst culprit. Watch out for him, and good luck!

[SuperPais]

Bchjunkie. Please understand meredumais words, as a person that don't like men.

Sterling Solomon is against Misandry (hate of men), and pro-equality. I think that everyone should be against Misandry, as also against Misogyny.

Unfortunately, there are 100´s of feminists groups against misogyny, but just few against misanty.

It seems that meredumais don´t accept this.

[meredumais]

A person in a 'movement' is brainwashed into thinking in delusions. SuperPais, without ever meeting me, denies that I hold the college degrees that I do, makes up all kinds of slanderous lies. If I'm a man-hater, I'm sure my male partener and grown male children would laugh, hard, about that.

Please ignore zealots like these. I continue to wish you the best...

[meredumais]

SP, Before signing off to be a peace-lover after spewing anti-gemale hatred for so long, one of Solomon's (your hero's) last videos was called 'ENDING WOMEN'S SUFFRAGE'. Anyone can find it on Ramona Solares Channel. Is that equality in your book? Taking away half the population's right to vote?

[SuperPais]

Well, lol, us, good Fathers, also said the same about "bad" mothers, that difficult us to see our sons.

It seems we must do a "marriage" club.

[brookesterTV]

well let her see him child support is theift anyhow she could care less about the money, I would say its the support turning him away and thats your fault not his or hers

[bchjunkie]

You are absolutely correct in saying this is not her fault. Regardless of whose fault it is she deserves the love and income of two parents. Unfortunately I cannot give her the love of an absent father. If he doesn't want to love her then he should at least pay for her a better life by providing her the money for basic living needs and education. If you know him or see him then let him know of her broken heart and Thanks for your comment.

[Izache777]

wow, I read your comment over and over. How could u be so insensitive about what a mom needs for her child???It's the support that's turning him away???And that's the mom's fault??? It's not the money, some people just don't have a heart! That goes 4 women and men. 17, huh?

[bchjunkie]

I am a little confused? But I think you are saying that I do not need child support for my child? I believe my child needs lots of love and attention. That will be a little difficult to give her if I am working 2 jobs and double overtime to provide a roof and a baby sitter to raise her for me while I too am absent from he life. ????

[Izache777]

no, I was responding to brookesterTV's comment above. It made me mad when she said, child support is theft anyhow. My daughter's CS is 48 wkly & her father won't pay. How is that theft. What can I do with that, And I don't even get it. I was talking about you mom!!! You're great! I'm a mom 2 & I know how hard it is. =)

[Izache777]

ah man, sorry typo, I'm meant to say I wasn't talking about you mom!!! You're great.

[bchjunkie]

I realized that today when I was at work. I couldn't figure the "17 huh" thing, then it came to me this afternoon. I appreciate the support. Seems there are alot of mixed views.

[Izache777]

LOL. I had 2 watch your vid again. Your little girl seems to be such fun. You guys make a great team. And you sound like a very loving mom. The "17" thing is because I went to her page to check who would say something so stupid! At 17, I still had my head in the clouds!!! I just couldn't leave without saying something to her. :)

[joebumpher]

How is it not theft? someone being forced to work and forced to pay without commiting a crime, thats not only theft its also slavery and i am only 12 im being put through this right now

[bchjunkie]

If you live in the United States and the court orders you to pay something and you don't then you have committed a crime. I'm sure he has 100 valid reasons not to pay his support. I have 100 valid reasons not to pay my taxes. But I would have committed a crime if I don't. :)

[stacey4u2luv]

He had a part in bringing that little girl into the world and if he was still with her living under one roof as a family does that mean his wife should then go to work and he gets free rent too?

[stacey4u2luv]

Give me a break a man brings a child into this world it is his responsibility to see she has what she/he needs and that her health and food and shelter is secure regardless if he is with the same woman or not. Or maybe you think that he should be totally free to go and shack up with a new woman and impregnate her and put all his money into his new relationship and children and forget all about his previous children and that would be totally fair.

[McFester]

What a sweet, adorable, innocent little baby giiirl! I adore herrr. ): I'm so sorry. I hate Scott, the man who was supposedly capable of his part in my birth, but somehow incapable of caring about me. It's amazing how selfish men can get. Your daughter is wonderful, and it's terrible she has to go through that. =\ I'm so sorry. I know how it is.. But at least she was young. Don't worry too much about it; you seem to be an awesome mother, and she's lucky to have you. (: Good luck. Best Wishes!

[bchjunkie]

Thank you for the comment. I am sorry to hear about your experience. I hope that my daughter doesn't hate her father when she grows up but she is growing up fast and so much precious time has been wasted..Her friends are starting to ask her where her dad is and why she doesn't know him. She doesn't seem unhappy but only time will tell. This may make her stronger. Thanks again!

[radmilamilinkov]

I'm the child of a single parent who slagged my father at every turn. I understand my mothers frustration, and he was a good for nothing...but her constant reminder to me that he didn't care affected how I chose my men...and not in a good way. Be careful what you show your daughter.

[SuperPais]

radmilamilinkov .

Thanks for your REAL STORY.

Please, bchjunkie , as a Father, I understand very well your position.

I know many fathers, who are JUST THE OPOSITE WAY.

WANT TO SEE THEIR KIDS, PARTICIPATE (IF ITS FAIR), AD Courts deny it.

[SuperPais]

2)

As you know

(and sometimes happens to some mothers, too)

BchJukie, just pay attention to these words.

You are doig your best, but details are important.

Improve, EVEN is not your fault.

Try to improve the real absent father.

The World needs Good Mamas & Papas.

[radmilamilinkov]

Sad that you use your child in this way.

[bchjunkie]

I am more afraid of her growing up and asking why I didn't do more. She is in a good home and a good school right now. That is all about to change. The odds are not in her favor at this point. Her father abandoned her. I am only trying to do the best that I can. I think she will aprreciate my efforts. Thanks for your comment.

[BrianGenzling]

I hope you find your Dad. BRAVO!

[s0lidllama]

5 stars