My ex left 5 years ago when things got tough and took my Boys from me I havn't seen them since she just left and the courts did nothing too stop her she left Mi and moved to Tx I miss them so much and would do anything to move there so I could see them not just pics off Facebook I get to talk to them on the phone now and then and I send Christmas presents I miss them so much!
I am so sick and tired of ignorant Americans thinking that children are removed from good parents because the parents did something wrong. Government agencies should not be allowed to "manage" families. When you mix power,politics, and money into family, it is killed. I've seen my fair share of parents who falsely accuse and destroy the lives of their children simply for the basis of custody. WRONG.
Rick, So sorry to hear you are another victim. I agree with you that parents should not do this horrible (unpunishable) crime! I am also a father and a victim of this crime by the mother.
I have written a book as a case study about my experience called "Divorce Rape" as I was raped by the family court systems. Available at lulu.com/spotlight/abecfathers I want people to know about this terrible problem.
Here’s an inspiring story of a man who, in 1930, demonstrated for the right to be a father father in Washington D.C. It is the earliest case of a public father’s rights protest I know of. James Welch: The Father Who Would Not Give Up” (with photos that will surprise you) @ The Unknown History of MISANDRY
very sad only the most abusive controlling parent will target a deserving parent as such even to coerce a child repetitively to confuse a young children how do you unteach a child how do you defend and protect
I am so sorry to hear that and just know you are not alone.. I have been living in that pain for close to 3 years... I call all the time and never get to talk to him.. I use youtube!! He sees me, they are dated, he knows Im healthy and missing him and loving him and that I am proud of him! The videos do not lie, she does. Watch them please and consider reaching out like that!!! Chris Belanger to Weston Belanger on google or on youtube.. God Bless.
Thanks for this video and thanks for your excellent website. You are right that PA is child abuse, and that children are the primary victims. The irony is that the kids won't realized it until they are adults, and it is too late. There are so many stories out there by adults lamenting the loss of a huge chunk of their childhood which will never be recovered. Please check my own video. Thanks.
Amazing, heartfelt video. This abuse is rampant, and most of the perpetrators never stop or face punishment. I recommend to others BrainwashingChildren com to parents whose children have been turned against them. Don't ever give up on your cuties! I promise they'll one day see the truth....
Willful blindness....... the legal term for knowing you have a duty to investigate something but look the other way. GOVERNOR Rick Perry is guilty of willful blindness..... in this case! Governor Perry actually hid proof of felonies given to him and lied to me in person about taking action! Please youtube or google my name before voting for him to be our next President! The disturbed video explains what he covered up ! My upcoming book will shock countless who support Texas!
There also doesn't seem to be any recognition in our society or the media of parents who don't stoop to this hurtful behaviour. It doesn't hurt to give a pat on the back to any couple who, although they cannot keep their love relationship together, make an effort from both sides to ensure the children respect both parents and have many opportunities to spend time bonding with both. Some will say you don't need to praise ppl for doing what they should but I think it helps everyone.
Most attorneys & women's supporters advise moms to make False Abuse Allegations as normal, primary means to win custody & divorce, winner takes all. 3/4 of divorced DADS in my area experience false allegations PLUS parental alienation.
Most parental alienation accompanies HER false allegations resulting in mothers having sole custody with most dads alienated from their kids.
Most GAL's & other court hangers-on support the rot lest they lose their seat at this banquet on children's flesh.
This scenario has happened to me, a woman. I've been called submissive because I have not taken the other parent to court,but I refrain, for them. It seems that the parent that acts like a victim feels justified in teaching the children to hate and distrust the other parent. Victim mentality incorporates blaming and never taking responsibility in ones on decisions/actions. Message: if you marry someone with that mentality, chances are that they will use the kids to propogate :mirror effect.
criminal charges and severe punishment, considering the prevalence and seriousness of the crime, the cold malice and premeditated psychological and physical abuse of innocent defenseless little children deserves the death penalty. for all the social consequences and the pure spitefulness of it. this particular crime has to be punished horribly because it has become so prevalent and the character of the people who perpetrate it. may God be with us all. i see myself in all those pictures
A father/mom cheats on his partner, insults him in front of their kids, fights each other no matter if the kids are listening, and when divorces comes up is all about hurting each other with the children. Law says that women must have the custody in kids under 12 years old, unless the male has proof of she being a bad mother or bad example. Law is not broken, is people who is using the system in the wrong way.
Divorce is healthy, hate is not. At the end the kids will know the causes n judge it
I can feel your passion and pain. I'm sorry that you have experienced such horrible treatment.
This video is not gender specific. If you pay attention to the details, you will find that it addresses all parents not just mothers. It is however written from a father's point of view because I am one. That is my real life experience. Just like you have yours.
This video clearly shows that no parent should be selfish enough to destroy their own children. Man or woman...
@wwwpower1 yes, it is not a father only problem, but domestic violence is not a mother only problem or a woman only problem either; yet we are conditioned by the outlets of entertainment that are accessible to us to think that way. I don't want to be a sexist, but I do feel that men are marginalized a whoel lot more than women are when it comes to domestic issues such as custody, paternity, and abuse. I almost wanna be biased by default based on the level of injustice and unfairness I witnessed.
GREAT Vid. Agree 100% My father married an aberrant woman who did the same thing. After they divorced, we spent the next next 5+ years listening to her trashing and raging towards our father, trying to make us hate him. she used to scream that we were "just like him". It destroyed our lives but we all escaped alive. looking back, we know he was a good dad while he had the chance to be one & so will your kids. She CAN stop the man from showing love because if he isn't there, he can't show it.
It is a very bad abuse against a chil,i am a victm of PAS,i was forbidden to see my father when i was 7 years old,and i am madly angry with people who says it doesnt exist,denying it for me is the same of denying Holocaust,and i dont know how law of developed countries hadnt figure out that it is a crime.
We can never find justice at the hands of corrupt judges. (See YouTube videos) Judge to Judge on Illegal Payments to Judges / Evil Triangle of Court Corruption / Richard Fine / Dr Shirley Moore slush funds /SBX 211. To end this title wave of corruption in our country must start with the corrupt judges. We can not bring evidence of corruption to corrupt judges. Los Angeles Superior Court judges are illegally and unconstitutionally taking 50,000.00 each for a total of 23 million per year.
I am a mother, victim of PAS perpetrated by my childrens father. I cannot even begin to explain the agony of what it is that I am going through right now, but trust that I know your pain. I have been living this nightmare for the last several years and was even told by one of the CPS case workers that I have NO CHOICE but to play his game if Im going to have any chance of coming out of this with my kids but I just cant bring myself to do that. I have since lost my children due to false allegatio
I too am a father facing this situation. The system IS set-up in women's favor. They are encouraged, & feel justified, in making the most horrific, outrageous accusations against men in order to win favor in the courts eyes.
In the end, the result is usually the same: The father fights to keep contact with his children but is wiped out financially in the end & usually loses "custody."
There is a growing Men's movement that will hopefully change things for future generations. SPEAK OUT!
@TSM8088 sorry to hear you're going thru this ... as I did and so many others have to. And as our kids have to ... Do you have any visitation? Used to fly bck n forth cross-country myself ... Dramatizing the situation in an upcoming film which I hope will shed more light on the issue. For the longest time, once my situation was resolved (after a long, painful, expensive 6 yr struggle), I just wanted to circle the wagons with my family and forget ... Now the film's my way of speaking out.
Among all the dirty, nasty tricks my ex used during divorce litigation, she also employed the so-called "silver bullet" by accusing me of abusing, even molesting my child!
I was the primary parent as the father. I take tremendous pride in the way I raised my daughter. That someone could be so low as to use accusations like this is still difficult for me to understand. I know my daughter loves me very much, but she now llives across country with my ex... who had the legal system on her side.
it is a horrible form of abuse when this happens, not just to the parent but to the children alone. Realize this, that it's cross gender. It doesn't just happen to fathers, but equally to many mothers. I'm a victim of parent alienation as well. I lost my four kids to hate. I'm in contact with them all the time, giving them love and support. The ultimate healing tool is surrender, forgiveness and love. Check out my url .Domesticabuserecovery if you need more support.
Thank you for posting this somber reminder....I cried through the video. I hope your situation has improved. I have not seen or talked to my daughter in over two years now.
I dealt with PAS for 6 yrs ... non-stop lies and accusations ... but the truth FINALLY worked its way out in court and it's the basis for an upcoming movie called "What Tigers Do" ... crazy thing, tho, I'd bet my ex would claim she's the victim and that I'm the one who turned the kids against HER ... I say "bet" because no one's heard from her in 5 yrs, when the kids stopped obeying her twisted demands she just took off and disappeared ... there's hope in these battles, just stay the course
Sorry you are going through this...you are not alone. I will never understand how parents can do this to their own children. I have panic attacks at night thinking about my situation with my son. I try to think that things happen for a reason....and remember that God makes decisions for us (not other people). I know they will know the truth one day...hopefully sooner than later. Many mothers could only wish to have a loving father like you for their children.
It also happens to Mothers and Grandmothers. My soon to be son-in-law is a terrible man. He has turned his two older chilldren, 12 & 10, against their Mother and Me (Her Mother) with lies, and more lies. How could anyone do this to their own children? It is the ultimate hate crime.
It is not only women who alienate children from the other parent. Men do it too. I agree however, that most of the time, it does seem to be the women in the majority of cases. It's all about making you suffer by removing your relationship with the children - not only removing it, but making them HATE you as much as he/she hates you. All the while not caring how they mess up the kids. When the kids end up with problems as teenagers/adults - the alienating parent blames YOU for it. :-(
I am sorry to see anyone suffer this form of torture... I have been living this reality for just over 4 years now and it is only getting worse with each attempt I make to overcome it. Seeing that I am not alone does help to keep me motivated to find a way to protect my child from this abuse. Thank you for sharing your touching situation in this video. My hopes go out to you and your children and anyone subjected to this form of horrific abuse.
im a mother with which this has happened to me i havent seen my 2 youngest for nearly 5 years i miss and love them loads ross and immy one day you will know the truth i promise you both this xxxxxx
After 13 years of alienation my 17 year old daughter mustered enough courage to sneak away and call me...The next day her mother had her cell phone disabled.
All those b-day and Christmas cards I mailed intercepted by their mother...no phone contact...Jeez, even prisoners are allowed phone and mail privileges...I can tell you it has not only destroyed my life...but major emotional distress for my two daughters.
BTW: I LOVE YOU ASHLEY AND TAYLOR! Regardless of what you have been told.
Dude, this totally blew my mind! I never knew this existed. (The laws against P.A., or P A for that matter). Your video was very nice, and touching too.
I am experiencing this right now. I have just started the Facebook group "Alienated Dads". Through my research, I found your video. I would love to hear more of your story. Thank you, and I am right there with you.
Oh My god. I saw my little girl for the firt time in two years last week and I couldnt understand why she was so different. The pain of those two years came back and I said things in anger that actually make me look the person that I have been accused of. I now believe its just a matter of time before I m told that I m never allowed to see my daughter again. God help us both and please forgive my stupididty sweetheart. I love you so much
Goddamn it, man. You made me cry. I feel for you, brother. I'm going through a nasty, nasty divorce right now. My wife keeps my son away from me, and it KILLS me every day. I miss him so much. I see him some, but not nearly as much as I should. I see him 8 days per month.. for NO REASON other than that my wife is an angry, bitter, narcissistic woman. It hurts so bad. I hope your situation has improved. Nobody - I mean NOBODY - deserves this type of hurt.
This really needs to stop. The punishment for this type of crime should be very harsh. I think they should be held financially responsible for all counseling and family reunification expenses, Family field trips and and every expense it takes to pull this family back together.
I certainly agree with everything that you have stated with one exception, I would take it much further than that.
After studying the effects that this type of abuse has on children and living through the hell caused by this type of reprehensible behavior and selfishness, I would support Criminal charges and penalties against these perpetrators.
It is sad to say but many men suffer at the hands of women who mistreat them by using children as a weapon and who disregard the teaching that children are the fruit of marriage and not the reason for marriage.
More attention needs to be brought to this issue and soon.
Thanks for your thoughts on this matter. Unfortunately, you are right on the mark. There are greater and greater numbers of women using and abusing their children to attack and control their ex-spouses.
That IS NOT to say that there aren't fathers using the same kind of tactics against excellent mothers. It goes both ways, but the overwhelming statistics are certainly against fathers, and always against the precious children.
I''m passing through thid hell. It can be called as death in life. Parents can fight, but be decent, not using child as a weapon, that will destroy the child future balance and restrains for further dialogue between father and mother
Every targeted parent out there would agree, it is a living hell on earth for those of us that have lost our children to this type of abuse. It is even sadder for the children...
thank u...ill pray for u too.....I just got my court papers trying to hold my ex in contempt.....denied they dont care...sucks...Ive exhausted all my resourses and im broke.....Im finished I guess
I can feel the pain and hopelessness in your words. I am so sorry...
I know it sounds harsh but it is true, that's exactly how our system is set up. To absolutely crush any opposition to the courts will. And that usually translates into whatever the custodial parent's will is as well.
We hear these type of horror stories from around the world at our site every day. So many of the judges are filled with such arrogance it is sickening.
Please, tell me this.... how to I tell my kids that their 'father' left them voluntarily to be with another woman - in another state? How do I tell them that he now spends his vacations, his time, his attention on HER kids, and has neglected, and abandoned THEM? He has inflicted parental alienation upon them HIMSELF. They do hate him, and rightfully so.
I am sorry for your entire family. What a sad story that any parent would voluntarily walk away from their children.
Although it doesn't appear that he has attempted any PA tactics against you or them, he certainly has alienated the children from himself. How very sad.
Perhaps one day he will figure it out. But no one can make up for the time and love your children have already lost.
Thank you, and I know how devastating this is for my kids - my father did the same to me and my sister when we were young.. just left and started another family. And the saddest part about the whole thing is that my ex PROMISED me he wouldn't do that to our kids. We were married for 15 years and had been together for 23 when he left. A college educated man did this knowingly to his own kids. I will never forgive him for what he's done to them. And neither will they. You are an awesome dad.
It's especially sad to see the same thing repeated in more than one generation.
Although it may seem impossible to do, you really need to come to a place where you can forgive your ex.
Not for his sake but for you and your children's.
It's imperative for you to stay healthy and whole and that isn't possible if you are eaten up with unforgiveness. It's appropriate to be angry and hurt. Just don't let it destroy you or your children. Don't give him that power over any of you
@LoriDyanne -- I came from a home where my dad up and left with another woman. What pissed me off more then my dad doing that, was my mother's hate for my dad. You need to be stronger for your kids. Your life played out the way it is.. now deal with it, so your kids grow up to be loving happy people. This is about them now, NOT you. I am sorry for your loss, but please don't play a victim, Your kids deserve at least ONE dependable person!
Thanks for sharing a from child's perspective the influence that both parents can have on their children in these type of situations.
It's difficult for everyone invloved. And I would always agree that it is about the children and not the parents every time.
It doesn't mean that the parents don't matter because they do very much. But those children NEED the parents to protect them from everything they can, including even themselves when it's appropriate.
Dad's are not the only parent that are alienated from their child/children. Our grandson is going through the worse abuse of this I have ever seen. The family cannot wrap it's head around this disturbing behavior.
No, unfortunately this abusive behaviour knows no gender limitations. If you read through the comments on this video, it is obvious that all it takes is one broken and selfish parent to inflict this pain on their children and their ex-spouse.
As far as being able to "wrap your head around" this type of behavior, it is almost impossible. Because you are sane, rational and actually value the children being abused. That is never the case with an abuser...
My Friend is sitting in jail, due to his ex thinking he is a bad father(for whatever reason. She has done everything to remove dad from kids lives-pushed him out of the home, restraining order, exuberant amt of child support, request for his deportation. Her actions to remove a male figure out of kids lives is a total child abuse. I can't imagine what person does this to their kids-she thinks she is superior in parenting with these actions.I don't get it She has done more harm than he ever could
Regardless of what your ex or the courts have done to destroy you and your relationship with your child, being a loving parent is always the right thing to do.
Many alienators play games with the targeted parents life. They are cold, callous and manipulative. They will stop at nothing to "win".
Unfortunately, your story is very common. I am so sorry for your pain and the humiliation that your ex and the courts have subjected you too, in an effort to protect your daughter.
Most people have no idea just how corrupt and biased our system can be. Until they have an occassion in their own lives to face our legal system first hand and realize that there is no justice and truth doesn't matter.
Until it is their life or their children, ours will be just another sad story with no real meaning and certainly no consequences to those in power.
Any government that has the power to take our children has way to much power!
Yes it is like war. A terrible, personal attack on you and your children.
And the government (it really doesn't matter which one) not only sanctions this type of abuse, they actually promote it through a corrupt and inept legal system.
How sad for us all, but especially the children...
I can feel your pain. I only wish my children's father had wanted them in his life as you obviously want your children in your life. I have remained single, mostly because I don't want my children to feel abandoned by my starting another relationship, as their father has done. At least he is complete in his abandoment. He plays no role in their lives, and I'm all they have. I will never make them feel like they're anything other than the most important people in my life.
Thanks for your empathy. Yes it is a pain that is with me every day of my life.
I am really sorry to hear about the choice that your children's father made. He has lost much more than he will ever know. I am also sorry for your pain.
Thanks for doing what you can to reinforce your children's worth and their value with unconditional love. Bravo!
I totally agree with you.. 100% as I know someone going through this.. Total abuse on the part of the parent doing this to the kid, with court assistance, and delivery... It makes me literally ill that a parent has the "legal" rights to just emotionally and spiritually torture the absent parent and the kids at hand.
I was required to "prove" I was a good parent...the smallest negative remark from the psychiatrists or social worker against me was used to extinguish my parental rights, where the Parental Alienation Syndrome and Hostile Agressive Parenting of their psychopathic mothers were ignored and never evaluated. Worst abusers of me and my children? The new stepfathers!
It's very sad to hear the same story over & over again.
The courts are totally irresponsibile when it comes to fullfilling their duty to protect these children. But they are very much responsible for perpetuating this type of abuse. It is sickening...
I am sorry for your pain, and most of all for your childrens pain. And loss of a loving father in their life.
surely it deprives a child when one parent deliberately alienates a child from the other without any good cause.
but what's worse is when a seriously abusive custodial parent does it. the children don't have a chance at all in such circumstances. it's twice as bad, they get no supportiveness or love from the non abusive parent because they are taught not to accept it!
That is the case most of the time. It is the custodial parent that wields the power of the courts in a child's life.
That power can (and often is) easily abused by the alienating parent. It is tragic and totally irresponsible of any parent to do this great evil to a child.
i havent seen my little girl for five years dont no were she lives if she ok nothing i no wat people go frew my heart bleeds every day i dont see her.i have 4 kids now they are all going to have good jobs to help stop this tyranny god willing. italianman1 thanks for the bible verse it was uplifting rnischalke your day will come like mine god bless are chilldren and keep them safe
I am so sorry to hear about your beatiful daughter. I am sorry for your pain as well.
It sounds like your other children are aware of the situation and trying to help. that is a wonderful thing to hear. So often the siblings afffected by this crime are forgotten.
Thanks for your compassion for others going through the same thing, and for your words of encouragement regarding my sons.
Rnischalke, You have two beautiful kids. Very nice video- hopefully some Judges are watching it and learning from it.
I feel for you and being a grown man- I have cried many evenings learning about this evil syndrome. The only real thing I have learned is to never ever give up- fight the fight- To Fight darkness-in accordance to the way God wants us to fight as written in Romans 12-17-21. These words are amazing. God Bless
Like you, I hope that judges, attorneys and even alienators themselves will watch and turn away from this horrible form of abuse that destroys our families and chidren.
Rnischalke, I have cried watching your video this summer because, I was experiencing the same with my 2 children. It has been extremely difficult last 14 months. I have learned one thing. Never ever give up-ever! fight the fight in accorcance to God's way- written in Romans 12-14 and 12-17-21. This is God's Request. This is difficult for our souls to understand. It works trust me. God Bless
Thank you my friend. I am very sorry to hear about your precious children. It is quite obvious that they have been robbed from a parent that loves them deeply. It is all too common these days.
I lift my sons to Him in prayer every day of my life...
My family is going thru the same thing right now. My mom was accused of this and my brother has been gone for 4 years. We are trying to get him back but it feels as tho we're going no where. My thoughts are with you. If you have a chance to watch my Parental Alienation video, I'd appriciate it. Another voice will help the battle against this awful acusation. Thank you.
I will watch your video. I'm really sorry that you have lost a brother to such a sad and sick form of abuse. Most of the time I hear from parents, grandparents and children that have lived through this. I very rarely hear from a sibling . It really sucks doesn't it? It's wrong and you wish someone would make it stop but no one that really cares, has the power to make it stop. Stay strong, learn from what you've experienced and don't repeat it in your life
I love your video........ however, I have been cut out of my children's lives for 10 years by a hateful judge with a history of payoffs in my case, which I can prove. I am the mother in this case. Dad sexually molested my daughters.
I am so sorry to hear about the injustice of the courts, and the sickness of anyone that would molest any child, especially their own.
I am deeply saddened to hear what has happended to those innocent children. It makes me angry to even think about it.
I am under no illusion that PA is gender specific, nor is abuse. I could care less who the perpetrator is, it's wrong and it's sick any time a parent "uses" a child to meet their own selfish needs!
Cont: Those kids are brainwashed and its sad that USA courts allow this to happn. I hate my father and ex sis in law for doing this but I believe in KARMA. I hope they will come around and realized there are 2 sides to every story. But until then I wish them peace and love. This is human abuse! Shame on our society. Thats what happen with TOO MANY RIGHTS!!!!!!!!!!!
How terribly sad for all of you. What a dysfunctional mess the whole family has become.
I am really sorry to hear about your situation, especially what has been done to those poor children.
It makes me sick every time I hear about adults that should be protecting children, who end up abusing them for their own purposes. Usually just to hurt someone else.
Pass the lesson you have learned on to others. Attacking someone else through children destroys those children
My ex sis inlaw keep my mom and I from seeng my nieces and nephew due to bitterness. She only allow my dad 2 see them b/c my mom and dad divorce. These two bitter peeps had turned my niece and newphen against us. They felt like we did not care about them for over 15 yrs. My father would not even tell me where they had moved. My bro had even tryied to find them but the courts said he would have to have an address.
"Rnischalke" You have beautiful kids. I know what u have been going through. I have been through that also, but I won joint Custody, after a long fight. I wish you good luck. Hopefully more People MAN and WOMEN will come with us and join Organisations for Father's rights.
My friend, thanks for the comment about my sons. I agree they are beautiful.
It's nice to hear about a targeted parent gaining rigts in our system instead of losing them. Unfortunately, that is extremely rare.
I too, wish that more parents (and other friends and relatives) that have been affected by PA, would take action against this brutal form of child abuse and injustice in our court system.
Sorry to hear about the proposed changes. If they pass those changes it is going to get really bad, really fast...
And yes I agree it is totally disgusting to think that our politicans and judges are the decision makers concerning our children. Talk about having a fox guarding the chicken house!
thank you so very much for your prayers. now if only i were wrong about him, hes really bad into alcohol...i dont know if theres anything anybody can do for him, EXCEPT God, thats why we all gotta keep praying for everything, because no one can help things like these, except him.
so ill just keep praying, and ill pray for you too.
I am so sorry about your situation. I want to thank you for mentioning the grandparents.I am a grandparent who has been cut off from my grandchildren. My son and his wife are not split up but they keep us away from our grandkids. I have a myspace account for my grandkids to find us. I have a grandparents support group. One grandmother I know set up a myspace. A few days later her grand dau found her on myspace. They ha:ve since been reunited in person. I have a myspacehope my gks find me
You can also set up a website specifically for your grandchildren. Go to Google and type in Keeeping Families Connected. Our website is ranked #1 on page 1. It will explain in detail how to keep in contact using a website for them.
Hope that helps!
May God bless you and those precious children. what a tragedy for everyone involved.
No, I haven't had contact with them for years. My oldest will turn 18 soon. He was always a smart kid. Although he may have been coerced into going along with his mother's progam for a while, heaven help her when he figures out what really happened.
My youngest just turned 15, but even at an early age he had a will and mind of his own.
They will both stand strong and clear-headed someday. And no one will be able to cover up the path of lies and deception...
I'm sorry... but it sometimes embarrasses me to admit that I am a woman. Women are (for the most part) the ones who practice this abusive behavior. How lost would I be without my father in my life!
Yes, statistically women far out number men in this type of behavior.
But regardless, this is abuse every single time one parent turns their children against the other parent. I don't care what gender, color, ethnic background people are, it is sick and it is wrong.
In addition, don't be embarrassed, I am currently married to the finest woman I have ever known. It is a privlege to be married to her. Healthy women are a gift to us all.
For all the new psychology, research, PhD's, legislations, basic commonsense laws, society just cant progress. The legal system holds onto the same old games - such a sad cynism/ contempt against a society wishing to improve...
For all their rhetoric about progress and enlightenment, and protecting children, the legal system is just as corrupt and blind as it has ever been. And they dare us to try and change them.
I am a mum suffering from the games of the Law, the only thing keeping me sane is knowing thousands of dads have had to suffer this Evil for many many years....
You are welcome. It is very hard to share my sons and my journey with so many people around the world. There are 2 reasons I do so.
1. To help others like us know that they are not alone and there is hope.
2. To bring awareness to others how horrible this form of abuse is to the children and families involved.
And you are right, no one can destroy that bond, but they can destroy their own children with their need to control and hate the other parent. How very sad...
It's not easy sharing this part of my life with the rest of the world. But if I can help prevent one parent or one child from being subjected to this abuse by raising awareness, than it is worth it...
Every time I see a father with his little children, when I watch a child ride their bike or take their first step. When I watch a movie where families love and value each other instead of destroy each other.
When I hear a song like "It's a wonderful world" or "Over the rainbow". When I want to teach them about, life, love, integrity, courage and gentleness. Early in the morning, late at night. And most of all, in my dreams. That's all I have for now...
i would love to use your video for a child development class I have. I am doing a presentation on PAS because it is happening to my husband and his children. Is there a way to copy the video from youtube or your web site?
My heart really goes out to you and your boys. Having a father in your life is a necessity and a privilege. Nothing can compensate what a father can provide his children, not even a thousand good mothers can equate what fathers give.
To you and to all fathers out there, keep on fighting to be with your children.
(Cont) - I have never said one bad word to my little girl about her (lack of) father. One day she will figure it out on her own, as your children will also, and they will be justifiably outraged at the people who kept you out of their lives for so many years.
Hang in there....this time WILL pass, and they will be back with their father who loves them so much.
Thank you for loving your daughter more than having a need to strike back at her father through her.
I'm sure that it is not a small temptation at times to express your sadness and anger at his choice with each passing holiday etc.
Thanks for being healthy and wise enough to put her needs first.
That's the primary difference bewteen an alienating parent and a loving, healthy one. We're able to put the children FIRST. Not just pretend, but actually loving them in our actions
No, I would never do that to her. I also want her to know how valued and precious her life is, and when she asks who her father is, I tell her, he lives far away and he loves her very much. I have given him our number, our address, pretty much begged him to show her he cares, but he does nothing. I refuse to sink to that level and I will not use her as a pawn. What goes around comes around. Your sons are so fortunate to have you - God Bless.
What a beautiful video, what beautiful boys! I am so sorry your children are being used as pawns, this happens far too much. They deserve to have you in their lives, as you deserve them. I wish the father of my child cared 1 millionth as much as you do about his daughter. He has never given me one cent to support her, basically walked out of our lives altogether. I have not seen him since I was 4 months pregnant. One day, your boys will know the truth. THey will be back and they will be furious.
I am sorry that your daughter's father chose not to be a part of her life (and yours) how sad.
He has no idea what a blessing he has missed by not being involved in his child's life.
And certainly has no idea what harm his choice has caused her either.
As far as my sons being furious, I hope not. I'm sure that they will be justifiably angry, and they should be. They need to work through it ,and not become bitter from it.
Women who take their kids away from the father are bitches, evil, dike, feminists. Men take back your power! Do everything you can to fight to change our female culture.
I understand the depth of pain, outrage and anger that you have expressed. I have been living the nightmare for over 10 years now.
Having said that, although there are no names adequate to describe the sinful, sick, evil and vile individuals that would steal our children from us, remember this, they are not all women.
Although the predatory courts do favor women most of the time, there are many wonderful women & mothers that have lost children to sick & twisted men as well.
I have just got done answering emails for the last three hours. No, it is not just fathers that suffer injustice from the courts and abuse at the hands of an alienator.
I am very sorry to hear about your son. It is a horrible thing to do to a child...
I want everyone to find me on Facebook. My name is Brian Nathan Godfrey, tell me you saw me comment on youtube and join us, this problem is hurting us all! Children and Fathers all over the world are suffering!
Its very difficult to watch for me. This is in progress for me as well. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and to all Fathers and Mothers for that matter, that are living this situation from EVIL ex-wives, husbands and the like. Something must be done about our court systems who refuse to believe in this form of abuse.
Thanks for your prayers and concern. Our court system feigns ignorance, but exudes arrogance.
Any government that supposedly "serves" it's people, that has the athority to take a child from a parent by force, has just turned it's own people into IT's servant...
They are taking our children from our homes. Wake up people! If it can happen to all of us, it can happen to you or those you love!
Thanks so much for your prayers and words of kindness. May God bless you and your family.
And you are right, it IS too horrible for words.
Some doctors have likened the effects of PAS to post traumatic syndrome. Except this never ends because you are subjected to this life-altering trauma again every day you wake up.
I've spoken to many alienated parents that have lost their children to this abuse. They all agree, although they would never wish it on their child, in many ways it would be easier to deal with the physical death of a child.
It would be traumatic and painful but you'd go through the normal stages of grief and at some point begin to heal from the loss.
This is a heart-wrenching and recurring grief that never ever ends.
This has happened to me & it is like the death on your kids never to be able to see them & watch them grow up because of a heartless if you want to call her a mother.
The time has come to stop the brothers and sisters of perpetual revenge from stealing their children and for being so heartless. I call them this as for them it is never over.May be get all lawmakers in Canada and the USA to do something about this. Just don't give them ammunition. Remeber every birthday ect and don't forget to pay the support. You are all in my prayers
Unfortunately I agree. For an alienator it is never over until they destroy everyone around them in their quest to appear whole. They desparately fear that people will see them for who they are, broken and pathetic people that need help. And they don't need any ammunition either. You can send your children birthday gifts that they never receive or "they don't want". You can pay every cent of child support and your children are told that you aren't. The facts never stop an alienator...
My son Christopher committed suicide Nov 13, 2008. He was a victim of Parental Alienation and the resulting depression. PAS is VERY REAL and very lethal. Would that all alienating parents realize this and get help. My prayers are for all the parents and children who are experiencing this hell on earth. Continue to pray that God would open blind eyes, soften hardened hearts, and heal the wounded.
I don't understand how some women can do this to their children. I am a divorced mom and if my ex forgets to send a birthday gift I put one in the mailbox from him, the smile on my childs face when they open gifts from dad makes me happier than anything. Why do some people want to make their children unhappy just to make themselves feel better because they have gotten one over on the ex?
If you do some research on what motivates an alienator, you'll find that it's usually spite, and the need to control and manipulate others. They have an insatiable need for acceptance and love from the people around them. They are emotionally damaged and crippled individuals that value their own "feelings" more than the well being of their children. Most of them pretend to be the victims "doing what is best" for the children.
Their behavior should shame them but it never will.
I am a female and I see this all the time, women saying something bad about their childs father, something small...but ongoing. What does a child know except what we teach them? I will never say anything bad about my childrens father, if he forgets a birthday I put a gift in the mailbox FROM him...why are some women so selfish? Seeing my childs face when they get a gift from dad is rewarding enough for me, I will never understand why some women want to hurt their children.
Thank you from every father that has ever had a vicious ex wife destroy their relationship with their children.
Thanks for being healthy and unselfish enough to put your children's well being above your own feelings or thoughts about your ex.
You said you don't understand how some women want to hurt their own children. It is obvious from your comment that you can't relate because you are HEALTHY and TRULY love your children. It isn't just lip-service and image for you...
My ex left 5 years ago when things got tough and took my Boys from me I havn't seen them since she just left and the courts did nothing too stop her she left Mi and moved to Tx I miss them so much and would do anything to move there so I could see them not just pics off Facebook I get to talk to them on the phone now and then and I send Christmas presents I miss them so much!
bartenderbill40 3 weeks ago
I am so sick and tired of ignorant Americans thinking that children are removed from good parents because the parents did something wrong. Government agencies should not be allowed to "manage" families. When you mix power,politics, and money into family, it is killed. I've seen my fair share of parents who falsely accuse and destroy the lives of their children simply for the basis of custody. WRONG.
LynRuiz 1 month ago
Rick, So sorry to hear you are another victim. I agree with you that parents should not do this horrible (unpunishable) crime! I am also a father and a victim of this crime by the mother.
I have written a book as a case study about my experience called "Divorce Rape" as I was raped by the family court systems. Available at lulu.com/spotlight/abecfathers I want people to know about this terrible problem.
abecfathers 1 month ago
Here’s an inspiring story of a man who, in 1930, demonstrated for the right to be a father father in Washington D.C. It is the earliest case of a public father’s rights protest I know of. James Welch: The Father Who Would Not Give Up” (with photos that will surprise you) @ The Unknown History of MISANDRY
pkpapers 1 month ago
very sad only the most abusive controlling parent will target a deserving parent as such even to coerce a child repetitively to confuse a young children how do you unteach a child how do you defend and protect
JoaniMac1 2 months ago
I am so sorry to hear that and just know you are not alone.. I have been living in that pain for close to 3 years... I call all the time and never get to talk to him.. I use youtube!! He sees me, they are dated, he knows Im healthy and missing him and loving him and that I am proud of him! The videos do not lie, she does. Watch them please and consider reaching out like that!!! Chris Belanger to Weston Belanger on google or on youtube.. God Bless.
xpro77 2 months ago
Thanks for this video and thanks for your excellent website. You are right that PA is child abuse, and that children are the primary victims. The irony is that the kids won't realized it until they are adults, and it is too late. There are so many stories out there by adults lamenting the loss of a huge chunk of their childhood which will never be recovered. Please check my own video. Thanks.
father99782 3 months ago
Amazing, heartfelt video. This abuse is rampant, and most of the perpetrators never stop or face punishment. I recommend to others BrainwashingChildren com to parents whose children have been turned against them. Don't ever give up on your cuties! I promise they'll one day see the truth....
SteinbeckFamily 3 months ago
Willful blindness....... the legal term for knowing you have a duty to investigate something but look the other way. GOVERNOR Rick Perry is guilty of willful blindness..... in this case! Governor Perry actually hid proof of felonies given to him and lied to me in person about taking action! Please youtube or google my name before voting for him to be our next President! The disturbed video explains what he covered up ! My upcoming book will shock countless who support Texas!
amyandmarkel 5 months ago
There also doesn't seem to be any recognition in our society or the media of parents who don't stoop to this hurtful behaviour. It doesn't hurt to give a pat on the back to any couple who, although they cannot keep their love relationship together, make an effort from both sides to ensure the children respect both parents and have many opportunities to spend time bonding with both. Some will say you don't need to praise ppl for doing what they should but I think it helps everyone.
MsColdCanada 6 months ago
Most attorneys & women's supporters advise moms to make False Abuse Allegations as normal, primary means to win custody & divorce, winner takes all. 3/4 of divorced DADS in my area experience false allegations PLUS parental alienation.
Most parental alienation accompanies HER false allegations resulting in mothers having sole custody with most dads alienated from their kids.
Most GAL's & other court hangers-on support the rot lest they lose their seat at this banquet on children's flesh.
addvoc8 7 months ago
These People Are Perverts & Criminals Who Enjoy
The Wages & Benefits of Legalized Human Trafficking
In The Courts That Are Making Merchandise of Children.
44AlphaMale44 7 months ago
This scenario has happened to me, a woman. I've been called submissive because I have not taken the other parent to court,but I refrain, for them. It seems that the parent that acts like a victim feels justified in teaching the children to hate and distrust the other parent. Victim mentality incorporates blaming and never taking responsibility in ones on decisions/actions. Message: if you marry someone with that mentality, chances are that they will use the kids to propogate :mirror effect.
caracre 8 months ago
if the courts allows these scumbag to do this then the courts have to go!
johnjacob771 9 months ago
criminal charges and severe punishment, considering the prevalence and seriousness of the crime, the cold malice and premeditated psychological and physical abuse of innocent defenseless little children deserves the death penalty. for all the social consequences and the pure spitefulness of it. this particular crime has to be punished horribly because it has become so prevalent and the character of the people who perpetrate it. may God be with us all. i see myself in all those pictures
iorixs 11 months ago
A father/mom cheats on his partner, insults him in front of their kids, fights each other no matter if the kids are listening, and when divorces comes up is all about hurting each other with the children. Law says that women must have the custody in kids under 12 years old, unless the male has proof of she being a bad mother or bad example. Law is not broken, is people who is using the system in the wrong way.
Divorce is healthy, hate is not. At the end the kids will know the causes n judge it
AkireRosales 11 months ago
I am a woman and this happened to me and it happened to us as children of divorce.
It happens all the time both mothers and fathers are affected. Some do it to each other.
So do not isolate this as a father only sorrow.
We should be on side of what this really is, parents forcing their child to choose and punishing the other parent.
Horrible damage to the child. So the best thing is to get out of the way of selfishness and STOP hurting ones children.
wwwpower1 11 months ago 2
wwwpower1,
I can feel your passion and pain. I'm sorry that you have experienced such horrible treatment.
This video is not gender specific. If you pay attention to the details, you will find that it addresses all parents not just mothers. It is however written from a father's point of view because I am one. That is my real life experience. Just like you have yours.
This video clearly shows that no parent should be selfish enough to destroy their own children. Man or woman...
rnischalke 11 months ago
@rnischalke
Sorry, I should have read your link first.Delete my comment, I do see that you understand taking the higher road.
I am reading through your site now. Thank you for bringing awareness.
wwwpower1 11 months ago
@wwwpower1 yes, it is not a father only problem, but domestic violence is not a mother only problem or a woman only problem either; yet we are conditioned by the outlets of entertainment that are accessible to us to think that way. I don't want to be a sexist, but I do feel that men are marginalized a whoel lot more than women are when it comes to domestic issues such as custody, paternity, and abuse. I almost wanna be biased by default based on the level of injustice and unfairness I witnessed.
RedFlagCoalition 10 months ago
@wwwpower1 I NEVER NEW THIS TYPE OF PAIN BEFORE !! I know it now and I can feel your pain and loss NOW .SOooo sorry.
RETIREMESOON 1 month ago
GREAT Vid. Agree 100% My father married an aberrant woman who did the same thing. After they divorced, we spent the next next 5+ years listening to her trashing and raging towards our father, trying to make us hate him. she used to scream that we were "just like him". It destroyed our lives but we all escaped alive. looking back, we know he was a good dad while he had the chance to be one & so will your kids. She CAN stop the man from showing love because if he isn't there, he can't show it.
jasproul 11 months ago
It is a very bad abuse against a chil,i am a victm of PAS,i was forbidden to see my father when i was 7 years old,and i am madly angry with people who says it doesnt exist,denying it for me is the same of denying Holocaust,and i dont know how law of developed countries hadnt figure out that it is a crime.
Lukenetpsbsb 1 year ago
We can never find justice at the hands of corrupt judges. (See YouTube videos) Judge to Judge on Illegal Payments to Judges / Evil Triangle of Court Corruption / Richard Fine / Dr Shirley Moore slush funds /SBX 211. To end this title wave of corruption in our country must start with the corrupt judges. We can not bring evidence of corruption to corrupt judges. Los Angeles Superior Court judges are illegally and unconstitutionally taking 50,000.00 each for a total of 23 million per year.
danielcooper1000 1 year ago
I am a mother, victim of PAS perpetrated by my childrens father. I cannot even begin to explain the agony of what it is that I am going through right now, but trust that I know your pain. I have been living this nightmare for the last several years and was even told by one of the CPS case workers that I have NO CHOICE but to play his game if Im going to have any chance of coming out of this with my kids but I just cant bring myself to do that. I have since lost my children due to false allegatio
bw33p 1 year ago
@bw33p sux, the sistem is screwed!
Kenshiroit 1 year ago
I too am a father facing this situation. The system IS set-up in women's favor. They are encouraged, & feel justified, in making the most horrific, outrageous accusations against men in order to win favor in the courts eyes.
In the end, the result is usually the same: The father fights to keep contact with his children but is wiped out financially in the end & usually loses "custody."
There is a growing Men's movement that will hopefully change things for future generations. SPEAK OUT!
TSM8088 1 year ago
@TSM8088 sorry to hear you're going thru this ... as I did and so many others have to. And as our kids have to ... Do you have any visitation? Used to fly bck n forth cross-country myself ... Dramatizing the situation in an upcoming film which I hope will shed more light on the issue. For the longest time, once my situation was resolved (after a long, painful, expensive 6 yr struggle), I just wanted to circle the wagons with my family and forget ... Now the film's my way of speaking out.
TargetPractice08 1 year ago
Among all the dirty, nasty tricks my ex used during divorce litigation, she also employed the so-called "silver bullet" by accusing me of abusing, even molesting my child!
I was the primary parent as the father. I take tremendous pride in the way I raised my daughter. That someone could be so low as to use accusations like this is still difficult for me to understand. I know my daughter loves me very much, but she now llives across country with my ex... who had the legal system on her side.
TSM8088 1 year ago
it is a horrible form of abuse when this happens, not just to the parent but to the children alone. Realize this, that it's cross gender. It doesn't just happen to fathers, but equally to many mothers. I'm a victim of parent alienation as well. I lost my four kids to hate. I'm in contact with them all the time, giving them love and support. The ultimate healing tool is surrender, forgiveness and love. Check out my url .Domesticabuserecovery if you need more support.
eadler27 1 year ago
Thank you for posting this somber reminder....I cried through the video. I hope your situation has improved. I have not seen or talked to my daughter in over two years now.
MsBrandy76 1 year ago
Rick, how is your relationship wuth your kids now? -Laszlo Laz2versace@yahoo.com
laz2versace 1 year ago
@laz2versace absolutely wonderful, thanks ... they know how much they're loved and they're doing great
TargetPractice08 1 year ago
I dealt with PAS for 6 yrs ... non-stop lies and accusations ... but the truth FINALLY worked its way out in court and it's the basis for an upcoming movie called "What Tigers Do" ... crazy thing, tho, I'd bet my ex would claim she's the victim and that I'm the one who turned the kids against HER ... I say "bet" because no one's heard from her in 5 yrs, when the kids stopped obeying her twisted demands she just took off and disappeared ... there's hope in these battles, just stay the course
TargetPractice08 1 year ago
Sorry you are going through this...you are not alone. I will never understand how parents can do this to their own children. I have panic attacks at night thinking about my situation with my son. I try to think that things happen for a reason....and remember that God makes decisions for us (not other people). I know they will know the truth one day...hopefully sooner than later. Many mothers could only wish to have a loving father like you for their children.
33dolce 1 year ago
My husband got his daughter back after ten years!! One more daughter to go. IT is possible.
shellygwar 1 year ago
This is a wonderful, buy sad film...I thank you for this, as I miss my daughter so much...she is 20 now....
marypoppins2009 1 year ago
It also happens to Mothers and Grandmothers. My soon to be son-in-law is a terrible man. He has turned his two older chilldren, 12 & 10, against their Mother and Me (Her Mother) with lies, and more lies. How could anyone do this to their own children? It is the ultimate hate crime.
daylilypeony 1 year ago
to me Parental Alienation Syndrome is child abuse
NarutoCuti 1 year ago
It is not only women who alienate children from the other parent. Men do it too. I agree however, that most of the time, it does seem to be the women in the majority of cases. It's all about making you suffer by removing your relationship with the children - not only removing it, but making them HATE you as much as he/she hates you. All the while not caring how they mess up the kids. When the kids end up with problems as teenagers/adults - the alienating parent blames YOU for it. :-(
blueshadowes 1 year ago
I am sorry to see anyone suffer this form of torture... I have been living this reality for just over 4 years now and it is only getting worse with each attempt I make to overcome it. Seeing that I am not alone does help to keep me motivated to find a way to protect my child from this abuse. Thank you for sharing your touching situation in this video. My hopes go out to you and your children and anyone subjected to this form of horrific abuse.
justintime909 1 year ago
@justintime909 ever feel like its a chunk of your soul takin away?? i feel like im only 3/4 sorta... when i watched and thought about this video
jaso19 1 year ago
im a mother with which this has happened to me i havent seen my 2 youngest for nearly 5 years i miss and love them loads ross and immy one day you will know the truth i promise you both this xxxxxx
penzandpaul 1 year ago
After 13 years of alienation my 17 year old daughter mustered enough courage to sneak away and call me...The next day her mother had her cell phone disabled.
All those b-day and Christmas cards I mailed intercepted by their mother...no phone contact...Jeez, even prisoners are allowed phone and mail privileges...I can tell you it has not only destroyed my life...but major emotional distress for my two daughters.
BTW: I LOVE YOU ASHLEY AND TAYLOR! Regardless of what you have been told.
FORMETOKNOWONLY 1 year ago
Dude, this totally blew my mind! I never knew this existed. (The laws against P.A., or P A for that matter). Your video was very nice, and touching too.
MarlanGero 1 year ago
I am experiencing this right now. I have just started the Facebook group "Alienated Dads". Through my research, I found your video. I would love to hear more of your story. Thank you, and I am right there with you.
Bryan Eaves
bryaneaves 1 year ago
Oh My god. I saw my little girl for the firt time in two years last week and I couldnt understand why she was so different. The pain of those two years came back and I said things in anger that actually make me look the person that I have been accused of. I now believe its just a matter of time before I m told that I m never allowed to see my daughter again. God help us both and please forgive my stupididty sweetheart. I love you so much
amberleef20 1 year ago
I am going through this now in the worst way..Only seen my daughter two times this year. SOMEONE PLEASE HELP!!!!! I MISS HER SO MUCH!!
SacredSocietyAP 1 year ago
I feel for you, I want to see my kids so bad... I love you Emily Grace and Matthew James.
sumppl 1 year ago
Goddamn it, man. You made me cry. I feel for you, brother. I'm going through a nasty, nasty divorce right now. My wife keeps my son away from me, and it KILLS me every day. I miss him so much. I see him some, but not nearly as much as I should. I see him 8 days per month.. for NO REASON other than that my wife is an angry, bitter, narcissistic woman. It hurts so bad. I hope your situation has improved. Nobody - I mean NOBODY - deserves this type of hurt.
ckinsey77 1 year ago
@ckinsey77 hope your situation has gotten better
TargetPractice08 1 year ago
nice video, leave God out of the next one. Keep on fighting.
huluftw 1 year ago
This really needs to stop. The punishment for this type of crime should be very harsh. I think they should be held financially responsible for all counseling and family reunification expenses, Family field trips and and every expense it takes to pull this family back together.
TBozz2003 1 year ago 2
@TBozz2003,
I certainly agree with everything that you have stated with one exception, I would take it much further than that.
After studying the effects that this type of abuse has on children and living through the hell caused by this type of reprehensible behavior and selfishness, I would support Criminal charges and penalties against these perpetrators.
rnischalke 1 year ago
It is sad to say but many men suffer at the hands of women who mistreat them by using children as a weapon and who disregard the teaching that children are the fruit of marriage and not the reason for marriage.
More attention needs to be brought to this issue and soon.
themalina92 1 year ago
@themalina92,
Thanks for your thoughts on this matter. Unfortunately, you are right on the mark. There are greater and greater numbers of women using and abusing their children to attack and control their ex-spouses.
That IS NOT to say that there aren't fathers using the same kind of tactics against excellent mothers. It goes both ways, but the overwhelming statistics are certainly against fathers, and always against the precious children.
rnischalke 1 year ago
I''m passing through thid hell. It can be called as death in life. Parents can fight, but be decent, not using child as a weapon, that will destroy the child future balance and restrains for further dialogue between father and mother
tozeleitao 1 year ago
@tozeleitao,
I am very sorry friend.
Every targeted parent out there would agree, it is a living hell on earth for those of us that have lost our children to this type of abuse. It is even sadder for the children...
rnischalke 1 year ago
Theres got to be away to turn this evil around....Im in Minnesota any groups out there I want to join them.....
dweeble413 1 year ago
dweeble413,
dweeble413,
Go to Google and type in "Keeping Families Connected" - there are many resources to help you through this.
You should be able to find someone in your area.
God bless you my friend.
rnischalke 1 year ago
I just want to say ****** I miss u so much....waiting 4 yeah....love you
dweeble413 1 year ago
dweeble413,
I will pray for both you and the un-named but very loved child in your post.
I like you am waiting for my sons...
rnischalke 1 year ago
thank u...ill pray for u too.....I just got my court papers trying to hold my ex in contempt.....denied they dont care...sucks...Ive exhausted all my resourses and im broke.....Im finished I guess
dweeble413 1 year ago
dweeble413,
I can feel the pain and hopelessness in your words. I am so sorry...
I know it sounds harsh but it is true, that's exactly how our system is set up. To absolutely crush any opposition to the courts will. And that usually translates into whatever the custodial parent's will is as well.
We hear these type of horror stories from around the world at our site every day. So many of the judges are filled with such arrogance it is sickening.
They will be judged in the end...
rnischalke 1 year ago
Please, tell me this.... how to I tell my kids that their 'father' left them voluntarily to be with another woman - in another state? How do I tell them that he now spends his vacations, his time, his attention on HER kids, and has neglected, and abandoned THEM? He has inflicted parental alienation upon them HIMSELF. They do hate him, and rightfully so.
LoriDyanne 1 year ago
LoriDyanne,
I am sorry for your entire family. What a sad story that any parent would voluntarily walk away from their children.
Although it doesn't appear that he has attempted any PA tactics against you or them, he certainly has alienated the children from himself. How very sad.
Perhaps one day he will figure it out. But no one can make up for the time and love your children have already lost.
I wish you and your children the best...
rnischalke 1 year ago
Thank you, and I know how devastating this is for my kids - my father did the same to me and my sister when we were young.. just left and started another family. And the saddest part about the whole thing is that my ex PROMISED me he wouldn't do that to our kids. We were married for 15 years and had been together for 23 when he left. A college educated man did this knowingly to his own kids. I will never forgive him for what he's done to them. And neither will they. You are an awesome dad.
LoriDyanne 1 year ago
LoriDyanne,
It's especially sad to see the same thing repeated in more than one generation.
Although it may seem impossible to do, you really need to come to a place where you can forgive your ex.
Not for his sake but for you and your children's.
It's imperative for you to stay healthy and whole and that isn't possible if you are eaten up with unforgiveness. It's appropriate to be angry and hurt. Just don't let it destroy you or your children. Don't give him that power over any of you
rnischalke 1 year ago
@LoriDyanne -- I came from a home where my dad up and left with another woman. What pissed me off more then my dad doing that, was my mother's hate for my dad. You need to be stronger for your kids. Your life played out the way it is.. now deal with it, so your kids grow up to be loving happy people. This is about them now, NOT you. I am sorry for your loss, but please don't play a victim, Your kids deserve at least ONE dependable person!
Melindaca2 1 year ago
Melindaca2,
Thanks for sharing a from child's perspective the influence that both parents can have on their children in these type of situations.
It's difficult for everyone invloved. And I would always agree that it is about the children and not the parents every time.
It doesn't mean that the parents don't matter because they do very much. But those children NEED the parents to protect them from everything they can, including even themselves when it's appropriate.
rnischalke 1 year ago
i feel so sorry for anyone who has to go through this
118chazzy 2 years ago
118chazzy,
Thank you for your kind words of compassion.
I pray that you never experience any part of such horrible abuse.
Bless you my friend.
rnischalke 2 years ago
Dad's are not the only parent that are alienated from their child/children. Our grandson is going through the worse abuse of this I have ever seen. The family cannot wrap it's head around this disturbing behavior.
Delliott
gibsonbfgman 2 years ago
gibsonbfgman,
No, unfortunately this abusive behaviour knows no gender limitations. If you read through the comments on this video, it is obvious that all it takes is one broken and selfish parent to inflict this pain on their children and their ex-spouse.
As far as being able to "wrap your head around" this type of behavior, it is almost impossible. Because you are sane, rational and actually value the children being abused. That is never the case with an abuser...
rnischalke 2 years ago
My Friend is sitting in jail, due to his ex thinking he is a bad father(for whatever reason. She has done everything to remove dad from kids lives-pushed him out of the home, restraining order, exuberant amt of child support, request for his deportation. Her actions to remove a male figure out of kids lives is a total child abuse. I can't imagine what person does this to their kids-she thinks she is superior in parenting with these actions.I don't get it She has done more harm than he ever could
Melindaca2 1 year ago
Melindaca2,
I couldn't agree more with everything you said. How incredibly sad.
rnischalke 1 year ago
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dweeble413 1 year ago
dweeble413,
Regardless of what your ex or the courts have done to destroy you and your relationship with your child, being a loving parent is always the right thing to do.
Many alienators play games with the targeted parents life. They are cold, callous and manipulative. They will stop at nothing to "win".
Unfortunately, your story is very common. I am so sorry for your pain and the humiliation that your ex and the courts have subjected you too, in an effort to protect your daughter.
rnischalke 1 year ago
Im living this in my own blood and have faced the injustice of the law system.
bongoxv27 2 years ago
bongoxv27,
I am sorry my friend.
Most people have no idea just how corrupt and biased our system can be. Until they have an occassion in their own lives to face our legal system first hand and realize that there is no justice and truth doesn't matter.
Until it is their life or their children, ours will be just another sad story with no real meaning and certainly no consequences to those in power.
Any government that has the power to take our children has way to much power!
rnischalke 2 years ago
I concur - It really IS the Ultimate Hate Crime.
A child taught to love another man and to hate you makes near impossible to develop a relationship.
It is like a nation invading another nation.
It is war.
How ironic when the US invades a nation the world doesn't oppose it.
Isn't that what the US and it's allies did when Hitler invaded Europe?
But it will support the mother who leaves the father and teaches the children to hate him and to love another.
double-standards
Twinhit 2 years ago
Twinhit,
Yes it is like war. A terrible, personal attack on you and your children.
And the government (it really doesn't matter which one) not only sanctions this type of abuse, they actually promote it through a corrupt and inept legal system.
How sad for us all, but especially the children...
rnischalke 2 years ago
Dear Twinhit..
I can feel your pain. I only wish my children's father had wanted them in his life as you obviously want your children in your life. I have remained single, mostly because I don't want my children to feel abandoned by my starting another relationship, as their father has done. At least he is complete in his abandoment. He plays no role in their lives, and I'm all they have. I will never make them feel like they're anything other than the most important people in my life.
LoriDyanne 1 year ago
LoriDyanne,
Thanks for your empathy. Yes it is a pain that is with me every day of my life.
I am really sorry to hear about the choice that your children's father made. He has lost much more than he will ever know. I am also sorry for your pain.
Thanks for doing what you can to reinforce your children's worth and their value with unconditional love. Bravo!
rnischalke 1 year ago
I totally agree with you.. 100% as I know someone going through this.. Total abuse on the part of the parent doing this to the kid, with court assistance, and delivery... It makes me literally ill that a parent has the "legal" rights to just emotionally and spiritually torture the absent parent and the kids at hand.
Melindaca2 1 year ago
Melindaca2,
Once again, you are spot on.
It is abuse. And the courts sanction and promote it on an ongoing basis. It is horrible and needs to be stopped.
rnischalke 1 year ago
I was required to "prove" I was a good parent...the smallest negative remark from the psychiatrists or social worker against me was used to extinguish my parental rights, where the Parental Alienation Syndrome and Hostile Agressive Parenting of their psychopathic mothers were ignored and never evaluated. Worst abusers of me and my children? The new stepfathers!
DoItYourselfGuy 2 years ago
DoItYourselfGuy,
It's very sad to hear the same story over & over again.
The courts are totally irresponsibile when it comes to fullfilling their duty to protect these children. But they are very much responsible for perpetuating this type of abuse. It is sickening...
I am sorry for your pain, and most of all for your childrens pain. And loss of a loving father in their life.
rnischalke 2 years ago
surely it deprives a child when one parent deliberately alienates a child from the other without any good cause.
but what's worse is when a seriously abusive custodial parent does it. the children don't have a chance at all in such circumstances. it's twice as bad, they get no supportiveness or love from the non abusive parent because they are taught not to accept it!
theCosmicQueen 2 years ago
theCosmicQueen,
That is the case most of the time. It is the custodial parent that wields the power of the courts in a child's life.
That power can (and often is) easily abused by the alienating parent. It is tragic and totally irresponsible of any parent to do this great evil to a child.
rnischalke 2 years ago
rnischalke thank u i wish myself to die most days italianman1 thank u to
eleknyari 2 years ago
i havent seen my little girl for five years dont no were she lives if she ok nothing i no wat people go frew my heart bleeds every day i dont see her.i have 4 kids now they are all going to have good jobs to help stop this tyranny god willing. italianman1 thanks for the bible verse it was uplifting rnischalke your day will come like mine god bless are chilldren and keep them safe
eleknyari 2 years ago
eleknyari,
I am so sorry to hear about your beatiful daughter. I am sorry for your pain as well.
It sounds like your other children are aware of the situation and trying to help. that is a wonderful thing to hear. So often the siblings afffected by this crime are forgotten.
Thanks for your compassion for others going through the same thing, and for your words of encouragement regarding my sons.
rnischalke 2 years ago
rnischalke
The first time I watched your video it brought tears to my eyes, because, I realized I am dealing with the same forces of darkness.
Thank you for your video post- hopefully it will educate and possibly change some people's lives.
God Bless
Italiangent1 2 years ago
Italiangent1,
Thank you!
rnischalke 2 years ago
Rnischalke, You have two beautiful kids. Very nice video- hopefully some Judges are watching it and learning from it.
I feel for you and being a grown man- I have cried many evenings learning about this evil syndrome. The only real thing I have learned is to never ever give up- fight the fight- To Fight darkness-in accordance to the way God wants us to fight as written in Romans 12-17-21. These words are amazing. God Bless
Italiangent1 2 years ago
Italiangent1,
Like you, I hope that judges, attorneys and even alienators themselves will watch and turn away from this horrible form of abuse that destroys our families and chidren.
rnischalke 2 years ago
Rnischalke, I have cried watching your video this summer because, I was experiencing the same with my 2 children. It has been extremely difficult last 14 months. I have learned one thing. Never ever give up-ever! fight the fight in accorcance to God's way- written in Romans 12-14 and 12-17-21. This is God's Request. This is difficult for our souls to understand. It works trust me. God Bless
Italiangent1 2 years ago
Italiangent1,
Thank you my friend. I am very sorry to hear about your precious children. It is quite obvious that they have been robbed from a parent that loves them deeply. It is all too common these days.
I lift my sons to Him in prayer every day of my life...
rnischalke 2 years ago
My family is going thru the same thing right now. My mom was accused of this and my brother has been gone for 4 years. We are trying to get him back but it feels as tho we're going no where. My thoughts are with you. If you have a chance to watch my Parental Alienation video, I'd appriciate it. Another voice will help the battle against this awful acusation. Thank you.
4paws4life 2 years ago
4paws4life,
Thanks for your comment!
I will watch your video. I'm really sorry that you have lost a brother to such a sad and sick form of abuse. Most of the time I hear from parents, grandparents and children that have lived through this. I very rarely hear from a sibling . It really sucks doesn't it? It's wrong and you wish someone would make it stop but no one that really cares, has the power to make it stop. Stay strong, learn from what you've experienced and don't repeat it in your life
rnischalke 2 years ago
I love your video........ however, I have been cut out of my children's lives for 10 years by a hateful judge with a history of payoffs in my case, which I can prove. I am the mother in this case. Dad sexually molested my daughters.
JuliasGallery 2 years ago
JuliasGallery,
I am so sorry to hear about the injustice of the courts, and the sickness of anyone that would molest any child, especially their own.
I am deeply saddened to hear what has happended to those innocent children. It makes me angry to even think about it.
I am under no illusion that PA is gender specific, nor is abuse. I could care less who the perpetrator is, it's wrong and it's sick any time a parent "uses" a child to meet their own selfish needs!
May God bless and heal you.
rnischalke 2 years ago
Cont: Those kids are brainwashed and its sad that USA courts allow this to happn. I hate my father and ex sis in law for doing this but I believe in KARMA. I hope they will come around and realized there are 2 sides to every story. But until then I wish them peace and love. This is human abuse! Shame on our society. Thats what happen with TOO MANY RIGHTS!!!!!!!!!!!
crazychile128 2 years ago
crazychile128,
How terribly sad for all of you. What a dysfunctional mess the whole family has become.
I am really sorry to hear about your situation, especially what has been done to those poor children.
It makes me sick every time I hear about adults that should be protecting children, who end up abusing them for their own purposes. Usually just to hurt someone else.
Pass the lesson you have learned on to others. Attacking someone else through children destroys those children
rnischalke 2 years ago
My ex sis inlaw keep my mom and I from seeng my nieces and nephew due to bitterness. She only allow my dad 2 see them b/c my mom and dad divorce. These two bitter peeps had turned my niece and newphen against us. They felt like we did not care about them for over 15 yrs. My father would not even tell me where they had moved. My bro had even tryied to find them but the courts said he would have to have an address.
crazychile128 2 years ago
"Rnischalke" You have beautiful kids. I know what u have been going through. I have been through that also, but I won joint Custody, after a long fight. I wish you good luck. Hopefully more People MAN and WOMEN will come with us and join Organisations for Father's rights.
thestreetdogg 2 years ago
thestreetdogg,
My friend, thanks for the comment about my sons. I agree they are beautiful.
It's nice to hear about a targeted parent gaining rigts in our system instead of losing them. Unfortunately, that is extremely rare.
I too, wish that more parents (and other friends and relatives) that have been affected by PA, would take action against this brutal form of child abuse and injustice in our court system.
rnischalke 2 years ago
i'm from Australia and have recently heard that there may soon be changes to our shared-parenting laws. Disgusting.
i respect you for your passion. never give up.
GirlMakesSomeNoise 2 years ago
GirlMakesSomeNoise,
Thanks!
Sorry to hear about the proposed changes. If they pass those changes it is going to get really bad, really fast...
And yes I agree it is totally disgusting to think that our politicans and judges are the decision makers concerning our children. Talk about having a fox guarding the chicken house!
rnischalke 2 years ago
im so sorry...
i wish i had a dad that cared about me as much as you do these two.
jddl77 2 years ago
jddl77,
I am so sorry to hear the pain and loss in your words.
I hope that you are wrong about your father, but their are those parents that never realize what a precious gift that their children really are.
I will pray for you my dear friend...
rnischalke 2 years ago
thank you so very much for your prayers. now if only i were wrong about him, hes really bad into alcohol...i dont know if theres anything anybody can do for him, EXCEPT God, thats why we all gotta keep praying for everything, because no one can help things like these, except him.
so ill just keep praying, and ill pray for you too.
jddl77 2 years ago
jddl77,
Thank you for your prayers.
May God richly and wonderfully bless you for your faith and the knowledge that only He can bring the healing and miracle that we both seek.
rnischalke 2 years ago
I am so sorry about your situation. I want to thank you for mentioning the grandparents.I am a grandparent who has been cut off from my grandchildren. My son and his wife are not split up but they keep us away from our grandkids. I have a myspace account for my grandkids to find us. I have a grandparents support group. One grandmother I know set up a myspace. A few days later her grand dau found her on myspace. They ha:ve since been reunited in person. I have a myspacehope my gks find me
joycelmft 2 years ago
joycelmft,
You can also set up a website specifically for your grandchildren. Go to Google and type in Keeeping Families Connected. Our website is ranked #1 on page 1. It will explain in detail how to keep in contact using a website for them.
Hope that helps!
May God bless you and those precious children. what a tragedy for everyone involved.
rnischalke 2 years ago
Do u have any contact with your kids today? I pray for u man. God Bless
godzlion 2 years ago
godzlion,
Thank you my friend.
No, I haven't had contact with them for years. My oldest will turn 18 soon. He was always a smart kid. Although he may have been coerced into going along with his mother's progam for a while, heaven help her when he figures out what really happened.
My youngest just turned 15, but even at an early age he had a will and mind of his own.
They will both stand strong and clear-headed someday. And no one will be able to cover up the path of lies and deception...
rnischalke 2 years ago
godzlion ,
No, I haven't had any contact except for a brief court ordered attempt at "re-integration" with them since 1999.
Thanks friend. The prayers are needed and appreciated.
rnischalke 2 years ago
How sad. I cannot imagine not having my Dad in my life.
81nurse 2 years ago
I'm sorry... but it sometimes embarrasses me to admit that I am a woman. Women are (for the most part) the ones who practice this abusive behavior. How lost would I be without my father in my life!
81nurse 2 years ago
81nurse,
Thanks for your insightful comment.
Yes, statistically women far out number men in this type of behavior.
But regardless, this is abuse every single time one parent turns their children against the other parent. I don't care what gender, color, ethnic background people are, it is sick and it is wrong.
In addition, don't be embarrassed, I am currently married to the finest woman I have ever known. It is a privlege to be married to her. Healthy women are a gift to us all.
rnischalke 2 years ago
For all the new psychology, research, PhD's, legislations, basic commonsense laws, society just cant progress. The legal system holds onto the same old games - such a sad cynism/ contempt against a society wishing to improve...
Louiseskybunker 2 years ago
Louiseskybunker,
I agree 100%.
For all their rhetoric about progress and enlightenment, and protecting children, the legal system is just as corrupt and blind as it has ever been. And they dare us to try and change them.
rnischalke 2 years ago
I am a mum suffering from the games of the Law, the only thing keeping me sane is knowing thousands of dads have had to suffer this Evil for many many years....
Louiseskybunker 2 years ago
Thank you for the video .... this really helps our children and families.. Parent child bond is their forever no one can tear that away
cocaaaacolaaaa 2 years ago
cocaaaacolaaaa,
You are welcome. It is very hard to share my sons and my journey with so many people around the world. There are 2 reasons I do so.
1. To help others like us know that they are not alone and there is hope.
2. To bring awareness to others how horrible this form of abuse is to the children and families involved.
And you are right, no one can destroy that bond, but they can destroy their own children with their need to control and hate the other parent. How very sad...
rnischalke 2 years ago
Thank you for your video, I am a victim as well of PAS, I can only hope my daughter in time will understand and heal from this child abuse.
Blake121065 2 years ago
Blake121065,
You are welcome.
It's not easy sharing this part of my life with the rest of the world. But if I can help prevent one parent or one child from being subjected to this abuse by raising awareness, than it is worth it...
rnischalke 2 years ago
I thought I was having a bad time, I've only missed out on my children growing for 4 years.
You have my empathy, I know what you're going through, I just hope you feel stronger than I do.
Sarge084 2 years ago
Sarge084,
You ARE having a bad time. I would NEVER minimize four years of the most unbelievable torture imaginable.
As for being strong, some days are better than others. As you know so well, this battle is fought one moment at a time.
I am really sorry brother. For you and your children...
rnischalke 2 years ago
Father's Day has come and gone and another missed day with my boy, I feel your pain
craigmac1962 2 years ago
craigmac1962,
I am really sorry.
I know words don't help much but I am right there with you brother. I will pray for you and your son.
Why can't they see that the children are the ones that suffer the most???
rnischalke 2 years ago
do you not ever see your sons?
firefly9550 2 years ago
firefly9550,
A hundred times a day.
Every time I see a father with his little children, when I watch a child ride their bike or take their first step. When I watch a movie where families love and value each other instead of destroy each other.
When I hear a song like "It's a wonderful world" or "Over the rainbow". When I want to teach them about, life, love, integrity, courage and gentleness. Early in the morning, late at night. And most of all, in my dreams. That's all I have for now...
rnischalke 2 years ago
i would love to use your video for a child development class I have. I am doing a presentation on PAS because it is happening to my husband and his children. Is there a way to copy the video from youtube or your web site?
Cookies4TwoBoysMommy 2 years ago
Cookies4TwoBoysMommy,
We would be glad to help you with that. We are just waiting for an address to send the disc to. Send it whenever you can.
rnischalke 2 years ago
My heart really goes out to you and your boys. Having a father in your life is a necessity and a privilege. Nothing can compensate what a father can provide his children, not even a thousand good mothers can equate what fathers give.
To you and to all fathers out there, keep on fighting to be with your children.
MaryLovesJoseph 2 years ago
MaryLovesJoseph,
Thanks for your words of comfort and encouragement.
rnischalke 2 years ago
be strong, well done. I hope you are handling this the best you can.
PASCRAA 2 years ago
PASCRAA,
Thanks for the encouragement.
I do the best that I can on a daily basis. Some days are much harder than others.
I never forget and I'll never give up on my sons.
And I will do everything that I can to help others in the same position.
rnischalke 2 years ago
(Cont) - I have never said one bad word to my little girl about her (lack of) father. One day she will figure it out on her own, as your children will also, and they will be justifiably outraged at the people who kept you out of their lives for so many years.
Hang in there....this time WILL pass, and they will be back with their father who loves them so much.
Beautiful video.
ngfxoxo 2 years ago
ngfxoxo,
Thank you for loving your daughter more than having a need to strike back at her father through her.
I'm sure that it is not a small temptation at times to express your sadness and anger at his choice with each passing holiday etc.
Thanks for being healthy and wise enough to put her needs first.
That's the primary difference bewteen an alienating parent and a loving, healthy one. We're able to put the children FIRST. Not just pretend, but actually loving them in our actions
rnischalke 2 years ago
No, I would never do that to her. I also want her to know how valued and precious her life is, and when she asks who her father is, I tell her, he lives far away and he loves her very much. I have given him our number, our address, pretty much begged him to show her he cares, but he does nothing. I refuse to sink to that level and I will not use her as a pawn. What goes around comes around. Your sons are so fortunate to have you - God Bless.
ngfxoxo 2 years ago
What a beautiful video, what beautiful boys! I am so sorry your children are being used as pawns, this happens far too much. They deserve to have you in their lives, as you deserve them. I wish the father of my child cared 1 millionth as much as you do about his daughter. He has never given me one cent to support her, basically walked out of our lives altogether. I have not seen him since I was 4 months pregnant. One day, your boys will know the truth. THey will be back and they will be furious.
ngfxoxo 2 years ago
ngfxoxo,
Thank you. And yes, they are beautiful...
I am sorry that your daughter's father chose not to be a part of her life (and yours) how sad.
He has no idea what a blessing he has missed by not being involved in his child's life.
And certainly has no idea what harm his choice has caused her either.
As far as my sons being furious, I hope not. I'm sure that they will be justifiably angry, and they should be. They need to work through it ,and not become bitter from it.
rnischalke 2 years ago
Women who take their kids away from the father are bitches, evil, dike, feminists. Men take back your power! Do everything you can to fight to change our female culture.
adamcaul 2 years ago
adamcaul,
I understand the depth of pain, outrage and anger that you have expressed. I have been living the nightmare for over 10 years now.
Having said that, although there are no names adequate to describe the sinful, sick, evil and vile individuals that would steal our children from us, remember this, they are not all women.
Although the predatory courts do favor women most of the time, there are many wonderful women & mothers that have lost children to sick & twisted men as well.
rnischalke 2 years ago
Hello there,
We doing the same in Malaysia.
Our association named: Pemalik
Look-up our website n u-tube..
We pray for your success.
Keep up the Good work !
pemaliktube 2 years ago
LLEinUmatilla,
I have just got done answering emails for the last three hours. No, it is not just fathers that suffer injustice from the courts and abuse at the hands of an alienator.
I am very sorry to hear about your son. It is a horrible thing to do to a child...
rnischalke 2 years ago
I want everyone to find me on Facebook. My name is Brian Nathan Godfrey, tell me you saw me comment on youtube and join us, this problem is hurting us all! Children and Fathers all over the world are suffering!
mrd00d 3 years ago
Its very difficult to watch for me. This is in progress for me as well. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and to all Fathers and Mothers for that matter, that are living this situation from EVIL ex-wives, husbands and the like. Something must be done about our court systems who refuse to believe in this form of abuse.
Dads,Moms don't give up!!!
seeuintheafterlife 3 years ago
seeuintheafterlife,
Thanks for your prayers and concern. Our court system feigns ignorance, but exudes arrogance.
Any government that supposedly "serves" it's people, that has the athority to take a child from a parent by force, has just turned it's own people into IT's servant...
They are taking our children from our homes. Wake up people! If it can happen to all of us, it can happen to you or those you love!
rnischalke 3 years ago
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patrina1981 3 years ago
patrina1981,
Thanks so much for your prayers and words of kindness. May God bless you and your family.
And you are right, it IS too horrible for words.
Some doctors have likened the effects of PAS to post traumatic syndrome. Except this never ends because you are subjected to this life-altering trauma again every day you wake up.
rnischalke 3 years ago
This make me cry everytime I watch this. I've been a victim & its like the death of your kids when you never see them & are kept from them.
elvisnky 3 years ago
elvisnky,
I am sorry. I cry too.
I've spoken to many alienated parents that have lost their children to this abuse. They all agree, although they would never wish it on their child, in many ways it would be easier to deal with the physical death of a child.
It would be traumatic and painful but you'd go through the normal stages of grief and at some point begin to heal from the loss.
This is a heart-wrenching and recurring grief that never ever ends.
God bless you and your children
rnischalke 3 years ago
This has happened to me & it is like the death on your kids never to be able to see them & watch them grow up because of a heartless if you want to call her a mother.
elvisnky 3 years ago
elvisnky,
This is such a horrible form of abuse to both the alienated parent and the children that it should be punishable and enforced by law.
And yes, even though some of these people are very "emotional", they are totally heartless to do this to their own children.
rnischalke 3 years ago
Heartbreaking and well done. I am a mother who is being alienated and this hits home...
ChildrenNeed2Parents 3 years ago
ChildrenNeed2Parents,
I am truly sorry. No one should have to endure the pain that an alienated parent is subjected to.
And no precious child should ever have to suffer the wrath and poison that an alienator abuses them with on a daily basis.
I look forward to the day that this will all be over. No more pain, sin, lies, or abuse.
There will be a better day some day...
rnischalke 3 years ago
The time has come to stop the brothers and sisters of perpetual revenge from stealing their children and for being so heartless. I call them this as for them it is never over.May be get all lawmakers in Canada and the USA to do something about this. Just don't give them ammunition. Remeber every birthday ect and don't forget to pay the support. You are all in my prayers
kyldy 3 years ago
kyldy,
Unfortunately I agree. For an alienator it is never over until they destroy everyone around them in their quest to appear whole. They desparately fear that people will see them for who they are, broken and pathetic people that need help. And they don't need any ammunition either. You can send your children birthday gifts that they never receive or "they don't want". You can pay every cent of child support and your children are told that you aren't. The facts never stop an alienator...
rnischalke 3 years ago
I have a hard time containing my emotions when I see your story...maybe because I share a similar fate
cicopac 3 years ago
cicopac,
I feel the pain in your words my brother. I am sorry...
rnischalke 3 years ago
My son Christopher committed suicide Nov 13, 2008. He was a victim of Parental Alienation and the resulting depression. PAS is VERY REAL and very lethal. Would that all alienating parents realize this and get help. My prayers are for all the parents and children who are experiencing this hell on earth. Continue to pray that God would open blind eyes, soften hardened hearts, and heal the wounded.
deanpac 3 years ago
deanpac,
My dear friend, I am almost at a loss for words.
How incredibly sad and tragic. All this pain so that one sick parent can "feel good" about themselves and their pathetic and twisted agenda...
I cannot imagine your grief or pain right now. And yet you speak with compassion and insight.
I suggest reading "A kidnapped Mind" by Pamela Richardson if you haven't. Also, Google "Keeping Families Connected" for more resources & help.
May God bless and heal you...
rnischalke 3 years ago
I don't understand how some women can do this to their children. I am a divorced mom and if my ex forgets to send a birthday gift I put one in the mailbox from him, the smile on my childs face when they open gifts from dad makes me happier than anything. Why do some people want to make their children unhappy just to make themselves feel better because they have gotten one over on the ex?
weirdo46939 3 years ago
weirdo46939,
If you do some research on what motivates an alienator, you'll find that it's usually spite, and the need to control and manipulate others. They have an insatiable need for acceptance and love from the people around them. They are emotionally damaged and crippled individuals that value their own "feelings" more than the well being of their children. Most of them pretend to be the victims "doing what is best" for the children.
Their behavior should shame them but it never will.
rnischalke 3 years ago
I am a female and I see this all the time, women saying something bad about their childs father, something small...but ongoing. What does a child know except what we teach them? I will never say anything bad about my childrens father, if he forgets a birthday I put a gift in the mailbox FROM him...why are some women so selfish? Seeing my childs face when they get a gift from dad is rewarding enough for me, I will never understand why some women want to hurt their children.
weirdo46939 3 years ago
weirdo46939,
Thank you from every father that has ever had a vicious ex wife destroy their relationship with their children.
Thanks for being healthy and unselfish enough to put your children's well being above your own feelings or thoughts about your ex.
You said you don't understand how some women want to hurt their own children. It is obvious from your comment that you can't relate because you are HEALTHY and TRULY love your children. It isn't just lip-service and image for you...
rnischalke 3 years ago <