i dun have a problem. but u seem to have problems with the guy saying dat he is "holding" the woman for 15yrs. unless he is having affiars or in relationships with multiple weman. He is committed to the relationship for 15yrs as well, how come that is "holding"? it sounds like the woman is being forced into a relationship. anyway getting married in the end is a good ending, or actually a new start i should say lol
@mika333nakashima In this generation people only see holding a girl means cheating but not seeing the long term effect. I'm not saying there is a problem. It's only a problem if the guy don't marry her even after 15 years. Guys are afraid to take the responsibility of a marriage and just enjoy the dating stage now days. I think she is luckier than many other relatioships that the guy actually would commit after all these years. Agree?
i dunno if getting married = being "responsible", even if you get married you can have affairs theres no promise. also, romance relationship is mutual commitment and bi-directional. Male and female shares the same "responsiblity". if they cant get married theres something wrong in BOTH sides, they both committed 15yrs. y is automatically the guy's fault if they r not getting married? i mean u dun know wut happened between them. i definitely wouldnt w8 for 15yrs.
@mika333nakashima The value and mural comes into play as everyone's definition of marriage is different. I do agree with you tha marriage doesn't equal to being 'responsible", but it is part of a marriage. At least to me it is. I also agree there is no promise that marriage will have no affairs or smooth sailing from the point. That's when both sides have to be smart on who they are choose to be and not getting marry for the sake of getting into a marriage or by the pressure of age.
@mika333nakashima I never said it's the guy's fault but statistically, guys are afraid to commit more than woman. It's generally the man who ask the question for marriage. In a woman's point of view, we don't get the choice to ask, and if we do ask, that might become a stress for the man. My main point of my comment is not critize on their relationship nor put fault in any of them. You are looking at the man's pov and I'm just looking at the woman's pov. I respect ur pov though :)
I guess u have ur point :-) True that the male has to initiate the marriage proposal traditionally. wut i think is female and male should be equally placed. so probabli female should also propose if they think the timming is right, doesnt need to w8 till the male to do it. I think the lady did the right thing, female doesnt have to be passive, at least not anymore. ladies with strong self assertiveness, dare to make the move is more admirable IMO :-)
@mika333nakashima Have you watch the movie Leap year? A girl is able to propose to a guy. If the guy say no, he has to pay her a dollar. I propose once using txt msg, my ex said yes but pretend nothing happen the next day, so i said give me back a dollar lol
Leap year? i dunno, i will check it out :D how much did she earn lol
ur Ex might not have taken it as a serious proposal if its onli txt msg, HOWEVER, it really sucks for him to have not follow up and make it happens. Guys should give up after 3 serious porposal, for girl that once means so much. Your msg worths a million dollars or actually i think it is priceless. i could not imagine a guy say no to his gf's proposal. You r such are great lady and its too bad ur ex didnt see it!
@mika333nakashima I had to txt because he was working night shift. All I can say is I went through simular experience as this couple, but not as extreme, but for a girl even half of those years are a lot. I'm just not as lucky as this couple. Yet on the other hand, thank god I am not with him now. I'll end up paying for the wedding :) I know in a relationship both side have to give up a lot, but somehow, woman end up with the less advantage due to our age. You are very kind kaka
my view cant represnet all guys,but I will date someone only if i can imagine i marry her in 2yrs lol. but relationship does not necessarily go well ): Despite the gender, i admire your courage to initiate the proposal. You should be pround and ur welcome :)
Considering if u want kids then age is an issue otherwise it is insigificant.if the guy truely value ur personalities um, excuse me for my manner here,if a guy can love u without sex he loves u.such as Long D
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Matthewlf93 2 months ago
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joey1603 4 months ago
其實結婚果日好難唔記得... gar wor...
henrylababy 5 months ago
哈哈~
cy1995om 5 months ago
Damn...that guy hold the girl for 15 years...and he only marry her because she proposed...
akarli1 5 months ago
@akarli1
? is that a problem?lol
mika333nakashima 5 months ago
@mika333nakashima Do you feel there is a problem? Which point of view are u looking at? I'm just looking at the long run of the relationship.
akarli1 5 months ago
@akarli1
i dun have a problem. but u seem to have problems with the guy saying dat he is "holding" the woman for 15yrs. unless he is having affiars or in relationships with multiple weman. He is committed to the relationship for 15yrs as well, how come that is "holding"? it sounds like the woman is being forced into a relationship. anyway getting married in the end is a good ending, or actually a new start i should say lol
mika333nakashima 5 months ago
@mika333nakashima In this generation people only see holding a girl means cheating but not seeing the long term effect. I'm not saying there is a problem. It's only a problem if the guy don't marry her even after 15 years. Guys are afraid to take the responsibility of a marriage and just enjoy the dating stage now days. I think she is luckier than many other relatioships that the guy actually would commit after all these years. Agree?
akarli1 5 months ago
@akarli1
i dunno if getting married = being "responsible", even if you get married you can have affairs theres no promise. also, romance relationship is mutual commitment and bi-directional. Male and female shares the same "responsiblity". if they cant get married theres something wrong in BOTH sides, they both committed 15yrs. y is automatically the guy's fault if they r not getting married? i mean u dun know wut happened between them. i definitely wouldnt w8 for 15yrs.
mika333nakashima 5 months ago
@mika333nakashima The value and mural comes into play as everyone's definition of marriage is different. I do agree with you tha marriage doesn't equal to being 'responsible", but it is part of a marriage. At least to me it is. I also agree there is no promise that marriage will have no affairs or smooth sailing from the point. That's when both sides have to be smart on who they are choose to be and not getting marry for the sake of getting into a marriage or by the pressure of age.
akarli1 5 months ago
@mika333nakashima I never said it's the guy's fault but statistically, guys are afraid to commit more than woman. It's generally the man who ask the question for marriage. In a woman's point of view, we don't get the choice to ask, and if we do ask, that might become a stress for the man. My main point of my comment is not critize on their relationship nor put fault in any of them. You are looking at the man's pov and I'm just looking at the woman's pov. I respect ur pov though :)
akarli1 5 months ago
@akarli1
I guess u have ur point :-) True that the male has to initiate the marriage proposal traditionally. wut i think is female and male should be equally placed. so probabli female should also propose if they think the timming is right, doesnt need to w8 till the male to do it. I think the lady did the right thing, female doesnt have to be passive, at least not anymore. ladies with strong self assertiveness, dare to make the move is more admirable IMO :-)
mika333nakashima 4 months ago
@mika333nakashima Have you watch the movie Leap year? A girl is able to propose to a guy. If the guy say no, he has to pay her a dollar. I propose once using txt msg, my ex said yes but pretend nothing happen the next day, so i said give me back a dollar lol
akarli1 4 months ago
@akarli1
Leap year? i dunno, i will check it out :D how much did she earn lol
ur Ex might not have taken it as a serious proposal if its onli txt msg, HOWEVER, it really sucks for him to have not follow up and make it happens. Guys should give up after 3 serious porposal, for girl that once means so much. Your msg worths a million dollars or actually i think it is priceless. i could not imagine a guy say no to his gf's proposal. You r such are great lady and its too bad ur ex didnt see it!
mika333nakashima 4 months ago
@mika333nakashima I had to txt because he was working night shift. All I can say is I went through simular experience as this couple, but not as extreme, but for a girl even half of those years are a lot. I'm just not as lucky as this couple. Yet on the other hand, thank god I am not with him now. I'll end up paying for the wedding :) I know in a relationship both side have to give up a lot, but somehow, woman end up with the less advantage due to our age. You are very kind kaka
akarli1 4 months ago
@akarli1
my view cant represnet all guys,but I will date someone only if i can imagine i marry her in 2yrs lol. but relationship does not necessarily go well ): Despite the gender, i admire your courage to initiate the proposal. You should be pround and ur welcome :)
Considering if u want kids then age is an issue otherwise it is insigificant.if the guy truely value ur personalities um, excuse me for my manner here,if a guy can love u without sex he loves u.such as Long D
mika333nakashima 4 months ago
nice try
larrainewong 1 year ago
good for her proposing. :)
25jai123 1 year ago
wow... they've been dating for 15 years
weekap 1 year ago
sweet
fnswcy 1 year ago 14
WTF....
airr916 1 year ago 17