A support group might help out. People who are in the same boat can help out a lot. Talking to others who know what it is like. Also when I was 18 to 23 years old I felt so down. Nothing seemed to be good in life but I pushed through and things got better. Things will get better.
im depressed and ive have had trouble with eating before not exactly an eating disorder though (im a guy btw) but i HATE it when doctors ask what would help you move forward. how the fuck am i meant to know?! ur the doctor judge my symptoms and persona and u help! u know better than me! :l
And there I was thinking I was the only one that was asking for help but didnt know what help I needed! Somehow the "professionals" always manage ask "so what help do you want"
Im still in that place and it seems like theres no going forward.
It's so unhelpful when they ask us what would help. If I knew what would help, I'd be doing it already. *sigh* It just makes me feel like they don't know what to do - like I'm just a problem patient they wish would just stop coming to them begging tor help.
totally get you about the good days,like their good only because theyre not as horrendous as others but they are still bad for any person to have to deal with....i love your room,youre all girly:)
At the end of this video your dear Chloe was trying to get close to you for a cuddle :) I do understand everything you are saying here Claire, especially the intrusive thoughts and the way that anorexic behaviours numb these thoughts. Perhaps what you need are friends who you can go out and do things with? have you thought about volunteering for the Dogs Trust? They have many opportunities that would help you meet people as well as you doing something fulfilling that makes you feel valued.
Apologies Claire. I think my previous comment was too much about my struggle. I guess I wanted to let you know that I am going through a similar thing right now. I am all "treatmented out" it seems and like you I don't know what would help. BASICALLY YOU ARE NOT ALONE IN THIS DILEMMA!
Thanks so much for your comments, Chelsea. It sounds like you really understand where I'm at and the conflict between doing the right thing, or being pulled astray by the (false) promises of ED.
If you want to chat about anything, please just send me a private message and I'll get back to you. We're in this together!
Yes I do understand the conflict very much so hun. It is so much harder to stand up to anorexia than it is to listen to it, but in doing so we can begin to move toward a life where these thoughts are not as predominent as they have been. And yes we are in this together hun:) I am glad 2 have found u on here and likewise, if you need to talk about anything PM away !! I am here for you. I don't want to waste more years of my life to this!...its been long enough & it has for u to hun! Luv Chelsea
But long term it just causes more of an internal war and pain. Obviously the real you was very much accepted by your friend. You seem like such a lovely person under all your pain. I wish I had the answer hun but have hope that there has got to be more to life than a life of anorexia. Anorexia is a slow and painful suicide. suicide is not the answer. I just posted a video on this topic actually if you are interested:) Here for you if u need to talk. I feel we may have a fair bit in common.
I know that becoming even more involved with my ED behaviours is *not* the answer. It won't solve anything - it will just make me live in a tiny bubble where I will be able to pretend my life is different than my reality. It's a drastic measure to try and become numb, but I have to face up to my problems sooner or later.
The Ed tells you it will help but it just causes more internal pain and turmoil. Its never going to be easy to face up to the things behind the ED and i think the longer we leave it the more fearful of facing these things we become. But I know how hard and scary it is even now. Take care beautiful x
Hold onto the good days and the good moments and have hope that one day the good days will outweigh the bad hun. I feel like I'm at a bit of a crossroads at the moment. I have no idea where I am headed. I don't want to stay sick but I don't know what more Ii can do treatment wise to get better. I have done it all it seems and sometimes the short term fix is just to restrict but it doesn't fix the real problem. I understand the appeal of getting to a weight where u are numb and emotionless.
Thanks, I really do treasure the good moments. I've learned not to worry about how long or short they may last, but to be fully in the moment and soak up all the joy and happiness.
A support group might help out. People who are in the same boat can help out a lot. Talking to others who know what it is like. Also when I was 18 to 23 years old I felt so down. Nothing seemed to be good in life but I pushed through and things got better. Things will get better.
hellsbellstollforyou 1 year ago
you have the prettiest eyes. they're so big and beautiful! i'm jealous. i hope you're happy now! xxx
jolibelle 2 years ago
im depressed and ive have had trouble with eating before not exactly an eating disorder though (im a guy btw) but i HATE it when doctors ask what would help you move forward. how the fuck am i meant to know?! ur the doctor judge my symptoms and persona and u help! u know better than me! :l
catCRAAAZY 2 years ago
And there I was thinking I was the only one that was asking for help but didnt know what help I needed! Somehow the "professionals" always manage ask "so what help do you want"
Im still in that place and it seems like theres no going forward.
powerkitemad 2 years ago 3
It's so unhelpful when they ask us what would help. If I knew what would help, I'd be doing it already. *sigh* It just makes me feel like they don't know what to do - like I'm just a problem patient they wish would just stop coming to them begging tor help.
painfulsoulbleeding 2 years ago
totally get you about the good days,like their good only because theyre not as horrendous as others but they are still bad for any person to have to deal with....i love your room,youre all girly:)
lostlittlegirlygirl 2 years ago 2
At the end of this video your dear Chloe was trying to get close to you for a cuddle :) I do understand everything you are saying here Claire, especially the intrusive thoughts and the way that anorexic behaviours numb these thoughts. Perhaps what you need are friends who you can go out and do things with? have you thought about volunteering for the Dogs Trust? They have many opportunities that would help you meet people as well as you doing something fulfilling that makes you feel valued.
xxx
misstiggykins 2 years ago
Apologies Claire. I think my previous comment was too much about my struggle. I guess I wanted to let you know that I am going through a similar thing right now. I am all "treatmented out" it seems and like you I don't know what would help. BASICALLY YOU ARE NOT ALONE IN THIS DILEMMA!
Love and understanding, Chelsea xxxx
anawings 2 years ago
Thanks so much for your comments, Chelsea. It sounds like you really understand where I'm at and the conflict between doing the right thing, or being pulled astray by the (false) promises of ED.
If you want to chat about anything, please just send me a private message and I'll get back to you. We're in this together!
Love Claire
painfulsoulbleeding 2 years ago
Yes I do understand the conflict very much so hun. It is so much harder to stand up to anorexia than it is to listen to it, but in doing so we can begin to move toward a life where these thoughts are not as predominent as they have been. And yes we are in this together hun:) I am glad 2 have found u on here and likewise, if you need to talk about anything PM away !! I am here for you. I don't want to waste more years of my life to this!...its been long enough & it has for u to hun! Luv Chelsea
anawings 2 years ago
But long term it just causes more of an internal war and pain. Obviously the real you was very much accepted by your friend. You seem like such a lovely person under all your pain. I wish I had the answer hun but have hope that there has got to be more to life than a life of anorexia. Anorexia is a slow and painful suicide. suicide is not the answer. I just posted a video on this topic actually if you are interested:) Here for you if u need to talk. I feel we may have a fair bit in common.
anawings 2 years ago
I know that becoming even more involved with my ED behaviours is *not* the answer. It won't solve anything - it will just make me live in a tiny bubble where I will be able to pretend my life is different than my reality. It's a drastic measure to try and become numb, but I have to face up to my problems sooner or later.
painfulsoulbleeding 2 years ago
This is very true Claire:)
The Ed tells you it will help but it just causes more internal pain and turmoil. Its never going to be easy to face up to the things behind the ED and i think the longer we leave it the more fearful of facing these things we become. But I know how hard and scary it is even now. Take care beautiful x
anawings 2 years ago
Hold onto the good days and the good moments and have hope that one day the good days will outweigh the bad hun. I feel like I'm at a bit of a crossroads at the moment. I have no idea where I am headed. I don't want to stay sick but I don't know what more Ii can do treatment wise to get better. I have done it all it seems and sometimes the short term fix is just to restrict but it doesn't fix the real problem. I understand the appeal of getting to a weight where u are numb and emotionless.
anawings 2 years ago
Thanks, I really do treasure the good moments. I've learned not to worry about how long or short they may last, but to be fully in the moment and soak up all the joy and happiness.
painfulsoulbleeding 2 years ago
Soak it up to its entireity!
anawings 2 years ago