People will always have something to say Kate. Gossipping and attacking others (in a verbal manner) have been and will continue to be part of the human nature. It is a sad reality. Be who you truly are (you don't need the approval of others). Trust me, you'll live longer by following your heart. Happiness isn't going to come cheap. With regards to your faith, just keep believing (we're all sinners no matter what). Kate perhaps you're not following society but atleast you're unique and a fighter.
Sorry for the misunderstanding, but no I was saying in the video that personally I have never had to deal with that myself, I got lucky. But I most certainly emphasize with the people that do.
hey you :] I don't think i have ever commented your videos... im not sure any way just thought id tell you that i think you are very very pretty :) and i just want you to know that you are a very big help for keeping me going on this road. Im a tran 17 in utah... worst place to do this but o well just thought id say hi see if you wanted another person on youtube to befriend lol.
But not much anymore cause ive learned that peoplr are gonna talk about you no matter what you do... I know exactly how you feel and if you ever need anybody to talk to id be glad to help you.. :-) xxxx
Yeah I know what you mean. People tell me am fully passable and I suffer from depression alot.. I transitioned at job I had about 4 years ago and people whould talk about me everyday and I could hear them talking about me as soon as I walked by them and other people would ask me stupid questions about transgender people after a while I got tired of it and told them to google it...but thank god I dont work there anymore... At first I really cared what people thought and said about me
Everyone reguardless of their gender identity goes through a time of worrying about how they look & struggle with confidence. Over time individuals become comfortable in their own skin. I believe you will too over time living as a female. I can't see how anyone can mistake you for a boy, You're so stunning! It makes my heart flutter :) I would hit on you in a second. Thx for sharing. You rock. Also might i mention when you sit up straight, u apppear more feminine & attractive -ur biggest fan :)
At the end you said you thought the video was pointless, but I think it totally had a point. That it takes incredible courage to be true to yourself. Belief in one's self and confidence in one's true, real identity are hard things to achieve and are difficult to constantly maintain. Keep being yourself...you're still becoming "you". And please keep making great videos.
Wooooo!!! You really are like so cool!!! You have a heart, which is why You Sweet Heart care like so much!!! You are You, and the best you can be, so with that said, Your video was Not Pointless at all Girlfriend!!!xx xx xx xx xx xx xx xx xx xx xx xx xx xx xx xx You Rock!!!xx xx
i know how you feel with that i am also lucky enough to pass. If your in Uni you could always go greek like i did. it really helps with things. may be i will make a video about it next month. scratch that in March after my first two finals. 6 class load this semester.
Validation and head thoughts are just noise! Also you have no idea the experience anyone else has, it's fun to entertain the thought but it is impossible to experience the world as someone else, male or female, so get out of your head and out of theirs and just BE, sense the world around you! I prefer real girls, emphasis on the REAL, meaning... they act like average normal real girls. You can do it to, just let go and be natural babe.
@missescherrykisses Thank you so much for the well thought out comment. I understand what your saying, and in effect that's what I was trying to convey in my video. I was using myself as an example of someone who does care to much about there looks and what other people think of her. And as I said I'm trying very hard to fix that about myself. Society does not make it easy, and of course different aspects of this run deep in the physique of all of us. especially women, especially trans woman.
@Kate85xo Well you're on your path, good luck. Your experience is truly unique. Did you ever have doubts about your transsexuality? I just recently found out who I am and I'm unsure what to do with myself, lol. Self-awareness is a sliding scale. I myself thought I could be trans for a while, and my mind would go that way and it would feel almost like the answer, but then I'd remember the huge reasons I would and could never transition and realize that I am not.
@Kate85xo The struggle a trans-woman endures would be literally impossible to complete for the unsure... and would be very difficult for the completely unpassable, in terms of societal gender role norms. Yet they do it just the same. The more behaved and quiet and submissive even, they act the more passable they are.
@Kate85xo Just like gender is a sliding scale I feel like selfawareness, naturalness, unbridled id in everyday situations...or the other side, totally hyper-vigilance over your behaviors or actions, no matter what, how you act, it has to be indicative of a solid personality.
@Kate85xo I feel like if I transitioned, I'd have to change totally to suit societies expectations, and for me, if I had to act like a girl, that is trying to be a girly girl all the time because its easier to blend in and be a traditional woman than it is to stick out like a sore thumb, no matter what, I wouldn't feel natural, because I'm not your traditional guy in the first place. I wanna be free.
@Kate85xo I like doing and saying what I want without caring what people think. But I guess that's why I'm not trans, or I'm not a girl. Girls can be loud and gross and whatever but theres a line, lol. It's sad but it exists. From the other side, I suppose, essentially transsexuals are not free until society perceives them as woman. Fascinating.
If you truly want acceptance as a female you seem to feel you need to personify some image of a girly girl, something that is...overplayed and boring to the average male, essentially what you want to do is blend...but the way I see it why not be yourself first, and a woman second. Not hating here just admiring the paradox presented. I hope these words offer at least a shred of advice to you. Passability and attractiveness is so surface, personality is deep.
you don't have to overcompensate with obsession over your looks... vanity is not a fine trait in a male or female. I find it hard to believe you were always this vain. Your journey is exceptional but you, in the realm of male and female and anything in between, are not more special than anyone else.
You read into it way too much. We get it, you look good for someone who was born male and kudos to you! but let's not get carried away with vanity. Be proud, yes, you endured so much, but honestly don't become just like any other materialistic girl. You've lived through more challenging experiences, and have so much more to offer.
Be you and screw what everyone else thinks. If people have to devote the time to study you and determine what you are, then they have no life. Good video:)
The key is to think of yourself as a woman rather than transgender or male. At least that is working for me. I am most confident (and most passable) when I am thinking of myself as female. Also, I have stopped judging others for anything - looks, mood, personality - and in return others have ceased judging me.
I commend you for recongizing individuals who may not appear as feminine as yourself. It takes a big person to do that. But what do here also takes a lot and that's why a lot of us will praise you. Thank you!!
I think your beautiful and you seem very confident to me.You have really come a long way from were you were last year.I have watched you grow and mature into a beautiful woman in your videos.I have a lot of admiration for you.
@Kate85xo (cont 3) people about what a transsexual is and what transitioning is! And at first to my surprise, letting go of my fears, most of them said, "Be you gf! Live your life the way you need to!" Now they smile and if they aren't busy they are glad to hear how my transitioning is going! Looking back, what a wild ride it has been, I am just glad to be where I am now! TC Kate *Smiles and Daisies* <3
@Kate85xo (cont 2) of, "Everyone sees a guy and what if I run into someone I know!?!" Even at some of my most confident times I seemed to run into embarrassment (the mean guy employee that walked in on me in the fitting room [singular one]. I cried on the way home! That was only a little over 2 years ago. I still get some strange looks but I am on my way, and knowing that really makes a difference! What is really cool now is that I am teaching others, cashier friends and other store (cont 3)
@Kate85xo (cont) Plus I struggled with my faith, could I be trans and a person that believed in God? Glad to say, an emphatic yes that that question! Anyways, back to when I was younger going out in public was always nerve-racking, I had no idea where to find another transgirl to go shopping with so despite the snickers and the funny looks I hit the thrift stores occasionally going into bigger retail, or dept stores. Sometimes I would be shaking, just holding on the same old fear (cont 2)
@Kate85xo A lot of the times I think back to when I first started to go out in public dressed as the girl that I could, up until then, only be comfortable with at home. Showing my age now (darn it! lol) that was little over 15 years ago and passed half of my life later, I know of a few reasons why I am only now getting closer to living full time. When I was younger, I had no clue how I would be able to navigate potential employment being me, so I figured to survive I had to live as a guy! (cont)
Even the most passable transgendered women get read as being trans. Some people are so hypersensitive to the subtle clues, it can't be avoided. They are so attuned to it, they even convince themsleves that some genetic women are transgender. So u can't worry about them. As far as the conifidence you are seeking; that is sometime that all women deal with, trans or not. You will find it, i promise. With support, good friends, and family, it will come naturally.
@JessikaG That's true! I myself have never been, so I never tough there where people out there that take so much effort in looking at other people. I like how you say "they even convince themsleves that some genetic women are transgender" So yeah really good point. Thanks!
It's not sad to admit the truth. It would be nice to live in a place where it didn't matter what others think of you but the truth is enough people in the world have to think highly of you in order to get anywhere in this world. The old saying that is isn't what you know it is who you know turns out to be more true than people think.
You are very beautiful. For every one negative thing you hear from someone try to turn it into a positive thing for yourself. Stay strong for yourself and for the people around you. Keep up the great work your doing.
I still think you look nice even with out make-up on ^_^ but for me I only remember seeing some one say something twice and that was my first time out and one time at a Walmart lol the Walmart one was a lot scarier they where in line with me then followed me out side and was saying stuff the whole time but other then that I haven't noticed ^_^ it mostly just freaks me out till I am out and about but after that i don't mind as much
You seem pretty cool. I hope your find that strength within yourself. I go out there and try. I don't honestly know how well I pass, but I have heard people with the whole "did you SEE that GUY" bit. At first it kind of hurt because of how much effort I put in, but now I just don't care. I have too much going for me to worry about if someone "reads" me or not. I'm living my life the way I want and it's not something that effects them, really. I'm sure you'll find what you are looking for :) hugs
Hugs
I don't pass but I have to transition anyway. Wish you the best
Findingmiss 1 month ago
People will always have something to say Kate. Gossipping and attacking others (in a verbal manner) have been and will continue to be part of the human nature. It is a sad reality. Be who you truly are (you don't need the approval of others). Trust me, you'll live longer by following your heart. Happiness isn't going to come cheap. With regards to your faith, just keep believing (we're all sinners no matter what). Kate perhaps you're not following society but atleast you're unique and a fighter.
kenticoliguista 1 month ago
o and so you know... ya your not alone its really really really really hard to hear that you dont pass...
EnderW23 1 month ago
@EnderW23 Thanks for the comment!
Sorry for the misunderstanding, but no I was saying in the video that personally I have never had to deal with that myself, I got lucky. But I most certainly emphasize with the people that do.
xo
Kate85xo 1 month ago
hey you :] I don't think i have ever commented your videos... im not sure any way just thought id tell you that i think you are very very pretty :) and i just want you to know that you are a very big help for keeping me going on this road. Im a tran 17 in utah... worst place to do this but o well just thought id say hi see if you wanted another person on youtube to befriend lol.
no pressure. just looking for support.
EnderW23 1 month ago
But not much anymore cause ive learned that peoplr are gonna talk about you no matter what you do... I know exactly how you feel and if you ever need anybody to talk to id be glad to help you.. :-) xxxx
superbritney77 1 month ago
Yeah I know what you mean. People tell me am fully passable and I suffer from depression alot.. I transitioned at job I had about 4 years ago and people whould talk about me everyday and I could hear them talking about me as soon as I walked by them and other people would ask me stupid questions about transgender people after a while I got tired of it and told them to google it...but thank god I dont work there anymore... At first I really cared what people thought and said about me
superbritney77 1 month ago
Everyone reguardless of their gender identity goes through a time of worrying about how they look & struggle with confidence. Over time individuals become comfortable in their own skin. I believe you will too over time living as a female. I can't see how anyone can mistake you for a boy, You're so stunning! It makes my heart flutter :) I would hit on you in a second. Thx for sharing. You rock. Also might i mention when you sit up straight, u apppear more feminine & attractive -ur biggest fan :)
happyguync 1 month ago
At the end you said you thought the video was pointless, but I think it totally had a point. That it takes incredible courage to be true to yourself. Belief in one's self and confidence in one's true, real identity are hard things to achieve and are difficult to constantly maintain. Keep being yourself...you're still becoming "you". And please keep making great videos.
rayaskye 1 month ago
Wooooo!!! You really are like so cool!!! You have a heart, which is why You Sweet Heart care like so much!!! You are You, and the best you can be, so with that said, Your video was Not Pointless at all Girlfriend!!!xx xx xx xx xx xx xx xx xx xx xx xx xx xx xx xx You Rock!!!xx xx
natplymouth86 1 month ago
thanks for sharing :)
msseabreeze1 1 month ago
i know how you feel with that i am also lucky enough to pass. If your in Uni you could always go greek like i did. it really helps with things. may be i will make a video about it next month. scratch that in March after my first two finals. 6 class load this semester.
Tristan14578 1 month ago
Validation and head thoughts are just noise! Also you have no idea the experience anyone else has, it's fun to entertain the thought but it is impossible to experience the world as someone else, male or female, so get out of your head and out of theirs and just BE, sense the world around you! I prefer real girls, emphasis on the REAL, meaning... they act like average normal real girls. You can do it to, just let go and be natural babe.
missescherrykisses 1 month ago
@missescherrykisses Thank you so much for the well thought out comment. I understand what your saying, and in effect that's what I was trying to convey in my video. I was using myself as an example of someone who does care to much about there looks and what other people think of her. And as I said I'm trying very hard to fix that about myself. Society does not make it easy, and of course different aspects of this run deep in the physique of all of us. especially women, especially trans woman.
Kate85xo 1 month ago
@Kate85xo Well you're on your path, good luck. Your experience is truly unique. Did you ever have doubts about your transsexuality? I just recently found out who I am and I'm unsure what to do with myself, lol. Self-awareness is a sliding scale. I myself thought I could be trans for a while, and my mind would go that way and it would feel almost like the answer, but then I'd remember the huge reasons I would and could never transition and realize that I am not.
missescherrykisses 1 month ago
@Kate85xo The struggle a trans-woman endures would be literally impossible to complete for the unsure... and would be very difficult for the completely unpassable, in terms of societal gender role norms. Yet they do it just the same. The more behaved and quiet and submissive even, they act the more passable they are.
missescherrykisses 1 month ago
@Kate85xo Just like gender is a sliding scale I feel like selfawareness, naturalness, unbridled id in everyday situations...or the other side, totally hyper-vigilance over your behaviors or actions, no matter what, how you act, it has to be indicative of a solid personality.
missescherrykisses 1 month ago
@Kate85xo I feel like if I transitioned, I'd have to change totally to suit societies expectations, and for me, if I had to act like a girl, that is trying to be a girly girl all the time because its easier to blend in and be a traditional woman than it is to stick out like a sore thumb, no matter what, I wouldn't feel natural, because I'm not your traditional guy in the first place. I wanna be free.
missescherrykisses 1 month ago
@Kate85xo I like doing and saying what I want without caring what people think. But I guess that's why I'm not trans, or I'm not a girl. Girls can be loud and gross and whatever but theres a line, lol. It's sad but it exists. From the other side, I suppose, essentially transsexuals are not free until society perceives them as woman. Fascinating.
missescherrykisses 1 month ago
@missescherrykisses That's true, or even better a society that does not apply pointless gender rules to the people.. :)
Kate85xo 1 month ago
If you truly want acceptance as a female you seem to feel you need to personify some image of a girly girl, something that is...overplayed and boring to the average male, essentially what you want to do is blend...but the way I see it why not be yourself first, and a woman second. Not hating here just admiring the paradox presented. I hope these words offer at least a shred of advice to you. Passability and attractiveness is so surface, personality is deep.
missescherrykisses 1 month ago
you don't have to overcompensate with obsession over your looks... vanity is not a fine trait in a male or female. I find it hard to believe you were always this vain. Your journey is exceptional but you, in the realm of male and female and anything in between, are not more special than anyone else.
missescherrykisses 1 month ago
You read into it way too much. We get it, you look good for someone who was born male and kudos to you! but let's not get carried away with vanity. Be proud, yes, you endured so much, but honestly don't become just like any other materialistic girl. You've lived through more challenging experiences, and have so much more to offer.
missescherrykisses 1 month ago
nice vid :)
PrincessVictoria420 1 month ago
looking more beautiful every video i see of you Kate and love your nails and your voice is very more female then ever i am happy for you! :)
Jaiden xo
SuperJayden18 1 month ago
Be you and screw what everyone else thinks. If people have to devote the time to study you and determine what you are, then they have no life. Good video:)
Whitedoggy24 1 month ago
hey good video xxhugsxx
9033key 1 month ago
Your hair is amazing. I am getting my first hair-cut in years tomorrow, and I might steal your style. Like a hair thief.
watermellony 1 month ago
The key is to think of yourself as a woman rather than transgender or male. At least that is working for me. I am most confident (and most passable) when I am thinking of myself as female. Also, I have stopped judging others for anything - looks, mood, personality - and in return others have ceased judging me.
WyllowRose 1 month ago
@WyllowRose Great Advice! :)
Kate85xo 1 month ago
I commend you for recongizing individuals who may not appear as feminine as yourself. It takes a big person to do that. But what do here also takes a lot and that's why a lot of us will praise you. Thank you!!
micheleabutler 1 month ago
you are cute
lansier2 1 month ago
you look soo beautiful! i love your hair like that ;D and i think you deserve more credit then you give yourself.
much love
Mia<3
mylifeismia 1 month ago
You are an awesome chick -3
NeoYang0769 1 month ago
I think your beautiful and you seem very confident to me.You have really come a long way from were you were last year.I have watched you grow and mature into a beautiful woman in your videos.I have a lot of admiration for you.
nelly2hot1 1 month ago
i have some many questions for you. could i message you or email you?
turself45 1 month ago
dave matthews :)
Emheart7 1 month ago
@Kate85xo (cont 3) people about what a transsexual is and what transitioning is! And at first to my surprise, letting go of my fears, most of them said, "Be you gf! Live your life the way you need to!" Now they smile and if they aren't busy they are glad to hear how my transitioning is going! Looking back, what a wild ride it has been, I am just glad to be where I am now! TC Kate *Smiles and Daisies* <3
Stephanie3410C 1 month ago
@Kate85xo (cont 2) of, "Everyone sees a guy and what if I run into someone I know!?!" Even at some of my most confident times I seemed to run into embarrassment (the mean guy employee that walked in on me in the fitting room [singular one]. I cried on the way home! That was only a little over 2 years ago. I still get some strange looks but I am on my way, and knowing that really makes a difference! What is really cool now is that I am teaching others, cashier friends and other store (cont 3)
Stephanie3410C 1 month ago
@Kate85xo (cont) Plus I struggled with my faith, could I be trans and a person that believed in God? Glad to say, an emphatic yes that that question! Anyways, back to when I was younger going out in public was always nerve-racking, I had no idea where to find another transgirl to go shopping with so despite the snickers and the funny looks I hit the thrift stores occasionally going into bigger retail, or dept stores. Sometimes I would be shaking, just holding on the same old fear (cont 2)
Stephanie3410C 1 month ago
Cute nails! Are they acrylics? I really wanna get them! yours look long! How do you like them?
catscanxx 1 month ago
@catscanxx Thanks! There gel, and they are long. I told them med-short. I would hate to see long lol Yeah I love um :)
Kate85xo 1 month ago
@Kate85xo A lot of the times I think back to when I first started to go out in public dressed as the girl that I could, up until then, only be comfortable with at home. Showing my age now (darn it! lol) that was little over 15 years ago and passed half of my life later, I know of a few reasons why I am only now getting closer to living full time. When I was younger, I had no clue how I would be able to navigate potential employment being me, so I figured to survive I had to live as a guy! (cont)
Stephanie3410C 1 month ago
Even the most passable transgendered women get read as being trans. Some people are so hypersensitive to the subtle clues, it can't be avoided. They are so attuned to it, they even convince themsleves that some genetic women are transgender. So u can't worry about them. As far as the conifidence you are seeking; that is sometime that all women deal with, trans or not. You will find it, i promise. With support, good friends, and family, it will come naturally.
JessikaG 1 month ago
@JessikaG That's true! I myself have never been, so I never tough there where people out there that take so much effort in looking at other people. I like how you say "they even convince themsleves that some genetic women are transgender" So yeah really good point. Thanks!
Kate85xo 1 month ago
I like what you were saying here. You deserve credit too, just for being you. :)
Gamercat01 1 month ago
It's not sad to admit the truth. It would be nice to live in a place where it didn't matter what others think of you but the truth is enough people in the world have to think highly of you in order to get anywhere in this world. The old saying that is isn't what you know it is who you know turns out to be more true than people think.
Serena4226 1 month ago
You are very beautiful. For every one negative thing you hear from someone try to turn it into a positive thing for yourself. Stay strong for yourself and for the people around you. Keep up the great work your doing.
batigersfan1985147 1 month ago
@batigersfan1985147 Thank you! :)
Kate85xo 1 month ago
Kate, you are super awesome!!!! seriously inspiring!!
<3 Marcy
xoxoTrixie 1 month ago
I still think you look nice even with out make-up on ^_^ but for me I only remember seeing some one say something twice and that was my first time out and one time at a Walmart lol the Walmart one was a lot scarier they where in line with me then followed me out side and was saying stuff the whole time but other then that I haven't noticed ^_^ it mostly just freaks me out till I am out and about but after that i don't mind as much
thebesthumaninuyasha 1 month ago
You seem pretty cool. I hope your find that strength within yourself. I go out there and try. I don't honestly know how well I pass, but I have heard people with the whole "did you SEE that GUY" bit. At first it kind of hurt because of how much effort I put in, but now I just don't care. I have too much going for me to worry about if someone "reads" me or not. I'm living my life the way I want and it's not something that effects them, really. I'm sure you'll find what you are looking for :) hugs
Sweetychick85 1 month ago