BI RACIAL always wants to Be portrayed as inteligent ......everyone of them , they always dumbs down black ppl as ghetto ,uneducated,stupid.... but they went to a private white school got called A NIGGER but always wants to b both sides Black/white ....as long there is sports and entertainement BLACKS will dominate ..... so BI ppl and white ppl can continue to B smart ......BLACK will entertain your ass ,the Best comedians , we will be the best WR ,RB ,PG you name them ....so no harm feelings
To be honest, you look black. Although I am half white, half black my self , if I was to see you on the street .. I would definitely think that you are just straight up black .. lol x
Bi-racial (black\whites) who grow up around white people are usually completely white-washed and hateful\arrogant towards black people. Their insulting ways always made it really hard for me not to despise them.
Confusing she said she had no concept of race when she was younger but when she saw her black father, had never seen a black person before and was deathly afraid. You have to have some sort of concept of race. Hmmm,maybe I understood this wrong.
I fault your mother and father. You mother for not explaining to you who your were and I fault your father for not making it a point not to be a part of your life. I can understand your fear, for what was not shared with you, Yes, you are a part of both, but at some point you guys need to except the White community has and always will define people of Black / White racial ethnicity will be recognized as Black.
Stephanie,I can understand your point of view even though I am not mixed. But I think you did right in the past by not identifying with either side and being free. You're young and just associate with people who appreciate you for who you are.
im biracial too, my dad walked out on my mom when she was pregnant with me.
i personally feel that if you are not going to be part of their life or try to have a relationship with the kid, then don't fool around with them, meaning, don't be one of those "in and out" parents...either stay or go, not both.
Stephanie, Firstly, I want to acknowledge you for that incredible interview. It was very informative and and enlightening. I think that some of the response that you have received are from others that have only walked in their own shoes. I really enjoyed listening to you and I felt as though I knew you and what you have experienced in your life, although I am not biracial. I feel that regardless of your experience as a child you have grown to be someone who has a sense of self and very assure.
Thank you greatly for your kind words. Yes I understand that not everyone would understand my experience as it was truly unique and my own. There is no right or wrong here, there is just what was. People can question it all they want, but I was speaking truthfully and from my heart as there was no need to lie. I simply did not know and not knowing something has never been a crime. Knowing is 1/2 the battle... and when you know something you can take the necessary steps to make a change.
That is the problem to state a stereotype as a fact simply based upon your experiences, makes what you state as "fact" a falsehood. So it isn't truth, and therefore shouldn't be stated as such.
Stephanie's experience was a strange one. I am speechless regarding her lack of self awareness regarding race as a child regardless of living in an all white community.
true. I also find it interesting that she claims to have had no concept/awareness of race yet when she came in contact with a black person for the first time her immediate response was fear.
Most the whites I have been around are racist, it doesn't mean all whites are racist. It isn't fair to lump a whole group of people that numbers the millions, unless you know the millions of black people in this country, you have no right to make that assumption.
"Honestly my first exposure to blacks was watching the Cosby show, Different Strokes, and a few other shows as a child. I assumed blacks were intelligent and highly motivated. only later did i realize the reality."
The reality? For some of us blacks the Cosby show was closer to reality than any other show on television. My parents were college educated with master degrees, I grew up in affluent areas, and yes both my parents are black, we are not all poor and unintelligent.
I admit as an outsider I am sure how it sounds that I simply just didn't know, but think about it... It's possible.
I am in no way ashamed of being 1/2 black. It's fully embraced, however it does not define me. I live a full enriched life with friends of every race.
I do NOT watch BET as an adult but a 12 - 18 year old girl in high school did. I honestly have no respect whatsoever for the station now and choose to watch it. I'll stick with VH1 Soul ;)
She didn't realize that she was different from the other white kids and her mom till she was around 10 years old?? wow...i realized that with age two. Also...was she never curious who her dad was? I am just wondering.
It seems like the "white" side of her family did not like her father for some reason "lol"
But the factt is I he came to look for his daughter more than one time why was she not asked did her mother take her to meet her other side of her family.
It seems like the mothers selfishness keep her daughter from being around her father he tried more than once it is on the mother two allow her too know her father
It was a crime against the lady she will have idenity problems. .
I come from mulattos from the early 1900 and it seems likethe fact that they do not think so kindly toblack people has not changed that is whywe have seperate family reunions It isno secret down south
We know this issueverywell
I can speak about my state in alabama mulattos were blackpeople "colerd" is the word they usedknow yallcan go in the same bath room with the whites who spit in your face .you do not want to be colerd no more I am not biracial so I usualy dont comment out of respect
Could you give references on the diverse marriages. I have never heard this before...btw I know a few that have cheated, its not going to stop it..just because a person's skin color is different. People are people...
Given her past, I'm more interested in her life today. I too initially thought that maybe she was dellusion (LOL), but I have changed my ignorant view. I think she's being honest about her early childhood. But given that childhood, I wonder what her perception of "black" and "black culture" is. Actually I feel badly for her that she had to rely on BET to learn about Black folk. Y es, it used to be a better channel, but that's still just a shame.
How can you criticize this girl for being totally honest about her reality? She grew up in different way, so what? It's refreshing to see someone not tell the same old story as in the other interviews on this channel.
no one is critisizing anyone here. Ive made a few choice comments about her upbringing or lack there of, but she seems like a nice girl. In a real way I feel very sorry for her. I wouldnt call her interview refreshing but it is different. btw-the other interviews are not a one note, and I do give this woman credit for being brutally honest about where she comes from. It just isnt clear if she is being honest or is still living in her monoracial world, I suppose we'll have to watch pt.2
Interesting interview. For some reason I think that the main reason why her father was absent in her life was more likely due to her mother, not her father. I think her mother had a great deal of hatred towards her father because of the way she neglected to educate her child about her black side. The fact that she was so afraid when the black man approached her and she didn't realize she was black, supports this claim.
Stephanie must have been in denial or some survival mechanism blocked out reality. You are Black you can't pass for white and yes they will grp you in with the Black ppl don't forget it.
yeah its really deep. I mean on one hand I can see as a child not getting the whole race thing, its not on anyones radar and your just playing games,having bdays and enjoying your fam but at some point way before high school you start to become self aware, I mean hair, skin, nails, body, features are 1st and foremost on most girls minds. cmon you didnt know you werent white? its like did you look in a mirror? IDK its possible but very diff to comprehend.
Also.... BET is not a good introduction to "Black Culture" or what is "Black" or "Blackness" (Whatever those terms really mean....and if they really exist).
She should cancel her subscription. (BET is not allowed in my apt.... it's blocked). lol
That network is part of what's wrong with the "Black" image. BET completely provides the most negative & stereotypical images of Blacks imaginable.
Thank you BET is the worst thing in the world to me, that is not black culture. Hip hop is not all black people have offered the world and it's frustrating when people watch this to gain an understanding of black people.
Another story about a Black absentee Father. Wonderful.
But all in all...good interview. Interesting to see both hinting that the idea of being automatically grouped with another brown skinned person was problematic. Understandable though.
And Atlanta as a Black mecca is funny. Not exactly a selling point for the city. I have a sister there and I can't understand why anyone would want to move there. But then again, I don't identify with modern Black Culture, and can't rationalize it.
How do we know he was absentee? She said, her mom and dad moved to atl(i think) wherever he was from and then her mom moved back to her home town. We dont know what happened to cause the divide. She didnt even know. We do know he knew her address and had school pictures of her and came to town to lay eyes on her. Perhaps her mom didnt want her to be around blks, never discussed them or talked about em never even told her she was part of them, its not too far a stretch.
I dont get it either, but I suppose it could happen. Think about if you grew up where everyone was grey and no one ever said you werent grey and all you saw was grey people in town and on tv, you would assume you were like them. Even if they called you names you would assume they were just teasing you I guess. Its like a kitten being raised by lambs, he wouldnt know he was a cat till he saw one.
Like you said, ignorance can be anywhere and speaking as a blk person raised in an upper middle class black family who has family in the hamptons I can assure you the answer is questionable. Ive never met so many self indulged drunkerds in my life than there. Cosby put that show on tv to combat negative stereotypes that run rampant in our media about blks-I see you chose to believe the hype. Your opinion is yours,if you like it I love it. I learned a long time ago to let sleeping dogs lie.
That's not necessarily true, and I'm sure, in reality, you know. It's all about the income and education of the parents, black or white, that overall determine the child's level of success. Of course speaking patterns are influenced by the environment and, yes, it does sound better to employers when one does not have a "ghetto" accent, but overall intelligence is based on opportunity, ones innate ability to lean and comprehend, as well as one's home situation. I would be willing to bet (cont.d)
that a person raised by a poor white parent in an impoverished area would be just as disadvantaged, especially if they were black or biracial, as if they were raised by a poor black person living in an impoverished area. When it comes down to it, the only people who are better off or more educated are individuals who live in the middle or upper class. Unfortunately, most black people, due to a myriad of reasons, exist as part of the lower/working class or are impoverished.
Believe it or not, there are more whites on the welfare roles than blacks. Have you seen Apalacia lately? Love your comments but just had to correct this because media would have you believe otherwise but blks are not the majority of folks getting our tax money. you can believe that.
Yeah, I know, I was trying to give spike some measure of credit toward his/her intelligence, but thank you for adding that. For some reason people tend to think that, in a majority white nation, all of the minorities are soaking up the welfare, which is totally unfounded, and somehow, despite statistics that show the exact opposite, all white people are hard working and/or wealthy to some extent. Leave it to people who might not do any real research to believe they actually know something, huh?
"there are more whites on the welfare roles than blacks", so why the hell do minorities get benefits based on their race because of affirmative action when there are more white people living in poverty than any other race? Not many blacks want to explain that one.
I will explain it. We get benefits based upon the legalized, systematic exclusion and denial of black people in schools, neighborhoods, churches, and jobs. The Civil RIghts movement wasn't about jobs, it was about equality. Not to mention you forget to acknowledge minorities include other races besides black. Affirmative Action also benefits white women, hispanics, asians, and a host of other races.
So your rich, well educated and come from a wealthy family and you STILL think you deserve benefits over whites! How long should this racial discrimination go on for? How many years? In a generation's time white people will no longer be the majority. More and more minority groups are living a middle class and better lifestyle while a greater proportion of whites continue to live in poverty. Discrimination against white males impacts white females too. AA should be needs based only!
I don't think I deserve anything over whites, I want to be able to obtain the same thing that whites automatically get. You don't quite want to understand or acknowledge racism still exists. There is still a wage gap between people of two different races with similar education and job experience, when that is fixed, I will say equality is reached. When I know that I can drive through my own neighborhood w/o fear of being considered an intruder, I might be ok.
@sidittygal Whites don't automatically get anything! It's that kind of thinking that shows how clearly ignorant and racially bias you are. Anyway this isn't the place to discuss this as it's off topic to the video.
How racially biased am I. From my experience and stats support it, there is a discrepancy in how blacks and whites are treated in this country in regards to education, employment, by police, by other people. It isn't all made up, and I pointed out some glaring examples (wage gap), and you still don't acknowledge it. Who is racially biased and ignorant? I really don't have preconceived notions about white people that you seem to about black people.
When I know that people don't automatically assume I am the secretary instead of the manager in the work place, or when I know that people don't assume I am poor and uneducated because they chose to surround themselves with the poor and educated. Maybe equality will be reached.
@ actingdrama I know what it means as do all the people who are denied a fair chance because of racist hypocrites like you who think racial discrimination is wrong except when it's in your favour.
Never do people like you fail to get angry at the Asians, white women, hispanics, and others who benefit from this "racial bias", you only assume it was made exclusively for blacks. Why do you think that is?
I agree with your statement for the most part, but the biggest benefactors of welfare are white single mothers, not black people, and black people have a larger middle class than lower class.
Hm? That's exactly what I was saying, haha. I must have phrased it badly so allow me to correct myself. I meant to say that, statstically and logically, it is pretty obvious that white people are the majority on welfare. However, due to the current "recession" (for black people it's a depression), a lot of the black middle class has been lost, though now they're really only lower middle class or working class, not exactly poor...yet.
Thank you for having some intelligence on this issue. Ebonics is a dialect, just like asians, indians, italians, have accents, so do blks especially those whose families are from the south. There is a misconception that speaking ebonics = ignorance and thats totally false. Peoples racism really runs deep, I dont even know why I bother responding to stuff like this, its just so offputting.
My father to be honest sounds country as all get out, but so do many of his coworkers, and they are white. I live in Texas, white people talk with a twang all the time.
Yes of course they would. Why do you think Stephanie is very well spoken? Because she was brought up in a white family. Who do you think employers would choose, her or a black person who speaks ghetto?
I'm a black person who has managed not to speak "ghetto" and with my education, work experience, and I guess "speaking manner", I've managed to gain professional employment. Imagine.
I think you could only conclude that if you think a person is better off not having to identify as black. As a blk person I take pride in my heritage and my history and cant imagine being anywhere near as successful/cultured/sophisticated/educated if I had been raised by whites. Especially ignorant ones that dont have the cultural awareness to teach their offspring about family and lineage. Im not being provacative, Im being honest.
I think it all matters what area you have grown up around because my mom is black and my father is from spain and iam as white as snow but i act more hip
This interview,hmm I guess we have to take the bad with the good. "It was the 1st time I ever saw a blk person so naturally I was terrified" that comment is terrifying. I hate to say she represents all things people stereotype to support being anti-interracial relations. I see it was thru no fault of her own but how negligent were her family members who made no effort to show her anything positive about 1/2 of who she is.Its disgusting and quite elitest,as if that side of her wasnt worth knowing
1. Knowing is 1/2 the battle and I was 6 years old, never having been talked to or seen another person of any race so yes, anything different than what I was use to seeing was scary for me at 6 years old. The person could have been purple, pink or green and I still would have been scared. It had nothing to do with him being black, it had everything to do with him being different than the people I felt safest around.
I grew up as the "only" black in my neighborhoods and school, I was treated as if I was feared, I might have gotten strange questions about my hair, or why the insides of my hands were "white", but never was there fear about me being black, ignorance yes. I also question because you said yourself that you were "other" where you grew up, were people "naturally" scared of you?
Honestly thinking back now I can say yes. Growing up I didn't really see it as I was such a happy yet oblivious child. Going in to high school I definitely got the questions about my hair or jokes that I was adopted. By the time I reached high school I don't think people were afraid of me, however I got stereotyped as an athlete. [lucky for them I was actually pretty good :)]
Seemed as though her default setting for how to view a Black man was that a Black man = (I almost said rapist....but that's what she was about to say.....) but i'll say...something harmful....or someone who would kidnap her.
But that also could have been the environment as well... being in an 99.5% white area, it's easy to spot someone who does not fit in with the surroundings....so i'll give her the benefit of the doubt on that one... but it was an interesting observation.
that was exactly what it is, just being something different.
The "naturally" was more about a strange man who looks different than anyone I have ever seen before comes up to me speaking my name and holding up a picture of me made me feel uneasy, scared, and apprehensive.
I agree with you that it was sad that that was my natural reaction and that for many years I just had no understanding. My mother had her reasons for choosing to approach the situation the way she did and the older I become the more I understand her thinking. We are all human, and make mistakes and can only do the best we know how to do when we do it.
wow! A black father who wasn't around to bring up his kid.. I didn't see that coming. I bet the statistics would show that parents that are made up of white male/black females are more likely to be married and be married longer and stay as a family than black male/white females. I wonder if Stephanie was told she sounded white and wasn't acting black enough when she was in college at Atlanta?
The world could make do without your smart ass bias comments. Keep your opinions to yourself. You definitely don't speak for all black fathers. There deadbeat dads of al skin tones . I'm a black individual who had both parents growing up and remain together today.
to answer your question yes I was frequently told I talked "like a white girl" when I moved to Atlanta. This is something I have always been extremely annoyed with, because what does "white" sound like. My sister grew up in Atlanta her whole life and is of two black parents, and sounds just like I do, so ultimately to my belief it has nothing to do with race.
And to the second part of your question, yes I also got that I wasn't acting "black enough" again whatever that means.
I got that nonsense too, "talking white" is nothing more than folks feeling insecure about themselves and projecting. My mother was an English teacher for a long time, I wasn't allowed to use ebonics, and when I do attempt to use ebonics, it sounds so forced and weird.
BI RACIAL always wants to Be portrayed as inteligent ......everyone of them , they always dumbs down black ppl as ghetto ,uneducated,stupid.... but they went to a private white school got called A NIGGER but always wants to b both sides Black/white ....as long there is sports and entertainement BLACKS will dominate ..... so BI ppl and white ppl can continue to B smart ......BLACK will entertain your ass ,the Best comedians , we will be the best WR ,RB ,PG you name them ....so no harm feelings
alexl435 1 month ago
A BI racial afraid of a Black man how hilarious.......
alexl435 1 month ago
@Kwinnky Also Affirmative action does not ONLY benefit African -Americans......It is portrayed that way for propaganda's sake.
tianitra 7 months ago
this girl is so fucking hot, give me her digits, I wont do anything
MUN7005 1 year ago
You are so cute!
Jstar141957 1 year ago
To be honest, you look black. Although I am half white, half black my self , if I was to see you on the street .. I would definitely think that you are just straight up black .. lol x
CupCakeMakeUpx 1 year ago
@CupCakeMakeUpx No she is definately mixed race!
Jstar141957 1 year ago
Bi-racial (black\whites) who grow up around white people are usually completely white-washed and hateful\arrogant towards black people. Their insulting ways always made it really hard for me not to despise them.
YTwatcher38 1 year ago 2
Great interview!
splinta24 1 year ago
Confusing she said she had no concept of race when she was younger but when she saw her black father, had never seen a black person before and was deathly afraid. You have to have some sort of concept of race. Hmmm,maybe I understood this wrong.
gabrielle48174 2 years ago
I fault your mother and father. You mother for not explaining to you who your were and I fault your father for not making it a point not to be a part of your life. I can understand your fear, for what was not shared with you, Yes, you are a part of both, but at some point you guys need to except the White community has and always will define people of Black / White racial ethnicity will be recognized as Black.
jWestdd 2 years ago
racist mulatto
ALEX10000BC 2 years ago
I love your videos Tiffany, Keep them coming!!! I especially like your interviews.
LaReginaPatrizia 2 years ago 3
Stephanie,I can understand your point of view even though I am not mixed. But I think you did right in the past by not identifying with either side and being free. You're young and just associate with people who appreciate you for who you are.
LaReginaPatrizia 2 years ago
im biracial too, my dad walked out on my mom when she was pregnant with me.
i personally feel that if you are not going to be part of their life or try to have a relationship with the kid, then don't fool around with them, meaning, don't be one of those "in and out" parents...either stay or go, not both.
julieluvpink 2 years ago
Stephanie, Firstly, I want to acknowledge you for that incredible interview. It was very informative and and enlightening. I think that some of the response that you have received are from others that have only walked in their own shoes. I really enjoyed listening to you and I felt as though I knew you and what you have experienced in your life, although I am not biracial. I feel that regardless of your experience as a child you have grown to be someone who has a sense of self and very assure.
mgabbied 2 years ago 2
Thank you greatly for your kind words. Yes I understand that not everyone would understand my experience as it was truly unique and my own. There is no right or wrong here, there is just what was. People can question it all they want, but I was speaking truthfully and from my heart as there was no need to lie. I simply did not know and not knowing something has never been a crime. Knowing is 1/2 the battle... and when you know something you can take the necessary steps to make a change.
connner 2 years ago 2
That is the problem to state a stereotype as a fact simply based upon your experiences, makes what you state as "fact" a falsehood. So it isn't truth, and therefore shouldn't be stated as such.
sidittygal 2 years ago 3
Stephanie's experience was a strange one. I am speechless regarding her lack of self awareness regarding race as a child regardless of living in an all white community.
canar7 2 years ago 3
true. I also find it interesting that she claims to have had no concept/awareness of race yet when she came in contact with a black person for the first time her immediate response was fear.
mmm makes me wonder.
Unekwu89 2 years ago 4
Most the whites I have been around are racist, it doesn't mean all whites are racist. It isn't fair to lump a whole group of people that numbers the millions, unless you know the millions of black people in this country, you have no right to make that assumption.
sidittygal 2 years ago 3
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sidittygal 2 years ago
"Honestly my first exposure to blacks was watching the Cosby show, Different Strokes, and a few other shows as a child. I assumed blacks were intelligent and highly motivated. only later did i realize the reality."
The reality? For some of us blacks the Cosby show was closer to reality than any other show on television. My parents were college educated with master degrees, I grew up in affluent areas, and yes both my parents are black, we are not all poor and unintelligent.
sidittygal 2 years ago 3
Thanks for all the comments.
I admit as an outsider I am sure how it sounds that I simply just didn't know, but think about it... It's possible.
I am in no way ashamed of being 1/2 black. It's fully embraced, however it does not define me. I live a full enriched life with friends of every race.
I do NOT watch BET as an adult but a 12 - 18 year old girl in high school did. I honestly have no respect whatsoever for the station now and choose to watch it. I'll stick with VH1 Soul ;)
connner 2 years ago
wow interesting!
Ididucantoo 2 years ago
WOW, she looks like Kim Fields!!
mcelweewife 2 years ago
She didn't realize that she was different from the other white kids and her mom till she was around 10 years old?? wow...i realized that with age two. Also...was she never curious who her dad was? I am just wondering.
Alfruna 2 years ago 3
It seems like the "white" side of her family did not like her father for some reason "lol"
But the factt is I he came to look for his daughter more than one time why was she not asked did her mother take her to meet her other side of her family.
It seems like the mothers selfishness keep her daughter from being around her father he tried more than once it is on the mother two allow her too know her father
It was a crime against the lady she will have idenity problems. .
BamaBoy205SR 2 years ago
I come from mulattos from the early 1900 and it seems likethe fact that they do not think so kindly toblack people has not changed that is whywe have seperate family reunions It isno secret down south
We know this issueverywell
I can speak about my state in alabama mulattos were blackpeople "colerd" is the word they usedknow yallcan go in the same bath room with the whites who spit in your face .you do not want to be colerd no more I am not biracial so I usualy dont comment out of respect
BamaBoy205SR 2 years ago
I went through that not comprehending race thing, the adopted questions and not understanding nigger too. Damn, crazy!
Steadno 2 years ago
never knew my dad either
Steadno 2 years ago
Could you give references on the diverse marriages. I have never heard this before...btw I know a few that have cheated, its not going to stop it..just because a person's skin color is different. People are people...
BronzeSista 2 years ago
ugh.... she'd never seen a black person before.. and was AFRAID? Whoa.
jhbreezeb 2 years ago
Really great interview!
DFWTexan42 2 years ago
Given her past, I'm more interested in her life today. I too initially thought that maybe she was dellusion (LOL), but I have changed my ignorant view. I think she's being honest about her early childhood. But given that childhood, I wonder what her perception of "black" and "black culture" is. Actually I feel badly for her that she had to rely on BET to learn about Black folk. Y es, it used to be a better channel, but that's still just a shame.
WellDamn24 2 years ago 2
wow its almost like she doesn t like it that s she black i understand but still sad
wow
nikimanns 2 years ago
How can you criticize this girl for being totally honest about her reality? She grew up in different way, so what? It's refreshing to see someone not tell the same old story as in the other interviews on this channel.
wendy3711 2 years ago 3
no one is critisizing anyone here. Ive made a few choice comments about her upbringing or lack there of, but she seems like a nice girl. In a real way I feel very sorry for her. I wouldnt call her interview refreshing but it is different. btw-the other interviews are not a one note, and I do give this woman credit for being brutally honest about where she comes from. It just isnt clear if she is being honest or is still living in her monoracial world, I suppose we'll have to watch pt.2
curlmebella 2 years ago 2
This video is interesting.
That is all I will say.
ACTINGDRAMA 2 years ago
Hey stephanie, get at me, if you ever come to Oregon.
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Interesting interview. For some reason I think that the main reason why her father was absent in her life was more likely due to her mother, not her father. I think her mother had a great deal of hatred towards her father because of the way she neglected to educate her child about her black side. The fact that she was so afraid when the black man approached her and she didn't realize she was black, supports this claim.
BTW, she's cute.
zarbon700 2 years ago
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zarbon700 2 years ago
interesting....
kindsomali 2 years ago
Stephanie must have been in denial or some survival mechanism blocked out reality. You are Black you can't pass for white and yes they will grp you in with the Black ppl don't forget it.
LER77 2 years ago
yeah its really deep. I mean on one hand I can see as a child not getting the whole race thing, its not on anyones radar and your just playing games,having bdays and enjoying your fam but at some point way before high school you start to become self aware, I mean hair, skin, nails, body, features are 1st and foremost on most girls minds. cmon you didnt know you werent white? its like did you look in a mirror? IDK its possible but very diff to comprehend.
curlmebella 2 years ago
Growing up as "other" where I lived, I was constantly reminded I was different. My skin color stuck out like a sore thumb LOL
sidittygal 2 years ago
Also.... BET is not a good introduction to "Black Culture" or what is "Black" or "Blackness" (Whatever those terms really mean....and if they really exist).
She should cancel her subscription. (BET is not allowed in my apt.... it's blocked). lol
That network is part of what's wrong with the "Black" image. BET completely provides the most negative & stereotypical images of Blacks imaginable.
Quietstorm92 2 years ago 3
Thank you BET is the worst thing in the world to me, that is not black culture. Hip hop is not all black people have offered the world and it's frustrating when people watch this to gain an understanding of black people.
sidittygal 2 years ago 2
I agree with the person below.. It was neglegent (hope i spelled that right) not to introduce her more to the black culture. Better preparation..
bmatt820 2 years ago
Another story about a Black absentee Father. Wonderful.
But all in all...good interview. Interesting to see both hinting that the idea of being automatically grouped with another brown skinned person was problematic. Understandable though.
And Atlanta as a Black mecca is funny. Not exactly a selling point for the city. I have a sister there and I can't understand why anyone would want to move there. But then again, I don't identify with modern Black Culture, and can't rationalize it.
Quietstorm92 2 years ago
How do we know he was absentee? She said, her mom and dad moved to atl(i think) wherever he was from and then her mom moved back to her home town. We dont know what happened to cause the divide. She didnt even know. We do know he knew her address and had school pictures of her and came to town to lay eyes on her. Perhaps her mom didnt want her to be around blks, never discussed them or talked about em never even told her she was part of them, its not too far a stretch.
curlmebella 2 years ago
Growin up in wyoming musta sucked.. Specially for a person of color...
bmatt820 2 years ago 2
not if you didnt know you were a person of color. Being called Nigger in a nice way makes it like one big happy melting pot.
curlmebella 2 years ago
How do you not know your a person of color? I dont buy it..
bmatt820 2 years ago
I dont get it either, but I suppose it could happen. Think about if you grew up where everyone was grey and no one ever said you werent grey and all you saw was grey people in town and on tv, you would assume you were like them. Even if they called you names you would assume they were just teasing you I guess. Its like a kitten being raised by lambs, he wouldnt know he was a cat till he saw one.
curlmebella 2 years ago
Like you said, ignorance can be anywhere and speaking as a blk person raised in an upper middle class black family who has family in the hamptons I can assure you the answer is questionable. Ive never met so many self indulged drunkerds in my life than there. Cosby put that show on tv to combat negative stereotypes that run rampant in our media about blks-I see you chose to believe the hype. Your opinion is yours,if you like it I love it. I learned a long time ago to let sleeping dogs lie.
curlmebella 2 years ago 4
That's not necessarily true, and I'm sure, in reality, you know. It's all about the income and education of the parents, black or white, that overall determine the child's level of success. Of course speaking patterns are influenced by the environment and, yes, it does sound better to employers when one does not have a "ghetto" accent, but overall intelligence is based on opportunity, ones innate ability to lean and comprehend, as well as one's home situation. I would be willing to bet (cont.d)
transendingtime 2 years ago 2
that a person raised by a poor white parent in an impoverished area would be just as disadvantaged, especially if they were black or biracial, as if they were raised by a poor black person living in an impoverished area. When it comes down to it, the only people who are better off or more educated are individuals who live in the middle or upper class. Unfortunately, most black people, due to a myriad of reasons, exist as part of the lower/working class or are impoverished.
transendingtime 2 years ago
Believe it or not, there are more whites on the welfare roles than blacks. Have you seen Apalacia lately? Love your comments but just had to correct this because media would have you believe otherwise but blks are not the majority of folks getting our tax money. you can believe that.
curlmebella 2 years ago
Yeah, I know, I was trying to give spike some measure of credit toward his/her intelligence, but thank you for adding that. For some reason people tend to think that, in a majority white nation, all of the minorities are soaking up the welfare, which is totally unfounded, and somehow, despite statistics that show the exact opposite, all white people are hard working and/or wealthy to some extent. Leave it to people who might not do any real research to believe they actually know something, huh?
transendingtime 2 years ago
"there are more whites on the welfare roles than blacks", so why the hell do minorities get benefits based on their race because of affirmative action when there are more white people living in poverty than any other race? Not many blacks want to explain that one.
AidanNagolxxx 2 years ago
I will explain it. We get benefits based upon the legalized, systematic exclusion and denial of black people in schools, neighborhoods, churches, and jobs. The Civil RIghts movement wasn't about jobs, it was about equality. Not to mention you forget to acknowledge minorities include other races besides black. Affirmative Action also benefits white women, hispanics, asians, and a host of other races.
sidittygal 2 years ago
So your rich, well educated and come from a wealthy family and you STILL think you deserve benefits over whites! How long should this racial discrimination go on for? How many years? In a generation's time white people will no longer be the majority. More and more minority groups are living a middle class and better lifestyle while a greater proportion of whites continue to live in poverty. Discrimination against white males impacts white females too. AA should be needs based only!
AidanNagolxxx 2 years ago
I don't think I deserve anything over whites, I want to be able to obtain the same thing that whites automatically get. You don't quite want to understand or acknowledge racism still exists. There is still a wage gap between people of two different races with similar education and job experience, when that is fixed, I will say equality is reached. When I know that I can drive through my own neighborhood w/o fear of being considered an intruder, I might be ok.
sidittygal 2 years ago
@sidittygal Whites don't automatically get anything! It's that kind of thinking that shows how clearly ignorant and racially bias you are. Anyway this isn't the place to discuss this as it's off topic to the video.
AidanNagolxxx 2 years ago
How racially biased am I. From my experience and stats support it, there is a discrepancy in how blacks and whites are treated in this country in regards to education, employment, by police, by other people. It isn't all made up, and I pointed out some glaring examples (wage gap), and you still don't acknowledge it. Who is racially biased and ignorant? I really don't have preconceived notions about white people that you seem to about black people.
sidittygal 2 years ago
Apparently you don't get what institutional racism is.
ACTINGDRAMA 2 years ago 6
When I know that people don't automatically assume I am the secretary instead of the manager in the work place, or when I know that people don't assume I am poor and uneducated because they chose to surround themselves with the poor and educated. Maybe equality will be reached.
sidittygal 2 years ago
My parents come from poverty, and neither set of grand parents used public assistance. When I say poverty, no running water in their home poor.
sidittygal 2 years ago
It sounds like you don't know what AA means?
ACTINGDRAMA 2 years ago
@ actingdrama I know what it means as do all the people who are denied a fair chance because of racist hypocrites like you who think racial discrimination is wrong except when it's in your favour.
AidanNagolxxx 2 years ago
Never do people like you fail to get angry at the Asians, white women, hispanics, and others who benefit from this "racial bias", you only assume it was made exclusively for blacks. Why do you think that is?
sidittygal 2 years ago 4
How am I a hypocrite?
While you are trying to blame me for you being "discriminated" against. You need to blame white women, asian, hispanics, the disabled, etc..
Because apparently you forgot that AA is meant for them as well.
Lets not get into statistics. You are in denial.
ACTINGDRAMA 2 years ago 3
I agree with your statement for the most part, but the biggest benefactors of welfare are white single mothers, not black people, and black people have a larger middle class than lower class.
sidittygal 2 years ago
Hm? That's exactly what I was saying, haha. I must have phrased it badly so allow me to correct myself. I meant to say that, statstically and logically, it is pretty obvious that white people are the majority on welfare. However, due to the current "recession" (for black people it's a depression), a lot of the black middle class has been lost, though now they're really only lower middle class or working class, not exactly poor...yet.
transendingtime 2 years ago 2
I definitely understand your point :)
sidittygal 2 years ago
Thank you for having some intelligence on this issue. Ebonics is a dialect, just like asians, indians, italians, have accents, so do blks especially those whose families are from the south. There is a misconception that speaking ebonics = ignorance and thats totally false. Peoples racism really runs deep, I dont even know why I bother responding to stuff like this, its just so offputting.
curlmebella 2 years ago
My father to be honest sounds country as all get out, but so do many of his coworkers, and they are white. I live in Texas, white people talk with a twang all the time.
sidittygal 2 years ago
you need to make all of these interviews into a full blown documentary
rachfaceeee 2 years ago
Yes of course they would. Why do you think Stephanie is very well spoken? Because she was brought up in a white family. Who do you think employers would choose, her or a black person who speaks ghetto?
AidanNagolxxx 2 years ago
Not all black people from the hood/ghetto speak broken English or "Ebonics".
12Judah12 2 years ago 2
I'm a black person who has managed not to speak "ghetto" and with my education, work experience, and I guess "speaking manner", I've managed to gain professional employment. Imagine.
sidittygal 2 years ago
I think you could only conclude that if you think a person is better off not having to identify as black. As a blk person I take pride in my heritage and my history and cant imagine being anywhere near as successful/cultured/sophisticated/educated if I had been raised by whites. Especially ignorant ones that dont have the cultural awareness to teach their offspring about family and lineage. Im not being provacative, Im being honest.
curlmebella 2 years ago
I really love your channel. Thanks for keeping it up.
Oh yeah stephanie is really cute; great interview ladies.
djslyfox 2 years ago 2
I think it all matters what area you have grown up around because my mom is black and my father is from spain and iam as white as snow but i act more hip
TheRobert700 2 years ago
This interview,hmm I guess we have to take the bad with the good. "It was the 1st time I ever saw a blk person so naturally I was terrified" that comment is terrifying. I hate to say she represents all things people stereotype to support being anti-interracial relations. I see it was thru no fault of her own but how negligent were her family members who made no effort to show her anything positive about 1/2 of who she is.Its disgusting and quite elitest,as if that side of her wasnt worth knowing
curlmebella 2 years ago 10
I was a bit put off by that statement too. Blackness is something to be feared? Even if you yourself are half black?
sidittygal 2 years ago 4
1. Knowing is 1/2 the battle and I was 6 years old, never having been talked to or seen another person of any race so yes, anything different than what I was use to seeing was scary for me at 6 years old. The person could have been purple, pink or green and I still would have been scared. It had nothing to do with him being black, it had everything to do with him being different than the people I felt safest around.
connner 2 years ago
I grew up as the "only" black in my neighborhoods and school, I was treated as if I was feared, I might have gotten strange questions about my hair, or why the insides of my hands were "white", but never was there fear about me being black, ignorance yes. I also question because you said yourself that you were "other" where you grew up, were people "naturally" scared of you?
sidittygal 2 years ago
Honestly thinking back now I can say yes. Growing up I didn't really see it as I was such a happy yet oblivious child. Going in to high school I definitely got the questions about my hair or jokes that I was adopted. By the time I reached high school I don't think people were afraid of me, however I got stereotyped as an athlete. [lucky for them I was actually pretty good :)]
connner 2 years ago
They stereotyped me as an athlete too. Unfortunately for them, I was horrible :)
sidittygal 2 years ago 4
Seemed as though her default setting for how to view a Black man was that a Black man = (I almost said rapist....but that's what she was about to say.....) but i'll say...something harmful....or someone who would kidnap her.
But that also could have been the environment as well... being in an 99.5% white area, it's easy to spot someone who does not fit in with the surroundings....so i'll give her the benefit of the doubt on that one... but it was an interesting observation.
Quietstorm92 2 years ago
that was exactly what it is, just being something different.
The "naturally" was more about a strange man who looks different than anyone I have ever seen before comes up to me speaking my name and holding up a picture of me made me feel uneasy, scared, and apprehensive.
connner 2 years ago
I agree. This interview is interesting.
ACTINGDRAMA 2 years ago
I agree with you that it was sad that that was my natural reaction and that for many years I just had no understanding. My mother had her reasons for choosing to approach the situation the way she did and the older I become the more I understand her thinking. We are all human, and make mistakes and can only do the best we know how to do when we do it.
connner 2 years ago
That was an interesting interview , That was a really scary way of meeting a absent parent , I couldn't imagine . Can't wait for part 2 = ]
CrystalDawn2507 2 years ago
Great part 1! =} Can't wait for part 2.
4Blindian4 2 years ago
wow this is a very interesting interview I would love to see the second part.
LadiiOri 2 years ago
wow! A black father who wasn't around to bring up his kid.. I didn't see that coming. I bet the statistics would show that parents that are made up of white male/black females are more likely to be married and be married longer and stay as a family than black male/white females. I wonder if Stephanie was told she sounded white and wasn't acting black enough when she was in college at Atlanta?
AidanNagolxxx 2 years ago
not in atl OUTSIDE OF ATL prolly
TwinkletOes24 2 years ago
The world could make do without your smart ass bias comments. Keep your opinions to yourself. You definitely don't speak for all black fathers. There deadbeat dads of al skin tones . I'm a black individual who had both parents growing up and remain together today.
southoreast 2 years ago 2
thank YOU!
maichai13 2 years ago
DO not put failing fathers epidemic (pandemic really) on black mans shoulders. There are deadbeats ALL around (which is said men).
maichai13 2 years ago
to answer your question yes I was frequently told I talked "like a white girl" when I moved to Atlanta. This is something I have always been extremely annoyed with, because what does "white" sound like. My sister grew up in Atlanta her whole life and is of two black parents, and sounds just like I do, so ultimately to my belief it has nothing to do with race.
And to the second part of your question, yes I also got that I wasn't acting "black enough" again whatever that means.
connner 2 years ago
I got that nonsense too, "talking white" is nothing more than folks feeling insecure about themselves and projecting. My mother was an English teacher for a long time, I wasn't allowed to use ebonics, and when I do attempt to use ebonics, it sounds so forced and weird.
sidittygal 2 years ago 4
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bearr7 2 years ago