Postpartum Feelings

[Mcroryr1]

Thank you for being so honest. Totally agree! Rx

[karaseen]

SO nice to hear your honesty in this video. It's true! All you say ere is true, at least for me. :)

[gabbee16]

Yeah, my sister basically told me all this stuff after she had her kid. She's now pregnant again, even though her first baby is still only a few months old! I have no idea how she'll cope with 2 babies. Personally, I don't think I'll ever have kids, but I admire women who do. It's not easy.

[xxgunsgobangxx]

The short fringe really suits you. :]

[1Tankgirl1]

Totally agree with everything your saying

[cookiehere]

you are looking incredibly emo lately

[manco82]

You fucking stupid slut.

[roset85]

I have 2 kids who are 11 months apart, I am not single but my partner did not help when they were babies, or much now for that matter, but I was able to cope better during the day because my babies started sleeping through at 3 weeks. I can remember what my life was like before them, but I would not have my life without them, they are my world, my old life sucked, until I had my kids. I read your LJ and I have the absolute opposite opinion on motherhood, I love being a stay at home mum :)

[roset85]

Forgot to add I was 19 when I had my oldest child, 20 when I had the youngest :) and I'm from Australia too.

[cinnaraisnbagel]

I think its awesome that you can be so honest with yourself and others about what its like as a mother. And maybe it'll even help some of us guys realize a bit more what its like from your side of the equation.

[bebaylamas07]

great!! ty 4 posting

[ThePandaMomma]

Please forgive me for the roughness of my video. I seriously need a new webcam and can't seem to figure out how to edit my videos like an idiot.

[OutrageousIMVU]

Thanks emmalina for sharing your thoughts, Im doing pre-baby research.. For when me and my boyfriend try for our first next year, He's much older than me and I'm younger than you.. But I feel ready for a baby! & Thanks for sharinng your opinions and thoughts, cause its helping me :)

[butterflysweetie09]

i can honestly say that i have gotten frustrated with her but i wouldnt change a thing and i stay up with her every night except when i am extremly tired then my hubby does it. things will get better my baby is 3 months too and its hard but there is nothing more rewarding than having i child.

[mjschumacher100]

My baby boy is 14 months old and I can tell you, it all gets better. Mine now sleeps from 7pm to 7am (Gina Ford a godsend for me) and the sleepless nights have gone, he's much more like a boy rather than a baby and much more fun to be around (babies can be utterly boring at times :) I think everyone goes through what you've gone through, the doubts, the 'bad' thoughts but it's natural.

[capttoms]

Hi Emmalina, I am glad to see your Baby is Healthy, But after seeing you try to get Him to say Hello, I wonder if he will pick up your accent also ;-). This is a Great Video, and It should be shown in all schools , to Let young Girls know it is not all fun & Games to be a new Mom. I hope this passes quickly so you Feel Better.

I wish you and your Family the Best!

Capt Tom Stone,

Kingman, AZ

[CortneyC213]

Emmalina, I feel just like you do! My son is now 5 months old and I had to eventually go to the doc for some happy pills... keep your head up sweetheart, it'll get better!

[ChiTownBearCub2387]

Your videos have gotten pretty boring as if you've gotten older. I used to really enjoy watching them.

[FaddleonLSD]

I know & she still gets heaps of views.

I stole Edward Kennedy and i still can't kick her arse.

[IHardlyKnowYou]

Did you get put in touch with a mother's group? They can help with the "stuck at home" feeling of not going to work and let you meet a new circle of people going through some of the same things.

[ashpash241]

hey Emmalina,

I love your honesty. Good work! I know you are doing the best you can, and thats all anyone could ask for. You have my support!! :)

[ambularofamber]

I couldn't fathom being a single mother. I am a mom to an 18 mos old. Its so indescribable when someone asks how motherhood is......or how they can prepare for motherhood. Its the best yet most challenging...most emotional job of our lives.

[Emmalina]

Yeah, I honestly think I'd end up needing psychiatric help if I had to do this all on my own. When Daniel comes home from work, I feel like if he'd been half an hour longer I'd reach the end of my tether. I have so much respect for single mums now, especially those who don't have much family/friend support either.

[thecoolfruitloop]

I was a single mother for nearly the first 9 months of my sons life. I'm 19, was 18 at the time and it was hard. But let me tell you this, it gets easier, when he hits 6 months, he'll be mobile and you'll be able to read him a lot more. Just keep your head up. His father is now back from bootcamp and he helps me A LOT. He lets me sleep in most weekends because I tend to my son every M-F while he goes on with his schooling. He's now almost 15 months and things look a lot easier now that he walks

[FaddleonLSD]

On looking at this discussion, there are lots of people out there who have similar issues regarding parenthood. Have a friend in Melbourne and his wife is expecting in about 8 weeks so i've cut and pasted some of the feedback here because it's pretty handy advice.

Don't be worried about getting professional advice either.

This might sound really silly, but from what you're learning here, u are actually gaining attributes that would look good on any CV or application letter. It's true!

[MeliciousMelissa]

I think you nailed mommyhood!

[jewelchic]

Hey Emmalina...I think you are feeling like this because you had such a busy life that you were enjoying. I had my first baby at 25 & had worked before that, but I stopped working when i had babies. Later as they got older i created a business I could do from home and now i can't imagine going back to have another baby because my life is so full. Maybe put some things on hold for a while? You are still young to go back. Normal to have arguments too,hang in there, it can all return to what it was

[jewelchic]

....more...

I LOVED your honesty but really wanted to reassure you that having babies young is GREAT...my first is 17 now and i am still young enough to do all my stuff...life is better now than ever...Blake looks so cute too...you are really lucky. Take one thing at a time...take a breath and know that you have a life ahead of you...you don't have to do it ALL right now-love Megan xxx

[mandybluehotty17]

will i moved back with my mom and dad and i sill dont have any help all i get is yelled at if my baby cry

[geeklex]

Very well put. Nice to see you back.

[DragonFruitBabe]

We all knew Daniel was awesome, but that is awesomesauce that he does the night feeds. Most dads wont change a diaper!

[JaxxProductions]

It's great that you're talking about all of this. I hope it can really help other young parents out there to feel they're not along - and for you too.

:)

[FaddleonLSD]

Your vids r better than alcohol! Never boring ;-)

Glasses groovy, u look upmarket.

Don't be ashamed to see the uni psych if you haven't alreadly. Trying to cope yourselves is tough, especially in an age where both parents work or study. Sure, family support is impt, but that extra professional support makes all the difference. They can suggest how you could get economical child care and all.

Lady in my cul de sac has brain injury and is single mum, got help, does well and now works. Go 4 it.

[FaddleonLSD]

ps. not that you're 'single mum'.

One good thing to come out of this - you're back on the 'most watched today' list. I'm RESENTFUL.

[xscene16]

I love your honesty in this Video and while I can't relate to you it's really intersting to know how a young mum feels at this time. You're right about mum's pretending they have it all together and complain they miss out on a full nights sleep its a false reality. Keep making videos !! I love your blog by the way!

[agentlalaorange]

Thank you so much for being so honest about these things Emma. As a newlywed getting ready to start trying to get pregnant, it's nice to hear an honest account of new motherhood!

[heatherface]

HAHAHAHAHA I CAN SLEEP ALL I WANT. But I get woken by Davis wanting to talk about poop, so I don't need a baby to know how much that sucks.

[VenumduV]

I have a 2yr old daughter and a boy on the way and Im SOOO not looking forward to being a ZOMBIE both day & night again. The SLEEP DEPRAVATION is SOOO intense & thats one thing I didnt expect. I use to be jealous that my wife would be able to nap when the baby naps while Im at work struggling then to cum home to take over for the night. Luckily the shifts Im in now I will be able to sneak sleep in without the boss knowing so i can be more energised when at home

[Jilz2]

Oyeah, and uhm another question.

You know the things you said in your video "Being a mum at 21."

Do you still agree with everything you said then? I think you are a very bright, intelligent en sensible young woman. ( not to be arrogant, but i can totally relate with you)

But is there anything you said in that video that you don't agree on anymore?

I'm not judging, i'm just curious.

[Emmalina]

Perhaps the only thing I feel differently about is how I talked about Uni and work, and how I could easily finish my degree from home and return to work, sharing the workload with my partner. Or at least, I think I said that anyway.

My partner made my return to work difficult by accepting a promotion which means he can't cut down on hours so I'd need to find a babysitter to go back myself. My return to work and Uni is a lot more convoluted and challenging than I thought it would be.

[Emmalina]

And those things are VERY important to me (being feminist bordering on misandry, lol), so being unable to do them right now is depressing me a bit. I might make a video talking about that. Actually, I might watch that video again and make a follow-up video...

[Jilz2]

I'm really appreciate your honesty! You are just speaking every new moms mind. In Holland it's not that much a taboe as in other country's.

My mom and her friends always tell me they were so frustrated when they still had babies to take care off. To the point that they locked themselves out of their apparments and cried on the stairs.

I seriously understand what you're going to. Even though i'm not a mother.

And really, you aren't different from other moms. You just say it like it is.

[RabbitEars001]

Until you get to the division between "have nannys' and "don't have nannys", children are a great equalizer. Your experience is unique, yet common. My wife used to nudge me and then pretend to be asleep so I'd do the night feeding. Don't tell her I know.

[narleynina]

You always have new and exciting hair. I also think that you will probably never have a good night's sleep again. You have the mommy syndrome. Worrying about your baby to the point of sleep deprivation is one of the symptoms of being a good, caring mother.

[IdiotActionFilms]

It's a new thing for you, and doing new things in life is good. Principally when it's something like this, a baby, how good is that?

Well, for me it sucks, but I know that for you it's special. Well what am I talking about? I'm a boy.

I can't look at the mirror and see me with a wife, imagine with a baby. Oh damn...

[WafflesMcShatner]

Lucky he did all the nightly feedings! Im jealous lol.

My husband was deployed my daughters first 6 1/2 months of life, so I did every thing by myself, lol. Harsh stuff.

[holloway5830]

Emmalina, I have watched your videos over the years and its amazing seeing how your life has changed and progressed..Its been a treat. Good luck with Blake he is very cute. By the way... cool glasses

[derekcolman]

You used to be an airhead, Emmalina, but now you are so fucking sensible. I am not complaining though, it suits you.

[00bec]

I think this is an amazingly honest and revealing video. You deserve so much praise for telling the truth about the post-pregnancy life and how women really feel.

I think a lot of women feel inadequate as a mother when they have their first baby because no one tells you how hard it is and how you're really going to feel. We're led to believe that it is meant to be all sunshine and happiness 100% of the time and the fact that you're standing up and saying 'actually, it's hard' is very noble.

[edge30]

Are you going to post videos dancing gasolina again? let me know please... so I can unsubscribe

[Emmalina]

Unsubscribe

[nicholas9999]

I loved this video, because it is you at your most honest. In truth, I believe that you (and perhaps all new mums) need a wife, lol!! It does seem a bit one-sided for your partner to be able to take off for a while each day, your moment of true boresomeness was priceless. Maybe your own mum needs to help out so you can have a day off occasionally??

[IWannabeJew]

Looks like it won't be long before you're having very amusing conversations with your son.

[softerthanshadow]

This was a really great video to watch. You give really awesome insight to what its like to be a young new mother. Keep your chin up and keep making these videos, all women should really listen to what you're saying. Be strong!

[bgirl90]

You look awesome girl! Being a Mom agrees with you!!! <3

[MEEMER1214]

Oh sweetie. It WON'T be like this for long. Hang in there. Hold on because I have a 3yr old a 4 yr old and a 6 yr old and I have a fun easy going life. I take them out and do crafts and am very involved. I pushed thru and am now happy with my life. you are a great mum and just take it one day at a time. 3 mths from now it will all be diffrent Good luck babe and you can do this. Don't overextend yourself and always ask for help. Cheers.

[fairypixie]

Emma, i think you're really handling your duties well. It's ok to have these feelings and really a good thing you have an outlet for them. I really enjoy hearing what you have to say, and love the updates. :)

[IzzyJulia]

i think your a cool mom to tell us how you really feel. :)

[sundaybug]

COCO!

she looks so fat :3

[Lilyyyx]

well done emmalina and congrats on Blake what a gorgeous name! btw i love the new look on you, suits u very much!

damn why do people always argue on every video on here...pathetic!

[StudioVeena]

I do think more women should be honest about how hard it is. I have had my moments of crying in the corner, wishing someone could take my place. Mine are 8, 6,3, and 11m and my l whole life still revolves around naps, school, food and bed time. I'm a big believer in consistency and it had made for well behaved kids..BUT it causes me to feel like a prisoner of there needs, sometimes. Its really hard not having interaction with adults for days on end! Great vid, have you started pole dancing yet?

[AnastasiaRuby]

I love these videos; they're so honest. You should definitely keep up these 'feeligns' videos :)

[Dorkopolis]

"He's really badly wanting to play, but he still physically can't really do anything so he just gets frustrated and cries." I thought you were talking about your husband for a bit LOL!

[andyoutwotouched]

rofllll

[periwinkleblues]

I had HORRIBLE PPD. With all 3 of my kids. It was really really bad. I loved them and took care of them but it was rough for the first 6 mos after each of them were born. I'm sure you've heard this before but it gets better - and after a while you look back and think where'd the time go. =)

[discountbacon]

Aw, hang in there Emma. At least it's safe to say it won't be this stressful forever; and when as he gets older, you can look back on this rough time and feel so proud of the time and dedication you've given to your child, which makes you the best mother you can possibly be. The mothers who aren't nearly gripping their hair out are the ones who aren't doing enough.

[Bunnygirl3]

I think its brave of you to speak your mind. your right most moms don't.. i'm a nanny and i have dealt with a few moms who act like its all sunshines and rainbows..there is nothing wrong with saying that your sleepy and that some days you feel like you cant deal with it all..but its only the beginning..it will get better..keep sharing we are listening..

[ByeByeBelly]

someone can babysit Blake and we will go out n par tay . wait . neither of us even did that b4 blake .

[ByeByeBelly]

The floor in the kitch is nice too

[DreamerOfNight]

Was excited to see an update from you, Emma. Blake is absolutely a gorgeous baby! Hang in there! Like you said, communication. That'll get you through it.

[burnmaker01]

you are still hot, my little one ;]

[oOsteffi]

you are honest i love it - you are doin' everything right as long as you three are happy with it!

[bethcallahan2006]

Just for the record...I was not trying to be rude or snarky. It is sometimes hard to convey feelings through written word. I aplogize if I offended you or anyone else on here. It was not my intention at all and I hope your son is doing okay.

[AutumnBrooke]

I agree, women need to be more honest about this. It's very normal, but society makes it seem like you're horrible for feeling this way. As far as getting more sleep goes, have you tried dream feeding? I used to put my girls down at 8 and wake them up at 11 or 12 to kind of cluster feed them so they'd sleep longer and then I'd go to bed. They'd have a full tummy longer and it seemed to help them sleep through the night more easily. Hang in there.

[kitty3309]

Much as I love babies and I love having my friends baby for her, it has made me realise how exausting it is after just a day!

I really don`t know how people manage more than one! Hats off to you for voicing how you feel. More people should do that instead of feeling bad  because they get frustrated. It`s natural!

[bethcallahan2006]

I very much appreciate your refreshing honesty! Everything you have said is like listening to what I was feeling after I had each of my kids. :)

[TabMcgee]

I can completely relate. My daughter will be 12 weeks tomorrow and I'm exclusively nursing. I have not been away from her for longer than 10 minutes. It's very exhausting....

[AussieMummySince07]

My son started sleeping through from about 18wks, before that he was in hospital for 8wks and then wen he came home he only woke for a feed once during the night. We had it easy i guess :)

Honestly- i havnt felt how your feeling but thats just me- we dont all struggle like you say you are.

Are you honestly happy with your choice to have had a baby?

[bethcallahan2006]

Her feelings are completely normal feelings. Your son being in the hospital for 8 weeks allowed him to get onto the strict hospital schedule. You did have it easy because you did not have him while he was adjusting to a day/night schedule. I am not being mean at all but trying to point something out.

[AussieMummySince07]

Plz show me exactly where i said her feelings wernt normal? I was only givin my experience.

PLEASE! U hav no bloody idea wat my son went thru in hospital so dont dare try 2assume u do. "You did have it easy"- u hav absolutely NO idea wat ur talking about. Do u think that being told ur son isnt expected to live and if he does he will basically be a vegetable is "EASY"??? Jus cuz i wasnt feedin during the nite doesnt mean i bloody well had it easy.

Thats me trying to "point something out".

[xmandiex]

....You were the one that said "We had it easy I guess :)" So why are you bitching at someone else for practically agreeing with what you said? :/

[bethcallahan2006]

I think you are reading a little to much into what I was saying. I meant that you had it easy in regards to the nightly feedings aspect. By suggesting that she might not be honestly happy with her choice to have her son, you are hinting at the fact that her feelings are not normal. At least that is how it sounds.

I was not acting as if I knew anything about you or your son's situation. I was simply remarking on the info you provided. I meant no disrespect towards you...

[LaPistolerina]

I think she was merely pointing out you saying "we dont all struggle like you say you are." and "Are you honestly happy with your choice to have had a baby? " which is a bit pretentious and unnecessary.

[AutumnBrooke]

Then why did you, yourself say "we had it easy, I guess" if you didn't have it easy? You also didn't give all this information in your initial comment, so how was the responder supposed to know all of this? Your initial comment came off as rude, so I assume that is why the reply was sort of defending Emmalina.

[AutumnBrooke]

I agree with your comment. Every child is different, and you should count your lucky stars your son was so easy. That is NOT the norm. Across the moms board that I'm a member of, the most common complaint is sleep schedules. I kind of found that initial comment to be a bit snarky.

[AussieMummySince07]

You can all take it however you like.

If any of you took it any other way than how i personally meant, thats your issue. I know how i meant what i said/asked and i didnt intentionally mean any disrespect or anything. I asked a bloody question, sorry thats apparently not allowed in this day and age.

Im not gunna enter into your little attack any further, not worth it.

Emmalina- if u took it in any other way than that which i personally meant, i appologise to you.

[Emmalina]

Since you have a son of your own, I think you know the answer to your question ("Are you honestly happy with your choice to have a baby?")

How can you have experienced having a child of your own and think that anyone could answer no? My son is an angel to me and he's brought a love to my life that I never knew was possible. Me saying that I find it a struggle doesn't mean I'm not bloody happy with him.

[Emmalina]

Awesome that you personally didn't struggle. I'm happy for you. I went from working full-time with my fiance and studying at Uni, to being a stay-at-home mum (til January, anyway). I'm an only child and have never dealt with children at all before. Yes, I find these changes a huge challenge, but it doesn't mean I'm unhappy with my son in the slightest.

I find it funny that you freaked out at someone for saying yeah, you had it easy, when you just said yourself that you did.

[AussieMummySince07]

YES, wen he came home it was easy. He was a gd baby & slept well. In that respect YES, I DID HAV IT EASY.

Ur sharing ur exp. & i shared mine- that HONESTLY, no, not ALL parents feel wat u feel. No, it wasnt easy wen he was in hosp, OBVIOUSLY. But w/ wat u were refering 2- yes, we did have it easy.

I had also never been around babies b4 my son.

From how u were talking i wondered if u were happy. No, of course jus cuz its challengin 4u that means ur not, but the FEEL i got was maybe u wernt.

[AussieMummySince07]

U imply all women w/ a son must feel lik u do- i highly doubt ALL women r thrilled w/ it & from how u were talkin i was wonderin if u were or not... But yes, i am. More than happy w/ my lil man :) Hes com a long way & im v. proud of him.

No,strugglin doesnt auto. mean ur not happy but lik i said, thats the feel i got from the vid.

Jus cuz i hav a son &love him to death, does not mean all women feel that same love- they dont all.

[superdragoncat]

I appreciate the reality check. I'm not often around children, at this point in my life, and tend to forget how difficult they are. Your post reminds me of how not ready for children I am. But I'm happy you're coping. Keep up the good work. =)

[bluesparks24]

I think it's awesome that you are so refreshingly honest about motherhood. It's definitely not all smiles and roses like it is made out to be and women shouldn't feel guilty for having some of these normal feelings/thoughts about their baby/thier life. Great job, I'm favouriting this if you don't mind :)

[josh111274]

she had a kid you moron. did you watch the vid at all moron

[Emmalina]

lol maybe, if you're into the whole vapid, anorexic orange-fake-tan-cheap-ho thing still. I'm a bit past it though.

[NoFxxxxxxWay]

Well, good for you.;) And i know she had a baby...but still a BIG change. Cute baby tho.

[BabyCeCe]

actually i think she looks hotter than b4, cant even tell shes had a kid! and she rocks that style

[ByeByeBelly]

It's pretty obvious what happened to her, isn't it? Since this entire video is all about being a new MOTHER? She doesn't look any different to her OLD videos other than she's not showing SKIN which is obviously all you're interested in.

[FaddleonLSD]

HEY how come i didn't get a bite when i posted similar?

They're playing favourites!

[HardCandyJane]

Thanks for sharing. I hope this encourages more women to be more honest about the reality of being a new Mum.

[bethcallahan2006]

This is a great thought! I know that I am sometimes hesitant to discuss the mental and physical strains of motherhood because I am so afraid of being looked at as a bad mother. In reality, all mother's have those feelings, thoughts and frustrations and we should be able to discuss them without worry and fear of being judged.