My parents found out and tried to change me and now they hate me I told two people at school and one laughed and the other fell in love I broke his heart still bad over that. They wernt rearlly friends.. Should I tell my friends my family would hate me more If I did so I'm stuck
wow everytime i watch your videos i feel like ur my bestfriend haha wierd and by my name u can tell im gay im 13 and someone told my mom i was gay and idk what to do i know she will be accepting but my dad willkill me so if u have some advice get back to me if you can thanks-ur little fan-Dyl
I think my younger brother migh be gay. he is your age 18, If my brother is realy gay I don't wish anything bad for him. However my family and I my self are homofobics I was raized that way, I never though I would be in this position.
So I am pretty sure that I am bi and I haven't told anyone yet... I have known this for a long time now and I am in 8th grade, and I feel like it is the right time to come out... I could use some personal advice please
a cake? really? no, you come out face to face. there are several good reasons: You will be showing them you are ok with being gay & are being respectfull. If you care about them, they deserve YOUR support dealing with this, you had a lot of time to deal & sort things out, they dont. Some ppl react very badly, you will want to be there to put out fires.
PLEASE PLEASE when & IF you come out, DONT take any negative crap to heart. they are only reacting to their image of you changing in their mind, sometimes they will lash out at you, but usually do come around in time, esp if they think they will lose you. IF they dont, you must be strong for yourself, surround yourself with loving freinds & fam that will help you deal. YOU ARE NOT ALONE! many of us lost friends & fam that we thought loved us for who we are.
@sleekcartim i came out over two years ago and am completely okay in this world. i don't need others opinions or words to strengthen me. but the advice you give is very good and is something everyone should follow.
@RunnerDude4114 well it's advice for everyone (else). ive been doing this for much longer than you have been alive, i take it seriously, cuz i know 1st hand it could easily be a matter of life & death to kids who are in a fragile state of mind.
@sleekcartim don't get me wrong, i appreciate your commenting and the advice you are giving is very good and true. it doesn't matter how long you have been doing this, believe me in the few years i've been on here i've gotten literally hundreds of messages dealing with coming out and advice. no, i don't have the same amount of time doing this as you, but i am experienced at this. don't doubt for a second that i don't take this seriously. i do. i just know that a little comic relief can help too
@sleekcartim also i may YEARS younger than you but trust me, your not the only one with first hand experience to how this can be a moment of life and death, and not just to kids.
@sleekcartim once again though, i really do appreciate your commenting and the advice you give should not be over looked by anyone. i don't mean to sound rude or attacking. i'm just presenting my thoughts (which there has been plenty of both time and experience put into them) if you feel that something is wrong though, feel free to make a video response to this.
For me the coming out process came in stages. One family member at a time. After over 30 years of fighting I finally came to terms with it in sept of 2009 and was not officially out to my family till May 11, 2010. With each time I had "the talk" another member of my family, it was like another 1000 pound weight was lifted off my chest. My family was cool in that they all kept it quiet and allowed me to tell the other family member in my own time. Much to my surprise all but one already knew.
I listened to that part at least 5 times in a row right before I told my one of my two closest friends from 10th grade. She was fine with it. She gave me the whole "don't be ashamed" talk, but that's better than rejecting me.
I found that Facebook chat was actually really easy. It's less tangible than texting because only she can see it unless someone else is on her page while I'm online. It was also easier because I could type it and then I just had to take a breath and press Enter.
I am seriously shocked that you only have around 2000 views. One way or another, this video needs more attention. Out of all the story videos and advice videos I've watched, this one is definitely the best. You covered how to deal with the most common scenarios and your solutions made sense. More people need to be watching this.
I've been watching the tyleroakley and joneepixels7 Channels for a while and I have lot of respect for them and their opinions. This is the third video I've watched from you and I already value your opinions as much as theirs. All of your videos seem very well thought out and are presented well. Your style reminds me a bit more of Tyler. Maybe that's why I like your videos so much.
@RunnerDude4114 I am so thrilled to see you declare yourself with such conviction and confidence! When Bobby and I were young, together and "out", the world was a far different and decidedly hostile place to LGBT people. Watching your video here is testament to just how much things have changed. Bobby and I could only dream of a generation like yours! I'm so pleased that it ,and you, have come to pass! Yeah!!!! May G-D Bless You, Sincerely, Blaine
@RunnerDude4114 I am so thrilled to see you declare yourself with such conviction and confidence! When Bobby and I were young, together and "out", the world was a far different and decidedly hostile place to LGBT people. Watching your video here is testament to just how much things have changed. Bobby and I could only dream of a generation like yours! I'm so pleased that it ,and you, have come to pass! Yeah!!!! May G-D Bless You, Sincerely, Blaine
hey dan, your stories are such a grerat help and inspiration for the younger generation out there that are in your situation, just to hear the process and ways you took to helping people tell there parents and friends is awesome.
you have facebook or msn, would be great to chat sometime
damn,, Hollister clothing, how gay is that?? In the past you trolled my friend Jenna. don't give shitty advices cuz it is not cool. I am so disgusted.
"You're the protagonist of your life, and everyone else is just a supporting character." This is one of my new favorite quotes inspirational quotes <3
cake.... that is the single most brilliant idea i've ever heard! :D
but in a way it's kinda like a letter or a txt so they should be in the room with them. it still saves them the trouble of having to say it themselves which is really what the cake point is about :)
darn, if only i had thought of this when i came out, it would've at least been a little fun :P
Your friends mom outed you? What a bitch! What right did she have to do that? That is so unbelieveably sucky. Did she think she was doing you a favor or that her "inside knowlege" would be welcomed? Do you still talk to her? I'm afraid if someone did that to me I'd have to pay her a visit she didnt like...
Dan, you need to continue to reach out to younger gay people around your age. You maybe able to help them with coming out and other things. It make be better advice coming from someone who is a peer with some experience. Not everyone has someone the can talk to as well. I am laughing on the Patrick and baking a cake thing. It was informative and I might start calling you Dan Partick.. lol! Kidding , but good job.
Somehow I don't think me baking a cake to come out would be a good idea. People will be thinking "Oh, that person's gay" and then after they have a bite they'll say "Now I REALLY hate him!". ;)
hahaha... for a health assignment (Parent interview) one of the questions was
What would happen if you child were to abuse Alcohol, Drugs, Etc.
My mom said: "I'd Rip your legs off and make you crawl to the hospital with one arm" and she wasn't be sarcastic ._. Dads a racist/homophobe/etc so I'd be screwed <_<
I come from a very homophobic catholic family and i tried to change for 2 years then when i trend 17 i was like fuck this came out to my friends and still fighting a battle with my family. Its so true u know when its time i came out by having a movie night and making my friends watch prayers for bobby was a good way to tell all my close friends at once
Hey Dan - Another strategy is to write out a plan factoring the "Worst Case Scenario" - Try not to blindside the people you love and care about - sometimes you can skip the drama and just start living the life you want to live and see how long it takes for everyone else to catch up to your reality :)(:
hahaha u r hilarious, thanks for the cake idea as well
tubeyoujj 1 month ago
I love the cake idea!
Rikku5968 2 months ago
All sexualities are in all people.
karezza6 2 months ago
This video has helped me! Thanks a bunch dude!
1609nh 2 months ago
My parents found out and tried to change me and now they hate me I told two people at school and one laughed and the other fell in love I broke his heart still bad over that. They wernt rearlly friends.. Should I tell my friends my family would hate me more If I did so I'm stuck
Dreamingofbeingfree 4 months ago
wow everytime i watch your videos i feel like ur my bestfriend haha wierd and by my name u can tell im gay im 13 and someone told my mom i was gay and idk what to do i know she will be accepting but my dad willkill me so if u have some advice get back to me if you can thanks-ur little fan-Dyl
xXGayDylanXx 6 months ago
hahaha i actually think the cake is a good idea
Hector947 8 months ago
I think my younger brother migh be gay. he is your age 18, If my brother is realy gay I don't wish anything bad for him. However my family and I my self are homofobics I was raized that way, I never though I would be in this position.
carlossanchezgarcia1 8 months ago
So I am pretty sure that I am bi and I haven't told anyone yet... I have known this for a long time now and I am in 8th grade, and I feel like it is the right time to come out... I could use some personal advice please
thefishboy2478 11 months ago
a cake? really? no, you come out face to face. there are several good reasons: You will be showing them you are ok with being gay & are being respectfull. If you care about them, they deserve YOUR support dealing with this, you had a lot of time to deal & sort things out, they dont. Some ppl react very badly, you will want to be there to put out fires.
sleekcartim 1 year ago
@sleekcartim dude.. no. settle down. your taking it too seriously. that line was meant to lighten the heavier mood of these types of videos.
RunnerDude4114 1 year ago 4
PLEASE PLEASE when & IF you come out, DONT take any negative crap to heart. they are only reacting to their image of you changing in their mind, sometimes they will lash out at you, but usually do come around in time, esp if they think they will lose you. IF they dont, you must be strong for yourself, surround yourself with loving freinds & fam that will help you deal. YOU ARE NOT ALONE! many of us lost friends & fam that we thought loved us for who we are.
1 LIFE
sleekcartim 1 year ago
@sleekcartim i came out over two years ago and am completely okay in this world. i don't need others opinions or words to strengthen me. but the advice you give is very good and is something everyone should follow.
RunnerDude4114 1 year ago
@RunnerDude4114 well it's advice for everyone (else). ive been doing this for much longer than you have been alive, i take it seriously, cuz i know 1st hand it could easily be a matter of life & death to kids who are in a fragile state of mind.
sleekcartim 1 year ago
@sleekcartim don't get me wrong, i appreciate your commenting and the advice you are giving is very good and true. it doesn't matter how long you have been doing this, believe me in the few years i've been on here i've gotten literally hundreds of messages dealing with coming out and advice. no, i don't have the same amount of time doing this as you, but i am experienced at this. don't doubt for a second that i don't take this seriously. i do. i just know that a little comic relief can help too
RunnerDude4114 1 year ago
@sleekcartim also i may YEARS younger than you but trust me, your not the only one with first hand experience to how this can be a moment of life and death, and not just to kids.
RunnerDude4114 1 year ago
@sleekcartim once again though, i really do appreciate your commenting and the advice you give should not be over looked by anyone. i don't mean to sound rude or attacking. i'm just presenting my thoughts (which there has been plenty of both time and experience put into them) if you feel that something is wrong though, feel free to make a video response to this.
RunnerDude4114 1 year ago
Once I had finally came out to everybody in my family I didnt care who else knew.
Bryansetfree 1 year ago
For me the coming out process came in stages. One family member at a time. After over 30 years of fighting I finally came to terms with it in sept of 2009 and was not officially out to my family till May 11, 2010. With each time I had "the talk" another member of my family, it was like another 1000 pound weight was lifted off my chest. My family was cool in that they all kept it quiet and allowed me to tell the other family member in my own time. Much to my surprise all but one already knew.
Bryansetfree 1 year ago
3:17-4:18
I listened to that part at least 5 times in a row right before I told my one of my two closest friends from 10th grade. She was fine with it. She gave me the whole "don't be ashamed" talk, but that's better than rejecting me.
I found that Facebook chat was actually really easy. It's less tangible than texting because only she can see it unless someone else is on her page while I'm online. It was also easier because I could type it and then I just had to take a breath and press Enter.
bnugentkarate 1 year ago
Sorry I keep commenting.
I am seriously shocked that you only have around 2000 views. One way or another, this video needs more attention. Out of all the story videos and advice videos I've watched, this one is definitely the best. You covered how to deal with the most common scenarios and your solutions made sense. More people need to be watching this.
bnugentkarate 1 year ago
I've been watching the tyleroakley and joneepixels7 Channels for a while and I have lot of respect for them and their opinions. This is the third video I've watched from you and I already value your opinions as much as theirs. All of your videos seem very well thought out and are presented well. Your style reminds me a bit more of Tyler. Maybe that's why I like your videos so much.
Thanks for posting.
bnugentkarate 1 year ago
This really is a great video. As long as you're reaching out to people, you should try to get involved in the Trevor Project if you're not already.
bnugentkarate 1 year ago
I'm not even gay, and I think this video is really good to have out here.
"Listen mom and dad, screw you. I'm my own person."
Anyone can relate to that.
staypeacefully 1 year ago
I have still yet to come out :(
farmerz245 1 year ago
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blainebill39 1 year ago
blainebill39 1 year ago
hey dan, your stories are such a grerat help and inspiration for the younger generation out there that are in your situation, just to hear the process and ways you took to helping people tell there parents and friends is awesome.
you have facebook or msn, would be great to chat sometime
nathan
Nathyboi696 1 year ago
I was outed.
nestto117 1 year ago
Ooooh dan is cuuuute!
And good video :)
gopaw1 1 year ago
damn,, Hollister clothing, how gay is that?? In the past you trolled my friend Jenna. don't give shitty advices cuz it is not cool. I am so disgusted.
Nancylollypop 1 year ago
@Nancylollypop oh i'm sorry, did you look in a mirror? i would be disgusted too, no wonder you don't show a picture of your self on your channel.
RunnerDude4114 1 year ago 4
"You're the protagonist of your life, and everyone else is just a supporting character." This is one of my new favorite quotes inspirational quotes <3
shanealt 1 year ago
cake.... that is the single most brilliant idea i've ever heard! :D
but in a way it's kinda like a letter or a txt so they should be in the room with them. it still saves them the trouble of having to say it themselves which is really what the cake point is about :)
darn, if only i had thought of this when i came out, it would've at least been a little fun :P
AtrumDelorox 1 year ago
I think that people even your parents can accept you after a while.
timjim1210 1 year ago
Haha I like the massive shadow behind you, Dan. :)
eddatron0000 1 year ago
yeah very sound advice
there are some ppl on you tube i have a lot of admiration for and u r certainly one of them
kiwidweller1 1 year ago
Your friends mom outed you? What a bitch! What right did she have to do that? That is so unbelieveably sucky. Did she think she was doing you a favor or that her "inside knowlege" would be welcomed? Do you still talk to her? I'm afraid if someone did that to me I'd have to pay her a visit she didnt like...
pvampire 1 year ago
Dan, you need to continue to reach out to younger gay people around your age. You maybe able to help them with coming out and other things. It make be better advice coming from someone who is a peer with some experience. Not everyone has someone the can talk to as well. I am laughing on the Patrick and baking a cake thing. It was informative and I might start calling you Dan Partick.. lol! Kidding , but good job.
OLDS98 1 year ago 7
I thoroughly enjoy ur channel, Dan, because U talk so much common sense. These days common sense isn't very common.
hardscissors 1 year ago 2
I'd better start baking <3
PS Thanks
TheRavenNFLD 1 year ago
Somehow I don't think me baking a cake to come out would be a good idea. People will be thinking "Oh, that person's gay" and then after they have a bite they'll say "Now I REALLY hate him!". ;)
SteltekOne 1 year ago
hahaha... for a health assignment (Parent interview) one of the questions was
What would happen if you child were to abuse Alcohol, Drugs, Etc.
My mom said: "I'd Rip your legs off and make you crawl to the hospital with one arm" and she wasn't be sarcastic ._. Dads a racist/homophobe/etc so I'd be screwed <_<
DarkTundraS 1 year ago
@DarkTundraS ouch lol
yttihp11 1 year ago
OMG. I want to find someone who doesn't know I'm gay and bake them a cake now. Best. Idea. EVER.
JollyGreen303 1 year ago
Prayers for Bobby was a great movie. Very good advice and video Dan.
I know your shirt is Hollister, but all we see is HO. Kinda funny.. but I know your not one!!
cmays637 1 year ago
U are a very wise young man!!! :-)
smurfit24 1 year ago 2
I come from a very homophobic catholic family and i tried to change for 2 years then when i trend 17 i was like fuck this came out to my friends and still fighting a battle with my family. Its so true u know when its time i came out by having a movie night and making my friends watch prayers for bobby was a good way to tell all my close friends at once
GDvD007 1 year ago
...prayers for bobby......that movie is an effin tear jerker. couldn't watch it.
thrust7rock 1 year ago
Hey Dan - Another strategy is to write out a plan factoring the "Worst Case Scenario" - Try not to blindside the people you love and care about - sometimes you can skip the drama and just start living the life you want to live and see how long it takes for everyone else to catch up to your reality :)(:
ekimno 1 year ago