I want to add that you did a great job calming him down. Children with autism respond well to calmness and the singing really eased him. Reading some of the post below, I must say a couple of folks haven't a clue what it us like. I don't agree that children are overly diagnosed with autism! I think the sooner the better. Early intervention makes a difference.
I can relate to this. You are an amazing, patient mother. I think people who don't have to deal with autistic children need to see how hard and stressful it is. So many people undermine what you deal with and never offer any support or help
my son has autism too .this video brought tears to my eyes its the same struggle i go thru and people dont understand me fully because they dont experience what we do .u are a wonderfull mom and u r doing awesome on raising ur son with autism feel free to see my videos with my son with autism to he is only 2.
my son has autism too .this video brought tears to my eyes its the same struggle i go thru and people dont understand me fully because they dont experience what we do .u are a wonderfull mom and u r doing awesome on raising ur son with autism feel free to see my videos with my son with autism to he is only 2
my son has autism too .this video brought tears to my eyes its the same struggle i go thru and people dont understand me fully because they dont experience what we do ,u are a wonderfull mom and u r doing awesome on raising ur son with autism feel free to see my videos with my son with autism to he is only 2. .and it would take clueless people like this one who have something negative to say with out having a better understand , i feel as my austistic son will b alot smarter than people like u
You know, this is what I don't understand. Why are you and all parents who have kids with autism always videotaping them throwing fits, having a nervous breakdown, being abuse while they're retrainted by five or six people and being treating like they're wild caged animals instead of like human beings ? Do you and the rest realized that is a totally complete embarrasment and humiliated when they watch this ? This is just wrong man. It's WRONG!!
oohhh and you got so far... and then the shoes fell off... and then the shirt was on!!! and then it was off... oh ugh lol. you are so loving & patient through it though. whew i tell ya what I dunno if I could do it lol
He is sweet and you are such a patient, brilliant mother. My Mum had the opposite problem with me. Once the clothes were on, they weren't coming off! Bath time was fun!
I remember the days when my son would fight every transition. Putting shoes on was a battle, taking them off was a battle, into the carseat was a battle, taking him out was a battle. In the store was a battle then out the store was a battle ... sigh. Brushing teeth was impossible. Cutting hair was a 2 adult job. Bath time we could not touch his neck at all or he would gag and vomit. Couldnt even wear a bib or turtle neck sweater or he would vomit. I feel for you
What will you do as he gets bigger and you cannot wrestle him down to clothe him? Just Curious. I have only been around 1 autistic child and I love him so I can see his soul or I should say he can see mine.
The frustration u bear under is only understood by those who have these struggles everyday 24/7. My son is also autistic and i think our patience has to b closer to Gods patience! I can truly empathise. My son often takes an hr to get ready for school. Somedays i just dont want to do it again!
WOW! Paul will always make sure you get your exercise every morning. What a handful. He just loves the kisses. So cute. His smile is really infectious. You're doing a great job .
thank you so much for posting this video... i go through the exact same thing every morning... allthough my little girl loves dinosaurs.. so as long as there is a dino on it somewhere she will not resist... i have even resorted to taking paint and putting a small dino on some dresses she has..lol, you are a patient and loving mommy!!!!
this sweet little beasty boy loves those kisses!!! it must be hard but he loves you, and trusts you, I can see that. things will get easier! all the best to you very special people!
I am a special education teacher for our district program for children with autism and I must say that is one lucky child of yours to have such a loving and caring mommy. Your video made me smile. I am still smiling as I write this because you have the most beautiful way with your child. Thank you for sharing!
Oh honey, you have serious problems. Thank you for making HUGELY innapropriate and unrelated logic jumps and inferences from my very short reply into my personal character and ablities as a parent. No mother is perfect, no father is perfect, no child is perfect. As parents (highly doubt you fall into this category), all we can do is try our best for our babies, sometimes a dx can provide us with the best tools to help them overcome personal difficulties.
Note this 2 year old is supposed to have 'autism'. I'd say that's a rather QUICK diagnosis.
Have you ever wondered why the incidence of 'autism' is skyrising when nobody had even heard of the term 50 years ago, or is that too tinfoil-hatted for you?
50 years ago, autism was a diagnosis. Mostly, children were labeled as "difficult" or "mentally incompetent" and shipped away.
50 years ago, no one had smoke detectors in their homes, or used microwave ovens, no one talked on cell phones, no one's car had an electric ignition, and if you had tried to describe youtube, people would have been baffled. A LOT happens in 50 years, completely ignorant comparison. Many medical and technological advances have been made since 1961.
Look, I suggest you pursue your pseudo-assertive 'talks' with the self-sacrificing, wonderfully patient mothers of 'highly problematic' children who are in your kind of contrived butch mindframe, in full denial of their severe issues, ...
...& who are willing to listen to your substandard drivel. I'm not, since you're obviously not in a position to produce an intelligent comment, to look beyond your misdirected hormones and your programming, and quite apparently you are fully unequipped to discern what's at stake her.
Interestingly, there's nothing even remotely feminine or sensitive in your comments as far as I can see, which probably motivated them in the first place: guilt?
Take it up with a therapist if you like; I'm not interested.
There are countless defeminized passive aggressive mothers like you around who can't sense their kids. Yes, women are under attack in society. A silent attack that has largely gone unnoticed, especially by the victims of course, who never realize how much of their femininity they have already lost.
An increasing proportion can't even give birth naturally anymore...
I know you because there are COUNTLESS people like you around: DISCONNECTED. Even if you don't know this, in a few short comments, you've made that perfectly clear to those that are NOT disconnected.
What if the son just doesn't like his mother and/or the way he gets treated? I see nothing autistic about the kid and the system's diagnosis can hardly be trusted on this. Society today tends to label any kid with a some type of disorder when there's any kind of friction or problem, BIG PHARMA loves it, & for parents this may be convenient in the sense that fault is always found in the small child, rather than oneself...
Really, what if this kid just doesn't want his mother in his face so much?
Where did you get your degree? It is quite obvious that you are the authority on children with special needs. Let me give you a cookie and pat your tinfoil hatted head. Obviously that child does not like his mother, and that is the problem, we can especially see this behavior at 1:22 when his mother helps calm him and he finds comfort in his arms. We, as mothers, LOVE blaming our children for their daily struggles. Personally, I live for it. Less work for me, you know??
There is another video with this boy btw titled 'My very aggressive 2 year old', when there's no sign of aggression whatsoever.
Kids with 'special needs' as you say do of course exist, but this label can equally be stuck on a kid prematurely and allow a mother to focus fulltime on her kid, giving meaning to her life, living vicariously through the kid, and allowing her to focus obsessively on her kid instead of on her own issues.
If she is insecure as a mother, and unable to create the real relationship that is needed and vital, labelling the kid 'autistic' or with some other problem might serve to let her off the hook. Happens ALL THE TIME.
Yes, I find the mother's apparent eagerness to consider this kid deficient suspicious, and I don't like the way she interacts with him, and certainly not the way she shows him and talks about him on the internet.
Why would you create such a general category? All mothers banding together against the evil men who don't understand? That it? What are you so insecure about?
There are mothers in touch with their kids, any many more who aren't.
If you had some discernment, you'd have spotted that their might be a problem on the mother's side.
But perhaps that notion is too close for comfort for you...
You must live in a world of 'perfect moms'. I doubt your kid is though...
Where did you get your degree? It is quite obvious that you are the authority on children with special needs. Let me give you a cookie and pat your tinfoil hatted head. Obviously that child does not like his mother, and that is the problem, we can especially see this behavior at 1:22 when his mother helps calm him and he finds comfort in his arms. We, as mothers, LOVE blaming our children for their daily struggles. Personally, I live for it. Less work for me, you know??
What a sweety... and I could see some of the good distraction techn's you were using. I know the tactile defensiveness thing all too well. I was wondering, have you tried seemless socks from striderite and/or clothing from sensorycomfort? They have worked some miracles for me. The other thing that helped was a surgical brush about 10 min before clothes time w/ it a few times during day. Thanks for posting... ppl need to see this part of autism too. Hugs and luv, Kris
@herding123, Thanks Kris. I purchased a skin brush (it works), I purchased the sock and tag less clothes (don't work), he just don't like putting on clothes.
You are welcome :). So glad that brush is working... that thing really does do some amazing things with the nerves. Sorry those clothes aren't working much! But, don't throw them away... keep up the brushing and combine your distraction techn's in the video and hopefully with time it will start to help, at least with the socks! It can only help in the long run even if he's still fighting the seam friendly kind right now (since it still a change too). Kris! PS: What's your name?
Thanks hideandseek, I will try your tips. I only buy cotton clothes for my son, no jeans. I thought I was doing a good thing, but he also don't like lotion. Any tips on skin care?
In the morning, all the cards are laid out. When an item of clothing as been put on the card can be stuck on the chart. At night time the item of clothing is removed and taken off the chart - and replaced with pyjama symbols?
At the end he might be able to have a reward? TV or toy?
Oh darling, my heart goes out to you. Please remember that you are NOT alone. I have several videos just like this of my own autistic son getting ready for school. It's heart wrenching stuff that not many people understand. You are doing an amazing job. Be proud :)
You seem to be a very dedicated and caring mother. You might want to make sure he is being given sensory integration therapy at school and if he's not, you can request it for him. Best of wishes to you and your family. Peace!
I want to add that you did a great job calming him down. Children with autism respond well to calmness and the singing really eased him. Reading some of the post below, I must say a couple of folks haven't a clue what it us like. I don't agree that children are overly diagnosed with autism! I think the sooner the better. Early intervention makes a difference.
kkhardison 1 month ago
I can relate to this. You are an amazing, patient mother. I think people who don't have to deal with autistic children need to see how hard and stressful it is. So many people undermine what you deal with and never offer any support or help
kkhardison 1 month ago
You are so lovely, loving and patient! I can learn a lot from you! Thank you for sharing!
fite4freedomfly 2 months ago
Thank you for sharing this video. It made me cry. You are an awesome mom, your son is very lucky. I hope that I can be that patient with my own son.
macjacpensacola 2 months ago
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my son has autism too .this video brought tears to my eyes its the same struggle i go thru and people dont understand me fully because they dont experience what we do .u are a wonderfull mom and u r doing awesome on raising ur son with autism feel free to see my videos with my son with autism to he is only 2.
BoricuaLuda1984 3 months ago
my son has autism too .this video brought tears to my eyes its the same struggle i go thru and people dont understand me fully because they dont experience what we do .u are a wonderfull mom and u r doing awesome on raising ur son with autism feel free to see my videos with my son with autism to he is only 2
BoricuaLuda1984 3 months ago
Lady, punch him in the fucking head and say "Look, you little faggot, STOP!!!!".
CartmanIsSoFAT 3 months ago
my son has autism too .this video brought tears to my eyes its the same struggle i go thru and people dont understand me fully because they dont experience what we do ,u are a wonderfull mom and u r doing awesome on raising ur son with autism feel free to see my videos with my son with autism to he is only 2. .and it would take clueless people like this one who have something negative to say with out having a better understand , i feel as my austistic son will b alot smarter than people like u
BoricuaLuda1984 3 months ago
You know, this is what I don't understand. Why are you and all parents who have kids with autism always videotaping them throwing fits, having a nervous breakdown, being abuse while they're retrainted by five or six people and being treating like they're wild caged animals instead of like human beings ? Do you and the rest realized that is a totally complete embarrasment and humiliated when they watch this ? This is just wrong man. It's WRONG!!
CartmanIsSoFAT 3 months ago
oohhh and you got so far... and then the shoes fell off... and then the shirt was on!!! and then it was off... oh ugh lol. you are so loving & patient through it though. whew i tell ya what I dunno if I could do it lol
ibkristykat 3 months ago
He is sweet and you are such a patient, brilliant mother. My Mum had the opposite problem with me. Once the clothes were on, they weren't coming off! Bath time was fun!
TheLittletwitcher 3 months ago
I remember the days when my son would fight every transition. Putting shoes on was a battle, taking them off was a battle, into the carseat was a battle, taking him out was a battle. In the store was a battle then out the store was a battle ... sigh. Brushing teeth was impossible. Cutting hair was a 2 adult job. Bath time we could not touch his neck at all or he would gag and vomit. Couldnt even wear a bib or turtle neck sweater or he would vomit. I feel for you
luckylady6369 3 months ago
you are are GREAT mother
desiraekimbell 4 months ago
What will you do as he gets bigger and you cannot wrestle him down to clothe him? Just Curious. I have only been around 1 autistic child and I love him so I can see his soul or I should say he can see mine.
TheShasiti 4 months ago
I would just like to say that you are an extrodinary mother!!!!
pridepimpin90 4 months ago
The frustration u bear under is only understood by those who have these struggles everyday 24/7. My son is also autistic and i think our patience has to b closer to Gods patience! I can truly empathise. My son often takes an hr to get ready for school. Somedays i just dont want to do it again!
sharmaz1 5 months ago
WOW! Paul will always make sure you get your exercise every morning. What a handful. He just loves the kisses. So cute. His smile is really infectious. You're doing a great job .
LadyShyye 5 months ago
aw your baby is the cutest baby ive ever seen i wish he didnt have autism your lives would be much better
TheMrSpicyguy 6 months ago
thank you so much for posting this video... i go through the exact same thing every morning... allthough my little girl loves dinosaurs.. so as long as there is a dino on it somewhere she will not resist... i have even resorted to taking paint and putting a small dino on some dresses she has..lol, you are a patient and loving mommy!!!!
autismissoawesome 6 months ago
this sweet little beasty boy loves those kisses!!! it must be hard but he loves you, and trusts you, I can see that. things will get easier! all the best to you very special people!
spokeraq 7 months ago
I am a special education teacher for our district program for children with autism and I must say that is one lucky child of yours to have such a loving and caring mommy. Your video made me smile. I am still smiling as I write this because you have the most beautiful way with your child. Thank you for sharing!
EHTeacher1 9 months ago
you are a wonderful mother.
dylanxmarie 9 months ago
My son does the same thing, I have to let him pick out his own clothes every morning or he won't get dressed
lisauhden 10 months ago
Such a good mom
teemell19 11 months ago
Your are more then wonderful! Your are amazing-only if I could be more like you!
ahliayasir 11 months ago
And natorinate, you are amazing :) Such patience.
flowermomma 11 months ago
@flowermomma
Let's hope SHE doesn't get diagnosed with some problem by the EXPERTS...
suddenlyitsobvious 11 months ago
@suddenlyitsobvious
Oh honey, you have serious problems. Thank you for making HUGELY innapropriate and unrelated logic jumps and inferences from my very short reply into my personal character and ablities as a parent. No mother is perfect, no father is perfect, no child is perfect. As parents (highly doubt you fall into this category), all we can do is try our best for our babies, sometimes a dx can provide us with the best tools to help them overcome personal difficulties.
flowermomma 11 months ago
@flowermomma
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Note this 2 year old is supposed to have 'autism'. I'd say that's a rather QUICK diagnosis.
Have you ever wondered why the incidence of 'autism' is skyrising when nobody had even heard of the term 50 years ago, or is that too tinfoil-hatted for you?
suddenlyitsobvious 11 months ago
@suddenlyitsobvious
50 years ago, autism was a diagnosis. Mostly, children were labeled as "difficult" or "mentally incompetent" and shipped away.
50 years ago, no one had smoke detectors in their homes, or used microwave ovens, no one talked on cell phones, no one's car had an electric ignition, and if you had tried to describe youtube, people would have been baffled. A LOT happens in 50 years, completely ignorant comparison. Many medical and technological advances have been made since 1961.
flowermomma 11 months ago
@flowermomma
Your comments are completely mindless.
What is 'inappropriate', what is 'unrelated'?
'A lot happens in 50 years'?
What kind of meaningless comment is that?
Look, I suggest you pursue your pseudo-assertive 'talks' with the self-sacrificing, wonderfully patient mothers of 'highly problematic' children who are in your kind of contrived butch mindframe, in full denial of their severe issues, ...
suddenlyitsobvious 11 months ago
@flowermomma
(2)
...& who are willing to listen to your substandard drivel. I'm not, since you're obviously not in a position to produce an intelligent comment, to look beyond your misdirected hormones and your programming, and quite apparently you are fully unequipped to discern what's at stake her.
Interestingly, there's nothing even remotely feminine or sensitive in your comments as far as I can see, which probably motivated them in the first place: guilt?
suddenlyitsobvious 11 months ago
@flowermomma
(3)
Take it up with a therapist if you like; I'm not interested.
There are countless defeminized passive aggressive mothers like you around who can't sense their kids. Yes, women are under attack in society. A silent attack that has largely gone unnoticed, especially by the victims of course, who never realize how much of their femininity they have already lost.
An increasing proportion can't even give birth naturally anymore...
I know I won't change you, but yes, ...
suddenlyitsobvious 11 months ago
@flowermomma
(3)
I know you because there are COUNTLESS people like you around: DISCONNECTED. Even if you don't know this, in a few short comments, you've made that perfectly clear to those that are NOT disconnected.
suddenlyitsobvious 11 months ago
@suddenlyitsobvious
Your tinfoil hat obviously needs an upgrade. It isn't doing it's job.
flowermomma 11 months ago
@flowermomma
Your femininity does too. Bye, you're...blocked. I can't spend too much time exchanging with idiots.
suddenlyitsobvious 11 months ago
life is hard with autism,I hope all good for you.......
S4ndy71 11 months ago
What if the son just doesn't like his mother and/or the way he gets treated? I see nothing autistic about the kid and the system's diagnosis can hardly be trusted on this. Society today tends to label any kid with a some type of disorder when there's any kind of friction or problem, BIG PHARMA loves it, & for parents this may be convenient in the sense that fault is always found in the small child, rather than oneself...
Really, what if this kid just doesn't want his mother in his face so much?
suddenlyitsobvious 11 months ago
@suddenlyitsobvious
Where did you get your degree? It is quite obvious that you are the authority on children with special needs. Let me give you a cookie and pat your tinfoil hatted head. Obviously that child does not like his mother, and that is the problem, we can especially see this behavior at 1:22 when his mother helps calm him and he finds comfort in his arms. We, as mothers, LOVE blaming our children for their daily struggles. Personally, I live for it. Less work for me, you know??
flowermomma 11 months ago
@flowermomma
Degree? That's right, trust the 'experts'.
There is another video with this boy btw titled 'My very aggressive 2 year old', when there's no sign of aggression whatsoever.
Kids with 'special needs' as you say do of course exist, but this label can equally be stuck on a kid prematurely and allow a mother to focus fulltime on her kid, giving meaning to her life, living vicariously through the kid, and allowing her to focus obsessively on her kid instead of on her own issues.
suddenlyitsobvious 11 months ago
@flowermomma
(2)
If she is insecure as a mother, and unable to create the real relationship that is needed and vital, labelling the kid 'autistic' or with some other problem might serve to let her off the hook. Happens ALL THE TIME.
Yes, I find the mother's apparent eagerness to consider this kid deficient suspicious, and I don't like the way she interacts with him, and certainly not the way she shows him and talks about him on the internet.
There is no 'WE, MOTHERS", as you say.
suddenlyitsobvious 11 months ago
@flowermomma
(3)
Why would you create such a general category? All mothers banding together against the evil men who don't understand? That it? What are you so insecure about?
There are mothers in touch with their kids, any many more who aren't.
If you had some discernment, you'd have spotted that their might be a problem on the mother's side.
But perhaps that notion is too close for comfort for you...
You must live in a world of 'perfect moms'. I doubt your kid is though...
suddenlyitsobvious 11 months ago
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@suddenlyitsobvious
Where did you get your degree? It is quite obvious that you are the authority on children with special needs. Let me give you a cookie and pat your tinfoil hatted head. Obviously that child does not like his mother, and that is the problem, we can especially see this behavior at 1:22 when his mother helps calm him and he finds comfort in his arms. We, as mothers, LOVE blaming our children for their daily struggles. Personally, I live for it. Less work for me, you know??
flowermomma 11 months ago
my son did this every morning for years!he has aspergers
marcbolanfan 1 year ago
He is way too cute I wish I had your patientce
sofiadragon1979 1 year ago
@sofiadragon1979, I pray for patience everyday. thanks
natorinate 1 year ago
Your little boy is very cute. As a parent of an autistic child myself I have to say you are an awesome mom!
hairbandchick1976 1 year ago
@hairbandchick1976, thanks so much
natorinate 1 year ago
You are such a wonderfully patient mother!
wiscsuzski 1 year ago 5
@wiscsuzski ,thanks so much
natorinate 1 year ago
Awwwwww
JdEnigma07 1 year ago
He is so cute once he is calmed down:)
Buffheart 1 year ago
What a sweety... and I could see some of the good distraction techn's you were using. I know the tactile defensiveness thing all too well. I was wondering, have you tried seemless socks from striderite and/or clothing from sensorycomfort? They have worked some miracles for me. The other thing that helped was a surgical brush about 10 min before clothes time w/ it a few times during day. Thanks for posting... ppl need to see this part of autism too. Hugs and luv, Kris
herding123 1 year ago
@herding123, Thanks Kris. I purchased a skin brush (it works), I purchased the sock and tag less clothes (don't work), he just don't like putting on clothes.
natorinate 1 year ago
Hi!
You are welcome :). So glad that brush is working... that thing really does do some amazing things with the nerves. Sorry those clothes aren't working much! But, don't throw them away... keep up the brushing and combine your distraction techn's in the video and hopefully with time it will start to help, at least with the socks! It can only help in the long run even if he's still fighting the seam friendly kind right now (since it still a change too). Kris! PS: What's your name?
herding123 1 year ago
Awww, Bless him (and you). He might not like to get dressed.. but BOY does he LOVE his mommas kisses :D
Kellassy26 1 year ago
my son throws tanturms every day of his life at some point and it is very hard, i understand how you feel, and how exhausting it is.. stay strong
wendme 1 year ago
I THINK YOUR SON IS VERY CUTE AND SPECIAL. I PRAY FOR YOU THAT THINGS GET EASIER FOR BOTH OF YOU.. GOD BLESS..
nomofrizz 1 year ago
@nomofrizz Thanks, I hope it gets better before he get older.
natorinate 1 year ago
This little boy is SO cute!
Mel130673 1 year ago
@Mel130673 , Thanks. He is really getting better in the mornings. It use to take me almost a hour to get him ready in the morning, now its 30mins.
natorinate 1 year ago 2
Thanks hideandseek, I will try your tips. I only buy cotton clothes for my son, no jeans. I thought I was doing a good thing, but he also don't like lotion. Any tips on skin care?
natorinate 1 year ago
In the morning, all the cards are laid out. When an item of clothing as been put on the card can be stuck on the chart. At night time the item of clothing is removed and taken off the chart - and replaced with pyjama symbols?
At the end he might be able to have a reward? TV or toy?
just an idea =)
hideandseek975 1 year ago
Also, we made a symbol chart for him to help.
Make a chart and set of cards which uses the picture and word of each item of clothing...
Diaper, vest, shirt, pants, socks, shoes etc (one card for each item)
hideandseek975 1 year ago
This must be so difficult, i know my mum struggled with this with my brother.
Apparently a tighter layer underneath looser fitting clothes can help, and cutting the labels out.
hideandseek975 1 year ago
maybe he has sensory problem and he does`nt like the feel of the texture of his pants.
donnaferraren 1 year ago
Oh darling, my heart goes out to you. Please remember that you are NOT alone. I have several videos just like this of my own autistic son getting ready for school. It's heart wrenching stuff that not many people understand. You are doing an amazing job. Be proud :)
mummyfi1 2 years ago
You seem to be a very dedicated and caring mother. You might want to make sure he is being given sensory integration therapy at school and if he's not, you can request it for him. Best of wishes to you and your family. Peace!
tonid67 2 years ago