I chose to watch to the end even though my first gut reaction to the opening statements was strong. I came to realize that you 'put it in a nutshell' at the end when you said that it had an effect on you when others chose to de-trans. (I still find this word bizarre, but it is the one people use).you did vocalize on a sensitive issue. well-done.I only realized tonight it was sensitive when I read a blog about how many who de-trans or stop their trans at a point are ostracized by some..
@GunsNRosesTrans Yes. Now that I'm further along in my own journey I feel less sensitive on this issue because I am winning the fight for what I want. It's harder, to feel sympathy for people who change back when, some of us will never get the chance to or haven't started yet. Now my view if more objective. if you feel it has to be done, then do it. In the same turn people shouldn't shun others for changing their minds
Hi Jaydan, I think some TGs may experience assessors so focused on observing gender expression etc. that instead of creating an honest counselling relation the transgender will tell the therapist, what they think they want to hear rather than what they really feel. Some research from NL claimed that 24% of the sex change applicants actually wanted to be 'not-male' rather than actually female. If the therapist is not open to androgyny that possibility may never be approached leading to mistakes.
Wassersug R, Johnson T: Gender Identity Disorder Outside the Binary: When Gender Identity Disorder-Not Otherwise Specified Is Not Good Enough, Archive of Sexual Behavior (2010)39:597–598
Meyer-Bahlburg, H. F. L. (2009). From mental disorder to iatrogenic hypogonadism: Dilemmas in conceptualizing gender identity variants as psychiatric conditions. Archives of Sexual Behavior, doi: 10.1007/s10508-009-9532-4.
I said the same thing to karamatic's vid on this topic. It's a hard road, but you have to be ready to jump the hurdles the come with it. I am finally happy with who I am I wouldn't turn back.
It definitely is much harder for M2F transgender people to find someone to date. Most guys see us as nothing more then a sexual experiment. They have no interest in actually pursuing any kind of relationship. Then there are others who just see us as freaks. In fact i talk to one a few nights ago that thought that and was being very discriminatory. I'm not addressing the main topic though, sorry.
great video, but i think you're being too hard on people who just make mistakes. before you transition, it can be easy to imagine that it will solve all your problems, and really latch on to the idea, even though it's not right for that particular person. it's not wrong of them - can you imagine how hard it must be? i'd say detransitioning must be more like transitioning TWICE. double hard. :(
Well, like I said. Its my gut reaction and yes might seem a bit harsh. I can easily rationalize reasons for it, but its hard to do from a personal stand point. Thanks for commenting. I really appreciate it.
I chose to watch to the end even though my first gut reaction to the opening statements was strong. I came to realize that you 'put it in a nutshell' at the end when you said that it had an effect on you when others chose to de-trans. (I still find this word bizarre, but it is the one people use).you did vocalize on a sensitive issue. well-done.I only realized tonight it was sensitive when I read a blog about how many who de-trans or stop their trans at a point are ostracized by some..
GunsNRosesTrans 7 months ago
@GunsNRosesTrans Yes. Now that I'm further along in my own journey I feel less sensitive on this issue because I am winning the fight for what I want. It's harder, to feel sympathy for people who change back when, some of us will never get the chance to or haven't started yet. Now my view if more objective. if you feel it has to be done, then do it. In the same turn people shouldn't shun others for changing their minds
JaydenTheJackal 7 months ago
Thats why i felt kinda attracted to you. You are pretty.
dontrustwhiteyever1 1 year ago
"How could you fight so hard to be yourself . . . "
Well, if that wasn't your true self to begin with . . .
gadsdensnake 1 year ago
NO WAY!!! YOU WERE NEVER A GUY WERE YOU??? YOU LOOK BETTER THAN ALOT OF WOMEN I SEE ON A DAILY BASIS. PEACE.......
dontrustwhiteyever1 1 year ago
@dontrustwhiteyever1 No no, I'm physically Female, I'm changing to male.
JaydenTheJackal 1 year ago
Hi Jaydan, I think some TGs may experience assessors so focused on observing gender expression etc. that instead of creating an honest counselling relation the transgender will tell the therapist, what they think they want to hear rather than what they really feel. Some research from NL claimed that 24% of the sex change applicants actually wanted to be 'not-male' rather than actually female. If the therapist is not open to androgyny that possibility may never be approached leading to mistakes.
TenderGenderBender 1 year ago
@TenderGenderBender
That's very interesting. Would you have access to the title of the research paper or an author's name perhaps?
PrometheanFlame 1 year ago
@PrometheanFlame Regarding the desire to be not-male see:
Wassersug R, Johnson T: Gender Identity Disorder Outside the Binary: When Gender Identity Disorder-Not Otherwise Specified Is Not Good Enough, Archive of Sexual Behavior (2010)39:597–598
Meyer-Bahlburg, H. F. L. (2009). From mental disorder to iatrogenic hypogonadism: Dilemmas in conceptualizing gender identity variants as psychiatric conditions. Archives of Sexual Behavior, doi: 10.1007/s10508-009-9532-4.
TenderGenderBender 1 year ago
I said the same thing to karamatic's vid on this topic. It's a hard road, but you have to be ready to jump the hurdles the come with it. I am finally happy with who I am I wouldn't turn back.
GivesFreeHugz 2 years ago
It definitely is much harder for M2F transgender people to find someone to date. Most guys see us as nothing more then a sexual experiment. They have no interest in actually pursuing any kind of relationship. Then there are others who just see us as freaks. In fact i talk to one a few nights ago that thought that and was being very discriminatory. I'm not addressing the main topic though, sorry.
GivesFreeHugz 2 years ago
Yeah, I totally get that.. I guess we all respond to thinks on an instinctive, personal level.
jetblack 2 years ago
great video, but i think you're being too hard on people who just make mistakes. before you transition, it can be easy to imagine that it will solve all your problems, and really latch on to the idea, even though it's not right for that particular person. it's not wrong of them - can you imagine how hard it must be? i'd say detransitioning must be more like transitioning TWICE. double hard. :(
jetblack 2 years ago 2
Well, like I said. Its my gut reaction and yes might seem a bit harsh. I can easily rationalize reasons for it, but its hard to do from a personal stand point. Thanks for commenting. I really appreciate it.
JaydenTheJackal 2 years ago