If these were poor, lower-class, ghetto black women, or poor lower-class trailer park white women, they'd probably have no problem dating some broke older man. But the women with good jobs have much higher expectations. I'm not attacking them, just saying how it is.
This isn't just black women. Women in general, especially the ones with high-powered careers and therefore higher expectations, are always complaining there aren't enough good men around. Think about it, desperate older single women is a common cliché. When they're young they always have boyfriends or fwb's but when they're older and looking to marry prince charming they can't find anyone.
@steviesbackbitch I agree with you on this one. These women turn down good men all their life now they want a good man. Thing is they dissed all the good men that came their way and now those men are taken.
Funny I saw a woman put on her fb status "how is it that ugly women are married or have kids but the pretty women dont"...sidenote she has 3 kids and not married, and different baby fathers ...yet she has a man...me and im 26 single graduating in may and I havent had a relationship in about 3 years. So, I am the pretty girl that her friends said cant keep a man... i feel as though i just cant settle. WHY should i go to school work twos and then settle for a man who cant keep a job and has 2 kids
@diorlove21 look forward to a miserable single existence where u can have all of ur material success and education cause that's what ur in for lol. Good luck!!
p.s. these bitches sound more like commandos than women!! o and to you young lady in the past 20years companies owned by the rich white man found a way to keep his power over his women and keep bm out of the work place. he hired the blackwomen who is 2 minorities in one black and a women!! you to young to know this was happening and thats why i say for you to do more research and get a little more real world experience under your belt!! peace!
@lmao6t Preach! it,i agree wit you 100%,people are so blind to the fact and women like this need to be taught about humilty.One of those women said that they want a spiritual man in their lives but they wouldn't know spritualalty if it hit em in their faces,she fronting,she's thinking more so about material things.
@MegaPsycho84 said a mouth full man!! the real spritual that shes talking about comes rolled up as a "fatty"!! they getting now what the "good man" got from them 10years ago(karma is a bitch!!) good luck tricks
the answer is obvious, professional "Black" women should be on the lookout for professional "Asian" or "White" men......since the "Black" pool is a little short on their criteria.
How racist can you get ABC, assuming "Black" people are only attracted to other "Black" people.
Oh and D.L. Hughley is an idiot "Black" man, don't listen to him.
The guy can't enunciate his words correctly, much less dole out relationship advice to women.....
Come holler at a brown man you beautiful women! I'm an Indian American male and I am attracted to, rather, I prefer, black women over many others. All I look for in that first glimpse is that you are well spoken and do not adhere to the negative cultural stereotypes of the black community, much like these beautiful women in this video.
Okay, so I don't have any physical standards that guys have to live up to. I find all of mankind beautiful (seriously), I don't require he have a certain job, I just want a nice guy who likes me. Yet I've never had a boyfriend. I put myself out there, when I like a guy I let him know. I'm not a game player but still I get friend zoned. What is up with that? I've had guys say they love me, but just as a friend. Tell me what I'm doing wrong! LOL
@ToshiBecca A lot of it has NOTHING to do with you, but rather with the fact that men are hesitant to marry or commit these days, as the laws have made it too risky for them to do either. So, the playboys can still do their thing, free of fear. The good guys, however,.....Also, if you're really young, remember that neither men NOR women are being encouraged much toward purity/integrity, these days! That's probably part of it, too.
@MyOttoLink Meaning that if you are carrying yourself in integrity, and have standards of purity, you are RARE--not many women are actually living that, these days, though they ARE there.. And the men that are looking for that are not as plentiful as they oncer were, either--but once again, they are there.
@ToshiBecca Meaning that if you are carrying yourself in integrity, and have standards of purity, you are RARE--not many women are actually living that, these days, though they ARE there.. And the men that are looking for that are not as plentiful as they oncer were, either--but once again, they are there. Nonetheless, the reason it's taking such a long time probably has SOMETHING to do with that.
@MyOttoLink I guess so. I have noticed a lot of the guys around me go for these women (who can be good people in some regards) who jump from guy to guy and break their hearts. They idolizes women with emotional issues that destroy relationships. Then the guys come away with his view of women as vicious hateful creatures. And they talk to me about it like I'm not a woman 0_o But it's okay, I'm a good listener
@ToshiBecca You asked. And I DO know the answer to your question. If you REALLY want to know then just email me privately and I will tell you EXACTLY what you are doing wrong!
they think that just because they have a degree/mba/phd/ that they are above the fray! i have a electronics & physics degree but im still in the most important thing(reality) the real world/opra/mtv/vh1/b.e.t./reality t.v/and so one have fuck them up. litsen these women are going to fuck up another generation of women because the men they seek know are gone and they missed out because they didnt want the good man that was there 10years ago(period)
my last comment had alot of type ozz(sleepy) but here we go: most of these women are in there 30zz and all are fine!! but you cant sit here and tell me that good men have not tried to talk to them(not!!) turning 30 came fast and its caught their attention(o-shit) now they are awake!! i wish them luck, but still in this interveiw they front. look no man wants a old hag to start his life with!! most i know want from 25 to 28 year olds(just saying) hope you didnt party to long in the clubs!
@lmao6t This is exactly what I was saying. These women passed up good black men their whole life but I can guarantee you they only fucked with assholes and thugs. Now that they are 30+ they are hurting since the thugs don't want them anymore now they are wondering where all the good black men are. Shit were with the white and hispanic women.
@comichero75 thats what pisses me off the most when i here shit like this!! they fail to mention them dope dealers they were fucking and the unemployed bad boys in the last 10 years!! good man was looked by them as being weak!! i hope them luck but you know these stuck up bitches are on their best behavior during this bullshit interveiw but you know if that camera wasnt on em they saying sorry nigga this and sorry nigga that!!
@lmao6t EXACTLY!!!! These dumb bitches will continue to fuck with a guy that they know is fucking other women yet they wont give a good man the time of day. When I went to college in Houston all the black women there dated guys outiside of college. They preferred guys that sold drugs or would only step on the college campus to get some pussy. Now the same women that turned me down 12 years ago are now the same ones on my FB page trying to catch up on old time LMAO. Yea fucking right.
@comichero75 man that shit is so true/i got one fb stalking me today!! man and look like my mama now!! send me pictures posesing with them hooker heels on(smh) im nice to her but man the thrill is gone(bb king)!! its no way i go there again!! all i can say to these bitches suffering from early stages of alzheimers what comes around goes around(karma is a bitch!!
@lmao6t LMAO@ looking like my momma now. Yea man, this one female I used to be crazy over said I was too nice and only seen me as a friend. Now she's saying how good I look and how amazed I turned out after all these years. And guess what, She looks like shit now. Got 2 kids by two different men. Now I thank God I never got with this chic.
@comichero75 man i was thinking i was the only real nigga left on this earth that had good since!! these bitches love iggnutt sorry ass niggazz and now they old bitches and in need of counseling from a major network like abc nightline(smh) and the major network like abc nightline choose a buster ass nigga like steve harvey to give these hoes advice(smh)!! man its no wonder these bitches dont have no man!!!!!
i tried but i could't resist: i am a single bm and i can say i might be until i gone home!! dont settle, i not. i heard these women speak and their points are valid. but what i want to say is that if african american community is not producing kind and god fearing women i'm not intrested(plain and simple) i'm looking somewere else!! good bw tried to get with you ladies 10 years ago but you wanted the badboy(REMEMBER!!) 10years later now you looking for that kind man!! (please) clocks ticking!
@lmao6t, that's interesting, because I'm having trouble finding a woman who is not "god fearing", and not afraid of ghosts or any other supernatural nonsense. I find it bewildering why any Black American would be appalled at the idea of having a lord and master to answer to 150 years ago, and yet love the idea of having an invisible one right now, staring at you every moment of the day, even in the shower.
@LucisFerre1 the fact that most of bw are single w/children started with 1 thing and 1 thing only=(them) the fact that educated bw can do no wrong is crazy(they can) this interview was good & it piss me off at the same time(a.k.a. the victim) women make stupid moves all the time(not my fault) i know these women have had good bm try to talk to them and they were not having it! now the clock is ticking and they get a interveiw(piss me off part) man you cant have your cake and eat it 2!
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"given the high homicide, incarceration, & dropout rates among African-American males. "
They keep on, KEEP ON dismissing the negative way in which black men are presented, thought about, and spoken about/to by black women. They keep on making the single black women all about ONLY the things that the men do to themSELVES. OK. If they know everything, they can solve it on their own, too.
@LucisFerre1 I really couldn't care less about how I sound to you, especially when what I've put out here is that this video presents a LOADED conversation. If you want to be so deluded, as to let this video speak from A to Z for black men/women, go right ahead (notice that you provide no backing for your condescending comment.)
What I said SO CLEARLY (to every mind except to your delusional, self-absorbed, arrogant mind), was that the way in which black women present , talk to/about, and think of the black men is ALWAYS dismissed--as though it had no bearing in this. So you keep revolving around useless statistics if you want to. You--and your Folgers--can waste someone else's time, since you don't even want to stay on point.
@MyOttoLink, So, what I keep getting out of your posts is that you don't care about what is true, only what people are saying, even if it is true. You're a chump.
@TurboTurbulence22 said [[And you're an agent involved in starting conflicts all over YouTube. What's your point?]]
It's interesting that you classify proving racist haters wrong with government published statistics "starting conflicts all over youtube". I guess the truth is sometimes inconvenient.
@LucisFerre1 Wrong again, genius. WE didn't establish ANYTHING about how I think. I, however, established that you are willing to suggest that black women DON'T talk black men down--and still manage to have that dismissed, when talking about the effect that it has. I also establish that you, in your [boring] cowardice, dont' even stay on point. You are proving as true the dodging that I'm mentioning. You're desperate to distract. Pathetic approach.
@MyOttoLink, You're obviously not very smart. I didn't say that black women don't talk black men down. I said repeatedly that you care more about what black women say than whether or not its the truth. I've made this point three times. I can only conclude that you're stupid.
@LucisFerre1 Maybe the problem is that out of the TWO (you need to work on your counting as much as you need to work on your grammar, spelling, and logic) times you've attempted 2 make this [poor] excuse 4 a point, you left out words, & dodged the point--which is that BW have attempted 4 decades 2 influence others 2 BELIEVE what they say about BM. Like all boringly argumentative people, you respond to points that you can't handle by answering an irrelevant issue. Stupid, indeed.
@MyOttoLink, the whole point of balking against someone saying something negative about someone is the ostensible idea that it's not true. You truly are stupid, aren't you.
@clockworkorange1986 said [[3:35 wowwww. This woman had a 6'5 height requirement and yet she wonders why she's still single? Someone needs a wake up call........]]
She did. Did you even watch the rest of the video?
they should marry white men then....or chinese or latinos or something else but black if there are not enough bllack men. Why does it have to be a black man anyways??
@phabbiola said [[they should marry white men then....or chinese or latinos or something else but black if there are not enough bllack men. Why does it have to be a black man anyways??]]
Phabbiola, IMO Black American women are loyal and loving to a fault. Black America is in a crisis, and it's on the woman's shoulders right now. Unfairly so. Generally speaking, I think she doesn't want to feel that she's abandoning her people and culture, but she's running out of people she can depend on.
@drey204 asked [[so black men without jobs and highschool diplomas arent eligble to ask black women to marry them?]]
You damned right they're not. If a man, any man, can't afford to raise children in a decent way or to provide a decent life for a significant other, he has no business getting married. And anyone who does and expects the government to pick up the tab is a god damned low life scum-bag leach on society.
Mixed race couples where the wife is black and the husband is not black do very well. There is a low rate of divorce for these types of couples. There is a higher rate of divorce for mixed race couples where the husband is black and the wife is not.
you are not promoting healthy relationships - you are promoting the idea that black men and women are incompatible.
NO BLACK COUPLES = NO BLACK BABIES.
Racist white man's work.
Sister, 2 things:
1: there is more to life than make up and sex, I know the white girls tell you different, but there is.
2: 'FIERCE BLACK LADIES' will never be married. I would say 'FIERCE LADIES' will have hard time all round. Men [any colour] want to be happy, 'fierce' isn't desirable.
@seeforreal I never said that black men and women are incompatible. I'm saying black American men do not (on average) pursue marriage with black women. So...if you are a black woman who wants to get married (like the ladies in this video), your best bet is to look elsewhere.
@neoblkgirlswirl said [[So...if you are a black woman who wants to get married (like the ladies in this video), your best bet is to look elsewhere.]]
According to the 2010 census, the most successful marriages in America in the past ten years, by a wide margin, has been White men married to Black women.
@neoblkgirlswirl said [[ So...if you are a black woman who wants to get married (like the ladies in this video), your best bet is to look elsewhere.]]
Right. Even if we ignore the "shortage of black men" and other situations, just being open to dating white men in America increases a black woman's choices about 500% since there are almost exactly 5x more white non-hispanic people in USA as there are blacks. (Sorry, I don't know what the ratio of just men would be, presumably higher).
"I would say 'FIERCE LADIES' will have hard time all round. Men [any colour] want to be happy, 'fierce' isn't desirable."
You must have a different definition of "fierce" than I do. Because- to me- a fierce woman is one who is intelligent, educated, attractive, feminine, caries herself with dignity and on her "A" game. The type of men who DON'T want that aren't marriage material men. If a man has it together, he expects (with good reason) that his wife has the same.
@neoblkgirlswirl said [[You must have a different definition of "fierce" than I do. Because- to me- a fierce woman is one who is intelligent, educated, attractive, feminine, caries herself with dignity and on her "A" game.]]
Wrong, Dictionary[dot]com
1.menacingly wild, savage, or hostile: fierce animals; a fierce look.
2.violent in force, intensity, etc.: fierce winds.
3.furiously eager or intense: fierce competition.
4.Informal . extremely bad or severe: a fierce cold.
@seeforreal said: "NO BLACK COUPLES = NO BLACK BABIES"
Wrong. Where I'm from BLACK MOTHER = BLACK CHILD. I have African, Euro, Asian and native ancestry and I am still African American. If your comment is about "keeping the race pure", you're waaaaay too late for that my friend. That ship sailed as soon as the first wave of slaves landed on American soil.
@neoblkgirlswirl If somebody wants to have and interracial relationship.It ain't nobody's job to tell somebody else what the f to do. This is a Country of free will. We ain't no robots from outta apace. We are our own person. And if nobody likes it, then that's just too bad.
@seeforreal And why...sigh...why do people assume that interracial relationships always include white people??? There are so many different kinds of people and different ethnic combinations of mixed couples out there. Why in so many people's minds is it always about black and white? You do a disservice to all people of color by assuming that. It's like you are refusing to admit that people other than white people and black people even exist.
@seeforreal said: "there is more to life than make up and sex, I know the white girls tell you different, but there is."
Whaaaaaaaat??? I have no idea where that comment is coming from. Just FYI: I don't consult the "white girl" swami brigade to learn the meaning of life. But thanks so much for pointing out where YOUR mind is :-\
@seeforreal said [[yh, you do the racist white man's work for him.
the world is designed to make you say the things you are saying, you have been conditioned by people who hate you - shame on you.]]
Black women earned their success, now they deserve the fruits of that success. It behooves them to find a man on-par whatever his heritage might be. Anyone who tells an intelligent capable woman to settle for less, because of the color of her skin...is a RACIST.
TO THE FIERCE BLACK LADIES WHO WANT TO GET MARRIED: Travel, study and work abroad. Your education, intelligence, exotic beauty and ambition are very valuable in the global dating market
@neoblkgirlswirl I dont know why more blk women dont do that. My friend Chanise and I travel and meet alot of cuties of all races and walks of life. I dont limit myself
@JyseGoldberg said [[These girls are hold diggers]]
No, They're dismissing the gold digging men. When successful men stay away from gold digging women, you approve, but when the tables are turned, you complain. Hmmm...
What they're going through is the plight of any successful person, male or female, but as Harvey said, they have a biological clock, we don't. (Well, we do, but it comes about 30 years later).
Lastly...why be a DOCTOR when you can MARRY one......(just a joke ladies)..BTW how do they know that their white friends arent married to wimpy guys? The guys might make their wives work right out of the hospital after birth. Ive seen it.
Also, you have to watch guys of ALL COLORS who are a certain age. Many didnt grow up with men AT ALL. They dont know what its like to be masculine. Some guys are extremely passive/aggressive and not worth your time for an LTR or marriage....although the p/a guy could make a good friend
steve harvey is right about the bio-clock! I think women could marry someone 15-20 yrs older and if hes healthy and stable its a go....my husband is 15 yrs older than me and his/our kids span 32 years. My daughter was born when his oldest was 32 and shes a healthy teenager
Statistically, mixed race couples where the wife is black and the husband is not black do very well. There's a lower rate of divorce for these types of couples than for other mixed race couples where the husband is black and the wife is not. I find this very interesting
@neoblkgirlswirl said [[Statistically, mixed race couples where the wife is black and the husband is not black do very well.]]
I do wish racists would stop marking posts as spam when they're really offering a view that irks them. Neoblkgirlswirl is not spaming at all. Stop marking her posts as spam, people. Disagreeing with someone is still to respect someone else's right to an opinion. But trying to make a post disappear is censorship and fascist.
TO THE FIERCE BLACK LADIES OUT THERE WHO WANT TO GET MARRIED: Travel, study and work abroad. Your intelligence, beauty and drive is very valuable in the global dating market ;-)
problem is with women like that chemist. When the other girl said that she should ask for his number, she was like naaaaa i don't do that, all disgusted and shit.. FFS, entitled and lazy much? Why is it the man who has to take the chances and put himself out there, women always need to sit in the powerposition and can never be vulnerable. They want everything to be handed to them. No wonder you are single. When you are faced with the odds like that, you need to put in the work!
@ashan379 said [[these women checked out by the nation of islam how to create , maintain and console a men.]]
Somehow I don't think these women are looking to be dominated by brutes and covered with a bed sheet in public. Read Koran, Sura 4:34 on when a man should beat his wife and banish her from bed. No thanks pal, this is the 21st century, not the 15th.
These women own their career, but cannot own the relationship. If they are expecting a man to be chivalrous, which a sexist practice, they will never get married.
JUST CHECKED THE U.S. LABOR AND STATISTICS ONLY 3 % OF THE TOTATL U. S. POPULATION MAKES $100,000 AND UP.... THAT'S 3.3 MIL OUT OF 150 MIL OF WORKING ADULTS.... LADIES IF YOU WANT TO FIND THAT GUY YOU WILL HAVE TO GET IN LINE...
@Shinkajo i said 3% of the 150 mil working population... if you had done the math yourself it would have been 4.5 mil people... that's what's wrong with this country with people always assuming things; if you had read my last comment i made a joke about how i was wrong but "Shinkajo know it all' had to prove me wrong yet again with his/ her own faulty math.. good luck at your job "Principal who gives a fuck" ....tight ass
@20jandrews well i used YOUR data, so the math is not faulty, sorry for knowing it all and having a tight ass, but i've not been raped in my buthole quite as much as you :D
@Shinkajo wow... so we doing the "i know you are but what am i" la la la la la can't hear you la la la la la can't hear you ... here's a phrase for your vocabulary: it's call " i don't know" try it sometimes... it will make you less of an asshole :)
@20jandrews i'm not really trying to be an asshole, but 3,3mil out of 150mil is 2,2% and 3% out of 150 is 4,5. So we both were right and wrong at the same time.
Do any of those women believed in Virgin before marriage? If not they should marry the first man they went with. What is the single present to carry to a marriage ? The church is 100% correct; marriage before sex. Secondly most men who can take care of a family are NOT 6ft + tall . Just look on the internet, search for black women preference for men; they all want 6ft+ men. They don't look for MDs, Engineers, Technicians, etc. Interracial? Most Interricial children NOT happy with black blood.
@Ancientafrica and who's fault is that?? a lot of black people get with people outside of their race,who don't understand black people,or who don't like black women or men.then they end up having kids who don't understand black history because the black parents hasn't emphasis the importance of the child's history.also some blacks sabotage their children because they don't like their race,so why would the bi racial child,accept themselves,if their parents won't or don't?
You are right, so I decided to stay home (black) and avoid more trouble. I'm not against biracial.
Those women in video are beautiful not to be married at this time. What were their preferrences when they were younger. Instead of (handsome, height, light skin, etc), they should have looked at skills (MDs, Engineering, Technician, ...., Lawyers). Honesty I have met two AfricanAmerican MDs who couldn't fine black men/women to date (sad/serious).
@Ancientafrica yeah it is sad, it's VERY sad i have 3 black friends(i have more then that,i'm using them as an example)2 boys&1 girl.the girl wants to study astronomy&trust me she has the brain for it.1boy wants to be a neurosurgeon,his dad was one so now he wants to be.&the other boy wants to be a lawyer.if he does,he'll be the 3rd one in his whole family.all of them are nice,intelligent,have good grades&are going to the school of their dreams.still they can't find blacks like them or have been
@Ancientafrica turned down because people say they don't act black enough or their not light enough,or their too big,too short/tall.they want a black husband and wives,but they can't find one that fits their standards.and i'm not talking about standards like these women either.
@bluedreamer5000 said [[also some blacks sabotage their children because they don't like their race,so why would the bi racial child,accept themselves,if their parents won't or don't?]]
Sorry, but it's biased & neurotic to tell mixed people that they should call themselves black, but not white or mixed. Tiger Woods had a perfectly illegitimate reason to say that he's mixed, to not disrespect his mother and her heritage. But Oprah, being the afrocentric bitch that she is, wasn't having it.
TO ALL THE SINGLE LADIES WHO WANT TO GET MARRIED: If you are with a man for 2 years or more and he won't commit/propose...you need to seriously consider ending the relationship. That's more than enough time for him to get to know you. Don't waste years of your life on a relationship that's going nowhere. Go find a man who wants the same thing you want. THERE IS NO MAN SHORTAGE if you're willing to date out.
@neoblkgirlswirl said [[Don't waste years of your life on a relationship that's going nowhere. Go find a man who wants the same thing you want. THERE IS NO MAN SHORTAGE if you're willing to date out.]]
Good advice. And I'm enjoying reading the posts of broke-ass losers who can't handle a woman speaking out on women looking out for their best interests. Keep up the good work.
if marriage and kids are some of your goals, GO FOR IT. Don't let racial stereotypes rob you of those experiences. It's 2012 ladies. You don't have to wait around for the guy who won't commit. There are too many other men out there that want the same things you want.
Its no wonder you don't have a man of any race...you have serious issues. The man of your dreams does just appear at your door step one day, because that's how you dreamed it would happen. Like everyone else, you have to get in the game to win. Or as you said, put yourself in the rotation. A connaisseur of food does become a connaisseur unless he's sampled various foods, only then can he consided an critic or anthority. I suggest you get in the game or get a cat...LOL.
@veteranfw I have to ask...was you comment directed at me? If so, you seem to have missed my point. I was urging black women to end the cycle of man sharing within the black community by not allowing themselves to be involved in it. An AfricanAmer man has little incentive to marry one women if he has several on rotation so black women should take themselves out of the rotation. TRANSLATION: Don't be some man's jump off. If he won't commit to an exclusive relationship, kick his azz to the curb!
As the young woman in the video pointed out: if a black man has 3 or more amazing black women on rotation, why would he be in a rush to commit to just one woman? Ladies TAKE YOURSELF OUT OF THE ROTATION. Don't lower yourself to being part of a black man's ghetto version of a harem. There are men of other cultures out there who recognize that you're above that. Do yourself and the black community a favor by evening the playing field and ending this cycle of man sharing.
Two things goin on with African-American (AA) men:
1) The kind of AA man (educated, good job, attractive) that these women are looking for is attractive to women of all races and is (statistically) fairly likely to marry a non-AA.
2) AA men have higher (average) testosterone levels, making them more likely to seek multiple partners rather than settling down. Actually Mr. Harvey (for once) may be on to something here: older men (whose ave. test. level is lower) may be more ready to settle down.
@lease2coach1 No young woman wants to be with an old man. She wants to be with a compatible man ie someone she has something in common with (include age). Steve Harvey's comment was stupid and self serving. He likes younger women and he was probably using the opportunity to scope out ANOTHER young woman to cheat on his current wife with (again). Black men don't cheat because of testosterone levels. They cheat because they think they can get away with it.
@neoblkgirlswirl I hate to be the bearer of BAD NEWS, but men/women CHEAT because they think they can get away with it. I know you're don't want to hear it, but CHEATING has absolutely NOTHING to do with RACE. You act as if BM not only invented CHEATING, but have the PATENT as well. LOL
@lease2coach1 Black men cheat because they think black women will put up with it. Black women who limit themselves to dating only African American men SEVERELY limit their dating pool. If there's only 1 man for every 10 black women, that man has all the power. He can make all the rules including rules like "I see more than 1 woman at a time. If you want to date me, you have to just deal with it". Blk women need to give the blk man some competition by throwing men of other races into the mix.
@neoblkgirlswirl "Blk women need to give the blk man some competition by throwing men of other races into the mix."
Agree completely. My previous remarks were geared to the women in the video who said that they only wanted to be with AA men. Those women--educated, accomplished, comely--would be attractive to many non-AA men.
Curiously enough, for some non-AA men religion would be a deal breaker. Many of these upper-level AA women are fairly fervent Christians; few upper-level, non-AA men are.
@neoblkgirlswirl Good luck with giving the BM some competition, because from where I'm sitting men-and women-are going to CHEAT regardless of RACE. A person's race has absolutely NOTHING to do with whether or not they'll cheat, but a person's CHARACTER does. Personally, I don't see what BM are panicking about, because there are MORE BW than BM, and there are MORE women on Earth than men, so BM have more than enough choices without fear of competition.
@MAJESTY357 I'm not just talking about cheating. I'm talking about man sharing. The man sharing phenomenon exist within the black community because black men have little competition there. I'm saying that black women would do better to date out than than to share a man with their neighbors. Are you disagreeing with that?
@neoblkgirlswirl Who makes the decision, or rather, the choice to manshare? I'm going to say black women for $500.00 and I just won the DAILY DOUBLE. See, this is the problem: Pro-IR black women-just like you-want to blame black men for the choices you make instead of taking RESPONSIBILITY for your ACTIONS. MAN the FUCK UP or do whatever it is you women do, but don't sit there and act like it's the black man's fault.
@lease2coach1 All of the women featured in the video are beautiful. The problem is, they reside in Atlanta, which is a largely black metropolitan area. They would be able to date interracially if they simply relocated to a cosmopolitan city.
Iits a thing with African women whether American or African they are too picky even in Nigeria every girl is waiting for the dream guy with a car and mansion and house in the village, white women marry out of love. or anything
I think that - as more educated, more affluent, more accomplished African American women (like the ones in this video) marry men of other cultures - more African American men will take notice and (possibly) start re-evaluating how they themselves feel about marriage.
@neoblkgirlswirl I don't think black women should base their dating decisions on black males. Black women simply need to find men who are compatible, irrespective of race.
@neoblkgirlswirl I wouldn't hold my breath if I were you, because I'm an African American man and I DENOUNCE marriage. I don't see the point in wasting time, effort, and money getting married when the average marriage only last two years. Marriage doesn't mean the same thing it did years ago to BW, except to say they're married. If you or any other BW wants to get married then DO YOU, and get married, but don't think just because you're marrying a man of another race that it will change BM.
@MAJESTY357 You're a BM who denounces marriage yet you're watching and commenting on a video about how successful black women are frustrated because they can't find black husbands. Could you be part of the problem? I think you're exactly that guy who these women should avoid. Please post your photo so that we can use you as a poster child for the non-committal black man. We'll use your face with a ghost busters symbol on top of it and green Mr. Yuck stickers all around it.
@neoblkgirlswirl Yes I denounce marriage-is that going to be a problem? Another thing, I can watch and comment on any video I choose, but let's take this one step further: I don't have a problem with you pro-IR idiots dating/marrying outside of our race. The problem I have is when JACKASSES-just like you-have to DEGRADE BM in the process of EXPANDING your options. I don't expect you to grasp this simple idea-because you're pretty obtuse.
We black women have to broaden our dating pool because there just aren't enough African American men to go around. As we begin to date and marry men from other cultures, we see that our high levels of education and career accomplishment are POSITIVE things in other cultures. I say choose a man because he appreciates all the things that make you unique. Choose a man because you have the same values and goals. Choose a man who wants you to thrive NOT one who wants to limit you and hold you back.
@Mary2020VA true dat i respect black women, there is no other set of human being as strong and enduring as they nothing against other races but black women all over the world are strong. "Crack addicts/hos" who somehow manage to raise there children no male support.
Even my tribe in Nigeria has the same syndrome, the women do all the work fish and farm, while the men just thug around,talk politics and drink come back ask to be respected. and they giv them respect. Peace. try africans though
@neoblkgirlswirl matter of fact both African men and African women are problematic the men too got issues with marrying someone more succesful then they and the women is too picky.
This video was posted in 2009. I am happy to see that in 2012 we have come a long way. The stats for interracial marriage among black women are increasing because more information is out there for women. The statistics that show how few eligible black men there are vs black women are indisputable. Even if you don't take into account education level and income, there just aren't enough black men to go around. Now when we black women consider interracial dating, we can make informed decisions.
@neoblkgirlswirl It's not about whether or not there's enough BM to go around, so PLEASE, stop using that lame ass line. BW of the pro-IR variety-like yourself-don't want to date a BM, let alone, marry one; but you'll keep using the "there's not enough BM to go around" to justify the fact that you-and BW who think like you-want to date/marry men of other races. Instead of BLAMING BM for your issues, why not go date/marry the non-BM you want to be with so we can all get some sleep? ROFL
@MAJESTY357 Like I said before THERE IS NO MAN SHORTAGE. There are plenty of men out there. Black women just have to take off their color filtered glasses and open their hearts to men who treat them well and have similar family and relationship oriented goals.
@MAJESTY357 SORRY BRO. i thought you were a lady. the avatar, shows a shadow or outline of a woman's head. or, what i would assume is the outline of a woman's head. again, SORRY about mistaken you for a woman.
I would encourage all beautiful, successful black women like the ones in this video to travel abroad and/or join an international online dating service. Men outside of the United States love us for all the reasons some African American men don't. We are educated, accomplished, driven, independent and stylish. Believe it or not, all these things make us DESIRABLE (not contemptible) in the international dating pool.
Im a black man and I think that black men have done so much over the years to upset black women- like not taking care of our children, making them feel like they are not good enuff for us by dating white women, acting like thugs and going to prison. Not trying to better our communities by gaining a higher education...But this is one black man that wants to say that I am sorry to all of you beautiful black queens out there...we really let you down.
These females have what you call, a term coined by Tariq Nasheed, the WHITE DADDY SYNDROME. They want to show white people so bad that they are the victim and deserve pity. While doing that, they put down black men. They are looking for sympathy from white people, really. This is not a black problem, this is a human problem. Women who are highly successful are usually assertive and aggressive during and after work. Most men are not attracted to women like that. It's how we are engineered.
I respect these black girls for keeping it classy.
But the majority of black women want a fucken thug with swag and who is a quote on quote baller and a douce bag and they get pregrant.
I used to be a geek in highschool and they would step all over me.
Know I got quote on quote swag and know I put women and check and know the same girl's who dissed me are know the one's who want to give me "Brain'" and take care of there 2 kids.
@TheFreesubs12 yep. i was a " nice guy " for 20 years. a cousin of mine, said quit being nice or too nice. i tried to prove him wrong. BOY, was i wrong. now, i have a cocky attitude at times, a jerk, selfish, and ass too. i still get attention and smiles and looks from the ladies. THAT'S HOW IT REALLY WORKS.
what these types of women are really telling us. Some of the women my age have a mans mentality and no sense of value or family structure to say the least. I don't want to dwell on the negativity too much but i realize now, that in order to truly get what you want you have to sacrifice some things, and most of all have faith and truly belive that these things will happen. Sulking in your own sorrow and displaying it for the world to see wont change a thing. No one is doing anything to them.
@blackice82160 A woman considers a "good man" someone who will let her think, say, and do what SHE wants. If you're in something like a relationship, which involves someone outside of yourself, then you must be willing to give up some of your "independence." Unfortunately, many black women do not think on that level. As you say, they want to be married AND "independent." That's a contradiction. You don't work for an employee & then proceed to do as you want..marriage is the same.
@BeyondTheSpectrum08 I willfully admit that I made a mistake ignoring those red flags. It just saddens me to know that the majority of black women today have this mentality and are basically grooming the next generation of females to behave the same way. But thats not going to stop me from pursuing what I truly want.
@BeyondTheSpectrum08 I don't understand black guys... why not just get a non black woman and move on, since you hate black women so much. Best of luck, I truly hope you find what you're searching for. :)
@BeyondTheSpectrum08 So you are assuming, without even knowing, that all of their equally successful, happily married female friends ARE willing to give up their independence? Man, I'm tired of these unfounded speculations about women you don't even personally know!
@SupaAmi There is no speculation. I wouldn't have to know them personally to understand the circumstances they are in. They were the ones that chose to put their lives on display for the entire nation to witness.
@blackice82160 Sure you're speculating! The fact that they were willing to share their problem with the world does not mean that they are selfish bitches that are unwilling to compromise with men and THAT'S the reason they are single. As far as I could see they were all friendly and pleasant, well-behaved, not to mention very pretty and accomplished. There might be something something wrong with them that we don't know about, but as for now you're just SPECULATING. Period!
valuable lesson that I learned. I was willing to settle for someting that I didn't truly want only because she filled a void in my life. However I know better that to say that all black women are this way, but the behavior and habits that she displayed is a direct reflection of what I see in this video. From asking why she was single, having a lavish lifestyle, well paying job, and copious amounts of girlfriends. It makes me wonder if there is something more beyond the surface of...
@blackice82160 Your first mistake was dealing with a woman who is still in that "going out"/"clubbing" mentality. That's for little girls, and it has nothing to do with "jealousy" (an excuse for women to be allowed to do as they want within the confines of what's supposed to be a relationship). Future reference, don't deal with women who are still "going out;" most don't have the attitude to deal with a relationship and clubbing/bar-hopping. That's what teenagers do.
Then had the audacity to ask me if I would be mad if she went to his hotel room. I told her hell yeah I would be mad. So she begged me to go to his room and that she wouldn't be long. So like a fool i let her go. She spent a good 30 minutes in there before i finally went up to his room and snatched her ass out of there. Needles to say that relationship (or lack of one) ended that night. A lot of black women want to have their cake and eat it too. And this experience that I had was a very...
@blackice82160 A woman's first (and in many cases, only) allegiance is to her our desires and feelings, and it wont matter how devoted or loving you are. Proof of this is that insane saying among women, "If the woman's isn't happy, then the relationship isn't happy." Thats like saying the woman is in the relationship by herself. To most American women, it's always about HER desires first, and your loyalty, your love doesn't matter.
One fateful night she showed her ass in a club that we went to. Before we even went into the club she said to me "jealousy wont get you no where" and "remember who you are coming home with". At that moment I knew it was going to be a bad night. So i sat back and watched her conversate and give out her number to numerous amounts of men. When she did talk to me she explained that she was "handling business that was work related". So Kid Capri was there and she made it a point to get his number..
I have been looking at these videos for about two years now and I recently encountered one of these "successful black single women". Im 24 and in the military and the woman I was dating is 39. She has a very well paying job, pretty educated articulate, and "indipendent". The age difference scared me at first, she already had two kids, and had been divorced twice. All of this scared me at first, but I said what the hell lets try something new. Everything seemed great in the beginning but..
If these were poor, lower-class, ghetto black women, or poor lower-class trailer park white women, they'd probably have no problem dating some broke older man. But the women with good jobs have much higher expectations. I'm not attacking them, just saying how it is.
steviesbackbitch 2 days ago
This isn't just black women. Women in general, especially the ones with high-powered careers and therefore higher expectations, are always complaining there aren't enough good men around. Think about it, desperate older single women is a common cliché. When they're young they always have boyfriends or fwb's but when they're older and looking to marry prince charming they can't find anyone.
steviesbackbitch 2 days ago
@steviesbackbitch I agree with you on this one. These women turn down good men all their life now they want a good man. Thing is they dissed all the good men that came their way and now those men are taken.
comichero75 1 day ago
Funny I saw a woman put on her fb status "how is it that ugly women are married or have kids but the pretty women dont"...sidenote she has 3 kids and not married, and different baby fathers ...yet she has a man...me and im 26 single graduating in may and I havent had a relationship in about 3 years. So, I am the pretty girl that her friends said cant keep a man... i feel as though i just cant settle. WHY should i go to school work twos and then settle for a man who cant keep a job and has 2 kids
diorlove21 4 days ago
@diorlove21 look forward to a miserable single existence where u can have all of ur material success and education cause that's what ur in for lol. Good luck!!
dunk602 1 day ago
p.s. these bitches sound more like commandos than women!! o and to you young lady in the past 20years companies owned by the rich white man found a way to keep his power over his women and keep bm out of the work place. he hired the blackwomen who is 2 minorities in one black and a women!! you to young to know this was happening and thats why i say for you to do more research and get a little more real world experience under your belt!! peace!
lmao6t 1 week ago
@lmao6t Preach! it,i agree wit you 100%,people are so blind to the fact and women like this need to be taught about humilty.One of those women said that they want a spiritual man in their lives but they wouldn't know spritualalty if it hit em in their faces,she fronting,she's thinking more so about material things.
MegaPsycho84 6 days ago
@MegaPsycho84 said a mouth full man!! the real spritual that shes talking about comes rolled up as a "fatty"!! they getting now what the "good man" got from them 10years ago(karma is a bitch!!) good luck tricks
lmao6t 1 day ago
the answer is obvious, professional "Black" women should be on the lookout for professional "Asian" or "White" men......since the "Black" pool is a little short on their criteria.
How racist can you get ABC, assuming "Black" people are only attracted to other "Black" people.
Oh and D.L. Hughley is an idiot "Black" man, don't listen to him.
The guy can't enunciate his words correctly, much less dole out relationship advice to women.....
TechnologicalTyranny 1 week ago
Come holler at a brown man you beautiful women! I'm an Indian American male and I am attracted to, rather, I prefer, black women over many others. All I look for in that first glimpse is that you are well spoken and do not adhere to the negative cultural stereotypes of the black community, much like these beautiful women in this video.
roodawgy1 1 week ago
@roodawgy1 Well do YOU adhere to the negative cultural stereotypes in the INDIAN AMERICAN community? Are you not aware of what they are? WE all are.
Uh let's see 1) UNEMPLOYED 2) DRUNK all day (alcoholics) 3) SUICIDAL 4) DEPRESSED 5) LAZY 6) VIOLENT
Sorry but THOSE are just SOME of the "negative cultural stereotypes of the American INDIAN community".
Final question WHO THE FUCK DO YOU THINK YOU are with your ignorant condescending commentary? ANY BW would be a FOOL to deal with U
iiidol 6 days ago
Fuck acorn, milk dud head Steve Harvey
Fairexchange41 1 week ago
Okay, so I don't have any physical standards that guys have to live up to. I find all of mankind beautiful (seriously), I don't require he have a certain job, I just want a nice guy who likes me. Yet I've never had a boyfriend. I put myself out there, when I like a guy I let him know. I'm not a game player but still I get friend zoned. What is up with that? I've had guys say they love me, but just as a friend. Tell me what I'm doing wrong! LOL
ToshiBecca 1 week ago
@ToshiBecca, I would have to know you to dare make any such assessment. Good luck to you in the future.
LucisFerre1 1 week ago
@LucisFerre1 Thank you : )
ToshiBecca 6 days ago
@ToshiBecca A lot of it has NOTHING to do with you, but rather with the fact that men are hesitant to marry or commit these days, as the laws have made it too risky for them to do either. So, the playboys can still do their thing, free of fear. The good guys, however,.....Also, if you're really young, remember that neither men NOR women are being encouraged much toward purity/integrity, these days! That's probably part of it, too.
MyOttoLink 1 week ago
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@MyOttoLink, Why would you need to be prodded and encouraged by others before you choose to behave like a decent human being?
Blaming everybody else for ones own failures---The ubiquitous sign of a loser.
LucisFerre1 1 week ago
@MyOttoLink Meaning that if you are carrying yourself in integrity, and have standards of purity, you are RARE--not many women are actually living that, these days, though they ARE there.. And the men that are looking for that are not as plentiful as they oncer were, either--but once again, they are there.
MyOttoLink 1 week ago
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@ToshiBecca Meaning that if you are carrying yourself in integrity, and have standards of purity, you are RARE--not many women are actually living that, these days, though they ARE there.. And the men that are looking for that are not as plentiful as they oncer were, either--but once again, they are there. Nonetheless, the reason it's taking such a long time probably has SOMETHING to do with that.
MyOttoLink 1 week ago
@MyOttoLink I guess so. I have noticed a lot of the guys around me go for these women (who can be good people in some regards) who jump from guy to guy and break their hearts. They idolizes women with emotional issues that destroy relationships. Then the guys come away with his view of women as vicious hateful creatures. And they talk to me about it like I'm not a woman 0_o But it's okay, I'm a good listener
ToshiBecca 6 days ago
@ToshiBecca You asked. And I DO know the answer to your question. If you REALLY want to know then just email me privately and I will tell you EXACTLY what you are doing wrong!
iiidol 6 days ago
p.s. opray fat ass will never have a man!! why dumb ass women dont have a mind of their own!
lmao6t 2 weeks ago
they think that just because they have a degree/mba/phd/ that they are above the fray! i have a electronics & physics degree but im still in the most important thing(reality) the real world/opra/mtv/vh1/b.e.t./reality t.v/and so one have fuck them up. litsen these women are going to fuck up another generation of women because the men they seek know are gone and they missed out because they didnt want the good man that was there 10years ago(period)
lmao6t 2 weeks ago
I find it odd that it is heavily implied that you can only marry within your racial group.
winesy83 2 weeks ago
my last comment had alot of type ozz(sleepy) but here we go: most of these women are in there 30zz and all are fine!! but you cant sit here and tell me that good men have not tried to talk to them(not!!) turning 30 came fast and its caught their attention(o-shit) now they are awake!! i wish them luck, but still in this interveiw they front. look no man wants a old hag to start his life with!! most i know want from 25 to 28 year olds(just saying) hope you didnt party to long in the clubs!
lmao6t 2 weeks ago
@lmao6t This is exactly what I was saying. These women passed up good black men their whole life but I can guarantee you they only fucked with assholes and thugs. Now that they are 30+ they are hurting since the thugs don't want them anymore now they are wondering where all the good black men are. Shit were with the white and hispanic women.
comichero75 2 weeks ago
@comichero75 thats what pisses me off the most when i here shit like this!! they fail to mention them dope dealers they were fucking and the unemployed bad boys in the last 10 years!! good man was looked by them as being weak!! i hope them luck but you know these stuck up bitches are on their best behavior during this bullshit interveiw but you know if that camera wasnt on em they saying sorry nigga this and sorry nigga that!!
frontin skizzers!!!
lmao6t 1 week ago
@lmao6t EXACTLY!!!! These dumb bitches will continue to fuck with a guy that they know is fucking other women yet they wont give a good man the time of day. When I went to college in Houston all the black women there dated guys outiside of college. They preferred guys that sold drugs or would only step on the college campus to get some pussy. Now the same women that turned me down 12 years ago are now the same ones on my FB page trying to catch up on old time LMAO. Yea fucking right.
comichero75 3 days ago
@comichero75 man that shit is so true/i got one fb stalking me today!! man and look like my mama now!! send me pictures posesing with them hooker heels on(smh) im nice to her but man the thrill is gone(bb king)!! its no way i go there again!! all i can say to these bitches suffering from early stages of alzheimers what comes around goes around(karma is a bitch!!
lmao6t 1 day ago
@lmao6t LMAO@ looking like my momma now. Yea man, this one female I used to be crazy over said I was too nice and only seen me as a friend. Now she's saying how good I look and how amazed I turned out after all these years. And guess what, She looks like shit now. Got 2 kids by two different men. Now I thank God I never got with this chic.
comichero75 1 day ago
@comichero75 man i was thinking i was the only real nigga left on this earth that had good since!! these bitches love iggnutt sorry ass niggazz and now they old bitches and in need of counseling from a major network like abc nightline(smh) and the major network like abc nightline choose a buster ass nigga like steve harvey to give these hoes advice(smh)!! man its no wonder these bitches dont have no man!!!!!
lmao6t 19 hours ago
i tried but i could't resist: i am a single bm and i can say i might be until i gone home!! dont settle, i not. i heard these women speak and their points are valid. but what i want to say is that if african american community is not producing kind and god fearing women i'm not intrested(plain and simple) i'm looking somewere else!! good bw tried to get with you ladies 10 years ago but you wanted the badboy(REMEMBER!!) 10years later now you looking for that kind man!! (please) clocks ticking!
lmao6t 2 weeks ago
@lmao6t, that's interesting, because I'm having trouble finding a woman who is not "god fearing", and not afraid of ghosts or any other supernatural nonsense. I find it bewildering why any Black American would be appalled at the idea of having a lord and master to answer to 150 years ago, and yet love the idea of having an invisible one right now, staring at you every moment of the day, even in the shower.
LucisFerre1 2 weeks ago
@LucisFerre1 the fact that most of bw are single w/children started with 1 thing and 1 thing only=(them) the fact that educated bw can do no wrong is crazy(they can) this interview was good & it piss me off at the same time(a.k.a. the victim) women make stupid moves all the time(not my fault) i know these women have had good bm try to talk to them and they were not having it! now the clock is ticking and they get a interveiw(piss me off part) man you cant have your cake and eat it 2!
lmao6t 2 weeks ago
THE GIANTS WON THE SUPERBOWL That's beautiful That's the top 10n I'm talking about. With pretty girl Madonna at Halftime. I got my eyes on her. Stay sweet baby!
bigtimer1254 2 weeks ago
"given the high homicide, incarceration, & dropout rates among African-American males. "
They keep on, KEEP ON dismissing the negative way in which black men are presented, thought about, and spoken about/to by black women. They keep on making the single black women all about ONLY the things that the men do to themSELVES. OK. If they know everything, they can solve it on their own, too.
MyOttoLink 3 weeks ago
@MyOttoLink said [["given the high homicide, incarceration, & dropout rates among African-American males. "
They keep on, KEEP ON dismissing the negative way in which black men are presented,... ]]
Sounds like you have a problem with reality.
LucisFerre1 2 weeks ago
@LucisFerre1 I really couldn't care less about how I sound to you, especially when what I've put out here is that this video presents a LOADED conversation. If you want to be so deluded, as to let this video speak from A to Z for black men/women, go right ahead (notice that you provide no backing for your condescending comment.)
MyOttoLink 2 weeks ago
@MyOttoLink, Last year, the high school drop out rate for black males in America was 50%. Wake up and smell the Folgers.
LucisFerre1 2 weeks ago
@LucisFerre1 Wake up and read my comment.
What I said SO CLEARLY (to every mind except to your delusional, self-absorbed, arrogant mind), was that the way in which black women present , talk to/about, and think of the black men is ALWAYS dismissed--as though it had no bearing in this. So you keep revolving around useless statistics if you want to. You--and your Folgers--can waste someone else's time, since you don't even want to stay on point.
MyOttoLink 2 weeks ago
@MyOttoLink, So, what I keep getting out of your posts is that you don't care about what is true, only what people are saying, even if it is true. You're a chump.
LucisFerre1 2 weeks ago
@LucisFerre1 And you're an agent involved in starting conflicts all over YouTube. What's your point?
TurboTurbulence22 1 week ago
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@TurboTurbulence22 said [[And you're an agent involved in starting conflicts all over YouTube. What's your point?]]
It's interesting that you classify proving racist haters wrong with government published statistics "starting conflicts all over youtube". I guess the truth is sometimes inconvenient.
LucisFerre1 1 week ago
@MyOttoLink, Yes, I think we already established that you're concerned about what BW say, but not whether it happens to be the truth.
LucisFerre1 1 week ago
@LucisFerre1 Wrong again, genius. WE didn't establish ANYTHING about how I think. I, however, established that you are willing to suggest that black women DON'T talk black men down--and still manage to have that dismissed, when talking about the effect that it has. I also establish that you, in your [boring] cowardice, dont' even stay on point. You are proving as true the dodging that I'm mentioning. You're desperate to distract. Pathetic approach.
MyOttoLink 1 week ago
@MyOttoLink, You're obviously not very smart. I didn't say that black women don't talk black men down. I said repeatedly that you care more about what black women say than whether or not its the truth. I've made this point three times. I can only conclude that you're stupid.
LucisFerre1 1 week ago
@LucisFerre1 Maybe the problem is that out of the TWO (you need to work on your counting as much as you need to work on your grammar, spelling, and logic) times you've attempted 2 make this [poor] excuse 4 a point, you left out words, & dodged the point--which is that BW have attempted 4 decades 2 influence others 2 BELIEVE what they say about BM. Like all boringly argumentative people, you respond to points that you can't handle by answering an irrelevant issue. Stupid, indeed.
MyOttoLink 1 week ago
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@MyOttoLink, the whole point of balking against someone saying something negative about someone is the ostensible idea that it's not true. You truly are stupid, aren't you.
LucisFerre1 1 week ago
3:35 wowwww. This woman had a 6'5 height requirement and yet she wonders why she's still single? Someone needs a wake up call........
clockworkorange1986 3 weeks ago 6
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@clockworkorange1986 said [[3:35 wowwww. This woman had a 6'5 height requirement and yet she wonders why she's still single? Someone needs a wake up call........]]
She did. Did you even watch the rest of the video?
LucisFerre1 2 weeks ago
they should marry white men then....or chinese or latinos or something else but black if there are not enough bllack men. Why does it have to be a black man anyways??
phabbiola 4 weeks ago
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@phabbiola said [[they should marry white men then....or chinese or latinos or something else but black if there are not enough bllack men. Why does it have to be a black man anyways??]]
Phabbiola, IMO Black American women are loyal and loving to a fault. Black America is in a crisis, and it's on the woman's shoulders right now. Unfairly so. Generally speaking, I think she doesn't want to feel that she's abandoning her people and culture, but she's running out of people she can depend on.
LucisFerre1 2 weeks ago
so black men without jobs and highschool diplomas arent eligble to ask black women to marry them?
drey204 4 weeks ago
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@drey204 asked [[so black men without jobs and highschool diplomas arent eligble to ask black women to marry them?]]
You damned right they're not. If a man, any man, can't afford to raise children in a decent way or to provide a decent life for a significant other, he has no business getting married. And anyone who does and expects the government to pick up the tab is a god damned low life scum-bag leach on society.
LucisFerre1 2 weeks ago
Mixed race couples where the wife is black and the husband is not black do very well. There is a low rate of divorce for these types of couples. There is a higher rate of divorce for mixed race couples where the husband is black and the wife is not.
neoblkgirlswirl 1 month ago in playlist Interracial Dating
@neoblkgirlswirl
yh, you do the racist white man's work for him.
the world is designed to make you say the things you are saying, you have been conditioned by people who hate you - shame on you.
seeforreal 4 weeks ago
@seeforreal How does my promotion of healthy relationships (that lead to marriage) for black women "do the racist white man's work tor him"?
neoblkgirlswirl 4 weeks ago
@neoblkgirlswirl
you are not promoting healthy relationships - you are promoting the idea that black men and women are incompatible.
NO BLACK COUPLES = NO BLACK BABIES.
Racist white man's work.
Sister, 2 things:
1: there is more to life than make up and sex, I know the white girls tell you different, but there is.
2: 'FIERCE BLACK LADIES' will never be married. I would say 'FIERCE LADIES' will have hard time all round. Men [any colour] want to be happy, 'fierce' isn't desirable.
seeforreal 3 weeks ago
@seeforreal I never said that black men and women are incompatible. I'm saying black American men do not (on average) pursue marriage with black women. So...if you are a black woman who wants to get married (like the ladies in this video), your best bet is to look elsewhere.
neoblkgirlswirl 3 weeks ago
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@neoblkgirlswirl said [[So...if you are a black woman who wants to get married (like the ladies in this video), your best bet is to look elsewhere.]]
According to the 2010 census, the most successful marriages in America in the past ten years, by a wide margin, has been White men married to Black women.
LucisFerre1 2 weeks ago
@neoblkgirlswirl said [[ So...if you are a black woman who wants to get married (like the ladies in this video), your best bet is to look elsewhere.]]
Right. Even if we ignore the "shortage of black men" and other situations, just being open to dating white men in America increases a black woman's choices about 500% since there are almost exactly 5x more white non-hispanic people in USA as there are blacks. (Sorry, I don't know what the ratio of just men would be, presumably higher).
LucisFerre1 2 weeks ago
@seeforreal said:
"I would say 'FIERCE LADIES' will have hard time all round. Men [any colour] want to be happy, 'fierce' isn't desirable."
You must have a different definition of "fierce" than I do. Because- to me- a fierce woman is one who is intelligent, educated, attractive, feminine, caries herself with dignity and on her "A" game. The type of men who DON'T want that aren't marriage material men. If a man has it together, he expects (with good reason) that his wife has the same.
neoblkgirlswirl 3 weeks ago
@neoblkgirlswirl said [[You must have a different definition of "fierce" than I do. Because- to me- a fierce woman is one who is intelligent, educated, attractive, feminine, caries herself with dignity and on her "A" game.]]
Wrong, Dictionary[dot]com
1.menacingly wild, savage, or hostile: fierce animals; a fierce look.
2.violent in force, intensity, etc.: fierce winds.
3.furiously eager or intense: fierce competition.
4.Informal . extremely bad or severe: a fierce cold.
LucisFerre1 2 weeks ago
@seeforreal said: "NO BLACK COUPLES = NO BLACK BABIES"
Wrong. Where I'm from BLACK MOTHER = BLACK CHILD. I have African, Euro, Asian and native ancestry and I am still African American. If your comment is about "keeping the race pure", you're waaaaay too late for that my friend. That ship sailed as soon as the first wave of slaves landed on American soil.
neoblkgirlswirl 3 weeks ago
@neoblkgirlswirl If somebody wants to have and interracial relationship.It ain't nobody's job to tell somebody else what the f to do. This is a Country of free will. We ain't no robots from outta apace. We are our own person. And if nobody likes it, then that's just too bad.
bigtimer1254 2 weeks ago
@seeforreal And why...sigh...why do people assume that interracial relationships always include white people??? There are so many different kinds of people and different ethnic combinations of mixed couples out there. Why in so many people's minds is it always about black and white? You do a disservice to all people of color by assuming that. It's like you are refusing to admit that people other than white people and black people even exist.
neoblkgirlswirl 3 weeks ago
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@seeforreal said: "there is more to life than make up and sex, I know the white girls tell you different, but there is."
Whaaaaaaaat??? I have no idea where that comment is coming from. Just FYI: I don't consult the "white girl" swami brigade to learn the meaning of life. But thanks so much for pointing out where YOUR mind is :-\
neoblkgirlswirl 3 weeks ago
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@seeforreal said [[1: there is more to life than make up and sex, I know the white girls tell you different, but there is.]]
You don't get points for being (a) racist towards White women, and (b) condescending towards Black women.
LucisFerre1 2 weeks ago
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@seeforreal said [[yh, you do the racist white man's work for him.
the world is designed to make you say the things you are saying, you have been conditioned by people who hate you - shame on you.]]
Black women earned their success, now they deserve the fruits of that success. It behooves them to find a man on-par whatever his heritage might be. Anyone who tells an intelligent capable woman to settle for less, because of the color of her skin...is a RACIST.
LucisFerre1 2 weeks ago
TO THE FIERCE BLACK LADIES WHO WANT TO GET MARRIED: Travel, study and work abroad. Your education, intelligence, exotic beauty and ambition are very valuable in the global dating market
neoblkgirlswirl 1 month ago in playlist Interracial Dating
@neoblkgirlswirl I dont know why more blk women dont do that. My friend Chanise and I travel and meet alot of cuties of all races and walks of life. I dont limit myself
liacashmere58 1 month ago
These girls are hold diggers
JyseGoldberg 1 month ago
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@JyseGoldberg said [[These girls are hold diggers]]
No, They're dismissing the gold digging men. When successful men stay away from gold digging women, you approve, but when the tables are turned, you complain. Hmmm...
What they're going through is the plight of any successful person, male or female, but as Harvey said, they have a biological clock, we don't. (Well, we do, but it comes about 30 years later).
LucisFerre1 2 weeks ago
Lastly...why be a DOCTOR when you can MARRY one......(just a joke ladies)..BTW how do they know that their white friends arent married to wimpy guys? The guys might make their wives work right out of the hospital after birth. Ive seen it.
49jubilee 1 month ago
Also, you have to watch guys of ALL COLORS who are a certain age. Many didnt grow up with men AT ALL. They dont know what its like to be masculine. Some guys are extremely passive/aggressive and not worth your time for an LTR or marriage....although the p/a guy could make a good friend
49jubilee 1 month ago
steve harvey is right about the bio-clock! I think women could marry someone 15-20 yrs older and if hes healthy and stable its a go....my husband is 15 yrs older than me and his/our kids span 32 years. My daughter was born when his oldest was 32 and shes a healthy teenager
49jubilee 1 month ago
White girls fatten themselves up to make them more appealing to black guys.
HBKanedge818 1 month ago
@HBKanedge818 LOL
1000gohead 1 month ago
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Statistically, mixed race couples where the wife is black and the husband is not black do very well. There's a lower rate of divorce for these types of couples than for other mixed race couples where the husband is black and the wife is not. I find this very interesting
neoblkgirlswirl 1 month ago in playlist Interracial Dating
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@neoblkgirlswirl said [[Statistically, mixed race couples where the wife is black and the husband is not black do very well.]]
I do wish racists would stop marking posts as spam when they're really offering a view that irks them. Neoblkgirlswirl is not spaming at all. Stop marking her posts as spam, people. Disagreeing with someone is still to respect someone else's right to an opinion. But trying to make a post disappear is censorship and fascist.
LucisFerre1 2 weeks ago
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TO THE FIERCE BLACK LADIES OUT THERE WHO WANT TO GET MARRIED: Travel, study and work abroad. Your intelligence, beauty and drive is very valuable in the global dating market ;-)
neoblkgirlswirl 1 month ago in playlist Interracial Dating
problem is with women like that chemist. When the other girl said that she should ask for his number, she was like naaaaa i don't do that, all disgusted and shit.. FFS, entitled and lazy much? Why is it the man who has to take the chances and put himself out there, women always need to sit in the powerposition and can never be vulnerable. They want everything to be handed to them. No wonder you are single. When you are faced with the odds like that, you need to put in the work!
Shinkajo 1 month ago
Damn i love being a man, i can make children until i die!!!
Shinkajo 1 month ago
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@Shinkajo said [[Damn i love being a man, i can make children until i die!!!]]
LOL, that's what you think.
LucisFerre1 2 weeks ago
these women checked out by the nation of islam how to create , maintain and console a men.
ashan379 1 month ago
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@ashan379 said [[these women checked out by the nation of islam how to create , maintain and console a men.]]
Somehow I don't think these women are looking to be dominated by brutes and covered with a bed sheet in public. Read Koran, Sura 4:34 on when a man should beat his wife and banish her from bed. No thanks pal, this is the 21st century, not the 15th.
LucisFerre1 2 weeks ago
These women own their career, but cannot own the relationship. If they are expecting a man to be chivalrous, which a sexist practice, they will never get married.
Silents30 1 month ago
JUST CHECKED THE U.S. LABOR AND STATISTICS ONLY 3 % OF THE TOTATL U. S. POPULATION MAKES $100,000 AND UP.... THAT'S 3.3 MIL OUT OF 150 MIL OF WORKING ADULTS.... LADIES IF YOU WANT TO FIND THAT GUY YOU WILL HAVE TO GET IN LINE...
20jandrews 1 month ago
@20jandrews actually that is more like 2.2%
Shinkajo 1 month ago
@Shinkajo i get my stats from fox news so i'm sticking to the 3% figure
20jandrews 1 month ago
@20jandrews well deriving from your stats, 3.3mil out of 150mil is 2.2%. 3,300,000 / 150,000,000 = 0,022 , just saying
Shinkajo 1 month ago
@Shinkajo i said 3% of the 150 mil working population... if you had done the math yourself it would have been 4.5 mil people... that's what's wrong with this country with people always assuming things; if you had read my last comment i made a joke about how i was wrong but "Shinkajo know it all' had to prove me wrong yet again with his/ her own faulty math.. good luck at your job "Principal who gives a fuck" ....tight ass
20jandrews 1 month ago
@20jandrews well i used YOUR data, so the math is not faulty, sorry for knowing it all and having a tight ass, but i've not been raped in my buthole quite as much as you :D
Shinkajo 1 month ago
@Shinkajo wow... so we doing the "i know you are but what am i" la la la la la can't hear you la la la la la can't hear you ... here's a phrase for your vocabulary: it's call " i don't know" try it sometimes... it will make you less of an asshole :)
20jandrews 1 month ago
@20jandrews i'm not really trying to be an asshole, but 3,3mil out of 150mil is 2,2% and 3% out of 150 is 4,5. So we both were right and wrong at the same time.
Shinkajo 1 month ago
Do any of those women believed in Virgin before marriage? If not they should marry the first man they went with. What is the single present to carry to a marriage ? The church is 100% correct; marriage before sex. Secondly most men who can take care of a family are NOT 6ft + tall . Just look on the internet, search for black women preference for men; they all want 6ft+ men. They don't look for MDs, Engineers, Technicians, etc. Interracial? Most Interricial children NOT happy with black blood.
Ancientafrica 1 month ago
@Ancientafrica and who's fault is that?? a lot of black people get with people outside of their race,who don't understand black people,or who don't like black women or men.then they end up having kids who don't understand black history because the black parents hasn't emphasis the importance of the child's history.also some blacks sabotage their children because they don't like their race,so why would the bi racial child,accept themselves,if their parents won't or don't?
bluedreamer5000 1 month ago
@bluedreamer5000
You are right, so I decided to stay home (black) and avoid more trouble. I'm not against biracial.
Those women in video are beautiful not to be married at this time. What were their preferrences when they were younger. Instead of (handsome, height, light skin, etc), they should have looked at skills (MDs, Engineering, Technician, ...., Lawyers). Honesty I have met two AfricanAmerican MDs who couldn't fine black men/women to date (sad/serious).
Ancientafrica 1 month ago
@Ancientafrica yeah it is sad, it's VERY sad i have 3 black friends(i have more then that,i'm using them as an example)2 boys&1 girl.the girl wants to study astronomy&trust me she has the brain for it.1boy wants to be a neurosurgeon,his dad was one so now he wants to be.&the other boy wants to be a lawyer.if he does,he'll be the 3rd one in his whole family.all of them are nice,intelligent,have good grades&are going to the school of their dreams.still they can't find blacks like them or have been
bluedreamer5000 1 month ago
@Ancientafrica turned down because people say they don't act black enough or their not light enough,or their too big,too short/tall.they want a black husband and wives,but they can't find one that fits their standards.and i'm not talking about standards like these women either.
bluedreamer5000 1 month ago
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@bluedreamer5000 said [[also some blacks sabotage their children because they don't like their race,so why would the bi racial child,accept themselves,if their parents won't or don't?]]
Sorry, but it's biased & neurotic to tell mixed people that they should call themselves black, but not white or mixed. Tiger Woods had a perfectly illegitimate reason to say that he's mixed, to not disrespect his mother and her heritage. But Oprah, being the afrocentric bitch that she is, wasn't having it.
LucisFerre1 2 weeks ago
lmao!!!!
lorettasson 1 month ago
TO ALL THE SINGLE LADIES WHO WANT TO GET MARRIED: If you are with a man for 2 years or more and he won't commit/propose...you need to seriously consider ending the relationship. That's more than enough time for him to get to know you. Don't waste years of your life on a relationship that's going nowhere. Go find a man who wants the same thing you want. THERE IS NO MAN SHORTAGE if you're willing to date out.
neoblkgirlswirl 1 month ago
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@neoblkgirlswirl said [[Don't waste years of your life on a relationship that's going nowhere. Go find a man who wants the same thing you want. THERE IS NO MAN SHORTAGE if you're willing to date out.]]
Good advice. And I'm enjoying reading the posts of broke-ass losers who can't handle a woman speaking out on women looking out for their best interests. Keep up the good work.
LucisFerre1 2 weeks ago
at 4:28 im like her.im NOT gonna ask for a man's number.no way.
sheardelightful 1 month ago
if marriage and kids are some of your goals, GO FOR IT. Don't let racial stereotypes rob you of those experiences. It's 2012 ladies. You don't have to wait around for the guy who won't commit. There are too many other men out there that want the same things you want.
neoblkgirlswirl 1 month ago in playlist Interracial Dating
if you broke no car then you not worth their stuk up asses she lowered the bar she is so stupid
arturdrozdz297374 1 month ago
Its no wonder you don't have a man of any race...you have serious issues. The man of your dreams does just appear at your door step one day, because that's how you dreamed it would happen. Like everyone else, you have to get in the game to win. Or as you said, put yourself in the rotation. A connaisseur of food does become a connaisseur unless he's sampled various foods, only then can he consided an critic or anthority. I suggest you get in the game or get a cat...LOL.
veteranfw 2 months ago
@veteranfw I have to ask...was you comment directed at me? If so, you seem to have missed my point. I was urging black women to end the cycle of man sharing within the black community by not allowing themselves to be involved in it. An AfricanAmer man has little incentive to marry one women if he has several on rotation so black women should take themselves out of the rotation. TRANSLATION: Don't be some man's jump off. If he won't commit to an exclusive relationship, kick his azz to the curb!
neoblkgirlswirl 1 month ago
As the young woman in the video pointed out: if a black man has 3 or more amazing black women on rotation, why would he be in a rush to commit to just one woman? Ladies TAKE YOURSELF OUT OF THE ROTATION. Don't lower yourself to being part of a black man's ghetto version of a harem. There are men of other cultures out there who recognize that you're above that. Do yourself and the black community a favor by evening the playing field and ending this cycle of man sharing.
neoblkgirlswirl 2 months ago
Two things goin on with African-American (AA) men:
1) The kind of AA man (educated, good job, attractive) that these women are looking for is attractive to women of all races and is (statistically) fairly likely to marry a non-AA.
2) AA men have higher (average) testosterone levels, making them more likely to seek multiple partners rather than settling down. Actually Mr. Harvey (for once) may be on to something here: older men (whose ave. test. level is lower) may be more ready to settle down.
lease2coach1 2 months ago
@lease2coach1 No young woman wants to be with an old man. She wants to be with a compatible man ie someone she has something in common with (include age). Steve Harvey's comment was stupid and self serving. He likes younger women and he was probably using the opportunity to scope out ANOTHER young woman to cheat on his current wife with (again). Black men don't cheat because of testosterone levels. They cheat because they think they can get away with it.
neoblkgirlswirl 2 months ago
@neoblkgirlswirl I hate to be the bearer of BAD NEWS, but men/women CHEAT because they think they can get away with it. I know you're don't want to hear it, but CHEATING has absolutely NOTHING to do with RACE. You act as if BM not only invented CHEATING, but have the PATENT as well. LOL
MAJESTY357 1 month ago
@lease2coach1 Black men cheat because they think black women will put up with it. Black women who limit themselves to dating only African American men SEVERELY limit their dating pool. If there's only 1 man for every 10 black women, that man has all the power. He can make all the rules including rules like "I see more than 1 woman at a time. If you want to date me, you have to just deal with it". Blk women need to give the blk man some competition by throwing men of other races into the mix.
neoblkgirlswirl 2 months ago
@neoblkgirlswirl "Blk women need to give the blk man some competition by throwing men of other races into the mix."
Agree completely. My previous remarks were geared to the women in the video who said that they only wanted to be with AA men. Those women--educated, accomplished, comely--would be attractive to many non-AA men.
Curiously enough, for some non-AA men religion would be a deal breaker. Many of these upper-level AA women are fairly fervent Christians; few upper-level, non-AA men are.
lease2coach1 2 months ago
@neoblkgirlswirl Good luck with giving the BM some competition, because from where I'm sitting men-and women-are going to CHEAT regardless of RACE. A person's race has absolutely NOTHING to do with whether or not they'll cheat, but a person's CHARACTER does. Personally, I don't see what BM are panicking about, because there are MORE BW than BM, and there are MORE women on Earth than men, so BM have more than enough choices without fear of competition.
MAJESTY357 1 month ago
@MAJESTY357 I'm not just talking about cheating. I'm talking about man sharing. The man sharing phenomenon exist within the black community because black men have little competition there. I'm saying that black women would do better to date out than than to share a man with their neighbors. Are you disagreeing with that?
neoblkgirlswirl 1 month ago
@neoblkgirlswirl Who makes the decision, or rather, the choice to manshare? I'm going to say black women for $500.00 and I just won the DAILY DOUBLE. See, this is the problem: Pro-IR black women-just like you-want to blame black men for the choices you make instead of taking RESPONSIBILITY for your ACTIONS. MAN the FUCK UP or do whatever it is you women do, but don't sit there and act like it's the black man's fault.
MAJESTY357 1 month ago
@lease2coach1 All of the women featured in the video are beautiful. The problem is, they reside in Atlanta, which is a largely black metropolitan area. They would be able to date interracially if they simply relocated to a cosmopolitan city.
Mary2020VA 2 months ago
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childofconvenant 2 months ago
Iits a thing with African women whether American or African they are too picky even in Nigeria every girl is waiting for the dream guy with a car and mansion and house in the village, white women marry out of love. or anything
childofconvenant 2 months ago
Black girls are cool, just steer clear of the EESSHHA'S, they'll bleed ya dry !!!!
DRUNKENRAMBLE 2 months ago
I think that - as more educated, more affluent, more accomplished African American women (like the ones in this video) marry men of other cultures - more African American men will take notice and (possibly) start re-evaluating how they themselves feel about marriage.
neoblkgirlswirl 2 months ago in playlist Interracial Dating
@neoblkgirlswirl I don't think black women should base their dating decisions on black males. Black women simply need to find men who are compatible, irrespective of race.
Mary2020VA 2 months ago
@Mary2020VA Agreed.
neoblkgirlswirl 2 months ago
@neoblkgirlswirl I wouldn't hold my breath if I were you, because I'm an African American man and I DENOUNCE marriage. I don't see the point in wasting time, effort, and money getting married when the average marriage only last two years. Marriage doesn't mean the same thing it did years ago to BW, except to say they're married. If you or any other BW wants to get married then DO YOU, and get married, but don't think just because you're marrying a man of another race that it will change BM.
MAJESTY357 1 month ago
@MAJESTY357 You're a BM who denounces marriage yet you're watching and commenting on a video about how successful black women are frustrated because they can't find black husbands. Could you be part of the problem? I think you're exactly that guy who these women should avoid. Please post your photo so that we can use you as a poster child for the non-committal black man. We'll use your face with a ghost busters symbol on top of it and green Mr. Yuck stickers all around it.
neoblkgirlswirl 1 month ago
@neoblkgirlswirl Yes I denounce marriage-is that going to be a problem? Another thing, I can watch and comment on any video I choose, but let's take this one step further: I don't have a problem with you pro-IR idiots dating/marrying outside of our race. The problem I have is when JACKASSES-just like you-have to DEGRADE BM in the process of EXPANDING your options. I don't expect you to grasp this simple idea-because you're pretty obtuse.
MAJESTY357 1 month ago
We black women have to broaden our dating pool because there just aren't enough African American men to go around. As we begin to date and marry men from other cultures, we see that our high levels of education and career accomplishment are POSITIVE things in other cultures. I say choose a man because he appreciates all the things that make you unique. Choose a man because you have the same values and goals. Choose a man who wants you to thrive NOT one who wants to limit you and hold you back.
neoblkgirlswirl 2 months ago
@neoblkgirlswirl what happened to Black Women marrying African men? African men are doing well in the US why don't they pick them
childofconvenant 2 months ago
@childofconvenant Black women should date whomever they wish, irrespective of race and/or culture.
Mary2020VA 2 months ago
@Mary2020VA true dat i respect black women, there is no other set of human being as strong and enduring as they nothing against other races but black women all over the world are strong. "Crack addicts/hos" who somehow manage to raise there children no male support.
Even my tribe in Nigeria has the same syndrome, the women do all the work fish and farm, while the men just thug around,talk politics and drink come back ask to be respected. and they giv them respect. Peace. try africans though
childofconvenant 1 month ago
@neoblkgirlswirl matter of fact both African men and African women are problematic the men too got issues with marrying someone more succesful then they and the women is too picky.
childofconvenant 2 months ago
This video was posted in 2009. I am happy to see that in 2012 we have come a long way. The stats for interracial marriage among black women are increasing because more information is out there for women. The statistics that show how few eligible black men there are vs black women are indisputable. Even if you don't take into account education level and income, there just aren't enough black men to go around. Now when we black women consider interracial dating, we can make informed decisions.
neoblkgirlswirl 2 months ago
@neoblkgirlswirl It's not about whether or not there's enough BM to go around, so PLEASE, stop using that lame ass line. BW of the pro-IR variety-like yourself-don't want to date a BM, let alone, marry one; but you'll keep using the "there's not enough BM to go around" to justify the fact that you-and BW who think like you-want to date/marry men of other races. Instead of BLAMING BM for your issues, why not go date/marry the non-BM you want to be with so we can all get some sleep? ROFL
MAJESTY357 1 month ago
@MAJESTY357 Like I said before THERE IS NO MAN SHORTAGE. There are plenty of men out there. Black women just have to take off their color filtered glasses and open their hearts to men who treat them well and have similar family and relationship oriented goals.
neoblkgirlswirl 1 month ago
@MAJESTY357 SORRY BRO. i thought you were a lady. the avatar, shows a shadow or outline of a woman's head. or, what i would assume is the outline of a woman's head. again, SORRY about mistaken you for a woman.
fervent66 1 month ago
I would encourage all beautiful, successful black women like the ones in this video to travel abroad and/or join an international online dating service. Men outside of the United States love us for all the reasons some African American men don't. We are educated, accomplished, driven, independent and stylish. Believe it or not, all these things make us DESIRABLE (not contemptible) in the international dating pool.
neoblkgirlswirl 2 months ago
Yea you're right!!!!!
jamare456 2 months ago
Im a black man and I think that black men have done so much over the years to upset black women- like not taking care of our children, making them feel like they are not good enuff for us by dating white women, acting like thugs and going to prison. Not trying to better our communities by gaining a higher education...But this is one black man that wants to say that I am sorry to all of you beautiful black queens out there...we really let you down.
acegaters 2 months ago
These females have what you call, a term coined by Tariq Nasheed, the WHITE DADDY SYNDROME. They want to show white people so bad that they are the victim and deserve pity. While doing that, they put down black men. They are looking for sympathy from white people, really. This is not a black problem, this is a human problem. Women who are highly successful are usually assertive and aggressive during and after work. Most men are not attracted to women like that. It's how we are engineered.
Mikelovision 2 months ago 2
Standards???? Correct me if I'm wrong but shouldn't marriage & a relationship be about first LOVE & then standards. smh
DMJ9012 2 months ago
@DMJ9012 so true my brother. so true.
fervent66 2 months ago
I respect these black girls for keeping it classy.
But the majority of black women want a fucken thug with swag and who is a quote on quote baller and a douce bag and they get pregrant.
I used to be a geek in highschool and they would step all over me.
Know I got quote on quote swag and know I put women and check and know the same girl's who dissed me are know the one's who want to give me "Brain'" and take care of there 2 kids.
Ummm no thanks
TheFreesubs12 2 months ago
@TheFreesubs12 yep. i was a " nice guy " for 20 years. a cousin of mine, said quit being nice or too nice. i tried to prove him wrong. BOY, was i wrong. now, i have a cocky attitude at times, a jerk, selfish, and ass too. i still get attention and smiles and looks from the ladies. THAT'S HOW IT REALLY WORKS.
fervent66 2 months ago
what these types of women are really telling us. Some of the women my age have a mans mentality and no sense of value or family structure to say the least. I don't want to dwell on the negativity too much but i realize now, that in order to truly get what you want you have to sacrifice some things, and most of all have faith and truly belive that these things will happen. Sulking in your own sorrow and displaying it for the world to see wont change a thing. No one is doing anything to them.
blackice82160 2 months ago
@blackice82160 A woman considers a "good man" someone who will let her think, say, and do what SHE wants. If you're in something like a relationship, which involves someone outside of yourself, then you must be willing to give up some of your "independence." Unfortunately, many black women do not think on that level. As you say, they want to be married AND "independent." That's a contradiction. You don't work for an employee & then proceed to do as you want..marriage is the same.
BeyondTheSpectrum08 2 months ago
@BeyondTheSpectrum08 I willfully admit that I made a mistake ignoring those red flags. It just saddens me to know that the majority of black women today have this mentality and are basically grooming the next generation of females to behave the same way. But thats not going to stop me from pursuing what I truly want.
blackice82160 2 months ago
@blackice82160 PREACH PASTOR, PREACH. AMEN !! AMEN !!
fervent66 2 months ago
@BeyondTheSpectrum08 I don't understand black guys... why not just get a non black woman and move on, since you hate black women so much. Best of luck, I truly hope you find what you're searching for. :)
Mary2020VA 2 months ago
@BeyondTheSpectrum08 So you are assuming, without even knowing, that all of their equally successful, happily married female friends ARE willing to give up their independence? Man, I'm tired of these unfounded speculations about women you don't even personally know!
SupaAmi 1 month ago
@blackice82160 so much unfounded speculation about a group of women you don't even personally know!
SupaAmi 1 month ago
@SupaAmi There is no speculation. I wouldn't have to know them personally to understand the circumstances they are in. They were the ones that chose to put their lives on display for the entire nation to witness.
blackice82160 1 month ago
@blackice82160 Sure you're speculating! The fact that they were willing to share their problem with the world does not mean that they are selfish bitches that are unwilling to compromise with men and THAT'S the reason they are single. As far as I could see they were all friendly and pleasant, well-behaved, not to mention very pretty and accomplished. There might be something something wrong with them that we don't know about, but as for now you're just SPECULATING. Period!
SupaAmi 1 month ago
valuable lesson that I learned. I was willing to settle for someting that I didn't truly want only because she filled a void in my life. However I know better that to say that all black women are this way, but the behavior and habits that she displayed is a direct reflection of what I see in this video. From asking why she was single, having a lavish lifestyle, well paying job, and copious amounts of girlfriends. It makes me wonder if there is something more beyond the surface of...
blackice82160 2 months ago
@blackice82160 Your first mistake was dealing with a woman who is still in that "going out"/"clubbing" mentality. That's for little girls, and it has nothing to do with "jealousy" (an excuse for women to be allowed to do as they want within the confines of what's supposed to be a relationship). Future reference, don't deal with women who are still "going out;" most don't have the attitude to deal with a relationship and clubbing/bar-hopping. That's what teenagers do.
BeyondTheSpectrum08 2 months ago
Then had the audacity to ask me if I would be mad if she went to his hotel room. I told her hell yeah I would be mad. So she begged me to go to his room and that she wouldn't be long. So like a fool i let her go. She spent a good 30 minutes in there before i finally went up to his room and snatched her ass out of there. Needles to say that relationship (or lack of one) ended that night. A lot of black women want to have their cake and eat it too. And this experience that I had was a very...
blackice82160 2 months ago
@blackice82160 A woman's first (and in many cases, only) allegiance is to her our desires and feelings, and it wont matter how devoted or loving you are. Proof of this is that insane saying among women, "If the woman's isn't happy, then the relationship isn't happy." Thats like saying the woman is in the relationship by herself. To most American women, it's always about HER desires first, and your loyalty, your love doesn't matter.
BeyondTheSpectrum08 2 months ago
One fateful night she showed her ass in a club that we went to. Before we even went into the club she said to me "jealousy wont get you no where" and "remember who you are coming home with". At that moment I knew it was going to be a bad night. So i sat back and watched her conversate and give out her number to numerous amounts of men. When she did talk to me she explained that she was "handling business that was work related". So Kid Capri was there and she made it a point to get his number..
blackice82160 2 months ago
I have been looking at these videos for about two years now and I recently encountered one of these "successful black single women". Im 24 and in the military and the woman I was dating is 39. She has a very well paying job, pretty educated articulate, and "indipendent". The age difference scared me at first, she already had two kids, and had been divorced twice. All of this scared me at first, but I said what the hell lets try something new. Everything seemed great in the beginning but..
blackice82160 2 months ago