Except that's difficult for me because I feel that instead of reacting to it, I'm just letting it dwell in my head. I don't like completely ruling out negativity, it's not me. But using your judgement for when it's appropriate seems good though.
I think in many lifes issues we CAN choose to react positivley, and that can make your whole day different. But, what if you see a car accident? What if you see someone get raped or murdered? What kind of person would I be if I wasn't horrified? The fact is, things like that are traumatizing and if you deny that feeling it's only denying the truth of what you are really feeling. You can choose what you do after the trauma, but some things you just feel regardless of choice. That's my opinon.
I need some advice. Can ya'll help? I have this thing called Net Nanny on the computer that my parents installed. It won't let me check my e-mail and I need to see it! I'm only a teen, so I can't do much. If ya'll have an answer, plz post a comment with your advice.
OMG this video was so applicable to me today. My car was keyed about a month ago, and today I notice a dent in the driver's side door. I was in the car when the dent happened because I heard a loud ping but thought it was just something hitting underneath. I was driving by a little league field so it could have been a baseball.
But the point is I tried to do the same thing. I analyzed the situations and realized there is nothing I could do because I had no proof or witness to the damage.
By this video (and some of the previous ones) I can say that you have a quite of distance to life (I'm not judgemental - it all comes out from my observations :D). I guess so because you don't like to label anything and in this case you're even so humble not call the things you say as advice :)
I did not have the guts to open myself and to share my problems and concerns at this point. Perhaps soon I will be more brave about that and start getting naked infront of my own conciousness. I think you caused me to be confronted with my own thoughts and wanting to reach out and considering sharing them. Thanks Dave
For someone having issues with harmful anxiety issues, I can see some use in such techniques. But for the average person able to show an honest reaction and recover from it quickly without detriment, I think this might be somewhat excessive behavior modification.
I'm not sure if I totally agree with you, b/c to those ppl that don't recover quickly, they can end up saying and doing things they would regret later... You CAN control your impulses. I am EXTREMELY OCD so this is very good advice for me. I tend to dwell on things and what he is saying is that you can dwell on it and waste your energy feelings sad, but that doesn't change what's happened and you will have to face it sometime if you want to get over it.
davie, i just wish! WISH! you could see a picture of my old roommate from The University of Mississippi..you look almost exactly like him...except your hotter.
Part two: Also, you seem to have some ambivalence towards your pecs, when your done with them....you can have mine in trade; mine are more like between your's and Colin's--except I'm not gay and have a hairy chest. Are you shaving yours????? (wink, wink)
Part one: So, Davey (do you really like being called Davey?), didn't mean to steal your thunder, but, I don't go to the gym 2 hours everyday. I know, my bad. So, I spend those 2 hours doing other things, like, giving unsolicited advice to un-appreciating nimrods. (wink) And, by the by, does Colin have an YT space. Now that he is a celebrity (thanks to you) how does he anticipate "serving" his adoring public. ;P
So if this philosophy applies to dents in your car, does it apply to when someone close to you dies? SHOULD we react with indifference because it's inevitable and less stressful to do so? If not, where is the line drawn between a dent in your car and the death of a loved one? Is it drawn at your failed math test? At your stolen car? At the death of your dog? At the contraction of AIDS?
Here's a thought, it has been passed down through the ages.
"Never love something so much that when it is time to let it go, you can't."
The day of mourning is set aside for the purpose of letting go. It is important that the living go on living. The living have responsibilities in this world, the dead no longer do. Cry today, dry your eyes and wake up tomorrow anew. Take advantage of the time with others now for tomorrow they may be gone.
I've actually done this in the past, but I found that I started becoming detached emotionally from all sorts of situations, even those when joy was called for. I think of it as the "Spock Effect." It seems, for me at least, that in order to be spontaneous about positive emotions, I have to take the occasional blow up as well :(
I try to do this Davey, but I'm having difficulities with a guy in my group of close mates.
He always has an opinion, always is loud, always is and expert on things, always points out peoples flaws, and has difficulty in knowing where 'the line' is.
despite this, he remains quite popular.
I am trying to extend 'grace' but sometimes i want to strangle him.
Any ideas would be welcome, I really like your outlook on life.
Here's a thought 'silencewillspeak'. Your friend is a member of a club that has no end to its membership (and growing every day). You can't change him, remember: change comes from within not without. I subscribe to the life boat theory. When the ship goes down (metaphor) and you are in your life raft, choose wisely who you decide to pull into it with you. There is not enough room for everyone. Oddly enough, his day will come. Try not to enjoy it to much when it does happen.
I agree with that life boat theory, its just that he is already "in" my circle of friends and if i were to exclude him i would be seen as being bitchy...
(id much rather bitch about him behind his back from a faceless youtube account lol!!)
I dig your videos and I agree with most things you say. Though I cant get over the fact that your vid skips. The audio is great but I dont know if you have too many programs open while youre recording or if video quality is lost while you upload to youtube but theres no fluidity on the video.
But remember I dig your videos and I am suscribed.
yeah i have a lot of dings in my car from shopping car...thats what happens when you work in retail :(
ShanaeEskimoFace 4 months ago
99%? thats a lot. i dont think i would get upset....
i dont think it's 99%
icewave667 2 years ago
It is really hard to do that but it helps so much to i guess get rid of a significant amount of negativity in your life.
crazycool8807 3 years ago
Except that's difficult for me because I feel that instead of reacting to it, I'm just letting it dwell in my head. I don't like completely ruling out negativity, it's not me. But using your judgement for when it's appropriate seems good though.
LunaCow 3 years ago
I think in many lifes issues we CAN choose to react positivley, and that can make your whole day different. But, what if you see a car accident? What if you see someone get raped or murdered? What kind of person would I be if I wasn't horrified? The fact is, things like that are traumatizing and if you deny that feeling it's only denying the truth of what you are really feeling. You can choose what you do after the trauma, but some things you just feel regardless of choice. That's my opinon.
AmazonKC 3 years ago
I need some advice. Can ya'll help? I have this thing called Net Nanny on the computer that my parents installed. It won't let me check my e-mail and I need to see it! I'm only a teen, so I can't do much. If ya'll have an answer, plz post a comment with your advice.
10swift 3 years ago
OMG this video was so applicable to me today. My car was keyed about a month ago, and today I notice a dent in the driver's side door. I was in the car when the dent happened because I heard a loud ping but thought it was just something hitting underneath. I was driving by a little league field so it could have been a baseball.
But the point is I tried to do the same thing. I analyzed the situations and realized there is nothing I could do because I had no proof or witness to the damage.
evangar 3 years ago
By this video (and some of the previous ones) I can say that you have a quite of distance to life (I'm not judgemental - it all comes out from my observations :D). I guess so because you don't like to label anything and in this case you're even so humble not call the things you say as advice :)
Summing it up: I highly like your attitude :)
id88viper88id 3 years ago
omg he's soooooo pretty :O
RyderM87 4 years ago
it's great that you get this at 24. seriously.
nlightnd07 4 years ago 2
I did not have the guts to open myself and to share my problems and concerns at this point. Perhaps soon I will be more brave about that and start getting naked infront of my own conciousness. I think you caused me to be confronted with my own thoughts and wanting to reach out and considering sharing them. Thanks Dave
rickyorlando 4 years ago
Hmm.
For me there are three choices.
I get mad for a split second.
Just sorta "grr" for a momment.
Scrunch up my nice alittle.
But then after that half a second, I move on. Accept. And don't carry on this anger through out the day.
It works wonderfully to do it this way<3
mika22 4 years ago
nice skin + nice teeth + nice hair + nice body + nice voice = perfect
:D
waikikifish 4 years ago
you are sexy as you are smart.
20052008 4 years ago
For someone having issues with harmful anxiety issues, I can see some use in such techniques. But for the average person able to show an honest reaction and recover from it quickly without detriment, I think this might be somewhat excessive behavior modification.
arnvidb 4 years ago 2
I'm not sure if I totally agree with you, b/c to those ppl that don't recover quickly, they can end up saying and doing things they would regret later... You CAN control your impulses. I am EXTREMELY OCD so this is very good advice for me. I tend to dwell on things and what he is saying is that you can dwell on it and waste your energy feelings sad, but that doesn't change what's happened and you will have to face it sometime if you want to get over it.
Leonicdragon 4 years ago
Hey Uh.. Dude, I Think You Have Some Stalkers. LOLLLL.
ImInuyashasKagome 4 years ago
Hey! Why the sudden take on choices? It this like a response to the comments you got on the last video???
Macvoon 4 years ago
great insight!!!
mikejv425 4 years ago
Too many people have an established "reactive mind". They don't use their freedom of choice. They skip straight to the reaction.
You ever read "Dianetics" by LR Hubbard? It talks about the reactive mind. A good read for anyone interested in such things.
Pedigru 4 years ago
CULT ALERT
en.wikipedia org/wiki/Dianetics
Dianetics is the gateway to Scientology.
sirald66 4 years ago
And if being a flat out cult wasn't enough, they are officially, rabidly anti-gay, which makes placement here a bit odd.
arnvidb 4 years ago
your hawwtt
uwish444555 4 years ago
davie, i just wish! WISH! you could see a picture of my old roommate from The University of Mississippi..you look almost exactly like him...except your hotter.
southernfratdude 4 years ago
its the sickness talking out of him, not him lol
Misterdrink123 4 years ago
Part two: Also, you seem to have some ambivalence towards your pecs, when your done with them....you can have mine in trade; mine are more like between your's and Colin's--except I'm not gay and have a hairy chest. Are you shaving yours????? (wink, wink)
vivaarnoldo 4 years ago
Part one: So, Davey (do you really like being called Davey?), didn't mean to steal your thunder, but, I don't go to the gym 2 hours everyday. I know, my bad. So, I spend those 2 hours doing other things, like, giving unsolicited advice to un-appreciating nimrods. (wink) And, by the by, does Colin have an YT space. Now that he is a celebrity (thanks to you) how does he anticipate "serving" his adoring public. ;P
vivaarnoldo 4 years ago
We're human -- we're given a whole range of emotions. Live them all!
gbfowler 4 years ago
So if this philosophy applies to dents in your car, does it apply to when someone close to you dies? SHOULD we react with indifference because it's inevitable and less stressful to do so? If not, where is the line drawn between a dent in your car and the death of a loved one? Is it drawn at your failed math test? At your stolen car? At the death of your dog? At the contraction of AIDS?
otomaruma 4 years ago
Here's a thought, it has been passed down through the ages.
"Never love something so much that when it is time to let it go, you can't."
The day of mourning is set aside for the purpose of letting go. It is important that the living go on living. The living have responsibilities in this world, the dead no longer do. Cry today, dry your eyes and wake up tomorrow anew. Take advantage of the time with others now for tomorrow they may be gone.
vivaarnoldo 4 years ago
I've actually done this in the past, but I found that I started becoming detached emotionally from all sorts of situations, even those when joy was called for. I think of it as the "Spock Effect." It seems, for me at least, that in order to be spontaneous about positive emotions, I have to take the occasional blow up as well :(
arnvidb 4 years ago
I try to do this Davey, but I'm having difficulities with a guy in my group of close mates.
He always has an opinion, always is loud, always is and expert on things, always points out peoples flaws, and has difficulty in knowing where 'the line' is.
despite this, he remains quite popular.
I am trying to extend 'grace' but sometimes i want to strangle him.
Any ideas would be welcome, I really like your outlook on life.
silencewillspeak 4 years ago
Here's a thought 'silencewillspeak'. Your friend is a member of a club that has no end to its membership (and growing every day). You can't change him, remember: change comes from within not without. I subscribe to the life boat theory. When the ship goes down (metaphor) and you are in your life raft, choose wisely who you decide to pull into it with you. There is not enough room for everyone. Oddly enough, his day will come. Try not to enjoy it to much when it does happen.
vivaarnoldo 4 years ago
I agree with that life boat theory, its just that he is already "in" my circle of friends and if i were to exclude him i would be seen as being bitchy...
(id much rather bitch about him behind his back from a faceless youtube account lol!!)
silencewillspeak 4 years ago
I dig your videos and I agree with most things you say. Though I cant get over the fact that your vid skips. The audio is great but I dont know if you have too many programs open while youre recording or if video quality is lost while you upload to youtube but theres no fluidity on the video.
But remember I dig your videos and I am suscribed.
beautifulGRBG 4 years ago
lol ..
video was great except for the peace out .. ^_-
OnEye 4 years ago
That is a profound decision opportunity.
ianjellico 4 years ago
Great advice. I always try to believe that people act with the best intentions...makes a lot of things easier to overlook.
USCwill 4 years ago
This is very profound. I'll try to keep it in mind. Thanks for this.
llthgig 4 years ago
FOURTH!!!! :)
rolloffbed 4 years ago
you should call it, Ventalation specialization= meaning they can vent and you can try to help out....
what would you do if you had a friend who always lied to you, and it got so bad that now you dont believe a word she says?
mariangirl 4 years ago
Heh, sounds like The Secret. :D
It's really nice always hearing that we are a lot more... free, i guess, than we usually think we are.
Hm... Questions?
I can't think of any now D: I'll get back to you on that.
Great video <3!
Oblivimark 4 years ago
CULT ALERT
en.wikipedia org/wiki/The_Secret
skeptic com/eskeptic/07-03-07.html
The Secret is the belief your feelings create magnetic waves, which attract the equivalent negative or positive destiny.
sirald66 4 years ago