Hey it sounds to me is all you need to do is have a little more faith in yourself. And no matter what you do or what you say there will always be someone who will say something about you or judge you its life you cant be the perfect person to everyone. Just live life you only get one so make it count. You think too much just go with the flow and do a little less worrying. Dont be quiet but dont be too loud. Just have fun and live to the fullest. That is how I got over my anxiety.
Oh and i'm 18 now, my problem with anxiety started a year and a half ago. I don't tell my parents or anyone in my family cause they would think i'm crazy or that it's just me being over sensitive to things. My dad tells me that i'm going to suffer in life if i don't change my attitude of over-worrying, and then the friends i do have aren't even there for me and when they say something it usually makes me feel worse cause they don't understand.
and I always find myself over thinking conversations i have with people, thinking 'i shouldn't have said that' or 'i should have said this instead'. It's really hard not having anyone to talk to either, people who think they know me just tell me the problem is that i let pressure get to me. I find that awful cause it makes me feel guilty, as if it's my fault I'm feeling this way. I'm just sick of sucking up to people, and being afraid to be myself.
For me this developed sometime after i was feeling down and nervous the whole summer, then i started school and my best friends basically ditched me cause they said i was a negative and jealous person. I find it hard to understand why they all get along with each other but not me, even though I've always been nice to them. I'm afraid to say what I really think to people because in my head i just see them talking about me behind my back.
I have no diagnosis about social anxiety disorder, because I'm too afraid to go to psychologist. I can't go school anymore, but I have to because I have no reason to stay a home. Everyday I cry after school because my anxiety gets so bad I feel like I wanted to die. I can't sleep at nights because I think all the "embarrassing" things that I did. In my mind I know that people at school hate me and talks things about me behind my back.
I feel the same way. Plus if i told my parents i need to go to a psychologist they wouldn't take me seriously or they would think i'm crazy. It's really hard to deal with on your own.
Yeah, I won't answer the door or phone unless it's someone I know. And I get really bad panic attacks if I'm near people, but I mostly hide it. My family thinks I'm just shy, but I don't know what to think. I
Only talk to my friend at school, and I can't hold a one on one conversation at all.
i cant even go to school because of my anxiety. just the thought of me going into school causes me to have these anxiety attacks. i dont know what to do and i feel soooo alone. i tell my friends and they just act like i need to just tell myself to calm down, they dont get it
i HATE my s.a.d bcuz when ppl talk to me i keep my head down i dont even look n theyre like why r u like hidden i lie n say bcus i dont feel good or im tired. i cant handle the pressure of being in front of the class. im scared theyll judge me! :(
last year, i watched this video, crying on my bed and actually considering suicide because it was so bad. A year later, I am better than I was last year and I am not as afriad to talk to strangers, and my friends. I am slowly getting better. Try talking to people that you feel comfortable with and finding something you really love to do. It broke me out of my shell a bit.
You are not alone. It's the same with me. It's really unbarable! I also want to be like the others. Other people in my school think I am stupid just because I don't talk... It's so frustrating!
I somehow acquired SA between the end of elementary school-the beginning of middle school. It's very hard to deal with. I've never had many friends, have trouble making friends, have trouble developing relationships and friendships, have trouble keeping conversations going, etc. It's a nightmare. However, I love going to parties and stuff. It takes mental effort all the time to say "okay I'm going to walk into a party with a shitton of people". But alcohol works wonders. Not healthy thoug
mario...same here my d00d....deffinetly beer....it sux when i cant even feel normal in front of my mom & dad or even old friends & family.....i feel your pain.
The only way I could ever talk to people openly is definitely BEER, or other types of alcoholic beverages. That's really the only way I can get over it.
1) Try not to think much , Thinking is bad for us
2) One of the easiest ways but also one of the worst ways is this , "Look down on other people " Think of other people as trash . you are not different , you are better than everyone. This works 100 % XD
3) Change your routine,Change your life ,Be busy most of the time
4) Having a gf or bf helps but they should understand your disorder
I told my mum and yesterday I went to the doctors with mum and dad. The doctor said there was nothing wrong with me other than just being extreamly shy and said for me to go to the school nurse and psycologist or whatever. Little did he know that I was too scared to say that it was so bad I self-harmed to calm me down, seriously thought of suicide, worry for weeks or even months before a presentation and then weeks afterwards, have full blown panic attacks 2 times a month and many more things.
@RandomRamenSaviours my friend if you have those thoughts call that kids help phone to get it off you chest and tell someone. best part about kids help phone is you can just hang up when you feel overwhelmed
@Madorem No way! I find it hard enough to talk on the phone with my best friend let alone some stranger I don't know 0_0 It's makes me feel sick just thinking about it ='/ Sorry... It'll just make me feel worse.
@RandomRamenSaviours true, well if ur having harmful thoughts you gotta do something to let people know. once their aware of the severity, you'll get the help you need, and your parents will surely give the understanding and patience you need to make it better. if the phone is too much, try writing Kids help phone an email, they have that too, on their website, for people in your situation. or if ur up for it write one to your parents, on your own time. even if u dont give it, its liberating.
@Madorem I don't really want to write to kids help 'cause I'll feel like I'm doing something wrong. Like I'm abandoning my mums help. That just makes me feel aweful. Even though she doesn't even know about my Self-Harm. Though I've written her a letter about my social anxiety. After going to the doctor she now thinks that I'm just shy. I mean, writing a letter to her about my social anxiety was hard enough let alone another letter about SH... I'm just scared...
I'm tired of just existing..of just being here and doing nothing with my life..but this is what holds me back. It's getting worse. It's out of control.
For anyone who has this disorder, the Social Anxiety Institute has a full cognitive behavioral therapy program specifically for social anxiety. It is expensive, but years of therapy at $100 an hour is way worse, and I think it's worth it for those of us dealing with this pain. Look up Social Anxiety Institute in a search engine.
@xxLilJXxX No i't's far from shyness. if you knew what people(like me) go thru everyday at school you woudn't say that. how would you like to go to school with no friends, bullied and nobody likes you? ya thats me everyday.
@codgamer690 there there i know exactly what your going through, believe me. im just trying to understand it. iv had it my whole life & i still dont understand it, sadly. i know social interactions are so hard i just dont know how to socialize.
i went to the doctor with this and he sat me down and he said whats worng you seem nervous i said well im afraid of public situations he said you have social aniety here are some tablets and diddnt even suggest anything else -_-
@TableChip94 See someone else...I have yet to see any evidence that psychiatric drugs really help anyone with this problem. The drug companies do everything possible to get their drugs passed for every disorder possible so they can make more money. Psychiatrists are drug pushers, you are better off seeing a psychologist or counselor.
It's good to know people have this, we're not alone. For me the worst part of s.a.d is standing up infront of a class... I try to focus on my voice coming out loud enough, my cheeks turn pink and my head starts to burn, my voice comes out awkward, I start to talk really fast, I try to control breathing, my heart starts to pound, and during all this it is almost impossible to swallow. I got to say thats the worst for me or EYE CONTACT. ugh eye contact is so awful :(
im 14 and i think i might have S.A.D because i dont like talking to people,meeting new people,dont like eating infront of people, get REALLY nervouse wen the teacher says that i have to go in the front of the room to read somthing out loadto the class my hands swaet and my heart beets fast and i gett real shaky, iv never had a boyfriend before because of this and i dont like going places and theres alot more
@makeuplover200 ;o I kinda have the same thing u know ;x and i'm also 14 and a girl ;)
i also feel really uncomfortable at school cuz of the many kids in there and loud noises but yeh i guess that's becuz i'm also pretty sensetive/emotional ;x and i have trouble making 'good' friends over there too ;l
thank You for this. I have always thought that is was just a really shy person but after seeing DonnyOsmond special on Social Anxiety Disorder I think that that is what my problem is
@stasyfinch For most social anxiety disorder victims, the Internet is the only place in which they can express their true feelings, because they're anonymous. So maybe she wants attention, maybe she doesn't; but it doesn't really get to her because she's, once again, anonymous on the Internet.
@stasyfinch That is the dumbest thing I have ever heard. Posting a video on the internet where you are not even there, it's just a bunch of typed letters and no one can see you, is not going to cause the same anxiety it would if you were actually in a room speaking in front of hundreds of people. People with this disorder have a much easier time chatting online than talking in real life. You obviously know nothing about the disorder and I'm not sure why you are even viewing the video.
@stasyfinch, I'm sorry, but you clearly have no understanding of what social anxiety disorder is. People with this disorder DON'T "just want attention" - in fact, most of us are absolutely terrified of attention when we get it, and that's a big part of the problem. That doesn't mean we don't feel lonely, or useless, or depressed or frustrated because mental illness prevents us from living normal lives. And yes, it is perfectly possibly for someone with SAD to put up a video on YouTube.
So many people making videos on social anxiety and I wonder where all this strength comes from. I'd like to share something, but.. my stupid brain won't let it happen. Every time I'm trying to open up, it just blocks everything, stops working, then the depression kicks in.. and I don't care anymore.
What if you just made mistakes just to see what would happen. Say anything that came to your head when talking to strangers. Making social mistakes and observing the outcome and realizing that no one condems you for them or beats you up. A possible soulution? Sad thing about it is people with anxiety disorders are really good people who deserve to have the best life. I have a friend who has anxiety and he is an awesome person.
Take 1,000 mg of vitiain B3 three pills of fish oil a day take 1 SAM e pill a day and take st johns wort too. These are all natural herbs and vitamins that will help
Yea ive Accepted The Fact That i Have This Disorder. But I thought I Was The Only One Who Suffered From It. Now That I Know That Im Not Alone I Realized Yeah It Was Just My Inner Thoughts IDGAF...Thats Always Been My Attitude. HAhaha I Didnt Even Have The disorder as bad as most people
I once thought that I had my social anxiety under control, but I really don't... I don't like crossing the street in front of a car because I don't want them to look at me, so I stop and pretend to tie my shoe so they can go first. In class we were forced to do a small project with assigned partners, by the end I was barely breathing, and I was shaking so badly I could hardly speak...
@Trying2FindWhoIam You should check out my channel. I have a PhD in psychology and I am working on a series of videos about overcoming social anxiety. Hope you find them helpful!
this all describes me to a T.. i left my job and reuined my friendships with my best of friends and god daughter.. and moved down here my mum, but no-one does understand wat i am going through.. i havnt been out in public in 2 n a half months i have only just started going to the doctors again to get help because this just isnt right.. i am on medication but all it does it help me sleep some wot.. its bull shit, i use to do everything was never sitting still doing nothin ...
today I went to my local store and bought a condom :D My hands and legs were shaking but I made it and it wasn't so bad :D and few days ago I went to game store and asked what's the difference between usual Wii remote controller and Wii motion plus controller and we had a little conversation and it was ok, I knew everything b4 but thats the point. try it. It took me half hour to type this message as I re-edited it like 100times and still don't want to publish it.
This is how I have felt forever.. my mom had a guest over once and I stayed in my room for 5 days because I was so afraid on introducing myself etc. I only came out when he wasn't at our house or wouldn't see me. My mom makes fun of me and doesn't understand
I learned Trancendental Meditation .It helped me alot . recognising you have a problem is A start .If yor family or friends dont understand direct them to a video on social anxiety..Ask for help from proffesionals doctors etc.
that's exactly how i feel :\ everyone knows me as the quiet one in school and they all ask me "why don't you talk" i get really annoyed when people ask me that and i just want to be left alone. this year i skipped nearly 22 days of school because of having to talk in front of the class and to avoid that dreaded question.
I'm like that and I'll be checked over by a professional soon(Now I'm really looking forward to meeting someone new for the very first time). I just hope they'll hold the key to helping me out of this situation.
I don't know how bad my disorder has become , but is it REALLY bad when its to the point where I feel symptoms of extreme stress just by thinking about people. Not just the concept of going out and doing stuff, but just the thought of people I know of...
Hey guys --- I've lived with this thing most of my life and I'm better now at being self confident than I used to be. It's hard to see yourself as others see you but I look around and I don't see anyone really that is 100% fully adjusted, funny sauve interesting to listen to at social gatherings, work etc . In fact if you stop thinking about yourself for a minute and watch and listen to others very closely..
You'll find people aren't consentrated on you!!!!!!!!!!
Feel the fear. Observe it. who is it that is afraid ? So what if you pass out .Resistence to life is futile.Be here now .Be prepared to walk into Hell .say even tho i,m in hell i completley and utterly aprove of myself .
Here are some things and people who have helped me on be here now .
trancendental meditatation (Tm) Rieki , emotional freedom techniques .Yoga Ayurveda . . Check out youtube videos of Ekharte Tolle ,Mooji etc on fear . OH and dont forget to breath .
Another way to think of SAD is that it is an illness that wont kill you. Its a bit uncomfortable but then it passes ( as Dr. Phil says). Compare our illness to say cancer. I'd much rather go to the doctor and he diagnoses me with SAD than cancer. Imagine him saying to me "Mr. Raccuia you have SAD but you wont die from it its jus a bit uncomfortable" or "Mr. Raccuia you have cancer and you have 6 months to live" I'm sure we all agree that we would take the first diagnoses SAD over cancer anyday
Biggest single piece of advice for SAD. "UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES AVOID THE SITUATION"!!!!!! You younger people listen to my advice. I'm 50 and have had SAD in varying amounts and varying situations. If only I could turn back the clock i would never have avoided sitautions, even when my nerves were severe and I was easily embarrassed. Even if you pass out from nerves and people make fun of you, who fucken cares!!!!!!!!! You wont die from it so remember "DO NOT AVOID THE SOCIAL SITUATION EVERRRR!!!
@ciclistagallipoli I know your pain! Millions of people suffer from this disorder but no one really talks about it. You are not alone. Email me sometimes and lets chat about it. I no how it feels to sit at home all the time and feel like crap. I no how it feels to be uncomfortable around people all the time and always feeling like people are starring at you. YOU ARE NOT ALONE
GUYS LISTEN U CAN WITHOUT A SINGE DOUBT BECOME WHO U WANT TO BE. I had serious social anxiety, couldnt say a fucking word when i was going to shop things, was afriad of the store. But BOOM, i took the intiative and im not fully "cured", I still get some heartpounds when i see ppl BUT i say "fuck it and lets go" and shit works. I know this sounds like "Easy for u to say" But i i had serious problem and took it step four step and i have better self confidence and self asteem now. Feels goooood
I feel the same way most of the time. I always avoid people and social situations at any cost. There are times when I get stuck talking with people and I cant handle it, I get soo nervous and shy and my mind goes blank.. then I look like a wierdO and abnormal.. den I hate myself even more for being like this. I t is also reassuring theres others out there that go through this also, I am not alone..
i feel all the things you do like when talking to people you get so fucken retarded shi and you act all dumb like you can even look at them in the eyes you just want to get the fuck aut of there i coudint handle school i woud get so anxies in class my head woud hurt and start sweating dizzy and i lost so many credits i coudint handle even talking to my friends and i droped aut of hischool i think cuz of these fucken shit you better get some help for me its even hard to go to the store
@CHn11000 I know your pain! Millions of people suffer from this disorder but no one really talks about it. You are not alone. Email me sometimes and lets chat about it. I no how it feels to sit at home all the time and feel like crap. I no how it feels to be uncomfortable around people all the time and always feeling like people are starring at you. YOU ARE NOT ALONE
I developed SAD when I was very young. I lived with my grandparents who were physically and emotionally abusive. I spent 10 years with them, every day was a living hell. I became very withdrawn from people and scared of social situations. I was only allowed to go to school and nowhere else up til I was 14, which was when I moved with my mom.I am 19 and married now but I'm socially damaged and it makes life very hard.I hate SAD.I beat myself up about it everyday..I feel defenseless against myself
SAD is a result of being abused, watching abuse or hearing of abuse or bit of each. It can affect us totally , a bit or in some situations depending on many factors. I had an abusive father ( physically, verbally, mentally, visually). I was bullied a bit at school. I watched and heard of abuse. All SAD results from these things. Then we suffer "post traumatic stress disorder"". As little as 1 word, 1 look, 1 hit can change a person deleteriously. It happens all over the world, this SHIT!!!
Most of the comments are like "I am scared of what people will think, am I making the right move?" "am i going to be judged".
These comments have inspired me to stop caring so much about what people think. And to be myself... do whatever I wish to do with out thinking of how it could be seen by others.
I always end up looking back on a conversation n kick myself for saying something wrong or thinking I was awkward. You know what... what's done is done we should all move on from it. JUST BE!
The secret to overcoming SAD is to get MAD! You gotta look your fear straight in the eye and say: “F**K YOU!” You’re not letting that son of a bitch control your life anymore, get MAD, get out there and face your fear, there’s no way around it, there’s no pill to make it go away.. Roar in front of that son of a bitch until he shits his pants. Chase your fear instead of running away and IT WILL END! If you need tips send me a PM.
I don't hace a clue how to handle my problems. I sit locked away in my room, alone, for days at a time. I miss school, and people because I can't seem to be able to handle daily life. I'll be fine for a day, a week, but it always comes back. The pain, the loneliness, the doctors don't help. I need help!
@RoyalFustercluck I know your pain! Millions of people suffer from this disorder but no one really talks about it. You are not alone. Email me sometimes and lets chat about it. I no how it feels to sit at home all the time and feel like crap. I no how it feels to be uncomfortable around people all the time and always feeling like people are starring at you. YOU ARE NOT ALONE
I actually cried when I read what you had to say because this is almost exactly like the thoughts that go through my mind every day. It's incredibly difficult for me to hold a conversation with anyone... even someone as close as my aunt or uncle. I can't make friends at school. I'm afraid of what people say about me. Even when people are being nice and try to talk to me, I can't talk with them although I really want to be their friend. I'm afraid to say these things, except on the internet.
@HannyGirl812 I know your pain! Millions of people suffer from this disorder but no one really talks about it. You are not alone. Email me sometimes and lets chat about it. I no how it feels to sit at home all the time and feel like crap. I no how it feels to be uncomfortable around people all the time and always feeling like people are starring at you. YOU ARE NOT ALONE
i know all the thoughts sensations i have are debilitating especial when iw ant to meet people i get very nervous and start feeling aware its horrible to have this condition but you know that you are strong and try to avoid the being negativly judged bu others like if your scared
This is like the worst feeling in the world! It's embarrassing to admit to people we love that we have this, we can't begin to heal without reaching to others. I was really bad at one point with my anxiety and it was crazy cause it hit me out of nowhere. But though it so so scary, we have to face our fears little by little and eventually we'll get a little more mental freedom..it's worth and it's working for me. We're going to slip up but we have to learn to brush it off!
always when I am around ppl I don't know very well,, I feel like they talk shit about me in my behind and they make conspiracies .. so I decide that I won't show up again then I blame them for everything & I blame all ppl
I have it too. I've had this anxiety for as long as I can remember since I was little. However, in my case there is an explanation of sorts, I was born extremely premature and I think it had an effect on my brain development. I've gotten used to being the quiet one but when I really want to go out or do something I'm afraid.
I don't mind being the introvert...-I've always been attracted to the quiet-type style........... but when I actually WANT to do something, I hate that I can't :(...I have easily-crushed motivation, yet Im so full of aspiring ideas to do things with my life...but than I get drained down as if Ive been running a battle in my head and don't want to walk any further :(...and than, people start to lose confidence in you, if they ever had any before...no one takes you seriously-you feel like a joke
I have awful anxiety attacks about the most common human interaction... ( as most of us do) I panic about job interviews, school, raising my hand in class, doctor appointments, answering my phone, starting converstations, & not knowing how to end conversations... no human deserves this. God bless all of you that are also suffereing with this awful disorder...
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This is pretty much me in a nutshell though not very seriously debilitating. Its like every action and movement you make is bellow the social standard and it sucks. HARD =(
This absolutely sucks. It takes away so much from you... everything you could have been, eaten away by the fear of "what will people say? what will they think?" Just fear of opening one's mouth, of being looked at... "it'll go away" Wrong. It doesn't go away. You just wither away, alone, mute and forgotten. Once, I thought it'd be better to actually damage my tongue so that I'd have an excuse for not talking. But it's getting better now. After 7 years, there's hope, finally.
It seems we are not alone. Lots of us here all suffer from S.A.D. Last night I tried to socialize, and it got so very bad, that I couldn't speak proper words, and basically had a panic attack away from the crowd. There isn't a figurative definition of normal, but I damn wish I could be like my semi-friends.
I'm so confused, I've been doing self-injury for alot of time. I'm constantly thinking about, "what would people think if I did this?" or said this, or stuff like that :-/ avoiding too crowded areas because I'm afraid people might think I'm a weirdo or something, even when I'm at the supermarket or something else in the public, I sometimes forget what my purpose was, and exit the place again, just to avoid "being looked at" if you guys understand...Does this mean I got S.A.D?
This condition crippled me. It made me the target of ridicule in school. I became severely depressed and suicidal. I. HATE. IT! I would give anything not to have anxiety! I am on meds now and I am 1000x better but I would love to be 100%. It feels great knowing that others understand how awful this is. Most people in society don't. And that makes it worse. I am so happy I got help.
I feel this all the time, even with my most closest and trusted friends. I can't help thinking i'm a burden to them or that they think i'm annoying. It sucksss -__-
Pretty sure I have this. Or something like it. My mom told me to suck it up and work hard. I told my doctor about it- and he made an appointment with a psychologist for me- problem was I really didn't want to leave my house to see the psychologist. Ended up getting told off by my doc for not going. =_=
@TEENgirl92 Don't do that. Those bullies called you names because they wanted to make their fears less noticable. You're strong and you know it. If you take that anger and energy and use it to face your s.a.d. Then you will surely help fight against it. My therapist tells me avoidence is your enemy. I have s.a.d. I'm getting through it but I won't lie, I cry a lot and such but I notice that I'm getting stronger and less shy. Hope I helped <3
I have the same exact thing, in fact I'm working through it along with therapy, I'm still suffering a bit, but I'm much better now than I was before.
Listen to the song "Unleashed" by Epica it's a little creepy, but it's so powerful and it spits out exactly how people with s.a.d. feel. I listen to it every morning before I go to school or whatever to give me confidence<3
@psychopuffin Really? I'm diagnosed with severe social anxiety and phobia, but have no problem leaving comments and stuff online. Of course it's an individual thing...
@psychopuffin I know your pain! Millions of people suffer from this disorder but no one really talks about it. You are not alone. Email me sometimes and lets chat about it. I no how it feels to sit at home all the time and feel like crap. I no how it feels to be uncomfortable around people all the time and always feeling like people are starring at you. YOU ARE NOT ALONE
I just want depression pills to magically apear in my hand. becuz i cant go to the doctors im too paranoid around people or crowds of people. I wont tell any1 my problem becuase i feel pothiec and embaresed. Its so stupid N annoying to have social disorder, i have no clue how i have it but its dead serious. I will avoid social situations at any cost. Im always close to my alcohol to get me threw, if its not there i will run away some how, if im held back, u better pray god helps u keep me down.
@JayMunozMMA :/, well I'll tell you one thing my therapist told me. The more you expierence and expose your self, the less anxiety you will feel over the years, you have to continue it though. Avoiding is your enemy and actually makes your s.a.d. more powerful. And one more thing, realize that the people around you aren't always 100% confident. Everyone has to expose their fear in order to destroy it. I hope I helped<3 Good Luck<3
@Wubblez10 i noticed its my past that eats me alive... being a thug/gangster nd everytime i step outside theres that risk of being attacked like " my past " or being jumped like " my past " ive been in a good amount of fights, been outnumbed in fights. walked to the store and been approched by people trying to rob me. It makes it harder to go face my fear with those to worrie about on top of it. Then i got the those people judging me, calling me a no good thug gangstR, or a wanna be or whatever.
@JayMunozMMA Oh :l I didn't even know that was the case. *sigh* I hope the best for you. I mean if anything, why don't you move if it's endangering your life?
me i have the same exact problem eye contact is another thing i am not good with. but an actress is what i always wanted to be, my mom told me to follow my dreams, and take drama. and just try not over thinking it, and if that doesn't work, just think possitive, if you say negative things negative things will happen and if you say possitive things then possitive things will happen.
I have the same problem, its hard being a teen today though, i'm 15. i went through cutting, suicide, and stress over nothing. so one day i looked in the mirror resaid negative to saying possitive. don't worry one bit. =D
There's a small and excellent online depression support group called Depression Hangout that is always open to anyone who is struggling with mental health problems (not just depression). It's run in its own chaotic way by its members who meet regularly in the chat room and it's a great place to seek and provide help and support, make new friends and even just have a laugh. (We all need that too!) To join just go to depressionhangout-dot-blogspot-dot-com.
If it was up to me to choose between me being the only one with social phobia and sparing every body from this disorder I swear from the bottom of my heart that I would choose me to be the only one with this thing than to have other people with social phobia, because i know how it feels and I know how other people don't understand this problem and it hurts me more that some people have the same pain I do because i can barely bear it myself..I am barely 17 and my life is already going down ={
So yesterday i was searching youtube just being nosy and one site led to another until I found all this videos relating to this disorder I never heard of "Social Phobia" I started crying because all this time I thought that I was the only person that experienced this things. I never ever knew there was other people like me suffering the same thing and yeterday 1/27/11 i found out that i have Social phobia and that I am not alone.....
I don't suffer quite so much from this anymore. The way I found help was due to my beloved! I fell in love, had someone I could TRUELY talk to. I had 20 years worth of stuff to say to him! And now I'm not on meds too!. I have my bad days, and still suffer from depression. But just spending time with him sooths that all away.
So go out there and cyberdate! you can chat to him/her for a few weeks first no pressure. Then they can open the world for you all. Love can solve so many things.
people who suffer from S.A.D are normal people just really lonely and shy because they don't feel comfortable around strangers. If you got to know one of us in a comfortable setting then yes, and yes.
I probably shouldn't be saying this using a well known handle of mine but I'm glad, in a weird way, that there are people out there like me. I am in my late twenties, I have one real friend. I don't socialize. Don't leave the house often. Don't go on dates. Don't answer the phone. Interviews! JOBS! O.O
I don't have extreme social phobia like some but it's still there. I do go out but I always and suspicious of people and wonder what they think of me and my heart is always racing. People I think, like my family don't seem to get it. It really is a struggle. Also I do not like talking in front of new people as well :S It sucks..really it does
when i speak i always look down. i dont know why,it makes people look i'm uncomfortable talking to them. i just couldn't look at the person's eyes. i do have friends but never have close friends where you can turn to when you're having problems. it's sick man. i wish i wasn't born at first place
@KaKaGaNu I too have real problems looking at peoples eyes. My bf once questioned me about this. I know have to FORCE myself too in order to not seem untrustworthy.
In other countries it is considered rude to look others in the eye! So its not such a natural thing as everyone says it it.
The day that each person willingly accepts himself or herself for who he or she is and acknowledges the uniqueness of God's framing process marks the beginning of a journey to seeing the handiwork of God in each life. ----Ravi Zacharias
Ive been diagnosed since 2007. Ive gone to counselors (just made me have more anxiety) been on numerous different meds, been in the psych ward. nothing helps.I cant get myself to answer the door or phone Im out of the house about once or twice a week.I dont want to live this way, I have many hopes and dreams. I would like to go to college but Im too afraid to.I need to get a job but whenever I get a call to have an interview I can never get myself to call back :( I wish I could be cured so bad.
@RusconiDom well right now i just started taking meds (zoloft) i still feel the same just a little more relaxed. i have been on it for 4 weeks now. im also on 1 on 1 therapy. i mean i aint 100% but i see lil progress. hope it works out.
Hey it sounds to me is all you need to do is have a little more faith in yourself. And no matter what you do or what you say there will always be someone who will say something about you or judge you its life you cant be the perfect person to everyone. Just live life you only get one so make it count. You think too much just go with the flow and do a little less worrying. Dont be quiet but dont be too loud. Just have fun and live to the fullest. That is how I got over my anxiety.
ShadowsOfTheWolf1 2 weeks ago
Lol!!!!
MezupK 2 weeks ago
Oh and i'm 18 now, my problem with anxiety started a year and a half ago. I don't tell my parents or anyone in my family cause they would think i'm crazy or that it's just me being over sensitive to things. My dad tells me that i'm going to suffer in life if i don't change my attitude of over-worrying, and then the friends i do have aren't even there for me and when they say something it usually makes me feel worse cause they don't understand.
byhn2 2 weeks ago
and I always find myself over thinking conversations i have with people, thinking 'i shouldn't have said that' or 'i should have said this instead'. It's really hard not having anyone to talk to either, people who think they know me just tell me the problem is that i let pressure get to me. I find that awful cause it makes me feel guilty, as if it's my fault I'm feeling this way. I'm just sick of sucking up to people, and being afraid to be myself.
byhn2 2 weeks ago
For me this developed sometime after i was feeling down and nervous the whole summer, then i started school and my best friends basically ditched me cause they said i was a negative and jealous person. I find it hard to understand why they all get along with each other but not me, even though I've always been nice to them. I'm afraid to say what I really think to people because in my head i just see them talking about me behind my back.
byhn2 2 weeks ago
I have no diagnosis about social anxiety disorder, because I'm too afraid to go to psychologist. I can't go school anymore, but I have to because I have no reason to stay a home. Everyday I cry after school because my anxiety gets so bad I feel like I wanted to die. I can't sleep at nights because I think all the "embarrassing" things that I did. In my mind I know that people at school hate me and talks things about me behind my back.
Please, why I can't be just normal...
Camteen4ever 2 weeks ago
@Camteen4ever
I feel the same way. Plus if i told my parents i need to go to a psychologist they wouldn't take me seriously or they would think i'm crazy. It's really hard to deal with on your own.
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Camteen4ever 2 weeks ago
Yeah, I won't answer the door or phone unless it's someone I know. And I get really bad panic attacks if I'm near people, but I mostly hide it. My family thinks I'm just shy, but I don't know what to think. I
Only talk to my friend at school, and I can't hold a one on one conversation at all.
XxGaRdn3rxX 3 weeks ago
i cant even go to school because of my anxiety. just the thought of me going into school causes me to have these anxiety attacks. i dont know what to do and i feel soooo alone. i tell my friends and they just act like i need to just tell myself to calm down, they dont get it
KELLERMATT7137 3 weeks ago
i HATE my s.a.d bcuz when ppl talk to me i keep my head down i dont even look n theyre like why r u like hidden i lie n say bcus i dont feel good or im tired. i cant handle the pressure of being in front of the class. im scared theyll judge me! :(
THEASHLEXSHOW1 1 month ago
Unluckily, so many people feel that...
Madem0iselleBarbie 2 months ago
last year, i watched this video, crying on my bed and actually considering suicide because it was so bad. A year later, I am better than I was last year and I am not as afriad to talk to strangers, and my friends. I am slowly getting better. Try talking to people that you feel comfortable with and finding something you really love to do. It broke me out of my shell a bit.
savethelephantnow 2 months ago
You are not alone. It's the same with me. It's really unbarable! I also want to be like the others. Other people in my school think I am stupid just because I don't talk... It's so frustrating!
Vojife 2 months ago
Can some cases be more severe than others?
DakotaLace97 2 months ago
@DakotaLace97 Of course! ;)
Vojife 2 months ago
Your not alone :'( i have social anxiety too. And i am severely suffering from it at school... Help :-(
topem97 2 months ago
I somehow acquired SA between the end of elementary school-the beginning of middle school. It's very hard to deal with. I've never had many friends, have trouble making friends, have trouble developing relationships and friendships, have trouble keeping conversations going, etc. It's a nightmare. However, I love going to parties and stuff. It takes mental effort all the time to say "okay I'm going to walk into a party with a shitton of people". But alcohol works wonders. Not healthy thoug
JohnCena2011 2 months ago 2
mario...same here my d00d....deffinetly beer....it sux when i cant even feel normal in front of my mom & dad or even old friends & family.....i feel your pain.
iTSY0URb0YEE 2 months ago
The only way I could ever talk to people openly is definitely BEER, or other types of alcoholic beverages. That's really the only way I can get over it.
mariogetslaid 3 months ago
@mariogetslaid It may be better at first, but trust me. It will all come around.
Vojife 2 months ago
@Vojife I think we can all relate to Raj on the Big Bang Theory.
mariogetslaid 2 months ago
@mariogetslaid I don't relate to him (well, just a bit maybe). He is quite popular between women.
Vojife 2 months ago
I feel as if I made this video and it's all about me, entirely.
mariogetslaid 3 months ago
huge step for me today:
I modeled for my high school art class today. in front of the guy I like and several other people
MCRmy509 3 months ago
@MCRmy509 Well done :)
AlpineViking91 3 months ago in playlist Social Anxiety Disorder / Social Phobia
Too All people who do have it :
1) Try not to think much , Thinking is bad for us
2) One of the easiest ways but also one of the worst ways is this , "Look down on other people " Think of other people as trash . you are not different , you are better than everyone. This works 100 % XD
3) Change your routine,Change your life ,Be busy most of the time
4) Having a gf or bf helps but they should understand your disorder
djay00009 3 months ago
I told my mum and yesterday I went to the doctors with mum and dad. The doctor said there was nothing wrong with me other than just being extreamly shy and said for me to go to the school nurse and psycologist or whatever. Little did he know that I was too scared to say that it was so bad I self-harmed to calm me down, seriously thought of suicide, worry for weeks or even months before a presentation and then weeks afterwards, have full blown panic attacks 2 times a month and many more things.
RandomRamenSaviours 4 months ago
@RandomRamenSaviours my friend if you have those thoughts call that kids help phone to get it off you chest and tell someone. best part about kids help phone is you can just hang up when you feel overwhelmed
Madorem 3 months ago
@Madorem No way! I find it hard enough to talk on the phone with my best friend let alone some stranger I don't know 0_0 It's makes me feel sick just thinking about it ='/ Sorry... It'll just make me feel worse.
RandomRamenSaviours 3 months ago
@RandomRamenSaviours true, well if ur having harmful thoughts you gotta do something to let people know. once their aware of the severity, you'll get the help you need, and your parents will surely give the understanding and patience you need to make it better. if the phone is too much, try writing Kids help phone an email, they have that too, on their website, for people in your situation. or if ur up for it write one to your parents, on your own time. even if u dont give it, its liberating.
Madorem 3 months ago
@Madorem I don't really want to write to kids help 'cause I'll feel like I'm doing something wrong. Like I'm abandoning my mums help. That just makes me feel aweful. Even though she doesn't even know about my Self-Harm. Though I've written her a letter about my social anxiety. After going to the doctor she now thinks that I'm just shy. I mean, writing a letter to her about my social anxiety was hard enough let alone another letter about SH... I'm just scared...
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RosalieStreet 4 months ago
i swear this video os my life story. i am the known as "the kid that never talks"
i have no friends and i just sit on my xbox all day depressed because i have no friends.
codgamer690 4 months ago
Relates so much to me. How do u get help if u can't speak? I have depression and this...it sucks . I wish I could speak:/
pmgintheflesh 4 months ago
I'm right there with you.
luvfldhcky6 4 months ago
I'm tired of just existing..of just being here and doing nothing with my life..but this is what holds me back. It's getting worse. It's out of control.
hansonfan083086 4 months ago in playlist Social Anxiety Disorder / Social Phobia
I hate this...
TheSimpleCamp 4 months ago
For anyone who has this disorder, the Social Anxiety Institute has a full cognitive behavioral therapy program specifically for social anxiety. It is expensive, but years of therapy at $100 an hour is way worse, and I think it's worth it for those of us dealing with this pain. Look up Social Anxiety Institute in a search engine.
acidstars9 4 months ago
isnt this just shyness
xxLilJXxX 4 months ago
@xxLilJXxX No i't's far from shyness. if you knew what people(like me) go thru everyday at school you woudn't say that. how would you like to go to school with no friends, bullied and nobody likes you? ya thats me everyday.
codgamer690 4 months ago
@codgamer690 there there i know exactly what your going through, believe me. im just trying to understand it. iv had it my whole life & i still dont understand it, sadly. i know social interactions are so hard i just dont know how to socialize.
xxLilJXxX 4 months ago
@xxLilJXxX oh ya i have no idea how to socialize either
codgamer690 4 months ago
i went to the doctor with this and he sat me down and he said whats worng you seem nervous i said well im afraid of public situations he said you have social aniety here are some tablets and diddnt even suggest anything else -_-
TableChip94 5 months ago
@TableChip94 See someone else...I have yet to see any evidence that psychiatric drugs really help anyone with this problem. The drug companies do everything possible to get their drugs passed for every disorder possible so they can make more money. Psychiatrists are drug pushers, you are better off seeing a psychologist or counselor.
acidstars9 4 months ago
It's good to know people have this, we're not alone. For me the worst part of s.a.d is standing up infront of a class... I try to focus on my voice coming out loud enough, my cheeks turn pink and my head starts to burn, my voice comes out awkward, I start to talk really fast, I try to control breathing, my heart starts to pound, and during all this it is almost impossible to swallow. I got to say thats the worst for me or EYE CONTACT. ugh eye contact is so awful :(
molliee151 5 months ago
im 14 and i think i might have S.A.D because i dont like talking to people,meeting new people,dont like eating infront of people, get REALLY nervouse wen the teacher says that i have to go in the front of the room to read somthing out loadto the class my hands swaet and my heart beets fast and i gett real shaky, iv never had a boyfriend before because of this and i dont like going places and theres alot more
makeuplover200 4 months ago
@makeuplover200 ;o I kinda have the same thing u know ;x and i'm also 14 and a girl ;)
i also feel really uncomfortable at school cuz of the many kids in there and loud noises but yeh i guess that's becuz i'm also pretty sensetive/emotional ;x and i have trouble making 'good' friends over there too ;l
oOninellaOo 4 months ago
thank You for this. I have always thought that is was just a really shy person but after seeing DonnyOsmond special on Social Anxiety Disorder I think that that is what my problem is
miyhy 5 months ago
@CodyRyanProductionz If you're as good as you say you are, you dont have any reason to be.
CupcakePixies 5 months ago
Trust me, if you can actually put this vidoe on the internet for millions of people to see, you aint got no disorder, just want attention.
stasyfinch 5 months ago
@stasyfinch For most social anxiety disorder victims, the Internet is the only place in which they can express their true feelings, because they're anonymous. So maybe she wants attention, maybe she doesn't; but it doesn't really get to her because she's, once again, anonymous on the Internet.
d1995a3 5 months ago
@stasyfinch That is the dumbest thing I have ever heard. Posting a video on the internet where you are not even there, it's just a bunch of typed letters and no one can see you, is not going to cause the same anxiety it would if you were actually in a room speaking in front of hundreds of people. People with this disorder have a much easier time chatting online than talking in real life. You obviously know nothing about the disorder and I'm not sure why you are even viewing the video.
acidstars9 4 months ago
@stasyfinch, I'm sorry, but you clearly have no understanding of what social anxiety disorder is. People with this disorder DON'T "just want attention" - in fact, most of us are absolutely terrified of attention when we get it, and that's a big part of the problem. That doesn't mean we don't feel lonely, or useless, or depressed or frustrated because mental illness prevents us from living normal lives. And yes, it is perfectly possibly for someone with SAD to put up a video on YouTube.
hiddenrio 4 months ago
@stasyfinch
Not true, it's not like she has a video of herself. This is probally the only place this person can talk about their disorder, and to be heard.
molliee151 4 months ago
So many people making videos on social anxiety and I wonder where all this strength comes from. I'd like to share something, but.. my stupid brain won't let it happen. Every time I'm trying to open up, it just blocks everything, stops working, then the depression kicks in.. and I don't care anymore.
ExiExi 5 months ago
wow, thats exactly how i feel... im really nervous about going to high school in 2 days :(
CodeDarkBlue 5 months ago
Story of my life
Nitendosa 5 months ago
im going to college this year and so ill leave my area of comfort... I think my life will be shit
SergioSource 5 months ago
What if you just made mistakes just to see what would happen. Say anything that came to your head when talking to strangers. Making social mistakes and observing the outcome and realizing that no one condems you for them or beats you up. A possible soulution? Sad thing about it is people with anxiety disorders are really good people who deserve to have the best life. I have a friend who has anxiety and he is an awesome person.
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edeterror 5 months ago
Take 1,000 mg of vitiain B3 three pills of fish oil a day take 1 SAM e pill a day and take st johns wort too. These are all natural herbs and vitamins that will help
1Death4All 5 months ago
sometimes i think SAD can be normal , because there's so many assholes in the world. its hard to find good people you can trust
MrGaragenation 5 months ago
I have depression, anorexia, ADHD, social anxiety disorder and another anxiety disorder... I'm messed up...
jessbeth01 5 months ago
WOW this music is really depressing. There is nothing wrong with being an outcast and there is nothing wrong with avoiding people.
TheZa1994 6 months ago
I just recently found out that i have social anxiety disorder. I feel a little better knowing that I'm not a freak like i use to think I was.
ToontownPrincess95 6 months ago
My friend dose not understand why I can't be around people, I try to explain but it never seems to go through her head.
cloudykinzxx 6 months ago
Yea ive Accepted The Fact That i Have This Disorder. But I thought I Was The Only One Who Suffered From It. Now That I Know That Im Not Alone I Realized Yeah It Was Just My Inner Thoughts IDGAF...Thats Always Been My Attitude. HAhaha I Didnt Even Have The disorder as bad as most people
ryanryanryan23 6 months ago
I once thought that I had my social anxiety under control, but I really don't... I don't like crossing the street in front of a car because I don't want them to look at me, so I stop and pretend to tie my shoe so they can go first. In class we were forced to do a small project with assigned partners, by the end I was barely breathing, and I was shaking so badly I could hardly speak...
Trying2FindWhoIam 6 months ago
@Trying2FindWhoIam You should check out my channel. I have a PhD in psychology and I am working on a series of videos about overcoming social anxiety. Hope you find them helpful!
SocialAnxietyDr 6 months ago
@SocialAnxietyDr ok thanks :) I'll check that out
Trying2FindWhoIam 6 months ago
this all describes me to a T.. i left my job and reuined my friendships with my best of friends and god daughter.. and moved down here my mum, but no-one does understand wat i am going through.. i havnt been out in public in 2 n a half months i have only just started going to the doctors again to get help because this just isnt right.. i am on medication but all it does it help me sleep some wot.. its bull shit, i use to do everything was never sitting still doing nothin ...
TheLykkita 6 months ago
today I went to my local store and bought a condom :D My hands and legs were shaking but I made it and it wasn't so bad :D and few days ago I went to game store and asked what's the difference between usual Wii remote controller and Wii motion plus controller and we had a little conversation and it was ok, I knew everything b4 but thats the point. try it. It took me half hour to type this message as I re-edited it like 100times and still don't want to publish it.
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JoseGomes05 7 months ago
This is how I have felt forever.. my mom had a guest over once and I stayed in my room for 5 days because I was so afraid on introducing myself etc. I only came out when he wasn't at our house or wouldn't see me. My mom makes fun of me and doesn't understand
JanniPink 7 months ago
I learned Trancendental Meditation .It helped me alot . recognising you have a problem is A start .If yor family or friends dont understand direct them to a video on social anxiety..Ask for help from proffesionals doctors etc.
stokey72 7 months ago
that's exactly how i feel :\ everyone knows me as the quiet one in school and they all ask me "why don't you talk" i get really annoyed when people ask me that and i just want to be left alone. this year i skipped nearly 22 days of school because of having to talk in front of the class and to avoid that dreaded question.
xxlelliex 7 months ago
I'm like that and I'll be checked over by a professional soon(Now I'm really looking forward to meeting someone new for the very first time). I just hope they'll hold the key to helping me out of this situation.
alucardts 7 months ago
I don't know how bad my disorder has become , but is it REALLY bad when its to the point where I feel symptoms of extreme stress just by thinking about people. Not just the concept of going out and doing stuff, but just the thought of people I know of...
PlushNunchucks 7 months ago
Hey guys --- I've lived with this thing most of my life and I'm better now at being self confident than I used to be. It's hard to see yourself as others see you but I look around and I don't see anyone really that is 100% fully adjusted, funny sauve interesting to listen to at social gatherings, work etc . In fact if you stop thinking about yourself for a minute and watch and listen to others very closely..
You'll find people aren't consentrated on you!!!!!!!!!!
They're self conscious too
ranchwagoneer 7 months ago
Feel the fear. Observe it. who is it that is afraid ? So what if you pass out .Resistence to life is futile.Be here now .Be prepared to walk into Hell .say even tho i,m in hell i completley and utterly aprove of myself .
Here are some things and people who have helped me on be here now .
trancendental meditatation (Tm) Rieki , emotional freedom techniques .Yoga Ayurveda . . Check out youtube videos of Ekharte Tolle ,Mooji etc on fear . OH and dont forget to breath .
stokey72 7 months ago
love social phobia it make u perfect a man
padakamboyz 7 months ago
Another way to think of SAD is that it is an illness that wont kill you. Its a bit uncomfortable but then it passes ( as Dr. Phil says). Compare our illness to say cancer. I'd much rather go to the doctor and he diagnoses me with SAD than cancer. Imagine him saying to me "Mr. Raccuia you have SAD but you wont die from it its jus a bit uncomfortable" or "Mr. Raccuia you have cancer and you have 6 months to live" I'm sure we all agree that we would take the first diagnoses SAD over cancer anyday
raccuia1 7 months ago
i really want to get over this......
xenpmk 7 months ago
Biggest single piece of advice for SAD. "UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES AVOID THE SITUATION"!!!!!! You younger people listen to my advice. I'm 50 and have had SAD in varying amounts and varying situations. If only I could turn back the clock i would never have avoided sitautions, even when my nerves were severe and I was easily embarrassed. Even if you pass out from nerves and people make fun of you, who fucken cares!!!!!!!!! You wont die from it so remember "DO NOT AVOID THE SOCIAL SITUATION EVERRRR!!!
raccuia1 7 months ago
Is there anyone at college who have to abide social phobia ? I couldn't do it 2 years ago. But I will try again . Any advice to live with this shit ?
ciclistagallipoli 7 months ago
@ciclistagallipoli Live with it? LIVE WITH IT??? Dude, overcome it. I am on my way to do it u can contact me if u wish to know how
ludvign11 7 months ago
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@ciclistagallipoli I know your pain! Millions of people suffer from this disorder but no one really talks about it. You are not alone. Email me sometimes and lets chat about it. I no how it feels to sit at home all the time and feel like crap. I no how it feels to be uncomfortable around people all the time and always feeling like people are starring at you. YOU ARE NOT ALONE
demarioda1 7 months ago
GUYS LISTEN U CAN WITHOUT A SINGE DOUBT BECOME WHO U WANT TO BE. I had serious social anxiety, couldnt say a fucking word when i was going to shop things, was afriad of the store. But BOOM, i took the intiative and im not fully "cured", I still get some heartpounds when i see ppl BUT i say "fuck it and lets go" and shit works. I know this sounds like "Easy for u to say" But i i had serious problem and took it step four step and i have better self confidence and self asteem now. Feels goooood
ludvign11 7 months ago
I hate going out.. i feel like i'm weird and everyone else is normal..
xdI1xi 8 months ago 17
@xdI1xi trust me, you're not alone... I feel the same way and... it sucks, it sucks BIG TIME
Rykkaru 4 months ago
@xdI1xi same here ... same here
djay00009 3 months ago
I feel the same way most of the time. I always avoid people and social situations at any cost. There are times when I get stuck talking with people and I cant handle it, I get soo nervous and shy and my mind goes blank.. then I look like a wierdO and abnormal.. den I hate myself even more for being like this. I t is also reassuring theres others out there that go through this also, I am not alone..
bearz 8 months ago
i feel all the things you do like when talking to people you get so fucken retarded shi and you act all dumb like you can even look at them in the eyes you just want to get the fuck aut of there i coudint handle school i woud get so anxies in class my head woud hurt and start sweating dizzy and i lost so many credits i coudint handle even talking to my friends and i droped aut of hischool i think cuz of these fucken shit you better get some help for me its even hard to go to the store
CHn11000 7 months ago
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@CHn11000 I know your pain! Millions of people suffer from this disorder but no one really talks about it. You are not alone. Email me sometimes and lets chat about it. I no how it feels to sit at home all the time and feel like crap. I no how it feels to be uncomfortable around people all the time and always feeling like people are starring at you. YOU ARE NOT ALONE
demarioda1 7 months ago
I have anxiety and depression and soon I will find out if i have ADD. YAY!!
cryingmushroom47 8 months ago
I developed SAD when I was very young. I lived with my grandparents who were physically and emotionally abusive. I spent 10 years with them, every day was a living hell. I became very withdrawn from people and scared of social situations. I was only allowed to go to school and nowhere else up til I was 14, which was when I moved with my mom.I am 19 and married now but I'm socially damaged and it makes life very hard.I hate SAD.I beat myself up about it everyday..I feel defenseless against myself
JakesWifeFoo 8 months ago
SAD is a result of being abused, watching abuse or hearing of abuse or bit of each. It can affect us totally , a bit or in some situations depending on many factors. I had an abusive father ( physically, verbally, mentally, visually). I was bullied a bit at school. I watched and heard of abuse. All SAD results from these things. Then we suffer "post traumatic stress disorder"". As little as 1 word, 1 look, 1 hit can change a person deleteriously. It happens all over the world, this SHIT!!!
raccuia1 8 months ago
Most of the comments are like "I am scared of what people will think, am I making the right move?" "am i going to be judged".
These comments have inspired me to stop caring so much about what people think. And to be myself... do whatever I wish to do with out thinking of how it could be seen by others.
I always end up looking back on a conversation n kick myself for saying something wrong or thinking I was awkward. You know what... what's done is done we should all move on from it. JUST BE!
ugasziz 8 months ago in playlist Social Anxiety Disorder / Social Phobia
I couldn't go out over 10 months.I had to resign my education and my job. Unfortunately, we will be free when we die
ciclistagallipoli 8 months ago
god screwed us over
rageebird 8 months ago in playlist Social Anxiety Disorder / Social Phobia
I love this vid so much!!! It is so me
LMNGRL88 8 months ago
I stutter and that's why I suffer from this disorder..
NextLvlProductions 8 months ago
The secret to overcoming SAD is to get MAD! You gotta look your fear straight in the eye and say: “F**K YOU!” You’re not letting that son of a bitch control your life anymore, get MAD, get out there and face your fear, there’s no way around it, there’s no pill to make it go away.. Roar in front of that son of a bitch until he shits his pants. Chase your fear instead of running away and IT WILL END! If you need tips send me a PM.
JoseGomes05 8 months ago
I've been there... it can be very lonely at times, especially when nobody understands, not even those you love the most.
JoseGomes05 8 months ago 27
@JoseGomes05 so true x.x
4me2bhppy 7 months ago
Can anyone tell me what music is played on this social phobia video please????
marc09676 8 months ago
I don't hace a clue how to handle my problems. I sit locked away in my room, alone, for days at a time. I miss school, and people because I can't seem to be able to handle daily life. I'll be fine for a day, a week, but it always comes back. The pain, the loneliness, the doctors don't help. I need help!
RoyalFustercluck 8 months ago
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@RoyalFustercluck I know your pain! Millions of people suffer from this disorder but no one really talks about it. You are not alone. Email me sometimes and lets chat about it. I no how it feels to sit at home all the time and feel like crap. I no how it feels to be uncomfortable around people all the time and always feeling like people are starring at you. YOU ARE NOT ALONE
demarioda1 7 months ago
I actually cried when I read what you had to say because this is almost exactly like the thoughts that go through my mind every day. It's incredibly difficult for me to hold a conversation with anyone... even someone as close as my aunt or uncle. I can't make friends at school. I'm afraid of what people say about me. Even when people are being nice and try to talk to me, I can't talk with them although I really want to be their friend. I'm afraid to say these things, except on the internet.
HannyGirl812 8 months ago
@HannyGirl812 I know your pain! Millions of people suffer from this disorder but no one really talks about it. You are not alone. Email me sometimes and lets chat about it. I no how it feels to sit at home all the time and feel like crap. I no how it feels to be uncomfortable around people all the time and always feeling like people are starring at you. YOU ARE NOT ALONE
demarioda1 7 months ago
i know all the thoughts sensations i have are debilitating especial when iw ant to meet people i get very nervous and start feeling aware its horrible to have this condition but you know that you are strong and try to avoid the being negativly judged bu others like if your scared
marc09676 8 months ago
I know all the Feelings and frustrations fears I live them over and over but I have never been Diagnosed For obvious reasons I cant seek the help.
Good Job on the Video I know it takes allot out of you to do it it did me.
RUNETREE2 9 months ago
The sound in this vid is just kind of fitting..
sebbilah 9 months ago
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beatsbelleza 9 months ago
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beatsbelleza 9 months ago
This is like the worst feeling in the world! It's embarrassing to admit to people we love that we have this, we can't begin to heal without reaching to others. I was really bad at one point with my anxiety and it was crazy cause it hit me out of nowhere. But though it so so scary, we have to face our fears little by little and eventually we'll get a little more mental freedom..it's worth and it's working for me. We're going to slip up but we have to learn to brush it off!
beatsbelleza 9 months ago
always when I am around ppl I don't know very well,, I feel like they talk shit about me in my behind and they make conspiracies .. so I decide that I won't show up again then I blame them for everything & I blame all ppl
Ms87John 10 months ago
I have it too. I've had this anxiety for as long as I can remember since I was little. However, in my case there is an explanation of sorts, I was born extremely premature and I think it had an effect on my brain development. I've gotten used to being the quiet one but when I really want to go out or do something I'm afraid.
TwilightSylvestris 10 months ago
Good book: "Overcoming Stagefright in Everyday Life." Social anxiety.....man oh man do I know about that!
Scrumpilump2000 10 months ago
i have it too, im like the girl Eura from MTV Skins ...
Holycrapperoni2416 10 months ago
@TEENgirl92 goooooooooooooooood..Let the hate flow through you.
Kamikazekris100 10 months ago
I don't mind being the introvert...-I've always been attracted to the quiet-type style........... but when I actually WANT to do something, I hate that I can't :(...I have easily-crushed motivation, yet Im so full of aspiring ideas to do things with my life...but than I get drained down as if Ive been running a battle in my head and don't want to walk any further :(...and than, people start to lose confidence in you, if they ever had any before...no one takes you seriously-you feel like a joke
HayaKusanagi 10 months ago
Sure I have a great social life... at the expense of my liver! I think I should become a monk in Tibet to save my liver!
flouflis1a 10 months ago
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rossco6789 10 months ago
*sigh* welcome to the club, your totally not alone.
EverHurt 10 months ago
I have awful anxiety attacks about the most common human interaction... ( as most of us do) I panic about job interviews, school, raising my hand in class, doctor appointments, answering my phone, starting converstations, & not knowing how to end conversations... no human deserves this. God bless all of you that are also suffereing with this awful disorder...
molliee151 10 months ago
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RustyMagnum 10 months ago
This is pretty much me in a nutshell though not very seriously debilitating. Its like every action and movement you make is bellow the social standard and it sucks. HARD =(
Showcase1275 10 months ago
This absolutely sucks. It takes away so much from you... everything you could have been, eaten away by the fear of "what will people say? what will they think?" Just fear of opening one's mouth, of being looked at... "it'll go away" Wrong. It doesn't go away. You just wither away, alone, mute and forgotten. Once, I thought it'd be better to actually damage my tongue so that I'd have an excuse for not talking. But it's getting better now. After 7 years, there's hope, finally.
cristizzz 10 months ago
It seems we are not alone. Lots of us here all suffer from S.A.D. Last night I tried to socialize, and it got so very bad, that I couldn't speak proper words, and basically had a panic attack away from the crowd. There isn't a figurative definition of normal, but I damn wish I could be like my semi-friends.
TheBambiniGiant 10 months ago
i hear you.
i have been shy/anxious my whole life.
people make fun of me or think i'm a snob
i amm so shy that i turn literally red when i exchange a smile with a cute guy and remain like that for several minutes
i am so shy that i've dropped out of university classes that have oral presentation assignments
i'm very nervous with one on one intimate conversations
i am outgoing when i've had a few drinks
i have a hard time mainting relationships. i'm just fed up
BeatlesFetish09 11 months ago
I'm so confused, I've been doing self-injury for alot of time. I'm constantly thinking about, "what would people think if I did this?" or said this, or stuff like that :-/ avoiding too crowded areas because I'm afraid people might think I'm a weirdo or something, even when I'm at the supermarket or something else in the public, I sometimes forget what my purpose was, and exit the place again, just to avoid "being looked at" if you guys understand...Does this mean I got S.A.D?
DevaSavant 11 months ago
This condition crippled me. It made me the target of ridicule in school. I became severely depressed and suicidal. I. HATE. IT! I would give anything not to have anxiety! I am on meds now and I am 1000x better but I would love to be 100%. It feels great knowing that others understand how awful this is. Most people in society don't. And that makes it worse. I am so happy I got help.
Accarlson85 11 months ago
i hate being this way >.<
Sasuke006 11 months ago
I feel this all the time, even with my most closest and trusted friends. I can't help thinking i'm a burden to them or that they think i'm annoying. It sucksss -__-
EvanescenceVampire95 11 months ago
Pretty sure I have this. Or something like it. My mom told me to suck it up and work hard. I told my doctor about it- and he made an appointment with a psychologist for me- problem was I really didn't want to leave my house to see the psychologist. Ended up getting told off by my doc for not going. =_=
Cass0emoheart 11 months ago
I know how it feels. I am getting treatment for it and I have been a lot better since I found out that I have it.
MegaSigngirl 11 months ago
Wow, i didnt know this was a disorder, i just thought i was strange....
srgwarcock 11 months ago
@TEENgirl92 Don't do that. Those bullies called you names because they wanted to make their fears less noticable. You're strong and you know it. If you take that anger and energy and use it to face your s.a.d. Then you will surely help fight against it. My therapist tells me avoidence is your enemy. I have s.a.d. I'm getting through it but I won't lie, I cry a lot and such but I notice that I'm getting stronger and less shy. Hope I helped <3
Wubblez10 11 months ago
I have the same exact thing, in fact I'm working through it along with therapy, I'm still suffering a bit, but I'm much better now than I was before.
Listen to the song "Unleashed" by Epica it's a little creepy, but it's so powerful and it spits out exactly how people with s.a.d. feel. I listen to it every morning before I go to school or whatever to give me confidence<3
Wubblez10 11 months ago
It took me a lot of courage just to leave this comment.
psychopuffin 1 year ago 40
@psychopuffin Really? I'm diagnosed with severe social anxiety and phobia, but have no problem leaving comments and stuff online. Of course it's an individual thing...
7ochka 9 months ago
@psychopuffin Proud of you!!! <3
Ransomed09 9 months ago 2
@psychopuffin I know your pain! Millions of people suffer from this disorder but no one really talks about it. You are not alone. Email me sometimes and lets chat about it. I no how it feels to sit at home all the time and feel like crap. I no how it feels to be uncomfortable around people all the time and always feeling like people are starring at you. YOU ARE NOT ALONE
demarioda1 7 months ago
I just want depression pills to magically apear in my hand. becuz i cant go to the doctors im too paranoid around people or crowds of people. I wont tell any1 my problem becuase i feel pothiec and embaresed. Its so stupid N annoying to have social disorder, i have no clue how i have it but its dead serious. I will avoid social situations at any cost. Im always close to my alcohol to get me threw, if its not there i will run away some how, if im held back, u better pray god helps u keep me down.
JayMunozMMA 1 year ago
@JayMunozMMA :/, well I'll tell you one thing my therapist told me. The more you expierence and expose your self, the less anxiety you will feel over the years, you have to continue it though. Avoiding is your enemy and actually makes your s.a.d. more powerful. And one more thing, realize that the people around you aren't always 100% confident. Everyone has to expose their fear in order to destroy it. I hope I helped<3 Good Luck<3
Wubblez10 11 months ago
@Wubblez10 i noticed its my past that eats me alive... being a thug/gangster nd everytime i step outside theres that risk of being attacked like " my past " or being jumped like " my past " ive been in a good amount of fights, been outnumbed in fights. walked to the store and been approched by people trying to rob me. It makes it harder to go face my fear with those to worrie about on top of it. Then i got the those people judging me, calling me a no good thug gangstR, or a wanna be or whatever.
JayMunozMMA 11 months ago
@JayMunozMMA Oh :l I didn't even know that was the case. *sigh* I hope the best for you. I mean if anything, why don't you move if it's endangering your life?
Wubblez10 11 months ago
me i have the same exact problem eye contact is another thing i am not good with. but an actress is what i always wanted to be, my mom told me to follow my dreams, and take drama. and just try not over thinking it, and if that doesn't work, just think possitive, if you say negative things negative things will happen and if you say possitive things then possitive things will happen.
triciarubybaby 1 year ago
I have the same problem, its hard being a teen today though, i'm 15. i went through cutting, suicide, and stress over nothing. so one day i looked in the mirror resaid negative to saying possitive. don't worry one bit. =D
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MrSolmon123 1 year ago
Me, i just dunno what to talk about :/
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wirklichdoof 1 year ago
If it was up to me to choose between me being the only one with social phobia and sparing every body from this disorder I swear from the bottom of my heart that I would choose me to be the only one with this thing than to have other people with social phobia, because i know how it feels and I know how other people don't understand this problem and it hurts me more that some people have the same pain I do because i can barely bear it myself..I am barely 17 and my life is already going down ={
RosyAdams 1 year ago
So yesterday i was searching youtube just being nosy and one site led to another until I found all this videos relating to this disorder I never heard of "Social Phobia" I started crying because all this time I thought that I was the only person that experienced this things. I never ever knew there was other people like me suffering the same thing and yeterday 1/27/11 i found out that i have Social phobia and that I am not alone.....
RosyAdams 1 year ago
I don't suffer quite so much from this anymore. The way I found help was due to my beloved! I fell in love, had someone I could TRUELY talk to. I had 20 years worth of stuff to say to him! And now I'm not on meds too!. I have my bad days, and still suffer from depression. But just spending time with him sooths that all away.
So go out there and cyberdate! you can chat to him/her for a few weeks first no pressure. Then they can open the world for you all. Love can solve so many things.
mzcyberbat 1 year ago
can i just ask if anyone has social anxiety disorder is there like one person that they can be normal around or maybe a few?
realpassion4music 1 year ago
@realpassion4music
people who suffer from S.A.D are normal people just really lonely and shy because they don't feel comfortable around strangers. If you got to know one of us in a comfortable setting then yes, and yes.
calling us abnormal doesn't help!
mzcyberbat 1 year ago
@mzcyberbat you totally misread! it was a question not a statement i didn't call anyone abnormal!
realpassion4music 9 months ago
Story of my life. Anyone else who's dealing with this right now, feel free to message me, I'd love to talk to someone else who feels just like me.
ItsJustMeNaina 1 year ago
I LOVE THIS. ITS ME. SO ME
LMNGRL88 1 year ago
I probably shouldn't be saying this using a well known handle of mine but I'm glad, in a weird way, that there are people out there like me. I am in my late twenties, I have one real friend. I don't socialize. Don't leave the house often. Don't go on dates. Don't answer the phone. Interviews! JOBS! O.O
Narkath 1 year ago
@dhee41 don't be so hard on yourself! im sure you have lots of great qualities! god loves you :)
iheartart725 1 year ago
Thankyou for making this video.
I don't have extreme social phobia like some but it's still there. I do go out but I always and suspicious of people and wonder what they think of me and my heart is always racing. People I think, like my family don't seem to get it. It really is a struggle. Also I do not like talking in front of new people as well :S It sucks..really it does
Suisei 1 year ago
when i speak i always look down. i dont know why,it makes people look i'm uncomfortable talking to them. i just couldn't look at the person's eyes. i do have friends but never have close friends where you can turn to when you're having problems. it's sick man. i wish i wasn't born at first place
KaKaGaNu 1 year ago
@KaKaGaNu I too have real problems looking at peoples eyes. My bf once questioned me about this. I know have to FORCE myself too in order to not seem untrustworthy.
In other countries it is considered rude to look others in the eye! So its not such a natural thing as everyone says it it.
mzcyberbat 1 year ago
The day that each person willingly accepts himself or herself for who he or she is and acknowledges the uniqueness of God's framing process marks the beginning of a journey to seeing the handiwork of God in each life. ----Ravi Zacharias
lightbrownpoop 1 year ago
Ive been diagnosed since 2007. Ive gone to counselors (just made me have more anxiety) been on numerous different meds, been in the psych ward. nothing helps.I cant get myself to answer the door or phone Im out of the house about once or twice a week.I dont want to live this way, I have many hopes and dreams. I would like to go to college but Im too afraid to.I need to get a job but whenever I get a call to have an interview I can never get myself to call back :( I wish I could be cured so bad.
ElizabethHannahRB 1 year ago
@RusconiDom well right now i just started taking meds (zoloft) i still feel the same just a little more relaxed. i have been on it for 4 weeks now. im also on 1 on 1 therapy. i mean i aint 100% but i see lil progress. hope it works out.
91mustang19 1 year ago
im sick and tired of people misjudging and making fun of us because we have that disorder they should get treated for borderline/personality disorder
4me2bhppy 1 year ago
'i am the "quiet one"' i call myself that all the time! >w<
akuarashi 1 year ago