Love Skill # 20: Listen with Empathy (Scott Peck)

[tski007]

Excellent!!!!

[ScottyPeck]

I'm not saying you have to use words like these. It's just an example. By asking that last question, "What is your intuition guiding you to think about as the solution?" you are using the love skill of "Moving Past the Story" (in our Love Skills book) and this is healing.

Thank you for writing us.

[ScottyPeck]

"Well, good friend, what I most hear in listening to you is your anger and upset and suffering. I'm trying to tune in and hear everything you are saying, but it's so much that I can't remember lots of it. But I'm sorry you are suffering. What is your intuition guiding you to think about as a solution?"

[ScottyPeck]

No one enjoys "long tirades" and it's important to be sure you are not allowing anyone to abuse you by taking advantage of your good heart. One of our other love skills is "Set Boundaries," which is helpful because a Love Master is loving but setting boundaries is sometimes necessary to love and protect YOURSELF.

[ScottyPeck]

It's hard to remember what someone is saying when they are angry and it's really not healing them to encourage more of the anger. Here's something I might say if someone was talking, as you say, "in long tirades."