Dear TMOT: Victimized by Mother, Abandoned by Father, Ridiculed by Half Sister

[findjincod]

you are a wise man

[TheBigpoppablack]

tmot... always telling it like it is

[Automobile577]

well if he didnt have an affair, then she wouldn't be here

[brownboi34]

Big Brother TMOT, I love the way you broke it down! my heart goes to this sister. I HAD to take some time to pray for her. Sometimes you have to cut your loses and move on because her looking for love from those people is going to be detramental to her health. There are plenty of people who would adore the opportunity to call her sister, daughter, and one day when she is married, wife.

[BlackProfessor1990]

This poor girl is not an embarrassment to her fathers family. The true embarrasssment in this situation is the sorry father.

How pathetic for a man to talk to his daughter in this manner. This pitiful excuse of a man, does not deserve the love of this girl. To the wronged young lady, these people do not deserve your friendship or love.

Remember, living well is the best revenge. Shun them, you have your entire life ahead of you. Your future is in the future, not the hurtful past.

[ToKnnowHim333]

Lord have mercy. My story all over. May the Lord be with this young lady. Jesus is the best Father anyone could have. Good Bless!

[LUVJONZ99]

It's not where you start but where you end up....I grew up with a hardworking widowed parent, financially responsible, by in the moral sense a WHORE MONGER AND ALCOHOLIC. I cannot control what my parents do, but I could control what I did, I went to college (with my parents help) kept my head high and moved out of that environment when I was financially able to do so....people try to throw my parent's behavior at me.....just ignore and take care of YOU.......DO THE BEST FOR YOU!

[nubianqueen04]

Great words of wisdom!The Young Lady is in my prayers.

[tallsmile28]

Over 70% of Black children are born out of wedlock. That is a horrible statistic.

[24602400]

THE TRUTH!

[JSharmaine]

Great video, good avice as usual. She's in my prayers and I wish her the best of luck in life!

[tincredible]

Situations like this also show you how screwed up some married women are. What kind of woman would want to be married to a man who doesn't give a damn about his child?

[WilBarn99]

I believe these wives are trying to lock out their husbands other children out of thier family fortune. The wife wants all the money to go to her children alone.

[tincredible]

@WilBarn99. I agree. Money and greed is the root of a lot of family bickering.

[BigRichardSmall]

Absolutely brutal, but what you say is the absolute truth. I pray that the young lady who reached out to you with this problem will see this for what it is. Nobody makes movies about people who don't struggle. You can't force other people to be better. You can only dictate your own life.

[preciousnewlife]

ALRIGHT NOW DOC GREAT WORD.

[spucy]

Thanks for addressing this issue, it's definitely something I needed to hear. I'm in an almost identical situation but I don't have siblings.

[Shillelaghly]

good advice

[WilBarn99]

Another very well said video with excellent , wise advice. People should always verify the information of people you are dating. There are many liars out there who do not tell you they are married but once you find out they ARE still married ( these sort of things do have a way of reveiling itself.)

You do have the choice to walking away from that liar and deciever.

[calmdown504]

True, and don't forget. It's not cool to have kids if you're unmarried too.

[WilBarn99]

I agree. I personally know of a situation just like this but it is a son instead and he has all sorts of behavioral problems and anger. He is the son of a married man and his father does not allow him in the house becouse his wife does not accept his child he cheated on her to father. The state makes him pay child support, so that it not an issue. The child's mother always claim she never knew he was married until AFTER she got pregnant!

The son is only 18 and he has already been in jail twice.

[tincredible]

@WilBarn99. I know several situations like this; where the woman has a baby by a married man and the wife doesn't allow the child into the house as if its the child fault. Sadly one of the instances that I know of is among my own relatives.

[WilBarn99]

Sadly it has happened in my family too.

[calmdown504]

That's sad, and just like you know that one situation, there are thousands maybe millions just like it all over America... Some has to give...

[WilBarn99]

I agree. The parents are suposed to be the "grown ups" in the situation yet they tend to act more childish than the out of wedlock kids.

[SPARKWISDOM]

What a sad unfortunate situation.

[naturally4us]

Amen!!!!!!! May God bless you and keep you and give you peace.

[NikkiiDior]

Great advice, and well said. Thank you!

[psonit]

ill miss ya man i really will told ya before im not religous buttheres a difference between right and wrong

[ometrick]

Typical uneducated, ignorant, selfish ppl wanting to get their swing, no matter what the consequences might be. Trust me I know what's it like to not have a father in the home. Get it together black folk foreal!

[Pentazoid111]

What is obsession with having kids in wedlock. Marriage is an artificial social ritual created by humans , it does not necessarily have anything to do with associating with the right soulmate. Out of wedlock births are common in sweden and I don't think the swedish have the same social problems that african americans seem to have. What makes you think that all of the social problems would go away? You can marry the wrong person , my parents are an example of married incompatable individuals.

[tmotofga]

Have as many as you want by as many as you want. I would never stand in your way. She asked for my advice, I gave it. I am certainly not obsessed about it. It is a CHOICE I chose to make.

[kambridge967]

@Pentazoid111 But marriage is something that god wants. Getting married is the godly thang to do.

[Tacticalgearhead]

Excellent speech as always! I feel for that young lady.