My mom used to be a stay at home mom, and it was really nice. I'd have her to come home to, dinners were always made, and I just had a lot of time to spend with her. Unfortunately, working class families don't always have this luxury and my mom had to go back to work (when I was old enough) to help with the bills. I think she enjoyed being out of the house and making some money, but I know she missed being at home with me as well.
those stay at home moms probably spend their husband's money and not earn their own money live the career moms do, lets see what happens when their husband loses his job and they have to work and I think career moms also do their duty as a mother. those stay-at-home moms probably can't get a job that has good pay and thats why they criticize career moms
My mom lost her parents when she was 18; she's worked ever since. As soon as she was able to go back to work after giving birth to my older brother, younger sister, and myself - she went so that ends would always meet. And yet I can't recall a single time in my life that she HASN'T been there for me physically OR emotionally. My mom has been a working mom since the day I was born and I've NEVER had to go without necessities OR nurture. I think a woman who can handle both is incredible.
I don't have a kid yet but I really believe I will stay at home, until the child can attend to kindergarden (or he/she is around 3 years old). Then It will be hard, but not extremely hard to get hired again due to the break. and two incomes are very important.
I love how those stay at home moms are all judgmental. Now, I live in Switzerland and I simply can't afford to stay at home! My partner does not earn enough money and I have to work. But nonetheless, I would work even if I hadn't to, because it's good live hygiene to do something else apart from watching the kids. And childcare is very good here, the people are professionnals and it is very good for the kids to socialise. So to anyone who says I'm wrong, I say: Mind your own business!!!!!!
Continueing work broadens the lives of moms and shows their kids that women can achieve the same things men can. Or do we wan't to go back to the 50's?
I stay at home. My mom worked fulltime and I had no supervision or proper meals... I know thats not true for everyone but its the reason I choose to stay home and my husband works.
Honestly why does it matter if your a working mom or stay at home mother, my mother, a working mom, has not neglected her motherly duties at all. I find important to point out that i also went to preschool and i loved it. Personally, i hold the belief that everyone has the right to live their life the way they want to. Jessica, a cruel judgemental person. Just because society judges and people say it is natural for humans to judge, does not mean you should do it. Can the fathers be stay at home?
Honestly why does it matter if your a working mom or stay at home mother, my mother, a working mom, has not neglected her motherly duties at all. I find important to point out that i also went to preschool and i loved it. Personally, i hold the belief that everyone has the right to live their life the way they want to. Jessica, a cruel judgemental person. Just because society judges and people say it is natural for humans to judge, does not mean you should do it.
So my question is....where are all the fathers in this...the last time I checked a woman needs a man to become pregnant..so I just want to know...after the child is born...where are the fathers (the responsible ones)....why is such pressure placed on the woman to do everything while the man escapes raising his children to head off to work with his buddies, bringing home money and kissing your child goodnight isn't what fatherhood is all about. I RESPECT dads who ALSO stay home to raise children
I like heather. She is right women and mothers take care of everyone and everything but forget to take care of themselves and do whats good for them and when that happens they get burnt out and bitter
I am a triplet mom... and then had another daughter... i matters being with your children everyday till they are at least five. Its amazing what the difference is.
I do have a smaller house and an older car. I've been home for the last 5 years with my 2 babies and I'm about to become an "economom." Not willingly tho. However I support either decision the mother makes.
If women in developing countries had an education and worked outside the home, there would be a lot less poverty, and a lot healthier and happier people. I have nothing against stay at home moms, but it should be a choice and not an obligation.
You know, lady, we don't all have the luxury of not having to work. I'm not quite out of my parent's house yet, but I know that when I am, my partner and I will both have to work. I don't exactly come from a rich family, everyone in my family has worked until they are forced to retire. We've all turned out pretty much fine. My mother says that while I'm at work, she'll watch my kids. I think that's better than a nanny.
I think that Jessica is over-simplifying, as Dr. Phil says. It's not an "either-or" thing. Although I'm a working mom, my home has that "calm" that she's talking about, because I'm organized and I'm able to balance.
I am so, SO glad that Dr. Phil is talking about the benefits of a high-quality preschool program and the statistics associated with that. I wonder how much this Jessica knows about child development.
Anyone else seriously irritated by the Stay at home mom's "Bree Vandecamp crossed with Martha Stewart" tone? I don't even have kids yet and she makes me gag - heaven help any working mom that meets her at PTA :P
they're not really saying the same thing. this jessica lady is talking about being home with your kids from 0-5 so that a nanny doesn't raise them. lots of the working moms are talking about working while the kids are in school (5+), so nobody else is raising them...
I am not a parent yet, however once I do have children i will continue to work. It is not the 1950's, 2 income households are more prevalent because of the economy. I would never be able to give and child a nice lifestyle and safe and happy home if I weren't working because it just is not affordable to be a stay at home Mom in my city/province/country.
The stay-at-home mom (Jessica) seemed so bitter. I wonder if it was her choice of lifestyle that made her so bitter and unhappy that she could lash out at career moms.
@coralangel I'd also say that often (not always) stay-at-home moms tend to be a little crazy, overprotective, obsessive, control freaks. it's so sad, they want to do everything for their children and they end up doing too much! just my opinion!
@Carrolah same could be said for the working mom anal obsessive cold and distant (my neighbor for one lol) not all moms that stay at home are crazy i met a few good ones ^^
@MistressItami Well, it's never good to generalize so, you're probably right. Having said that - from my experience and observation - stay-at-home moms more often behave in that particular way, won't you agree?
@Carrolah granted there are alot but I wouldnt go as far as saying most. the sad fact is you need a degree or license to work well or drive but you need no training what so ever to raise children.
@coralangel i think it may have a lot to do with people judging her life choice its not easy being looked down on for choosing your kids. career moms tend to question the persons reasoning for that choice, I have heard a few go as far as call a mom a disgrace to women everywhere for not taking the career route. That has to stir up bitterness not saying its ok for her to lash out likt that but just why she may do so ^^
I know that I want to have children in the future, but I don't know if my man and I will be able to support the children financially without two incomes. Especially in the city I live in, it's almost impossible to live on one income. I think ideally, it's great to have one parent home. It just isn't always possible though.
I'm a sahm and I wouldn't go and get a job for anything!!! I am lucky enough to be able to do this and not HAVE to get a job... it's a personal choice..
@speckalou "I am lucky enough to be able to do this and not HAVE to get a job... it's a personal choice"
Not all women get to choose to have the luxury (what the above statement implies). It's the moral equivalent of enforcing veganism in a world that doesn't have enough to eat. The statement "a personal choice" implies that mom should be SAHMs regardless of if it's financially possible. This isn't the 1950s.
Well isn't the dad a key element?
megasoso1987 1 month ago
My mom used to be a stay at home mom, and it was really nice. I'd have her to come home to, dinners were always made, and I just had a lot of time to spend with her. Unfortunately, working class families don't always have this luxury and my mom had to go back to work (when I was old enough) to help with the bills. I think she enjoyed being out of the house and making some money, but I know she missed being at home with me as well.
catcubus 1 month ago in playlist Dr Phil Part 2
Personally I do not think kids are not better off with a stay at home mom vs a working mom. But I'm not breeding so this doesn't apply to me
moomookillaz 1 month ago
those stay at home moms probably spend their husband's money and not earn their own money live the career moms do, lets see what happens when their husband loses his job and they have to work and I think career moms also do their duty as a mother. those stay-at-home moms probably can't get a job that has good pay and thats why they criticize career moms
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SoshiLoveable 1 month ago
My mom lost her parents when she was 18; she's worked ever since. As soon as she was able to go back to work after giving birth to my older brother, younger sister, and myself - she went so that ends would always meet. And yet I can't recall a single time in my life that she HASN'T been there for me physically OR emotionally. My mom has been a working mom since the day I was born and I've NEVER had to go without necessities OR nurture. I think a woman who can handle both is incredible.
hyladams 2 months ago
I don't have a kid yet but I really believe I will stay at home, until the child can attend to kindergarden (or he/she is around 3 years old). Then It will be hard, but not extremely hard to get hired again due to the break. and two incomes are very important.
Tanjaaraus 2 months ago
I love how those stay at home moms are all judgmental. Now, I live in Switzerland and I simply can't afford to stay at home! My partner does not earn enough money and I have to work. But nonetheless, I would work even if I hadn't to, because it's good live hygiene to do something else apart from watching the kids. And childcare is very good here, the people are professionnals and it is very good for the kids to socialise. So to anyone who says I'm wrong, I say: Mind your own business!!!!!!
reuscmar 4 months ago
Continueing work broadens the lives of moms and shows their kids that women can achieve the same things men can. Or do we wan't to go back to the 50's?
poppylv21 6 months ago
I stay at home. My mom worked fulltime and I had no supervision or proper meals... I know thats not true for everyone but its the reason I choose to stay home and my husband works.
bbdubgrl 6 months ago
Honestly why does it matter if your a working mom or stay at home mother, my mother, a working mom, has not neglected her motherly duties at all. I find important to point out that i also went to preschool and i loved it. Personally, i hold the belief that everyone has the right to live their life the way they want to. Jessica, a cruel judgemental person. Just because society judges and people say it is natural for humans to judge, does not mean you should do it. Can the fathers be stay at home?
live4rock101 7 months ago
Honestly why does it matter if your a working mom or stay at home mother, my mother, a working mom, has not neglected her motherly duties at all. I find important to point out that i also went to preschool and i loved it. Personally, i hold the belief that everyone has the right to live their life the way they want to. Jessica, a cruel judgemental person. Just because society judges and people say it is natural for humans to judge, does not mean you should do it.
live4rock101 7 months ago
So my question is....where are all the fathers in this...the last time I checked a woman needs a man to become pregnant..so I just want to know...after the child is born...where are the fathers (the responsible ones)....why is such pressure placed on the woman to do everything while the man escapes raising his children to head off to work with his buddies, bringing home money and kissing your child goodnight isn't what fatherhood is all about. I RESPECT dads who ALSO stay home to raise children
Venusstar22 9 months ago 5
I like heather. She is right women and mothers take care of everyone and everything but forget to take care of themselves and do whats good for them and when that happens they get burnt out and bitter
ChinchillaAngel 9 months ago
I am a triplet mom... and then had another daughter... i matters being with your children everyday till they are at least five. Its amazing what the difference is.
7164921823 1 year ago
I do have a smaller house and an older car. I've been home for the last 5 years with my 2 babies and I'm about to become an "economom." Not willingly tho. However I support either decision the mother makes.
gzus4eva 1 year ago
Umm... so moms HAVE to work, I mean men can just easily walk away, and some women are left with the kids, they need financial support!
TheGordogringo 1 year ago
If women in developing countries had an education and worked outside the home, there would be a lot less poverty, and a lot healthier and happier people. I have nothing against stay at home moms, but it should be a choice and not an obligation.
TheGordogringo 1 year ago 2
Jessica is a fatass bitch.
LlamasAreTasty 1 year ago 2
Whoa. It's still 2010, right? RIGHT?!!
squinkymel 1 year ago
This show makes it so obvious what race Dr. Phil's target audience is lmao.
givemeantlers 1 year ago
Must be nice to have a husband who brings in enough money so you can stay at home.
Tsukichan123 1 year ago 3
You know, lady, we don't all have the luxury of not having to work. I'm not quite out of my parent's house yet, but I know that when I am, my partner and I will both have to work. I don't exactly come from a rich family, everyone in my family has worked until they are forced to retire. We've all turned out pretty much fine. My mother says that while I'm at work, she'll watch my kids. I think that's better than a nanny.
RheaBiohazard 1 year ago
I think that Jessica is over-simplifying, as Dr. Phil says. It's not an "either-or" thing. Although I'm a working mom, my home has that "calm" that she's talking about, because I'm organized and I'm able to balance.
I am so, SO glad that Dr. Phil is talking about the benefits of a high-quality preschool program and the statistics associated with that. I wonder how much this Jessica knows about child development.
petfaxmachine 1 year ago
Anyone else seriously irritated by the Stay at home mom's "Bree Vandecamp crossed with Martha Stewart" tone? I don't even have kids yet and she makes me gag - heaven help any working mom that meets her at PTA :P
ginastarke2 1 year ago
they're not really saying the same thing. this jessica lady is talking about being home with your kids from 0-5 so that a nanny doesn't raise them. lots of the working moms are talking about working while the kids are in school (5+), so nobody else is raising them...
nobullshitsvp 1 year ago
your awsome frsh. thanks for all the hard work.
planky657 1 year ago
I am not a parent yet, however once I do have children i will continue to work. It is not the 1950's, 2 income households are more prevalent because of the economy. I would never be able to give and child a nice lifestyle and safe and happy home if I weren't working because it just is not affordable to be a stay at home Mom in my city/province/country.
Blairbear28 1 year ago 19
The stay-at-home mom (Jessica) seemed so bitter. I wonder if it was her choice of lifestyle that made her so bitter and unhappy that she could lash out at career moms.
coralangel 1 year ago 23
@coralangel I'd also say that often (not always) stay-at-home moms tend to be a little crazy, overprotective, obsessive, control freaks. it's so sad, they want to do everything for their children and they end up doing too much! just my opinion!
Carrolah 1 year ago
@Carrolah same could be said for the working mom anal obsessive cold and distant (my neighbor for one lol) not all moms that stay at home are crazy i met a few good ones ^^
MistressItami 1 year ago
@MistressItami Well, it's never good to generalize so, you're probably right. Having said that - from my experience and observation - stay-at-home moms more often behave in that particular way, won't you agree?
Carrolah 1 year ago
@Carrolah granted there are alot but I wouldnt go as far as saying most. the sad fact is you need a degree or license to work well or drive but you need no training what so ever to raise children.
MistressItami 1 year ago 2
@coralangel i think it may have a lot to do with people judging her life choice its not easy being looked down on for choosing your kids. career moms tend to question the persons reasoning for that choice, I have heard a few go as far as call a mom a disgrace to women everywhere for not taking the career route. That has to stir up bitterness not saying its ok for her to lash out likt that but just why she may do so ^^
MistressItami 1 year ago
@coralangel i agree! she can't even hide it. ! she has a lot of resentment it looks like.
lexisweb2011 8 months ago
FRSH - totally off-topic, but:
I just wanted to thank you for all your work here on your channels... I appreciate it a lot! you are great and that's a fact.
5Heliotrope 1 year ago 4
I know that I want to have children in the future, but I don't know if my man and I will be able to support the children financially without two incomes. Especially in the city I live in, it's almost impossible to live on one income. I think ideally, it's great to have one parent home. It just isn't always possible though.
Usagibunnneh 1 year ago
I'm a sahm and I wouldn't go and get a job for anything!!! I am lucky enough to be able to do this and not HAVE to get a job... it's a personal choice..
speckalou 1 year ago
@speckalou Being a SAHM in this economy is a privilege, not a given.
DragonFly122 1 year ago
@DragonFly122 ,,, That's where the "LUCKY" and the "PERSONAL CHOICE" come into play....
speckalou 1 year ago
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DragonFly122 1 year ago
@speckalou Just because that's your opinion doesn't mean it's right.
DragonFly122 1 year ago
@DragonFly122 Now I don't know what we're talking about?????
speckalou 1 year ago
@speckalou Just because you feel that way doesn't mean it's right.
DragonFly122 1 year ago
@DragonFly122 When did I say I was right,, I was saying I am fortunate...
speckalou 1 year ago
@speckalou "I am lucky enough to be able to do this and not HAVE to get a job... it's a personal choice"
Not all women get to choose to have the luxury (what the above statement implies). It's the moral equivalent of enforcing veganism in a world that doesn't have enough to eat. The statement "a personal choice" implies that mom should be SAHMs regardless of if it's financially possible. This isn't the 1950s.
DragonFly122 1 year ago
"GUILTY MOMS"
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