The Bomb in the Brain Part 5 - A Postscript and Prescription

[roninhall1970]

thanks i think this series very interesting

[LietMonty]

Thanks these videos were helpful and led me to further research how to fix it: Yahoo or Google: Six Ways to Help a Brain Heal by Daniel T. Moore and PTSD and Childhood Trauma by Bob Murray. Like you said, if it can be found then good therapy is key and some sort of Feldenkrais body work because "PTSD has proven spectacularly resistant to most forms of conventional therapy, though drugs, talk therapy...and a combination of all have been tried with varying degrees of success. " Still searching.

[LietMonty]

what I do now then? Crap insurance = crap therapy in my experience, I paid out of pocket - way 2 expensiv. I'm not on bus line and no car I am fcked for now. I am looking online for "re-training brain from abuse and cortisol" Why couldn't you have been my daddy!! My mom was extremely aggressive woman. She aimed rifle neighbor, punched other neighbor, tried punch cashier, swung at nurse, and on and on. I look for therapist.

[Rapeliums]

grat job stefan! you rock...Your sayings are very useful for my life

from argentina! Thanks!

[4truthnfreedom]

Your Friend, Jessica From Calgary

[4truthnfreedom]

Seriously addicted to your mind Stef, I just stumbled on to your channel not too long ago *Thanks Batta0909* , and I can't get enough of it! Which is strange because I took a Philosophy class in University and blah…yeah, enough said.

[4truthnfreedom]

This series really resonates with me, having an ACE score of 4 myself. I have really analyzed my past and made a point not to do what has been done to me. I am now a stay-at-home mother of a wonderful son, age: 9 months, and plan to be for as long as I can. Before he was born I asked myself this question: am I going to raise him out of love or fear?

[4truthnfreedom]

It didn't take me long to answer. Obviously I never want to resort to any type of abuse because I know the damage it causes, but where would I start? All I knew was contention and miscommunication. Some years back, I was admitted and diagnosed with BDT. I have put myself on the waiting list for the DBT program here in Calgary. I will then be attending group and solo therapy sessions for a year, which will be followed by solo sessions for another year.

[4truthnfreedom]

I will learn skills I was never taught during my childhood in order to properly communicate with others. I find this crucial not only in my self-development, but especially in my parenting. I really understand where you are coming from Stef, this must be why I really enjoy hearing what you have to say. I just wanted to leave you with a nice note; You have an extraordinary mind Stef and your search for self-knowledge is very special for all who understand.

[physicalgenius]

I wonder if the book you refer to is Alice Miller's "For Your Own Good". Excellent work Stef; explains a lot about my deficientcies.

[GetMeThere1]

I'm so glad to hear how you talk about children (because I've often felt TOTALLY ALONE in having exactly the same attitudes). What's strange is that most people seem to have exactly the OPPOSITE view: they treat children (ESPECIALLY their own children) the WORST of all the people the interact with. The only "rationale" I can conceive of for them is that they focus their aggression on the "easiest target."

[stefbot]

@GetMeThere1 thank you so much for your kind words, I'm glad that you don't feel so alone anymore, you might want to check out my free message board on my website... :)

[elmaxidelsur]

@stefbot my very RELIGIOS brother that WORKS FOR THE STATE and LOVES VOTING just got a baby, they will not be at home, one of her grandmothers is going to be with her more than half of the time, HOW CAN I HELP THAT LITTLE BABY??????

[generalkye]

@GetMeThere1 This is so true, I have noticed and experieced this too, at first i couldnt not understand why, why do we treat our childrent the worst then all the people we interact with ? it makes sence now, thank you for enlightening me Stefan, I shall be shareing this with everyone I can :)

[TSMPimpDaddyPain]

Good series stef. I watched it on the basis of your suggestion to me of how to get rid of the state.

I have a better idea of it now. This is a non-violent solution that doesn't involve revolts and things of that nature.

I would then assume you are predicting that if every child is raised with this kind of care and dedication, not receiving any sort of abuse at all, then the older generations of humans that were abused will eventually become extinct.

[Wesker1982]

amazing series, I will pass it on.

[Marchije]

I cannot agree more about the importance of the development of empathy in developing children if we are to improve the state of the world at large. For anyone interested in an example of this being put to work, google Mary Gordon and the Roots of Empathy program. I think she is doing great work. I also greatly admire the teaching style of Toshiro Kanamori, as documented in the film Children Full of Life (a playlist is available on my channel if interested.)

[herpiethelovebug]

I loved this series, eye opening. I think the Venus Project is the way to have this change happen.

[MrHeiwa07]

Great vid !!

[andrewada]

@lukewarmstormed Everybody believes that until their defense systems start breaking down.

[SilverRedIndigo]

It needs to be understand that all anti-Semitism originates and is propagated by these violence induced brain-damaged moral and emotional retardates.

[THAWK3]

"Thank God FEMINISM came along..." WTF????

[ancjr]

@THAWK3 I reccomend "Against Women’s Lib" by Murray N. Rothbard

[medini2]

@THAWK3 really helped me when it came along... i was able to put aside a lot of anger i had toward men! whew. that was a load off. i came from a household w/ a bunch of much older brothers who sat and watched mom cook, wash dishes, and work until her body and mind fell apart...while they sat laughing and watching sports on tv w/ the volume up so high you couldn't think & they loved to fight. no empathy. this series has been great for me.

[moonreft]

lol Stef celebrates feminism then he wonders why men are not in childrens lives. Having your cake and eating it too? Might want to look up useful idiots in the Marxist play book.

[RickyCisco]

It's just as important to keep abusive fathers away as it is to keep good ones around.

[bobafruti]

Wow Stef you're looking really good these days, been a while since I've watched a video but you're looking younger.

Maybe it's a new camera or trying to keep up with a baby that's keeping you looking young :)

[cheekieweekie]

Interesting the suggestion to do therapy. But i think you miss the point of freedom - its not like education where you invest money and time in preparation and knowledge. Freedom and enlightenment just *are* and do not come from "work" or "seeking". Over many lifetimes, the soul experiences different forms and vibrations - the universe is perfect, even in its defects. The human mind sees broken things that need repair. Life doesn't.

[DCLugi]

"Over many lifetimes, the soul experiences different forms and vibrations"

How did you come to form this conclusion?

"the universe is perfect, even in its defects"

Not sure that "defects" can apply to something considered perfect.

"The human mind sees broken things that need repair. Life doesn't."

Isn't the human mind a product of life? How does life see without it?

Wouldn't you invest time and money into healthier food to be free of unhealthy nutrition?

[cheekieweekie]

I remember some of my own past lives; and though they are no longer who i am today, but the memories are intimate. I can remember many lifetimes on earth, many people do; it depends how attached one is to the surface personality. No matter what the past is, the present is the only moment of life where we have choice and free will. We are travellers in flesh pods, and we choose ignorance.

Sorry about the word defects - short expanation defies... it was a metaphor.

[DCLugi]

I applaud your memory. I can't even remember... I forgot what I was going to say:)

I suppose it depends on how you define "ignorance". We may choose to ignore but if we are truly unaware then it's not a choice. If we choose to ignore then one wonders why. If you are born a Quaker then you might not be aware of science. If you become aware of science then you have the choice to ignore or investigate.

[cheekieweekie]

I eat a vegetarian diet and keep towards raw and green smoothies - so *yes*. Yes, the universe is a magical machine of complexity of light, of interdimensional profundity, silence; absence, mystery and divinity. The mind must recognize, humbly, its servitude to the profound awareness of the now, not believing its own mind-chatter mistakenly servant to sefan's trauma, when you are really the silent awareness itself in to which this entire mirage appears. You are freedom itself, not the wrd.

[DCLugi]

The word freedom may imply different meanings. It seems that what Stefan is encouraging is mental nutrition. If we are freedom itself that doesn't negate the need to bring clarity to chattering mind.

[fergus247]

standing ovation

[Crustanarchy]

Don't you think it would've been better, though, if they hadn't spanked you or reacted towards you violently.

[lukewarmstormed]

I don't know. That's impossible to know. I can't go back to the past.

[NeutrinoideReturns]

That you are lying

[lukewarmstormed]

How am I lying?

[lukewarmstormed]

Not everyone who smokes get s lung cancer is the point I'm making. In make the majority of people who smoke don't get lung cancer so blaming cigs is nonsensical.

The same goes with spanking. Most people who are spanked aren't mentally disturb.

[proffesor02]

I think we can agree that smoking doesn't have positive health effects, but only negative ones. Just because you didn't develop schizophrenia, or psychosis doesn't mean you haven't suffered ill effects from the trauma you suffered as a child.

[ancjr]

@proffesor02 While smoking is not a practice that one could recommend rationally, it is inaccurate to bluntly state that it has zero positive effects. Study "Smoker's Paradox" for further information.

[Aeythvaenn]

you obviously do not understand methodology

[cheekieweekie]

If stefbot was raised by perfect parents, would this whole video series even exist?

Its deeper than therapy - its a sovereign choice each of us makes to honour truth and love, even if we don't percieve love in a world of lies. But we are not all the same at birth - the souls are vasly different - and to treat human life like a monoculture is a mistaken premise.

[RickyCisco]

I'm curious to hear more from you about this concept of 'mistaken premises' ... sounds like there is a methodology behind that.

[marypoppins2009]

Addendum to the above: I have a Defense attorney to help me now. My heart is broken...daily...and I feel she need mental health therapy...NOW....but she will probably not do that. Her father sees this heinous behavior as normal. So, in closing...there are other variables here Stefan...many...and it is not a 'slapdash' situation. Also, the courts have not mercy for a mother...that I can see. If an adult feels harassed...they will go with it. And the court covers themselves before help to mom

[optionism]

Stef is not the first one to touch on childhood experiences influencing later life. Freud came out with that almost 100 years ago.

If you want to raise your child nonviolently, gain a basic understanding of psychology.

Become a tolerant person too. Realize that YOUR way of life might not be the best. Diversity of behavior is evolutionary advantageous.

[ExquisiteDoom]

If anything should be worshipped,it is the ideas you're presenting here. :)

[marypoppins2009]

My daughter has an Anti-Harassment Court Order against me... She had wonderful, loving care from birth to age 16...but began rejecting her mom (me) from age 15...

She is now living with the emotional abusive rather that I left. He is better now, I think. However, she blames me for 'not raising her correctly'...and I believe she has been coerced by her own mind and perhaps her father. This court order when from 1 to 5 yrs. because I spoke up in the courtroom. Now I am in violation for contact

[bryanteague]

I found this series, and the work of Gabor Mate, extremely beneficial. The understanding that violence in any form is destructive and counterproductive, no matter the genuine motivation behind it. The remark, "spare the rod, spoil the child" is a slogan that will one day be as disgusting a remark as someone promoting wife beating. I do hope humanity at large can overcome the plague of violence in order to make this a far more rational and loving world. Thanks Stef!!*

[OpineTime]

Giant Stone Chicken = Perfect State Metaphor.

[adamatova]

I must point out to you that you've completely overlooked the 3rd Option - and that is the God Factor, also known as benevolence. In all acts of creation, there is father, mother and also Divintiy - which is the God spark. This spark carries with it an over layer that CAN influence the circumstances of development even in the worst of conditions, rendering a child EMPATHIC in spite of neglect, abuse and dissolved family nucleus. It is not frequent, but it happens - most likely karmically..

[RuddODragonFear]

He didn't overlook it -- one of his first videos refuted it altogether. You just didn't watch that video.

[adamatova]

Refuted it - well there it is then - if you ignore that factor as not being viable - you might as well just consider that life is random, unpredictable and without laws that govern it.  So be it. And there is the answer why he hasn't a clue when it comes to *cures*.

:)

Cheers.

[Textra1]

"Refuted it - well there it is then - if you ignore that factor as not being viable - you might as well just consider that life is random"

He didn't ignore it; he refuted it. Refuted != Ignored. What his refutation video. Then get back to us.

[Textra1]

*Correction - "...watch his..."

[RuddODragonFear]

I can't help but observe that tou are the perfect example of what is discussed in The Bomb in the Brain part 4.

[garvess]

Get your head out of the clouds man.

[adamatova]

Oh no - from this vantage point - I can see everything that needs to be seen. Just like the eagle.

[DCLugi]

This is only speculative as I don't know you at all but it seems like an example of the harm that religion has done for years. I'm guessing that you might be a follower of one of the many, many faiths and because of that you will completely miss the reason and evidence and sanity that philosophy might offer. The sky god has had his turn and completely failed. We need to outgrow these fantasies. Or I'm completely off the mark and you actually can see me typing this from where you are:)

[SingleEyeMovement]

"The day-to-day falsification of the past, carried out by the Ministry of Truth, is as necessary to the stability of the regime as the work of repression and espionage carried out by the Ministry of Love." G.O.

[hesh2]

Spare the rod

Spoil the child!

[Fetchdafish]

You're half right.

[quietrune]

@hesh2 you should pray to the Thai Giant Stone Chicken for forgiveness!

[DCLugi]

Now if it were a giant "stoned" chicken them eggs would be sweet.

[bunabayashi]

IronicallyVague, when I arrive on your doorstep and beat you, don't worry old friend, I'm correcting your behavior using intelligence, love, and patience.

[TheBookArchive]

author* and it has nothing to do with reading books, it has to do with scientific documentation. It seems you are not only ignorant, but insignificantly ironic. You fail on two sides of the same coin; perhaps this explains our recent inflation parture?

[alagon]

From a philosophical perspective, I must say that Psychology is bullshit. How are you supposed to act or behave? Like the government commands you to?

[tpsisokayiguess]

<3 ... :3

[NeuroParadise]

I dont trust therapy sorry

[RevolutionaryJam]

I teach piano and I see the kids love my unauthoritarian approach, I don't tell them what to play I give them the opportunity to find out what they love playing and help them learn that

it's funny though, when they come at first and I ask them a simple question like "which of there (2 or 3) pieces would you prefer to start with" they really can't answer! they've been trained not to make decisions for themselves at school and at home???? weird!!

[RevolutionaryJam]

how to talk so kid will listen and listen so kids will talk and summerhill - two MUT READ books for parents, parents to be, and EVERYONE I've no kids and I've benefitted tremendously from this knowledge