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  • Upfrank ))

  • It seems rare that a woman will be honest and it is frustrating - even when they do like me they fail to tell me this, especially because I don't always pick up on their "hints".

  • Thanks for this video.

  • Actually they're huge, don't blame the camera.

  • You're hot being an Asian with big tits.

  • HER BUST SIZE.... ohmygawd!!

  • 4:33 was EPIC!!!! You looked so cute! =) Just saying. =P

  • is that jessica bangkok lol

  • OMG!!!! that's like word for word everything i heard from this girl I'm interested in. She must watch your channel or something. I feel cheated or something :(

  • you have nice tits

  • Having fun and friends can be better than a commitment!

  • @Mobile3999 Screw platonic friends of the opposite sex if it ain't friends with benefits it's nothing at. Do you if you are a man want to settle for that?

  • hot outfit showing off them curves.

    you know it's not just the ladies sugarcoating every lil damn thing nowadays beating around the bush. i know alot of doods that be doing the same damn shit.. guy's be scared of there own damn ladie not tellin them how it is and telling the truth.

    then agian hell has no fury like a womans scorn.

  • God, your tits are huge.

  • i like this video. The girl i am talking to i think she is afraid to tell me she is not interested in me. She avoid a lot of question but still chat with me often which can be confusing. what should i do? I think I should be really straight forward and say "do you like me or have any interest in me?" I am not sure if that is good idea or not.

  • i would say its better to ask and find out rather then guess at it. Whats the worst that could happen.You either finds out she isn't interested in you or that she is interested in you. I think the reason your worried about asking is because YOU'R interested in her. Better to know the truth man :)

  • thanks! yeah your right!

  • @cosmicdragon It is better to know the truth, but if you like your friend you may get trampled in the end. People say the relationship will be the same, but it will never be because that person knows that you like him or her making things awkward.

  • Amen.

    Just be upfrank and stop beating around the bush people. You got to break a few eggs to make an omelet.

  • hey Vanae, what if you can tell if a guy likes you just by the way he acts but he is one of those guys with low confidence and would never tell you? Cuz there is this guy that I can tell has times where he likes me and just by his actions I get the feeling he likes me but I definetly dont like him like that.. he is a friend, and i dont know how I would just bring that up

  • Nice Boods, show more!

  • I've had that same scenario happen to me too. who's the girl in the skit? kinda looks like a sister or something or is that you? and idk why I couldn't stop staring at your breasts... =] sorry V no disrespect I just admire the female body.

  • wow you are sooo beutiful!

    with a nice pair ;)

  • i like this advice vid, are you a graduate or something?

  • Hey guys? I'm all for the breast comments but I'm wondering if we should stop talking about 'em now; take a look at the Related Videos. I just hope we're not attracting the wrong kind of attention.

  • My one female friend couldn't figure out why a guy was still chasing her after she had told him 'no', and had done so seriously. Low and behold, she still had fun with him, smiled around him, laughed with him, etc. For guys, actions speak louder than words. Make sure your words match them.

  • i love thisone!

    :/ demet! jaja

  • :)

    Vanae

  • My niece said we should get married. She always says that, I had to explain that we don't know each other. She thought you were actually talking to me.

  • aww that's adorable.

  • My niece saw your video, and said "She is so Pretty!" (She is only 7)

  • PSS- don't mind the boobs. can't help it, if me gots 'em  <--hahaha sweeet. i just dont knw wat to say.

  • i love the winking...ahahah vanaeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee ur gorgeous

  • Great vid. Lot's of help.

  • ah this vid helps out alot thanks n_n

    oh i like an Asian with nice boobs x)

  • I don't mind the boobs >:3

  • I have never experienced those

  • wow, just wow

  • Great video! I could use some pointers with these at an earlier stage of time.

    And by the way, you are way too hot in that golden Kimo. Haha, too much cleavage, and you seriously rocks!!! :)

  • I really love the vid and you do point out really good observations :D

  • NOT ALL GIRLS, but i'd say about more than half you meet, will not be able to express their emotions in words and be able to have you understand what's really going on.

    bah this is difficult saying typing this to where other people understand lol -.-

  • I understand what you're saying. I know exactly what you mean.

  • gahhh only so much room in a text.

    Like i said before dont be mean about laying out what's really there.

    If you two are friends, and she rejects the offer to another level, be understanding (it may be a downer cause this is "love" we're talkin bout.) If you 2 are truely friends you will last that way.

    If the friendship becomes awkward, tell her that, maybe you shouldnt be friends, maybe you can work it out somehow.

    This is no way her fault at all (im being serious)

  • Guys, you need to think outside the box, and predict a little bit, dont think it's your fault lol

    Dont ask if it's yourself because that's what everyone does (shows that you think low self confidence, chicks dont like that).

    When a girl makes reasons, then she's not worth it. Call her out by saying how you feel "If you're not wanting to take this to the next level, then just say so *and remember to make a natural smile*" dont be mean about it, just make sure you both have an understanding.

  • PREACH IT VANAE!!!! I hate it when chicks don't tell it like it is.

  • All you losers commenting on what she's wearing are just that, losers. You shouldn't be staring at someone's chest while they talk anyway. Don't wear jeans, dudes, because the girl might stare at your package instead of your face. Idiots.

  • I think I just saw her using iphone upside down 0_o

    Thanks nice advise

  • gooood video, it's absolutely essential to be frank abouta guys romantic chances . guys usually have no problem with a NO,

    when you waffle and hedge you confuse the issue

  • seriously vanae ...i can't concentrate with you in that kimono ...thingy.....good god!!

  • You're so beautiful, and I'm not saying that because there's cleavage in this video haha. You give great advice.

  • It's fine Vanae. You can go ahead and delete the rest of my comments as well. I unsubbed - and will move along to a place where I'm appreciated.

    I didn't mean to cause trouble in paradise, later.

    P.S. I'm not a supporter of "being positive" when that entails, censorship of dissenting voices and/or criticisms - because, that's not positive - it's oppressive.

    Life isn't all rainbows and snowflakes, you know. You have to take the good with the bad.

  • O-kay, I'm going to speak up here. Again. Because this isn't the first time I've heard the "censorship = oppression" argument and, frankly, it's ridiculous.

    For one thing, Draco, you HAVEN'T been censored. You were asked to post more sensibly. Not the end of the world, is it? And secondly, if you go to a club and you're asked to follow certain rules, do you say "I'm being oppressed"? Of course not. Vanae, and everyone else on YouTube, has rules they expect people to follow on their videos.

  • theDracoIX - It wasn't witty. In fact, if you have to say something you wrote yourself is witty, that's a good indication that it isn't.

  • when u say AWSUM, its such a cute voice!

    can u use that voice in other videos too?

    <3

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  • thank u so much ur da best i love watching ur videos u really know bout all of this stuff u always help me in everything ur da best dont ever stop doing viedos please i luv u =]

  • Oh my god Vanae.. I know plenty of women that need to see this video haha.

    Cool video.

  • do your boobs just look big or are they reallyy

  • her boobs are just very pretty

    and she chooses good clothing to show off her cleavage lol

  • women these days are too free to say and do what they want.

    negatives: women manipulate men more than the past, women have become too materialistic, women have become too outspoken, they are becoming to choosy, etc....

    I believe women out to reverse to what they were doing in the 50's. They got their point across so it's time to go back and be a woman.

  • Who's Frank cutie? You've obviously got him on the brain! :)

  • Part 1: Vanae - I think you might be sugarcoating yer reasoning a bit i.e. non-confrontational.

    Girls, don't tell it like it is - because they like having a string of guys (ones who have something to offer) chasing after them - it's an ego / powertrip sort of thing.

    You see how the girl acts, while on the phone with her boyfriend. She loves the attention from the other guy as well as the idea that she has many options available to her.

    Cont...

  • Part 2: Let's be honest, girls can be needy - and they crave attention.

    A girl has no problem telling a guy like it is, if she has zero interest in him i.e. thinks he has nothing to potentially offer... whether that be money, a ride, an errand, a backup or just an ego boast.

  • Part 3: But, then you give good advice by telling the guy to move on and not let the girl use him, so high five!

  • I am a 32 male..I think her videos are wonderful. She says all the things that I wish I knew when I was 22. She is a very inteligent and beautiful girl!

  • meh, nuff with all the advice. I remember some video you made and there you asked what we wanted your videos to be about! My answer, more of your personal life (yeah I know it sounds creepy, but it's not.). Why, ´cause it'll be more interesting and I bet you'll get more subs!

  • I do agree with that, actually. I love the advice, since Vanae is great at giving advice, but it's also very fulfilling to get to know the person in the video. Then again, there's no reason Vanae can't do both. ^_^

  • Am i the only one who's appreciating the hell out of what she's wearing? seriously.... can't just be me

  • vanae always got "frank"'s up in her head :)

  • im writing this comment becuz theres alot of long ones, and i luv ur vids =]

  • Vanae, please ignore this itsanthonyhere character. They are clearly mentally ill.

    You wear what you want to wear and you show what you want to show. We do not judge.

    A woman has every right to express her sexuality without having to be held to a different standard than a man.

    Now - burn that bra, bby. Girl Power!!!1

  • is that girl with the curly hair related to you?

    she kinda looks like you, and talks like you :)

    ur awesome!

  • nopes. she's a friend :)

    and she IS awesome!

  • omg u really have nice boobs dont take in a bad way cuz im a girl lol a/w im passing thru this right now i dont like dis guy n hes trying to get with me but i cant tell him dat i dont like him cuz i dont want to hurt him n i still cant u have to help me

  • thanks girl. tell him directly that you're not interested in him that way. women dont have to be pleasers. if you're feeling it, then you're not.

  • she can wear watever the hell she wants

  • wow you have REALLY nice boobs

  • i could relate to the situations in the videos.

    p.s. really trying hard to look at your eyes and not at your.....dress.

  • men.. haha

    (if u r a man)

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  • Obviously yes. But, I don't understand how people write that stuff on here. They are obviously middle aged single guys, which is fine, but it's like that new-to-the-internet-adult language.

    Most intelligent girls are really sick of guys who can't hold an intelligent convo without looking at their tits. The irony is..that girl probably WOULD like to make sweet, passionate and aggressive love..but the man who gives it to her can NOT be a dude that can't handle seeing boobs through a shirt...

  • don't mistaken what i WANT TO WEAR, with trying to get views. i dont NEED to get more views. I AM COMFORTABLE WITH MYSELF SO I WEAR WHAT I WANT TO WEAR.

    god forbid that i wear a top which reveals my chest sometimes. (sarcasm)

    how i present myself on my show is how i'd present myself in person. and i am confident of that.

    don't place a judgement. if you don't like it, don't watch it.

    =)

    Vanae

  • Ok, to be honest, I knew you'd be more likely to respond to a comment if it was something that caused a "stir" in your mood, and then of course there always has to be the dude that jumps in and agrees with you so he looks good.

    You know I love you and what you do, let's be honest. The only difference is I don't sit on here and be like, "OMG BOOBS..can't..stare..away..."

    I'm excited to get a response from you, though :P Sort of like getting a returned call from a celebrity. Sort of.

  • if you want to say something, say something meaningful with substance..NOT with the intention just to get someone's attention.

    THAT will cause loss of respect

    that will be the last i say of that.

    whoot.

    vanae

  • Not with the intention just to get someone's attention? Isn't a lot of your advice about using intentions to get someone's attention? That's how attraction works most of the time. Intentions. You read guys' intentions and decide whether or not you want to do this or that.

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  • I think you're taking me way too seriously.

    I know you're not all a bunch of drooling..trogs. But, who says, "nice bossom" anymore except people like my grandma? I just couldn't imagine being someone who buts their goodies online when they know the majority of the people watching it are probably in their late 50s or so.

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  • obviously, you don't know what you're talking about.

    50% of my viewers are female.

    the highest age demographic of my viewers are 17-25.

    so you can shut it.

    i have no problem TELLING IT HOW IT IS.

    PS- people should get someone's attention in a genuine and positive way.

  • Well, if it makes any difference, I said, "probably."

    Why are you getting so fiesty?? And if you have no problem telling it how it is, why do you have a problem hearing things the way they are?

    I wasn't trying to piss you off. It's just, at my uni for example, the most beautiful and attractive women never have to dress all ho-ish like the rest of the girls do trying to be attractive. I just get a little bummed when I see the genuinely beautiful girls/women show their stuff online.

  • But they're not the way they are, itsanthonyhere. You're just saying the way you think they are without any proof. You're talking nonsense and practically calling all the guys here pervs for what were simply light-hearted, good-natured comments and Vanae already said she can dress how she like and doesn't mind the comments. Why should you?

    Face it; people watch Vanae's videos for advice and entertainment. If people want to see skin, they go elsewhere. It's logical.

  • itsanthony - first of all, guys AND girls would jump into this convo because it's the right thing to do, not something as selfish as "to look good". That might be why you do it but you're just acting like a jerk here, so people will pull you up on it.

    Second, if Vanae was doing this for more views, then why wouldn't she just wear a bikini for all her videos? It's an outfit, get over it. People watch Vanae's videos for her advice but YOU'RE the "certain type of male" focusing on her chest.

  • Impossible to make eye contact. Glad to have you back.

  • how long did it take for your boobs to grow so big?

  • Man once I did ask someone's number and I didn't initiate contact ever then one day she txt's me and asks me how it's goin so what am I suppose to think? Of course she wants to go out! So I asked her out and she said she was busy -.-" Jebus send a guy a straight signal. So frustrating when girls do that.

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  • WOW!

    Vanae, after all this time, this vid here has gotten me 2 really C 4 the 1st time, what a luscious, bulbous, sperical, drinkable, gorgeous pair of EYES you have. So pretty. :)

    Anyway, killer to hear how your seminar went, since I thought it'd B a good idea 2 help get U Out There.(U were already on it )

    Still 1day, if the stars ever line up 4 it, it would B fun 2 C you & Natalie T & Michelle P. collab. Not attached 2 the idea, but it would just be awesome.

    -Steve/SF/CA

  • she's hot

  • Hey vanae-

    This is a pretty random question, but since you're a dating coach and all I'm SURRRE you're familiar with the whole "Pick up artist" scene.....

    what's your take on it? do u think it's good, bad, or just weird lol?

  • great question!

    i will be doing a video on this very topic soon!

  • Don't listen to venae. Girls don't need to be frank. It's rude to tell a guy you don't want to be with him. This is the real answer. Guys need to attack. She'll only be comfortable when she knows she's all you want. Don't give up. Be relentless. Don't leave her alone. Just keep trying to get all up in her. In a good way. Flattery goes so far. Get her!!!! Be pumped!!!! That's why the guys that are stupid and don't even have the brains to think twice or create a scenario in their mind of...

  • you're basically telling people to be 'desperate' and become sideline guys. who the hell wants to waste time on a chick on doesn't want them?

  • I'm sorry you disagree! A guy shouldn't be a sideline guy. I don't really know what made you think that's what I was implying by my comments to be more aggressive when a guy likes a girl... The thing is my last comment was more in context of this video. I generally dislike being super-direct. I guess I'm more shy. But it seemed to me in this video that if the guy would say "You're coming with me!" instead of "Hey you want to go out sometime?" (not verbatim) he'd have a much better shot at...

  • ...spending time with her. Like, it seems like she's thinking deep down, "I'm flattered, but if you have to ask me, you prob don't deserve me" I don't know. Don't girls want guys to go after them?

  • Lol I'm asking another question even though you're pissed at me for telling people to listen to me instead... I want to know how you're supposed to take it if i ask a girl out and she says "she's not at that place right now" but then you see her with another guy like the next week, or you find out she's dating someone else a week later? Stupid question? Swallow my pride and move on i guess...

  • @oakleywellington Dude you sound a simp there is nothing wrong with a female telling you she doesn't want you. I rather have a female to tell me the truth than lead me on that's real it's not rude. It's rude to lead people on thinking they are going to be more than friendship. You must be one of those nice guys who can't take rejection it's a part of life.

  • fake people intrique me! they try so hard to be fake & think everyone is dumb.

  • Oh yeah and you look totally stunning in this video Vanae! NEVER feel like you need to hide your body. A world without cleavage would be a sad, sad place. :-)

  • as would a world without Vanae!

  • Its pretty funny how alot of women tell guys they are not attracted to all kinds of crap. Ladies tend to have all these rules, guidelines and standards that seem to disappear when a guy they really like comes along. Don't believe their hype.

  • Vanae, whenever I watch yer videos... it's like that scene from Wayne's World - where, Wayne is watching Cassandra sing on stage.

    "...dreamweaver, I believe you can get me through the night..."

    If you don't know what I'm talking about, watch here:

    Scene is @ 2:10 watch?v=LT-PfoUatIo

    XD

  • I know exactly what you are talking about.

    schwing!

  • i came

  • ok im gonna be honest .. vanae u need to stop wearing that shirt and bending over towards the cam.. it makes it very hard for me to follow what ur saying ..haha but i missed ur vids .. ;)

  • Then tape a piece of paper over her breasts on the screen. She should not have to alter herself for your stupid breast fetish.

  • See, I missed you so much I forgot to comment on what you were saying. I'm so glad you said that. You confirmed what I always thought. If a woman isn't interested, just swing the axe. Cut him off. Softening the blow does nothing but cause her aggravation and him a lot of pain. (I know this first hand. It would have been a lot less painful over time if she'd have just cut me off. When it was over I felt like I was just being jerked around.)

  • we need more Dr. Vanae appearances in the future

  • i think i can arrange that

    ;)

  • Welcome home.  Missed you much.

  • one of your best vids yet! keep going vanae! i love your vids!

  • let's do this!

  • Vanae, what does it mean - to be human.

  • This used to happen to me constantly. Now I just move on before I start to hear these lines, it saves you both some embarrassment. You start to pick up on the cues that a girl is simply not into you.

    BTW Vanae this is the cutie Irving from Facebook ;)

  • good for you!

    bonjour irving!

  • kinda laggs from time to time... :O

  • Vanae I love ur advice man. You get straight to the point and dont beat around the bush.

  • Hi Vanae, I have some friends who have crushes on me, Im in school so its not like I can just sort of not talk to them for awhile. I've been told I lead people on quite a few times and I dont mean to but maybe by being nice to them they expect something. Its not as easy as it sounds to be upfrank lol

  • =] great!

  • u really kill me!!!

  • damnnnn girll

  • Ahhhhhhh!!!!!!!!! So beautiful!

  • your breasts are large and in charge.

  • Vanae your sexy!!!!!!

  • u should have u own show ....alot of girls could learn from u :-)...

  • that girl in your video has a great smile

  • yeah, she's beautiful!

    :)

  • Damn if my gf sees my comment she's probably going to kill me ._.;..

  • how would she see your comment lol... she knows your secret idenity as xgexdirector lol....

  • Yeeep she uses my account because she watches the exact same people.

  • Oh, I won't deffinetly mind the boobs..

  • friendzoning sucks

    WHY THE FUCK DO WOMEN DO THIS FUUUUUUUUUUUUCK

  • The Friend zone does suck, but the guys do it too!!

  • sorry babe venae i mispelled ur name plz forgive me.... ur freaking awesome why cant i get me a chick as down to earth as you....

  • youtube says coment blocked when i try to spell co-caine... hey venea why will sum girls act desperate but claim they got a man? i was talking to this one girl who went from popular to a no name she played desparate around me but claimed she had a man i never took her serious but turns out shes been single for a while she cant seem to get a man but lies abt being single is if cuz girls in general are weird?

  • well said girl btw your tits look firm as hell wow very nice :)yummy

  • Welcome home Vanae we missed you...

  • you are the hottest vietnamese girl i have ever seen!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • I love the . . . um, dress. Vanae, you have the best taste in fashion. ^_^

    But, more to the point, very good advice. I hope people are taking notes on how to be more upfrank. =)

    (That should be our new word! Seriously. An in-joke for all the V'stars when you make your future videos, Vanae.)

  • thanks sweetie

    yeah, UPFRANK will totally be the v'star word

  • No problem Vanae. ^_^

    And I hope all the comments about your breasts aren't getting on your nerves. I'm sure it's all meant in good fun. Personally, I prefer the Dr Vanae glasses. :)

  • I had to close my eyes in order to understand your video.

  • My problem is that I am too upfront.

    I actually told a girl who liked me and wanted to have a relationship, that I would have sex with her but a relationships is out of the question.

    She was really pissed but it was the truth ....

    I don't understand relationships so I avoid them, but sex is simple .....

    That is the honest truth ... so don't go leaving me comments on how I need to slit my wrist.

  • nice :D love ur clevage ^^

  • OMG that girl is hot as, Heavenly? God Damn!

  • nice boobs. why dont u make a vid by the beach

  • love ur makeup! wow

  • gracias!!

  • wow,

    lov'n those cleavage.

    hows dat for being up front?

  • i love your attitude!

  • i dont know if women will ever be upfront about anything..from my expirience

  • I'm glad you're back, Vanae. The video is very helpful. Thanks for the advice and your entertainment.

  • you're very welcome sweetie

  • Good to have you back in one peice, Vanae! I'd love to hear more about your trip! Take care~

  • Hot

  • lol the conversation was so awkward I couldn't stand listening to it.

  • I think this girl deserves like all of fred's subscribers lol

    It seems so unfair that he has so many, yet vanae is so much better!

    Much love V x

  • i concur

    *wink*

    =)

    vanae

  • I missed ya. :)

  • very womanly..

  • damn you look sexy in glasses.

    And no, i didnt experience either of these things.

  • damn i know how that feels tho i mean i left her and then i came back and i ask if we can start again and she said one of your lines and all i got was "just like to be friends to have friends " .... after a funtion after hour she jumped me and then i found out the next day that im the bad guy cause she was with a guy already

  • i agree LOL

  • Ahhhhhh!!!!!! Vanae is so attractive! Your attitude makes you even more irresistable.

    Back to the vid....now I know how much of a loser I was back then. Those were some of the lines I would hear. Hmm wonder if I'm still a loser.

    Vanae ......ahhhh!!!!!!!!!! Your wonderful and very pleasing to the eyes! I'm in love.