Black women in fact betrayed themselves when they completely turned their backs on all of their elders, the church, black men and black business and completely dumped their entire support base in exchange for drugs, discos, dog tracks and government assistance programs of every concievable kind in the mid 70's.
There is in fact an extremely informative book called "The Black Girl Curse" that very in-depthly covers this exact subject.
There's nothing wrong with independence WHEN YOU'RE SINGLE. When you've established you're in a relationship with someone, you can no longer and should no longer be or need to feel independent.
@johnjohn75235 I just caught the end of it...and that woman does not know the first thing about submission or respect the way she was carrying on....How could you even THINK about living with a woman who will not allow you to speak two words without putting in her loud, obnoxious, overbearing two-cents?
@hrobinson71 I totally agree. I am all for submitting and following someone who is prepared and ready to lead. People don't, and shouldn't, follow just anyone. It doesn't make good sense. But if I can in good conscience find confidence in your leadership, I'm right there behind you!
Leadership should go to the person with the best competencies in a particular sphere of influence. She needed her balls until she met someone with the right stuff. Her elder females lived under different circumstances, so yes there information was not relevant to your time and place. Trust byproduct of actively loving and not talking. I do not require that you check your weapon at the door, just keep your sidearm holstered and on safe. Submission to an idiot is a death sentence, so choose well!
@hrobinson71 Again, this woman endorses the concept that she can 'have it all.' If you watch her vids listed under the screen name (hakashamut), you will see that she believes in sleeping with multiple men. She believes that there's nothing wrong with this, if one embraces it from a 'spiritual' standpoint. It's laughable, because at the end of the day, she's just a whore. Again, this woman is no example, neither is her "husband," and I use the term 'husband' loosely.
@Mary2020VA i'm not saying i agree with ALL her other relationship concepts but when it comes down to the "submission" part i believe the wine is very sweet.
I wouldn't listen to this couple. They have an 'open' marriage. The woman sleeps with whomever she wishes, and her husband sleeps with various women (and probably men as well). Yikes!
@hrobinson71 Their videos are listed under hakashamut (open marriage). Their lifestyle is sick. She sleeps with random men, and he sleeps with random women and men.
I think you should look up the word. "submission" you must be very confused. Nobody goes into a marriage without sacrificing and submitting to the other.
I think the video is really misleading, all the things she mentioned would work with "some" men. They want you to believe that's the blue print for successful healthy "black" relationships when really there is no blueprint, formula or anythings you can do to ensure your relationship will work. The title would make you believe that all "black" men are identical in all aspects of life and if you follow theses 3 easy steps your good. We're all out here trying to make the most out of life.
When you meet someone who wants to help you and improve with you, that's a blessing not an opportunity to start setting secret expectations and assigning roles. I personally don't want a woman who's anything all the time. Maybe sometimes shes hard headed and sometimes shes not. We've gotten so used to having everything made to order, Id like my lady to be a little unpredictable.
I don't understand why both WOMEN and MEN can't have control over their relationships. Why is it that one person always has to be superior. I think the reason why couples fail is because one always thinks they need to be the leader instead having leadership be 50 50. People need to learn this is not a battle, this is a relationship their shouldn't be a power struggle. BASICALLY IT'S SAYING ALL WOMEN NEED TO SHUT THE HELL UP AND BE LIFELESS ROBOTS.
I don't see why we can't just say that we respect and appreciate each other as a couple. They are individuals who came together to share their lives together. As she so passionately displayed, she had trust issues "I couldn't trust him, I couldn't trust him" well that's YOUR issue and that's why he didn't feel like "the man" because she was too controlling. Period. Why the hell are we talking about roles? Besides think of the meaning of role, its a "part" you play (aka "acting"). wink! wink!
Worried about things how their family was going to survive.They're selling Sex not Marriage. We were made to go side by side. We have our different roles but we are a People, Man and Woman. Where does Open Marriage come in?. Then he writes a Book "The 30 min Orgasm. That's some damn BS!! Sex will be good if the Relationship is good, not only that sex is private. Why would anyone go to someone to learn how to have a "Orgasm"? She sounds like some Black "Stepford Wife" Who wants a Robot?
Amani, Why would anyone take advice from Monique about Marriage? She commits "Adultery" on TV with White men, she is vulgar and ignorant and nothing more than a Ant Jemimiah! I went to that 'Power Couples WebSite and guess what one the things they advocate is "Open Marriage". She said I never learned this from gran, her gran, or her mother. That is one of the STUPIDIST Statements a Female Descendant of Slaves could make. I think they were busy trying to take care of the family For Real! Cont.
This sister is smart lovely well spoken and has a good intelligent man that has the wear with all to lead, and seem like a trust worthy person. Problem is there just are not enough men like that in our community. Most will lead you right off a cliff, mess around and let Rey Rey and them lead, and you will find your ass on the street homeless with your kids. It's not that we want to be strong, we have no choice. It's a do or die situation. Shit is critical, that real talk.
please read CRUEL HOAX:Feminism And The New World Order. This book brilliantly explains why men and women cannot bond with each other in the west and who is behind this as well?
SUBMIT? Those sistas are freakin' CRAZY. After everything black women have been through - being treated like doormats, beaten, humiliated, degraded, neglected and so on... this brotha is telling sistas to SUBMIT! He can DROP DEAD... and every other brotha and sista who agrees with the CRAP he's talking, can DROP DEAD too.
@moebigsley1976 In answer to your Question: When I SUBMIT my homework... I am giving it in, without LOWERING myself. When I SUBMIT a sample to the Doctor... I am giving it in, without LOWERING myself. When I SUBMIT my résumé... I am giving it in, without LOWERING myself. But when I SUBMIT to a man... I am giving myself in, to be SUBORDINATE to him – to be LOWER than him. Men and Women are created EQUAL. The ONLY Being we are to SUBMIT to, is our CREATOR.
@KickWhitesOutAfrica, I listened to that video in it's entirety, and no where was there any mention, or any direction to assume a woman is supposed to be "lowering themselves". Where in this video are they saying that woman has to lower herself?
You should try just listening to what there saying without overanalyzing it.
And how is giving yourself over to the person you LOVE equate being sub-ordinate to them? How? Infact why wouldn't you give yourself over to someone you love?
1. To surrender yourself to the authority or will of another
2. To agree to abide by the opinion or authority of another
3. To permit yourself to be subjected to someone
Someone who has AUTHORITY over you is SUPERIOR to you. If you have a SUPERIOR, then you are the INFERIOR. You are LOWER than the SUPERIOR. Superior = HIGH / Inferior = LOW.
And what does that mean for children? If there your children, or nieces & nephews, you don't submit yourself to them? Or, from your rationale, submitting yourself to your own kids equates being subordinate to them.
@moebigsley1976 Why would I want to SUBMIT myself to children? I am the ADULT. My role is to instruct children in the correct way to live and behave. If an ADULT submits to a CHILD, the child will have the upper hand... and that is a sure-fire recipe for disaster. If you don’t get what I’ve said to you so far, then there is no point in me continuing this back and forth with you. Peace.
@KickWhitesOutAfrica, well when you submit in love, (which is submitting to God/creator, which you commented earlier), then there's no problem. And since love is an authority, then I guess that's why some folks have no problem with it, while folks such as yourself do.
I'm guessing, but it looks you see it as a power thing, rather than a power of LOVE thing.
@KickWhitesOutAfrica, considering this whole topic is dealing with relationships/love, and not politics/power, that's probably why you have your stance. Power is an authority and Love is an authority. I'm guessing, but you see "submit" and apply it to power, the video and I see "submit" and apply to love, which makes sense, considering the video is talking about relationships.
A lioness doesn't submit to a zebra, but she submits to her cubs. If you see a video on it you'd understand.
Great vid hopefully both sexes can get this knowledge. This was my problem with black women too. Especially in arguments they start to immaculate a man and say anything to tear him down instead of arguing over the issue.
@impatientwithdesire and this is why you will stay bitter for the rest your life. Living off the government and doing nothing but perpetuating the negative things about black women.
@50Mrmasta-what in the hay-ell are you talking about?
You are talking to someone you dont know ANYTHING ABOUT based on your OWN racist stereotypes about black women and you want me to fit those stereotypes because thats all you can do when challenged- Namecall and fold like a little bitch?
While submission may be a dirty word to some women, independence is a dirty word to some men. But men, if you find the RIGHT independent woman, you’ll find that she will know how to handle her own in the office and ENJOYS her role as help mate in the home. Now this is just my opinion….but I think that both our men and women need to expect more from the people we choose as mates and do better when it comes to our individual roles in the family. ...
If we can stop looking across the aisle at what our partners are doing wrong and start seeing where we can improve along with what our partners are doing right, we would probably be much better off and there would be more families staying together. Additionally (again, just my opinion) I think that if more MEN and WOMEN thought like this COUPLE marriages would last longer. .
. If more MEN and WOMEN thought like this couple then people would stop looking at black men and women in a negative light. Black men and women each have stereotypes to overcome. For every one woman saying negative things about black men, there is a man saying equally negative things about black women.
I understand all of this but he has to be a true King..he can't be a flake asking for power. He can't be a get over trying to destroy everything that his woman might have built before he came. He should improve their situation(our finances, never shatter our self worth, or dismiss our children) not make it worse. So until we get all of that from our men, we as women will be the same.
I completely agree. However, the caveat to ALL of this is that the man has to be a GODLY man who is, without a shadow of a doubt, leading and exercising his responsibilities (the essence of what a man is). Leader does not equal dictatorship. Submission does not equal inferiority or weakness.
@snookie3 :I agree with u but I know some Godly men who are real ***holes and think their wives place is to cook and clean and I am a Godly guy so I'm not being biased simply being honest about it. And the irony of what u are sayin is indeed that women can let the man be a Leader which does not make him a dictator. And they she can Submit without herself being inferior or weak.
@snookie3 I say to u all Please KNOW THE PERSON U ARE WITH!! I tell everyone I know this cause if ur man is abusive or anything like that then he doesnt deserve u. Stop complaining about it cause its probly who he is SO... he aint gonna change!! U need to leave. There are good men out there, even if it may take a while to find one, dont "settle" for unhappiness
He is the bread winner and takes good care of his family i can tell u... so yea not all are a waste of time, jus quit tryin to convince urself that u hav no choice cause u always do. The mere fact u complain about SO MANY Terrible men is all the more reason that wen u find a good man u had better treat him good
Its true most and I say most men dont deserve anything at all, but once u find he's wasting time jus leave cause there are better out there and they do deserve to be treated as such. A friend of mine found a woman like who treats him like a king and he's doing his job as head of their household... he's an engineer, has his Masters and tryin to start his own small business, etc.
If the men u know are not good then y are u wasting ur time with them? Y are u complaining instead of doing something about it? If he's lazy, disrespectful, untrustworthy its real simple, he doesn't deserve u, so... Then u leave his sorry ass and find good 1... was that really so difficult?
I agree with this...to an extent. I'm happy making my man happy and supporting him. He also supports me and respects me. It's not a one way street. I don't think it's so much that black women want to wear the pants as it is unrespectable men come at us with an entitlement like because they have a penis they can talk to us any kind of way and should lead. I don't want a disrespectful, untrustworthy, lazy man leading me. That's how you get led into a ditch.
Thank you charisma. Bmare NEVER given roles. But bw are ALWAYS expected to go the extra mile for bm while bm don't have to do ANYTHING. look at the shitty black community yet bm still want to be praised.
@impatientwithdesire oh so ONLY black men are too blame? last time i checked BLACK WOMEN lived in the hood too. and better yet black women OUTNUMBER black men in the BLACK COMMUNITY. oh but i guess you didn't know that. you must've grew up in the suburbs. you don't know shit about the black community or what niggas go through. carlton banks can't comment on black issues. remember i told you that.
@impatientwithdesire If black women have been taking care of the community all alone, according to you, wouldn't the state of the community be black women's fault all alone too? What you said doesn't make sense. You can't claim all the responsibility while taking none of the responsibility too.
@testizel I am bm and I grew up in the hood. First I want to say hell yeah it's the bm's fault. The reason for that is cause just what kingru77 said their is only one C.E.O. and as that C.E.O. we set the standard, we heir and fire, we allow and disallow. The bm has to be the one to first stand up and say this shit isn't acceptable then the bw should support him. That's why women running round yelling independent, cause bm ain't leading like we should. We gotta take our role back.
@testizel Truthfully, I think it's best for blacks who can marry different races to do so. I have no interest in dealing with black related issues. I prefer to live a normal existence with my white fiance. The 'black' American community is mostly pathological.
@Mary2020VA So, is the white community. Were do you think minority populations learn this toxic behavior, from the dominant group that's who! Shameless on showtime is just the 1st dramatic depiction of it. I live around white folk and they are just as fucked up as we are. Just in a different way with the same results.
@Mary2020VA No disrespect but that's a ridiculous concept in my opinion. Some of the shadiest men that I know are white in terms of the way they treat their women. That's not to say that I don't know any shady Black men though. With good communication, cultural, regional, and other small differences can be overcome, but deep issues come in all colors not just black.
Back to the basics. I love it. There are too many people who are trying to redefine what a man/woman relationship should be. This video is refreshing, because it shows a modern couple who seems to know how to relate to each other in a traditional gender role way.
ii know all they say is true. i submit totally to my husband and we are happily married. there is just so many hard headed women out there that refuse to submit. women dont realize that we hold all the power.you treat your man like a king, and he will surely do anything for you
@ZenMamaPolitic This is precisely the reason why I don't watch BET anymore~ Manipulative Racialized, Sexual Politics. So..if I understand correctly; the atonement of women relies upon the Patriarchally dominant Kingship position of Black men. Right? In truth...most Black men are not truly deserving of this treatment. And 'Ms. Precious' as host-Mo' Nique- forgetting to state the underlying factors of racism, & homoeroticism as always present in the hypermasculation of Black men- was expected.
I would love to see a video about how Black men should treat Black women. I think this is a missing link in our community. Some men need to be taught what their role is just like women. How can a woman treat him like a King when he is actually a Pauper. lol I feel there is too much woman- bashing going on, which does not and can not resolve any relationship problems.
I suppose the historic context which has shaped American and Caribbean black gender roles predominantly is the emasculation of black men through slavery and black women needing to fill the void which ensued. This conversation signals a turning point, perhaps, where we ourselves can put that behind us and start reversing the harm caused by slavery, which is a relief.
I agree partially...but I feel whatever works for YOUR relationship may or may not work for others...Ex: Monique and her husband have an open marriage cause it works for them...but that doesn't necessarily mean one way is wrong or right...and you both should support each others dream...you don't want to carry on in a relationship because you resent your partner cause you had to choose either or...
@theankh34 When it comes to being submissive I don't feel women should be submissive to any and everybody because everybody doesn't deserve that...you have choose wisely and along with that comes vulnerability...you have to feel comfortable enough to truly open yourself up to that person...
@theankh34 And to the caption underneath...I do not categorize myself as a black man hater...man hater...or hater of any kind...People will treat you how you let them treat you...and that's where you decide whether you want to put up with it or not...By choice...I am happily single right now because I'm focusing my energy on doing something I love...Simple as that :-) But when the time comes and I do find myself in a relationship...we will do what works for US...Stay blessed!!!
Very true! I believe this! My soon to be husband is my KING! I love being a woman! There is power of submission! Good vid. Sad that most women do not and will not ever see this video in the same light!
Wow!! I know women in today's society that wouldn't agree with this at all!!! BUT they won't agree because no one REALLY has sat down and learned the actual roles of the man AND woman in a marriage.....the man has his role which he should uphold as well as the woman!!.....I agree that this is why there are so many single men AND women...Completely agree. Get back to the roots people, back to the foundation, back to what our roles are in a marriage.
As far as I know in any business structure there is only one C.E.O., not Co-C.E.O. but one singular C.E.O. with the exception of a few partnerships of which many have a majority partner who makes final decisions. What some of these women are wanting doesn't even work in real life but because pride, ego and emotion have clouded their judgment they request it saying "I want a man to be the man but I want to be his equal" which in of itself is a total contradiction.
@kingru77 right, but these hoes don't even know the DEFINITION of submission even AFTER watching the video. just goes to show you some people are so ignorant they block what they don't like even if it will BENEFIT them smh guess they'll just have to be like Anfernee and learn the HARD-A-WAY
Independence is NECESSARY!! Men want us 2 grant them all the PWR, when MAJORITY of u dnt DESERVE it!! Ur credit's JACKD, ur baby's mama(s) hav ur balls in a vice, u dnt hav ur own place, u lack ambition, MONOGAMY's foreign 2 u, as are CHIVALRY, ROMANCE & RESPECT, ur mama tells u how 2 liv ur life, or u allow ur boys 2 dictate how u shud feel - & 4 those who do establish a lil' affluence, now u're "2 good" 2 even be seen with a sistah! But I'm supposd 2 submit 2 YOU, smh?????
don't need to listen past the 12 second mark to know that this is some bullshit. i'll treat you like an equal and if you don't like it you can whine on home to your mother tbqh
@faolkrop More like he leaves you there to a life of loneliness, anger and animal hoarding while he moves on and finds a woman with enough sense and strength to let him take the lead. Understanding that her submission isn't to be his slave or subject but to be his strongest support, the mother of his children and his most trusted counsel when tough decisions have to be made. And in return he submits himself to his Queen and his children by putting their needs and wants before his because....
@kingru77 that's his job. Whether that means working a job he hates to provide, working 2 jobs to provide, or laying down his life in protection of his family. This is the duty of the King to provide, protect, and do whats necessary for the good of the family even making the tough decisions alone.
I believe in submission, both ways. I believe in the King and a Queen leading the household together. Not a Master-Slave relationship in the home. And I believe I can follow the RIGHT man. Not every man has the actual capacity to lead because he may not have been taught how to be man.
To all the women that have a problem with submitting to a GOOD MAN, dont date a good man, get a moron and don't complain about him not being a Real man. Get you a Lazy man and shut up since u dont want a real man to be the Head of the Household, since u have a problem with submitting. Thank you.
I always say marriage is work. Just like your job you have assignments & titles. The manager- your husband, the team leader- you, the wife & the crew- them darn monkeys!!! That's how a company remains successful!!!
Reading the comments it's one thing that clearly stands out that is the idea that men and women are equally and WE ARE NOT EQUALS. If a man and his woman are attacked on the street 9 times out of 10 he's the one defending BOTH of them while she stands away from the fray of which I have no issue because she's a WOMAN. Any man in right mind would not take that asswhooping on the street and go home to a 50/50 partnership because it goes against the nature of the masculine and the feminine.
@lilcary lol you already know. let em stay SINGLE and be "FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS" their whole lives. lol maybe then they'll submit. Oops but they it'll be TOO LATE.
@kingru77 If I'm man enough to take that asswhooping in the street I should be man enough to be the ultimate decision maker in OUR home. That's not to cut any woman short of anything but lets be honest about this. Women, you are the backbone of the household and although we have a partnership in the relationship I'm still King and you are Queen and as such there should only be one voice of the home.
@kingru77 At some point in a 50/50 partnership of shared power in decision making the man will tire of the disagreements and arguing and finally just say' fuck it, you do what you want" which is the worst thing possible. And the reason is no man wants to have every decision up for debate and he will slowly withdraw and animosity will build because this woman who wanted him to the man has essentially taken his masculinity as her own and given him the feminine role in the home.
I don't agree with this vid women should not be submissive in this day and age. Relationships are based on mutual trust and dependency. You have to find what's good in your relationship and build on that. Women, men are natural competitors from birth so if there is competition over things in the house there will be problems. Men are sore losers, yes we are and if you understand and manage that you will always have a great relationship!
@CarlCollins86 read some of the mens posts here and tell me are they not getting heated when they are given competition. Understand you do not need to be submissive just creative in the way you deal with your man. Men are always in a competition no matter what it is it's in our DNA. The response from you is what will make or break the relationship.
Women have held it down for so long and had that "head of household" status to the point where they actually believe they can assume the man's role. Everybody has their place. It took me a hot minute to figure it out. And being submissive is not giving him your power but it puts you in a better position to raise him up.
Do you know what Episode of the Mo'nique Show this video is from ? If so could you please tell me ! I say sorry in advance if something has already asked this question and found out the answer !
@bleuaja WRONG. You not getting it. U can still be you. Everybody has to change a little. Men normally do everything, when we get into a marriage we have to stop thinking about us all the time and focus on our wife. Its a Give a little thing. Yeah some women let the man take over everything because they are both cool with it. Some couples handle things differently.
Man be a man, woman be a woman? How about we be ourselves? The key is to be truly authentic and real with our partners. Be a good listener. As women we need to just sit back and see his perspective. Men often bring logic to situations. Women tend to bring emotion. If we listen we can understand. At the end of the day everybody's different. Some women are very logical and approach things that way. Some men are hesitant to make decisions on their own and want a woman's assurance. It just depends.
@chicagomycity "Men bring logic, women tend to bring emotion". This is exactly why men who have shown themselves to be logical, responsible and trustworthy are the types of men women should submit to. I'd never advise a woman to submit to a fool.
Black men in USA are soft..they let girls rule them..they act like they have fear in their eyes when they saw black woman..they better take some lessons from europe, when guys are the men of the house and women, play their role of woman..so...
The idea that women need to submit to men is misogynistic and birthed out of the idea that women are inferior to men. As a wife I will not SUBMIT to my husband, but I will Love, Respect, and Honor him and our vows. To suggest that wives are meant to be submissions elevates the man to a King position and his wife to a royal subject. I'm sorry I want to be treated as a queen and if we're taking about submission it should be both ways.
sorry but why has it got to be black women, at the end of the day its moreso black man that go off galavanting with other races, it should be just men and women straight. furthermore, i am not trying to have a penis, im just making sure that this is an equal feeding into a relationship, i am not just the woman standing behind my man, i am beside him. i am not surrendering in a relationship, thats not what shits about. im a modern and contemporary woman. fuck (some of) this video.
I get what they're saying but they need to look at the other side. Clearly this man is a good Godly role model for her to 'submit' to but can most men out there really boast the same?? Seriously, if they are going to call out to women to submit then they need to call out to men to be worthy husband that women can trust to lead them.
I'm dissappointed in monique in endorsing this, she needs to get over her fat girl issues and not feel like she needs to be this hyper-feminine submissive in order to get thier attention. Her own man cheats on her, and she allows it!
All this is doing is reinforcing gendered stereotypes/roles that keep both genders in the dark ages. This outdated mentality keeps Black womden dependant on Black men...which is fucking stupid. If a man can't stand a women who is independant, then he needs a weaker woman to mind fuck, not me.
I don't believe this video's agenda was to blast all sistas bc alot of sistas are having to be the male and female and are willing to be receptive to a real man's presence in their life. However, their is an overwhelmingly majority of sistas out here now that don't know how to cook (survive yes, but cook) clean, iron, wash clothes, or be acceptable to a real man wanting to invest in them. Getting their hair, nails, shoes, free drinks is all that their concerned with. When a man steps in and tri
My people, my people where is the unity. What was the turning point in our culture that it became blk men vs. blk women (and let me tell you everything your gender is doing wrong yada yada yada) I mean agree with this video because that's the way I've watched all the women in my fam have successful relationships. But I HATE the title it make me as a blk women feel attacked and belittled and unworthy.
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Black women in fact betrayed themselves when they completely turned their backs on all of their elders, the church, black men and black business and completely dumped their entire support base in exchange for drugs, discos, dog tracks and government assistance programs of every concievable kind in the mid 70's.
There is in fact an extremely informative book called "The Black Girl Curse" that very in-depthly covers this exact subject.
pc0p1mp 1 week ago
so trueeeeeeeeeeee
SexxyyK 1 week ago
great vid. Kenya and Carl, I think, have an excellent program for singles and couples.
SuperMiaEl 2 weeks ago in playlist My everything Playlist...
There's nothing wrong with independence WHEN YOU'RE SINGLE. When you've established you're in a relationship with someone, you can no longer and should no longer be or need to feel independent.
Of course.
aGwEENapple 2 weeks ago
WOW I JUST SEEN THIS COUPLE ON DR.PHIL IN THEY HAVE AN OPEN MARRIAGE THEY CRAZY AS HELL
johnjohn75235 2 weeks ago
@johnjohn75235 I just caught the end of it...and that woman does not know the first thing about submission or respect the way she was carrying on....How could you even THINK about living with a woman who will not allow you to speak two words without putting in her loud, obnoxious, overbearing two-cents?
Tizzle21 2 weeks ago
Yes, the poser is in the submission... Luke Jesus submitted His life so that we may live.
NappyRootzz 2 weeks ago
You females can learn from this woman.
blackbolt75 3 weeks ago
Of course she had a big "penis", her husband is clearly gay
kookoo78 1 month ago
Clueless is cheating on him, and her husband too, while they need ''air''
enarow 1 month ago
@hrobinson71 I totally agree. I am all for submitting and following someone who is prepared and ready to lead. People don't, and shouldn't, follow just anyone. It doesn't make good sense. But if I can in good conscience find confidence in your leadership, I'm right there behind you!
naturallyfee 1 month ago
let's go back to the 50s then....
fairyglitz 1 month ago 2
Leadership should go to the person with the best competencies in a particular sphere of influence. She needed her balls until she met someone with the right stuff. Her elder females lived under different circumstances, so yes there information was not relevant to your time and place. Trust byproduct of actively loving and not talking. I do not require that you check your weapon at the door, just keep your sidearm holstered and on safe. Submission to an idiot is a death sentence, so choose well!
hrobinson71 1 month ago
@hrobinson71 Again, this woman endorses the concept that she can 'have it all.' If you watch her vids listed under the screen name (hakashamut), you will see that she believes in sleeping with multiple men. She believes that there's nothing wrong with this, if one embraces it from a 'spiritual' standpoint. It's laughable, because at the end of the day, she's just a whore. Again, this woman is no example, neither is her "husband," and I use the term 'husband' loosely.
Mary2020VA 1 month ago
@Mary2020VA i'm not saying i agree with ALL her other relationship concepts but when it comes down to the "submission" part i believe the wine is very sweet.
testizel 1 month ago
I wouldn't listen to this couple. They have an 'open' marriage. The woman sleeps with whomever she wishes, and her husband sleeps with various women (and probably men as well). Yikes!
Mary2020VA 1 month ago
@Mary2020VA Evidence please! Post a link or something.
hrobinson71 1 month ago
@hrobinson71 Their videos are listed under hakashamut (open marriage). Their lifestyle is sick. She sleeps with random men, and he sleeps with random women and men.
Mary2020VA 1 month ago
I think you should look up the word. "submission" you must be very confused. Nobody goes into a marriage without sacrificing and submitting to the other.
delambart 1 month ago
I think the video is really misleading, all the things she mentioned would work with "some" men. They want you to believe that's the blue print for successful healthy "black" relationships when really there is no blueprint, formula or anythings you can do to ensure your relationship will work. The title would make you believe that all "black" men are identical in all aspects of life and if you follow theses 3 easy steps your good. We're all out here trying to make the most out of life.
Ra4itall 1 month ago
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When you meet someone who wants to help you and improve with you, that's a blessing not an opportunity to start setting secret expectations and assigning roles. I personally don't want a woman who's anything all the time. Maybe sometimes shes hard headed and sometimes shes not. We've gotten so used to having everything made to order, Id like my lady to be a little unpredictable.
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Ra4itall 1 month ago
I'm sorry but I don't believe in SUBMIT! NO YOUR POSITION? bull shit!
MsNiecyW 1 month ago
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I don't understand why both WOMEN and MEN can't have control over their relationships. Why is it that one person always has to be superior. I think the reason why couples fail is because one always thinks they need to be the leader instead having leadership be 50 50. People need to learn this is not a battle, this is a relationship their shouldn't be a power struggle. BASICALLY IT'S SAYING ALL WOMEN NEED TO SHUT THE HELL UP AND BE LIFELESS ROBOTS.
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AliEsteem 1 month ago
I don't see why we can't just say that we respect and appreciate each other as a couple. They are individuals who came together to share their lives together. As she so passionately displayed, she had trust issues "I couldn't trust him, I couldn't trust him" well that's YOUR issue and that's why he didn't feel like "the man" because she was too controlling. Period. Why the hell are we talking about roles? Besides think of the meaning of role, its a "part" you play (aka "acting"). wink! wink!
sourmak 1 month ago 3
@khbanks on Twitter Bank.on me sharinh how i Really feel
striving1 1 month ago
I love this video! my marriage failed when i was forced to be the provider of the Relationship!
striving1 1 month ago
this thing was stupid. just respect each other as equals. black people need to stop with this master/slave stupidness.
gryphen 1 month ago
@agray77 I concur, I started feeling a lot as I watched. Your post reminded me I am not crazy. Thanks
oneavgnana69 1 month ago
Worried about things how their family was going to survive.They're selling Sex not Marriage. We were made to go side by side. We have our different roles but we are a People, Man and Woman. Where does Open Marriage come in?. Then he writes a Book "The 30 min Orgasm. That's some damn BS!! Sex will be good if the Relationship is good, not only that sex is private. Why would anyone go to someone to learn how to have a "Orgasm"? She sounds like some Black "Stepford Wife" Who wants a Robot?
request2000 1 month ago
Amani, Why would anyone take advice from Monique about Marriage? She commits "Adultery" on TV with White men, she is vulgar and ignorant and nothing more than a Ant Jemimiah! I went to that 'Power Couples WebSite and guess what one the things they advocate is "Open Marriage". She said I never learned this from gran, her gran, or her mother. That is one of the STUPIDIST Statements a Female Descendant of Slaves could make. I think they were busy trying to take care of the family For Real! Cont.
request2000 1 month ago
This sister is smart lovely well spoken and has a good intelligent man that has the wear with all to lead, and seem like a trust worthy person. Problem is there just are not enough men like that in our community. Most will lead you right off a cliff, mess around and let Rey Rey and them lead, and you will find your ass on the street homeless with your kids. It's not that we want to be strong, we have no choice. It's a do or die situation. Shit is critical, that real talk.
ruapraia 1 month ago
please read CRUEL HOAX:Feminism And The New World Order. This book brilliantly explains why men and women cannot bond with each other in the west and who is behind this as well?
SpectacularFrontiers 1 month ago
SUBMIT? Those sistas are freakin' CRAZY. After everything black women have been through - being treated like doormats, beaten, humiliated, degraded, neglected and so on... this brotha is telling sistas to SUBMIT! He can DROP DEAD... and every other brotha and sista who agrees with the CRAP he's talking, can DROP DEAD too.
KickWhitesOutAfrica 1 month ago
@KickWhitesOutAfrica, Question? If you had homework and had to hand it in, what are you doing? Your submitting.
If your at the doctor, and the doctor asked you to give a sample of something, what are you doing? Submitting.
When you apply for a job, what do you do, you submit a resume.
So, "submit" must mean to "give over"
But there's a problem to "submit" yourself to someone you love, and even more perplexing someone that loves you back.
moebigsley1976 1 month ago
@moebigsley1976 In answer to your Question: When I SUBMIT my homework... I am giving it in, without LOWERING myself. When I SUBMIT a sample to the Doctor... I am giving it in, without LOWERING myself. When I SUBMIT my résumé... I am giving it in, without LOWERING myself. But when I SUBMIT to a man... I am giving myself in, to be SUBORDINATE to him – to be LOWER than him. Men and Women are created EQUAL. The ONLY Being we are to SUBMIT to, is our CREATOR.
KickWhitesOutAfrica 1 month ago
@KickWhitesOutAfrica, I listened to that video in it's entirety, and no where was there any mention, or any direction to assume a woman is supposed to be "lowering themselves". Where in this video are they saying that woman has to lower herself?
You should try just listening to what there saying without overanalyzing it.
And how is giving yourself over to the person you LOVE equate being sub-ordinate to them? How? Infact why wouldn't you give yourself over to someone you love?
moebigsley1976 1 month ago
@moebigsley1976 What is the meaning of the word SUBMIT?
1. To surrender yourself to the authority or will of another
2. To agree to abide by the opinion or authority of another
3. To permit yourself to be subjected to someone
Someone who has AUTHORITY over you is SUPERIOR to you. If you have a SUPERIOR, then you are the INFERIOR. You are LOWER than the SUPERIOR. Superior = HIGH / Inferior = LOW.
KickWhitesOutAfrica 1 month ago
@KickWhitesOutAfrica, [contnued]
And what does that mean for children? If there your children, or nieces & nephews, you don't submit yourself to them? Or, from your rationale, submitting yourself to your own kids equates being subordinate to them.
moebigsley1976 1 month ago
@moebigsley1976 Why would I want to SUBMIT myself to children? I am the ADULT. My role is to instruct children in the correct way to live and behave. If an ADULT submits to a CHILD, the child will have the upper hand... and that is a sure-fire recipe for disaster. If you don’t get what I’ve said to you so far, then there is no point in me continuing this back and forth with you. Peace.
KickWhitesOutAfrica 1 month ago
@KickWhitesOutAfrica, well when you submit in love, (which is submitting to God/creator, which you commented earlier), then there's no problem. And since love is an authority, then I guess that's why some folks have no problem with it, while folks such as yourself do.
I'm guessing, but it looks you see it as a power thing, rather than a power of LOVE thing.
moebigsley1976 1 month ago
@KickWhitesOutAfrica, considering this whole topic is dealing with relationships/love, and not politics/power, that's probably why you have your stance. Power is an authority and Love is an authority. I'm guessing, but you see "submit" and apply it to power, the video and I see "submit" and apply to love, which makes sense, considering the video is talking about relationships.
A lioness doesn't submit to a zebra, but she submits to her cubs. If you see a video on it you'd understand.
moebigsley1976 1 month ago 3
Men aren't fucking GOD bitch!
candygirl050792 1 month ago 2
Oh shut up bitch making it sound like men are better than women, odd bitches
candygirl050792 1 month ago
Shut the fuck up.
voicesoflostpoets 1 month ago
If only everyone knew this all dates back to the Bible. The Bible instructs this and much more. People gotta wake up.
Tzuseiji 1 month ago
Great vid hopefully both sexes can get this knowledge. This was my problem with black women too. Especially in arguments they start to immaculate a man and say anything to tear him down instead of arguing over the issue.
50Mrmasta 1 month ago
@50Mrmasta oh shut the fuck up. you are not god and never willbe. nor will any otherself hating black man.
Yallaint deserving of ANY praise cause yall dont do shit.
impatientwithdesire 1 month ago
@impatientwithdesire and this is why you will stay bitter for the rest your life. Living off the government and doing nothing but perpetuating the negative things about black women.
50Mrmasta 1 month ago
@50Mrmasta-what in the hay-ell are you talking about?
You are talking to someone you dont know ANYTHING ABOUT based on your OWN racist stereotypes about black women and you want me to fit those stereotypes because thats all you can do when challenged- Namecall and fold like a little bitch?
impatientwithdesire 1 month ago
@impatientwithdesire I just did the same thing you did to me so check yourself before you go after another person.
50Mrmasta 1 month ago
While submission may be a dirty word to some women, independence is a dirty word to some men. But men, if you find the RIGHT independent woman, you’ll find that she will know how to handle her own in the office and ENJOYS her role as help mate in the home. Now this is just my opinion….but I think that both our men and women need to expect more from the people we choose as mates and do better when it comes to our individual roles in the family. ...
OneLadyLaLa 1 month ago
If we can stop looking across the aisle at what our partners are doing wrong and start seeing where we can improve along with what our partners are doing right, we would probably be much better off and there would be more families staying together. Additionally (again, just my opinion) I think that if more MEN and WOMEN thought like this COUPLE marriages would last longer. .
OneLadyLaLa 1 month ago
. If more MEN and WOMEN thought like this couple then people would stop looking at black men and women in a negative light. Black men and women each have stereotypes to overcome. For every one woman saying negative things about black men, there is a man saying equally negative things about black women.
OneLadyLaLa 1 month ago
DISLIKE.
SilentBat 1 month ago
I understand all of this but he has to be a true King..he can't be a flake asking for power. He can't be a get over trying to destroy everything that his woman might have built before he came. He should improve their situation(our finances, never shatter our self worth, or dismiss our children) not make it worse. So until we get all of that from our men, we as women will be the same.
blackeee1 1 month ago
This should just be titled "How women should treat men". i don't see what race has to do with it. This shit happens across the whole spectrum.
david02129 1 month ago 16
I completely agree. However, the caveat to ALL of this is that the man has to be a GODLY man who is, without a shadow of a doubt, leading and exercising his responsibilities (the essence of what a man is). Leader does not equal dictatorship. Submission does not equal inferiority or weakness.
snookie3 1 month ago 11
@snookie3 :I agree with u but I know some Godly men who are real ***holes and think their wives place is to cook and clean and I am a Godly guy so I'm not being biased simply being honest about it. And the irony of what u are sayin is indeed that women can let the man be a Leader which does not make him a dictator. And they she can Submit without herself being inferior or weak.
klnpTrini 1 month ago
@snookie3 I say to u all Please KNOW THE PERSON U ARE WITH!! I tell everyone I know this cause if ur man is abusive or anything like that then he doesnt deserve u. Stop complaining about it cause its probly who he is SO... he aint gonna change!! U need to leave. There are good men out there, even if it may take a while to find one, dont "settle" for unhappiness
klnpTrini 1 month ago
Also in response I'd tell ANYONE who is in a bad relationship to Leave whether they are man or woman
klnpTrini 1 month ago
He is the bread winner and takes good care of his family i can tell u... so yea not all are a waste of time, jus quit tryin to convince urself that u hav no choice cause u always do. The mere fact u complain about SO MANY Terrible men is all the more reason that wen u find a good man u had better treat him good
klnpTrini 1 month ago
Its true most and I say most men dont deserve anything at all, but once u find he's wasting time jus leave cause there are better out there and they do deserve to be treated as such. A friend of mine found a woman like who treats him like a king and he's doing his job as head of their household... he's an engineer, has his Masters and tryin to start his own small business, etc.
klnpTrini 1 month ago
If the men u know are not good then y are u wasting ur time with them? Y are u complaining instead of doing something about it? If he's lazy, disrespectful, untrustworthy its real simple, he doesn't deserve u, so... Then u leave his sorry ass and find good 1... was that really so difficult?
klnpTrini 1 month ago
@klnpTrini cant you say the same thing about black men who complain about black women?
impatientwithdesire 1 month ago
If you wanna know more about this couples teaching plz go to her website here!
FB: lovejujumama
queen911sun 1 month ago
I agree with this...to an extent. I'm happy making my man happy and supporting him. He also supports me and respects me. It's not a one way street. I don't think it's so much that black women want to wear the pants as it is unrespectable men come at us with an entitlement like because they have a penis they can talk to us any kind of way and should lead. I don't want a disrespectful, untrustworthy, lazy man leading me. That's how you get led into a ditch.
TheGiggles1989 1 month ago
Thank you charisma. Bmare NEVER given roles. But bw are ALWAYS expected to go the extra mile for bm while bm don't have to do ANYTHING. look at the shitty black community yet bm still want to be praised.
impatientwithdesire 1 month ago 9
@impatientwithdesire oh so ONLY black men are too blame? last time i checked BLACK WOMEN lived in the hood too. and better yet black women OUTNUMBER black men in the BLACK COMMUNITY. oh but i guess you didn't know that. you must've grew up in the suburbs. you don't know shit about the black community or what niggas go through. carlton banks can't comment on black issues. remember i told you that.
testizel 1 month ago
Give me a break. black women have been taking care of this community all alone -at least be man enough to admit that.
All this "butits not my fault" stuff is the problem.
If its not you guys fault then why is the black community like this?
Havent you guys noticed-that when other men take care of their communities-GOOD THINGS HAPPEN.
When and where are black MEN taking the drivers seat?
Instead yall sit around and blame women.
What kind of grown men blame women for what THEY choose not to do?
impatientwithdesire 1 month ago
@impatientwithdesire If black women have been taking care of the community all alone, according to you, wouldn't the state of the community be black women's fault all alone too? What you said doesn't make sense. You can't claim all the responsibility while taking none of the responsibility too.
yoyodre 1 month ago
@testizel I am bm and I grew up in the hood. First I want to say hell yeah it's the bm's fault. The reason for that is cause just what kingru77 said their is only one C.E.O. and as that C.E.O. we set the standard, we heir and fire, we allow and disallow. The bm has to be the one to first stand up and say this shit isn't acceptable then the bw should support him. That's why women running round yelling independent, cause bm ain't leading like we should. We gotta take our role back.
5460NTD 1 month ago
@5460NTD Exactly.....
kingru77 1 month ago
@testizel Truthfully, I think it's best for blacks who can marry different races to do so. I have no interest in dealing with black related issues. I prefer to live a normal existence with my white fiance. The 'black' American community is mostly pathological.
Mary2020VA 1 month ago
@Mary2020VA So, is the white community. Were do you think minority populations learn this toxic behavior, from the dominant group that's who! Shameless on showtime is just the 1st dramatic depiction of it. I live around white folk and they are just as fucked up as we are. Just in a different way with the same results.
hrobinson71 1 month ago
@Mary2020VA No disrespect but that's a ridiculous concept in my opinion. Some of the shadiest men that I know are white in terms of the way they treat their women. That's not to say that I don't know any shady Black men though. With good communication, cultural, regional, and other small differences can be overcome, but deep issues come in all colors not just black.
jamesfmac 1 month ago
Back to the basics. I love it. There are too many people who are trying to redefine what a man/woman relationship should be. This video is refreshing, because it shows a modern couple who seems to know how to relate to each other in a traditional gender role way.
KevinSoulman 1 month ago
all i can say is: Thank You!!!!!!!!
ThaFootballGuru 1 month ago
ii know all they say is true. i submit totally to my husband and we are happily married. there is just so many hard headed women out there that refuse to submit. women dont realize that we hold all the power.you treat your man like a king, and he will surely do anything for you
weirdall2006 1 month ago
@ZenMamaPolitic This is precisely the reason why I don't watch BET anymore~ Manipulative Racialized, Sexual Politics. So..if I understand correctly; the atonement of women relies upon the Patriarchally dominant Kingship position of Black men. Right? In truth...most Black men are not truly deserving of this treatment. And 'Ms. Precious' as host-Mo' Nique- forgetting to state the underlying factors of racism, & homoeroticism as always present in the hypermasculation of Black men- was expected.
agray77 1 month ago 3
@agray77 amen honey!
Black men do not ACT like they deserve to be treated like kings.
Why should we pamper men who dont take care of their kids, communities or fight their stereotypes?
Italian, asian, jews-all these races had men who put GLUE into their communties to tie them up and get some respect for themselves.
Bm sit around blaming bw and white men for what THEY choose not to do.
Grown ass men blaming others for their problems.
impatientwithdesire 1 month ago
138 single women disliked this. lmao
donperry1 1 month ago
GOD BLESS THE VERY SMALL AMOUNT OF MEN THAT CAN PLAY THOSE ROLES.
kissyb17 1 month ago
@KharismaBrown He did explain the role of men, ans its very accurate. I think that thw vid is mis titled, but women aren't beimg bashed.
Woopsees 1 month ago
socialbondage . DOT COM BLACK PEOPLE NEED TO SEE THIS
socialbondage 1 month ago
Truth
primate2box 2 months ago
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I would love to see a video about how Black men should treat Black women. I think this is a missing link in our community. Some men need to be taught what their role is just like women. How can a woman treat him like a King when he is actually a Pauper. lol I feel there is too much woman- bashing going on, which does not and can not resolve any relationship problems.
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KharismaBrown 2 months ago
Do they have a book?
Chantea11 2 months ago
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I suppose the historic context which has shaped American and Caribbean black gender roles predominantly is the emasculation of black men through slavery and black women needing to fill the void which ensued. This conversation signals a turning point, perhaps, where we ourselves can put that behind us and start reversing the harm caused by slavery, which is a relief.
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heathercaudle 2 months ago
Read the bible verses about marriage and will answer all your confusions and ignorance :)
ikeeytootzie 2 months ago 2
I agree partially...but I feel whatever works for YOUR relationship may or may not work for others...Ex: Monique and her husband have an open marriage cause it works for them...but that doesn't necessarily mean one way is wrong or right...and you both should support each others dream...you don't want to carry on in a relationship because you resent your partner cause you had to choose either or...
theankh34 2 months ago
@theankh34 When it comes to being submissive I don't feel women should be submissive to any and everybody because everybody doesn't deserve that...you have choose wisely and along with that comes vulnerability...you have to feel comfortable enough to truly open yourself up to that person...
theankh34 2 months ago
@theankh34 And to the caption underneath...I do not categorize myself as a black man hater...man hater...or hater of any kind...People will treat you how you let them treat you...and that's where you decide whether you want to put up with it or not...By choice...I am happily single right now because I'm focusing my energy on doing something I love...Simple as that :-) But when the time comes and I do find myself in a relationship...we will do what works for US...Stay blessed!!!
theankh34 2 months ago
Very true! I believe this! My soon to be husband is my KING! I love being a woman! There is power of submission! Good vid. Sad that most women do not and will not ever see this video in the same light!
8HighlyFavored 2 months ago 10
Hay everyone!!!! If you want to know more about what this couple have to teach, every one can contact Carl & Kenya Stevens at JUJUMAMA.COM
They are great!!!!!
mypantalla 1 month ago
@8HighlyFavored You ever heard of patriarchy? Check that out.
voicesoflostpoets 1 month ago
Do this couple have a book out or something. I will love to read it...
groundupentllc2 2 months ago
Wow!! I know women in today's society that wouldn't agree with this at all!!! BUT they won't agree because no one REALLY has sat down and learned the actual roles of the man AND woman in a marriage.....the man has his role which he should uphold as well as the woman!!.....I agree that this is why there are so many single men AND women...Completely agree. Get back to the roots people, back to the foundation, back to what our roles are in a marriage.
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As far as I know in any business structure there is only one C.E.O., not Co-C.E.O. but one singular C.E.O. with the exception of a few partnerships of which many have a majority partner who makes final decisions. What some of these women are wanting doesn't even work in real life but because pride, ego and emotion have clouded their judgment they request it saying "I want a man to be the man but I want to be his equal" which in of itself is a total contradiction.
kingru77 2 months ago 3
@kingru77 right, but these hoes don't even know the DEFINITION of submission even AFTER watching the video. just goes to show you some people are so ignorant they block what they don't like even if it will BENEFIT them smh guess they'll just have to be like Anfernee and learn the HARD-A-WAY
testizel 2 months ago
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@testizel stop calling women hoes dumb ass. Hopefully ya momma dead ans gone cuz shed raised a no good niggas. Hopefully she can't bread
LovinHimIzEasy 2 months ago
@testizel these hoes?
yall want respect but yall refer to the race of your mothers and sisters as hoes...and then wonder why nonblack men are respected over you?
Stop being a nigga
impatientwithdesire 1 month ago
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Independence is NECESSARY!! Men want us 2 grant them all the PWR, when MAJORITY of u dnt DESERVE it!! Ur credit's JACKD, ur baby's mama(s) hav ur balls in a vice, u dnt hav ur own place, u lack ambition, MONOGAMY's foreign 2 u, as are CHIVALRY, ROMANCE & RESPECT, ur mama tells u how 2 liv ur life, or u allow ur boys 2 dictate how u shud feel - & 4 those who do establish a lil' affluence, now u're "2 good" 2 even be seen with a sistah! But I'm supposd 2 submit 2 YOU, smh?????
Essynce9582 2 months ago
don't need to listen past the 12 second mark to know that this is some bullshit. i'll treat you like an equal and if you don't like it you can whine on home to your mother tbqh
faolkrop 2 months ago
@faolkrop More like he leaves you there to a life of loneliness, anger and animal hoarding while he moves on and finds a woman with enough sense and strength to let him take the lead. Understanding that her submission isn't to be his slave or subject but to be his strongest support, the mother of his children and his most trusted counsel when tough decisions have to be made. And in return he submits himself to his Queen and his children by putting their needs and wants before his because....
kingru77 2 months ago
@kingru77 that's his job. Whether that means working a job he hates to provide, working 2 jobs to provide, or laying down his life in protection of his family. This is the duty of the King to provide, protect, and do whats necessary for the good of the family even making the tough decisions alone.
kingru77 2 months ago
I believe in submission, both ways. I believe in the King and a Queen leading the household together. Not a Master-Slave relationship in the home. And I believe I can follow the RIGHT man. Not every man has the actual capacity to lead because he may not have been taught how to be man.
KharismaBrown 2 months ago 2
@KharismaBrown One of the few that get it.
kingru77 2 months ago
@KharismaBrown Great Point!!! learned behavior is key
gmotif6 2 months ago
my king??? nope! We are equals. Cooperative equals. We can submit to EACHOTHER and we can lead TOGETHER.
rational92 2 months ago
@rational92 A Queen submits to her King and the King submits to his family.
kingru77 2 months ago
@rational92 U don't get it. Its equal but the end of the day the King is the King. He is the head of the household..
mistanderson 2 months ago
To all the women that have a problem with submitting to a GOOD MAN, dont date a good man, get a moron and don't complain about him not being a Real man. Get you a Lazy man and shut up since u dont want a real man to be the Head of the Household, since u have a problem with submitting. Thank you.
mistanderson 2 months ago 2
Most ignorant piece of garbage out there.
nutcrakerz 2 months ago
Correction.... To keep black fams apart.
grtone33 2 months ago
Read the Willie lynch papers. This has been put in place a long time ago to keep bowl fams apart. Beyonce and these rappers help the bullshit along.
grtone33 2 months ago
I LOVE THIS VIDEO! I shared this a few times! thanks for sharing!
thegirlof1983 2 months ago
I always say marriage is work. Just like your job you have assignments & titles. The manager- your husband, the team leader- you, the wife & the crew- them darn monkeys!!! That's how a company remains successful!!!
Beauticiangg 2 months ago
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Reading the comments it's one thing that clearly stands out that is the idea that men and women are equally and WE ARE NOT EQUALS. If a man and his woman are attacked on the street 9 times out of 10 he's the one defending BOTH of them while she stands away from the fray of which I have no issue because she's a WOMAN. Any man in right mind would not take that asswhooping on the street and go home to a 50/50 partnership because it goes against the nature of the masculine and the feminine.
kingru77 2 months ago
I bet all the dislikes are black women who don't believe or refuse to submit.
lilcary 2 months ago 5
@lilcary lol you already know. let em stay SINGLE and be "FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS" their whole lives. lol maybe then they'll submit. Oops but they it'll be TOO LATE.
testizel 2 months ago 6
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@testizel who the hell would submit to a niggas. Black men r thd worse. And a downgrade
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kingru77 2 months ago
@kingru77 If I'm man enough to take that asswhooping in the street I should be man enough to be the ultimate decision maker in OUR home. That's not to cut any woman short of anything but lets be honest about this. Women, you are the backbone of the household and although we have a partnership in the relationship I'm still King and you are Queen and as such there should only be one voice of the home.
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kingru77 2 months ago
@kingru77 At some point in a 50/50 partnership of shared power in decision making the man will tire of the disagreements and arguing and finally just say' fuck it, you do what you want" which is the worst thing possible. And the reason is no man wants to have every decision up for debate and he will slowly withdraw and animosity will build because this woman who wanted him to the man has essentially taken his masculinity as her own and given him the feminine role in the home.
kingru77 2 months ago
I don't agree with this vid women should not be submissive in this day and age. Relationships are based on mutual trust and dependency. You have to find what's good in your relationship and build on that. Women, men are natural competitors from birth so if there is competition over things in the house there will be problems. Men are sore losers, yes we are and if you understand and manage that you will always have a great relationship!
CarlCollins86 2 months ago
@CarlCollins86 read some of the mens posts here and tell me are they not getting heated when they are given competition. Understand you do not need to be submissive just creative in the way you deal with your man. Men are always in a competition no matter what it is it's in our DNA. The response from you is what will make or break the relationship.
CarlCollins86 2 months ago
And they wonder why some women are not married. They got this RAGE of dumbness. They dont' wanna submit to a good God fearing man. SMDH.
mistanderson 2 months ago
Women have held it down for so long and had that "head of household" status to the point where they actually believe they can assume the man's role. Everybody has their place. It took me a hot minute to figure it out. And being submissive is not giving him your power but it puts you in a better position to raise him up.
madisonmonica 2 months ago
Do you know what Episode of the Mo'nique Show this video is from ? If so could you please tell me ! I say sorry in advance if something has already asked this question and found out the answer !
JAnGassed 2 months ago
In other words, I can't be me in order to have him. B.S.
bleuaja 2 months ago
@bleuaja WRONG. You not getting it. U can still be you. Everybody has to change a little. Men normally do everything, when we get into a marriage we have to stop thinking about us all the time and focus on our wife. Its a Give a little thing. Yeah some women let the man take over everything because they are both cool with it. Some couples handle things differently.
mistanderson 2 months ago
@bleuaja That's why you are single and will always be until old age. Keep thinking like that.
cray32 2 months ago
Man be a man, woman be a woman? How about we be ourselves? The key is to be truly authentic and real with our partners. Be a good listener. As women we need to just sit back and see his perspective. Men often bring logic to situations. Women tend to bring emotion. If we listen we can understand. At the end of the day everybody's different. Some women are very logical and approach things that way. Some men are hesitant to make decisions on their own and want a woman's assurance. It just depends.
chicagomycity 2 months ago
@chicagomycity "Men bring logic, women tend to bring emotion". This is exactly why men who have shown themselves to be logical, responsible and trustworthy are the types of men women should submit to. I'd never advise a woman to submit to a fool.
kingru77 2 months ago
@kingru77 EXACTLY
mistanderson 2 months ago
Black men in USA are soft..they let girls rule them..they act like they have fear in their eyes when they saw black woman..they better take some lessons from europe, when guys are the men of the house and women, play their role of woman..so...
doopyx 2 months ago
What the fucK? if anything, it needs to be the other way around. We need to submit to each other, there lies the problem.
omarijho 2 months ago
The idea that women need to submit to men is misogynistic and birthed out of the idea that women are inferior to men. As a wife I will not SUBMIT to my husband, but I will Love, Respect, and Honor him and our vows. To suggest that wives are meant to be submissions elevates the man to a King position and his wife to a royal subject. I'm sorry I want to be treated as a queen and if we're taking about submission it should be both ways.
LikeMyStyle01 2 months ago
sorry but why has it got to be black women, at the end of the day its moreso black man that go off galavanting with other races, it should be just men and women straight. furthermore, i am not trying to have a penis, im just making sure that this is an equal feeding into a relationship, i am not just the woman standing behind my man, i am beside him. i am not surrendering in a relationship, thats not what shits about. im a modern and contemporary woman. fuck (some of) this video.
MissNais1 2 months ago
Basically be a 1920's woman
sparkvic4 2 months ago
@sparkvic4 Wrong. SMDH It is not 1920s. Maybe u need to LISTEN first. Marriage is togetherness, EVEN back in the 1920s.
mistanderson 2 months ago
@sparkvic4 hell yeh
cray32 2 months ago
truth
mzmarygirl 2 months ago
Word
wintermarsNL 2 months ago
I get what they're saying but they need to look at the other side. Clearly this man is a good Godly role model for her to 'submit' to but can most men out there really boast the same?? Seriously, if they are going to call out to women to submit then they need to call out to men to be worthy husband that women can trust to lead them.
tigereyes5 2 months ago
@tigereyes5 Totally agree, the man a woman submits to has to own that responsibility. If he can't he's not the right man.
kingru77 2 months ago
And this is why my man is Swedish. Nuff said.
AClockworkPear 2 months ago
@AClockworkPear LOL true..
hght 2 months ago
I'm dissappointed in monique in endorsing this, she needs to get over her fat girl issues and not feel like she needs to be this hyper-feminine submissive in order to get thier attention. Her own man cheats on her, and she allows it!
AClockworkPear 2 months ago 6
All this is doing is reinforcing gendered stereotypes/roles that keep both genders in the dark ages. This outdated mentality keeps Black womden dependant on Black men...which is fucking stupid. If a man can't stand a women who is independant, then he needs a weaker woman to mind fuck, not me.
AClockworkPear 2 months ago
I don't believe this video's agenda was to blast all sistas bc alot of sistas are having to be the male and female and are willing to be receptive to a real man's presence in their life. However, their is an overwhelmingly majority of sistas out here now that don't know how to cook (survive yes, but cook) clean, iron, wash clothes, or be acceptable to a real man wanting to invest in them. Getting their hair, nails, shoes, free drinks is all that their concerned with. When a man steps in and tri
bigmiked2523 2 months ago
Mo'Nique thought she had a penis? What a surpise, only gotta look at her once to see she's a mandingo x
schumeshady 2 months ago
My people, my people where is the unity. What was the turning point in our culture that it became blk men vs. blk women (and let me tell you everything your gender is doing wrong yada yada yada) I mean agree with this video because that's the way I've watched all the women in my fam have successful relationships. But I HATE the title it make me as a blk women feel attacked and belittled and unworthy.
MyName83www 2 months ago
what even omg
ashleyj93 2 months ago
..and dude is NOT aggressive or assertive. I'd punk his ass in a heartbeat. His wife would give me a more of a fight than he would.
ItsMrBang 2 months ago
LOL. His wife still wears the pants. Anyone with their eyes open can CLEARLY see this.
ItsMrBang 2 months ago