Thanks for this story. I think the same thing applies to south Korea.
As a teacher over there it almost made me choke with laughter when middle-aged Koreans tried to tell me that there were no gay people in South Korea - only gay foreigners. I guess they didn't know the quant village named, "Homo Hill."
DARLING, AS A PHYSICIST I STRONGLY RECOMMEND THAT YOU KEEP IN MIND NEWTON'S FIRST LAW OF MOTION WHEN COURTING: AN OBJECT IN MOTION TENDS TO REMAIN IN MOTION.. YOU MADE HIS CHOICE TO REMAIN IN THAT MOTION FOR HIM BY ASSUMING HE WAS STRAIGHT.. INSTEAD YOU SHOULD HAVE FORCED HIM TO MAKE THAT CHOICE BY PUTTING YOURSELF ON THE LINE AND SAYING, "BUT DO YOU HAVE A BOYFRIEND TOO?" MAKE HIM CHOOSE BETWEEN YOU AND HER. DON'T. CHOOSE FOR HIM. LOVE IS A RISKY BUSINESS.! GET IT? JUST GO FOR IT.....
DARLING, AS A PHYSICIST I STRONGLY RECOMMEND THAT YOU KEEP IN MIND NEWTON'S FIRST LAW OF MOTION WHEN COURTING: AN OBJECT IN MOTION TENDS TO REMAIN IN MOTION.. YOU MADE HIS CHOICE TO REMAIN IN THAT MOTION FOR HIM BY ASSUMING HE WAS STRAIGHT.. INSTEAD YOU SHOULD HAVE FORCED HIM TO MAKE THAT CHOICE BY PUTTING YOURSELF ON THE LINE AND SAYING, "BUT DO YOU HAVE A BOYFRIEND TOO?" MAKE HIM CHOOSE BETWEEN YOU AND HER. DON'T CHOOSE FOR HIM. LOVE IS A RISKY BUSINESS.! GET IT?
I am completely straight but I think i do have a good Gaydar, I mostly could tell someone is gay by their body language, especially when I start a conversation with them. By the way, I think you sounded a lot more like a straight guy when talking in Japanese. Well... just my 0.02 cents :)
i was really bored.... and You were really interesting and funny at the same time.. am sorry about that ..hopefully maybe men can come out with signs on them saying 'hey am actually gay ' .. (I think that will make it easier to tell ) ^_^
Well, I have always thought Asians are HOT! And you are VERY HOT! But as for gaydar let me begin by noting that I believe everyone is bisexual to a greater or lesser degree. Having said that, I think your gaydar was working. But gaydar only works when the person you are zeroing in on wants to be found. In other words, yes, he still maybe in the closet. And until he (or any else you focus on) admits that they are OUT, they will be straight no matter what you sense in them. Keep GAYDAR-ING
wow! Now when i think about it, my Japanese friend that i thought was gay because he's feminine is probably not gay at all. So then what standards do you use for gaydar in Japan? Maybe you should ask some Japanese gay men themselves.
Like a pink Kimono. Which by the way I actually want. Sadly I live in the UK which makes it almost impossible to get hold of.
So wearing something like that would instantly brand me as gay in the west. Yet it doesnt bother me at all to wear it. So long as it helps me to be more social and I enjoy wearing it I'll wear almost anything.
.... within reason ^_^ No dominatrix outfit... Unless I shaved. *Thinks about that seriously*
Anyways back to the video: Despite my not being gay I found it quite interesting. But that could be my obsession with japan and japanese culture. Which is likely.
OH Another point that would be considered gay in the west is flamboyant clothes. I'm a very shy, socially reclusive, introverted person. So I make myself wear more colourful clothes to try and stand out as well as encourage myself to talk to people.
EG: Wearing something that would be considered effeminate.
I'm not gay myself, been through the curious phase and come out the otherside. I'm now quite comfortable with my sexuality which seems to make people uncomfortable because I can say and do stuff that would be considered gay but to me its just fun.
For example I'm perfectly comfortable kissing a guy (No tongue though thankyou). It doesnt bother me cause I know I'm straight. But it freaks people right out ^_^ But I guess thats why I do it. Cause I love the shocked reactions. I'm like YES! Lol! ^_^
Hahahaha gay guy here. My advice, just go to clubs. When I was in China (which is like a million times more repressed gay wise) the only way to find another gay guy was to go to the clubs. And there weren't that many. In all truthfulness, I think it's just Asia that's so hard in terms of gaydar. In Europe I'm able to snipe them a mile away, especially in England, but the other countries are almost as easy. But you definitely have to pay attention to how they act and talk, not their looks.
When I first started getting exposed to the asian culture and especially the japanese culture its amazing how japanese guys carry themselves. Most of them are very slim and are very affectionate with their male friends. Jrock to many Americans would seem gay... singers like Gackt and Miyavi kiss their band members on stage and do very gay things as well but people dnt really think of them as being gay... its just entertainment.. but know really knows haha. Luved da vid. さようなら！
i think my gaydar sucks lol. the worst part was when my friend told me someone was bi and he liked me. i didint really believe him about the 2nd part but i asked him anyway. part of me was like no he cant be but then im like well mabye. so i asked him, he wasnt, and it was really ackward and he seemed offended.
In China, Taiwan, and Japan, the whole gay thing (while not usually discussed) is not really an issue. In America, men consider certain behaviour effeminate, while in Asia (especially Japan) even the straight guys tend to be feminine (which is actually the human norm. Only America (thanks Christians) considers normal behaviour abnormal.
but yea since I move here to Kyoto, guys at school will randomly come up to me and start talking (I thought Japanese didn't talk to strangers... NOT TRUE) and will be like "hey lets sekigaisen! (some even use the term phone sex..)" but as I told my friends... my dar is just out of order here... so I'm not even gonna try to date lol... too confusing... I'll just stick to other ryuugakusei...
LOL, I'm having the same experience here in Kyoto... and also on a Japanese/American conference. My friend was extremely touchy, resting his head on my shoulder, leaning on me at the bus stop, grabbing my hand when he spoke to me tokidoki; and all of my american friends were just like "he's hitting on you..." and I was like "no... all the gay guys here are setting off my 'dar... I'm not in Kansas anymore..." (continued in next comment)
Also - I love it at the beginning (20secs in) when you scratch your upper arm. That is SO ADORABLE. All your teaching skills are on display here.Your pauses, emphasis, all the methods of good teaching. It's great to watch you.This should be part of a training film for teachers - i mean it!
yeah, I think Japanese culture at least is much more "homosocial" than western cultures...the concept of homosexuality doesn't even come up, most of the time, so the behaviors that are "gay" in the west are (as you said) just "normal" here
LOL you are so funny! "pretend girlfriend" HAHAHA!! That bit made me laugh so much. Bless ya! Yeah I think the kawaii nature of a lot of Japanese people confuses Western people like yourself. It's odd because homosexuality was completely normal and accepted in Japan for hundreds of years and only became like a bit of a taboo because of Western influence.
But no, I heard it's quite fashionable to be gay in Japan. Bless you. Come to England :D
LOL this was a great video! I think gaydar doesnt work there cause its not on the 3g network with a kddi cell. My gaydar is pretty spot on in america, so i guess it will defunct there. But i have a fiance and we are both with plans to move to japan by the end of this year.
I think it's just a cultural thing. Mormonism is a very low-key, calm, kind, meek kind of religion. Of course they're afraid of homosexuality but it doesn't seem like there's this taboo when men are kinda 'girly'. They can decorate and bake and sew and it's not gay. I just think in Japan, as well as here, there's just these cultural norms that are different from other places.
You're so right about that...gaydar is absolutely rooted in cultural ques, and when you're in a different culture it just makes it terribly difficult to tell!
I don't have any advice, but this is very similar to my situation.
I live in Utah and as you may know, the majority religion here is Mormonism. I'm not a Mormon nor am I gay, but my gaydar really malfunctions here. There's this neighbor I have, and he seems so totally gay, but I just can't tell because there are so many like that.
Ted... Watch the eyes. They are a give away. When they dialate, whatever they are looking at... That's the attraction. Problem is, as you pointed out, they may not being willing to accept it. Great vid :)
Yeahh i have noticed that too. Actually i live in Australia, but i have a few Japanese friends in Japan, and i've been to Hong Kong.
I have definitely noticed that in Japan especially, guys who spend a long time on their looks aren't stereotyped as gay like they are here in Australia.
I'm not gay, but I know exactly what you are talking about. When I went to Japan last year my gaydar was going off constantly. Strangest thing that happened was when I was meeting a friend in shinjuku, passed 2 women walking down the road together, as they were passing me, the taller one spoke with a voice deeper than mine and started petting the hair of the shorter one.
I know what are you talking about, I had the same experience as you mentioned here in Japan, sometimes some school-friends aske me out for dinner,karaoke, and stuff like that.. but when I finally ask them for her sexuallity all of them got a girlfriend.. how's that possible?? well, I did with 2 of 10 japanese friends..
God so true! the amount of times here in the uk thats happen its unreal! *sobs* close to wearin a tshirt sayin "im gay" its hard to find out who is and who isnt haha
You say the truth! I've been here for a month. And while I was the gayest person in my college in States...here I'm not ^^
So yeah, got fed up and just went to the gay clubs in Osaka.
But yo, by the time I leave this place I'm getting that gaydar fixed...I've met few Japanese gay men though but I still can't tell how to point them out if they haven't told me that they were gay! ...It's gonna be a mission impossible ^^
wow I entirely agree with you. I have been wondering if someone would ever bring up the gaydar in japan issue.
The cultural difference in "normal" activities is so true, I see it of course but here is the proof:
One of my (straight) male japanese friends is quite manly by japanese standards, but when he lived in the states for a few years, he would always get hit on by men.
Japanese guys are just hard to figure out in general.
it's really interesting how much culture and society play into our expectations of what is "masculine" and what is "gay." and of course sometimes the two overlap, so...
It's also wierd that you say the 'gays' are to tell out, but when you go to south asia, there are transexuals (ladyboys) everywhere, or in general they look quite femenine.
i totally agree- have actually been writing an article about this- even in Tokyo the guys are so 'done up' with their tight clothes, coiffed hair, plucked eyebrows, etc....its confusing!!!!
Pretty much the same story here in Taipei. My gaydar doesnt work well here either. However the gays here are very visible. Very out there. I feel like Taipei is the gayest city in East Asia other than Bangkok
Yeah, I've read that, as far as East Asian countries go, Taiwan is pretty up there on its gay legislature and what not. Kinda makes me wanna visit again (I haven't been since I was three...)!
Respectfully Oberyn, gay cultural behaviors in one country and another are often linked. Mass media and other methods of cultural transfer mean that most post-industrial countries have ties between one subculture and another. While a lot is different here, a lot is similar too. IMHO.
The guy you mentioned in the story, may not in fact be 'straight'... OR he just wanted to make friends with a gaijin. I have had many similar experiences. It can suck sometimes. Right now, I am talking to a guy I met at the gym. I am not sure he is gay or not yet... I too am shy to ask directly. I gave him my mixi which says I am gay, but he has said nothing one way or the other...Argh!!!!
I have been in Japan so long now, that I think my Japanese gaydar is better than my American gaydar... LOL! Seriously. Gaydar is a mix of verbal and non-verbal ques (culturally constructed) that some people are better able to pick up on. I think my gaydar is fine, but many gay friends say that they don't have very good gaydars. Everyone is different.
My ex was my first Japanese gay guy that I've met, and he had great gaydar. He said one thing that might apply still; if a Japabese guy wears A&F in Japan, he is gay. But it's not as certain as before any bore because it got easier to get A&F in Japan. But it might help you...? I think I have OK gaydar. Gaydar in Japan gay need an extra equipment called a cultural background.
I'm guessing a way to tell is maybe ask like do you have a girlfriend in the middle of a conversation, or if they say no, you could reply as Are you looking and how's that going for you? It may not be the best advice but i'm just brain storming the easiest way, if they say no to two of those, them being gay could come out in the conversation.
Hmm...something to keep in mind, I suppose. Yeah, I guess it is pretty telling if one of you says "Girlfriend? Nope, and I'm not looking for one either."
Instead of saying 'girlfriend', why not use 'koibito'? The gender-neutral term may provide the wiggle room you are looking for while still being proactive.
Yes, but by asking if he has a girlfriend, you may be giving a signal to him that you are straight. When I meet a guy whose sexuality I am not sure of, I try not to suggest or imply anything that might give him the idea that I am hetero. Besides, 'koibito' used within a Japanese sentence, does not seem lame to me.
Aw, that's too bad, Alot of the korean guys at my old school used to primp all the time, had hair products and cologne in their locker and had major style so ya I was pretty confused.
yeah, that low key thingy might be right. Most Parents still arent used to their children being gay. So some hid it... I havent really see gay Asians to be matter of fact, or i cant tell...
i think in japan it's still something that's very hush-hush...some younger people are okay with it, but i know very few japanese gay men who are out to their parents...
He could be bi...
starfaery 3 months ago
Thanks for this story. I think the same thing applies to south Korea.
As a teacher over there it almost made me choke with laughter when middle-aged Koreans tried to tell me that there were no gay people in South Korea - only gay foreigners. I guess they didn't know the quant village named, "Homo Hill."
Morahg 4 months ago
Gaydar has nothing to do with feminine mannerisms or stereotypes. It has everything to do with eye contact.
GetTheHook 4 months ago
はじめまして英語うまいね
damatukun19870121 7 months ago
whaaaatttt ,no! lol
luredanimal 8 months ago
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nextowicked 8 months ago
aww..i like yuh already....
Jellyjammable 10 months ago
DARLING, AS A PHYSICIST I STRONGLY RECOMMEND THAT YOU KEEP IN MIND NEWTON'S FIRST LAW OF MOTION WHEN COURTING: AN OBJECT IN MOTION TENDS TO REMAIN IN MOTION.. YOU MADE HIS CHOICE TO REMAIN IN THAT MOTION FOR HIM BY ASSUMING HE WAS STRAIGHT.. INSTEAD YOU SHOULD HAVE FORCED HIM TO MAKE THAT CHOICE BY PUTTING YOURSELF ON THE LINE AND SAYING, "BUT DO YOU HAVE A BOYFRIEND TOO?" MAKE HIM CHOOSE BETWEEN YOU AND HER. DON'T. CHOOSE FOR HIM. LOVE IS A RISKY BUSINESS.! GET IT? JUST GO FOR IT.....
jigshoop 1 year ago
DARLING, AS A PHYSICIST I STRONGLY RECOMMEND THAT YOU KEEP IN MIND NEWTON'S FIRST LAW OF MOTION WHEN COURTING: AN OBJECT IN MOTION TENDS TO REMAIN IN MOTION.. YOU MADE HIS CHOICE TO REMAIN IN THAT MOTION FOR HIM BY ASSUMING HE WAS STRAIGHT.. INSTEAD YOU SHOULD HAVE FORCED HIM TO MAKE THAT CHOICE BY PUTTING YOURSELF ON THE LINE AND SAYING, "BUT DO YOU HAVE A BOYFRIEND TOO?" MAKE HIM CHOOSE BETWEEN YOU AND HER. DON'T CHOOSE FOR HIM. LOVE IS A RISKY BUSINESS.! GET IT?
jigshoop 1 year ago
What a great story, and your such a sweet guy, and how true your story echos so many other guys, thanks, good luck your a lovely dude.
kronitz52 1 year ago
I like how you talk...that didn't sound smart at all...damn..no but I really like your story
kylekilo 1 year ago
When you said "my little needle spinnin' around" i nearly choked on my nuts(..quite literally. i was munching on some peanuts).
TheDoctopus 1 year ago 4
this is so interesting. i can say as a girl, my group of girlfriends also find it hard to read all kind of signals here as well. :)
neikaplay 1 year ago
-Sigh- the asian culture in general, guys being femminie is common T-T Thats why I hate visiting Japan or Manila or Seoul! MY HOPES ARE CRUSHED T_T
mapledork729 1 year ago
I am completely straight but I think i do have a good Gaydar, I mostly could tell someone is gay by their body language, especially when I start a conversation with them. By the way, I think you sounded a lot more like a straight guy when talking in Japanese. Well... just my 0.02 cents :)
alveench 1 year ago
your such a goofball ;)
I'll keep that advice in mind.
What's the song at the start?
Joskun 1 year ago
i was really bored.... and You were really interesting and funny at the same time.. am sorry about that ..hopefully maybe men can come out with signs on them saying 'hey am actually gay ' .. (I think that will make it easier to tell ) ^_^
mizicy82 1 year ago
I don't have a gaydar, and have been afraid to hit on guys I think are just hot.
spartacandream 1 year ago
Well, I have always thought Asians are HOT! And you are VERY HOT! But as for gaydar let me begin by noting that I believe everyone is bisexual to a greater or lesser degree. Having said that, I think your gaydar was working. But gaydar only works when the person you are zeroing in on wants to be found. In other words, yes, he still maybe in the closet. And until he (or any else you focus on) admits that they are OUT, they will be straight no matter what you sense in them. Keep GAYDAR-ING
thanatosnoir 1 year ago
i love you dude, you're like the bridge of japan and america, my two favorite places lol
LastRqss 1 year ago
yea...it doesnt work here...AT ALL! passive or active
beebisbiz 1 year ago
SO FUCKING GAY.. BUT ITS COOL
fibahotate 1 year ago
U r a real sweetie and should have no problem finding your perfect mate ;-)
krobbo2 1 year ago
Hehehe you make me laughf thanks for your chat :)
DubiaFluctuant 1 year ago
thanx for the video(: i enjoyed hearing your story. I was so interesting and wanted to hear more haha. (:
dj93263 1 year ago
omg you are adorable!! you remind me of my best friend =]
pointeprincess302 1 year ago
its like, "are u gay?" , "no, just japanese" , "oooooh, ok." lmao
eblekj 1 year ago
wow! Now when i think about it, my Japanese friend that i thought was gay because he's feminine is probably not gay at all. So then what standards do you use for gaydar in Japan? Maybe you should ask some Japanese gay men themselves.
yoka955 2 years ago
Two guys?
Karaoke?
That's gay.
That's gay.
ROFL like crazy.
BunnyHanyou 2 years ago
this was sweet
jsorob 2 years ago
I think that guy is just in denial...seriously..
Lamerstu 2 years ago
Aw, that really made my day! Thank you! I'm glad you enjoyed =D
noholzba 2 years ago
Like a pink Kimono. Which by the way I actually want. Sadly I live in the UK which makes it almost impossible to get hold of.
So wearing something like that would instantly brand me as gay in the west. Yet it doesnt bother me at all to wear it. So long as it helps me to be more social and I enjoy wearing it I'll wear almost anything.
.... within reason ^_^ No dominatrix outfit... Unless I shaved. *Thinks about that seriously*
Maybe I need help ^_^ LOL
Lostfaith1980 2 years ago
Anyways back to the video: Despite my not being gay I found it quite interesting. But that could be my obsession with japan and japanese culture. Which is likely.
OH Another point that would be considered gay in the west is flamboyant clothes. I'm a very shy, socially reclusive, introverted person. So I make myself wear more colourful clothes to try and stand out as well as encourage myself to talk to people.
EG: Wearing something that would be considered effeminate.
(Continued)
Lostfaith1980 2 years ago
I'm not gay myself, been through the curious phase and come out the otherside. I'm now quite comfortable with my sexuality which seems to make people uncomfortable because I can say and do stuff that would be considered gay but to me its just fun.
For example I'm perfectly comfortable kissing a guy (No tongue though thankyou). It doesnt bother me cause I know I'm straight. But it freaks people right out ^_^ But I guess thats why I do it. Cause I love the shocked reactions. I'm like YES! Lol! ^_^
Lostfaith1980 2 years ago
whereas effeminate features are completely mainstream yea...
chibimaru8 2 years ago
gay guys are usually portrayed as macho men
chibimaru8 2 years ago
yeah, my gaydar works, and this is a easy one!
wesniffinviparea 2 years ago
Wow, you must be the king of ramblers.
nederninja 2 years ago
Hahahaha gay guy here. My advice, just go to clubs. When I was in China (which is like a million times more repressed gay wise) the only way to find another gay guy was to go to the clubs. And there weren't that many. In all truthfulness, I think it's just Asia that's so hard in terms of gaydar. In Europe I'm able to snipe them a mile away, especially in England, but the other countries are almost as easy. But you definitely have to pay attention to how they act and talk, not their looks.
boytoy007 2 years ago
When I first started getting exposed to the asian culture and especially the japanese culture its amazing how japanese guys carry themselves. Most of them are very slim and are very affectionate with their male friends. Jrock to many Americans would seem gay... singers like Gackt and Miyavi kiss their band members on stage and do very gay things as well but people dnt really think of them as being gay... its just entertainment.. but know really knows haha. Luved da vid. さようなら！
booempressnc 3 years ago 2
you mean south
Thisnamekills 3 years ago
i think my gaydar sucks lol. the worst part was when my friend told me someone was bi and he liked me. i didint really believe him about the 2nd part but i asked him anyway. part of me was like no he cant be but then im like well mabye. so i asked him, he wasnt, and it was really ackward and he seemed offended.
Eriqzzzz 3 years ago
"my little needle" hahaha
Wit 3 years ago 3
In China, Taiwan, and Japan, the whole gay thing (while not usually discussed) is not really an issue. In America, men consider certain behaviour effeminate, while in Asia (especially Japan) even the straight guys tend to be feminine (which is actually the human norm. Only America (thanks Christians) considers normal behaviour abnormal.
nicksum29 3 years ago 26
True!
uraine7626 2 years ago
@nicksum29 So so so true!
SynesthesianDreamer 1 year ago
omg ure SOOOOOOOO CUTE X-D ^^
Its the asian culture: guys prim their hair, look girly etc... that makes foreigners think some asian guys are gay lol .
I mean look at some singers/ bands (DBSK - Korean)
MFoxcat 3 years ago 2
ahahaha... you're soooo cute! I totally know what you mean! Its gay culture shock! ^_^
DEVINAWONG 3 years ago
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hey, is that why naruto and sasuke seems like a gay couple?Because the anime is from japan???
JermzGiOh 3 years ago
Is there no concept of being bi in Japan?
Moldovanca 3 years ago 3
I wonder that too myself. What about the rest of us?
SakatsuinJapan 2 years ago 2
but yea since I move here to Kyoto, guys at school will randomly come up to me and start talking (I thought Japanese didn't talk to strangers... NOT TRUE) and will be like "hey lets sekigaisen! (some even use the term phone sex..)" but as I told my friends... my dar is just out of order here... so I'm not even gonna try to date lol... too confusing... I'll just stick to other ryuugakusei...
bobert742 3 years ago
LOL, I'm having the same experience here in Kyoto... and also on a Japanese/American conference. My friend was extremely touchy, resting his head on my shoulder, leaning on me at the bus stop, grabbing my hand when he spoke to me tokidoki; and all of my american friends were just like "he's hitting on you..." and I was like "no... all the gay guys here are setting off my 'dar... I'm not in Kansas anymore..." (continued in next comment)
bobert742 3 years ago
Ahaha, I loved this video, You are cool, gurl <3333
Mayoini 3 years ago
lol he had a girlfriend
feel for u on that one
ilushtheworld 3 years ago 2
Cool, I liked hearing about your story! =) And you make really informed observations.
chasingdastars 3 years ago
Thank you so much! Glad you liked. =)
noholzba 3 years ago
Ted - your skin looks really golden and warm in this lighting.I hope you always repeat this lighting set-up for your future lectures.:-)
You are so bright and shining and lovely.
Bouncybon 3 years ago
Also - I love it at the beginning (20secs in) when you scratch your upper arm. That is SO ADORABLE. All your teaching skills are on display here.Your pauses, emphasis, all the methods of good teaching. It's great to watch you.This should be part of a training film for teachers - i mean it!
Bouncybon 3 years ago
heh, what can I say I'm a maneater. Rawr!
yeah, I think Japanese culture at least is much more "homosocial" than western cultures...the concept of homosexuality doesn't even come up, most of the time, so the behaviors that are "gay" in the west are (as you said) just "normal" here
noholzba 3 years ago 2
I know the feeling... ASIANS REALLY FREAK ME OUT!!! YOU CAN NEVER DETECT THE GAY GUYS!!!
alecton 3 years ago
LOL you are so funny! "pretend girlfriend" HAHAHA!! That bit made me laugh so much. Bless ya! Yeah I think the kawaii nature of a lot of Japanese people confuses Western people like yourself. It's odd because homosexuality was completely normal and accepted in Japan for hundreds of years and only became like a bit of a taboo because of Western influence.
But no, I heard it's quite fashionable to be gay in Japan. Bless you. Come to England :D
kunstinflammen 4 years ago
I want a Japanese boyfriend :'(
kunstinflammen 4 years ago
Gaydar is only useful when testing it on sterotypes
Niheth 4 years ago
i love your video!
melvinboi 4 years ago
えぇそうなん？なんか僕の日本語がふにゃふにゃでとたまに言われるけどさw。
このビデオのテーマがゲイのことなんで、そっちのせいで思わず喋り方がゲイっぽくなっちゃったかも。。。他の英語のビデオはそんなにゲイっぽくはないやろう？？
noholzba 4 years ago
LOL this was a great video! I think gaydar doesnt work there cause its not on the 3g network with a kddi cell. My gaydar is pretty spot on in america, so i guess it will defunct there. But i have a fiance and we are both with plans to move to japan by the end of this year.
atomicboyx 4 years ago
insert random comment here_ your mole is very charming ^_^
sorry..
bluerose14 4 years ago
HAHA! This is the cutest entry! xD
KeySomniorum 4 years ago
(cont.)
I think it's just a cultural thing. Mormonism is a very low-key, calm, kind, meek kind of religion. Of course they're afraid of homosexuality but it doesn't seem like there's this taboo when men are kinda 'girly'. They can decorate and bake and sew and it's not gay. I just think in Japan, as well as here, there's just these cultural norms that are different from other places.
JomoWhore 4 years ago
You're so right about that...gaydar is absolutely rooted in cultural ques, and when you're in a different culture it just makes it terribly difficult to tell!
noholzba 4 years ago
I don't have any advice, but this is very similar to my situation.
I live in Utah and as you may know, the majority religion here is Mormonism. I'm not a Mormon nor am I gay, but my gaydar really malfunctions here. There's this neighbor I have, and he seems so totally gay, but I just can't tell because there are so many like that.
JomoWhore 4 years ago
Ted... Watch the eyes. They are a give away. When they dialate, whatever they are looking at... That's the attraction. Problem is, as you pointed out, they may not being willing to accept it. Great vid :)
sarisivpower 4 years ago 2
hmm...good tip. if the attraction is there, then i've just gotten wring it out of them. heh.
noholzba 4 years ago
Lmao.....my little needle is spin-*covers mouth in embaressment*-I meant GAYDAR was spinning. Omg that was sooo funny!!!!
AnimeladyOMG 4 years ago 4
2 funny
Grof142007 4 years ago
cool(^_^)
私も日本語の勉強します。
日本が好きですから。(*-*)
(^o^)y
dracrow12 4 years ago
日本語頑張ってね！
noholzba 4 years ago
i.love.you
TwigiiAgain 4 years ago 6
lmao you're soo cute :)
"i`m like OUUU fun!" hahaha.
xxcouture 4 years ago
I sooooooo understand what you mean I'm from japan and yes I am BI but when I got to the stats people assumed that I was gay lol
So yea 。。。。。Lived in japan to long and in japan it Was sooooooo hard For me even as a japanese cuz every bodys freaking meterosexual
anthonydebello 4 years ago
Yeahh i have noticed that too. Actually i live in Australia, but i have a few Japanese friends in Japan, and i've been to Hong Kong.
I have definitely noticed that in Japan especially, guys who spend a long time on their looks aren't stereotyped as gay like they are here in Australia.
I wish Australia was like Japan!!
Anyway your videos are awesome :)
seeya
anthonygiannotti 4 years ago
gaaaaaaaaaaay
destbr 4 years ago
I'm not gay, but I know exactly what you are talking about. When I went to Japan last year my gaydar was going off constantly. Strangest thing that happened was when I was meeting a friend in shinjuku, passed 2 women walking down the road together, as they were passing me, the taller one spoke with a voice deeper than mine and started petting the hair of the shorter one.
norsehawk 4 years ago
yeah, women are weird. =P
noholzba 4 years ago
I know what are you talking about, I had the same experience as you mentioned here in Japan, sometimes some school-friends aske me out for dinner,karaoke, and stuff like that.. but when I finally ask them for her sexuallity all of them got a girlfriend.. how's that possible?? well, I did with 2 of 10 japanese friends..
Dutchlandguy 4 years ago
wait, you actually got into the pants of 2 Japanese straight guys? 2/10 is not a bad track record! onward with the homosexual agenda!! =D
noholzba 4 years ago
Youre Taiwanese!!!! 你會講中文嗎?
curlyboy73 4 years ago
...But I'm American! So I don't understand Chinese!
noholzba 4 years ago
God so true! the amount of times here in the uk thats happen its unreal! *sobs* close to wearin a tshirt sayin "im gay" its hard to find out who is and who isnt haha
rj1705 4 years ago
yeah, it really is difficult...i think even when i go back to the US i'll have a tough time because i'll be so used to the J-gays...
noholzba 4 years ago
well keep up the good work! thanks for the reply to :D
rj1705 4 years ago
LMAO you are hilarious
jechte 4 years ago
thank you!
noholzba 4 years ago
Funny ^^
You say the truth! I've been here for a month. And while I was the gayest person in my college in States...here I'm not ^^
So yeah, got fed up and just went to the gay clubs in Osaka.
But yo, by the time I leave this place I'm getting that gaydar fixed...I've met few Japanese gay men though but I still can't tell how to point them out if they haven't told me that they were gay! ...It's gonna be a mission impossible ^^
samshoushi 4 years ago
yeah, it's pretty tough if you don't go to the set "gay areas" or use websites...
noholzba 4 years ago
You're even more interesting than "askagayman"!! So funny!
btw what's your race? philipino?
kittykattykoo 4 years ago
thank you!!
my parents are taiwanese, but i was born and raised in the US =)
noholzba 4 years ago
Wow, Taiwanese-American and you speak Japanese! Cool :D
kunstinflammen 4 years ago
XD "my little needle wa.... wait.." nice
ps: what's your mixi?
MauserWerke 4 years ago
oh man, i don't even remember my mixi...i hardly use that thing at all...
noholzba 4 years ago
wow I entirely agree with you. I have been wondering if someone would ever bring up the gaydar in japan issue.
The cultural difference in "normal" activities is so true, I see it of course but here is the proof:
One of my (straight) male japanese friends is quite manly by japanese standards, but when he lived in the states for a few years, he would always get hit on by men.
Japanese guys are just hard to figure out in general.
kyosglowingeyes 4 years ago
it's really interesting how much culture and society play into our expectations of what is "masculine" and what is "gay." and of course sometimes the two overlap, so...
noholzba 4 years ago
the best accessory to a gay man w. a gaydar is a straight girl preferably a bff with a great gaydar.
aln2x 4 years ago
so true! i definitely have my girls here...but it's strange, many gay bars/clubs are men only!! =(
noholzba 4 years ago
It's also wierd that you say the 'gays' are to tell out, but when you go to south asia, there are transexuals (ladyboys) everywhere, or in general they look quite femenine.
cloocloo123 4 years ago
hmmm...that's true, but transsexuals are not always the same as homosexuals...
noholzba 4 years ago
Your stories are quite entertaining and interesting. Your great!
cloocloo123 4 years ago
thank you! i'm glad you enjoy the videos =)
noholzba 4 years ago
i totally agree- have actually been writing an article about this- even in Tokyo the guys are so 'done up' with their tight clothes, coiffed hair, plucked eyebrows, etc....its confusing!!!!
rnbohigh2 4 years ago
I know, right? Completely different standards of masculinity, heterosexuality, all that.
noholzba 4 years ago
Pretty much the same story here in Taipei. My gaydar doesnt work well here either. However the gays here are very visible. Very out there. I feel like Taipei is the gayest city in East Asia other than Bangkok
curlyboy73 4 years ago
Yeah, I've read that, as far as East Asian countries go, Taiwan is pretty up there on its gay legislature and what not. Kinda makes me wanna visit again (I haven't been since I was three...)!
noholzba 4 years ago
its so hard to use gaydar in japan man, coz in america its about the way they dress but in japan its SO different o_O it needs skillllzzzzzzzzz lol
fyi: do u play xbox 360? HALO 3 MAN
MFoxcat 4 years ago
Nope, no XBox for me. I can't deal with FPS's (or any games that resemble FPS's!)!
noholzba 4 years ago
Your little needle, eh? :P haha... *remembers*
Anyway, yeah. Normalized "gay" cultural behaviors and identifiers in the US are unlike those found in other cultures. Duh. :P
Gayest vblog yet. Wow. :P
Oberyn 4 years ago
Shhhhhh! =P
noholzba 4 years ago
Respectfully Oberyn, gay cultural behaviors in one country and another are often linked. Mass media and other methods of cultural transfer mean that most post-industrial countries have ties between one subculture and another. While a lot is different here, a lot is similar too. IMHO.
kansaiPJ 4 years ago
The guy you mentioned in the story, may not in fact be 'straight'... OR he just wanted to make friends with a gaijin. I have had many similar experiences. It can suck sometimes. Right now, I am talking to a guy I met at the gym. I am not sure he is gay or not yet... I too am shy to ask directly. I gave him my mixi which says I am gay, but he has said nothing one way or the other...Argh!!!!
kansaiPJ 4 years ago
Yeah, it's hard.
noholzba 4 years ago
I have been in Japan so long now, that I think my Japanese gaydar is better than my American gaydar... LOL! Seriously. Gaydar is a mix of verbal and non-verbal ques (culturally constructed) that some people are better able to pick up on. I think my gaydar is fine, but many gay friends say that they don't have very good gaydars. Everyone is different.
kansaiPJ 4 years ago
haha! Gaydar!!! I like that :-)
My ex was my first Japanese gay guy that I've met, and he had great gaydar. He said one thing that might apply still; if a Japabese guy wears A&F in Japan, he is gay. But it's not as certain as before any bore because it got easier to get A&F in Japan. But it might help you...? I think I have OK gaydar. Gaydar in Japan gay need an extra equipment called a cultural background.
keipence 4 years ago
You know...I think you're right. I've hardly ever seen straight guys wear A&F, here... I'll keep an eye out. =D
So how've you been? Text me, okay?
noholzba 4 years ago
this made me laugh so much
thanks
i was so burned out
wwocd 4 years ago
My pleasure. Thanks for watching!
noholzba 4 years ago
I love the arc you make when you say gaydar. Ha. Aw, I miss the hair and glasses D:
But LOL Aw!! God, you're adorable xD Damn, what a sad ending. D: Damn Japanese boys. D: They're so wonderful.
Oblivimark 4 years ago
Hair grows. And I still wear the glasses! ...Sometimes. =)
noholzba 4 years ago
Comment Con't; (damn thing over 500 characters)
I'm guessing a way to tell is maybe ask like do you have a girlfriend in the middle of a conversation, or if they say no, you could reply as Are you looking and how's that going for you? It may not be the best advice but i'm just brain storming the easiest way, if they say no to two of those, them being gay could come out in the conversation.
bobbiejohnson2552 4 years ago
Hmm...something to keep in mind, I suppose. Yeah, I guess it is pretty telling if one of you says "Girlfriend? Nope, and I'm not looking for one either."
noholzba 4 years ago
Instead of saying 'girlfriend', why not use 'koibito'? The gender-neutral term may provide the wiggle room you are looking for while still being proactive.
kansaiPJ 4 years ago
Hmmm...I think you're missing the point, though. Any "koibito" sounds lame, anyway.
noholzba 4 years ago
Yeah, but at least it would help you identify whether or not they are in the market...
kansaiPJ 4 years ago
...But the other suggestion would accomplish the same thing. By denying both a girlfriend and the desire for one....
noholzba 4 years ago
Yes, but by asking if he has a girlfriend, you may be giving a signal to him that you are straight. When I meet a guy whose sexuality I am not sure of, I try not to suggest or imply anything that might give him the idea that I am hetero. Besides, 'koibito' used within a Japanese sentence, does not seem lame to me.
kansaiPJ 4 years ago
Aw, that's too bad, Alot of the korean guys at my old school used to primp all the time, had hair products and cologne in their locker and had major style so ya I was pretty confused.
bobbiejohnson2552 4 years ago
i love a guy who isn't ashamed to primp! ...but yeah, it is pretty confusing...
noholzba 4 years ago
yeah, that low key thingy might be right. Most Parents still arent used to their children being gay. So some hid it... I havent really see gay Asians to be matter of fact, or i cant tell...
chickenknot 4 years ago
i think in japan it's still something that's very hush-hush...some younger people are okay with it, but i know very few japanese gay men who are out to their parents...
noholzba 4 years ago
They have a different gay culture to the West though - the whole "coming out" thing isn't really that important.
kunstinflammen 4 years ago