No contact rule after breakup - See your ex or not?

[kevinbors80]

@PaulMccarynet

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at the site:

GettingBackTheEx.info

It worked when nothing else did! Never thought

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Really thanks to it..:)

[mesa134]

i got the best tip for getting over a break up...grow a pair stop being such a pussy wusss

[sugarhooney]

It's really hard to accept that fact what your ex is happy with other people now. I fish him for the best it's but I even can't log on facebook and see that he's doing ;/

[garycalgary]

people break up with you because you are IRRITATING

[loner20092010]

my girlfriend dumped me because she knew she could do better after that i found out she was gonna dump me a week before to get with my friend/her old boyfriend and she was embarresed to be seen with me in front of her friends my friends tell me to forget about her but i cant cause i really loved her

[Lilycha100]

Im probly alone about this, but after me and gf breakup we have never heard from each other agien...blocked on facebook......and that stuff.

But i still want to talk to her....i dont know why

[DeadJ0ker27]

So did anyone buy the program and does it work?

[freakystylntime]

I tried this rule. I didnt talk to him for about a month and he didnt talk to me either. After a month I contacted him. I admitted that I still loved him and that I still thought about him all the time. He told me he felt the same way.

We were back together literally the next day.

[Sallyallie89]

@freakystylntime Did he ever contact you within that month of no contact? And if so, what did you do? Ignore him or answer him?

[freakystylntime]

@Sallyallie89 No. There was really no contact at all. We maybe talked once or twice through facebook or text and I gave him very blunt answers and the conversations were very short.

[Sallyallie89]

@freakystylntime Alright, sounds good to me. That's what I will do with my ex. Lately he has been messing with my mind anyway. One day he'll call me up all apologetic and missing me, then the very next day he is our partying and having a blast. So hopefully no contact will benefit the both of us because he needs to figure out what he wants before he contacts me again.

[freakystylntime]

@Sallyallie89 When he acts all affectionate dont reciprocate the affection and let him know you'll come running back to him the moment he calls. He'll put you on the back burner if he knows he can have you at any point he wants. Try to show him that you are happy. Go out and party and have a blast without him and try to make sure he knows about it. Then when he calls you play it cold and act uninterested but polite. Itll confuse him and hell start to be curious about your life.

[Sallyallie89]

@freakystylntime That's a good way to go about it. I can totally see him doing this too, even if he doesn't realize it himself yet. So I'll take your advice and do just that =)

[AcrylicApe]

It's been just a little over a year since the breakup, together for 7 yrs before. I didn't date during this time, and am now seeing other women. Just found out she has a new man, and I am now falling back in the mental state I was in when she left me. I just hope having had radio silence for almost a year in Jan, will actually help me suture up whats left. I know it's rather emo, but it's really painful to see anything about her. I hope the best for her, but it hurts too much to think about her

[KevinR3i]

This is so true!!But i don't know how to avoid it because I will see her everyday and it Still haunts me,what about being friend again???

[donnieblack2127]

man, whem girls want "me time" thats an excuse to.go out on a fucking binge...females are snakes

[oviedoae]

I'm really having a hard time dealing with my breakup, I still love her. The past 2 Yrs of the relationship have been a roller coaster ride. I tried many times to give her the benifet of doubt due to her suspicious behavior and story telling. I don't really trust her, but still hanged on. We talked about moving together which included her two teenage boys, I was hesitant about taking this big step so she ended it, becuase I was undecided, and took to long. Need to forget her. Help!

[nayte1]

Good advice thanks. I was asking myself that very question

[naufalnetsky]

making money on heart broken people?

[remotaurog]

my ex gf is on the same dating site as me ,she knows im dating ,should i take my profile down or leave it up,she insulted me today but i didnt react i responded,lol,we re on a break for 3 months and im not one to sit around feeling down about it,starting a night class and might take up horse riding too

[richjasonjones]

Slaying, how did it work out?

[SlayingMinion]

FELLAS,

The reason why we get so bent out of shape when our chicks want to seperate is because we don't have the right mind set to begin with. We need to realize that we don't NEED to be with them to be happy and badass, we just WANT to be with them. If you're like me, just focus on YOURSELF when you feel blue, get a new wardrobe, workout, FEEL BADASS. Confidence is key for meeting new people AND trying to rekindle old flames. Good luck, bros!

[2lovetasha]

@SlayingMinion BADASS SAYS THATS THE MOST BADASS STATEMENT/COMMENT THAT HAS BADASSED YOU TUBE IN A LONGGG F  ING TIME!!

[bboyrocklee]

thank you so much...

[kkeV666]

Hey guys can i get some advice? ok me and my girlfriend broke up a few days ago we dated for almost 2 years but the last 3 4 months we got in a lot of arguments we did have our good times tho. she broke up with me cuz she thinks its a cycle and doesnt want to ge thurt again. I begged and cried for her not to leave. i started the No contact rule yesterday. should i call in a couple of weeks? she also texted me saying she wanted her "me time".

[SlayingMinion]

What I'm doing w/ my chick is letting her have her "me time" while I have my own. I just got a new wardrobe that's a big upgrade, hopefully my chick will give me another chance...but anyways..Honestly bro, in these uncertain times, the best advice I can give u for ur overall well being is this: focus on YOU being able to be happy W/O her, whatever it takes(new clothes, workout,friends, etc).Do this before you hope for you guys to reconnect.I'd wait for her to text U, to be honest.GLuck

[bargainmom]

@kkeV666

No, go ahead and give her the 'me' time. Once you stop talking to her for a while and get busy spending time with other people/activities, she will be curious and her ego will make her interested in talking to you again. In any case, if you were arguing a lot, it's GOOD for a break. Arguing and stress aren't good for you. Relationships run their course. Two years is a long time, and most relationships don't last forever. Get strong. Take good care of your body and mind.

[WPGinterceptor]

my x and I broke up on a friday and by sunday she had a new guy.. 3 weeks later he moved in with her.. 2 weeks after they were living together, she started calling me and coming over for sex! She says she wants us both and wants her cake and eat it too.

What Can I do to make her want me more? Also alot of times she tells me she is coming over but then doesnt show up or call and tell me that she isnt coming.. WHY does she do that to me?

[bargainmom]

@WPGinterceptor

This girl sounds like a real tramp and is NOT good for you! If she is doing this, she is exposing you to diseases and heartbreak. Would you really WANT the kind of girl who is so brazenly a slut? The only thing you can do to make her want you more is to move away from her. But this is about her EGO, and there are LOTS of nice girls who want to be with YOU.

[ThingThing223]

thanks for the support guys. :) she went out with me again and i saw her at the store and didnt talk to her and apparently thats a reason to break up with someone cause she did. :( but i pretty sure she will ask me back out like she did before cause she still likes hanging around me and talking so when she does ill either dump her after a few days to show her how it feels or ill just see how long it lasts because i still kinda like her.

[ThingThing223]

my ex girlfriend broke up with me becuase she says she just doesn't like me anymore, but just TWO WEEKS AGO she said she loved me and was telling me all the reasons why.  PLEASE HELP!!!! I REALLY LOVE HER!!!!!!

[vitalcoaching]

@ThingThing223 feelings can change

[SlayingMinion]

@vitalcoaching lol, that's what my gf of three years just told me. Said she had gotten bored and her feelings for me changed. I'm hoping a complete overhaul/makeover both physically and mentally will be enough to rekindle our once-bright flame...time will tell...

[vitalcoaching]

@SlayingMinion get in touch for a coaching session with me - I can help - check my site

[carlyonbeachfire]

@ThingThing223 Hey man, same thing happen to me literally 2 weeks ago. Don't beat yourself up, and give it time. Realize what she didn't give you in the relationship and you'll start to feel better.

[codegeassfanone]

@ThingThing223 make her jealous she broke up with you

[goddessdianamoon]

@ThingThing223 hmmm still stay away from this woman. She doesn't want you back. there were painful things between you BUT she might still love you. but she just can't cos no matter what you two tried it didn't work. so she lied and said she doesn't love u anymore. i just did that to an ex. we were together for 3 years. i still love her but for all intent we argue and constanly fight. i'm not happy with anymore. she would not leave me alone so i told her i don't love you anymore so sorry.

[soonerdave01]

@ThingThing223 Never go back! She struck out and can't handle being single.

[LGmakeup345]

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[actressin2008]

i have been trying the no contact and i'am telling u it works BiG time, talk about you know what u got till its gone...this thing made him feel how important i was in his life

[VioletMoonFire]

No I want him! He says he loves me! I love him too that's what its about!

[vitalcoaching]

@VioletMoonFire he loves you but is breaking up up with you? is this what's happening? tell me more... what's happening

[VioletMoonFire]

@vitalcoaching He has low self esteem. When there happens to be a situation where we both need to communicate he backs away because he doesn't seem to want to feel bad about himself. I'm not mean but I am not afraid to say I feel a certain way, careful not to blame others. But I don't have his support because he feels this way. It's hard for him, because we are really compatible. We aren't together right now but he says he wants to get better but not change himself. I'm supporting him right now.

[BELLABEARBEAR]

Help! My guy said we need a week break cause he wants to break up,BUT he said he will give me a week for us to cool off and for him think about if he wants to rekindle us or not. HE said no calls or no text nothing for a week! And he said he will call me next Saturday. What should i DO!?

[vitalcoaching]

@BELLABEARBEAR respect that and let him see that life goes on for you - the worst mistake that you can make is to come back to him crying and needy hoping that he will take you back - neediness is huge turn off and what will make him feel attraction to you is if you are confident and let him see that other guys like you

[todosbien]

this is the hardest thing! facebook and mutual friends seem to make it impossible. i just find it hard to believe that all the feelings that we had for each other can just disappear to nothing! :(

[vitalcoaching]

@todosbien they might not all be gone - I am sure that there are some left but they might not be enough - feelings change, that's the thing - they evolve - and I agree with you friends, facebook, social events can be a big challenge

[vitalcoaching]

@SenneffRules get out, make new friends - don't isolate yourself - connecting with others really clears your mind

[giugnhgbvinierngvb89]

@SenneffRules be strong. dont reply or reply just in a friendly way. dont show her ur hurt. shes gonna try find out if ur hurt. if u show ur hurt she will not want u. if she cannot figure out she will be thinking about u...THINK WITH UR BRAIN AND FORGET ABOUT UR HEART. if she sees u as a strong man that doesnt need her she will keep u in her mind for a possible future relationship. if she sees u hurt and that needs her ur gonna be in the black list forever and be FRIEND in the best case...

[ObservingMyCells]

@SenneffRules I used to be in this position last November. I know it was so painful. But you gotta push yourself, to go out. I made new friends and they were incredibly supportive. This week I again felt the pangs of heartbreak when I found out she was dating this other dude by stumbling upon his fb profile picture and relationship status. It hurt so much, plus I have so much stress from work that I feel cornered. We just gotta force ourself to let go, what she does is none of our business.

[Lisandro01987]

@SenneffRules refocus your mind m8 ignore that girl, she's just in it for the moment.

[SNS8R03]

I did that - it back fired, that just created more pain and she moved on

[ilovemarineanimals]

What do I do if my ex is my laboratory partner and I have to see her everyday for hours? What can I do if it's inevitable?

[mansonaty]

I had this girlfriend until 4 days ago.. we were together for 9 months, but she began getting tired of me because i couldnt get a better job for us to move on with our lifes...so 2 months from now she broke up with me every week,until 4 days ago,she broke up and now she doesnt even want to see me,she says she wants to try to be my friend but ill gotta stop calling her,i gotta quit because its over..

however she says she still loves me and shes feeling bad about it.. i dont know what to think now

[557011]

@mansonaty tell her that you love her but if you make stupid excuss then i cant do this any more thats whats you most do you cant go brok up back again and again but if you care for her that mutch then tell her that im reddy to make life with you that means that you gotta get a jobb go and work at school heck thers a good jobb when you go to school and stuff shit reminds of my shitty day at school work as a slave if you know what im saying shit to day was the shitt i hate school man

[giugnhgbvinierngvb89]

@557011 dude thats a lot of bullshit...if u tell a woman ur gonna do what she demands shes gonna see u as a weak man that NEEDS her. believe it or not that makes them run away from u. women are atracted to men that rule not to the ones that do whatever to be loved by a woman.

[557011]

@giugnhgbvinierngvb89 tell that to the girl how keeps hanging on me even she has a boyfreind

[giugnhgbvinierngvb89]

@557011 is she having sex with u? or with him?....

[557011]

@giugnhgbvinierngvb89 what?..no not that i know of she has a thing for me but wood not share thes feelings for me but then again its been a long time since i find out she got a soul mate but then again its an old info..but i heard she sayed my name to her boyfriend. more like i love you ops wrong word they got togeter but wheter this rumor tok place is unknown for me itleast but she did kiss me on the cheak when i didnt want to talk to her

[giugnhgbvinierngvb89]

@mansonaty sorry to say but she doesnt love u. it's weird because i have more credit on this one that yourself. ur the one that cannot see reality. if thats what has happened she definetly does not love u. dont call her. go find another one even if ur not truly satisfied. if ur ex gets to know it she will feel attracted to u believe it or not. if she sees ur dating other women and women are attarcted to u she will feel the same. women dont make sense. if she calls DONT ANSWER. make her miss u...

[mansonaty]

@giugnhgbvinierngvb89 thank man =) it kinda worked we´re together again

[cvsr6]

good bro..thanx u really helpd me a bit..

[azzmboss]

oo gosh th no contact rule is sooooo hard it makes me want to cry if i dont

[majho005]

gosh u just look like him just my guy is younger...darn the coincidence..specially now that i dont want anything to remind me of him LOL,,but great this vids really helps in a way.,:)

[vitalcoaching]

@majho005 funny...

[lavvy2585]

I have a great question sir! Does a man hurt as much in no contact even if he is the one that chose it or is it only the other person that hurt(the woman).

[vitalcoaching]

@lavvy2585 both will hurt more or less depending on their character and level of personal power - It is of course way easier when you are the one initiating the no contact

[ANDREW26101]

its been three days and it feels like forever for me and my ex when sshould i contact her because i miss talking to her

[azzans]

This girl I know she had a thing with me then she started dating this other dude its been 9 months and she stil gets frustrated about it she still talks to me and i talk sometimes but I maintain a boundary it hurts but she won't dump him cuz she's scared of his sisters I can see it in her eyes and i don't wanna try for her if she scared of them but I want her to stop bothering me

[azzans]

@557011

exactly she just won't make up her mind

[azzans]

@557011

Rachel

[azzans]

@557011

Well for a few months we were just with each other and we got really got close and all the simple things that happen between a couple, but a few months or more in like about 7 months she became close friends with this other guy and from there she started spending less and less time with me to be around him and eventually it came to a gridlock between him and I

[azzans]

@557011

I can relate to that, it really pissed me off what she did to me

[azzans]

@557011

I guess i did but sometimes i have moments when i think about it then i get really depressed and like really frustrated

[azzans]

@557011

Yeah i usually think about the bad parts about her it hurts alot less when i do that

[azzans]

@557011

im trying to connect to a different girl right now cuz i think that'll let me forget her comepletely

[calendor01]

are you italiano?

[BigHayes7771]

i made her a whore and she cheats we were on and off for 2 years now she is finally done cause of her high addiction wtf guys shes 15 almost 16 i dont get it i feel its my fault making her a sex addict

[bluestrapsify]

Not always. If you are a realistic person you will know the good things and the bad things about your ex. Sometimes two people can be suited for each other but something happens to end the relationship, that could be one stupid thing.

[bargainmom]

Very true. We don't REALLY want our ex back...we want an idealized and perfected memory of a relationship that never existed. TRY TRY TRY NOT to call them! TRY TRY TRY when you are lonely at night, alone, and you want to text them...DON'T. Text me! SERIOUSLY. Whatever you do, DO NOT text your ex!

[whata86]

@bargainmom Thanks, Your advice helped me.

[meb199]

i have no clue what 2 do.....

couple things that she does that confuses me:

*she says she still loves me

*she hangs out witth this guy that she knows I hate alot

*she says she wants 2 be freinds

*but she just got back from a trip 2day but is hangin out with him all day n hasn't said anything 2 me

***what should I do?***

[SmytherJones1]

thank u soooo much ! mate u helped me ! aka Neil Simpson !

[vitalcoaching]

you're welcome ;)

[dude159862]

dude im a 14 year old trying to get my 13yr old girl back after i broke up with her for a friend so he would have his first gf in this state, she still likes me but she is a little stubbern and just wants to be friends but still wants to go out

any advise?!

[forgotmyshoe]

when my relationship was over... i was frustrated .. first thing i did was ereased msn, cellphone number etc.. from my girlfriend and ignore her. And calling my friends to go partying.... and now couple months further, im glad i did this !

[vitalcoaching]

sounds good - well done! any negative feelings or difficult challenges still left 2 months later?

[forgotmyshoe]

When it was over.. she had quickly got an another boyfriend (so i think their contact player longer when it was still on). So i was disappointed about her, and then i ereased everything to be in contact with her.

And yeah... its very difficult to not thinking about her. And betrayed my self to sneak peak her personal website.. and kinda punished my self for watching :P not by hurting my self ;)

[forgotmyshoe]

When youre alone again, you feel empty... so i filled up this with going out with my friends and talked with some other girls just for social contact.

I didn't want to sit at home in a corner and feel bad. So i think ive made a good point what i did last year. :)

[vitalcoaching]

yes! - well done

[ARBIH87]

@forgotmyshoe Im at this stage now, im partying every weekend.. And it has happend that I hold the phone in my hand and considering calling her.. But I always end up not calling. I like your comment because now im sure im doing the right thing...

Thanks dude ...

[forgotmyshoe]

@ARBIH87 No problem dude ! Now some time has past.. and the pain did go away. I must admit that i wasnt easy... had some realy big hard times with my self. Ive even visit my ex a while ago and had a little chat and changed some pictures of both we got. She was sooo changed as a person and the style she wear her clothes i didn't like it.... and now im thinking... ok she's kinda still hot.. but the way she act isnt my style... im glad its over.

[emmabee11]

Your right about the no contact rule. I love a guy but he is an idiot really but we never went out he don't feel that way but every time i see him i just keep going back to the same position. I feel better i told him i don't want to see him any more.

[Lira1515]

This is exactly what I needed right now! My ex keeps asking me why we can't be friends and I was starting to feel bad about it. But everything you said makes sense. Thanks!

[vitalcoaching]

You're welcome Lira - Yes! It's your right to stay away from him! Do what's right for you!