Living With Asperger's Syndrome --- Jay Serdula

[lordmikz19]

as far as i know, people with ASD are usually unrivaled in their field(s) of expertise but they're not prone to holding grudges which will tempt people to exploit them. they're seem impervious to pain. supposedly, i'm an aspey. i say "supposedly" because, i go out to the clubs and drink with the boys, flirt with girls and do all the things that "normal" folks do. anyway, based on what this video has covered, do the benefits outweigh the drawbacks or vice-versa?

[ghosts2kewl]

She said full circle when they sit in half a circle

[Databamse]

This guy probably thinks everyone in the studio is treating him like a dumbnut.

[anecann]

Se supone que la remera satiriza la mecánica detrás de las convenciones sociales. Algunos usan displays sociales y emocionales, como ser amable con alguien, solo para mantener las apariencias. Lo mas bizarro es que aun después de leer la remera sigan siendo falsas con el.

The T-shirt is supposed to satirize the mechanics behind social conventions. Some use social and emotional displays, such as being nice to someone, just to keep up appearances.

[anecann]

@TheManiNicole is just a nervous laugh 'cuz she feels uncomfortable. I guess than the way he speak seems awkward to them. (sorry by my bad english).

[4ndiland]

why is she so patronizing :-/

[somotastic21]

@yodudewassp That's what I thought, good to hear too!

[somotastic21]

@yodudewassp I see. Yes and I guess it can be confused as nervousness. Also, when I said I know when it's appropriate to make a joke yet can't because I can't think of one in time, does that put me somewhere on the spectrum? Full disclosure, sometimes I find it hard to communicate, mostly because of my fear of other people's judgements

[somotastic21]

@yodudewassp about him gives his Aspergers away? What are some of the things he does which give that away? 

[somotastic21]

@yodudewassp Also, in this video when one of the women asks Jay "Would you swim across Lake Ontario again?", I would think the ideal answer would be to make a small joke maybe a sarcastic one as an answer but my problem has always been my failure to joke, even though I know when one is expected of me, I can't think of a joke in time so I may come off as being socially awkward. Do you see this as possibly on the spectrum? Also, and this is an obvious question but what about Jay specifically what

[somotastic21]

@yodudewassp Could? But I thought the science wasn't in on whether NLD is on the Autism Spectrum Disorder? I think they said AS was though. Are all of these mentioned lifelong disorders without hope of any kind of recovery or living a normal life?

[somotastic21]

@yodudewassp Yeah she could. There are many different disorders out there. So would you associate NLD with Aspergers or Autism?

[somotastic21]

@yodudewassp This is very true. I knew a girl once who I was a friendly acquaintance with. She seemed slightly shy and maybe slightly gullible but that was it. Other than that she seemed very smart and personable. Turns out she was mentally challenged. I was shocked. Looking back on it though I am wondering if she had Aspergers or a mild form of autism. Anyway, what about people with NLD (Nonverbal Learning Disability), would you put them in the same category as autists and aspies?

[somotastic21]

@yodudewassp The person in the video is certainly a severe case of Aspergers if not autistic. But the examples you gave would probably be more subtle, am I right? How can you necessarily tell by the people who are high functioning aspergers patients or aspies as they call themselves?

[somotastic21]

the host is pretty hot lol

[somotastic21]

@yodudewassp Very interesting point. Let me ask that for those people with aspergers who appear normal at first and then once you get to know them you begin to notice the difference, let me ask you what kind of differences are you referring to?

[somotastic21]

I've watched other videos of people with aspergers and there were subtle differences in how they came across both in their speech and affect. This guy seems to have a more extreme condition of aspergers

[drumheadcircle]

He's a hot sexy older guy.

[angelanicoleparsons1]

Does anyone know if that is his email address?

[cirosuperiore]

the tee shirt is so hostile, which by-the-way is typical of aspie. hostility and violence can be problem with a/s. so let's not poo-poo the idea that a/s always benign

[DaddyDrums1]

@cirosuperiore true, but there are lots of hostile neuro-typical people too...

[cirosuperiore]

@DaddyDrums1 no shit. but aspies can be dangerously hostile, that's why many cannot work in environment with a lot of people because they tend to get into trouble including fights...aspies have to work by themselves in a corner somewhere. that's the truth. i have studied them over the years. i know aspies who have a hard time socializing and get fired under the  worse situations most of the time. they tend to be inflexible, intolerant and bossy, and often rude whether they know it or not.

[DaddyDrums1]

@cirosuperiore yeah.... sort of like you.... "superior"...

[rpm2004]

@cirosuperiore That is true but most of the time violence from somebody with AS is reactionary, like cornering an animal and then it bites. They don't start fights, they just don't have the necessary social tools to deal with confrontation so it will resort to violence quicker that with a "normal" person. Another thing is stress,like regular Autism they get sensory overload, loud noise, smells, and frustration puts them on edge so if they don't decompress they can snap.

[rpm2004]

@cirosuperiore The shirt isn't hostile, it's just frank and/or blunt. It's matter of fact advice on how to optimize interaction with him.

[daimyoyo]

That's odd. Most Aspies are atheist. Is this show focused on religion?

[rpm2004]

@daimyoyo yes

[sound4media]

Fantastic video !! Jay is an inspiration and someone I would like to meet.

[aspiebear]

Listen to the T-shirt people. I have AS and what this man says and his T-shirt are so true. The Blonde woman in grey is talking to him like he's a child almost - that happens a lot to me.

[rbdzntsfrlk]

@aspiebear People who use generalization skills based on both preconceived notions and simplification should kill themselves, like this women.

[Fabsvava]

@aspiebear that is true...I also noticed that I am a psychologist student and we must show respect to ASD or AS as we would like to be respect...Individuals with these disorder does not necessary need to be treat like a babies, yet with respect!! empathize do not sympathize!

[PhilMyBod41]

for all those people who say autism is a go nowhere syndrome. just take a look at this guy ,we are the intelligent people who will end up running the world soon!!!

[somotastic21]

@PhilMyBod41 Well in terms of having a social life and being able to communicate with people on a day to day basis then in some ways it kind of is a go nowhere syndrome. This guy obviously has quite a lot of accomplishments under his belt but I can't imagine how difficult it must be for him to interact with others. Just from watching this video it looks extremely difficult.

[somotastic21]

I think when he told them that Asperger's didn't have a name in Europe until 1981 I think he was expecting a reaction out of them. I think the women on this show could have done a better job at trying to make him feel integrated. But yes at the end where she refers to his book she was expecting him to say the name of it and after the delay she finally said it for him

[alejandra078]

@PhilMyBod41 i agree with u . . .

[1LoneDesperado]

You rock dude! - keep up the good work