Wow. Ur getting caught up in the thick of small stuff. If it makes u feel better to blame bw for every thing... do wut makes u feel good about being you. PEACE.
@ireignfyr You have so much guilt that you think everyone is against you. Are you so stupid that you can't see I am not going against you or any other BW. My goal is make BW aware and hopefully they will stop the baby mama cycle. However, like I said before, I am starting to realize that won't happen.
@ChrisEveryDay Guilty of what? I am married to a King. Im running my bussiness. I am not angry nor am I hostile & calling you names, like "stupid". Nope, I'm not stupid, & apparently thats why your so angry with my responses. Because Im not being stupid enough for your stereotypical views of who you expect me 2 be. I never will Black Man. Relax, ain't nobody mad but the devil.
@ireignfyr You to wake up and realize that I and many other BM want BW to look good again. We see BW being viewed as welfare queens or just women who can't keep their legs closed and we are pretty much helpless to stop it. Only Black Women can stop it by NOT leading in all the negative statistics (abortion, children out of wedlock, STDs). If you've watched any of my other videos I am always encouraging BW to talk to their daughters and convince not to follow the path that led to all of this.
@ChrisEveryDay That is really not my concern. As I've said b4, this battle is in your mind & in the minds of others like you. Because you dont see that all bw are not fitting that stereotype. Even the bible suggests that "As a man thinks, so is he". So go on & beleive what you will. My point was only that everyone needs to take personal responsibility in order 2 remedy the issue. I understand now that this was never about positive forward movement. It was just a rant. My bad 4 trying. Peace.
I think maybe Black women must have pissed GOD off something awefull, because we seem to be at the bottom of the totem pole. And some of us really don't seem to understand that hate only breeds more hate. This conversation is neccessary, however, the dialog needs to be more structured, and more understanding. If we are to at all ever move forward and become the force we once was in this country, progress needs to be made. We cannot progress by pointing blame and taking no responsibility.
@ireignfyr The topic is about how BW are valued. Turning things around to us men is not going to help improve the BW reputation. The fact is that the baby mama epidemic has been going on for almost four or five generations now. There are households where the mother, her daughter and the grandmother are all baby mamas. People don't feel sorry for BW after awhile because they figure they should have learned by now. However, they are just following suit.
@ChrisEveryDay I am fully aware of how long this has been an issue. And I can't feel sorry, because ai am a single mother who was raised by a single parent. But My Father left when I was 16 years old, and did not take care of me because he did not want to vicariously be taking care of her. I feel sorry for our BM, because they want none of the blame, when they are solely to blame. When a company fails, everyone asks the head of that company what happened, not the managers, not the employees.
@ireignfyr I hate it when people use the company/corporate analogy because it is wrong on so many levels. However, let's go with it. Employees don't pick their bosses or the CEO. In that respect the child or children would be the employees because children don't get to pick their parents. If their daddy doesn't want the mother or even want them, then it is not their fault because they didn't choose him. A board of directors chooses the CEO and then what happens?
@ChrisEveryDay They put him under a CONTRACT that states it is his job to make the company thrive to the best of his ability. If he doesn't do that then he is shown the door. The mother is the board of directors in this analogy but here's where the jake comes in... She doesn't put her baby daddy under contract. Baby daddy gets all the perks and benefits of a CEO but none of the responsibilities and guess what else? If the family doesn't THRIVE, he isn't shown the door.
@ChrisEveryDay Baby daddy can go years or decades without producing any benefit for the family but the board of directors (baby mama) won't let him go until the company (family unit) is almost run into the ground.
The blame game is tiring and redundant to me. However, I am starting to realize that as long as there are BM who are willing to use BW for whatever they are worth then BW (not all but a majority) will go along with it, then fall back on the evil BM blame game.
@ChrisEveryDay The only way things will change for BW is if being a good family oriented BM comes back into fashion. I don't see that happening any time soon though because being a bad BM is too rewarding and Black culture promotes drug dealing, pimping, getting over and almost anything that is negative to the fullest.
@ChrisEveryDay I agree with your analogy. The problem I have with it is that its all so stereotypical 4 bw. There are no black girls on "16 & pregnant" but I have seen their lives played out in plenty of black girls homes. So why is it when you see a young white girl with baby none of these ugly negatives come to mind, but when you see a young black girl with a baby, every ugly negative stereo type comes to mind? I dont think you know the real stats of the welfare system. BW aren't the majority.
@ireignfyr All the stats deal with percentages and not raw numbers but that is really not the issue. For some strange reason you want to make this about conflict when it is not. I guess that is the Belligerent BW attitude that is stopping you from understanding what I am saying. Go argue with someone else because I am trying to have a conversation but your skull is too thick to comprehend the topic.
@ireignfyr I don't see why you just can't admit that a problem exist and do something about it. You could simply make the women closest to you aware of it and hope that they take steps in their own lives to make sure it doesn't happen to them.
The real reason that BM devalue BW is because American society does. BM clearly see what society does to them and claim that it is unfair, yet as society attacks BM they join in as if it is all the Gospel truth. Women know it this is from self hatred. As BM aren't value, neither is the BM. They want so badly to assimilate into White culture instead of creating and sustaining something for themselves. They blame BW and WM for their choices and value WW, HW, and AW because they are not BW.
@blaquelovely1 BM are valued. We may be valued for some of wrong reasons but we are valued. Whites didn't create the baby mama crisis in the Black community and whether you want to believe it or not, that is one of the key reasons why BM and everyone else kind of discounts BW.
@ChrisEveryDay If you want to believe that BM are valued in this country, by all means do you. Whites didn't create baby mamas. BM and BW have, but who bears all the blame. That's just the facts. The BM who down BW with children would marry and adopt the WW's children (i.e. Seal). WW can be whores and BM adore her (i.e. Kim Kardashian). I don't have children, and don't plan on having any. As I stand by my previous comment and you can't negate it.
@blaquelovely1 Most of comments are on the mark and I am not trying to negate them. However, you can't ignore the fact that BM are valued and desired by women, especially BW. A BM with children by multiple women can still go out and get a good woman to marry him with no problem if that is what he wants. A BW with just ONE baby daddy doesn't have it that easy.
@ChrisEveryDay True, because men can and do lie about having children. Also, some women are willing to accept a man with children, which is ridiculous because he'll just do to her what he did to the last woman/women. Men with children by multiple women are not dating/marriage material.
@blaquelovely1 Men with multiple baby mamas are the men BW want the most. There are no statistical facts to prove that. I am just going by what I see in the Black community. Outside of paying child support there is no reason for a BM to stop having children by multiple women. It is a sign of virility and masculinity, in other words, a sign of being a playa/stud/pimp.
@ChrisEveryDay "Men with multiple baby mamas are the men BW want the most. Ther are no statistical facts to prove that." LOL. Because it is a false belief. There isn't anything desirable about a man who has children by multiple women that he can't take care of. It shows that he is immature and self. Why create responsibility for yourself that you do not intend to honor? It would be great if these men could holistically provide for children they help to create.
@ChrisEveryDay "I am just going by what I see in the Black community." You know what I see. I see women who compromise their worth and value for men who don't mean them any good. I'm not talking about ALL BM or just BM either. If a woman had a choice between a man who had multiple children by multiple mothers (drama and financial burden) vs. a man who didn't have these issues or obligations, the man with all the issues would be left standing alone with all his baggage.
@ChrisEveryDay "Outside of paying child support there is no reason for a BM to stop having children by multiple women. It is a sign of virility and masculinity, in other words, a sign of being a playa/stud/pimp." LMAO. Unfortunately, many men believe this, but it is not profitable for a man to do this. You think child support is the only reason not to do this when there are many, many reasons not to. As I stated before, you look immature and selfish and the result is devastating.
@blaquelovely1 I am telling how most people in the community view this situation. If you have listened to any of my other videos you would I don't approve of a great deal that goes on the Black community. However, my view or your view doesn't change how other people perceive what is going on and how people react to it.
@ChrisEveryDay Just a complete LMFAO at this entire post. I do comment you for being respectful and being able to converse without making this a personal issue. I wasn't attacking you, just your beliefs.
@blaquelovely1 As I said before, I am like Joe Friday, I am just stating the facts. I wish things weren't the way they are but I accept the reality of the situation. I believe you and many of other women point the finger at the man and don't want to believe that you helped this situation move along. I didn't say you created because I have always said the selfishness of Black men is hurting us more than anything else.
@blaquelovely1 Turning the finger around to point at the man wont do any good for BW. You are the ones who are going to burn the brunt of the blame. The men who do you in are playas who knew how to work their magic wands.
@ChrisEveryDay If BM can't handle what they dish out, that is certainly their problem and not mine. I don't have children; therefore, I can use their logic and dismiss all men who have children as potential dating/marriage partners if I were interested in such things. I am very clear that women need to STOP having sex with men they are not married to . BW do not have to be the perpetual victim of society and BM.
@ChrisEveryDay I don't do double standards like the rest of the world. In the same comment you criticized women and glorified men for the same behavior. That's not going to work with me. Just as women who are baby mamas aren't marriage material, men who are baby daddies aren't marriage material. Don't get mad when your hypocrisy bites you in the ass.
I know plenty of white women who have children by black men who are now baby moma's.Believe me when I tell you many of their families were pissed when they found out their daughters had children by black men ,because most nonblack people see how destructive our communities are. Most of them say black men don't take care of their children. I am around all types of nationalites and many races think black men are weak,because they let their women take care of everything.
@lakeside321 I heard a white woman say on TV that BM are manipulative and are masters at using people. I know how they view us. The problem is that a lot of those type of brothas have had GREAT SUCCESS doing that type of thing. No need to stop doing it when it works so well. At least, that is the line of thought.
@ChrisEveryDay I hera what you're saying but it in the end the Joke is on him. He winds up old, alone a living from house to house trying to find a place to rest his head. I always say when you think your're getting over you truely aren't Karma si just around the corner.
@toyu17 Sorry is a discription of character, not an apology. And there is no need to apologize anyway. As I stated before, I am married to a wonderful black man. The community is in need of strong upstanding black men and women. We won't miss you.
@toyu17 The shame is that more black women have to take on the role of independent women. Why is it that the BM does not have to take responsibility for his children? There would not be a reason for single mothers if both parties weer thinking responsibly. No one is no more or less to blame than the other. And in the mean while our communities suffer. How is this helping?
The first man I ever fell in love with was my Daddy, and then he left me. How do you think that affected me? It made me think that if my own father wouldn't stay, why would a man with no direct connection to me at all want to stay? I wonder how most of these young girls growing up in single family homes feel. Obviously they feel just as abandoned as I did. I keep hearing that everything is the BW's fault in some way or another. How can that be, when it all starts with you? BLACK MAN.
@ireignfyr If you ever listened to any of my other videos you would know that I don't blame the BW for the woes in the Black community. I actually agree that the root of the problem is us (Black Men) and our selfishness. Don't judge by just one video but by my body of work.
@ChrisEveryDay I don't make judgments, I gave my opinion based off this video and the comments that were made of this video. If you feel at all touched by the statement I made, then maybe there was some truth to it that you should take a second look at. When I said you, Black Man, I was not only speaking to you.
@ireignfyr I already knew you weren't speaking solely to me genius. I was just clearing up things for you. The only reason you answered is because you're looking for drama and I don't have the time for it.
@ChrisEveryDay I'm not one to create drama. You made this video, not me. And you posted it on YT. I am only voicing my opinion.If attitude reflects leadership, then maybe more BM should take their place as Kings, instead of constantly playing the role of victim and placing blame on their women. But again this is just my opinion.
@ChrisEveryDay LOL... Wow... yeah. I may as well be trying to converse with a brick wall. Oh well. No love loss. Rant on aimlessly if that's what pleases you. Misery loves company, and there seems to be plenty here. I just hope you know that it won't bring about change. But that's not what your after anyway, because that would begin with you. I wish you a peaceful journey :o)
@ireignfyr This was never a conversation. You were just trying to make it into one. I don't know how I am the one who is doing the aimless ranting but believe that if you want to. It sounds like you want to make a point so why don't you make a video and address it. I am not a psychotherapist so I don't think I can help you with your problem.
@ChrisEveryDay Lol... dialog between two or more people is considered a conversation. We could have agreed to disagree a long time ago, when you first suggested that you didn't have time for this. But you continue to respond to my posts. So you made this a conversation, not me. & with every response I was able to further my point. So thank you. Because of you it is not necessary for me to make a video. I can do what I am supposed to do, and that is respond to yours. & again, PEACE
Blackwomen need to stop mating with Blackmen or anybody and let the Black race die out
see how they hate you,,Blackwomen is the most mistreated since slavery..but some Blackmen want and the media wants to put down Blackwomen for being the evil one..what goes around comes around belive that..lets see what the future hold for this behavior
i bet you where raised my a single back mother frist off these black girls choose these black boys the nature in are so called community is fucked a black women think she can be a black man that is not the real black man fault in the community becouse you must of forgot that nice black men are seen for weak becouse they are nice so how can it be a real black mans fault when the black community dont respct him for being nice oh also that bad boy shit is what the white man put on tv!
the tradition of respecting black men is dead. therefore black women really don't have anyone to cater their themselves toward. and there aren't any principled black men imposing standards of decency on our community. everyone is chasing the dollar.
I have a theory about the Hatred that BW are facing...here is the thing this generation of BM predominantly were raised by Single Mothers, there is this enmity going on about a subliminal blame and anger that BM are dealing with concerning not having fathers.
@toyu17 "WE." I guess that means you are down with the SWP crew. I understand where you guys are coming from but I am not anti-Black woman. I actually want them to do better but I know they are not the main problem in the Black community. Black men are leading them down into a hole and they aren't smart enough to figure it out until it is too late. Our problem (Black men) is that we are selfish and will put ourselves before our women, children and families. cont.
@ChrisEveryDay The culture we promote really only offers benefit to one party, US. That hurts the Black woman and the Black family in the long run but everyone goes along with the program and have been doing so for decades now. Anyway, my point is that I don't believe in targeting Black women for all the blame. As a Black man I know that we will like this culture and we will violently defend it because it garners much for us. We, not the women, are at the root of the issues in the BC.
@toyu17 Like I said before it was a radio show. It was broadcast sometime early last month. I don't think they keep old shows online. You can a search for the Doug Banks Show on WVAZ-FM in Chicago though.
I have heard that even the thugs don't want Black woman anymore. I don't even know what to say about that. It seems the cat is out of the bag though. Everybody, the world over, now knows that Black men really don't want Black women. The BM/BW situation is MAD CRAZY.
@toyu17 It was the Doug Banks Show in Chicago. Usually during the holiday season they have a lot BEST OF segments and sometimes they will even repeat a previous. I am pretty sure they will include that show in the lineup. However, I don't see why you think it is so funny because it is actually pretty sad.
the past dictates the future... we have to address our past... rise from the ashes and find our self respect. The way society (western) demonises black culture pkays a role on how we view ourselves and treat each other, we needs to switch the tv off, stop turning the pages on these magazines and allow for silence so we can hear our inner voice and get in touch with our authenic selves!
@S1MNICITY I understand what you are saying about society and the media but that actually doesn't apply to what I am talking about. I am talking about how Black men (who have direct contact with Black women) view them. Correction, I am talking about American Blacks, I don't know what the situation is in the UK. Society and the media in America actually have a more favorable view of Black women than Black men have of them. The media views...
@ChrisEveryDay ...Black women as the victims of the "EVIL" Black man. Black men actually look at Black women as VOLUNTEERS, who back the "EVIL" Black man 100,000 PERCENT in everything that he does. That is, until, the Black woman herself realizes that this culture leads her to being the OLD FAT BABY MAMA.
The media in America is starting to catch on to that though and even they are starting to look at Black women in a pretty bad light.
Wow. Ur getting caught up in the thick of small stuff. If it makes u feel better to blame bw for every thing... do wut makes u feel good about being you. PEACE.
ireignfyr 3 days ago
@ireignfyr You have so much guilt that you think everyone is against you. Are you so stupid that you can't see I am not going against you or any other BW. My goal is make BW aware and hopefully they will stop the baby mama cycle. However, like I said before, I am starting to realize that won't happen.
ChrisEveryDay 3 days ago
@ChrisEveryDay Guilty of what? I am married to a King. Im running my bussiness. I am not angry nor am I hostile & calling you names, like "stupid". Nope, I'm not stupid, & apparently thats why your so angry with my responses. Because Im not being stupid enough for your stereotypical views of who you expect me 2 be. I never will Black Man. Relax, ain't nobody mad but the devil.
ireignfyr 3 days ago
@ireignfyr You to wake up and realize that I and many other BM want BW to look good again. We see BW being viewed as welfare queens or just women who can't keep their legs closed and we are pretty much helpless to stop it. Only Black Women can stop it by NOT leading in all the negative statistics (abortion, children out of wedlock, STDs). If you've watched any of my other videos I am always encouraging BW to talk to their daughters and convince not to follow the path that led to all of this.
ChrisEveryDay 3 days ago
@ChrisEveryDay That is really not my concern. As I've said b4, this battle is in your mind & in the minds of others like you. Because you dont see that all bw are not fitting that stereotype. Even the bible suggests that "As a man thinks, so is he". So go on & beleive what you will. My point was only that everyone needs to take personal responsibility in order 2 remedy the issue. I understand now that this was never about positive forward movement. It was just a rant. My bad 4 trying. Peace.
ireignfyr 3 days ago
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I think maybe Black women must have pissed GOD off something awefull, because we seem to be at the bottom of the totem pole. And some of us really don't seem to understand that hate only breeds more hate. This conversation is neccessary, however, the dialog needs to be more structured, and more understanding. If we are to at all ever move forward and become the force we once was in this country, progress needs to be made. We cannot progress by pointing blame and taking no responsibility.
ireignfyr 1 week ago
You may be right... But they are not having sex or children alone.
ireignfyr 1 week ago
@ireignfyr The topic is about how BW are valued. Turning things around to us men is not going to help improve the BW reputation. The fact is that the baby mama epidemic has been going on for almost four or five generations now. There are households where the mother, her daughter and the grandmother are all baby mamas. People don't feel sorry for BW after awhile because they figure they should have learned by now. However, they are just following suit.
ChrisEveryDay 1 week ago
@ChrisEveryDay I am fully aware of how long this has been an issue. And I can't feel sorry, because ai am a single mother who was raised by a single parent. But My Father left when I was 16 years old, and did not take care of me because he did not want to vicariously be taking care of her. I feel sorry for our BM, because they want none of the blame, when they are solely to blame. When a company fails, everyone asks the head of that company what happened, not the managers, not the employees.
ireignfyr 6 days ago
@ireignfyr I hate it when people use the company/corporate analogy because it is wrong on so many levels. However, let's go with it. Employees don't pick their bosses or the CEO. In that respect the child or children would be the employees because children don't get to pick their parents. If their daddy doesn't want the mother or even want them, then it is not their fault because they didn't choose him. A board of directors chooses the CEO and then what happens?
ChrisEveryDay 6 days ago
@ChrisEveryDay They put him under a CONTRACT that states it is his job to make the company thrive to the best of his ability. If he doesn't do that then he is shown the door. The mother is the board of directors in this analogy but here's where the jake comes in... She doesn't put her baby daddy under contract. Baby daddy gets all the perks and benefits of a CEO but none of the responsibilities and guess what else? If the family doesn't THRIVE, he isn't shown the door.
cont.
ChrisEveryDay 6 days ago
@ChrisEveryDay Baby daddy can go years or decades without producing any benefit for the family but the board of directors (baby mama) won't let him go until the company (family unit) is almost run into the ground.
The blame game is tiring and redundant to me. However, I am starting to realize that as long as there are BM who are willing to use BW for whatever they are worth then BW (not all but a majority) will go along with it, then fall back on the evil BM blame game.
cont.
ChrisEveryDay 6 days ago
@ChrisEveryDay The only way things will change for BW is if being a good family oriented BM comes back into fashion. I don't see that happening any time soon though because being a bad BM is too rewarding and Black culture promotes drug dealing, pimping, getting over and almost anything that is negative to the fullest.
ChrisEveryDay 6 days ago
@ChrisEveryDay I agree with your analogy. The problem I have with it is that its all so stereotypical 4 bw. There are no black girls on "16 & pregnant" but I have seen their lives played out in plenty of black girls homes. So why is it when you see a young white girl with baby none of these ugly negatives come to mind, but when you see a young black girl with a baby, every ugly negative stereo type comes to mind? I dont think you know the real stats of the welfare system. BW aren't the majority.
ireignfyr 3 days ago
@ireignfyr All the stats deal with percentages and not raw numbers but that is really not the issue. For some strange reason you want to make this about conflict when it is not. I guess that is the Belligerent BW attitude that is stopping you from understanding what I am saying. Go argue with someone else because I am trying to have a conversation but your skull is too thick to comprehend the topic.
ChrisEveryDay 3 days ago
@ChrisEveryDay Your to funny..
. The only person displaying a billigerant attitude is you.
ireignfyr 2 days ago
@ireignfyr I don't see why you just can't admit that a problem exist and do something about it. You could simply make the women closest to you aware of it and hope that they take steps in their own lives to make sure it doesn't happen to them.
ChrisEveryDay 2 days ago
@ChrisEveryDay I dont give dam about my bad reputation. What I Wont be is what everyone expects. Especialy since its always negative.
ireignfyr 3 days ago
The real reason that BM devalue BW is because American society does. BM clearly see what society does to them and claim that it is unfair, yet as society attacks BM they join in as if it is all the Gospel truth. Women know it this is from self hatred. As BM aren't value, neither is the BM. They want so badly to assimilate into White culture instead of creating and sustaining something for themselves. They blame BW and WM for their choices and value WW, HW, and AW because they are not BW.
blaquelovely1 1 week ago
@blaquelovely1 BM are valued. We may be valued for some of wrong reasons but we are valued. Whites didn't create the baby mama crisis in the Black community and whether you want to believe it or not, that is one of the key reasons why BM and everyone else kind of discounts BW.
ChrisEveryDay 1 week ago
@ChrisEveryDay If you want to believe that BM are valued in this country, by all means do you. Whites didn't create baby mamas. BM and BW have, but who bears all the blame. That's just the facts. The BM who down BW with children would marry and adopt the WW's children (i.e. Seal). WW can be whores and BM adore her (i.e. Kim Kardashian). I don't have children, and don't plan on having any. As I stand by my previous comment and you can't negate it.
blaquelovely1 1 week ago
@blaquelovely1 Most of comments are on the mark and I am not trying to negate them. However, you can't ignore the fact that BM are valued and desired by women, especially BW. A BM with children by multiple women can still go out and get a good woman to marry him with no problem if that is what he wants. A BW with just ONE baby daddy doesn't have it that easy.
ChrisEveryDay 1 week ago
@ChrisEveryDay True, because men can and do lie about having children. Also, some women are willing to accept a man with children, which is ridiculous because he'll just do to her what he did to the last woman/women. Men with children by multiple women are not dating/marriage material.
blaquelovely1 1 week ago
@blaquelovely1 Men with multiple baby mamas are the men BW want the most. There are no statistical facts to prove that. I am just going by what I see in the Black community. Outside of paying child support there is no reason for a BM to stop having children by multiple women. It is a sign of virility and masculinity, in other words, a sign of being a playa/stud/pimp.
ChrisEveryDay 1 week ago
@ChrisEveryDay "Men with multiple baby mamas are the men BW want the most. Ther are no statistical facts to prove that." LOL. Because it is a false belief. There isn't anything desirable about a man who has children by multiple women that he can't take care of. It shows that he is immature and self. Why create responsibility for yourself that you do not intend to honor? It would be great if these men could holistically provide for children they help to create.
blaquelovely1 1 week ago
@ChrisEveryDay "I am just going by what I see in the Black community." You know what I see. I see women who compromise their worth and value for men who don't mean them any good. I'm not talking about ALL BM or just BM either. If a woman had a choice between a man who had multiple children by multiple mothers (drama and financial burden) vs. a man who didn't have these issues or obligations, the man with all the issues would be left standing alone with all his baggage.
blaquelovely1 1 week ago
@ChrisEveryDay "Outside of paying child support there is no reason for a BM to stop having children by multiple women. It is a sign of virility and masculinity, in other words, a sign of being a playa/stud/pimp." LMAO. Unfortunately, many men believe this, but it is not profitable for a man to do this. You think child support is the only reason not to do this when there are many, many reasons not to. As I stated before, you look immature and selfish and the result is devastating.
blaquelovely1 1 week ago
@blaquelovely1 I am telling how most people in the community view this situation. If you have listened to any of my other videos you would I don't approve of a great deal that goes on the Black community. However, my view or your view doesn't change how other people perceive what is going on and how people react to it.
ChrisEveryDay 1 week ago
@ChrisEveryDay Just a complete LMFAO at this entire post. I do comment you for being respectful and being able to converse without making this a personal issue. I wasn't attacking you, just your beliefs.
blaquelovely1 1 week ago
@blaquelovely1 As I said before, I am like Joe Friday, I am just stating the facts. I wish things weren't the way they are but I accept the reality of the situation. I believe you and many of other women point the finger at the man and don't want to believe that you helped this situation move along. I didn't say you created because I have always said the selfishness of Black men is hurting us more than anything else.
cont.
ChrisEveryDay 1 week ago
@ChrisEveryDay However, our selfishness comes with great rewards and most of those rewards relate to BW and their willingness to indulge us.
ChrisEveryDay 1 week ago
The solution. Women stop having sex with these men. Reserve sex for marriage. Hypocrites.
blaquelovely1 2 weeks ago
Wow, so what is the message for the baby daddies! I'd NEVER date/marry a man who has children! Hypocrites!!!
blaquelovely1 2 weeks ago
@blaquelovely1 Turning the finger around to point at the man wont do any good for BW. You are the ones who are going to burn the brunt of the blame. The men who do you in are playas who knew how to work their magic wands.
ChrisEveryDay 2 weeks ago
@ChrisEveryDay If BM can't handle what they dish out, that is certainly their problem and not mine. I don't have children; therefore, I can use their logic and dismiss all men who have children as potential dating/marriage partners if I were interested in such things. I am very clear that women need to STOP having sex with men they are not married to . BW do not have to be the perpetual victim of society and BM.
blaquelovely1 1 week ago
@ChrisEveryDay I don't do double standards like the rest of the world. In the same comment you criticized women and glorified men for the same behavior. That's not going to work with me. Just as women who are baby mamas aren't marriage material, men who are baby daddies aren't marriage material. Don't get mad when your hypocrisy bites you in the ass.
blaquelovely1 1 week ago
Food for thought. I wll have to listen to this again.
KRYPTYNYTE 3 weeks ago
I know plenty of white women who have children by black men who are now baby moma's.Believe me when I tell you many of their families were pissed when they found out their daughters had children by black men ,because most nonblack people see how destructive our communities are. Most of them say black men don't take care of their children. I am around all types of nationalites and many races think black men are weak,because they let their women take care of everything.
lakeside321 3 weeks ago
@lakeside321 I heard a white woman say on TV that BM are manipulative and are masters at using people. I know how they view us. The problem is that a lot of those type of brothas have had GREAT SUCCESS doing that type of thing. No need to stop doing it when it works so well. At least, that is the line of thought.
ChrisEveryDay 3 weeks ago
@ChrisEveryDay I hera what you're saying but it in the end the Joke is on him. He winds up old, alone a living from house to house trying to find a place to rest his head. I always say when you think your're getting over you truely aren't Karma si just around the corner.
lakeside321 3 weeks ago
@toyu17 Sorry is a discription of character, not an apology. And there is no need to apologize anyway. As I stated before, I am married to a wonderful black man. The community is in need of strong upstanding black men and women. We won't miss you.
ireignfyr 3 weeks ago
@toyu17 The shame is that more black women have to take on the role of independent women. Why is it that the BM does not have to take responsibility for his children? There would not be a reason for single mothers if both parties weer thinking responsibly. No one is no more or less to blame than the other. And in the mean while our communities suffer. How is this helping?
ireignfyr 3 weeks ago
The first man I ever fell in love with was my Daddy, and then he left me. How do you think that affected me? It made me think that if my own father wouldn't stay, why would a man with no direct connection to me at all want to stay? I wonder how most of these young girls growing up in single family homes feel. Obviously they feel just as abandoned as I did. I keep hearing that everything is the BW's fault in some way or another. How can that be, when it all starts with you? BLACK MAN.
ireignfyr 3 weeks ago
@ireignfyr If you ever listened to any of my other videos you would know that I don't blame the BW for the woes in the Black community. I actually agree that the root of the problem is us (Black Men) and our selfishness. Don't judge by just one video but by my body of work.
ChrisEveryDay 3 weeks ago
@ChrisEveryDay I don't make judgments, I gave my opinion based off this video and the comments that were made of this video. If you feel at all touched by the statement I made, then maybe there was some truth to it that you should take a second look at. When I said you, Black Man, I was not only speaking to you.
ireignfyr 3 weeks ago
@ireignfyr I already knew you weren't speaking solely to me genius. I was just clearing up things for you. The only reason you answered is because you're looking for drama and I don't have the time for it.
ChrisEveryDay 3 weeks ago
@ChrisEveryDay I'm not one to create drama. You made this video, not me. And you posted it on YT. I am only voicing my opinion.If attitude reflects leadership, then maybe more BM should take their place as Kings, instead of constantly playing the role of victim and placing blame on their women. But again this is just my opinion.
ireignfyr 3 weeks ago
@ireignfyr Attitude reflects leadership??? I don't know where you heard that one but if you want to believe it then good for you.
ChrisEveryDay 3 weeks ago
@ChrisEveryDay LOL... Wow... yeah. I may as well be trying to converse with a brick wall. Oh well. No love loss. Rant on aimlessly if that's what pleases you. Misery loves company, and there seems to be plenty here. I just hope you know that it won't bring about change. But that's not what your after anyway, because that would begin with you. I wish you a peaceful journey :o)
ireignfyr 3 weeks ago
@ireignfyr This was never a conversation. You were just trying to make it into one. I don't know how I am the one who is doing the aimless ranting but believe that if you want to. It sounds like you want to make a point so why don't you make a video and address it. I am not a psychotherapist so I don't think I can help you with your problem.
ChrisEveryDay 3 weeks ago
@ChrisEveryDay Lol... dialog between two or more people is considered a conversation. We could have agreed to disagree a long time ago, when you first suggested that you didn't have time for this. But you continue to respond to my posts. So you made this a conversation, not me. & with every response I was able to further my point. So thank you. Because of you it is not necessary for me to make a video. I can do what I am supposed to do, and that is respond to yours. & again, PEACE
ireignfyr 3 weeks ago
@ireignfyr Women should stop having sex with men they are not married to. That's the solution.
blaquelovely1 2 weeks ago
Blackwomen need to stop mating with Blackmen or anybody and let the Black race die out
see how they hate you,,Blackwomen is the most mistreated since slavery..but some Blackmen want and the media wants to put down Blackwomen for being the evil one..what goes around comes around belive that..lets see what the future hold for this behavior
sophinal 1 month ago
i bet you where raised my a single back mother frist off these black girls choose these black boys the nature in are so called community is fucked a black women think she can be a black man that is not the real black man fault in the community becouse you must of forgot that nice black men are seen for weak becouse they are nice so how can it be a real black mans fault when the black community dont respct him for being nice oh also that bad boy shit is what the white man put on tv!
santiagodananperry 2 months ago
the tradition of respecting black men is dead. therefore black women really don't have anyone to cater their themselves toward. and there aren't any principled black men imposing standards of decency on our community. everyone is chasing the dollar.
hypnosquirrel 2 months ago
I have a theory about the Hatred that BW are facing...here is the thing this generation of BM predominantly were raised by Single Mothers, there is this enmity going on about a subliminal blame and anger that BM are dealing with concerning not having fathers.
sophisticatcovergirl 2 months ago
@toyu17 "WE." I guess that means you are down with the SWP crew. I understand where you guys are coming from but I am not anti-Black woman. I actually want them to do better but I know they are not the main problem in the Black community. Black men are leading them down into a hole and they aren't smart enough to figure it out until it is too late. Our problem (Black men) is that we are selfish and will put ourselves before our women, children and families. cont.
ChrisEveryDay 4 months ago
@ChrisEveryDay The culture we promote really only offers benefit to one party, US. That hurts the Black woman and the Black family in the long run but everyone goes along with the program and have been doing so for decades now. Anyway, my point is that I don't believe in targeting Black women for all the blame. As a Black man I know that we will like this culture and we will violently defend it because it garners much for us. We, not the women, are at the root of the issues in the BC.
ChrisEveryDay 4 months ago
@ChrisEveryDay I already know you and the other SWP followers will disagree with my views but that is the way I see it.
Peace.
ChrisEveryDay 4 months ago
@toyu17 Like I said before it was a radio show. It was broadcast sometime early last month. I don't think they keep old shows online. You can a search for the Doug Banks Show on WVAZ-FM in Chicago though.
I have heard that even the thugs don't want Black woman anymore. I don't even know what to say about that. It seems the cat is out of the bag though. Everybody, the world over, now knows that Black men really don't want Black women. The BM/BW situation is MAD CRAZY.
ChrisEveryDay 4 months ago
@toyu17 It was the Doug Banks Show in Chicago. Usually during the holiday season they have a lot BEST OF segments and sometimes they will even repeat a previous. I am pretty sure they will include that show in the lineup. However, I don't see why you think it is so funny because it is actually pretty sad.
ChrisEveryDay 4 months ago
the past dictates the future... we have to address our past... rise from the ashes and find our self respect. The way society (western) demonises black culture pkays a role on how we view ourselves and treat each other, we needs to switch the tv off, stop turning the pages on these magazines and allow for silence so we can hear our inner voice and get in touch with our authenic selves!
S1MNICITY 4 months ago
@S1MNICITY I understand what you are saying about society and the media but that actually doesn't apply to what I am talking about. I am talking about how Black men (who have direct contact with Black women) view them. Correction, I am talking about American Blacks, I don't know what the situation is in the UK. Society and the media in America actually have a more favorable view of Black women than Black men have of them. The media views...
ChrisEveryDay 4 months ago
@ChrisEveryDay ...Black women as the victims of the "EVIL" Black man. Black men actually look at Black women as VOLUNTEERS, who back the "EVIL" Black man 100,000 PERCENT in everything that he does. That is, until, the Black woman herself realizes that this culture leads her to being the OLD FAT BABY MAMA.
The media in America is starting to catch on to that though and even they are starting to look at Black women in a pretty bad light.
ChrisEveryDay 4 months ago