Coming Out Issues for Young Adult Transsexual Women

[tmmy773]

Dear Drs Ettner

Thank you for your help :)

Tammy

[domnal]

Coming out advice for Transgender people: - Do Not and I repeat do not even think of appearing on the Jerry Springer Show !! That man is the Barnum of T.V. and clearly does not care for the damage he is doing on this issue. I have seen a few clips and cannot understand why he allows such bad behaviour all in the name of entertainment. It's all about making money at the expense of common decency.

[detagirl]

@domnal I agree he has ruined the name transexual , but you know what it's those girls who go there and make many ts look bad. so shameful

[20091965david]

sehr interssantes thema, denn einige akzeptieren so etwas nicht, aber ich akzeptiere es, egal in welchem land, denn jeder darf es und darf nicht diskrimiert werden.

[DJacqu8351]

LGBT or hetero, we're all the same! Love is love!

[raingirl53]

I transitioned young: hormones at 21, SRS at 24, and am now 48. This avoided any "adult" baggage, i.e. no wife or kids. I've been me all my adult life...

Some day I may attend a high school reunion. I haven't yet.

[nevadajennifer]

Right on!!! Randi Ettners husband Fred was my endocrinologist.

[203MountainDrive]

Just a clarification - My comment that "gay is not just a rough label" was posted in response to James3rd's posting several messages back. Somehow my posting got misplaced, but it doesn't really make sense if you don't know what it's a reply to. I fully support transgender rights, but I also support gay and lesbian rights, and am dismayed by this tendency to subsume gay identities under transgender ones.

[FallenPrey]

Transsexuals are good people. They have proven it in every way possible. Anyone that denies that is lying to themselves.

[tinfoilfedora]

I was outed to my parents by phone call to my father at 24. Because of the reaction I received, not to mention the situation it led to, I didn't seriously begin transition until 28. I think it's very important that you handle coming out properly. Better to lend it some legitimacy through a therapist and honest conversation than be outed by a nasty phone call.

And transitioning later in life adds a whole new world of problems. Restarting your career, losing references, friends, family, etc.

[SebastianMichael30]

We love you Andrea!!!

[AdventNoOmega]

When I came out to my friends and mother, it was very mixed, for all of us.

I feel both happy and sad because I told them.

Only two of my friends have really talked with me and understand me, two I didn't except, so when they say in the video, the some of the people you never excepted to become your allies, it rings very true to me.

A long road lies ahead for me and my family. I am 20 years of age, and started seeing a therapist, now just to tell my father, little brother, and sister...

[warhola888]

I agree you can't always assume how a person will react, but there are definitely vibes that you can pick up on...

[Kwamalicious]

@warhola888

Agreed.

[xxhinatakunxx]

i wanna see more.. please, its kinda helping me a little.

[britneyHayden]

Life is complete, I am whole and someday the world will understand, maybe....

[rosbergs3]

Is the woman in pink transgender? If she is she is 100% unclockable.

[deepstealth]

Dr. Randi Ettner is a therapist who helps the TG community, and who has written a book called "Confessions of a Gender Defender". She is not trans herself.

[lzdelfuego]

Andrea has no hint he was ever a man physically, she's 100% feminine... and her voice is totally feminine too, even more than many girls I know. She's incredible and a good example for younger ts girls.

[vplescano18]

very informative and thanks

[LifeUnknown]

Good Info. Oh and never take Anti-Depressants they make you live life as a lie. Happend to me for the last 14 years or so now I am off them for good. My youtube name does mean something to me my Life is Unknown.

[mediadisbeliever]

I've been on AD's for 7yrs now. They have helped, but wish I wasn't on them.

[tinfoilfedora]

(to LifeUnknown, re no anti-depressants..)

I don't know about that. Some people have genuine chemical issues. For example, I was born chemically intersexed (trace testosterone, female LH/RH, etc). Just because issues don't manifest themselves on the surface doesn't mean they aren't there.

(also - I totally agree with out Andrea. I've been really surprised by how people react. People I thought friends were not and people I thought of as "too conservative" turned out to be allies..)

[magicdyke]

thankyou for uploading this. it has made me rethink how my friends will react when i tell them im gay. them are homophobic at the moment but they might change if the find out im gay. they might not but i cant keep living a lie i cant have people thinking im straight.

[christian66ca]

being gay or lesbian is not the same as transgendered

[james3d]

gay, lesbian, transsexual, these are just rough labels to try and describe some finely nuanced and fantastic aspects of human beings. Some people identify as gay and then transition, some people who transition are gay in their new gender expression, etc etc etc. Labels and categories may be helpful for understanding aspects of human sexual behavior, but let's not patrol the borders.

[203MountainDrive]

I must protest this comment. I am a gay man, and "gay" is not just a "rough label." It is the true account of who I am. It has taken a lot of very hard work for gay men to establish our right to live as who we are, and to be dismissed this way (apparently, in an effort to make transgendered identities more acceptable) is really unacceptable.

[jamesmarsters]

ah but it all haas the same underlying affect people have something that is not well accepted by society and have trouble talking about it this person he or she does have something they wan tto say and it is hard to talk about me being bothin transgender and bisexual i know both aspects and for me strangely enough it was the bisexual part that was harder for me to discuss i think this person should be treated with a smuch repsect as anyone else

[morganseathomson]

Gays and Lesbians have come along way in acceptance over the last 50 years, but biexuality and transgendered people are still years behind.

I think both topics kinda freak out the hetero population a bit, homophobia is still a huge issue that deffinatly affects peoples abilities to accept their own bisexuality, and for a man to fetishize tits and legs and blonde hair and to see them on a genetic male fucks with their head.

[obscureluzername]

Coming out can tel you who your REAL friends are.

[catey62]

@obscureluzername ...so true....As I discovered for myself...but those that have stuck by me have proved to be the best friends one could ever wish to have!

[blackflower75]

Soooo cool, thank you so much !

[Fioniki]

Wonderful, common sense, practical advice. Thanks!

[Valmont63]

Good video, thanks

[MisplacedNostalgia]

very informative and helpful.