Seeing RED

[sobeit42]

i agree to all that you have said

[EniesLobby]

Watching these videos is like reading a checklist of all the spousal abuse and mistreatment in the Twilight series.

[cogitational]

Dudeeee - I just got to the video now. I'm in Florida now too! (that's where the jews go when it's cold, right? :P) Anyways, I hope the wedding wasn't this weekend.. cause the rest of the week will be so much better :)

[ALIROX931]

why would you have a serial killer/skinning small puppies friend in the first place?

i agree with the intelligence level thing. i have recently been through that.

[cutewitch772]

I have asked an ex not to talk to a person that monopolized their attention and flirted with them too much. My suspicions ended up being founded. So yeah, in that case, I'm gonna ask them not to talk to that person.

[elohelreh]

The heck!!!??!? Is your window open in the background. I'm going to get a blanket now just because it looks like it.

[Mbewski]

i really like your perspective...

i agree that with you on being an individual in a relationship, while balancing the things you do share.

i think that is a major problem many of us possess, from time to time...

we need to be honest, and be true, and value other people as well as their signifigance, but mainly value your own self-worth.

without self worth, you can not be a well-rounded, loyal companion and lover.

[gijohazelwoods]

Tell me that isn't an open window in the background haha?! It's snowing, man!

[BillieBaby143]

Thanks for pointing out that if you lose yourself in a relationship it's a red flag!! That happens sooo often in relationships and it leads to MAJOR HEARTBREAK!!!!!!

[kissingviera]

do you look like that all the time? no makeup n everything..?

[erienspice]

You made sense to me!!

Erin

[freakyjay12]

what if that so and so if their x?

[voxpopulivoxveritas]

I agree with all of these ,i've seen way too many flag number two's .

[erinIQ]

wow...i was watching this and thinking "i wish i had seen this during my first real relationship" because literally EVERY red flag you just mentioned had come up in my first relationship.

the irony.

[brittannyglitterati]

Every red flag you mentioned are happening in my best friend's relationship with her boyfriend. Also a HUGE red flag is that he's not supportive of anything she loves. She's a model and he thinks it's dumb. She's a hair stylist and makeup artist and he thinks it's stupid. She's done ballet her whole life and he think it's a waste of time. If it's not about science he doesn't care. She's supportive of him but he can't give her the same respect back. She just lets it happen...

[BillieBaby143]

@brittannyglitterati: I think your best friend and her boyfriend just don't match. I feel bad for your friend because I know support means a lot and the things she does seem to mean a lot to her and I guess her boyfriend doesn't understand that. It's easier for us to see than your friend though, sadly. You can talk to her about it, but she'll have to see it for herself.

[brittannyglitterati]

I've talked to her about it but like you said, she has to see it for herself. It kills me because I don't want her to waste her time with someone who is killing her spirit.

[Anduviel]

OK I have a question about the first red flag. What if your current girlfriend/boyfriend is asking you to stop hanging with his or her ex who happens to be your friend?

[Jessthibs88]

I feel bad lol, but I usually can't wait to watch your videos...mainly because you're advice is pretty legit. Not to make the other beavers look bad, but I look forward to yours the most lol....

[TheYolk]

Hmm... a red flag for me? A vagina. :D

[foreveradork]

Hey but what if that friend x is a ex girlfriend, would it still be a red flag?

[BillieBaby143]

my girlfriend is fine with me talking to all of my ex girlfriends EXCEPT for the last one who hurt me really bad. I don't really look at it as a red flag because I totally understand her view.

If it's an ex that you just love as a friend and you're completely over her. If your current partner can't understand that, it shows insecurity and they're trying to control you. So, I would look at it as a red flag.

[foreveradork]

What my question I guess is that my ex girlfriends boyfriend told her that she can't talk to me anymore. Her and I took a break from eachother for awhile before she started going out with him just so that we wouldn't hook up again and now were totally cool with being friends. Were all still I highschool and neither of us is out and the only reason he knows that we

went out is cuz he found out when we were still together. So what do you think I should tell her to do?

[Khunter122]

First of all, that guy doesn't have a right to make her stop seeing you if your relationship with her is strictly platonic now. It makes him seem insecure. I would just tell her, "We're not doing anything wrong. There's no reason for you to stop talking to me."

[foreveradork]

I've not only told her that but I've also went straight to him and told him that in a clam cool manner. He tells me I'm dirt and the whole god hates you and everything, so i don't really get why shes with him other than the whole reason why we broke up which is another whole messed up story. So yea I'm all out of ideas, so i just gave up trying to be her friend. If anyone has any ideas let me know please!!

[Khunter122]

If that's the case, I'm sorry but I personally don't see any way of reconciling with either them while she's still with him. For yours and the friendship's sake, I hope their relationship doesn't last.

[foreveradork]

It's ok, it's nice that to have someone to talk to about this, and they won't last because they do have other issues besides that one. Thanks for reading :)

[BillieBaby143]

I agree with Khunter122. She probably needs to get rid of him in order to listen to you. That guy sounds like he has problems, telling you all that junk after you approached him nicely. He is reallllly insecure about you talking to her, probably because he doesn't have confidence about his relationship

[BillieBaby143]

@foreveradork: I think your ex's boyfriend seems to be insecure about his place in his girlfriend's life, although I would understand why. But that kind of controlling behavior only lasts so long until she gets sick of it. The choice is really hers, but if she's really your friend she will still be

[foreveradork]

I dont understand y they are still together cuz she would get extremely mad if I ever got even a ounce of controlling. I no its just going to ruin their relationship cuz she has cried while talkin bout it & it kills me cuz when we went through so much and now I cant support her. I feel like the only thing I can do is just live my own life & let them be cuz I no that she is tried of having to chose sides & I'll just let her no that I'll always be there for her. I think that's the best I can do

[BillieBaby143]

Wow you're definitely the bigger man for deciding to step aside for her sake. I imagine it's tough for her. She probably cares a lot about you but doesn't know what to do. Hopefully she'll see for herself that she doesn't need to be with that guy

[foreveradork]

Yea hopefully she will see that she doesn't need to be with him, and we can go back to being friends. But i guess we couldn't even be friends if they broke up anyways. Thats another long story =] but thanks for commenting, i need someones advice. =]

[keriammm]

Oh my, you're hilarious. xD

[lizrem]

I gotta say, when this week started, I didn't know it was gonna make me think so much over my relationship that it has made me do.. So both thanks and a "whaa!? oh crap"..

That said, is your window really Open in the back there?! 'Cos its still winter in NY last time I checked, lol.

Have a great time in Florida :) And yes, the hairup-nomakeup still works. Xoxo's -Liz

[aqstoy]

you are such a drama queen as much as sometimes i dont like to watch your vids sometimes you do have good points> thanks

[ekimno]

Have you come up with a modern new word for Lesbian yet ? :)(:

[huhme]

you start every video with excuses about why your video is going to be bad. seriously, go back and watch them. no need to apologize at the beginning of every one...you're great :)

[lillerbee77]

you said scoffed! you said scoffed!!

my day has been made.

yess.

[overeighteenaccountf]

"skins small puppies" gotta love it haha

[t1n86]

Wow. you just used a sports analogy. i am surprised....and impressed :)  altho your gesture hinted you only play Wii tennis... im sure you would look good in a tennis outfit!

[TripnSlide]

My parents always use this analogy, and this goes out for all relationships.. "A good relationship will only happen when the top of the pot and the bottom fits together"

- it's a red flag when someone you've been dating for a month starts to directly look for relationship material stuff i.e. a song that you both love so you can call it 'OUR song'

- its a red flag when someone you're dating is planning for things to do a couple months ahead when you've only dated for a bit less than 2 months.

[Prolui]

Awh, funny ending. Huzzah for emphasis day. :D

[YOitsNat]

I agree, when your partner starts being too controlling that's when you get out

[smartalec452]

woohoo florida