Meeting people in a new situation; How to be less shy and more outgoing

[1973marlena1]

the only reason im really shy is because my face turns red for no reason i feel comfortable and everything this sometimes happens when i talk to my friend who i knew for 4 years and i also lived with him so im no where near shy around them and it still happens its annoying i need help also this happens to when i talk to family like my mom and my sister who i lived with almost my whole life

[AwesomeAustin1318]

Is it wrong to be jealous if my gf likes or loves another guy and pays more attention to him than me?? And how woyld i explain this to her

[colbiefan99]

for me it is junior high!! :D

[JeffersonDinedAlone]

I don't care to meet people in a new situation.

[ilovetosing37]

actually this IS junior high in my situation

[ChristopherAngelies]

Your either a counsler or a principle

or a very concerned paremt. I think you make more sense

than most counslers do.. Who is this lady?

I must know

[mariedubuque]

frontiervilla--Try to get to know the class a little better. If they think you are trying to get to know them, and really care about them, that will change their attitude. Also, give it time. You are new. Every year it will get easier.

[frontiervilla]

i have my first job now and this job requires a lot of talking. i'm in the field of teaching a man to man class and it's really my biggest problem. I'm not talkative nor out going so my student's main complain is my teacher is shy I don't like her,, pls I need more advice.. :(

[mariedubuque]

calastur--Can you and your friends walk up to her and her friends? Even if you just get one guy to help you out, it will make the situation a little easier. And then, while your friend is talking to her friends, you can start chatting with her.

[calastiur]

What if it's vice versa; you want to meet someone who seems nice, but is just really shy, quiet and pretty much only talks to her friends?

[freakman707]

@calastiur you just have to see what they like in people and you have to adapt to their needs.

you dont tell a jewish person racist jokes. you dont be disrespectful to elderly people. similiar to that.

[annerbrown11]

i love your advice ! (:

[TheDukeFan96]

I was actually looking for the situation from the jersey shore and this came up.

[FrancisDaBadAssBiker]

Well yes it is Jr. High for me so I guess i can just blow that second tip off?

[thenadia599]

what if it is jr. high 

[mollyyxx1795]

haha yes i was watching this for jr. high so i guess im screwed.....

[TheZozomojo]

it didnt help because YES IT IS JR. HIGH!!!! oh well

[TutorialMaster46]

AHHH this didnt help me lol im 13 and im starting to join a new modelling agency i could become in tv adverts but mostly pictures for mags posters +. And i need to be confident as i will be working with random strangers adults and kids i am a shy girl and kinda need some advice lol i know youtube aint going to change me but it was worth a try lol nice video though could really help someother people in a different situation than me ;) i wish i was as talkative around others as i am with my family

[mariedubuque]

Hi viniclusvrd--Don't give up! Being new is very hard. It takes time to get to know people. Next time you say hi to someone, I can pretty much guarantee you won't get the same reaction that you did today. Most people are not that mean. Just find someone with a kind look on their face.

[viniciusvrd]

Today was my third day in my new school. When i arrived at school there was two girls of my class waiting our teacher in the door, and I friendly sad "Hello". The way they looked at me was like: who the hell is this guy. One of them answered me and the one was looking at me with that weird face. She didn't say hi. After that they were laughing. It was the worst thing that could happen to me, cause i'm shy and when I try to approach to someone I get a "#$% rejection

[gabilovesruby1]

Sadly it didn't help me for me...It IS Jr.High

[thecouturedivagirl]

ugh MERCI! when i was like in 2nd grade i was energetic and then people called me too loud and thats why i'm hiding my confidence all inside and im gwetting pretty sick of it so really...thanks soo much!

[Eclipse538]

how bout this, next time your in a new situation QUIT bagging on yourself and tell yourself positive things, Idk WHAT the hell is wrong with people nowadays, everyone is so selfish and concerned with how THEY appear to others, they never consider that other people are thinking the same thing. change the record in your freakin heads and grow up! the world doesnt revolve around us!

[Buck54577]

this bitch is sexy

[NeverMind88888]

The best, simplest solution to being outgoing when you feel it would be awkward to speak up and meet new people - Don't think, just do. The thing is, when people think before they say hi to that new person, they psych themselves out. Just speak before you think (think for like ten seconds so you have an idea about what to say, but don't "think" about what you're gonna say. Say what comes to mind.) It's the same idea with asking a girl out - Don't think, just do.

[pokeguy808]

its not easy if the anxiety is driven by an uncontrollable gene.

[Eclipse538]

@pokeguy808 and what uncontrollable gene is that? doesnt it suck to think every situation youre gonna be in for the rest of your life is going to be controlled by you? what the hell is wrong with people, life is nerve racking that is why we have this is thing called death, GO OUT AND LIVE AND QUIT BEING A BIATTCCHH!!

[benGO94]

@Eclipse538 it's true it's not easy but the woman in the vid does have a helpful tip except it's harder to do what she says than it seems and you have a good point but then it isn't as easy as thinking that sometimes, i'm shy and know that from experience

[Cameronleafoftoontow]

Its not that easy.

[Sims2Loveee]

"This isn't junior high."

Psh. Unfortunately for me it is.

But thank you for the advice! (:

[arterialshadow]

Hey thanks I needed some advice...I'm the quiet type and I'm really starting to get sick of it. It's always been my way of life, even as a kid I hated speaking out...well time to change!

[ksnab]

Same here i hate my shy-ness, im only 17 though so ill have a head start to become outgoing.

[jeh0193]

@ksnab Yeah, I know how you feel because I have the same situation too. TT_TT

I hate being shy too. I definitely feel like people think I'm a boring person to talk to.

[Eclipse538]

@jeh0193 thats half the problem, not thinking youre good enough, try changing the record in your head, and just pretend youre interesting to talk to. quit telling yourself IM SO BORING, and try IM SO FUN instead. this is basic self confidence, and thats how every one does it.

[jeh0193]

@Eclipse538 I'll try. ^^;; But thank you though. :)