Hello! I just want to say that you are unique and beautiful in how you express your existence! If you are blessed to carry a child, I give you my blessings. Let me give you my insight on those who disapprove of your choice. They are disturbed because they are projecting their own shortcomings onto you. I am black, white and intersex!! Trust me that nothing or no one can tell you who you are, none of us. We didn't create you, we are only humans. Not gods.
@laidbaqq I love your videos, they really help me. I'm dating a ftm and sometimes things get extremely hard on our relationship because of his dysphroia. I try to help the best I can but at times it doesn't feel like I'm doing enough. He makes me happy and he proposed to me on 9/24/11. And ever since then he's been making comments like 'I'm sorry we can't get married like regular couples' how to I help with that? And how can I help him with his dysphoria in the sex department? Idk what to do /:
@laidbaqq Hi Xavier, I got a question for you. I hope it's not too personal, but...... have you ever thought of having a relationship with a pre-op or non-op trans woman and having a baby that way? Hypothetically speaking of course. I wonder if that's ever been done.....?
@LuvlyLivia I'm not opposed to the idea. If I were to settle w/someone who could impregnate me [and I was down with the whole process], then yes I would do it. It certainly saves a lot of trouble lol yes, it has been done. I actually saw it on TV, it may have been Discovery Health. The guy didn't know he was pregnant because a lot of the effects of T in the first few months were very similar to a pregnancy. They eventually learned and prepared. I believe his gf actually breast fed the child.
Random but, the phrase is actually supposed to be, as I recently discovered, eat your cake and have it too. Which makes so much more sense than having cake and eating it too.
@RobGreatness lol that makes so much more sense. Its still my damn cake though haha . Let me stop. I still couldn't compare transitioning and having a child with what I was born with - as eating my cake and having it too. Its not like I would be going to great lengths to be able to conceive. Its a function my body is naturally "made" to do.
I got tired of talking to you. I have explained it in both videos. If you don't understand or agree, then so be it. But do not attempt to dictate my identity. It is impossible to do. So save yourself the time and refrain from trying to tell me who or what I am.
I am a Nochokin(Diamond) subby and I'm a straight woman and I think that God made you a woman because it was meant for you to bring forth life as women should. So yes you are a FTM now but, that doesn't mean you don't have the right to have a child as God intended. So like Diamond said "Use whatever God gave you to bring forth life" What someone else feels or think doesn't matter. Only what you feel or think is what matters and I say go for it! Have a baby if that's what YOU want 2 do.
@noko3300 I wasn't happy nor comfortable with how I was before. Nearly everything I do now, I had difficulty even THINKING about doing before, because I didn't like how I look/sounded/felt/existed. Most of that has changed, so it has led to me being able to express myself more fully.
I am much more aligned since making the transition. I never said I'd fill the traditional american male role.
@shortyredline that was part of my point and very well said. I am not here to control anyones life, but responsibility and accountibilty is in order. Peace
i think the whole point that MiMidagatekeepa was trying to say..correct me if im wrong @MiMidagatekeepa is that your transition was because you felt like you were born in the wrong body and wanted to become male..A male being pregnant is not possible never was..so if you you ever decide to become pregnant...you would not be considered just male anymore..so the whole process from changing to one sex to another becomes pointless..if you have no problem with that than go for it! its your life!
@shortyredline something being "pointless" is rather a matter of perspective. You still do not know my EXACT reasons. But yes, in the beginning, those were my feelings and words. Now, I experience myself in a different way. I do not do things in order to be male or female, or a man/woman, I live my life as a human. Not trying to fit into this role or that role. My transition was a matter of comfort - that I found.
Its not for you or anyone to "Decide" if someone is male "anymore" or ever was.
I love watchin yo vids n I think u be rite on da money wit yo topics,its ur body why not do wat u please,i hate wen ppl always want u to follow their way of living,ppl need to realize dat times are changing
dear laidbaqq, so many of us can not choose to have biological children for health reasons. if you do choose to be a parent i will be severely jealous of your baby belly. if you can and you want to, then all i care about is that you honor the responsibility and blessing and love your children with your whole being. so many people don't cherish their kids. that sucks way way more than any gender fluidity you may "expose" others to.
@screaminmeani That is true. Many people do take that for granted and it kills me. Having a child is a lifetime dedication, not something that ends once they've been birthed. That was only a small portion of the responsibility. I think the care the child will receive (not just objects, but love and knowledge as well) is what matters most. Kids don't care if you're a social outcast, tattooed or gay -- until they learn from others that they should be bothered by it.
@laidbaqq everything contains feminine in it, so I would never state that a male lacks femininty as feminine represents life. Males have an X chromosome which shows and proves that the feminine is present. I am not body policing, I am just acknowledging what I believe to be truth. As a lesbian, I wish I could have a baby biologically with a woman. However, I know that the truth cannot be altered no matter how I feel. If u have a baby, I hope u and ur baby r happy and heathly.
@laidbaqq I haven't heard much on it lately but to be honest. I hope they're still working on it. Society seems to be obsessed with reproduction so that could either work to their advantage or disadvantage. I don't see why it shouldn't be available within the time that we would be parenting.
I just think ppl can't understand the fact that once you despised being a woman and one would think that you would not want to bare a child as a woman would now that you're a man.
@cdani17 And taking into consideration the social conditioning, I can understand the lack of comprehension. There are a lot of things I avoided doing as a woman. Wearing wigs even just for laughs, painting my nails & even behaving in a feminine manner. Now, I express femininity with no issue.
What changed? My level of comfort with myself.
Being a man/male or masculine doesn't mean having a complete lack of femininity, as they seem to think.
What you said on that "have your cake and eat it too" saying is all truth to me. I literally asked myself the same thing lol. Have your cake, eat it, and enjoy every piece of it man. I honestly don't believe one truly has the right to decide if another dies, and likewise I don't believe one truly has the right to decide if another can bring forth life, let alone determine one's identity based on that. But opinions are opinions, so I respect that as well. Peace.
be strong, be yourself, do what you do and the insecure who take issue with YOUR life need to mind THEIR life...be happy and live your life, power and solidarity brother!
Hello! I just want to say that you are unique and beautiful in how you express your existence! If you are blessed to carry a child, I give you my blessings. Let me give you my insight on those who disapprove of your choice. They are disturbed because they are projecting their own shortcomings onto you. I am black, white and intersex!! Trust me that nothing or no one can tell you who you are, none of us. We didn't create you, we are only humans. Not gods.
EmitPeace4Love 2 days ago
@laidbaqq I love your videos, they really help me. I'm dating a ftm and sometimes things get extremely hard on our relationship because of his dysphroia. I try to help the best I can but at times it doesn't feel like I'm doing enough. He makes me happy and he proposed to me on 9/24/11. And ever since then he's been making comments like 'I'm sorry we can't get married like regular couples' how to I help with that? And how can I help him with his dysphoria in the sex department? Idk what to do /:
BriannaaLovely 4 months ago
I demand you stop eating your own cake right now!!! Hahaha
Put down your cake and step away!
DarrinTDT 6 months ago
@DarrinTDT But its soooo delicious
laidbaqq 6 months ago
@laidbaqq Hi Xavier, I got a question for you. I hope it's not too personal, but...... have you ever thought of having a relationship with a pre-op or non-op trans woman and having a baby that way? Hypothetically speaking of course. I wonder if that's ever been done.....?
LuvlyLivia 7 months ago
@LuvlyLivia I'm not opposed to the idea. If I were to settle w/someone who could impregnate me [and I was down with the whole process], then yes I would do it. It certainly saves a lot of trouble lol yes, it has been done. I actually saw it on TV, it may have been Discovery Health. The guy didn't know he was pregnant because a lot of the effects of T in the first few months were very similar to a pregnancy. They eventually learned and prepared. I believe his gf actually breast fed the child.
laidbaqq 7 months ago
omg i have ALWAYS said that.... about the cake thing lol:)
TheDaveon 7 months ago
Random but, the phrase is actually supposed to be, as I recently discovered, eat your cake and have it too. Which makes so much more sense than having cake and eating it too.
RobGreatness 7 months ago
@RobGreatness lol that makes so much more sense. Its still my damn cake though haha . Let me stop. I still couldn't compare transitioning and having a child with what I was born with - as eating my cake and having it too. Its not like I would be going to great lengths to be able to conceive. Its a function my body is naturally "made" to do.
laidbaqq 7 months ago
I got tired of talking to you. I have explained it in both videos. If you don't understand or agree, then so be it. But do not attempt to dictate my identity. It is impossible to do. So save yourself the time and refrain from trying to tell me who or what I am.
laidbaqq 7 months ago
I am a Nochokin(Diamond) subby and I'm a straight woman and I think that God made you a woman because it was meant for you to bring forth life as women should. So yes you are a FTM now but, that doesn't mean you don't have the right to have a child as God intended. So like Diamond said "Use whatever God gave you to bring forth life" What someone else feels or think doesn't matter. Only what you feel or think is what matters and I say go for it! Have a baby if that's what YOU want 2 do.
suniDSTlight 7 months ago 2
@suniDSTlight I can't say that I agree with the first statement, but yes, I do agree that its up to me to use what I have however I please.
laidbaqq 7 months ago
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suniDSTlight 7 months ago
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suniDSTlight 7 months ago
i adore you (=
i think youre amazing forget bout those silly ppl who waste thier time carin what others do wit their life =)
robabylove1992 7 months ago
*Heteronormative
KaywanDaBoss 7 months ago
Masculine + Heteronormitive .... PERFECT!
KaywanDaBoss 7 months ago
Makes me wonder why the transition from FTM was made in the first place.
noko3300 7 months ago
@noko3300 I wasn't happy nor comfortable with how I was before. Nearly everything I do now, I had difficulty even THINKING about doing before, because I didn't like how I look/sounded/felt/existed. Most of that has changed, so it has led to me being able to express myself more fully.
I am much more aligned since making the transition. I never said I'd fill the traditional american male role.
laidbaqq 7 months ago
@shortyredline that was part of my point and very well said. I am not here to control anyones life, but responsibility and accountibilty is in order. Peace
mimidagatekeepa 7 months ago
@mimidagatekeepa responsibility and accountability for what? I don't owe anyone anything.
laidbaqq 7 months ago
i think the whole point that MiMidagatekeepa was trying to say..correct me if im wrong @MiMidagatekeepa is that your transition was because you felt like you were born in the wrong body and wanted to become male..A male being pregnant is not possible never was..so if you you ever decide to become pregnant...you would not be considered just male anymore..so the whole process from changing to one sex to another becomes pointless..if you have no problem with that than go for it! its your life!
shortyredline 7 months ago
@shortyredline something being "pointless" is rather a matter of perspective. You still do not know my EXACT reasons. But yes, in the beginning, those were my feelings and words. Now, I experience myself in a different way. I do not do things in order to be male or female, or a man/woman, I live my life as a human. Not trying to fit into this role or that role. My transition was a matter of comfort - that I found.
Its not for you or anyone to "Decide" if someone is male "anymore" or ever was.
laidbaqq 7 months ago
I love watchin yo vids n I think u be rite on da money wit yo topics,its ur body why not do wat u please,i hate wen ppl always want u to follow their way of living,ppl need to realize dat times are changing
kaydoubleyou33 7 months ago
" Kids don't care if you're a social outcast, tattooed or gay -- until they learn from others that they should be bothered by it"
that statement speaks so much truth
lostMARLEYchild 7 months ago
You should never explain yourself people take youtube.
sneakerscene 7 months ago
dear laidbaqq, so many of us can not choose to have biological children for health reasons. if you do choose to be a parent i will be severely jealous of your baby belly. if you can and you want to, then all i care about is that you honor the responsibility and blessing and love your children with your whole being. so many people don't cherish their kids. that sucks way way more than any gender fluidity you may "expose" others to.
screaminmeani 7 months ago
@screaminmeani That is true. Many people do take that for granted and it kills me. Having a child is a lifetime dedication, not something that ends once they've been birthed. That was only a small portion of the responsibility. I think the care the child will receive (not just objects, but love and knowledge as well) is what matters most. Kids don't care if you're a social outcast, tattooed or gay -- until they learn from others that they should be bothered by it.
laidbaqq 7 months ago
lmfao @ its my fucking cake it hy can't I eat it? I'VE ALWAYS SAID THAT! lawd jeebus... this whole topic is... a mess.
justplainkay 7 months ago
@laidbaqq everything contains feminine in it, so I would never state that a male lacks femininty as feminine represents life. Males have an X chromosome which shows and proves that the feminine is present. I am not body policing, I am just acknowledging what I believe to be truth. As a lesbian, I wish I could have a baby biologically with a woman. However, I know that the truth cannot be altered no matter how I feel. If u have a baby, I hope u and ur baby r happy and heathly.
mimidagatekeepa 7 months ago
@mimidagatekeepa Lesbians can have babies biologically. Bone marrow can be turned into sperm.
ZayJahDaV 7 months ago
@ZayJahDaV They've mastered that technique already?
laidbaqq 7 months ago
@laidbaqq I haven't heard much on it lately but to be honest. I hope they're still working on it. Society seems to be obsessed with reproduction so that could either work to their advantage or disadvantage. I don't see why it shouldn't be available within the time that we would be parenting.
ZayJahDaV 7 months ago
You rock! Well said again!
dylanwikifoo 7 months ago
lolol... im doin a video response to this...this is great convo...i want to address
nochokin 7 months ago
your strength is beautiful... Keep doin you Xav...
nikkiherizen200 7 months ago
I just think ppl can't understand the fact that once you despised being a woman and one would think that you would not want to bare a child as a woman would now that you're a man.
cdani17 7 months ago 2
@cdani17 And taking into consideration the social conditioning, I can understand the lack of comprehension. There are a lot of things I avoided doing as a woman. Wearing wigs even just for laughs, painting my nails & even behaving in a feminine manner. Now, I express femininity with no issue.
What changed? My level of comfort with myself.
Being a man/male or masculine doesn't mean having a complete lack of femininity, as they seem to think.
laidbaqq 7 months ago
What you said on that "have your cake and eat it too" saying is all truth to me. I literally asked myself the same thing lol. Have your cake, eat it, and enjoy every piece of it man. I honestly don't believe one truly has the right to decide if another dies, and likewise I don't believe one truly has the right to decide if another can bring forth life, let alone determine one's identity based on that. But opinions are opinions, so I respect that as well. Peace.
artistethabeast 7 months ago
@artistethabeast I fuckin' love cake with some ice cream on the side lol
Your point is basically what I meant by she was "body policing". That's exactly it. Attempting to determine who is eligible and who is not.
laidbaqq 7 months ago
be strong, be yourself, do what you do and the insecure who take issue with YOUR life need to mind THEIR life...be happy and live your life, power and solidarity brother!
tspaige1 7 months ago