Getting involved w/married people

[lovinmuhbabies4ever]

i totally agree!! if she is married leave her alone... same with all these lil girls mackin on taken men!! get your own hooch!! jeeeeez

[BizarreCocktail]

If they both have expressed their attraction to each other wouldn't be even better if they make out? I mean, if a married woman is ready to cheat, it's just not a good wife. Same with men. It's them who destroy their relationships. Of course it would be perfect if they would just be honest with each other and end it before cheating, but oh well ... people are cowards.

[ljp9870]

i understand the appeal..my ex has destroyed 2 familys..i hope he leaves his wife for it..to be be justified xx

[PlatinumSqrrl]

not if you are talking sex. and... sometimes it's more exciting. you know... the danger ;)

[BossLadyChaz]

I agree with you- my ex is now seeing a married woman. I was with him for nearly 4 years and we broke up because 'we were two different people'

All my friends now have to accept her despite them both being told so many times that its not going to work out!

[prickett233]

vanae, you need to shut the fuck up by putting my cock in your mouth and just produce videos of your tits and pussy for youtube!

[AnotherAgnostic]

Just fuck and don't get caught.

[xj900man]

I got involved with a married woman Oct2010. She was in my band and chemistry just happened. We shared beautiful intimacy emotional and physical. She visited me every day but one day in January 2011 she felt guilt and told her husband about me. He confronted me and told me to keep stay off. But God damn the next day she was back at my door. I tried to distance myself but her persistence won out. Two days ago her husband found out again and crying she said I must forget her. I don't know WTF help

[70rm3n70r]

@xj900man

dude, you realize in the dange u were in right?

it could have been your last Oct2010,

the dude came to you to leave her alone??

dudes dont do that anymore

[lemmieatit]

@aurangxaib Look at the Muslims example of a perfect person-Mohammad. He married a 6 Year old, took his stepson's wife, beheaded a jew and married his widow, had numerous child concubines. And the list goes on

[fize34]

you are cute

[Rapter560]

Pls try this

1. Say ur name 10x

2. Say ur mama name 5x

3. Say ur crush name 3x

4. The coming up Friday ur crush will kiss u

**** if u read this and don't post to 4 other videos friday will be ur worst day ever!!!!!!****

[657james]

please stop following this girl thats just what she wants she wants u to think she is somthing special the girl is so fake its unreal

[hutchisonodessa]

ok what about if there married but separted for over a yr

[TheClaszclown]

who the hell dates married ppl ? i can see just a fling but you have to be a fucking loser to actually date them dur.. the real question is actually how can you date them their taken!! booty calls is all they will ever be.

[1ofmeNlotsofU]

you speak it right. its so hard to not go for it though but its not worth breaking hearts..eithe way its a lose situation.

[690169]

Don't even think about it because...you're going to get caught or if not caught you're going to feel so much guilt

[reaginmx]

,people only end up getting hurt when they get involved with married men. these relationships are based on lies and deception, ladies don't believe them when they say the don't love their spouse,or that they are about to leave, they are liers and cheeters,what make you think they will tell you the truth?what do you do when a personal crisis arise, you can.t just pick up the phone and call him,and what about the holidays,he's home with his family. so stay clear of the married men.. DOGS,,,,,

[nbmnkjlrwewds]

marriage and get a trusted women Online  *lushfmlk.info*

[RendezvousEntity]

I like apples o__O

[mikepearson555]

what a loser biatch. Who would watch this stupid women's video's on a regular basis.

[woden20]

It depends i'm a married man and i can have a girlfriend also, my wife is ok about it as long as we are all together. This is one of the perks of having a bi sexual wife.

Yes it does work and yes it is the best relationship because i can escape the shopping trips.

[aurangxaib]

Fuck you whites with you're dating system... thats why you are son of more than one fathers... look at us muslims we never get into situations like this :)) fuck all who gets offended by me but you all can suck it

[Conduit13C]

Married women are just as shady as regular women. i've dated someone married before, i was curious, wouldn't do it again. i only did it to get my mind off my ex g/f who broke up with me after 5 years. but whatever, normal relationships don't work, affairs don't work. what can you do???

[Lachdenan]

@Conduit13C I know how you feel, but I thought this out. I don't think I could go for perpetuating an affair after my wife most likely had one on me.

[Ojokernegro]

Tsk, newbs, why would you fall for a married woman? Geez, control your hearts...a woman who has another man is not a woman you want to fall for, control your emotions. I'll definitely go for a married woman, but only if she/her husband is rich or if she can sustain herself, because dating a poor married woman is str8 out for suckers (you need to be there for her emotionally, financially and physically, harder to conceal such a relationship).

[uofawildcat48]

Okay..here's a question...i have a friend, and it is my friend..not me...lol..,who has been seeing this guy who still lives w/ his ex wife. But, my friend pamela still lives with her ex husband. So, is this okay?...or not okay?...and if not, why?...Just curious if others see it my way, or their way?

[Ojokernegro]

@uofawildcat48 it's okay if you ask me, it's not like they want to marry or anything, besides they're both divorced, so they should both have some fun together. They shouldn't meet each other's exes though, that'll just ruin things. If they want to have something serious however, I suggest each of them move as far away as possible from their exes. There's no freaking way I'm gonna fall for a girl who's that close to her ex, there's a high chance she still has sex with her ex if they live 2gether

[99virgo]

But what if you've gone a looooooooooooooooooong time without a woman. You finally meat the perfect woman & she's married. But everything in you JUST WANTS THIS WOMAN. What do you do? I'm getting really weak 4 her.

[Ojokernegro]

@99virgo Well, then be ready to get her away from her husband by suggesting she gets divorced and marries you, assuming you can give her a better lifestyle... otherwise don't do it, it's not worth it! Or you could do the simple thing...go to a strip club and forget the married woman, never call or visit her again, you'll forget her eventually and none of you will get hurt.

[99virgo]

@Ojokernegro Strip Club? Right!!! then go home even more stiff than before. Did I mention that she hasn't live with him 4 years.

[324582782]

I got involved with a married woman and now i'm fucked. Don't believe what the woman tells you

[MrLocario]

I don't agree. If the person you are with is meant to be with you and really loves you they are not going to go anywhere no matter who comes along. If they do leave you for someone else then the relationship probably wasn't that strong to begin with. Also who knows if that married person is happy in their marriage. You and them will probably work out better than their current relationship.

[Nortenokiller1]

thank you for the advice

[yousedcarguy]

Been there done that. I was with a woman in an abusive arranged marriage, I loved her, she loved me. We spent hours together, working, talking, and well you get the gist. I fell hard for this woman and when the dust settled I was left with all the pain and the sorrow and she stayed in her marriage for the convenience of money. Stay the hell away from married people they are no bueno if they are looking outside their marriage for anything.

[LastBastionOfTruth]

@yousedcarguy Provided your situation is genuine, why would you have expected anything else of that situation?

If a woman is STAYING in an abusive marriage, but she's bold enough to go CHEAT, then she's not going anywhere, as she could leave anytime she wanted. It's possible she was playing up the whole "abuse victim" angle for your sympathy, because someone staying but cheating... is no "victim".

At any rate you're 100% correct. Dating someone married is sheer folly.

[neggayeah]

ur so cute

[LotusExigedriver]

Oh please, nobody is off limits. Husbands and boyfriends are just pylons. Go around them. Just cause she has a ring on her finger doesnt mean she isnt available. Hasnt stopped people before

[franco121760]

You are right!

[RoxStar09]

Adultery...THE SCARLET LETTER! X'D

However, if they weren't lawfully wedded, then they would be considered fornicators. You can guess how much of a surplus America has on that. XDD

[dyingtolive201]

Shes a straight-up twinkie haha.who actually subscribes to this?There's no more loyalty in this world,every1 gets screwed over or screws over some1.real talk.peace.

[Cuffin]

one of my best friends are dating a guy that's traditionally committed to a girl he doesn't know. his family will disown him if he doesn't marry her, yet he's in love with my friend, she's in love with him, and well... the real kicker is, she asked him out initiated the relationship, fell in love, then found out that he's 29, she's 19. O.o What are your thoughts on this Vanae? if ya get the time...

[COD5252]

rules are for those who follow them

[itcw]

yeah..nice vid.

but don't stay up too late, your eye rings going to get darker ya.

[iHateMyHusbandAlot]

Having an affair is great! especially when the man you love is a total selfish asshole who only works, comes home and fucks me only when he wants to and when I want it, hes too tired, fuck you! thats why I made a short video. watch my video

[smartalek1]

Left out the single most important reason never to mess w/the married:

If they'll cheat on someone else with YOU, they will cheat on YOU with someone else.

No karma necessary; it's just a simple fact. Behaviors may or may not change -- but character never does. And if they'll cheat w/you, then they are a cheater, period -- and always will be.

Think you're different, special, they would never do that to you? That's what their spouse thought, too.

[Raspout1981]

I dont agree...

I cheated on my girlfriend once, and felt really bad, its the first thing i told her when i saw her the next day, and i think it hurt me as much as it hurt her, and i will never do it again.

She lost trust in me, she then also cheated, and we are not together anymore since it stoped working the day i cheated.

I will never do this again, it was too bad, not making the same mistake.

[i10azns]

I made this mistake myself.

It really hurt when I discovered her interest in me, had absolutely nothing to do with me.

so that's one danger.

[benutzer29915022]

Marriage is Christian bullshit...

[maria39208]

get a life..

[benutzer29915022]

I already got one for 2,99 at Walmart^^

[TonyCampbbell]

marriage is an outdated custom for the old past centuries.

[Lavall9000]

If you've seen the graduate you know that she' right.

[beatles19882009]

I like married women more than single women I dont know why. I have many dreams of married women and when I see a ring on her finger I want her more.

[slimyoshady]

i'll tell u why

because it's like a trophey

shes married shes the woman of someone else and u had her,it's like it gives u power makes u more confident it makes u think that you're a good catch you're the man you're different thats why

i did that too many times but now im bored cuz theres nothing else new for me to discover to try nothing im just 24 and i've discovered all most everything i think

about life about women about fun about sex about everything

[Cavetroll100]

I could not possibly agree more. A perfect recipe for absolute disaster!! (That's probably the reason why it's so hard to resist.) Only the worst possible outcome can be expected. I've seen where that goes. YOU SOOO DON'T WANT TO GO THERE!!!!!!!!!!!!

[RangDo31]

The best way to answer is this by the comic Larry the cable guy.He said " Gun's don't kill people, husbands that come home early do".

Just some food for thought.

[drums12lax]

yeah but if you run through the electric fence fast enough you won't even feel it.

[MasterDragonNinja]

Or if you are holding onto a friend the current will go through you and zap them!

[hausofb]

cant believe you wasted a video on this. people should already know not to get involved with married people. there are so many cases where husband comes home and find his wife sleeping with another man and then he goes and get his pistol or vice versa.

[smartalek1]

@hausofb

"he goes and get his pistol or vice versa."

The pistol goes to get him?

[Aditi000]

Good advice!!!!! Nice to hear it these days.

[oOoLyRiCzZoOo]

all i would do is go out with the women and smash the fuck out of the man

[5tonyvvvv]

married people suck!!! there no fun..all they do is complain about there bills and kids..and if u get married u have to hang out with other miserable married people.

[ElleBellesx]

and if the person would cheat on their Husband or Wife, who they might even have children with then why wouldnt they cheat on you?

[tsntana]

Yeah getting involved with someone who's already taken can get quite messy. And people can end up getting hurt deeply.

Best to leave the love triangles in the soap operas and the reality shows.

[raul9220]

Whats worst about the matter is when u date a girl and she doesn't tell you she's married. I dated a girl for 4 months and never told me she was married. Finally she told me. Thats more fuck up then when you know she's married from the begining .

So it's better to Leave IT ALONE! Get out when you have the chance........

[moorigs]

Yeah, I dated a married woman for 10 years..the sex was great, but it was like I didn't have a girlfriend because we hardly ever went out and when we did, she was always affraid she may run into one of her relatives, one of the husband's friends or worse yet, the husband...10 years was a long time to have this affair and it did eventually end..she was fantastic in bed and that is why it lasted as long as it did.

[IheartPRETTIboys]

man...so you only went with her for the sex? for 10 years? Wow how shallow.

[SomethingNewWithYou]

couldnt agree more leave it =]

[kikokazuma]

Don't do it. I found out the hard way.

I loved her more than anything. I could spend days telling you how I felt about her, and the memories I still have of her.

In short...I got an apartment so she and I could finally live together. Till he found out, that is. I didn't hear from her in a week. When she finally called me she told me she still loves him. And in a matter of moments the one thing I cared about most - my best friend - was gone. We don't even speak anymore.

Leave it alone.

[vanae12]

thanks for sharing your story, kiko!

[ilovesteve7]

@kikokazuma aww your comment is so sweet and sad

[imaflirt82]

@kikokazuma How long were yall together?

[kikokazuma]

@imaflirt82 Considering the circumstances I don't even like to think of it as us being "together".

But I'd say we had feelings for each other for a good year and a half or so.

[imaflirt82]

@kikokazuma I was just wondering cause i am currently involved right now thats why i was asking just getting pointer cause its been a year for both of us.

[kikokazuma]

@imaflirt82 Having an affair is almost always never a good thing. If you'd like to talk about some experiences I've had or if you'd like some advice feel free to message me.

[Brumfield85]

@kikokazuma Dude my story is scarily similar to this... I'm in an apartment, she's married, and is moving here in a few months.....

[babycakesjk]

Your advice is 100% right. Its a huge temptation,but you'll be so much better off without getting into it. Karma is a bitch,...

[AySay1015]

why are there so many asians on youtube? No offence or anything, but really there are a lot of popular asians on here...

[natenate88]

cuz asians are generally cooler ppl haha

[AySay1015]

don't generalize... Kim Jung Il isnt cool :P

[Bloodmook]

*gasp* OH YEA! The Electric Fence! This question shoulda been a no brainer! I remember that fence....it hurt D:

[BOBAH4iK]

I have been with a married woman. It was really nice, because we knew we could not stay together, so we were trying to enjoy every minute of us being together.... The relationship was as no other... Normally single women are trying to achieve smth else on top of dating, but she had everything... All she wanted - was me... And she was genuine with her feelings.... I wish we could stay together longer...

[CorneliusWaldo]

my girlfriend lives in Japan and I live in California and she speaks as little english as I speak japanese but i want to see her again and have relationship what do i do? T__T

[deloyisme]

If we lived in a bizarro universe where Vanae was wacko enough to be married yet be expressing her passionate attraction to me, I would be like: "dude...screw this video!!"

seriously though...married chicks are bad news...

[ilovebobmarley69]

u rock chicka ! lots of love from one of your newest fans ..steph

[RABUST]

Why are you so beautiful

[BOBAH4iK]

bcz she is positive!

Positive attitute

and positive thinking - those two things make people beautiful

[raresolid]

your right, not a good thing.

[tommygu444]

Vanae, 'Cassie from Hawaii' is amazingly attractive. Is she single ?

[Inspironator]

People have rocky moments in our lives. That isn't to say things can't or wouldn't turn around.

Stay away from married people. If the marriage isn't working out, then they can end the marriage first. Players often sell the story that they are in a bad relationship and it's ending anyway. So stay away until it is over or you will get tied up in a tangled web.

[TrailBlazersInc]

if vanae was married i get involved with her .. ..and even quicker if she wasnt .. what do u say vanae .. wanna hook up ..

[MattKoval]

Good points!

[vanae12]

gracias

mr.handsome matt

[BboyMindless]

This video was so inspirational, that I transformed into a Ipod!

[vanae12]

iPod!!!!

[nigel106]

I agree with you 100%.  I met a married woman years ago who was interested in me and she asked me out. Even though she was attractive, alarm bells went off in my head, so I politely - but firmly - turned her down. The idea of being responsible for breaking up a married couple just scared the *bleep!* out of me!

[runningsnowball]

shouldn't the married party say no to any advances in the first place? ie if she allows them, it means she's not interested in the marriage in the first place and is in it for the wrong reason!

[runningsnowball]

maybe ur next video could be about why some married women still go out with other guys

[jookem]

it didn't work in "hes just not that into you" alos VANAE take off this blur effect on your camera I can't see your cute face.

[vanae12]

yeah, i dont know why my camera does that blurry effect

can someone tell me HOW TO ADJUST this in iMovie?

[solarboystephen]

KARMA!!!! Run away from the married person!!! It will come back to bite you...

At least that is what I believe in. ^_^ Since I'm single, I want someone who is single. If I seduce a married person, what's to stop her from going to some other person just as quickly?

[ShaneRaweewon]

Exactly- unless the guy's looking for just one thing out of that girl. otherwise this girl's easily going to jump around

[joshsutt]

i agree with vanae's opinion any affairs are out of the question whether its just simple bg/gf relationship or marriage, there is a commitment in the vows to promise to cherish and be loyal, such is the sacred nature of this why do it at all, and this isnt a religious point of view, im atheist its just basic ethics and morals

[emericasguy6589]

i love you, Vanae!

[regisor94]

Fantabulous, Vanae!

Honestly, someone who's married, yet lives like they're not, probably shouldn't have gotten married in the first place.

And yes, it's good to see it from the other point of view (like if someone else was wanting YOUR wife or husband). Not good.

Being single definitely has its advantages sometimes.

[vanae12]

most def!

[SFcalifUSA]

You know you're going to Hell, right?

[lassieNY]

I'm on the fence on this one. How can any person know the outcome of a complex relationship? We can't even predict the outcome of a simple relationship between two single people. Who can really say with absolute certainty. Even the people who's gone through this, in the back of their minds they have questions that starts with..."what if"

[hopezer0]

it's not the outcome of the relationship, it's how fucked up it is to be blunt.

If you want another relationship and your married, get fucken divorced first.

[SFcalifUSA]

But what about God?

[camculver]

Thanks for your answer :)

[aretemantis]

I was w/a married lady; I was 21, she 26. She seduced me by soliciting my sympathy over getting dumped by my best fr. Dave (not the husband). So, once Dave said he was no longer involved w/her, her & I got it on 4 about a mo. Brought me 2 the mount. top;never had sex like that b4 nor since. Though I've had gf's who were way more fine in comparison.She started up w/another dude behind my back;I dumped her.I was crushed.That's what U get when U mess w/lives like that. Lesson learned. -Steve/sf

[Josemedeiros]

I agree 100 percent, the 10 commandments states that " Thou Shalt Not Commit Adultery" & " "Thou Shalt Not Bear False Witness".

Jose :-)

[ninjattak]

AMEN BROTHER!!! read your bibles people.

[MrPinoy91]

I am totally against it to.

Stay away from married people.

[hopezer0]

Agree 100%

It's plain nasty and the guy should be kicked in the balls really hard then his face smashed in a wall.

I have a saying, if you're going to ruin someone's life, just ruin your own and leave others out of it!

btw, ur still oh so pretty vanae!

P.S. You should post a topic on ways to mend relationships sometime!

[vanae12]

mending relationships..

specific question relating to this? for example, a scenario?

[56jmoney]

well... are you single then, vanae?

[TomaCukor]

yes

[foxneil]

yup your just asking for trouble

[Chuong8k7]

TOTALLY disagree!! o wait...with him, lolz, but i agree with u, V

[ShadowJ20]

No I've never been someone that's been married. I believe that if the person has a boyfriend/girl it should be off limits.

[tico8007]

yup it's asking for trouble, better lay off them

[MelloSpeed]

Be quiet and take it off.

[sh4d0wb01]

AYE shut up and let her talk. If you can't appreciate her advice then go somewhere else.

[bpnoy3]

oh man that's hot, married women

[camculver]

Hey Vanae, I've seen someone using the same opening you did. Is it from some site? if so, would you mind telling me?

[sh4d0wb01]

I think it's from iMovie.

[camculver]

thanks :D

[hughmanwho]

Married no.. I figure until the day she says "I do", she's up for grabs though.

[jerseyman10]

Oh, I thought you were getting married lol

[lilballa7]

thats what i was thinking jersey

[TheAnthemsOfTime]

The benefits definitely don't outweigh the risks in this situation. There are reasons that every major religion in the world looks down on adultery, because it's just not wise. Dude, save yourself some heartache. Be flattered, but don't it let it go any farther than that.

[bensgirl2711]

ok im sorry this question doesnt really go with the topic of married but i have a question i just had to ask! ok what if there is a guy u like that is perfect for u and u think he really likes u too, but hes ur brothers best friend? i mean what if i go after him and my brother gets mad or worse mad at him? i reallllyyy dont know what to do right now :( could u pleaseeeeeeee walk me through the steps of all this crazieness? pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee :)

[soni408]

I so agree ...bad Karma.

[zeusdexter]

if he/she cheats on his partner... then set out a parameter...set borders first... communicate to the partner...dialogue... it takes courage though... note, that its very important that you are aware and you know you are dating a married person. if you dont know you are dating a married person, then you cannot set a parameter, you'll be cheated at...

[ignacio13mx]

If He or she cheats on his partner,what makes you think he or she will not cheat on you also,and thats only if yall actually thinking about a relationship.

[zeusdexter]

i agree with vanae... on my part part though im just saying its an option... it shouldnt be treated with taboo... relationship building is both simple and complex just like your heart is... it simply is beating, but complicatedly loving! =)

[zeusdexter]

loyalty is just a small part of a relationship... when you're married, every factor is considered... its a case to case basis... if the woman is a battered wife, or she could be married to an alcholic... many things can happen in marriage, and dating them is one way to find out...both for you and him/her... its messy...yes, could be...as they say, "the best things in life are worth fighting for"

[shamc0re]

If she/he can't be trusted to be loyal when married, then what does that say about the trust you can put into that person in the long run, and what makes you think it won't happen again?

Apart from that, it's messy, like Vanae said.

[zeusdexter]

if the married guy/girl accepts who you are regardless of anything negative about you... make no commitment yet... its time to talk about his/her marriage, how you can help mend it or make him/her end it... in the end its a life decision... a process... which has its rewards, if you're really really love... its like a diamond in the rough... =)

[jammy41]

getting involved with a married woman, i hope you speak from experience :D

[maxzor1]

you where going to say shit

[zeusdexter]

i think dating married persons is ok if you're serious about a relationship. i believe they are more wiser when it comes to relationships, they been "there", and definitely they know what it is (reality) and how it is (handling) to be married. date a single guy or girl and its like trial&error. if you date a married guy or girl, make no pretensions, let him/her see the bad side of you; in that way, he/she can ask "is this really worth it?"...explore the married life in a nutshell! =)

[enerumu]

fantabulous lol lol your videos are absolutelly awesome!!

[nickrd182]

I don't think people should get involved with married people, unless they're James Bond.

But I've seen many successful girlfriend-steals, the girl sometimes is happy to be liberated from her old boyfriend, and the new couple is much happier.

I don't think the "boyfriend barrier" really applies if the girl is flirting with you like no tomorrow, and she's sober (spoken from real experiences).

[kodder]

ehm, threesome with the husband :P

no cheating, still getting it on, husband isn't left out.

:P

[msaak01]

agreed fully!!

[TrailBlazersInc]

agreed .. dont do it .. i've personally never dated someone who was married .. but im not saying i havent prob hooked up with someones gf cause chances are i have, & i was just too jacked up to realize it .. =D . yay for me

[SOA209]

wow wow wait a minute about that getting involved with married women is just asking for trouble lol.

[penutwi]

some married woman wanted to hook up with me. i passed. her husband took pills for mental stuff. thats just asking to get shot.... many times.

[remues]

what if she is the one, somethings only happen once in a life time and if you let it go you never will get it back.

[Lonewolfjedi]

Married or seeing someone to me means no way, dont want to be the third wheel or one who causes a couple to break up

[LyleStyleZ]

"fantabulous" :) great vid. love the electric fence thing...you rock as always. didja get a haircut?

[paul02144]

Sounds like good advice, and told with a bit of humor.

[Iz69]

Lol...Depends on marriages sometimes. I still think its bad though because what if it happens to you. Seriously though there are so many to choose from. I'm only now getting over someone and it sucks!

[xalimech]

I wish my friend had seen this video before he got involved with a married woman. Now she left her husband for him and well.. I just don't approve of the situation because of the consequences that can come from it. She's a nice person but the whole situation just has bad news/karma written all over.

[ChristopherWalkenPUA]

There's tens of thousands of attractive girls out there, no need to put yourself at risk for a married one.

[MrRay47]

Affairs with someone else's wife can get you killed. It happens all the time. OK to be strictly friends with a married woman who might be more than a friend if and when she becomes single. No, don't get involved with her divorce either, but since a majority of US marriages end in divorce hers could too. It wouldn't hurt to keep in touch enough to know when she's divorced, if you can do that without feeling like you're waiting for her. IMHO aloha :)

[erikman89]

married-off limits.

no ring on the finger-fair game

[KeyboardCowboy2]

lol electric fence! zap my dum azz!

[kastmaster2000]

First!

Love your vids.  You've got a smexy speaking voice :)