Talk Show: Relationships: Keeping Your Options Open, Wandering Eye

[MikesMiyu]

You look good in front of that ElectroVoice RE-20.

[tracitoguchiinc]

@MikesMiyu lol Thanks!

[abhishekagarwal77]

nice views!

[tracitoguchiinc]

@abhishekagarwal77 Mahalo!

[JunmaiShu]

I find it impossible not to recognize beauty when I see it, whether it be a sunset, a work of art, or a woman. But if I'm already with one such work of art, I'm too preoccupied with her to notice what else is around me, or care.

A problem I run into is I become good friends with the women I really like. After that taking it any further seems awkward. I don't regret the friendships one bit though, quite to the contrary in fact. But, you know...

[tracitoguchiinc]

@JunmaiShu Thanks for sharing. I'd go out on the limb and say most/all women want to feel from their significant other that they are the most beautiful woman in the world. When I've had recent conversations with men about this topic, I ask men what they would want for their daughters -- Wouldn't they want their daughter(s) to be with someone who treats her the way many fathers tend to think their daughters are -- the most beautiful and precious in their eyes? The answer is always "yes."

[tracitoguchiinc]

@tracitoguchiinc Someone commented on my blog page (I'll include the direct link in the description). Since he referenced your response, I wanted to share my comment to him: The way and duration (lol) the person looks at another are factors. Like what was said in the show - what is the intent behind it? What is the purpose of looking at another person that fits one's physical attraction tastes if it is attraction which brings the people to be in a relationship together?

[JunmaiShu]

Well stated. It's just slimey to gawk at them when you're already with somebody. But we wouldn't be human if the impulse didn't exist to be attracted to beauty. And I've been asked the question before: "do you think she's pretty"? I think it's worse to lie, so I say "yes". You hope they're mature enough to understand what I conveyed above, and if not, you explain it to them and hope they admire the honesty. Not a bad time to remind them that you love them, too ;)

[tracitoguchiinc]

@JunmaiShu Thanks for sharing. Yes, the impulse is understandable, but I feel it's what one does with that impulse makes a difference, especially if the person expressed what he/she feels when it happens. If someone in a relationship is admiring someone else, wouldn't the human impulse mean they would pursue that if they could?

[tracitoguchiinc]

@JunmaiShu Friends of opposite genders - that's a whole 'nother show! It's an everlasting debate ala "When Harry Met Sally." ^_^

[JunmaiShu]

Oh, and I LOVE that movie! I've always gotten along better with women than other guys. My best friend is a girl, and that has caused problems before in relationships. They don't understand, and furthermore sometimes don't believe me that that's all it is (friendship). It's a tough line to toe. And she's dealt with the same problems.

It's great to talk to you again. I hope you have a great Thanksgiving! I make a mean oyster stuffing, if I may self-indulge for a moment?

[tracitoguchiinc]

@JunmaiShu Yes, the friends issue is something, again perhaps for another video, as like this topic, there are multiple comments and questions I have about it. Wow, never heard of or tasted oyster stuffing. It sounds uber yum! Thanks, wishing you and your family a wonderful Thanksgiving too (thought we had one more day, but here it is).

[OAWALKER]

Good show watched it all i enjoyed listening about your experiences :P

[tracitoguchiinc]

@OAWALKER Thanks! It's been a journey, and still is. ^_^

[nuvigroovi]

Excellent topic that no one dares to discuss, though we guys are guilty of. It is a battle. Thanks for posting,

[tracitoguchiinc]

@nuvigroovi Thanks for being open and honest about the discussion. ^_^