Learn How to Gain Respect and How to be a Better Husband

[spunky232]

respect is a old fashioned value. in todays world disrepect is looked as funner, better, and cooler. i agree what ur saying,...its sad how people cant just be themselves. \\

[KanchoKomancho]

Related to objective reality and perception filtering of it: think about this, what would happen if two construction engineers look at the same bridge design blue-print differently (with their own perception); would they be able to build that bridge as a stable and lasting object or would it fail very quickly?

[lovelypinkhearts]

So if I'm in an abusive relation ship it's my fault? And getting my face bashed in for leaving the tooth paste cap off, is my fault and I brought it on my self and him having anger management issues has nothing to do with it. I can agree with what you are saying to a point but, I think you need to reevaluate some of your thinking.

[mr127500]

@lovelypinkheartsi just want you to know that i feel for your situation and in no way condone any of the actions that are happening in your relationship and these following thoughts are simply my humble opinion. no an abusive person is not your fault, however if you stay in abusive relationship then you have to at least take some responsibility for what may be happening.

[spunky232]

@lovelypinkhearts some people are mean nd bitter...

[okiecopeland]

mr127500,

very well put. pretty influential you are. you should respond to some of us once in a while. like those who need help, yeah?

[mr127500]

Agreed.  How can i Help?

[monixsar1]

I know what u saying. But, its not easy, hard in extreme level, and for me impossible so far. I moved in more than 10 places already to find me respect. I try new things always. But after couple of days they will treat me like a jerk again. Examples are simple, everybody I meet is an example, but i always fail . I 'm tried of trying of putting mask different behavior and people. It doesn't work. But I have no choice, I've to do it until the day i'll die. I don't want to fail. Please help.

[mr127500]

To be honest with you until you change your personal perceptions of yourself you will never be able to achieve that respect. If you yourself do not deem yourself worthy of respect then rest assured, no one else will either. For you before you try and alter anyone elses perceptions of you, you must first come to terms with yourself and realize that you truly do deserve this and then and only then can you begin to alter other peoples perceptions and gain respect.

[darb1017]

Where to begin?

First off: Blunt, quick, no BS, and 100% spot-on!

For years I have tried to explain the , what I call "Perception is reality", that others perception of you is their reality of you, even though it is not yourself. This can be both good and bad. You are only the 2nd person I have heard bring this up.

Also, this process can take time, you did touch on how you have to first change behaviors to gain respect, but I think that people should know this is not an overnight thing. A+

[joshuaavalentine]

Great Video! It speaks volumes!