Re: Who Are They!! Biracial, Black or White?

[Lex1999to2011]

Some people just don't understand though. What some people want her to do is to raise him as both that is what she is trying to do. But she is not white she probaly desn't know how white people raise there children. What you realy need to do is just raise your child how you raise kids with love and teach him righ from wrong. That's all.

[blkfem4whtmen]

@Lex1999to2011 You're correct. My son is now 5 yrs old he does struggle but he is just plays and is a great and well mannered little boy. What I find different....is he just got back from spending 8 weeks with his father and everyone around him was white. I don't know what we were talking about but he told his step brother who is mixed also but darker than him...that he was white. I think it is because he was around his father side for the past few weeks.

[blkfem4whtmen]

We had the conversation again about being mixed so he is back to being brown this week. We now live in RURUAL KY so I can't imagine how or what he will think but I"m just teaching him to be a good person. He has a step brother 2 years older who is mixed and he has a half brother who is a year that looks just him so they will all grow up being good men so that is all i can do.....and I'm doing a great job.

[Lex1999to2011]

@sportsmarvel I geuss that's right because, my great papa was white black and Native American

[Lex1999to2011]

@drumly02 You make no sense. She does accept him as a biracial child. It's not her fault his father isn't in his life and yes I do think she can turn to any race for help with her child if they are a parent and they understand. That's all she needs. Duhhhh!

[sportsmarvel]

Actually no such thing as Biracial. Africans are the most diverse race group. Take for example African Americans they have European gene in. Check out Snoop Dogg & Charles Barkely DNA test. both had European as well as native American in them. In every society people view you as u are regardless of how a person views oneself I mean people judge a person on looks & if they are attractive everyday so it does exist. If ur appearance is black or have visual traits of black people then don't get mad

[rubberboots23]

I can partially understand where ur clmkng from.. Buut hes NOT. Black.. Hes mixed why is that such a bad thing u make it sound like he's gay or something.. How can u put him in an all bla k daycare.. And be happy.. Wow

[trex011]

I am a 2nd generation navy brat. I always moved and have finaaly settled down in Ct. I get these comments everyday, but if you live with kids for awhile they start to identify you as that and stop. But i moved in and most people try to joke about me, or say i dont count, or am a stereotype because everything i do one little thing.. Its harsh, hopefully you live in a nice area that way.

[trex011]

Its harsh to do. Im a half black half white kid in high school and while i have friends and other things, there is a slight racism towards me. Your going to have to teach him how to ignore these things. My friends say stupid things like "oh your black, it doesnt count" or "your white so it doesnt matter". Most kids dont get this and the best thing you could do is to stop moving around. (see next reply fro details)

[lina8208]

How does your sons father feel about his son? Is he unable to visit him? Might he be a bad influence?

Your son might have issues with white people later on in life if his father won't help raising him or at least visit him. He might need to spend time with some other good white people. You will probably need to explain to him why his father can't be there for him so that he won't blame himself or end up disliking all white people or maybe the fact that he is partly white.

[blkfem4whtmen]

His father has come a long was than the first couple of months. He didn't see him until he was 6 month and there after he has tried to see him like twice a year. I live in NM and his father in DE. Our son knows that he is black and white and he knows who his father is. I live in a very diverse area so my son does play will all kids so he is getting exposure. I would never let him grow up hating white people. I have already taught him better than that. Thank you for your comment

[lina8208]

I would advise you to raise your biracial child just as you would raise any other child, just try to make sure that he is exposed to both cultures and encourage him to play with both black and white children aswell as mixed ones.

I am biracial myself (polish and ethiopian) and I am glad that I got the opportunity to learn about both cultures. I was fortunate enough to have parents who stayed together and so I grew up with both of them.

[1titans]

Its not a black thing, its sort of a world thing. Thats why Arabic men are raping black african women in dafur, cause they will consider their offspring arabs. Thats the genocide

[lburianek]

Hi I think you answered it what ever he grows up with will be his choice and drumly 20 comments below are very informative

[blkfem4whtmen]

Low status/high status groups? I understand what you're saying but I like to think I'm in high status group myself and will provide for my son to be successful. I have spoken with biracial people and most of them refer to where they grew up as the one factor to what they identify with. Mixed people from Kansas identify with the white side and mixed people in Memphis are probably identifying with black people. I just want him to know both which he will. Thanks again

[blkfem4whtmen]

Raise him as biracial white? I have not heard that before. You're correct he is both and I am hoping that he can be exposed to both worlds so he knows what he wants to identify with. Thank you for your comments!!!

[blkfem4whtmen]

You are correct, you raise your child as you would any child with lots of love which my son has lots of that!

[cydwaze8]

You asked about how to raise a bi-racial child. My response would be not to call him that. I wouldn't try to make it easy on people, and people need to stop thinking in terms of fractions. I mean, if I'm half black does that mean someone who thinks they aren't is more like my dad, or my brothers than I am? Your son will ultimately have to think for himself despite what others say, and I wish you both well.

[blkfem4whtmen]

thank you for your comment on my son.  you know i can't speak to some people and the reason to why they would teach thier children to hate the other part of themselves. i think it has to do with that parent they are raised with and where they are raised. i think since my son is very bright skinned he will always be questioned but i'm trying to expose him to both worlds he doesn't hate either side. I can only speak to my son and we are in lives. thank you for the comment

[poorannette]

I want to say you have a beautiful child! I'm white and married to a wonderful black man so I understand about the prejudice comments, keep your chin up! My family doesn't say anything to my face, but I've heard comments that HURT! I wish people would take the blinders off & see the world as it is today & not in the earlier days! I don't see color (black or white, it's all grey)! God bless you and your child! Looking for to meeting you in Allentown, we'll be the odd couple, LOL. Annette

[blkfem4whtmen]

Thank you so much for the comments. I agree that people should move on but some can't and that is understandable also. You look great and you seem happy with your relationship and that is most imporant. I look forward to seeing you in Allentown.

[fenzi08]

NOT all blacks

[brendubab]

If the one drop rule was applied literally it would mean all US Presidents were invalid.

[BlaxicanChiquita07]

u could raise ur son to the best or ur ability, and society will still try to put a label on him and tell him what he should be, and consider himself. its so sad but the US is still caught up in these racial tendencies. I'm sure ur gonna do the best for ur absolutely adorable son. God Bless You and ur son...He's gonna get "what are you" questions and remarks 4ever. I'm 20 & I still get it, as does my 55 yr old mom...it won't stop...

[BiracialGirl1977]

PART8:raise him as biracial give him that opertunity to get to know that side let him be around whites too even if they arent his relatives and he will choose his identity for himself when he gets older but dont make that choice for him, let him be around whites just as much as blacks.

[blkfem4whtmen]

I never said i would keep my son from his fathers side of the family. He's doesn't want to be a part that is what it is. My son is around white people all the time as he is around black people. I said that he is around my family alot...so he probably will indefity with black people while growing up. As you...know he will always know that he mixed and I am hoping that i can guide him to be the best man he can be.

[BiracialGirl1977]

PART7:and neither was my fathers side of the family my moms family wasnt in the pic either and i never viewed it out of site out of mind it effected me. and it part of what caused me to go through an identity crisis along with an inferiority complex it wasnt intill i rejected the one drop rule and accepted all of what i was that the identity crisis along with the inferiority complex totally stopped.

[BiracialGirl1977]

PART6:and just because his father isnt in the pic doesnt mean that its ok to keep that part of his identity away from him. Even if the father isnt in the pic he needs to accept that part of himself too do you think that he wont still wonder about his father or his fathers heritage or that side of himself cause i know i did and my father wasnt in the pic.

[BiracialGirl1977]

PART5: he is biracial and it would be best for his mental state to identify as such,when you tell the mixed person to identify with one when they know damn well they are both it teaches them that they arent good enough as they really are.

[BiracialGirl1977]

PART4:the U.S. says one drop makes you black because black blood is a taint and now has deemed u inferior and unworthy of the part thats white so that started an identity crisis for me it made me feel as if the only part that i was worthy of was the part that was considered not good enough.

[BiracialGirl1977]

PART3:i went through an identity crisis when i was a child as do many biracial black/white mixes and it's for this very reason. one because i wasnt stupid i was able to see that i was biracial/mixed and that i came out of a white women. and i was also treated like i was less then black from blacks.

[BiracialGirl1977]

PART2:if you raise him as just black because of the one drop rule he will one day think that the only part he is good enough for is the part that society as deemed him worthy of and the only part he would be worthy of according to the one drop rule is the part that is deemed inferior which society says that inferior part is the black part.

[BiracialGirl1977]

PART1:If you teach him that hes just black and to only identify as black because of the stupid one drop rule that we have in America he will one day go through an identity crisis (why do you think mixed kids have such a hard time with racial identity growing up in america, it because of the one drop rule not because biracial people are born confused we are born with a blank slate just like everyone else intill adults work us over and teach us that we arent worthy as we are)

[MIXEDBOI1989]

Wow, he's lucky. He got the "white look". I got the Latino look. Your son looks white. That's so unfair, I'm jealous.

[lburianek]

I think he is a beutiful child and thanks for bringing him into this world. He will choose what ever b/w but I hope its being him self.

[valeriethechinadoll]

Wow. He is beautiful! I cant really see but are his eyes blue? So handsome;)

[smileyousee]

Thanks again for sharing. I will be watching your other videos.

[smileyousee]

Now Sam is 3 and he is attending a private school with diversity. I think our babies will be the men in society based on the foundation we have thought them.

[smileyousee]

I thank you so much for sharing your story. You have such a beautiful son. He is precious. You seem like a loving mother. I too struggle with finding a daycare with children of different race.