I Slept With My Ex Last Nite (The Doo Doo Face)

[kcuz289]

i know that my situation may be an exception (1) because i'm a lesbian and there are differences between gay men and lesbian relationships (2) because the woman I am with now is the love of my life. I was in a relationship prior to the one I am in now and right before we broke up we signed a year lease for a two bedroom apartment. I got with my current gf right after we broke up and she is the best thing that ever happened to me. I still stay with my ex but ABSOLUTELY NOTHING HAS GONE DOWN!

[KingJRNY7]

I mean, can i have a damn strawberry too nigga? haha

[dhayden]

@ XemVanAdams First Off I Would Like TO Say; I'm Enjoying Your Videos; It's Wednesday October 26 6;18 PM (Central Time) & Today Is My First Day Watching Any Of Your Videos; I Wasn't Going To Comment On Any Of Them Because I Didn't Want My Name/Profile Out There; BUT I Just Want To Say:At The 10:13 Of Your Video You Mentioned Not Having The Resources Out There Like There Is Today On Someone Giving You The Game; It Was Out There; You Just Had To Really Want To Know & Search For It;Nice Videos Tho

[tara4niya205]

Great advice!!! I just love u!!!

[mahogonyayisien]

my ex still calls me, even though it's been 4 years since we broke up. our relationship was very very intense; like you said. I don't want to go back with him; even though i still have feelings for him. but he is playing it smooth, from time to time, he'll call me and have a real educated conversation with me. And behave real civil; this i believe he is doing to convey the notion to me that he is serious about life and respect, because when we were together he had neither. Is not gonna work.

[TowelTroi]

I guess I was moving to slow because dude was talking about getting an apt w/his ex & restarting. Me: cool, stop talking to me to work on that. I don’t give dudes nothing because of snaked-out situations like this. So a few displaced feelings, I could deal. Day 1 he was trying to stay on my radar. By month's end, texting he was single. Ok so? Wasn’t shit he could tell me, he’d already shown me all I needed to see. I didn’t even want to be friends so I removed him from my life completely.

[juniortubex]

You are absolutely right. We meant well and had every intention not to be together but after 5 years and many break UPS we ended up having sex a lot on "off" times

[kymber1109]

3 weeks after my girlfriend and I broke up, we tried to still be friends... went to a party, and got super drunk, and it took ALL my strength not to mess around... another friend had to pull me away cause they saw we were getting too "cozy."

[0062513]

Super cute!!! And wise too!!!!

[bishop2030]

I just joined and i am feeling dude. i have to ask are you a dj or something cuz you have a crazy voice on you. very nice man keep t going. holla

[amberia10]

He rockin Lmao

[1978herman]

I agree with you however some folks you cant tell anything they just have to learn the hard way

[StupidityRuled]

I love me some Britney tooo yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay!!!! I can party with you lol. This a great video

[LTCJ2006]

LOL! He killin' me with that Strawberry! So cute and funny. Anyways, as usual, he said what was on my mind... Maybe he's psychic...! ;-D

[chocomel911]

very poignantly stated...as always! LOL @ The Doo Doo Face....teach them Xemmy!

[26Rab]

Awesome Video....I applaud what your saying. Im grateful to have learned lessons from others saving myself time and foot work. Keep it coming....

[jnson2010]

damn, you're CRAZY!

[LVadmirer]

I have been watching ur videos for a while

But this video made me a fan

The "doo doo" face made me a subscriber

U R funny as heck!!!! And full of wisdom

Luv it!!!!

[jayman070886]

I just start watchin ur blogs last week... My friend said hey its this blogger who reminds me of u on line... Lol I try 2 help my friends out and give advice but cant heelp myself I guess... I love ur posts and im hooked u remind me of me in a sence... Im a 25 year old soldier in da army.... I fear being out the closet tho... Idk... I want ur advice on dat. I kno youll have sum good advice

[mszady]

Xem, wise words! Love Britney.....this an awesome song!

[aubrey1015]

Zemmy! I go in for you man but seriously? Britney Spears now I know you on some other type of shit.......lol and I mean that with the best of intentions. I love you brotha make no mistake about it but "foe real"

[LITTLELULU98]

Ur ass was jammin...luv it!

[TheLhuillierShow]

the one person who disliked this was "David"

[BiStudKamara]

@TheLhuillierShow LMAO!!!!! its 2 ppl now.. thts "David" && the homeboy haha!! X'D

[JonathanGardnerTV]

From a 17 year-old, thank you Zem :D Such a positive influence and inspiration :)

Uncle Zemmy Bear *__*

[jb12069]

You just really helped me this one thank you for the post.

[Monty4117]

When his is dancing TOO FUNNY!!

[Serge3kle]

I am so in tune with what your saying , especially about how homosexual relationships are intense ; they REALLY are ! Like now I'm in what i consider my first real relationship , and my bf and I have been together for a year & 3 months which deff feels like 13 years and its so difficult @ times , but worth it :) . BTW , that big ass strawberry was pretty distracting . Lol

[TheMediaman6]

LOVE your dancing. You are a baller. That strawberry is too much. Love it when you yell "Work!" LOL.

[jayeSPRINGER]

you always speak the truth! thanks so much!

[dieseldru]

"it's the funk, the stench of your stupidity in the air..."

LOL Damn, you goin in pretty hard on your homeboy.

[tennislover08]

BRITNEY SITS 

[sexymb18]

i agree have experienced that I thoguht It was platonic...WRONG!...but hey you have to make mistakes to become stronger....even though i look back at the mistakes ive made over the years and am hurt..I am glad i went through about 85% of them because it made me a better and stronger person..

[mtbab]

PREACH!

[pjynr]

Xemmy I do agree that "MORE THAN NOT" that is for sure the case ... the flesh is weak 9 time outta 10 and SAME SEX relationships are very intense and difficult to navigate sometime for me just because for so long we don't date as hetero's do so we a lot older and unfortunately a lil less exper'd in dealing wit those feeling and emotions ... N E WAYS LOVE AS ALWAYS

[NoobianBruh]

i wasn't going 2 post but i decided 2. i dont agree completely with this video. i was in a 5 yr relationship & we broke up FOR GOOD! we still lived 2gether for 4 yrs after that and NOT ONCE did we have sex, fool around, touch each other in any type of way. it was OVER. we both moved on but remained friends. we both entered honest relationships with someone else who know we were ex's and those relationships were/are great. we both live in our own place now. so, in my case, i can't agree with u.

[babybosta]

My favorite effin song on the whole album and I love your DJ voice lol. Loves It....

[strongforu]

Fabulous! Kids of all ages need to hear this advice! It's taken me 42 years to get some of these lessons. Hopefully, someone that views this video can avoid heartache, stress and dissapointment over foolishness.

[faisclan]

P.s. what song was that???

[faisclan]

i LOVE brittney...



[masterdoa]

The same thing is happening with my friend except he's the one living with an ex. Im gonna show him father VanAdams video for he can learn something. thank you xem

[nyc2b4me]

Xem, my young brother. Thanks for ALWAYS keeping it real......with love!

Also, Britney is da shizzle baby!

[Buttamama28]

I didn't even hear you because I was lost in the strawberries! lol

[alcoholharmony]

You were SO on point, man.

So many things you said, I said them WRIGHT along with you at the same time.

The heart is so deceitful and gets us in trouble when we let it lead us just ANYWHERE without analyzing the road we're going down.

Thank you, man.

This was GOOD word.

[amekom]

why boxer briefs and panties? LMAO

[XTINASDISCIPLE]

hope you have fun watching her stumble and lipsynch x

[21degrassifan]

xem thanks for the advice! i will take this to heart and i will use this in my relationships.

[MrVaughnDutch]

VERY truthful in all aspects!!

[currelley20]

This is good advice

[petranilla14]

We say "old fire stick easy to catch" here!!!!!

[hottboi559]

Dude please stop eating while making videos it's sooooo gross! I almost stopped watching this video because I was being grossed out! ... some wait no most people don't like people telling them who and what to do it's human nature to.live and learn.. I'd really h8 being "friends" with someone who would tell my business on YouTube!

[DocDawg79]

You make those 'duck lips" when you dance.... don't do that!!  Thats my move.

[Godson38]

Xem I hope and pray that the kids are really listing to you, You have said nothing but the truth.

[brycen10]

OMGAAAAHHH!!! The same thing happened to me when I was 19. I recognize that face. aww, poor guy. *shrug* the best lessons are learned when you bump your head

[JSpearman4]

love him as a friend. He apparently needed that life lesson and believe me, it sounds like he got it. The bigger crime in this would be saving him from making this mistake because he would have not learned anything. As much as we on the outside see things clearly, if you are in the middle of the storm sometimes you miss things and end up playing yourself. He will learn from this and hopefully will not make this mistake again. Just be there for him right now however he will let you.

[dj2prince]

Jumped off the Xtina bandwagon did we...smh

[JSpearman4]

Xemmy, I will tell you what I tell others The heart wants what it wants. The heart does not have to be rational in nature; love is ANYTHING but rational at times. Now all you can do as a friend is offer the advice and then step back. You have had the experience of having the love lesson happen 2 you HE HAS NOT. That lesson was a critical 1 &he has now gotten that lesson. All U can do is not say " I told you so" (not syaing you are) but just be there for them when the shoe falls and love him.

[BuddyNick19]

lmao Xem you should be a hype man...Like the DJ that hype the crowd up for the artist lol

[LionessVP3]

where did the strawberry come from? lol

[Komplakaydid]

I LOVE YOU XEMMY

[yourboss2009]

Oh and yeah thank you Xem for all this videos from DayDay ;)

[yourboss2009]

Okay like I'm only 16 years old and like now I'm getting more into relationships and this videos really help :)

This makes me thing more about the do's and the don'ts

[byellow18]

not invite anyone else into your life seriously unless you can up and leave that person indefinately. Lastly, I think you should make a video about ' When its right to move in together and after what time' Although a long title, I dont think that a relationship should be based on or revolve around convenience. ESPECIALLY financial. If you feel as though you are not stable enough to have your own, you should never move in with someone and THEN expect that strain to not exist on the relationship

[byellow18]

.. a first date and the dude mentioning even casually his ex. Leave it in the past where it belongs. I usually dont hear what dude says after he mentions MY EX did that or my EXXX. Sad but true gay relationships are known for being short lived and that time being single is crucial to being in an emotionally stable state to accept the next man that enters your life. Im sure we all have and had the occasional slip up with midnight creeps to the ex but you should be mature enough to

[byellow18]

Couple comments... um first. Brit Brit is a NO NO.. Srry Xem.. Strawberry is huge but I totally agree. I was getting to kno someone who hates my guts at this moment who I see often at the Hippo because him and his ex bf were living together in a one bedroom and he didnt see the prob. He couldnt figure out why I wouldnt date him. BLANK STARE. I also love the one year rule. It gives you time to break from the emotional attachment to your ex whether good or bad, A major turn off for me is going on

[NrthDall81]

LAWD - stop smacking on those strawberries! ;) The 1-bedroom factor was a serious red flag; your friend never should have become emotionally involved with that guy. However, former partners can peacefully and platonically cohabitate in a 2+ bedroom living arrangement.

[Lenai11]

You just inspired me to buy Ms. Britney's album because of this song! I love me some Brit, but I wasn't sure about this album. Up N Down is the ish!

[maltin5]

Oh Xem, you have smacked me again!!!! I have not been in this situation however, I do know the feeling of wanting to work it out. With that said, I believe that no matter how much love you have for a person and how many battles the two of you have conquered together, if the fire and passion is gone, it is gone. Dont give a dead man CPR give him a proper burial. Move on. I say this because it happens and yes it hurts, BOTH PARTIES.

[nickelwindow53]

I hope Brit doesnt lip sync the entire concert like she does every other damn performance!

[malonesexyslim]

Xem I love that I had u to turn on. That I can turn on to youtube and get the wisdom and powerful words from u and I just wanna say thank u. Cuz dating gay world it can be messy, hell its just crazy at times and I'm only 20

[Lenai11]

Say it Xemmy!

[theloyalone100]

Please make a video on why gay men should not date or play with the idea of dating another man who still dates;sleeps with women. I've had this conversation with a couple of friends and they seem to not have a problem with it. In fact, one guy said he thinks its "kind of hot". If a man is still dating women or has a girlfriend and is going to gay house parties and when you ask him about it and he says "I do whatever the fuck I want". What do you think about the many brothers who do this??

[makaylis]

True I agree if U live with ur X then there is a chance things can happen no matter how angry u r with that person been there done that got the book, but on the other hand I have to tell U this, watching U do this video only made me want to go the store and buy so strawberrys, U made the look like EVERything Yummy j/s (:

[AustenRanDelTV]

i soo want strawberries now... great vid as usual

[archvedek]

wow..i love watching you bop!!!

[RucuzUnrestricted]

I'm so cautious that i haven't had a moment like that "yet"... but I will say your advice is on point and I hope your friend learned his lesson. You are a good friend for telling him and us the truth like you do.

[Tallgeese003]

People can only understand what they've experiencedd

[worldviewtuber]

Aahh, my brother wise words from one so young and fine looking - respect from the 'sistahs of a certain age' - old nuff to be ya auntie - wink, wink, nudge, nudge!! That issue is also appropriate for the 'strai8' people - but yes I agree with you about the intensity of SGL relationships - an old friend/former work colleague of mine surprised me by telling me that she is still in love/fond of a woman she was going out with 25 years ago! Being older doesn't make ya wiser - believe me bro'!!!

[AntJones1129]

PREACH!!! you better be all in my window lol

[wileyshow]

Great video wow Xem you gave your friend great advice and your friend really should have know that david was going to sleep with his ex. because first of all they was never broken up because they was still living together they still was together. Xem the Doo doo face yesssss I like that saying

[thats0hboy]

Good, sound advise...but alot of times, esp when it comes to matters of the heart, a person has to experience and go through it before they can see the truth.

[libraman187]

you might be ashamed at how brittany perform  on stage...low energy..you giving more then she is

[griceh]

Great video Xem... But those damn strawberries were driving me crazy, I'm so damn hungry now lol...kisses 2-u-Xem

[Sireze]

Whats the name of that song???

[jameslovesLA]

@Sireze UP N DOWN BY: BRITNEY SPEARS

[tycola108]

Good Advice, but contrary to popular belief share a house with my ex, of 13 years broke up 5 years ago have not nor never will go back down that road. But we have a 4 bedroom 3 bath and we are 44 and 45. So i do understand but not everyone shits where they eat.... Love your channel and looking forward to many more episodes

[trey32618]

Damn! that strawberry look good and juicy #fattweet lol

[1rashard]

good advice

[monkei08]

At 13:03 I looked away for a second and thought there was really a hype man on her track lol I liked it though.

[LuvReci2Pieces]

I'm so happy you talk about talk this.I'm going to share your video to my friends.

[smurfboywv]

I can't stand brittany spears uugh.

[bradleysubershow]

Get your groove on... Oooh I want a strawberry LOL She's a great artist.

[puzzlite]

either your head is really small or that is the mother of all strawberries!

[spokenwordable]

britney is wack i think shes a studio singer . i think if i went to her concert she will sound a  hot mess.

[waneinja]

I still can't get over the size of that strawberry

[ferre77]

I'm sorry but I was with a guy for close to a year it didn't work out and I left him. I met someone maybe 3 mos towards the end of things we got together and I left my ex for him and we were together for 5 years and were still friends to this day.

So all that waiting is for the birds. It depends on those involved and their personalties. You find someone on the rebound and have great results.

[ManiiAshrav28]

Amen! So damn true!

[EmeraldOodie]

Good vid X.V.A You can tell anyone whatever they need to hear about the pros & cons of a relationships. However, it don't mean a thing to the person if they do not experience it for themselves. Sometimes, reality has to kick you in the teeth before you realize that you have to go through stuff that pierces the heart. You become stronger and you move on. The cost of living life. #Thegoodguy81

[Realworlder21]

Great video. The smacking on the strawberries was kind of annoying, but still a great video.

[laurinejames]

~amen... I can attest to this situation I've been on both sides. I have defiantly lived and learned. Xem Sugah! You tell it like it is , and we love it. Much love~ Laurine James

[diana1nicole]

My goal is to one day party with you!

[quistkarl5]

the face at 04:15 PRICELESS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[proud86]

sweat pants and belt buckles ! lmfao

[Pryceless1988]

WOWOW u really read me without knowing me.....i want compaineship soo bad that i do the dumbest things THANXS 4 this advice : )

[mactv101]

XEMMMMYYYY...!!!!!!

[loes3000]

BIG ASS STRAWBERRIES =)

[RionKoto]

:( you cheated on me??? Lol

[darkphoenix197828]

I was living in that siutation and finally came to my damn senses. It is def not healthy at all!!! 

[Keith1985A]

after seeing britney perform last night..good luck

[ThePharaoho]

OMG that strawberry is on steroids...anyways, if I had a crush on a guy and knew he was in a relationship with another guy or a girl, especially living with an ex, I would have to cut all ties from that person: no friendship, no association, and definitely no damn relationship!!!! I refuse to be made a fool out of, and I definitely refuse to make a fool out of myself...I will never settle for less, that would be a total waste of time, and life is too short for this type of foolishness!

[youmakemesick0909090]

Give me a piece of that strawberry lol

[lunafan3]

You always speak the truth. Thats one of the things I like about you.

[hmarjus2]

I feel you on that if your current boo is actively involved with their ex and its not a strictly best friend type level of relationship with them, i cant mess wit u like that, thats setting yourself up to get hurt

[portiasT123]

the song is hot

[troy2021]

DAMN! that's a BIG AZZ Strawberry LOL!

[saucysqrd]

@troy2021 omg i said the same thing.....looked like the tip of a di... lol..or is my mind in the gutter...hahaha