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  • I agree where you said dont blame your mother and where you talked about support system

  • David...Internet porn is definitely NOT easy to deal with. Most Americans are on their computers much longer than many may realize which means there will be so many more things that can trigger that addiction. For instance facebook. If one of your friends posts a revealing picture, that feeling will be triggered and you will be more likely to search for porn.

  • @renfrow90 Exaclty another is like sexual repression, kids dont help this cus they can hinder the problem, like all pier pressure wen they're out with m8s, and they goad, and push the other to get with a girl. And if that other person doesnt feel ready in their Own mind, theres nothing wrong with this, but the stick they may get off their m8s if they didnt go all the way, may affect them afterwards. People dont realize this.

  • With the prevelence of underage pornography it is safe bet that almost every porn addict is guilty of a sex crime against a minor. A vindictive wife would produce evidence that her husband has committed a sexual crime by simply producing his laptop or a history from the household ISP. Go get them ladies!

  • If you want to get rid of the need for pornography, then get rid of religion.

  • @MrBeautifulba1

    The only thing that can rid someone's porn addiction, is a relationship with Christ Almighty!

  • @smcnaspy1 I hear you. However, pornography has evolved out of sexual repression. A repression caused by the religious belief system that the human body in it's natural form is something to be ashamed of. Teaching that it's wrong to be seen without clothing is what gives pornography it's power. The moment that you forbid something is the moment that you give it strength.

  • @smcnaspy1 A relationship with Christ could be one way of doing it, but there are many other ways, considering all of the people who don't believe in Christ and how hard it is to get rid of an addiction by simply believing in Christ. I am a Christian, but I'm just saying. It's nice to realize there is more power in trusting in Christ or any higher power, but we shouldn't think that we're completely powerless without that kind of relationship or that we even need it to overcome problems.

  • @SilverGalford The problem with these porn addiction channels is that many of the supporters are quick to label people, even teenagers (you can't tell if a teenager is actually addicted or just a teenager) as addicts.

    Some of those people also try to convince people to go to their "prayer groups" to aid them, many of these people convincing impressionable teenagers to meet them may take advantage of them. Some of them are probably cultists, some may be worse, noone warns them.

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  • @SilverGalford

    Well I think it's like most things really. If done in moderation there is no harm in it.

    I think being addicted to internet porn is a problem for the individual.

    However just because many males watch internet porn does not mean they are all in the grips of an addiction.

    Many couples watch porn together.

    Always following your impulse does make you a slave of your desires. I agree.

    I believe it's important to follow what your heart says.

    Watching porn does not make me feel guilty.

  • @SilverGalford What's the context of this comment? its been about a year since I've posted a comment here.

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  • Freudian Psychology is dead.

  • Internet porn is often more addicting than drugs or alcohol. Research shows that only 15% of humans and rats that use cociane will continue to become addicted. Whereas, many brains do not like drugs or alcohol, name one guy who doesn't get a buzz looking at porn. Today, It is nearly impossible to find a male who doesn't use internet porn - unless he does not own a computer.

  • @palpateit - I'd have to disagree. I don't search Internet porn, and I know a wide range of men who are very abnegative sexuals who own computers.

  • I am a very open minded dude, I don,t care that I might watch internet porn alot.

    Most of it hardcore or fetish porn.

    Why should I feel guilty about this?

    To deny are own impulses is to deny the very thing that makes us human.

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  • why is it always dumb ass white people who have to complain and bitch about this type of shit?

  • respect love of the heart over lust of the flesh

  • interesting

  • Only animals are chained to their instincts.

  • @1nV1nC1Bl3BaLaM It's lust....

  • Porn addiction isint dangerous or a "ADDICTION" try me been a user of hydrocodone for 2 years taking 5 to 6 pills daily then having to spend 2 weeks getting off of vicodin throwing up every day being sore for hours on hours upon hours Alcohol,Perscription,Illegal addiction is a whole lot worse ive been drug free for 1 year and a half GOD CREATED SEX ITS NORMAL

  • @BrianFalconsFan29 big fuckin deal, i'm a drug addict an alcoholic and i have an addiction to porn, and i can tell you right now that the porn addiction is the worst, true, sex is normal but masturbation is not it's unnatural and the thing with a porn addiction is you can't just go to rehab orr ask your friends for help or they'll all be ashamed of you, porn is the worst thing to have ever happened to me in my entire life,it's degrading, wrong and disgusting

  • @treeboar77

    I think you will find that masterbation is a natural normal thing. WTF.

    Check out the Discovery Channel there,s monkeys wanking on it all the time.

  • Sex is big soul stealing destructive business. The devil know's that. Products selling for viagra,penus enlargement,pre mature ejacuation. Sex big business by the master of destortion and deceiption of it. Just like Music is big business by the master of destortion and deceiption of it. Music in the last 25 years would be considred Hard Core Pornography even as recently 35-40 years ago.

  • @BBQFanNo1

    Well apparently God created Adam and eve.

    And he gave Adam a dick.

    And he gave eve a vagina.

  • The people on porn really don't love and care about you. Most of them although i am not going to say all of them are in the industry for the money alone. But the thing they love and respect the most is the money not you. That is the real truth God know's already. The devil know's that too.

  • I'm going through a Japanese porn phase right now.

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  • EVERYONE read, NEVER, search "Nastasha Nice Titfuck Smoking video" on GOOGLE and then watch it, or else you may never quit watching porn! .... Thumbs me up so that everyone will read this so they too can make sure they never look up such an atrocious sick minded (but awesome) search!!!

  • @JakSpringTooth

    Lol, I had a watch of the video and I was like man I cannot believe the size of that joint.

  • @TheReddwarff100 Dude I know I was surprised by it lol

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  • where us the technique?

  • thank love is the answer true

  • Now person's who are single and unattached do not feel guilty of masturbation.

  • I saw your other video earlier. Thank you for putting out this free information. I try to do the same!

  • don't you see porn?

  • porn degrades woman.IT'S EVIL INDUSTRY,IT'S HELL.

  • @arvatu

    Please , go shoot yourself :]

  • @arvatu Porn degrades men too, so shut the fuck up.

  • but the internet was invented for porn.

  • encouraging video

  • There is nothing wrong with pornography.

  • @MyOverflow what about major addictions that can grow ?? and your body will want more and more .. your family and freinds wont like you as much and eventually you might get abusive like rape.

  • @zombiekilla464

    You could say the same thing about coffee. People get addicted to caffeine (which is a drug) and may start drinking more and more because the body needs more. That doesn't mean that people who drink coffee responsibly are doing something bad.

    Also, pornography doesn't lead to rape. If you'd say that, then you may as well say that coffee addiction leads to stealing coffee at gun point. The most that it does is make you go back for more.

  • @zombiekilla464

    Now, if your family doesn't like that you partake in something completely natural (masturbation), that's their problem. It's a completely natural stress-relief mechanism, which is why people do get addicted. What's wrong there isn't the pornography, but their inability to handle stress; that's when a psychiatrist is needed.

  • @MyOverflow That is correct. Masturbation is no accident and mistake of nature.

    One evangelist mention the correct context about natural healthy masturbation which any single unattached person not feel guilty of and dangerous masturbation which leads to seeking a prostitute and more extreme extramarital sex. Masturbation independant in a healthy sexual relationship with a partner is wrong. Masturbation in a healthy two way relationship should be replaced with Sexual Intercourse.

  • @BBQFanNo1 "Masturbation independant in a healthy sexual relationship with a partner is wrong."

    No. Masturbation is not wrong when in a relationship. Masturbation isn't wrong, period.

    The only thing that could be wrong is if someone exposed themselves in public, or really did become addicted. However, masturbation, whether in or out of a relationship, can be used to relieve stress (in the same way a back massage or a good, hot bath can).

  • @MyOverflow I agree. According to the Bible people take masturbation mentioned in it out of context. They mistakenly use verse language wrong in both the Old Testament and New Testament mentioned about sex,rape,adultury,fornication,­and masturbation. It is naturally possible to Masturbate to orgasm without thinking about a Female or images in your mind.

  • @BBQFanNo1 Our genitals when becoming fully mature growth were naturally created by God for orgasm. Most important love, self respect and respect for other respect all other people must be lived out. Get help if anyone has an addiction to sex and porn.

  • its so hard to stop nowadays its everywhere..

  • @explosivoification Forget it man you're not worth my time.

  • This is like a message from god, not about the porn lol. I suffer from OCD and well some things in this video help alot. Thanks!

  • Could you please add the link for part 2!

  • still love porn not a problem here stop making some ridiculous problem out of the best use of the internet

  • @TheGinger1794 Exactly these tards think i'm trying to kick them when their down i'm trying ti make them see the humor in it so they can realise how ridicullous they are being, they don't need to quit porn or take down the porn industry, they don't. If they feel they watch too much porn then they should just find something to do with their spare time.

  • @huscarles it's not damaging even if people damage themselves with it, if it wasn't porn maybe it would be rape

  • @huscarles that's a joke chill out stop freaking out porn is no more responsible for addiction than heroin, it's the addicts why blame the source of the object instead of the source of the problem? Porn good, weak will bad.

  • @huscarles pervert.

    

  • @huscarles Any decent porn film will include s.t.d. screening. no one should film anywhere that this is not required. Same with prostitution anywhere where it's legal fine, they all have mandatory tests. Otherwise no, why would you want to fuck/be a disease ridden whore?

  • I want to stop this addiction but there's something that strives you into keep watching it!

  • @andrewtom3d You've got to find ways to distract yourself and remind you of the negative feelings you get after watching it. you get addicted to the chemicals in your brain, so your brain's out of whack. I read that it takes two months to feel better. But you gotta take it one day at a time. oh and you have more confidence to talk to women as you go through it, its true man.

  • @bedllama yeah, Imma christian, and I feel really bad every time I do it. I just don't want to keep breaking one of God's commandments ya know.

  • @andrewtom3d If you quit Christianity maybe you wouldn't feel so guilty.

  • @explosivoification man your real cool the way you kick people when there down. your so cool. hey guess what? you wanna why you get such a kick out of it? *drumroll* because your weak. anyone can pick on somebody else on the internet. why don't you be a man and actually encourage and help people out. at least these people have realised their problems. i feel sorry for you bro.. i really do =(

  • @breakdowntimeyeeeh Don't turn this around like your the good guy, I'm taking the piss once people realize they will become enlightened to why they shouldn't feel bad. You on the other hand seem like a grimy little cultist, you w ant to break people down so you can rebuild them in your image or an image that appeals to you, I with no hidden agenda want them to realize that any problem they have either comes from themselves or from people like you trying to make them feel like shit.

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  • @bedllama You must get into some sad states if it takes you 2 months, it took me 3 days to quit smoking and i just just a child when i quit religion.

  • @andrewtom3d because it's groin grabbingly good

  • But the first six years of my life were great and full of love especially from my mother. =/

  • Sorry I misspelled the author's name. The book that helped us is The Final Freedom by Douglas Weiss. Hope you find it helpful also.

  • This book helped with understanding without anger. It finally offers answers! This is a quick read. It explains body chemicals and your past relationships. And it doesn't put everyone in the same basket. Final-Freedom-Pioneering-Addic­tion-Recovery by Douglas Weiz

  • Wow, blame it on Akon lol.

  • it seems like you are blaming the mom even though you are telling your viewers to not blame their mom. Who says it's the mother? What about the father?

  • err...I think there is some truth in this but you are sweeping this on too many people!!!

    My God, you are doing a great job of defining everyone!

  • You need to pray to in the name of Jesus and accept his salvation he is going to set you free.

  • your far off of me its more of a thrill

  • i was completely overcome this addiction..but now i am in this problem again..and again trying to get out of this!

  • Jesus is the way out, He can help u, Pray. God Bless you

  • @Diosdicequemeama lol i AM NOT CHRISTIAN

  • I know, but that doesn't matter he can help you anyways.

  • @Diosdicequemeama ok...do you know any special excercise to reduce the fat under my thighs..

  • @033455124  No. sorry go to the gym.

  • @Diosdicequemeama thanks

  • I like how this guy didn't mention religion and instead focused on psychology, archetypal imagery, and rational thinking.

  • you dont only get a sex addiction when you have a bad mother...

  • This chap has it spot on, and I hope the rest of his message provides a good solution. Oddly, it's hard to find good addiction information - a lot of what I see is religious nutbarism.

  • Any out-of-control addiction stems from hidden, deeper issues held in the subconcious. The addictive practice, whether it's excessive sex, food ,drugs, alcohol is a TEMPORARY form of escapism from the issues, usually fearful ones. The catch is, however much sex, drugs, alcohol, food an addict gets it will NEVER satisfy. (happiness doesn't result from sex 12 times a day) One must gain control of ones own life and restore balance or else you'll never be truly happy.

  • i need help really bad

  • How can you love yourself, be a caring person if you do not care about those in the porn industry?

  • HELLO MY NAME IS BOB AND I HAVE BIG PIMPLES AND BIIIG BLACK SCARS FROM WHEN I PICKED AT MY ACNE AND IT WILL NEVER GO AWAY NOBODY TALKS TO ME I GET CALLED UGLY ALL DAY MY CLASSMATES AND BY SOME STAFF AT THE SCHOOL I TRY TO MAKE FRIENDS BUT NOBODY WANTS TO SIT OR TALK WITH ME THE KIDS JUST MOAN WHEN I GET PAIRED WITH THEM TO DO A PROJECT WHY DO THEY DO ME THAT WAY I MAY NOT BE AS GOOD LOOKING AS THE OTHER BUT I STILL HAVE A HEART SO I MASTURBATE TO GET RID OF MY PROBLEMS IS THIS WRONG plz tel me

  • yup its wrong, but i totally understand your problems. I guess I can't tell you what to do because i'm not in ur shoes but God does know you exist and does love ya.

  • omg you are so spot on, i feel like crying. thats just how my mother was. man and i do need to stop blaming her for how i feel. dude we are so fragile has people. the simplest things we lack can have an avalanche effect. good advice sir

  • your verry incitful thankyou

  • thanx great pespective to take for a new go at healthy living

  • i deleted all my porn

    FROM TODAY I WILL LIVE WITHOUT PORN!

  • @billybatson55 That won't really last. You know you can get more...anytime.

  • @HardeyLeone

    I know I relapsed two yesterday :/, five months without it, But its not as intense as before

  • @MrTruthDetective As long as you don't feel shame and it does not take over your life then do enjoy.

  • @HardeyLeone

    thats right i actually went back into it yesterday because, of my own circumstances but ,because of the abuse of it before i can control my impulse to watch or view any of it :]

  • @billybatson55 great job how is it going so far?

  • @shawnhad

    well i fell back into it , and now i look at it regularly , But i dont jerk off and i limit it, by reading comic books or Work out to get a girlfriend :],

  • @billybatson55 and hows that been workin for ya?

  • @zombiekilla464

    Relapsed :P ,

    But i accept it , the only reason i was addicted was because im biologically built to Want sex , because its a majorly important part of life to spread my genetics. so pretty much i view it 15 mins each day , i dont see anything wrong with it ,plus it doesnt get in the way of my work anymore so yeah, who knew i just had to change my attitude on it , in order to change my View on Sex in general

  • @billybatson55 are you still watching??

  • Fire isn't bad,

    but when you throw petrol on it, or if there's too much, it can grow out of control.

    Sex isn't bad,

    but when you watch porn, our sexual desires can grow out of control.

    Masturbation is still a battle raging in my mind...

  • True dat.

  • this is very motivating for me, my parents have never told me about sex which i guess made me very curious. im not mad at them, but i struggle with this addiction.

  • wow! Thank you David! I'm learn alot from this video.....you're a really positive influence

  • Day 1

  • are you still at it?

  • Sex out of love or lust is a different thing. Out of lust is not natural at all.

  • Well I read most of the comments up here and have to say most people lack respect and should not attack some one that is just trying to make a good impact on society. There is nothing wrong in feeling sexual appeal or drive but like in all things in live balance is important and the focus of it more so... If your sexual drive is focused to porn sites and to people that has no real effect on your life I suggest you rethink what positive effect this is in your life. I say good on him for trying!!

  • Aces1007: The key question to ask oneself is "am i engaging in sex as an expression of happiness/love OR am i seeking happiness by engaging in it". If we do it to SEEK happiness then we are just chasing an elusive dream. This is what constitutes the addictive cycle.

  • Suppressing sexual desires is actually peverting that desire to fuse with religious cult ideology which is why the catholic church is a hot bed for priest child abuse rape.

  • You will sing another song when you start losing your sexual health....

  • your too right

  • yeah and it will most probably will destroy you mate. you'll end up finding yourself destroyed, with absolutely no meaning, and you'll breakdown and cry "what the fuck!! there's no fucking meaning to life" and yadda yadda yadda..

    you'll turn to christ eventually. but you'll have to be destroyed first.

  • @breakdowntimeyeeeh Instead of ever getting destroyed they can grow up and live their lives

  • @breakdowntimeyeeeh And you know what? I don't feel sorry for you, you cancer.You want to infect others with guilt so you can make them follow your beliefs, the only thing I'm preaching is that getting so low about porn is uber-unnecessary, am I infecting other peoples minds like you? no. Most of these people only feel so guilty because of people like you. I see comments like: i feel so bad, i don't want to disobey god like this. The only righteous action is so point out that they're being silly

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  • @SlipknotFan46Z "I feel really bad every time I do it. I just don't want to keep breaking one of God's commandments" in what way don't they feel guilty, here are 13 and 15 year olds who think they are addicted to porn. These people think they'll go to hell for it and  freaks online are inviting these CHILDREN to their "prayer meetings", so you know what fuck you, I guess junkies aren't responsible for their own actions,. What happened to personal responsibility?you just try to blame others

  • @explosivoification Oh for fuck's sake piss off you idiot.

    Stop venting all your troubles to others on the internet.

  • @Blaxland02 Oh for fucks sake piss off you spastic.

    Stop trying to convince impressionable people that they are addicted to porn when the majority of them aren't.

  • im telling

  • @ugaiko Should be legal

  • this is a wise nice talk@!!

  • Are you saying that your hormones are bad? If you did not feel a sexual drive that could be a symptom a a more serious underlying disorder.

    Hence, a healthy guy will naturally have these urges everyso often and it is his right to relieve them if he has no other alternative by expeirencing a healthy orgasm evry so often.

  • It is healthy if you have a strong sexual drive. Hence, if a man feels the need to experience a healthy orgasm every so often that is completely healthy.

    I would say that a guy who shows no sexual drive and who has no natural appeal for sexual stimulation and satisfaction is a very unhealthy individual both mentally and physically.

    We all know that a low sexual drive in men is usually a symptom of further underlying problems.

  • A stupid doctor that I'm pretty sure doesn't have a problem with porn said " I would call it a compulsive behavior and not an addiction" It's both. Try my shoes on bitch and maybe you'll feel addicted to porn! Don't even try to stop by yourself; get help, or it'll be a long painful life! Porn can lead to child porn, abuse, rape, and murder! Those involved in these behavior's, never wanted to be, but they just couldn't stop! To quit you need God and people that love and understand you!

  • wow!! that was so unhelpful and negitive, why would we take advise from a person filled with hate.

  • amike1984: To quit you have to stop calling others bitches and learn to LOVE yourself.

  • @amike1984 God and friends almost never help those people they need real help or castration.It's not porn's fault though it's you.

  • I love and hate this...getting a girl is hard....fucking a girl is harder...... I had sex.........soon as I got home I jerked off.....so sadly....... I felt good......

    wanna stop masturbating?

    get c aught doing it..

    or have relatives come over...

  • Watching porn is not the problem per se but its strong potential to become addictive. The porn industry would not be as big as it is if were not for the compulsive aspect to it. For those of you who think it is not a problem then try giving it up for a month. Most of you will be surprised to find you can't.

  • Porn can be very addictive and very destructive to many people. Thats the main issue.

  • Brightstar27: I agree but some might say alcohol also is deadly BUT does this mean it shouldn't be sold? Taken a step further..perhaps donuts, candy and cream cakes shouldn't be sold to those with a food addiction? Don't get me wrong here..i do agree with you entirely but some of us are more prone to addiction than others.

  • @taildragger51 You are so right addiction is the problem and insert vice here is just what you get yourself addicted to.Drugs,alcohol,sex,porn and gambling are not bad, junkies,alco's,thieves,muggers­,dickheads and rapists are.The people do it not the object of their focus.

  • @Brightstar27 It can be but so can many things.

    If you feel no shame and it does not take you away from your lover, do it and have fun. If you need tp get help please see a doc not fucking AA 12 step!

    OMG that really will fuck you up worse than this!

  • @Brightstar27 But it's an addiction and destructiveness that comes from within not from porn, people can't just say i don't have the willpower so make it illegal

  • My mum always loved me, I love myself, I see sex as sacred... naah that's not why I watch porn.

    I have a long distance relationship, when my beloved and I met more frequently, I didn't even think of porn neither other girls even though I used to watch porn before. So sometimes I need some stimulation and porn seems the only solution sometimes. I don't believe its wrong watching porn, but I just don't want that, but it seems powerful in a way, free and sexy... I don't want that. ...:-s

  • I usually watch porn when I am not motivated to do something interesting. Of course its about hormones first of all... I don't know why the fuck do I always find an excuse to watch porn. I don't want that shit. I often excuse myself for I feel a need for sex, but need to be horny first, some stimulation... There was a time when I didn't watch porn for months and didn't need it.

    I can stop watching porn, but I want not to feel any motivation for it... Resisting nothing, free of it, TO FORGET IT

  • Your answer depends on the Cross. 50% you 50% God. Any other methods will fail. I still haven't, but I'm almost completely ridden of Porn.

  • fuck seriously i wanna stop watching that shit i cant stop more then 2 weeks seriously i really wanna stop but it getting worse

  • Good video. There are a lot of truths in it. I found some answers to my questions.

  • I was always loved I don't think thats the root problem for me.. The only reason I know I watch porn is because of bloody hormones, that sudden urge and well I watch.. Then I usually feel depressed about it afterwards.. would be great to know how to stop ;p, tired of hiding it.

  • you''re not alone my friend... theres millions...

  • whats this guy talking about i love myself several times a day

  • love others, show love.

  • I don't know dude. I just like porn, or more specifically, East Asian chicks bent over and spread... Really don't think it has anything to do with my mother.

  • k.. i watch porn and JO so i dont let my urges take over my actions..

    not cause im not loved :S

  • can anyone help me find my root problem? please?

  • Porn is really cool, but it does cause desensitaization. Real sex life becomes boring and it turns people into fantasy jerk-off addicts. As much fun as it is, ultimately it's a ruiner of relationships.

  • you're smart

  • My mother used to buy me porno mags for christmas.. really.

    I still struggle with looking at porn.

  • my dad bought me mine.