I use to beat my self up on the inside, because I didn't know what to talk about. I would try to think about anything interesting.I don't have problem meeting people or talk about anything.I know it's confusing but that's how I use to feel.Maybe I'm an introvert or not. It's confusing. I tried talk to someone who is weird, don't smile, very quiet.I felt so awkward. I thought I was talking to myself.I blush and get bashful at times.so am I an introvert?
I had never heard the term ambivert before. A major issue I have been dealing with is "knowing" something's not right, whether someone is saying something totally ignorant or incorrect, but the logic side, the linguistics side of my brain not being quick or apt enough to make a calm response and the words "you fuckin idiot" are the first words to jump out. So I would say I have introvert qualities but looking to convert from the insecurities that might come with those sorts of responses.
@howitzer24 I do the same thing. There are a couple of cashiers that are very nice & sociable when I come through, but I always prefer to get in Molly's line. Molly only says, 'Hello,' and 'Thank you'.
@proteanview i am like you my mom makes jokes to me because i won't call her for weeks then she'll be like wow you came up from out the sea huh?
i don't think it's funny cause i don't like doing all the "norm" things i like to ride around the store ( i'm disabled) but i hate the movies i'd rather watch at my home i don't like talking much either unless i really know you. i seldomly talk to my husband & we've been int he same house & sleep in seperate room so it's like i gotta roommate
I think extroverts and extroverts are created by ones life, through their experiences and childhood socialization.. Also were living in IMO a highly dysfunction society causing an array of psychological diversity.
i'm an introvert and I've found that I don't like small talk because I would much rather get to the heart of matters. I find it difficult to dabble on the surface with superficial things that don't matter much. Even when I meet pp,l i'd much rather ask them a deep psychological question then "talk about the weather" but that usually freaks ppl out lol. One other thing, breaking an introverts "shell" is like breaking a turtle's shell. Just wait for them to come out =)...or you'll kill them.
One study found that introverts have more blood flow in the frontal lobes of their brain and the anterior or frontal thalamus, which are areas dealing with internal processing, such as planning and problem solving. Extraverts have more blood flow in the anterior cingulate gyrus, temporal lobes, and posterior thalamus, which are involved in sensory and emotional experience. So you would fit somewhere in between. I'm likely to be more introvert than ambivert.
Well, I don't like labels necessarily, but ambivert is what I could be described as...I like to engage and talk to people and can bring people out of their shell, basically get comfortable with genuine people and talk about pretty much anything. On the other hand, I like peace and quiet, particularly if I'm dealing with fake people who like to gossip...Nothing much to discuss with those types.
I ALWAYS have time for my friends genuine people who want my company or just to talk or hang out.
I'm more of a cross between an ambivert and an introvert. I am usually reluctant to engage people that i don't know but sometimes i yield to the need for stimulating conversation. I cannot help but feel that there is something wrong with people who always need to say something trivial or give big uneasy grins. I usually end up giving away my inner introvert when i walk right by those people. l do still have love all of my fellow humans but i get very uncomfortable when forced to socialize.
OH MY GOD you described me to a T. I'm a young woman who has held a few office jobs in her day and at every job it only takes a matter of days before the entire office has decided I'm a "stuck up bitch" because I keep to myself and I don't run around the office gossiping about everyone else. I'm courteous, polite but not outgoing, so everyone assumes I'm stuck up. People have actually told me they used to think that before they got to know me and now know it's the complete opposite.
At work 4 people told me...Hey! Why are you so quiet? :SIGH:
Welcome to my world! Introverts are so misunderstood. I just wish people can leave Introverts alone and let them be, but in our Western Culture Introverts are frowned upon...you have to be loud and obnoxius these days in order to be accepted by the Majority of Extroverts, if you are not loud and obnoxius...then you are cut off from the group and the sheep are entertained by mindless chatter.
because not a lot of people understand the "quiet ones", they let their imaginations run on and demonize them, even in playful conversations with friends. i too am an ambivert. i don't do small talk. if i have nothing to say, i stay silent. the fool runs his mouth while the reserved set to observe, reflect and learn. american public must learn that small talk does good by relieving the mind from thought. passing by someone saying "how are you?" is stupid.
I think there's more than just the three groups.. although I wouldn't have a name for them.
What I mean is, I like to talk to people, and I feel most comfortable when I'm with a whole bunch of people, but I don't necessarily have to be talking all the time. And just like introverts and ambiverts, I require my alone time too. But meeting new people, going out and doing new things, I thrive on that. But I pick up on non-verbal cues quite well, and if someone doesn't want to talk, it's easy to see
I really don't understand why these cheery cheeky bubbly outgoing people have to pick on us so much because we are deep thinkers. Our inner thoughts that go through are heads are many different ideas for the future.
Extraverts think that we're socially weak and have shallow personalities, but we're not! We are much more...Introverts really get a bad rap, and I just wish that extraverts can somehow open up to us...but most don't bother.
You bring up great points here. I've just seen a few of your videos and I really like the way you think so I am going to subscribe. Also you are doing something I hardly ever see here, you are suggesting things in your videos that are thoughtout and engaging the audience.
I've never heard the termmbut I think I'm a combination of the two, as you are, I can feel drained after being with people none stop for so long, I agree about your comment on extroverts, I have friends like that.
When I am around extroverts, or people in general who love to talk, I feel intellectually superior, because I am listening and acquiring all of the information that the extroverts, or excessive talkers are spewing out. I can also analyze people, and this gift has kept me safe, and has prevented me from being taken advantage of. I love being an introvert!
Yes, I am an introvert, and maybe a ambivert because I can tolerate people for a while..but not too long. I can stay in the house for an entire weekend, reading, working on the computer, chores, etc. I find small talk to be draining. I prefer one-on-one conversations, and I prefer "deep" conversations, (politics, religion, math, computer science). I am also a thinker. I am a teacher, and I love teaching. When I leave school i want to be alone. Great book: "The Introvert Advantage".
@Death2Evil... I had a co-worker that told me right in my face that I made her uncomfortable. I was like...why is that? She told me that you're just too quiet and shy...I think people will recognize you more if you talk...blah blah blah!
So I replied to her that I was just doing my job, and I'm an introvert and have a small circle of friends..yadda yadda.
After explaining all this to her in a positive way...she still didn't get it, and gossiped about me to other co-workers and the boss.
I've never heard of ambiverts before, but now that I have, I think I am one if I am not 100% introvert because I have times when I am sociable and extrovert. For the most part, I do need a lot of downtime, and privacy esp. after being with so much people. It drains me. I prefer small intimate few deep friends over a whole lot of surface friends. In the U.S., the introverts is a small percentage. It is seen as the inferior personality type, very much like how shyness is looked upon. : )
I am so glad someone gave a name to this! Perfect!
Sometimes I engage with others. Then there are times I really want to be left alone. I watch people engage in 'small talk' and it is sometimes amusing to see, the programmed responses to the chit chat, while the speakers are not even really paying attention to the 'topics' they are talking about. One time I heard a girl respond about the recent rain we had had, "Yes, we really needed rain." She was dense to the floods we had.
@MsLuckee1 So true! Small talk and chit chats are not really engaging. They are automatic motormouths running, and no party is listening to the other. The talk is cliche, the mouth just runs and it's just a lot of noise and chatter, no substance. To me, as an introvert or ambivert, it's very upsetting to engage in small talk when I know it does not mean anything...you've not made a connection with a human being. It's a lonely feeling. I'd rather be by myself because I do enjoy my own company.
Isn't everyone an ambivert? I've never met anyone who wants to spend 100% of their time with other people or 100% of the time alone. I've never met anyone who can't ever be relaxed unless they are in company or can't ever be relaxed with anyone else.
Extrovert, Introvert. I'm pretty sure these are 'moods' or at most tendencies rather than personality 'types'
you know, it's not only America... I believe that this is the case everywhere, its a universal human thing. And yes, I do sometimes drink alcohol to be the interacting person... but I'm starting to realize it's not really what I want...
@gzac95 Well introverts find relaxation from being alone and let their mind work. extroverts relax when they are interacting with people (more people is means more relaxing atmosphere for extrovert). Problem is, that modern recruitment trends are suited mostly for extroverted people and introverted people are seen as shy or anti-social and that they need to reform themselves. about what protean calls ambivert: that means he won't be seeking interaction at all costs. But in right company (cont.)
@gzac95 (cont.) he will enjoy interaction. actually introverts and extroverts are more of spectrum and absolute introverts and extroverts are really rare.
I am the ONLY introvert in a dept. of extroverts. My boss, a chatty type, does not like being in a room with me unless she can fill up the air with her small talk. She predictably asks me my husband's travel itinerary each week since he travels all the time. She thinks it's clever chit-chat, that way I'm forced to rattle off the different cities and it gets me talking, but I find it intrusive and she certainly does not need to be kept apprised of his schedule. I resent this little game.
thats why extroverts control the system, they are the ones who are most "effective" in their "craft". not trying to prove anything, im an introvert myself
If I had to choose one of the words, then I'd choose ambivert. It's a bit more complex than that though, let's put it on a scale. Introvert is 1, extrovert is 5, and ambivert is 3. I'm a 2. I've never heard of ambivert until now though, I wonder if there's an omnivert...?
Interesting. I've never heard the term 'ambivert' before, but it makes sense as there has to be some middle grey area.
I have always thought of myself as an introvert, but I do have my comfort zones where I can be really extroverted, so I now consider myself an ambivert.
as I understand it the concept of introvert and extrovert really lies on a continuum with really only the most extreme among us being entirely introverted or extroverted. But I guess that a pure ambivert would just be someone who is most close to the middle of that spectrum.
I'd have to say that I swing back and forth depending often on where I am in my life, but that I will always be somewhat both as I believe most of us are.
I love being introverted, it had allowed to learn alot about the people i see everyday. Love being alone in my own world of thoughts and hate to be bothered. I wouldnt change me for the world but i would change that people dont forget me after i interact with them (sometimes). My problems is finding another introverted woman to hook up with.....still looking for that cause i really, really, REALLY!!!!, dont like extraverted chicks.
LMAO, I can relate and completely agree with what your saying in this video. Though I've never heard the term "ambivert" (I have always considered myself an introvert), but I think ambivert would better describe me as you have explained it.
Wow this is very interesting. I've never heard of an ambivert before. I do believe i am an ambivert. I don't mind being around people but sometimes i just NEED my alone time. This is one of the first videos I've watched by you. I like. Subbed!
I am an introvert, and family, (ex)girlfriends, friends, co-workers, etc, do not understand that occasionally I want to be alone. If I don't answer the phone don't take it personally!
Hi thanks for this video very helpful. We actually sold a house and bought a new home 5 minutes away to get away from an extroverted neighbor.She would not allow us a fence to block her out, we did not want to force it.We asked her to just have a nice little chat now and again, she would not stop anyway so we spent a fortune moving. Extroverts don't realize they sure can make you miserable!
"Ambivert"! I like the sound of that. I, also, pendulum swing between these opposites. I can be great with a crowd but also love hanging out with just me. When I enter introvert mode (I call it "Hermit Mode"), it's not a bad thing. I need that time with myself; it's healthy. Sadly, some people feel rejected at such times. It's a shame some people don't understand (never mind experience) the difference between solitude and loneliness.
I think I may be an introvert, I dont talk to anyone at school, and I dont have any friends :( but its not my fault, they are all just so stupid, i dont even want to converse with them.
i'm just like that - an ambivert. i am comfortable as can be in my skin, and i really enjoy my own company ;) i have no time for superficial, banal conversation and would much rather be left on my own than to engage in trivialities.
The main thing i notice about them ambiverts is the ability to stand up to peer pressure. I think ambiverts would be the best at it? As an ambivert, i can say stuff that is shocking, and people criticize me. I'm not afraid to say it though. My opinion is my own and i'm very comfortable sometimes saying stuff others can't. Other times, i can be really secretive. i am honest to a fault (and yet can lie).
those not introverts must feel very empty, never giving time for yourself, sit in a room with just you it is very rewarding. cuz fake smiles and this fake persona is easy to notice and i know most who are not introverts behave different to certain folks. they could be mad as hell then a friend calls and the moods changes instantly. im sorry it doesnt work like that for everyone. i know who people really are. look at spelling mistakes, to me no big deal but i look for the bigger things
the problem with me is... if I ever want to get laid... I've got to go through a whole fucking relationship system! I can't talk my way into shit like that.
I'm an introvert and I go home and scream about the fact that people keep assuming that I just need to be dragged out of my shell and for this I try to be extroverted and then I find they tell me to "cheer the fuck up", "go to the toilet have a wank and then come out with a smile", "You look like a fucking zombie". I sometimes feel evil because sometimes I just wish that you would all either fucking grow up or fucking die. You wanna keep pushing people like me? I don't exactly push you!
but their is the odd 1 here and there, i prefer 1 on 1 relationships, groups baffle me, i cannot get a word or relate to a group, i pick the odd person but they invariably let me down so i say fuck it and do my own thing for the most part.
and even then i got a broken heart out of it, my neibours are assholes, they ignore you and faint care and concern or just cause trouble, i d live in the middle of a field if i could, people are obsticles in my life that i have to drive around, i m an introvert by choice since i know nobody ever seems to understand or at least be there for me and be there till the end, people are rotating in and out of your life, nobody is permanent unless you get lucky, other people do nothing for me in general
Most the time i wnt to be left alone, not because i hate people but from experience i rarly get anything meaningful out of relations with other people but hurt, heartache, boredom and scars, people are out for themselves and the individual is a casulaty of this, it makes us huddle in our homes knowing the world out there is so fucked up that we want nothing to do with it, i do meet the odd person here and there that knocks me off my feet, i m thinking of 1 woman in 29 years of living though.....
I'm an ambivert, too. I might seem introvert to others because I usually don't like to talk about boring casual stuff. Especially if it's about obvious or typical things like the weather, sports etc. I just don't care. I really open up to people who have something interesting to say on the other hand. For instance you. I also don't have a problem speaking in public or in front of a huge audience. I don't even mind getting naked. lol. I just don't wanna waste so much time with small talk.
Yep, I'm an introvert. I like it. But one of my close friends criticized me for it. That Christians like I, should be engaging other people, this idea of "fellowship".
Nervous extroverts drive me crazy, because they think there's a bad relationship with them if I don't talk a lot. A Jewish-Italian guy once said to me in college: "What makes you tick?!"
I can be an ambivert rarely. On a test I took I'm more introverted than 98% of the population.
@SnakeDoctor33 I am so jealous, I go to college and I can't be free because all my so called "professors" think there is something "wrong" with me for being introverted, so yah I envy you, I try to not care what others think, but in order to surive in an extrovert's world, I must change:(
l never heard of a ambivert before but what you explain is exactly how l am wow.
You don't know how many times people approach me in public and talk and talk and l am saying in my head " please go away l don't feel like talking " and Im not being rude l just rather be by myself most of the time.
When l want to be social l will but l cant stand to be forced to be social it's borderline bloody painful.
Awesome topic to bring to the table. The only way for me to live my life is as an ambivert. I have experimented with extroversion and introversion as well, yet both left me lonely and unsatisfied in different ways.
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im, the hybrid on don't want to spell it wrong sometimes im out going and sometimes i just want to be left alone in my own head to think. i noticed this in highschool but didn't know there was a word for it
before this i described myself as shy but this fits much better, and i much prefer a small intimate group of friends
introvert is good , extrovert is bad , ambivert is a mix of both, depend on the situation as to what I might decide at any given moment what I want to be, sometimes I'm more shy than others, sometimes I'm more intoverted than extroverted. Who knew perhaps I'm an anti-vert. :)
I had never heard of the term ambivert before (from: ambigious/in between intro/extra?) But very recognizable.
One of my collaegues at work is very extravert and always seeking contact. Nowadays I put in ear plugs so I can hear my own thoughts, whenever I need to or feel like :)
Thank you so, so much for this video, and the link in the description, I had - being only 15 never heard these words before, and having my entire family and every person I know, at school especially being extroverts or less commonly ambiverts I have, my entire life been told that I'm a loner and need to "get out more" or that I'm "boring" etc. just because I'm not one for small talk. (continued in reply)
I just find it so aggrovating that after 6 hours a day at school sorrounded by noise and a generally extrovert group of classmates I get treated like theres something wrong with me for not wanting to spend more time with them, especially when most of them either ignore every word I say, get distracted and ask me to repeat what I said or simply cut over me mid-sentance to say something "really important" to another person which of the hundreds of times is never important.
Introvert 4 LIFE! I can't stand small talk, and I can't stand distractions (like a TV in the background). Try as I may to be polite, more often than not, I seem awkward or rude.
- Not good at small talk? Rude...
- Reply directly and to the point? Rude...
- Ask if I may get a glass of water? Get laughed at...
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Several "extroverts" I've met tend to be small talkers. Coincidentally or not, almost all of them would change the topic if philosophy or something deeper than small talk got brought up in the group.
To me, the purpose of communication once you know what you have in common with someone, is to figure out the differences between you. That's part of what makes people unique, and it seems that most small talk is all about every day things that almost every one goes through.
An extrovert as you described it actually sounds like someone with problems in their upbringing. I know a guy (my next door neighbor, surprisingly enough) who fits that exact description, and he comes over and actually begs my brother to hang out with him, often doing activities my brother has no interest in. His behavior has been as extreme as attempting to bribe my brother to hang out with him.
I agree with the whole small talk thing. I just find it so fake when I have to make small talk just to be cordial and "polite.
I'm a quiet person, but that doesn't mean I'm always silent. I open up with my friends. Sometimes I just prefer to be alone. However, this doesn't mean I never feel lonely..in fact, as an introvert, or ambivert, I often feel alienated from the vast majority of society. Some introverts lack confidence, etc., but I just don't care anymore what people think of me.
@pawz876 i clearly understand that. i am not really into small talk either. alot of the time the people where i stay are noisy or fake so i pretty much stay away from those types. i am a focus thinker.
I think I might be a combo between an introvert and an ambivert. Because, MOST of the time I prefer to be alone and within my own mind and thoughts, however, I love the occasional socialising and I may also get *slightly* depressed if I don't see my friends for weeks. Also, I think I may be shy AS WELL, sometimes I sweat, rub my hands, scratch my hair and stutter when I'm around anyone, exceptions may be people like my mum but is that an example of shyness or introversion? Please let me know.
Most introverts do enjoy some socializing, it's just that they need gaps in between to recharge the batteries. Your brain is processing..when it's processed and rested it may actually desire outside stimulation and connection with friends again.
It's also perfectly possible to be introverted and shy. The shyness might be a result of lifelong small negative feedback about your introversion. At least that's where I am at. Be introverted (or ambiverted), proud and happy! XXX
I am a very strong introvert. Another issue is that extroverts tend to judge intro-/ambiverts as lacking in confidence.
Still, I'm decent at playing the part of extrovert. One of my typical guidelines for social interaction is following the path of least resistance. If small talk is called for, I meet with less resistance when I talk than when I do not.
My extroverting drug of choice is caffeine. It can later backfire, leaving me in a somewhat deep introspective mood.
@Nightriser271828 Love your comment for it's honesty. Read so much stuff about introversion and I applaud and am quiet jealous of the people who say they are comfortably introverted. I do it more your way, adjust to the extroverts because if you act out as you feel it seems to egg them on to push you uncomfortably. Fake it and they look satisfied. Caffeine is what makes it all possible, I actually plan phone conversation so I can have several cups of coffee first. Hhmm, have a long way to go..
Ha! I've actually been known by some to be extroverted, but then again I've had relationships that didn't work out because of my 'introversion'. I have always considered myself to be a circumstantial kind of person. I live alone, and I'm okay with NOT always being directly involved. This video provided me with a new terminology of what I actually am. I am a proud ambivert. I didn't realize there was such a thing until now. I'm proud of the shade gray area that I am. Thanks for the video!
Large parties of people I mostly don't know wear me out. I meet new people (good thing) but it is tiring. Small parties with close friends don't do this. Actually, for me, the party gets better as people leave so that I can talk better with the remaining ones, whomever they are.
My friends think of me as shy, but know that if I get into a conversation I will be one of the primary contributors to it. I just don't care until then, I guess.
haha, it's cool... i'm the same way with the "the party get better as people leave so that i can talk better with the remaining ones"... but with everything else and including that statement, one of my greatest friends is very similar and most often tends to dominate the conversation... but he is more of an Out-Going People Person in that sence.
I like other people, and enjoy seeing them on social occasions, but I prefer smaller groups of 5-10 people at most. I am also perfectly content by myself.
Day-to-day I only try to interact with people who are useful to the task I am doing. When others interrupt this, I am pleased to see them, but annoyed that the task is interrupted.
Socially I am bipolar. If I am interested in a conversation I dominate it. Otherwise I don't care. I am the asshole in this sense.
Also, the clueless extroverts are few. If they're talking at you despite your discomfiture they're either oblivious to it or enjoying it. The quickest way to get them off your back is to be insulting. Just an FYI to help you deal with those particularly annoying extroverts.
What is this really supposed to accomplish? Am I gonna step outside my house and wonder who is what, and talk to no one so as not to cause offense? No, I will still talk to everyone, and I will do it until they make it clear that they don't want to be spoken to. People's body language and verbal responses will tell you rather quickly whether anything more than "good day" is appropriate. I'm "comfortable enough in my own skin" that it doesn't bother me if people don't want to chat.
@exthelpfile But I believe that it would bother some extroverts. If you don't appear to want to talk, then you are perceived as being rude. I run into this problem a lot being an introvert.
@ursusem Good point. Sozz I was in a slightly shallow mood that night. I operate more on the principle that when in doubt, say something, you'll probably confirm or refute your own doubts. I do somewhat perceive people as being rude when they won't so much as say "hi" back. If you can muster that much, though, that's the most discomfort I would subject you to :P If a person can't tell me what they want (verbal or body language), I'll endeavor to discover it.
@exthelpfile "I was in a slightly shallow mood that night." I wouldn't call it that, I would say that you were in an "interactive" mood.
Also I don't really know what you mean when you keep talking about the introverts' "discomfort." I do not feel uncomfortable when people talk to me... I would just prefer that they would not talk to me so as not to interrupt my current condition of inner peace (which is somewhat like meditation). I prefer to just be happily in la la land in my head
@ursusem The problem I see here is that you can't expect someone to treat you how you want to be treated if a) they don't know you, or b) you give them zero feedback. However in today's world, it's understandable how people might wish to conceal their feelings, because a lot (if not the majority) of people will mercilessly push your buttons once they are discovered. Absent understanding, extroverts tend to get offended when they feel ignored. You've done a great job explaining your stance tho
hmm, interesting Terminology... I and everyone I know call it either "Out-going" or "Reserved" and while no one is purely one thing, and everyone has a slight mix of both (and some nearly equally mixed) we divide it into only two groups. The main difference is this; Out-going people live their lives in the real world, relating and basing their emotions and thoughts on what goes on around them... while Reserved people live their lives in their heads and examine things before jumping to them.
In my field of work, they expect you to be both. Normally consider myself introvert because I can and do spend days alone and not feel that I'm lacking something especially with internet research available to entertain. I do think that society expects me to want to party and like meeting strangers but I just don't. Friends visit your house and try to force you to go with them to events THEY like is where social pressure is and I've dumped friends that became annoying like that in the past.
I think sometimes people are an extrovert and others an introvert, it depends on the person's mood; however, there is an overall trend. I would say I talk when I have something to convey (Whether it is heard or not). I really don't like small talk either, but a lot of times it can help you progress in relationships. For if you just directly begin to talk about something that is more personal many people feel uncomfortable.
I know how you feel. Sometimes you just don't feel like being sociable and you would rather be left alone. Not because you're nasty. I feel that way a lot just hoping nobody talks to me.
All I can say is, I feel the same way about people. I have a few best friends, but I find that a lot of the time I just want to be left alone. I find myself feeling guilty for not saying much or not wanting to do much, but I guess I really should not. If talk is uncomfortable why do it?
all interactions are calcaluated by the organism first and then relayed to the conciousness (you). your first statement says it all .( hope they wont be there.)what prompted you with that thought. there is no positive gain as percieved by the organism from that particular interaction and this is where you start. forget about taging yourself and forget about fighting it consciousness is not fixed state. understand it and you win. think micro
don't look, they will find you. until then continue to get to know yourself better. find out what pleases you and make you happy, than go out and do it
@AnarchistDictator Not really, especially if you make friends over the Internet- lots of Introverts hang out there and they meet each other on the basis of their shared, unique interests.
Here Here!!! I do agree I am an ambivert. There are days when I like just to have my own company for hours. YOU are describing a facet of myself to a T. Here Here!! Thank you for this post I have been looking for the description of my social outgoings. Being around a lot of people for more than a few hours drives me batty and anxious and I need time to recoup to my own thoughts.
So much truth shared in this vid! Thank you for the introduction to ambiverts, I think I am one... it is less of a mouthful than being a introverted-extrovert or wondering if i am in fact a extroverted-introvert! Lol!
I am a definite ambivert, though, I've never heard the term. I like being around people, at times, but it is also very exhausting to me ~ I need lots of alone time to reenergize as it were. Thanks for sharing this. Good to know I'm not alone!
I am an introvert. I'll talk to strangers about different ideas, but i enjoy my own thoughts the most. Everything in conversation must be related to a goal or else i wont talk so if you can imagine I dont go to parties because i run out of things to talk about real quick.
I was introverted until well after 30. I am more of an ambivert now, although that term is new to me. I also don't enjoy small talk longer than 1 or 2 minutes at a time.
I always thought of my self as introverted until I finished high school and developed a sense of resentment towards my self for never having tried actively to engage more people and have them recognize me so then I began to attempt to have longer conversations and be the one to initiate conversation with people who I don't necessarily need to for any perticular reason simply because I realized the need for people to become aware of you and have a positive attitude about you because it makes
things a whole lot easier on your life. At least it did for me. You strike me as an intelligent individual who likes to talk in depth and a more profound perspective when ever you have conversation with people. I was exactly the same but most people who do not share the same passion for articulate conversation that you do will disengage from so you have to walk a delicate balance about just how much conversation is to much.
Interesting video. Until know i always thought i am a pure introvert, but i do like to going out and feel comfortable in parties. I just don't like talking much.
I was ashamed of being one. I'm becoming more entroverted but that's mostly due to pressure. Through I believe the internet is an introvents paradise.
I had always considered myself an introvert, and would still say I am one. When I got to college, I started being more extroverted and took a personality test that said I was just over the edge from introvert to extrovert, so I am probably an ambivert. I had not heard of the term before you said it here.
I never much liked these sort of classifiers. Any way of quantizing human personality traits so sharply (binary quantization, in most cases) just doesn't seem accurate enough to me.
Never heard of the term ambivert. I just thought of myself as an introvert. I've always been shy since I can remember. Never has bothered me. It's just me in my natural state. Everybody has insecurities but everybody has different ways to deal with them. Extraverts deal with their insecurities by being engaging and by being the center of attention. Sounds like a contradiction but really its not.
Great topic, I guess if we are labeling it, i would call myself an introspective introvert. I also do use alcohol to be the extrovert my friends want me to be. I can't go to a party or a bar before I've had a few pre-drinks at home.
ambivert here, my occupation allows me to be away from society, but recent overpopulation has caused many to start building on the water which is affecting my standing, i have people walk on their docks and threaten or just try to engage in conversation leaving me angry, for this is my time away from society and to subject me with human contact is to pollute my time away from society. I will indulge in conversation when necessary , but i can entertain myself without the help of another being !
Great video. I feel like I'm exactly like you. I hate small talk. I do what I can to get out of those situations. I do like to have conversation, but only if it's of something to my interest, then I won't shut up. Things like when I'm online and a friend chats to me and says "Hi, how are you?". I won't even respond to that shit, or I'll make of point of how boring they are so they won't do it again. I'm really outspoken when I feel the need to be.
My hubby is an ambivert whereas I am an introvert. Makes sense :o) I am not shy, I am just a complete misanthrope. I feel comfortable within my own monkey sphere and that's it. Hubby is just how you described an ambivert. It's cool being married to one as an introvert because he gets me out of my shell when I don't think I can or want to, but totally understands why. You are so correct about the recuperation period LOL This was a great video. Thanks for the info :o)
As a confirmed extrovert myself, having read many of the comments, i wonder if it's just easier for people to say" I like my own company " or "I don't like people", than to admit to themselves that they find the complexities of human interaction too overwhelming ?Just wondering.
I fucking hate people, but I'm nothing but polite to strangers. If you know me, I always speak my mind-which isn't always "polite". I don't leave the house if I don't have to...my wife understands. Never heard of an ambivert before. I don't own a cell phone and don't do Facebook. That being said, I cherish the friends I have (count them on one hand), and appreciate good conversation.
they called me a hermit at work and it hurt me....
johnediamond 1 month ago
I use to beat my self up on the inside, because I didn't know what to talk about. I would try to think about anything interesting.I don't have problem meeting people or talk about anything.I know it's confusing but that's how I use to feel.Maybe I'm an introvert or not. It's confusing. I tried talk to someone who is weird, don't smile, very quiet.I felt so awkward. I thought I was talking to myself.I blush and get bashful at times.so am I an introvert?
prettyyoungthing90 1 month ago
u sound more ISTP.
lenal1l 2 months ago
I had never heard the term ambivert before. A major issue I have been dealing with is "knowing" something's not right, whether someone is saying something totally ignorant or incorrect, but the logic side, the linguistics side of my brain not being quick or apt enough to make a calm response and the words "you fuckin idiot" are the first words to jump out. So I would say I have introvert qualities but looking to convert from the insecurities that might come with those sorts of responses.
st3jace 2 months ago
There's one cashier at the grocery store I go to who says nothing when I come through and I love it.
howitzer24 2 months ago
@howitzer24 I do the same thing. There are a couple of cashiers that are very nice & sociable when I come through, but I always prefer to get in Molly's line. Molly only says, 'Hello,' and 'Thank you'.
proteanview 2 months ago
@proteanview i am like you my mom makes jokes to me because i won't call her for weeks then she'll be like wow you came up from out the sea huh?
i don't think it's funny cause i don't like doing all the "norm" things i like to ride around the store ( i'm disabled) but i hate the movies i'd rather watch at my home i don't like talking much either unless i really know you. i seldomly talk to my husband & we've been int he same house & sleep in seperate room so it's like i gotta roommate
lol
NAVYWIFEONE 1 month ago
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howitzer24 2 months ago
I think extroverts and extroverts are created by ones life, through their experiences and childhood socialization.. Also were living in IMO a highly dysfunction society causing an array of psychological diversity.
GrizzlyFist 5 months ago
@GrizzlyFist I think that definitely has something to do with it.
proteanview 2 months ago
Introspection is valuable. Extroverts aren't as introspective and probably less considerate than introverts.
Wood111112 5 months ago
I'm a introvert. Don't like small talk. " Just the facts mam." Being around to many people and all that noise makes me feel like a fish out of water.
zuniga6412 7 months ago
i'm an introvert and I've found that I don't like small talk because I would much rather get to the heart of matters. I find it difficult to dabble on the surface with superficial things that don't matter much. Even when I meet pp,l i'd much rather ask them a deep psychological question then "talk about the weather" but that usually freaks ppl out lol. One other thing, breaking an introverts "shell" is like breaking a turtle's shell. Just wait for them to come out =)...or you'll kill them.
aelishaful 7 months ago
One study found that introverts have more blood flow in the frontal lobes of their brain and the anterior or frontal thalamus, which are areas dealing with internal processing, such as planning and problem solving. Extraverts have more blood flow in the anterior cingulate gyrus, temporal lobes, and posterior thalamus, which are involved in sensory and emotional experience. So you would fit somewhere in between. I'm likely to be more introvert than ambivert.
NecipPerver 8 months ago
Well, I don't like labels necessarily, but ambivert is what I could be described as...I like to engage and talk to people and can bring people out of their shell, basically get comfortable with genuine people and talk about pretty much anything. On the other hand, I like peace and quiet, particularly if I'm dealing with fake people who like to gossip...Nothing much to discuss with those types.
I ALWAYS have time for my friends genuine people who want my company or just to talk or hang out.
BeautyHealthZoneBlog 8 months ago
I'm more of a cross between an ambivert and an introvert. I am usually reluctant to engage people that i don't know but sometimes i yield to the need for stimulating conversation. I cannot help but feel that there is something wrong with people who always need to say something trivial or give big uneasy grins. I usually end up giving away my inner introvert when i walk right by those people. l do still have love all of my fellow humans but i get very uncomfortable when forced to socialize.
HaileyJadedByIowa 9 months ago
OH MY GOD you described me to a T. I'm a young woman who has held a few office jobs in her day and at every job it only takes a matter of days before the entire office has decided I'm a "stuck up bitch" because I keep to myself and I don't run around the office gossiping about everyone else. I'm courteous, polite but not outgoing, so everyone assumes I'm stuck up. People have actually told me they used to think that before they got to know me and now know it's the complete opposite.
birdbath318 9 months ago
wrong country mate, try finland. here people barely speak to each other if they're not drunk :D
Darusdei 10 months ago
At work 4 people told me...Hey! Why are you so quiet? :SIGH:
Welcome to my world! Introverts are so misunderstood. I just wish people can leave Introverts alone and let them be, but in our Western Culture Introverts are frowned upon...you have to be loud and obnoxius these days in order to be accepted by the Majority of Extroverts, if you are not loud and obnoxius...then you are cut off from the group and the sheep are entertained by mindless chatter.
That's it! I'm moving to Japan! :)
EricSchwin22 10 months ago
Blessed are they that have nothing to say, and who cannot be persuaded to say it. -- James Russell Lowell
methuselus 10 months ago
because not a lot of people understand the "quiet ones", they let their imaginations run on and demonize them, even in playful conversations with friends. i too am an ambivert. i don't do small talk. if i have nothing to say, i stay silent. the fool runs his mouth while the reserved set to observe, reflect and learn. american public must learn that small talk does good by relieving the mind from thought. passing by someone saying "how are you?" is stupid.
Hein122 1 year ago
101% introvert
Isaiah6517 1 year ago
I think there's more than just the three groups.. although I wouldn't have a name for them.
What I mean is, I like to talk to people, and I feel most comfortable when I'm with a whole bunch of people, but I don't necessarily have to be talking all the time. And just like introverts and ambiverts, I require my alone time too. But meeting new people, going out and doing new things, I thrive on that. But I pick up on non-verbal cues quite well, and if someone doesn't want to talk, it's easy to see
Loriixoxo 1 year ago
I understand you completely.
MrBric12 1 year ago
I really don't understand why these cheery cheeky bubbly outgoing people have to pick on us so much because we are deep thinkers. Our inner thoughts that go through are heads are many different ideas for the future.
Extraverts think that we're socially weak and have shallow personalities, but we're not! We are much more...Introverts really get a bad rap, and I just wish that extraverts can somehow open up to us...but most don't bother.
They love to ridicule and make fun...Shame!
EricSchwin22 1 year ago
You bring up great points here. I've just seen a few of your videos and I really like the way you think so I am going to subscribe. Also you are doing something I hardly ever see here, you are suggesting things in your videos that are thoughtout and engaging the audience.
I've never heard the termmbut I think I'm a combination of the two, as you are, I can feel drained after being with people none stop for so long, I agree about your comment on extroverts, I have friends like that.
RssMMA 1 year ago
When I am around extroverts, or people in general who love to talk, I feel intellectually superior, because I am listening and acquiring all of the information that the extroverts, or excessive talkers are spewing out. I can also analyze people, and this gift has kept me safe, and has prevented me from being taken advantage of. I love being an introvert!
MsPamAnn 1 year ago
Yes, I am an introvert, and maybe a ambivert because I can tolerate people for a while..but not too long. I can stay in the house for an entire weekend, reading, working on the computer, chores, etc. I find small talk to be draining. I prefer one-on-one conversations, and I prefer "deep" conversations, (politics, religion, math, computer science). I am also a thinker. I am a teacher, and I love teaching. When I leave school i want to be alone. Great book: "The Introvert Advantage".
MsPamAnn 1 year ago
@Death2Evil... I had a co-worker that told me right in my face that I made her uncomfortable. I was like...why is that? She told me that you're just too quiet and shy...I think people will recognize you more if you talk...blah blah blah!
So I replied to her that I was just doing my job, and I'm an introvert and have a small circle of friends..yadda yadda.
After explaining all this to her in a positive way...she still didn't get it, and gossiped about me to other co-workers and the boss.
EricSchwin22 1 year ago
I've never heard of ambiverts before, but now that I have, I think I am one if I am not 100% introvert because I have times when I am sociable and extrovert. For the most part, I do need a lot of downtime, and privacy esp. after being with so much people. It drains me. I prefer small intimate few deep friends over a whole lot of surface friends. In the U.S., the introverts is a small percentage. It is seen as the inferior personality type, very much like how shyness is looked upon. : )
Ms3396815 1 year ago
I am so glad someone gave a name to this! Perfect!
Sometimes I engage with others. Then there are times I really want to be left alone. I watch people engage in 'small talk' and it is sometimes amusing to see, the programmed responses to the chit chat, while the speakers are not even really paying attention to the 'topics' they are talking about. One time I heard a girl respond about the recent rain we had had, "Yes, we really needed rain." She was dense to the floods we had.
MsLuckee1 1 year ago
@MsLuckee1 So true! Small talk and chit chats are not really engaging. They are automatic motormouths running, and no party is listening to the other. The talk is cliche, the mouth just runs and it's just a lot of noise and chatter, no substance. To me, as an introvert or ambivert, it's very upsetting to engage in small talk when I know it does not mean anything...you've not made a connection with a human being. It's a lonely feeling. I'd rather be by myself because I do enjoy my own company.
Ms3396815 1 year ago
Isn't everyone an ambivert? I've never met anyone who wants to spend 100% of their time with other people or 100% of the time alone. I've never met anyone who can't ever be relaxed unless they are in company or can't ever be relaxed with anyone else.
Extrovert, Introvert. I'm pretty sure these are 'moods' or at most tendencies rather than personality 'types'
arifreeman 1 year ago
@arifreeman Yes, but some people are more dominated by their extroverted side, and vice versa.
VivaTheEnd 1 year ago
you know, it's not only America... I believe that this is the case everywhere, its a universal human thing. And yes, I do sometimes drink alcohol to be the interacting person... but I'm starting to realize it's not really what I want...
guzsaj 1 year ago
Oh! Exactly my thoughts!
I believe it's also called an Introverted Extrovert or vice versa :). I am an Introverted extrovert (ambivert).
Yes Americans seem to have created a culture where extroverted personalities are preferred, that took some getting used to :)
Great vid.
ramtamart 1 year ago
what the hell does that mean? Call my dumb but im 15 so ya.
gzac95 1 year ago
@gzac95 Well introverts find relaxation from being alone and let their mind work. extroverts relax when they are interacting with people (more people is means more relaxing atmosphere for extrovert). Problem is, that modern recruitment trends are suited mostly for extroverted people and introverted people are seen as shy or anti-social and that they need to reform themselves. about what protean calls ambivert: that means he won't be seeking interaction at all costs. But in right company (cont.)
Artanis99 1 year ago
@gzac95 (cont.) he will enjoy interaction. actually introverts and extroverts are more of spectrum and absolute introverts and extroverts are really rare.
Artanis99 1 year ago
Sorry I got rambling about my own introversion experience. This is an interesting topic and a lot of these posts are interesting.
ScotlandMy 1 year ago
I am the ONLY introvert in a dept. of extroverts. My boss, a chatty type, does not like being in a room with me unless she can fill up the air with her small talk. She predictably asks me my husband's travel itinerary each week since he travels all the time. She thinks it's clever chit-chat, that way I'm forced to rattle off the different cities and it gets me talking, but I find it intrusive and she certainly does not need to be kept apprised of his schedule. I resent this little game.
ScotlandMy 1 year ago
First time I've ever heard ambivert, but thats defiantly a better description of who i am, so i embrace ambivert now.
CropDuster33 1 year ago
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CropDuster33 1 year ago
thats why extroverts control the system, they are the ones who are most "effective" in their "craft". not trying to prove anything, im an introvert myself
omghai2u 1 year ago
If I had to choose one of the words, then I'd choose ambivert. It's a bit more complex than that though, let's put it on a scale. Introvert is 1, extrovert is 5, and ambivert is 3. I'm a 2. I've never heard of ambivert until now though, I wonder if there's an omnivert...?
MazorKuziaki 1 year ago
Interesting. I've never heard the term 'ambivert' before, but it makes sense as there has to be some middle grey area.
I have always thought of myself as an introvert, but I do have my comfort zones where I can be really extroverted, so I now consider myself an ambivert.
Thanks for opening my eyes to this. ;)
warmacre 1 year ago
as I understand it the concept of introvert and extrovert really lies on a continuum with really only the most extreme among us being entirely introverted or extroverted. But I guess that a pure ambivert would just be someone who is most close to the middle of that spectrum.
I'd have to say that I swing back and forth depending often on where I am in my life, but that I will always be somewhat both as I believe most of us are.
funktheworld341 1 year ago
I love being introverted, it had allowed to learn alot about the people i see everyday. Love being alone in my own world of thoughts and hate to be bothered. I wouldnt change me for the world but i would change that people dont forget me after i interact with them (sometimes). My problems is finding another introverted woman to hook up with.....still looking for that cause i really, really, REALLY!!!!, dont like extraverted chicks.
Kingj56 1 year ago
I'm an Ambivert.
RayRox17 1 year ago
LMAO, I can relate and completely agree with what your saying in this video. Though I've never heard the term "ambivert" (I have always considered myself an introvert), but I think ambivert would better describe me as you have explained it.
luvlitee 1 year ago
Wow this is very interesting. I've never heard of an ambivert before. I do believe i am an ambivert. I don't mind being around people but sometimes i just NEED my alone time. This is one of the first videos I've watched by you. I like. Subbed!
purplemusic360 1 year ago
I don't know! You're asking too many questions... *brainfart*
Xxxzcuzxxx 1 year ago
I am an introvert, and family, (ex)girlfriends, friends, co-workers, etc, do not understand that occasionally I want to be alone. If I don't answer the phone don't take it personally!
Lawpark 1 year ago
Hi thanks for this video very helpful. We actually sold a house and bought a new home 5 minutes away to get away from an extroverted neighbor.She would not allow us a fence to block her out, we did not want to force it.We asked her to just have a nice little chat now and again, she would not stop anyway so we spent a fortune moving. Extroverts don't realize they sure can make you miserable!
jmvwegnerpriest 1 year ago
"Ambivert"! I like the sound of that. I, also, pendulum swing between these opposites. I can be great with a crowd but also love hanging out with just me. When I enter introvert mode (I call it "Hermit Mode"), it's not a bad thing. I need that time with myself; it's healthy. Sadly, some people feel rejected at such times. It's a shame some people don't understand (never mind experience) the difference between solitude and loneliness.
AnotherOpenBook 1 year ago
I think I may be an introvert, I dont talk to anyone at school, and I dont have any friends :( but its not my fault, they are all just so stupid, i dont even want to converse with them.
rockstar08876 1 year ago
i'm just like that - an ambivert. i am comfortable as can be in my skin, and i really enjoy my own company ;) i have no time for superficial, banal conversation and would much rather be left on my own than to engage in trivialities.
peacerebelgirl 1 year ago
I feel ya completely :)
free2flycari 1 year ago
The main thing i notice about them ambiverts is the ability to stand up to peer pressure. I think ambiverts would be the best at it? As an ambivert, i can say stuff that is shocking, and people criticize me. I'm not afraid to say it though. My opinion is my own and i'm very comfortable sometimes saying stuff others can't. Other times, i can be really secretive. i am honest to a fault (and yet can lie).
LJB85 1 year ago
I say I take it from them, 1 mans life for several others is a good trade.
But in truth I would more realistically let them eat it, because I feel like I could not stop them.
tHecOmMeNtErSrEtUrN 1 year ago
those not introverts must feel very empty, never giving time for yourself, sit in a room with just you it is very rewarding. cuz fake smiles and this fake persona is easy to notice and i know most who are not introverts behave different to certain folks. they could be mad as hell then a friend calls and the moods changes instantly. im sorry it doesnt work like that for everyone. i know who people really are. look at spelling mistakes, to me no big deal but i look for the bigger things
sephious159 1 year ago
the problem with me is... if I ever want to get laid... I've got to go through a whole fucking relationship system! I can't talk my way into shit like that.
CHRISTMASBASTARD 1 year ago
I'm an introvert and I go home and scream about the fact that people keep assuming that I just need to be dragged out of my shell and for this I try to be extroverted and then I find they tell me to "cheer the fuck up", "go to the toilet have a wank and then come out with a smile", "You look like a fucking zombie". I sometimes feel evil because sometimes I just wish that you would all either fucking grow up or fucking die. You wanna keep pushing people like me? I don't exactly push you!
CHRISTMASBASTARD 1 year ago
but their is the odd 1 here and there, i prefer 1 on 1 relationships, groups baffle me, i cannot get a word or relate to a group, i pick the odd person but they invariably let me down so i say fuck it and do my own thing for the most part.
societysucks1 1 year ago 2
@societysucks1 same... people are too confusing and I am just happy with myself as you are.
CHRISTMASBASTARD 1 year ago
and even then i got a broken heart out of it, my neibours are assholes, they ignore you and faint care and concern or just cause trouble, i d live in the middle of a field if i could, people are obsticles in my life that i have to drive around, i m an introvert by choice since i know nobody ever seems to understand or at least be there for me and be there till the end, people are rotating in and out of your life, nobody is permanent unless you get lucky, other people do nothing for me in general
societysucks1 1 year ago
Most the time i wnt to be left alone, not because i hate people but from experience i rarly get anything meaningful out of relations with other people but hurt, heartache, boredom and scars, people are out for themselves and the individual is a casulaty of this, it makes us huddle in our homes knowing the world out there is so fucked up that we want nothing to do with it, i do meet the odd person here and there that knocks me off my feet, i m thinking of 1 woman in 29 years of living though.....
societysucks1 1 year ago
I agree with you 110% bro ..keep the good work ;-) . Namaste
mateous11 1 year ago
I'm an ambivert, too. I might seem introvert to others because I usually don't like to talk about boring casual stuff. Especially if it's about obvious or typical things like the weather, sports etc. I just don't care. I really open up to people who have something interesting to say on the other hand. For instance you. I also don't have a problem speaking in public or in front of a huge audience. I don't even mind getting naked. lol. I just don't wanna waste so much time with small talk.
TylerMontana 1 year ago
Yep, I'm an introvert. I like it. But one of my close friends criticized me for it. That Christians like I, should be engaging other people, this idea of "fellowship".
Nervous extroverts drive me crazy, because they think there's a bad relationship with them if I don't talk a lot. A Jewish-Italian guy once said to me in college: "What makes you tick?!"
I can be an ambivert rarely. On a test I took I'm more introverted than 98% of the population.
MarkBH70 1 year ago
I AM Free..Free from labels,society,I live in and among you when I want then retreat to where ever I find safest.I Am Human.
SnakeDoctor33 1 year ago
@SnakeDoctor33 I am so jealous, I go to college and I can't be free because all my so called "professors" think there is something "wrong" with me for being introverted, so yah I envy you, I try to not care what others think, but in order to surive in an extrovert's world, I must change:(
pennamb 1 year ago
l never heard of a ambivert before but what you explain is exactly how l am wow.
You don't know how many times people approach me in public and talk and talk and l am saying in my head " please go away l don't feel like talking " and Im not being rude l just rather be by myself most of the time.
When l want to be social l will but l cant stand to be forced to be social it's borderline bloody painful.
tinypuppies3 1 year ago
I guess the battery analogy suits me best, I "charge" myself alone and "decharge" in public.
This however is by Scandinavian standards, in the US people would probably find me somewhat odd.
rhbjorn 1 year ago
Go Ed, You taught me something about myself today. Ahh ain't youtube just great...
ColaBling 1 year ago
I always try to do my best to alert people to the truth, although few want to hear it.
jackinla8 1 year ago
Awesome topic to bring to the table. The only way for me to live my life is as an ambivert. I have experimented with extroversion and introversion as well, yet both left me lonely and unsatisfied in different ways.
Hexonox 1 year ago
At least your neighbors talk to you. Mine won't even look at you or say anything to you.
Tippy2forU 1 year ago
I can soooooo relate to you because I also identify myself as an ambivert.
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thenolanryan 1 year ago
Never heard of ambivert...I think I'm a ambivert from your description. You are so real, love your vids!!!!
naturalgirl32 1 year ago
Nobleworh How dare you send me a message such as yiu did. You can take that Ajective and stick it where the sun never shines. racist!
shawdowwalker127 1 year ago
Introvert is a gift. Asian culture put high value on people who are quiet.
Though, i have to agree that being extrovert attract more girls, but they don't last.
ferrari4sale 1 year ago
Ambiverts and Gamma Males unite!
MIvarsson99 1 year ago
im, the hybrid on don't want to spell it wrong sometimes im out going and sometimes i just want to be left alone in my own head to think. i noticed this in highschool but didn't know there was a word for it
before this i described myself as shy but this fits much better, and i much prefer a small intimate group of friends
Leadman1989 1 year ago
introvert is good , extrovert is bad , ambivert is a mix of both, depend on the situation as to what I might decide at any given moment what I want to be, sometimes I'm more shy than others, sometimes I'm more intoverted than extroverted. Who knew perhaps I'm an anti-vert. :)
NoraDlist 1 year ago
I think you seemed very tense... Is that true?
ItsGoodToBeCynical 1 year ago
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ItsGoodToBeCynical 1 year ago
I had never heard of the term ambivert before (from: ambigious/in between intro/extra?) But very recognizable.
One of my collaegues at work is very extravert and always seeking contact. Nowadays I put in ear plugs so I can hear my own thoughts, whenever I need to or feel like :)
OneSummerSky 1 year ago
I love to be alone. ;-)
panthera50 1 year ago 19
Thank you so, so much for this video, and the link in the description, I had - being only 15 never heard these words before, and having my entire family and every person I know, at school especially being extroverts or less commonly ambiverts I have, my entire life been told that I'm a loner and need to "get out more" or that I'm "boring" etc. just because I'm not one for small talk. (continued in reply)
pikanchion 1 year ago 2
@pikanchion
I just find it so aggrovating that after 6 hours a day at school sorrounded by noise and a generally extrovert group of classmates I get treated like theres something wrong with me for not wanting to spend more time with them, especially when most of them either ignore every word I say, get distracted and ask me to repeat what I said or simply cut over me mid-sentance to say something "really important" to another person which of the hundreds of times is never important.
pikanchion 1 year ago 2
i rarely talk to anyone at all ever
mittROMNEY666 1 year ago
Honesty.
TheChaplinLover 1 year ago 2
Introvert 4 LIFE! I can't stand small talk, and I can't stand distractions (like a TV in the background). Try as I may to be polite, more often than not, I seem awkward or rude.
- Not good at small talk? Rude...
- Reply directly and to the point? Rude...
- Ask if I may get a glass of water? Get laughed at...
Death2Evil 1 year ago 14
Im the same as you
EnkiMelekTaus 1 year ago 2
GAY Been called worse last time I checked i was very female and I think my other half is quite maleLOL No prolem. I just like this guys point of view especially in these times/
shawdowwalker127 1 year ago
Several "extroverts" I've met tend to be small talkers. Coincidentally or not, almost all of them would change the topic if philosophy or something deeper than small talk got brought up in the group.
To me, the purpose of communication once you know what you have in common with someone, is to figure out the differences between you. That's part of what makes people unique, and it seems that most small talk is all about every day things that almost every one goes through.
andrewh817 1 year ago
An extrovert as you described it actually sounds like someone with problems in their upbringing. I know a guy (my next door neighbor, surprisingly enough) who fits that exact description, and he comes over and actually begs my brother to hang out with him, often doing activities my brother has no interest in. His behavior has been as extreme as attempting to bribe my brother to hang out with him.
andrewh817 1 year ago
I agree with the whole small talk thing. I just find it so fake when I have to make small talk just to be cordial and "polite.
I'm a quiet person, but that doesn't mean I'm always silent. I open up with my friends. Sometimes I just prefer to be alone. However, this doesn't mean I never feel lonely..in fact, as an introvert, or ambivert, I often feel alienated from the vast majority of society. Some introverts lack confidence, etc., but I just don't care anymore what people think of me.
pawz876 1 year ago 2
@pawz876 i clearly understand that. i am not really into small talk either. alot of the time the people where i stay are noisy or fake so i pretty much stay away from those types. i am a focus thinker.
bigfresh2001 1 year ago 2
I think I might be a combo between an introvert and an ambivert. Because, MOST of the time I prefer to be alone and within my own mind and thoughts, however, I love the occasional socialising and I may also get *slightly* depressed if I don't see my friends for weeks. Also, I think I may be shy AS WELL, sometimes I sweat, rub my hands, scratch my hair and stutter when I'm around anyone, exceptions may be people like my mum but is that an example of shyness or introversion? Please let me know.
pickupthepiecez 1 year ago 2
@pickupthepiecez
Most introverts do enjoy some socializing, it's just that they need gaps in between to recharge the batteries. Your brain is processing..when it's processed and rested it may actually desire outside stimulation and connection with friends again.
It's also perfectly possible to be introverted and shy. The shyness might be a result of lifelong small negative feedback about your introversion. At least that's where I am at. Be introverted (or ambiverted), proud and happy! XXX
jmvwegnerpriest 1 year ago
i love talking to strangers!! i wish more would cooperate with me.
there is definately my inner circle of friends who I talk to on a daily basis/ can't live without but that's called family.
I find it hard to get attatched to ppl though which means casual friends come and go with the wind. But I make new friends easy so it's cool.
Must be an Ambivert, I think we are more normal.
kaari 1 year ago
@kaari You are an extrovert, I think.
ursusem 1 year ago
oh thank lord, I finaly know what I am. An ambivert or whatever :P
BrutusAlbion 1 year ago
I am a very strong introvert. Another issue is that extroverts tend to judge intro-/ambiverts as lacking in confidence.
Still, I'm decent at playing the part of extrovert. One of my typical guidelines for social interaction is following the path of least resistance. If small talk is called for, I meet with less resistance when I talk than when I do not.
My extroverting drug of choice is caffeine. It can later backfire, leaving me in a somewhat deep introspective mood.
Nightriser271828 1 year ago
@Nightriser271828 Love your comment for it's honesty. Read so much stuff about introversion and I applaud and am quiet jealous of the people who say they are comfortably introverted. I do it more your way, adjust to the extroverts because if you act out as you feel it seems to egg them on to push you uncomfortably. Fake it and they look satisfied. Caffeine is what makes it all possible, I actually plan phone conversation so I can have several cups of coffee first. Hhmm, have a long way to go..
jmvwegnerpriest 1 year ago
i love this video
i can sit for hours doing nothing and survive it, no ENJOY it
thanks so much for opening my mind on this topic; i hadnt realised i was biased against myself in this respect until i felt uplifted by your video!
satanstoolshed 1 year ago 2
Ha! I've actually been known by some to be extroverted, but then again I've had relationships that didn't work out because of my 'introversion'. I have always considered myself to be a circumstantial kind of person. I live alone, and I'm okay with NOT always being directly involved. This video provided me with a new terminology of what I actually am. I am a proud ambivert. I didn't realize there was such a thing until now. I'm proud of the shade gray area that I am. Thanks for the video!
rdubtastic 1 year ago 2
@ proteanview
Large parties of people I mostly don't know wear me out. I meet new people (good thing) but it is tiring. Small parties with close friends don't do this. Actually, for me, the party gets better as people leave so that I can talk better with the remaining ones, whomever they are.
My friends think of me as shy, but know that if I get into a conversation I will be one of the primary contributors to it. I just don't care until then, I guess.
sdkee 1 year ago
haha, it's cool... i'm the same way with the "the party get better as people leave so that i can talk better with the remaining ones"... but with everything else and including that statement, one of my greatest friends is very similar and most often tends to dominate the conversation... but he is more of an Out-Going People Person in that sence.
TetsukenZ 1 year ago
@ proteanview
I like other people, and enjoy seeing them on social occasions, but I prefer smaller groups of 5-10 people at most. I am also perfectly content by myself.
Day-to-day I only try to interact with people who are useful to the task I am doing. When others interrupt this, I am pleased to see them, but annoyed that the task is interrupted.
Socially I am bipolar. If I am interested in a conversation I dominate it. Otherwise I don't care. I am the asshole in this sense.
sdkee 1 year ago
Also, the clueless extroverts are few. If they're talking at you despite your discomfiture they're either oblivious to it or enjoying it. The quickest way to get them off your back is to be insulting. Just an FYI to help you deal with those particularly annoying extroverts.
exthelpfile 1 year ago
What is this really supposed to accomplish? Am I gonna step outside my house and wonder who is what, and talk to no one so as not to cause offense? No, I will still talk to everyone, and I will do it until they make it clear that they don't want to be spoken to. People's body language and verbal responses will tell you rather quickly whether anything more than "good day" is appropriate. I'm "comfortable enough in my own skin" that it doesn't bother me if people don't want to chat.
exthelpfile 1 year ago
@exthelpfile But I believe that it would bother some extroverts. If you don't appear to want to talk, then you are perceived as being rude. I run into this problem a lot being an introvert.
ursusem 1 year ago 2
@ursusem Good point. Sozz I was in a slightly shallow mood that night. I operate more on the principle that when in doubt, say something, you'll probably confirm or refute your own doubts. I do somewhat perceive people as being rude when they won't so much as say "hi" back. If you can muster that much, though, that's the most discomfort I would subject you to :P If a person can't tell me what they want (verbal or body language), I'll endeavor to discover it.
exthelpfile 1 year ago
@exthelpfile "I was in a slightly shallow mood that night." I wouldn't call it that, I would say that you were in an "interactive" mood.
Also I don't really know what you mean when you keep talking about the introverts' "discomfort." I do not feel uncomfortable when people talk to me... I would just prefer that they would not talk to me so as not to interrupt my current condition of inner peace (which is somewhat like meditation). I prefer to just be happily in la la land in my head
ursusem 1 year ago
@ursusem The problem I see here is that you can't expect someone to treat you how you want to be treated if a) they don't know you, or b) you give them zero feedback. However in today's world, it's understandable how people might wish to conceal their feelings, because a lot (if not the majority) of people will mercilessly push your buttons once they are discovered. Absent understanding, extroverts tend to get offended when they feel ignored. You've done a great job explaining your stance tho
exthelpfile 8 months ago
hmm, interesting Terminology... I and everyone I know call it either "Out-going" or "Reserved" and while no one is purely one thing, and everyone has a slight mix of both (and some nearly equally mixed) we divide it into only two groups. The main difference is this; Out-going people live their lives in the real world, relating and basing their emotions and thoughts on what goes on around them... while Reserved people live their lives in their heads and examine things before jumping to them.
TetsukenZ 1 year ago
> TetsukenZ
> Reserved people live their lives in their heads and examine things before jumping to them
This definitely applies to me as well. I want to know what will happen before I commit.
But I am bipolar between "reserved" and "engaged". I either don't give a shit or I am going to make you pay attention.
sdkee 1 year ago 3
In my field of work, they expect you to be both. Normally consider myself introvert because I can and do spend days alone and not feel that I'm lacking something especially with internet research available to entertain. I do think that society expects me to want to party and like meeting strangers but I just don't. Friends visit your house and try to force you to go with them to events THEY like is where social pressure is and I've dumped friends that became annoying like that in the past.
meestaree 1 year ago
Self-reliant ambivert here (aka Gregarious Hermit).
RoadTweeker 1 year ago
This comment has received too many negative votes show
Who gives a fuck you faggit ass niger
panterahead2 1 year ago
I am one but never the word for it.
This video is genius.
I am an introvert and i will not change.
Success and a network comes from being the extavert you talk about.
A forced change perhaps :(
sephious159 1 year ago
its this country.
people are just assholes.
when i am myself they say omg you're so quiet.
but when i do talk they're like wow you're creepy, or, who the hell are you? gtf away from me. there is no "right" side to be on.
everyone. just be yourself!
im ambivert all the way
10Gr1fterbang 1 year ago
As an introvert, I just wanted to say that this vid was so refreshing. This is how I've felt about this subject for quite some time!
highpoint2788 1 year ago
Thsi guy is Real. Wish we all were all more like him.
shawdowwalker127 1 year ago 25
@shawdowwalker127 you're gay..
GravDiga 1 year ago
@shawdowwalker127 P.S. im just joking ...heh
hes cool tho..rational.. and smart his own way.
GravDiga 1 year ago
@shawdowwalker127 haha youre an idiot, this nigguh is an uncle tom
noblewulfff 1 year ago
I think we should be able to say almost anything as long as it is said within reasonable context; skip the small talk!
juntaon 1 year ago 2
I think sometimes people are an extrovert and others an introvert, it depends on the person's mood; however, there is an overall trend. I would say I talk when I have something to convey (Whether it is heard or not). I really don't like small talk either, but a lot of times it can help you progress in relationships. For if you just directly begin to talk about something that is more personal many people feel uncomfortable.
juntaon 1 year ago
This comment has received too many negative votes show
you talk to damn much thats your problem
nothadnotbad 1 year ago
@nothadnotbad
Shut up.
SHOCCTROOP 1 year ago
I know how you feel. Sometimes you just don't feel like being sociable and you would rather be left alone. Not because you're nasty. I feel that way a lot just hoping nobody talks to me.
philldholes 2 years ago 4
All I can say is, I feel the same way about people. I have a few best friends, but I find that a lot of the time I just want to be left alone. I find myself feeling guilty for not saying much or not wanting to do much, but I guess I really should not. If talk is uncomfortable why do it?
Stuckherewithyou 2 years ago 2
I'm ambi leaning toward intro.
"Ambivert" sounds like a person that enjoys compulsive sex on Ambien which I am not.....yet.
callouschristian 2 years ago
Who give a shit
Daoak28 2 years ago
hahahhaaaa. i just got a good laugh out of that
hardxxcorey 1 year ago
For someone who likes to be alone you sure spend a lot of time on YT.
Lizardking623 2 years ago
@studentrevisionist agree !
curiousat36 2 years ago
ugh, yeah. I just hate talking to lots of people. Most of them talk about the most boring shit.
TEAMRANDOMSTUDIOS 2 years ago
all interactions are calcaluated by the organism first and then relayed to the conciousness (you). your first statement says it all .( hope they wont be there.)what prompted you with that thought. there is no positive gain as percieved by the organism from that particular interaction and this is where you start. forget about taging yourself and forget about fighting it consciousness is not fixed state. understand it and you win. think micro
Interpellator1 2 years ago
I read the article that he linked in the description
Was almost border line creepy how spot fucking on it was about me
I'm a HUGE introvert
voidergary 2 years ago
The problem with being extremely introverted is that it's incredibly difficult to find others of your kind.
AnarchistDictator 2 years ago 8
@AnarchistDictator
don't look, they will find you. until then continue to get to know yourself better. find out what pleases you and make you happy, than go out and do it
curiousat36 2 years ago
@AnarchistDictator Not really, especially if you make friends over the Internet- lots of Introverts hang out there and they meet each other on the basis of their shared, unique interests.
ursusem 1 year ago
Here Here!!! I do agree I am an ambivert. There are days when I like just to have my own company for hours. YOU are describing a facet of myself to a T. Here Here!! Thank you for this post I have been looking for the description of my social outgoings. Being around a lot of people for more than a few hours drives me batty and anxious and I need time to recoup to my own thoughts.
4SCARECROWS 2 years ago
So much truth shared in this vid! Thank you for the introduction to ambiverts, I think I am one... it is less of a mouthful than being a introverted-extrovert or wondering if i am in fact a extroverted-introvert! Lol!
MsMystique29 2 years ago
I am a definite ambivert, though, I've never heard the term. I like being around people, at times, but it is also very exhausting to me ~ I need lots of alone time to reenergize as it were. Thanks for sharing this. Good to know I'm not alone!
MAR4168 2 years ago
I am an introvert. I'll talk to strangers about different ideas, but i enjoy my own thoughts the most. Everything in conversation must be related to a goal or else i wont talk so if you can imagine I dont go to parties because i run out of things to talk about real quick.
GKCanman 2 years ago
i wish people would know the difference between shy and introverted .. my life would be a lot better ...
ashleygonzalez1991 2 years ago
I was introverted until well after 30. I am more of an ambivert now, although that term is new to me. I also don't enjoy small talk longer than 1 or 2 minutes at a time.
sevenahm 2 years ago
I'm just like you...when I walk outside it is to go somewhere not be held hostage to small talk
allen0088 2 years ago
I always thought of my self as introverted until I finished high school and developed a sense of resentment towards my self for never having tried actively to engage more people and have them recognize me so then I began to attempt to have longer conversations and be the one to initiate conversation with people who I don't necessarily need to for any perticular reason simply because I realized the need for people to become aware of you and have a positive attitude about you because it makes
kaptainkool408 2 years ago
things a whole lot easier on your life. At least it did for me. You strike me as an intelligent individual who likes to talk in depth and a more profound perspective when ever you have conversation with people. I was exactly the same but most people who do not share the same passion for articulate conversation that you do will disengage from so you have to walk a delicate balance about just how much conversation is to much.
kaptainkool408 2 years ago
Good video
BRKS627 2 years ago
Interesting video. Until know i always thought i am a pure introvert, but i do like to going out and feel comfortable in parties. I just don't like talking much.
addictivebeat 2 years ago
Introvent
I was ashamed of being one. I'm becoming more entroverted but that's mostly due to pressure. Through I believe the internet is an introvents paradise.
DreamsOfGabija 2 years ago
I had always considered myself an introvert, and would still say I am one. When I got to college, I started being more extroverted and took a personality test that said I was just over the edge from introvert to extrovert, so I am probably an ambivert. I had not heard of the term before you said it here.
I never much liked these sort of classifiers. Any way of quantizing human personality traits so sharply (binary quantization, in most cases) just doesn't seem accurate enough to me.
Muftobration 2 years ago
Never heard of the term ambivert. I just thought of myself as an introvert. I've always been shy since I can remember. Never has bothered me. It's just me in my natural state. Everybody has insecurities but everybody has different ways to deal with them. Extraverts deal with their insecurities by being engaging and by being the center of attention. Sounds like a contradiction but really its not.
melowar78 2 years ago
Great topic, I guess if we are labeling it, i would call myself an introspective introvert. I also do use alcohol to be the extrovert my friends want me to be. I can't go to a party or a bar before I've had a few pre-drinks at home.
meloveanna 2 years ago
i would say im an ambivert, leaning towards an introvert. and no, i had never heard the term ambivert before you mentioned it.
Richy0326 2 years ago
ambivert here, my occupation allows me to be away from society, but recent overpopulation has caused many to start building on the water which is affecting my standing, i have people walk on their docks and threaten or just try to engage in conversation leaving me angry, for this is my time away from society and to subject me with human contact is to pollute my time away from society. I will indulge in conversation when necessary , but i can entertain myself without the help of another being !
strikenetter 2 years ago
Great video. I feel like I'm exactly like you. I hate small talk. I do what I can to get out of those situations. I do like to have conversation, but only if it's of something to my interest, then I won't shut up. Things like when I'm online and a friend chats to me and says "Hi, how are you?". I won't even respond to that shit, or I'll make of point of how boring they are so they won't do it again. I'm really outspoken when I feel the need to be.
Good vid
weepaul666 2 years ago
My hubby is an ambivert whereas I am an introvert. Makes sense :o) I am not shy, I am just a complete misanthrope. I feel comfortable within my own monkey sphere and that's it. Hubby is just how you described an ambivert. It's cool being married to one as an introvert because he gets me out of my shell when I don't think I can or want to, but totally understands why. You are so correct about the recuperation period LOL This was a great video. Thanks for the info :o)
imjustagirl776 2 years ago
I think u just helped my life xD ut seriously thx
i subscribe u make alot of sence lol
murrymurrymurrymurry 2 years ago
As a confirmed extrovert myself, having read many of the comments, i wonder if it's just easier for people to say" I like my own company " or "I don't like people", than to admit to themselves that they find the complexities of human interaction too overwhelming ?Just wondering.
tet43 2 years ago
I fucking hate people, but I'm nothing but polite to strangers. If you know me, I always speak my mind-which isn't always "polite". I don't leave the house if I don't have to...my wife understands. Never heard of an ambivert before. I don't own a cell phone and don't do Facebook. That being said, I cherish the friends I have (count them on one hand), and appreciate good conversation.
metull666 2 years ago 2
I could copy and paste this, and have it describe me perfectly.
meloveanna 2 years ago