Every woman of every single race should listen to this.I had my mama listen to this and she was going through this same situation, and after she finished watching this, HE was gone the next day!!!!!
@godivadelight i have part one and part two written down. i had to search the internet looong and hard for it though. give me your email and i'll send you a copy
aye i was like 17 when i 1st heard this n damn she was speaking my emotions dana u my inspiration lovin your poetry skills " i probably would of listen when he said it was some shit he had to get out system but see i was too busy bitching jumping bad like i was gon hit him"gurl u killed dis shit frm beginnning to end cause " i would do it all again just next time 4 my husband not dat niggah i call my friend"
"Had da auDACity 2 step 2 me on this Donell Jones I don't know where I WANT 2 BE type ISH!"....Dana this is like 100th time I have listened 2 this one!!!! LOL, you are INDEED da TRUTH!! K, have 2 press play again, need THIS today!!!! smh at men who ATTEMPT to follow my hubby, a legacy only a KING can continue!! ~Mz Deeva, Texas' fav Blog Talk Radio Host~
I just luv dat '... I give it up again! Just next time to my husband n not dat ninja I call my friend!' Dana! This is still my top fav poem! Sigh, men like that, been there too lady! Smh
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@sweetuth99 - You are getting funnier and funnier. You keep rebutting points that I haven't made (and tearing down straw men of your own construction is a tell tale sign of those who are either: hopelessly losing a debate, or cluelessly unaware of how to formulate a coherent thought/argument/response).
The more you type, the more you expose your own foolishness (let alone the name-calling nonsense).
Happy "flaming" (I thought that went out in 1999).
@sweetuth99 - I'm sorry. I didn't realize the fact that "the "condescension" went both ways" was an excuse for you to be an idiot. And your inability to recognize ANALOGY (in my Glenn Beck comment) as opposed to DIRECT ATTRIBUTION further speaks to the lack of comprehension and intelligence you possess.
At no point did I deny that there is "two-way" offense in the "battle of the sexes". I merely pointed out that in NO WAY has it become "tougher on men than women" in this society. You funny.
@sweetuth99 - Wow, dude. You obviously have no idea how ridiculous you come off, both with your condescending comments to "sultrysound" and your silly railing against " double standards that DOMINATE this society", and such.
Are you seriously proposing that it's "tougher on men"? You sound like Glenn Beck and the like, crying about how tough it is to be a white man in America.
Pretty laughable, really. But it seems you were looking for a fight with your inflammatory comments.
I'm a guy, and I'm feeling her on this. My first girl, I gave my heart, hope, and faith to her, and she didn't like me nearly as much as I liked her. and while I'm hurt, I know I would def do it again, but next time for my wife
in da bac of her mind all she could do is fathom on how much i goina miss him, but jus bcuz im cryin dont mean dat im da victim, jus means i was scared 2 let him go cuz someotha chick might get him, & dat was my fault because dat was my decision, i should have neva put my ♥ in my minds position......THATS DEEP
That's a real woman!!!!!! I get so tired of hearin how a nigga did u so wrong. It's about time a real woman told it how it is. Ladies, stop fuckin with low class men (boys) and find a husband.
Furthermore, it is also apparent that this is going no where (as I mentioned before) So of course you will have the last word as I have exhausted this poem and this conversation. You are a great debater, but I fear you may take yourself too seriously.. Now THAT is a reactionary assumption. Forgive me if I'm wrong, I leave you with this: To thine own self be true.. Recognize that there are good, bad and misunderstood in everyone.. Life will seem a little more "kumbaya". lol
I simply disagree. I'm not calling you silly or a caveman.. I just disagree, but YOU hurl insults. AGAIN my comments are not reactionary, they are observant. If you can't stand the reflection, don't look into the mirror.
And contrary to what you make think about MY relationship with men. I don't deal with BS. If he cant be straight up, he can bounce.. It took me a minute to get to this point in my life but I'm still young so thank God I didnt spend half my life figuring this out. I know now what she discovered by the end of the poem. If I'm gonna go all out for a man he will be my husband. Consequently, I dont stay in a reltionship for long.. Men seem to think sex is mandatory.. I disagree so they move on..
My assumption is based on what I read in your comments and the offensive tone in which you write. What I assume is not an attack on your character. There are plenty that believe they are rarely wrong.
That said, I'm not a feminist, I a woman with the ability to rationalize. At the end of the day we all live in a man's world whether you would be willing to admit that or not so if a woman wants to vent about a man that aint worth the time it takes to blink who are we to judge her?
I never said I was the deciding factor in whether you are wrong or right. It merely becomes apparent that you deciding you're wrong doesnt happen often
AND I surround myself with men who tell me the truth (whether I want it or not) I much rather be upset at having to deal with the truth then be hurt by uncovering a lie. Seems to me like you've never heard more than one type of woman's perspective. Maybe you should be grateful..
contd... Women are better at expressing themselves, we are also more emotional so it makes sense that when we write a poem, it's about a man we loved and lost or still love but cant have, or love and live with, or have walked away from. Men could write about this but the men on dpj chose not to.
And there are PLENTY men walking around ignorant to how stupid they sound trust me on this...
All of that and you're still to the left of the point. I could care less about the percentages. The point is both men and women cause relationships to fail. Both men and women live under double standards that favor one side or the other. What ever the "numbers" are we ALL have been hurt in one way or another.
Plus, listening a little more carefully to the poem, they (the women) were amen-ing to the things all women allow non committing men to do. They were laughing at themselves. How could you mistake this for a we hate men convention?
I imagine we sound as stupid as y'all sound sometimes..
Anyway, man enough only meant "adult". Sometimes assuming the responsibility pays. Like I said before, had he walked away, the poem would be solely about her. Women know what they want.. Well-- I do, and while I'll never be a man, you'll never be a woman so this arguement will truly go now where. It's apparent that you feel there is no way you could be wrong, but you won't allow yourself to hear how both parties contribute.
And again you're assuming I watch those shows.. I could care less about what other women think about relationships when they arent even in successful ones. I wish I could show the poets I'm talking about but they are amatuer poets and don't have tv spots and such.. They should though. I know double standards exist but feminism started because women were not being treated fairly. Now, women are going overboard, I agree but there are double standards that favor men as well (created by men).
It takes two. All of this could have been avoided if she accepted the relationship for what ot was or if he, knowing she was in love with him, was man enough to walk away. This isn't oprah-- Oprah probably would have blamed the man entirely.. lol.
I'm saying that in this situation they both were wrong. I agree that sometimes it is entirely the woman's fault but not all the time. Stupid, take-what-i-want-and-leave men do exist, but they have female counterparts as well.
But he was wrong, in that, he didn't leave her alone. He stuck around, used her and then left.. So he was wrong too, and because this is her poem, she called him on it. I have heard male spoken word artists recite poetry about backstabbing women and women who think beauty is an occupation. I don't complain, I accept that women like that exist. We agree that she was an idiot, but that changed. It's her right to write what she feels about men, The same thing goes for a male poet.
Those women probably reacted like that because they could identify.. Whose fault is that? Not the poet's. After she said the nigga was average, she said she was average too.. That or was not living up to her full potential. Either way the poet realized she fell in love with a man who didnt want love. He was perfectly honest but she saw what she wanted, so he played the part to get what he wanted. When he left her she was angry, and that's where the ranting comes from. Both of them were wrong.
It's not fair to make comments that put all females in the same category. Not all women thrive on drama. There are plenty differences between the sexes. I'm just saying this poem was one of the rare poems where the women owns her mistake. Her plight isn't uncommon but the poem was about her and the man she behaved foolishly for.
I have to disagree. Sometimes people (whether you're a woman or man) need to hear a song, or a poem, or speech before they realize what they are doing wrong. Love truly can be blinding and this poem is about what she dealt with, what she came to realize and in the end what she took away from the experience. She learned her lesson. There is nothing negative about the poem. This was about one man, one woman, and one lesson.
Dana is THE truth! We women gotta take responsibility for being too available, too needy, too scared to let the otha women get em'- and yes if he was an average dude, maybe we some average females!- The truth hurt a little, don't it? I love her!
Dana very clearly stated she is not the victim and acknowledged she could have done things differently and then the break up would have been "one of those things".. How then, could you say she was bitching and whining. She also said either SHE wasn't living up to HER potential or SHE was just an average chick. If anything she opened women's to the control they do have in all those messed up relationships they "complain" about..
Everyone has given time and attention to someone undeserving of it. Male or female is irrelevant. Some hold it in, some let it out, and Dana let it out. Loved it
GOOD POINT!!!!....but they hella needy at times and to me that's bitchin'....they just don't voice it as much as we do....everybody complains alright...it's just women VOICE it and men AVOID it
but all that is so true...men bitch and whine too...and if you don't notice...there's men cheering for her too...there's nothin stoppin a man from goin up the there...the bitchin and whining goes both ways...no ones wrong or right...casue in the end...we all in the same boat...
this is my favorite poem. it help me to see thing i knew i had to do but i was scared that he might change and some other chick might get him but they can have his sorry ass
I see the same audience as i see in some other great poetry clips. This must have been one hell of a night! I think Gemineye did his Bloodlines thing for these people as well...
DAMN!!!!!! This chick read my diary of something, I will mos def keep her words in mind when that nigga that is average doing average nigga shit tries to hit me up again. AMAZING!!!!
Love this poem. It's so true.
GetOffMyTwittur 1 month ago
Love her!! One of my favorite poets
mahoganyjpoet 1 month ago
This poem is incredible. Dana Gilmore is an insane lyricist. Such as inspiration for my own poetry.
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ralphjthomas 2 months ago
tru sht!!!!
tieshamorrison78 2 months ago
SHE KILLLEEEEEDDDDD THIS POOOOOEEEEMM!!!
TeaRonWatkinz 3 months ago
HELLO!!!!!!!
BigyounginJackson09 4 months ago
ii feel this shit!!! yhu go girl! omg!
hayitibeauty209 5 months ago
She's my real cousin, ha!
jasmineturner28 5 months ago
I LOVE IT!!!!!!!!!!!!! THIS LADY GOES HARD IN THAT POEM. MUCH LOVE MUCH SOUL
youmysecretlove 5 months ago
I love her she is so artistic i love this!!!!
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GoodNightLois 7 months ago
but IIIIII couldn't shake him
he was like a bad habbit
and all this for a n****
that was just average
doing average n**** shit
so either i wasn't living up to my potential, or I was just an average chick.
love4noreason 7 months ago 7
so real. speaks the truth. hits home
Mzeus2002 8 months ago
thiz shit right here Man!!!
mzsexi254 8 months ago
Love it ... nice !!!
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mslsc28 9 months ago
This the girl from the lupe tracks? She sounds like it.
ThoseWhoStayUofM 9 months ago
that was really good and so true
daffodil1087 9 months ago
Truth in rare form.
royalnotes1 10 months ago
girls should learn from this lmao real talk what doesnt exist now
truelocve 10 months ago
Love this.!
mrz2sexcii 10 months ago
hell i should've been mad at me..WHAT!!
dlawton4 11 months ago
She did her thang! Check out some of her other poems
eclispedk 11 months ago
to the 14 who disliked sit y'all asses down, sit y'all asses down.
sugababy1214 11 months ago 25
i love this poem
antanique159 1 year ago
i love the lyrical potent in this...
nragedyanna 1 year ago
damn... she spoke the truth.. everything ive been going thru..
ixuaiintmexi 1 year ago
The BEST YET!!!
JaydahG6King 1 year ago
Loved it!
Happy2bwithim 1 year ago
I absolutely LOVE this!!!!! I don't get tired of listening to it!
Cuculina67 1 year ago 4
"shit thats off limits to me like
his side of my bed"
"all this for an average nigga
doing average nigga shit.."
MANNNN!!!!!
Angelinaatccc 1 year ago
Every woman of every single race should listen to this.I had my mama listen to this and she was going through this same situation, and after she finished watching this, HE was gone the next day!!!!!
PrematurePoetry 1 year ago 14
damn she is nice!!! :)
TheMandyrockstar 1 year ago 2
whew!!!
edlynegue123 1 year ago
DOPE, DOPE, DOPE!!!
MsKeisha29 1 year ago
First one that gave me goosebumps.
ShaundraLikeWhoa 1 year ago 2
Loving This;)
Im definitely feeling this... Ive been here before
MrsMJ25 1 year ago 2
Loving This;)
MrsMJ25 1 year ago
love love loved it! check out my performance from the Tyler Perry for colored girls poetry slam! Forbidden Love
afrikanbuttafly 1 year ago
I love this...I wish the poem was written down
godivadelight 1 year ago
@godivadelight i have part one and part two written down. i had to search the internet looong and hard for it though. give me your email and i'll send you a copy
leimonei 1 year ago
@godivadelight send me your email and i will send you a copy of part one and two. i have both written down thanks to a loooong internet search
leimonei 1 year ago
omg . inlove . lemme replay that . . . <3
dreamerbre 1 year ago
aye i was like 17 when i 1st heard this n damn she was speaking my emotions dana u my inspiration lovin your poetry skills " i probably would of listen when he said it was some shit he had to get out system but see i was too busy bitching jumping bad like i was gon hit him"gurl u killed dis shit frm beginnning to end cause " i would do it all again just next time 4 my husband not dat niggah i call my friend"
da1andonlisexythug 1 year ago
I've watched this so many times and still not tired of it, this is deep! Can relate to everything shes saying with a similar situation!
islandbeauty4 1 year ago
damn! that was good. i know what she is feeling. she got it right on the spot
Rigga4 1 year ago
Kudos!!! snap snap!!! loved it!!!! So real...she don't even know but she just taught me a thing or two.
loveleedreams 1 year ago
DARNELL JONES lols u goin hard on dis ish ma
lilneefalife 1 year ago
i need this in writing soo i can post it on my blog! Looooves it. i can related soo much to alomst everything she said in this <3
ImaniiiV 1 year ago
man I love her
blueidprincess07 1 year ago
@sweettuth99 shut up
lakifran 1 year ago
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lakifran 1 year ago
this poem is so serious
missgottahav 1 year ago
11 people need to get their ears checked.
Hypn0tiqu3 1 year ago 2
"Had da auDACity 2 step 2 me on this Donell Jones I don't know where I WANT 2 BE type ISH!"....Dana this is like 100th time I have listened 2 this one!!!! LOL, you are INDEED da TRUTH!! K, have 2 press play again, need THIS today!!!! smh at men who ATTEMPT to follow my hubby, a legacy only a KING can continue!! ~Mz Deeva, Texas' fav Blog Talk Radio Host~
Da1TruEzzence 1 year ago
Luv this poem!!!
LadyL49 1 year ago
So good. Gave me the shivers!
leobermi 1 year ago
HELL YEAH
MiniSativaDominatrix 1 year ago
I just luv dat '... I give it up again! Just next time to my husband n not dat ninja I call my friend!' Dana! This is still my top fav poem! Sigh, men like that, been there too lady! Smh
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p8anut 1 year ago
this is some real shit!!
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p8anut 1 year ago
you have no idea how much i love this poem... she da truth.
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p8anut 1 year ago
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p8anut 1 year ago
I'm feel this spyt!
vibesboo 1 year ago
@sweetuth99 - You are getting funnier and funnier. You keep rebutting points that I haven't made (and tearing down straw men of your own construction is a tell tale sign of those who are either: hopelessly losing a debate, or cluelessly unaware of how to formulate a coherent thought/argument/response).
The more you type, the more you expose your own foolishness (let alone the name-calling nonsense).
Happy "flaming" (I thought that went out in 1999).
gwposey 1 year ago
@sweetuth99 - I'm sorry. I didn't realize the fact that "the "condescension" went both ways" was an excuse for you to be an idiot. And your inability to recognize ANALOGY (in my Glenn Beck comment) as opposed to DIRECT ATTRIBUTION further speaks to the lack of comprehension and intelligence you possess.
At no point did I deny that there is "two-way" offense in the "battle of the sexes". I merely pointed out that in NO WAY has it become "tougher on men than women" in this society. You funny.
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gwposey 1 year ago
@sweetuth99 - Wow, dude. You obviously have no idea how ridiculous you come off, both with your condescending comments to "sultrysound" and your silly railing against " double standards that DOMINATE this society", and such.
Are you seriously proposing that it's "tougher on men"? You sound like Glenn Beck and the like, crying about how tough it is to be a white man in America.
Pretty laughable, really. But it seems you were looking for a fight with your inflammatory comments.
Just my 2c
gwposey1 1 year ago
THT WAS BEASTIN!!!!
ladycashflow2 1 year ago
i love it!!!
BosLady87 1 year ago
I love this shit!
Shea354 1 year ago
And all this for a nigga who was average doing average nigga shit!! Love it!!
kglo24 1 year ago
What race is she?
LadiiKay3000 1 year ago
@LadiiKay3000 she's probably black or mixed
DaMostEnigmatic 1 year ago
@LadiiKay3000 She black
TeaYanaTreasure 1 year ago
so deep i love it
Dyeisha09 1 year ago
Thee Truth! Absolutely
leeleefromthed 1 year ago
OMG !
that's freacking amazing :D
she is so funny and a great poet
stars270 1 year ago 2
I'm a guy, and I'm feeling her on this. My first girl, I gave my heart, hope, and faith to her, and she didn't like me nearly as much as I liked her. and while I'm hurt, I know I would def do it again, but next time for my wife
tg343441 1 year ago 3
I luv dis poem! I have watched it over and over again too! Go live everytime!
Da1TruEzzence 2 years ago 4
I LOVE I! iVE HEARD IT OVER AND OVER & IT STILL GO HARD EVERYTIME!!! I FEEL HER LIKE FA REAL FA REAL!
myandria1devereux 2 years ago 6
That's right!!!!!!
trakhill92 2 years ago
GET IT!!!!!
jassminyoung 2 years ago 3
the poem of her was the best and she has alot more i like.
hazeleye42 2 years ago
Dayummmmmmmmmmm dat shit was deep
MsLariie 2 years ago
in da bac of her mind all she could do is fathom on how much i goina miss him, but jus bcuz im cryin dont mean dat im da victim, jus means i was scared 2 let him go cuz someotha chick might get him, & dat was my fault because dat was my decision, i should have neva put my ♥ in my minds position......THATS DEEP
LILTIGGERTASH 2 years ago 99
"His side of MY bed"
"i will do it all again. but next time for my husband and not that nigga i call my friend"
i love it!
dYnAsTyDA1st 2 years ago 83
like this.
Mongo76 2 years ago
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I thought she was testing the mic, using words randomly.
sciprio 2 years ago
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And where´s the poetry? I think the video ended before the poet went to stage.
sciprio 2 years ago
THE TRUTH
supacyn1 2 years ago 2
That was the shit!!
NittiThaBest 2 years ago 4
Speechless. so true tho.
Joiwashere 2 years ago 3
i love her (no homo)....she so real!
glamchyck06 2 years ago 5
she's hell sick wit it.. love this poem... love the way she ended it :D
angelbaybe673 2 years ago 5
this is incredible stuff
just,, wow..
zl8er 2 years ago 2
That's what the fuck I'm talking about. We've all done it.
ValeriesGal 2 years ago 4
no, not all of us
dalishisnsassy 2 years ago
Not yet. lol
If it doesn't pertain to you then ignore it, love.
ValeriesGal 2 years ago 3
thats a sad thing to say
dalishisnsassy 2 years ago
it's a experience that happens in a lot of women's lifves. It may be sad but it's true. i repeat, if it does not pertain to you, then ignore it.
it's a poem for crying out loud. i can relate to it.
the end.
ValeriesGal 2 years ago
omg i loved it
D3RRA14 2 years ago 3
omg i loved it
DessieB0o 2 years ago
DAMN!!! WOWOW!!!
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manez1234 2 years ago
Her pain is so real that now I know how sista's feel.
brotherminister1930 2 years ago 5
That's a real woman!!!!!! I get so tired of hearin how a nigga did u so wrong. It's about time a real woman told it how it is. Ladies, stop fuckin with low class men (boys) and find a husband.
chrispriveco 2 years ago 5
"just an average" mofo. been there...
bleuivy 2 years ago
Furthermore, it is also apparent that this is going no where (as I mentioned before) So of course you will have the last word as I have exhausted this poem and this conversation. You are a great debater, but I fear you may take yourself too seriously.. Now THAT is a reactionary assumption. Forgive me if I'm wrong, I leave you with this: To thine own self be true.. Recognize that there are good, bad and misunderstood in everyone.. Life will seem a little more "kumbaya". lol
sultrysound 2 years ago
I simply disagree. I'm not calling you silly or a caveman.. I just disagree, but YOU hurl insults. AGAIN my comments are not reactionary, they are observant. If you can't stand the reflection, don't look into the mirror.
sultrysound 2 years ago
And contrary to what you make think about MY relationship with men. I don't deal with BS. If he cant be straight up, he can bounce.. It took me a minute to get to this point in my life but I'm still young so thank God I didnt spend half my life figuring this out. I know now what she discovered by the end of the poem. If I'm gonna go all out for a man he will be my husband. Consequently, I dont stay in a reltionship for long.. Men seem to think sex is mandatory.. I disagree so they move on..
sultrysound 2 years ago
My assumption is based on what I read in your comments and the offensive tone in which you write. What I assume is not an attack on your character. There are plenty that believe they are rarely wrong.
That said, I'm not a feminist, I a woman with the ability to rationalize. At the end of the day we all live in a man's world whether you would be willing to admit that or not so if a woman wants to vent about a man that aint worth the time it takes to blink who are we to judge her?
sultrysound 2 years ago
I've heard plenty men tell women to be women
I never said I was the deciding factor in whether you are wrong or right. It merely becomes apparent that you deciding you're wrong doesnt happen often
AND I surround myself with men who tell me the truth (whether I want it or not) I much rather be upset at having to deal with the truth then be hurt by uncovering a lie. Seems to me like you've never heard more than one type of woman's perspective. Maybe you should be grateful..
sultrysound 2 years ago
contd... Women are better at expressing themselves, we are also more emotional so it makes sense that when we write a poem, it's about a man we loved and lost or still love but cant have, or love and live with, or have walked away from. Men could write about this but the men on dpj chose not to.
And there are PLENTY men walking around ignorant to how stupid they sound trust me on this...
sultrysound 2 years ago
All of that and you're still to the left of the point. I could care less about the percentages. The point is both men and women cause relationships to fail. Both men and women live under double standards that favor one side or the other. What ever the "numbers" are we ALL have been hurt in one way or another.
sultrysound 2 years ago
Plus, listening a little more carefully to the poem, they (the women) were amen-ing to the things all women allow non committing men to do. They were laughing at themselves. How could you mistake this for a we hate men convention?
sultrysound 2 years ago
I imagine we sound as stupid as y'all sound sometimes..
Anyway, man enough only meant "adult". Sometimes assuming the responsibility pays. Like I said before, had he walked away, the poem would be solely about her. Women know what they want.. Well-- I do, and while I'll never be a man, you'll never be a woman so this arguement will truly go now where. It's apparent that you feel there is no way you could be wrong, but you won't allow yourself to hear how both parties contribute.
sultrysound 2 years ago
And again you're assuming I watch those shows.. I could care less about what other women think about relationships when they arent even in successful ones. I wish I could show the poets I'm talking about but they are amatuer poets and don't have tv spots and such.. They should though. I know double standards exist but feminism started because women were not being treated fairly. Now, women are going overboard, I agree but there are double standards that favor men as well (created by men).
sultrysound 2 years ago
It takes two. All of this could have been avoided if she accepted the relationship for what ot was or if he, knowing she was in love with him, was man enough to walk away. This isn't oprah-- Oprah probably would have blamed the man entirely.. lol.
I'm saying that in this situation they both were wrong. I agree that sometimes it is entirely the woman's fault but not all the time. Stupid, take-what-i-want-and-leave men do exist, but they have female counterparts as well.
sultrysound 2 years ago
Watchin it again...this poem is STILL tight!
NewBeginning22 2 years ago
But he was wrong, in that, he didn't leave her alone. He stuck around, used her and then left.. So he was wrong too, and because this is her poem, she called him on it. I have heard male spoken word artists recite poetry about backstabbing women and women who think beauty is an occupation. I don't complain, I accept that women like that exist. We agree that she was an idiot, but that changed. It's her right to write what she feels about men, The same thing goes for a male poet.
sultrysound 2 years ago
Those women probably reacted like that because they could identify.. Whose fault is that? Not the poet's. After she said the nigga was average, she said she was average too.. That or was not living up to her full potential. Either way the poet realized she fell in love with a man who didnt want love. He was perfectly honest but she saw what she wanted, so he played the part to get what he wanted. When he left her she was angry, and that's where the ranting comes from. Both of them were wrong.
sultrysound 2 years ago
It's not fair to make comments that put all females in the same category. Not all women thrive on drama. There are plenty differences between the sexes. I'm just saying this poem was one of the rare poems where the women owns her mistake. Her plight isn't uncommon but the poem was about her and the man she behaved foolishly for.
sultrysound 2 years ago
i think about most of the people that commented missed the point of the poem
Mariah203 2 years ago
I have to disagree. Sometimes people (whether you're a woman or man) need to hear a song, or a poem, or speech before they realize what they are doing wrong. Love truly can be blinding and this poem is about what she dealt with, what she came to realize and in the end what she took away from the experience. She learned her lesson. There is nothing negative about the poem. This was about one man, one woman, and one lesson.
sultrysound 2 years ago
Biggggggggg
zahraelaine 2 years ago
Dana is THE truth! We women gotta take responsibility for being too available, too needy, too scared to let the otha women get em'- and yes if he was an average dude, maybe we some average females!- The truth hurt a little, don't it? I love her!
LiberatedSista 2 years ago
Dana very clearly stated she is not the victim and acknowledged she could have done things differently and then the break up would have been "one of those things".. How then, could you say she was bitching and whining. She also said either SHE wasn't living up to HER potential or SHE was just an average chick. If anything she opened women's to the control they do have in all those messed up relationships they "complain" about..
sultrysound 2 years ago 3
You Go Gurl! You tellin the truth!
myluv300 2 years ago 2
Everyone has given time and attention to someone undeserving of it. Male or female is irrelevant. Some hold it in, some let it out, and Dana let it out. Loved it
Testorshia 2 years ago 2
GOOD POINT!!!!....but they hella needy at times and to me that's bitchin'....they just don't voice it as much as we do....everybody complains alright...it's just women VOICE it and men AVOID it
afakasigirl77 2 years ago
but all that is so true...men bitch and whine too...and if you don't notice...there's men cheering for her too...there's nothin stoppin a man from goin up the there...the bitchin and whining goes both ways...no ones wrong or right...casue in the end...we all in the same boat...
afakasigirl77 2 years ago 2
goin thru it rite now
deshikabrewer 2 years ago
WELL SAID!!!
lavellewhitehead 2 years ago
t3ll iyyt gurl
Diamond3344 2 years ago
Ooooohhhh, girl...we have all done this.
witheyeslikethese 2 years ago 2
say it again!!!! 120proof~!
blacksunpearl 2 years ago
For an average nigga doing average nigga shit! mmhmmm say it girl!! I'm loving this!!!
CherieD876 2 years ago 2
i feel bad for the asshole who gave up a chick this awesome...poetic chicks ruuuullle
0thatdudewill0 2 years ago 6
damn, this sound EXACTLY what i went through.
loyal2love 2 years ago 3
Pretty sure she read straight from my diary...
SexYliCioUsAsh08 2 years ago
wow. so powerful. Sounds exactly like my situation. Almost exactly the same. LOVE IT.
SexYliCioUsAsh08 2 years ago 2
She is so cold . i like her poetry.
MsJoAnnBuck 2 years ago
i love this poem.she da truth!
meesi89 2 years ago 2
PREACH IT!
lildmom 2 years ago 2
i get chills everytime i hear this. everytime!
DanisKrazy 2 years ago
damn ,, sound like the same damn situation ,, damn.... this go hard ...
mzch3v1uz 2 years ago
True! Two sides of the medal, that win no price :-(
deborahbetty58 2 years ago
This is the shit I love it.
MBOYA22 2 years ago 2
"And though it may sound stupid, guess what? I would do it all again. Just next time for my husband and not that nigga I call my friend."
That is a statement that all women should think about.
auntiesbaby 2 years ago 9
oh yes!
she killd it
lilmissleicy 2 years ago 3
she took the words RIGHT outta my mouth
MoneyFace07 2 years ago 4
Damn, Purely Powerful, and Very Beautiful, Makes me want to Congradulate, Support, and Love her all at the same time
just4yutube 2 years ago 5
wooooooooo shez gud
miztosky 2 years ago
Not ONE word wasted..
FAN - FUCKING - TASTIC.
victoria820redx 2 years ago 7
this poem gives me power. i feel like shes reading my life story back to me
ilymrcurtis21 2 years ago 3
All I can say is WOW!!!
yikaconner 2 years ago 4
She OWNED The Crowd.
n For More Than Enough Reason.
cmofbarefoot 2 years ago
this is my favorite poem. it help me to see thing i knew i had to do but i was scared that he might change and some other chick might get him but they can have his sorry ass
datdimediva86 2 years ago 4
I heard this poem at a time when I really need to hear it!!! It really touched me, brought tears to me eyes and opened them!!
KeepinItStr8Funky100 2 years ago 2
I KNOW THATS RIGHT!!
scec2008 2 years ago 3
Masterful!
conradecek 2 years ago 2
I FEEL THAT SHIIT....
MelNiece 2 years ago 3
she is the truth
lilkevo317 2 years ago 2
dana gilmore is one amazin poet u go girl
Sreenie83 2 years ago 2
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Sreenie83 2 years ago
She is the truth!!!!!
21andSingleMomOfOne 2 years ago
I see the same audience as i see in some other great poetry clips. This must have been one hell of a night! I think Gemineye did his Bloodlines thing for these people as well...
Troublesome2008 2 years ago 2
Hot !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
tall0362 2 years ago
daMn diS riiGH hEa iZ sUm REO iSh.... LoVe daH heLL ouTTaH diS poEm!!
tuhda 2 years ago
Wow... im feeling this.
illative 2 years ago 2
"Just cuz Im cryin yall dont mean that Im the victim. Just means I was scared to let him go cuz some other chick might get him."
"And though it may sound stupid, Guess What?
I would do it all again. Just, next time for my husband, and not that nigga I call my friend."
I Love It!!!!
auntiesbaby 2 years ago 4
DAMN!!!!!! This chick read my diary of something, I will mos def keep her words in mind when that nigga that is average doing average nigga shit tries to hit me up again. AMAZING!!!!
pyt223 2 years ago