I was in a similar situation actually and I have to say that it seem selfish, everybody is imposing and advocating for what they want but who's looking after you?! Think about what's best for you. Your feelings are as important as his and your parents and friends! It's not their life it's not their heart! I don't know how old you are but if you're under 25 RUN!!!!! If you're over 25 RUN if you know deep down in your heart that it isn't working leave!!!!
Mid life crisis, lol... I was *born* an old codger! As you said, you know what you want to do. Are you locked in to tenancy agreement for the house? If not, get the hell out of there. You know that what your parents want should have no bearing on what you want. You need to follow what you already know. Get out of there. Move to Stafford. I'm sure it's more lovely there than it sounds (!)
Dump them both and go live with your friends you know and what ever love you find there you find! (: also I feel bad for the guy your currently dating):
By the by, I speak from experience. I did not end it and had someone else who I was "sparking with", and instead of an amicable break-up it turned into an "I don't ever want to speak to you again!" situation. (No I didn't cheat in anyone's head by my "girlfriend's"...long story) It took us years to rebuild a friendship. Learn from my mistake!! lol
@Starksoul You speak with much wiseness stark, I appreciate your comment and honesty. Hearing this really helps, I just don't know how I'm supposed to just be like 'so...I don't want this anymore' >_<
Seriously, it has to be a combination of honesty, empathy, and firmness. He's gonna beg, cry, and accuse. No way around that. But a clean break will be best in the end. Not to sound trite & superficial, but if you ain't happy with the relationship you need to leave. If my offline friends read this they would make a crack about following my own advice; but we're talking about you, not me! ;-)
I'll be a stereotypically tactless American: End it. It will only get worse.
Realistically, if he is rushed to move you in, what do you think is the next step? I doubt you want to wait until he is fitting a ring on your finger to say that you want to end it. You had misgivings right from the outset, so the other guy is irrelevant now. Although if you stay in the relationship you may "fall into" an affair with him. That is human nature. Do it now and try to salvage a friendship from it.
I know making that leap of faith to get rid of him is a terrible burden because of the worry of how everyone will react. But the longer you wait, the more tension that will build up, the more miserable you will be, and the bigger it'll blow up when you finally do break it off with him.
I don't know, it's what I'd do. I can't stand the idea of living a life with someone I don't feel passionately for.
Feel free to hit me up for a rant or something if you'd like. My inbox and whatnot is open.
Unless it's mad, passionate, extraordinary love, it's a waste of your time. There are too many mediocre things in life; love shouldn't be one of them.
Breaking up with your current boyfriend is probably going to start drama with your friends considering the fact that they've already chosen to try to emotionally blackmail you, but if you're even questioning whether or not you should be with him you've practically answered your own question.
it's not ur parents or ur friends living ur life,it's u.if u'r not happy,first of all,he'll feel that sooner or later,and u wot be able to make anybody around u happy.it's not that u should jump into a new relationship, i'd actually recommend against that.but u shouldn't be with someone if u feel it's not right.i know what u'r going through,ive been there.i did break up with the guy, it was shit for a while,then it got better.good luck,follow ur heart not anybody else.
I was in a similar situation actually and I have to say that it seem selfish, everybody is imposing and advocating for what they want but who's looking after you?! Think about what's best for you. Your feelings are as important as his and your parents and friends! It's not their life it's not their heart! I don't know how old you are but if you're under 25 RUN!!!!! If you're over 25 RUN if you know deep down in your heart that it isn't working leave!!!!
lynelucas28 3 weeks ago
Mid life crisis, lol... I was *born* an old codger! As you said, you know what you want to do. Are you locked in to tenancy agreement for the house? If not, get the hell out of there. You know that what your parents want should have no bearing on what you want. You need to follow what you already know. Get out of there. Move to Stafford. I'm sure it's more lovely there than it sounds (!)
MrBoyuki 3 weeks ago
Dump them both and go live with your friends you know and what ever love you find there you find! (: also I feel bad for the guy your currently dating):
WhisperingToaster 3 weeks ago
Don't worry about "being the bad guy". Yeah it will suck but you need to do what is best for you. It's no good to go through life being unhappy.
Good luck!! I hope everything works out ok for you.
stupidlamb118 3 weeks ago
By the by, I speak from experience. I did not end it and had someone else who I was "sparking with", and instead of an amicable break-up it turned into an "I don't ever want to speak to you again!" situation. (No I didn't cheat in anyone's head by my "girlfriend's"...long story) It took us years to rebuild a friendship. Learn from my mistake!! lol
Starksoul 3 weeks ago
@Starksoul You speak with much wiseness stark, I appreciate your comment and honesty. Hearing this really helps, I just don't know how I'm supposed to just be like 'so...I don't want this anymore' >_<
SkogenWhisper 3 weeks ago
@SkogenWhisper lol @wiseness
Seriously, it has to be a combination of honesty, empathy, and firmness. He's gonna beg, cry, and accuse. No way around that. But a clean break will be best in the end. Not to sound trite & superficial, but if you ain't happy with the relationship you need to leave. If my offline friends read this they would make a crack about following my own advice; but we're talking about you, not me! ;-)
Starksoul 3 weeks ago
I'll be a stereotypically tactless American: End it. It will only get worse.
Realistically, if he is rushed to move you in, what do you think is the next step? I doubt you want to wait until he is fitting a ring on your finger to say that you want to end it. You had misgivings right from the outset, so the other guy is irrelevant now. Although if you stay in the relationship you may "fall into" an affair with him. That is human nature. Do it now and try to salvage a friendship from it.
Starksoul 3 weeks ago
Hope it works out and the stress is alleviated. D:
whisperingteddy 3 weeks ago
I know making that leap of faith to get rid of him is a terrible burden because of the worry of how everyone will react. But the longer you wait, the more tension that will build up, the more miserable you will be, and the bigger it'll blow up when you finally do break it off with him.
I don't know, it's what I'd do. I can't stand the idea of living a life with someone I don't feel passionately for.
Feel free to hit me up for a rant or something if you'd like. My inbox and whatnot is open.
whisperingteddy 3 weeks ago
Unless it's mad, passionate, extraordinary love, it's a waste of your time. There are too many mediocre things in life; love shouldn't be one of them.
Breaking up with your current boyfriend is probably going to start drama with your friends considering the fact that they've already chosen to try to emotionally blackmail you, but if you're even questioning whether or not you should be with him you've practically answered your own question.
whisperingteddy 3 weeks ago
it's not ur parents or ur friends living ur life,it's u.if u'r not happy,first of all,he'll feel that sooner or later,and u wot be able to make anybody around u happy.it's not that u should jump into a new relationship, i'd actually recommend against that.but u shouldn't be with someone if u feel it's not right.i know what u'r going through,ive been there.i did break up with the guy, it was shit for a while,then it got better.good luck,follow ur heart not anybody else.
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