Just a heads up about the Twilight series.... Stephenie Meyers got the story from the demonic world. I'm serious. She said she had voices in her head and it compelled her to type the story out. She never intended to write the story nor was she ever interested in vampires.
@vizion24- Whaaatt?? Are you serious? Wow, didn't know that the author got that from the demon world... Hmmm... maybe that's why i had weird feelings about her whenever I saw her on TV or saw her in an interview or something.. Well, I made that video before I was saved so i didn't catch that.. but thanks for the heads up... It makes sense.
@aphoenixrising11 Well, I'm not going to say I'm 100% sure she did but just based on the evidence it really does seem like she did. I'll send you a private message of a link to a post I made about it.
.....You should not hurry anything, remain true to yourself. Hopefully your match comes along and makes you complete.
Me personally I don't date that much, in part because I feel that many people are sheep and lost and hard to find a normal person to connect with, and I don't even consider my standards to be high, it's just that most others' standards are low! :D
Thanks for being so open with the world in this video!
@30somethingdude- Thanks for your encouraging words! I know I am single for a reason... I feel I am JUST starting live my life and answer my calling... long story... but yea, I am not in any rush... there is a reason for everything. Nice channel you have! I just saw it now!
Modern day 30s are a strange thing. My Facebook makes me cringe when I see women competing to share baby pictures (people always thinks their kid looks the best, even when he or she is butt ugly!).
I'm not sure about finding your match though, I have a more pragmatic view these days. I think we (and women especially) have been led to feel they can find that perfect match but what if chance does not fall your way and you never find it?
2 corinth,6:14-, it is vital to be matched by heart, values, focus, to follow God, or later probe will arise, there must be a Godly balance, meaning both people are serious for God, and it is shown by actions,
i was dating this guy for two years and I thought he was the one...we just clicked ...chemistry, connection...well, one day he rolled up on his motorcycle and dumped me! he said he just didn't feel it im like..after two years?? he said he tried but... so, yes, dating can suck! i feel like im not good enough and people just use me,, you know...im like you in that i don't want to be used to make a family or just to settle down! the most beautiful young looking happy women are single!
@Jessi251- There's a saying: "Women may fake orgasms, but men fake whole relationships!" My friend was with someone for FIVE YEARS and she had no doubt that she would eventually marry him... WRONG! He dumped her! So... Guard your heart my dear and let the man show you he loves you with his actions and KNOW where he stands. You are a treasure that should be cherished.. NEVER forget that. Much love to you Jessi251!
you sound like you know what you want and that's more than most people who are married! because of that I believe you are going to get your real true love someday and you will have that connection and growing love! You are a very beautiful and compassionate person who knows who she is and that's why you will not settle....you are looking for real love not attention. Stay strong!
@Jessi251- Thank you so much for your kind words and encouragement! Let's both be strong and have faith that the person we were meant to be with WILL come along. In the meantime, let's love ourselves!
So true! Well spoken, thanks for being real enough to speak your mind about dating in your 30's. I am in the same circumstance & am unwilling to settle. Best wishes:)
@annamariesweetie- Thank you so much for watching! I had to vent!! Haha, thanks for listening and best of luck to you too! Keep me posted! Let me know when you've found him!
I feel your frustration. Feeling lonely and not sharing your life with that special someone sucks. After watching your vid I feel better knowing there are still some beautiful and intelligent 30 somthings out there still looking :) Thanks for the video. I think ur absolutely gorgeous.
@janboogy- Thank you so much for you kind words! I am glad I could offer some consolation with this thing called 'dating!' Keep me posted, I'd love to hear when you find "the one!"
I once read, if you're "looking or finding" then it's the brain that's working not the heart. And when you do come across that someone, chances are your brain will try to convince your heart with its sales pitch.
Even with this understanding, most of us are still searching...
@kensyap- Wow... nicely said and very profound.. My brain definitely has given my heart the sales pitch... and my heart wants to buy!! Just don't want to suffer from buyer's remorse! lol.
@madopi- That is so inspiring! I really think I need to stop "looking" and just keep focusing on what makes me happy... I do believe that person will come along if i don't try so hard to find him! Thanks for sharing your own experience!
@madopi- EXACTLY!! The questioning never ends does it?! Lol, I am preparing myself for living an unconventional life... if I am single until I die, oh well! I won't settle with just anyone just because people say that I should get married!
Unfortunately as women enter their thirties their options in the dating market start to shrink, this is a reality, and often results in rise in unhappiness among women. On top of that the desirability of the guy that they can attract compared to their twenties starts to drop and that is why it feels like settling. If you pay attention to young women, all they are gossiping about is all the hot guys that are paying attention to them, and they seem invincible, until they end up unmarried and 35.
@ad17939- Yes, I agree with you! It is an unfortunate reality but I guess I am a hopeless romantic... I have had that undeniable connection with someone before and I know the taste of that. I want that again! I realize I may not ever experience that kind of connection again but I really can't imagine marrying someone just for the sake of it... Not sure if you've seen my other videos but I am not your average Asian woman. I already know I will have an unconventional life!
@aphoenixrising11 Based on your response, I can already tell that you are steps ahead of the average thirty something women in denial. Women often confuse between the guys who are willing to date them(short term relationships), versus guys willing to commit(longer term partnerships). In general a women can attract a lot more desirable partner for dating as opposed to committing, and most women that I know don't see the distinction. Of course no one is going to tell them.
@ad17939- Thanks... yea, no one is going to tell a woman the truth about whether the guy she is dating is just dating her and isn't really gonna commit because of course feelings will get hurt... Me, I like the truth. And I can tell when I guy just wants to play around... Ugh, I hate those guys! Lol.
and are possibly afraid to take a chance. Other times, it's other issues (possibly childhood trauma) that took place in which true healing never too place which results in where we are at today. But whatever the case may be, I hope you find the person whom is right for you, only you will know that. And btw, only thing harder than a 30 something female looking to find love and settle down, is a 40 something male who does not have his 'shit' together, trying to do the same.
Everyone who is 'single' is looking for their counterpart, like I said in the very beginning when we first met. Our hearts and souls long for and pursuit it each and every day as long as humans have inhabited this world. We can't deny it or dismiss it. Most people who don't have their soul mate (or significant partner) long for it. Yes, sometimes people settle for less because they don't know or believe they can find it. Sometimes, they get tired of the process of getting to know 'new' people.
Connie, I just wanna tell you that You are enough! YOU ARE ENOUGH!!! Whatever happens in the world of form is ephemeral and fleeting, while your consciousness and love towards others are everlasting. Then it will matter less if don't get your heart's desire. If you can have it, it's beautiful, it adds to your life, but it's not part of you. And I love the way you are being true to yourself and not want to be the one that anybody else want you to be.
@to2101- Awww.. you're the sweetest! You are too young to be this spiritually awakened! So cool! Keep searching, don't stop. The moment you stop seeking is the moment you stop getting answers. You must continually strive for spiritual evolution. I will not stop seeking, it is just my nature. Some people DON'T EVER seek. They are comfortable. And that is death! Peace and blessings to you!
@AstarsVison- Thank you so much for your support! And you're absolutely right- gotta find the love within first for sure!! This is the key. Blessings to you!
Wow...for you to be so refreshingly honest and true to who you are...and always reminding yourself of that was truly amazing to watch. We are of kindred spirit Connie and I know what you are talking about, which is why I am still unmarried at 40...no making fun...LOL! You speak of passion...a vital component to a loving relationship between a man and a woman. It is what drives the connection...it is the fire in which you both burn...have faith and continue on your path & he will discover you...
@PBlueturtle- Thank you so much! You know exactly where I am coming from! I am going to watch that vid you sent me so give me a few days to formulate my answer!
Just a heads up about the Twilight series.... Stephenie Meyers got the story from the demonic world. I'm serious. She said she had voices in her head and it compelled her to type the story out. She never intended to write the story nor was she ever interested in vampires.
vizion24 2 weeks ago
@vizion24- Whaaatt?? Are you serious? Wow, didn't know that the author got that from the demon world... Hmmm... maybe that's why i had weird feelings about her whenever I saw her on TV or saw her in an interview or something.. Well, I made that video before I was saved so i didn't catch that.. but thanks for the heads up... It makes sense.
aphoenixrising11 2 weeks ago
@aphoenixrising11 Well, I'm not going to say I'm 100% sure she did but just based on the evidence it really does seem like she did. I'll send you a private message of a link to a post I made about it.
vizion24 2 weeks ago
.....You should not hurry anything, remain true to yourself. Hopefully your match comes along and makes you complete.
Me personally I don't date that much, in part because I feel that many people are sheep and lost and hard to find a normal person to connect with, and I don't even consider my standards to be high, it's just that most others' standards are low! :D
Thanks for being so open with the world in this video!
30somethingdude 1 month ago
@30somethingdude- Thanks for your encouraging words! I know I am single for a reason... I feel I am JUST starting live my life and answer my calling... long story... but yea, I am not in any rush... there is a reason for everything. Nice channel you have! I just saw it now!
aphoenixrising11 1 month ago
@aphoenixrising11 hey thanks for subscribing. yeah i am firmly a believer that when you don't look for something, it just happens to you.
30somethingdude 1 month ago
Modern day 30s are a strange thing. My Facebook makes me cringe when I see women competing to share baby pictures (people always thinks their kid looks the best, even when he or she is butt ugly!).
I'm not sure about finding your match though, I have a more pragmatic view these days. I think we (and women especially) have been led to feel they can find that perfect match but what if chance does not fall your way and you never find it?
I know where you are coming from though.....
30somethingdude 1 month ago
mark 9:23
cry4fire 1 month ago
2 corinth,6:14-, it is vital to be matched by heart, values, focus, to follow God, or later probe will arise, there must be a Godly balance, meaning both people are serious for God, and it is shown by actions,
cry4fire 1 month ago
Matt. 6:33, seeking God, His kingdom, His ways... will get all vital things brought to you, no strain,
cry4fire 1 month ago
Don't settle. I feel ya. I' m in the exact same boat and same age. I'm glad im not the only one feeling this way.
yendor1200 1 month ago
@yendor1200- Single women unite! Thanks for the comment.
aphoenixrising11 1 month ago
i was dating this guy for two years and I thought he was the one...we just clicked ...chemistry, connection...well, one day he rolled up on his motorcycle and dumped me! he said he just didn't feel it im like..after two years?? he said he tried but... so, yes, dating can suck! i feel like im not good enough and people just use me,, you know...im like you in that i don't want to be used to make a family or just to settle down! the most beautiful young looking happy women are single!
Jessi251 1 month ago
@Jessi251- There's a saying: "Women may fake orgasms, but men fake whole relationships!" My friend was with someone for FIVE YEARS and she had no doubt that she would eventually marry him... WRONG! He dumped her! So... Guard your heart my dear and let the man show you he loves you with his actions and KNOW where he stands. You are a treasure that should be cherished.. NEVER forget that. Much love to you Jessi251!
aphoenixrising11 1 month ago
you sound like you know what you want and that's more than most people who are married! because of that I believe you are going to get your real true love someday and you will have that connection and growing love! You are a very beautiful and compassionate person who knows who she is and that's why you will not settle....you are looking for real love not attention. Stay strong!
Jessi251 1 month ago
@Jessi251- Thank you so much for your kind words and encouragement! Let's both be strong and have faith that the person we were meant to be with WILL come along. In the meantime, let's love ourselves!
aphoenixrising11 1 month ago
So true! Well spoken, thanks for being real enough to speak your mind about dating in your 30's. I am in the same circumstance & am unwilling to settle. Best wishes:)
annamariesweetie 2 months ago
@annamariesweetie- Thank you so much for watching! I had to vent!! Haha, thanks for listening and best of luck to you too! Keep me posted! Let me know when you've found him!
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I feel your frustration. Feeling lonely and not sharing your life with that special someone sucks. After watching your vid I feel better knowing there are still some beautiful and intelligent 30 somthings out there still looking :) Thanks for the video. I think ur absolutely gorgeous.
janboogy 2 months ago in playlist Uploaded videos
@janboogy- Thank you so much for you kind words! I am glad I could offer some consolation with this thing called 'dating!' Keep me posted, I'd love to hear when you find "the one!"
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I once read, if you're "looking or finding" then it's the brain that's working not the heart. And when you do come across that someone, chances are your brain will try to convince your heart with its sales pitch.
Even with this understanding, most of us are still searching...
kensyap 2 months ago
@kensyap- Wow... nicely said and very profound.. My brain definitely has given my heart the sales pitch... and my heart wants to buy!! Just don't want to suffer from buyer's remorse! lol.
aphoenixrising11 2 months ago
@madopi- That is so inspiring! I really think I need to stop "looking" and just keep focusing on what makes me happy... I do believe that person will come along if i don't try so hard to find him! Thanks for sharing your own experience!
aphoenixrising11 2 months ago
@madopi- EXACTLY!! The questioning never ends does it?! Lol, I am preparing myself for living an unconventional life... if I am single until I die, oh well! I won't settle with just anyone just because people say that I should get married!
aphoenixrising11 2 months ago
Unfortunately as women enter their thirties their options in the dating market start to shrink, this is a reality, and often results in rise in unhappiness among women. On top of that the desirability of the guy that they can attract compared to their twenties starts to drop and that is why it feels like settling. If you pay attention to young women, all they are gossiping about is all the hot guys that are paying attention to them, and they seem invincible, until they end up unmarried and 35.
ad17939 2 months ago
@ad17939- Yes, I agree with you! It is an unfortunate reality but I guess I am a hopeless romantic... I have had that undeniable connection with someone before and I know the taste of that. I want that again! I realize I may not ever experience that kind of connection again but I really can't imagine marrying someone just for the sake of it... Not sure if you've seen my other videos but I am not your average Asian woman. I already know I will have an unconventional life!
aphoenixrising11 2 months ago
@aphoenixrising11 Based on your response, I can already tell that you are steps ahead of the average thirty something women in denial. Women often confuse between the guys who are willing to date them(short term relationships), versus guys willing to commit(longer term partnerships). In general a women can attract a lot more desirable partner for dating as opposed to committing, and most women that I know don't see the distinction. Of course no one is going to tell them.
ad17939 2 months ago
@ad17939- Thanks... yea, no one is going to tell a woman the truth about whether the guy she is dating is just dating her and isn't really gonna commit because of course feelings will get hurt... Me, I like the truth. And I can tell when I guy just wants to play around... Ugh, I hate those guys! Lol.
aphoenixrising11 2 months ago
and are possibly afraid to take a chance. Other times, it's other issues (possibly childhood trauma) that took place in which true healing never too place which results in where we are at today. But whatever the case may be, I hope you find the person whom is right for you, only you will know that. And btw, only thing harder than a 30 something female looking to find love and settle down, is a 40 something male who does not have his 'shit' together, trying to do the same.
DiscsDelivered 3 months ago
Everyone who is 'single' is looking for their counterpart, like I said in the very beginning when we first met. Our hearts and souls long for and pursuit it each and every day as long as humans have inhabited this world. We can't deny it or dismiss it. Most people who don't have their soul mate (or significant partner) long for it. Yes, sometimes people settle for less because they don't know or believe they can find it. Sometimes, they get tired of the process of getting to know 'new' people.
DiscsDelivered 3 months ago
Connie, I just wanna tell you that You are enough! YOU ARE ENOUGH!!! Whatever happens in the world of form is ephemeral and fleeting, while your consciousness and love towards others are everlasting. Then it will matter less if don't get your heart's desire. If you can have it, it's beautiful, it adds to your life, but it's not part of you. And I love the way you are being true to yourself and not want to be the one that anybody else want you to be.
to2101 3 months ago
@to2101- Awww.. you're the sweetest! You are too young to be this spiritually awakened! So cool! Keep searching, don't stop. The moment you stop seeking is the moment you stop getting answers. You must continually strive for spiritual evolution. I will not stop seeking, it is just my nature. Some people DON'T EVER seek. They are comfortable. And that is death! Peace and blessings to you!
aphoenixrising11 3 months ago
I love it <3 im watching all your videos from now on your kinna amazing
AstarsVison 3 months ago
@AstarsVison- Thank you so much for your support! And you're absolutely right- gotta find the love within first for sure!! This is the key. Blessings to you!
aphoenixrising11 3 months ago
5.19 and i hope your talking about yourself.. fuck waiting for someone to come around gotta love yourself first!
AstarsVison 3 months ago
Wow...for you to be so refreshingly honest and true to who you are...and always reminding yourself of that was truly amazing to watch. We are of kindred spirit Connie and I know what you are talking about, which is why I am still unmarried at 40...no making fun...LOL! You speak of passion...a vital component to a loving relationship between a man and a woman. It is what drives the connection...it is the fire in which you both burn...have faith and continue on your path & he will discover you...
PBlueturtle 3 months ago
@PBlueturtle- Thank you so much! You know exactly where I am coming from! I am going to watch that vid you sent me so give me a few days to formulate my answer!
aphoenixrising11 3 months ago