If ever their were a time for the subject women to post a reply video this is it. Whomever you are, please attach a video reply to this outcry for your position or status in this relationship...
You mantion about some Jason, and in your other video you said about your old friend who is with her husband Jason.So I thought that's the girl.........aaaa ...but maybe not :-P
Stuff happens man. Relationships are always complex and complicated things. I wish I understood them better. I guess the only advice I could give is the same advice you gave yourself, cheer up and try to get over her better this time. But again, that advice coming from me is advice coming from someone completely ignorant of the specifics of the situation.
2 sides of the coin... on one hand i feel very sorry for you... but on the other it's good to see that behind all that professional work is still a person who feels and functions like any other... my apologies if that sounds cold... just thoughts...
I recall a few years ago I felt I was in a similar situation. I took a dive into a different world, Japan, to try my luck somewhere else. It was a major change and it helped me reflect on new things in my life and to gain perspective on the things I left behind.
Maybe not the move you need to make, but big changes helped me.
I have found that no matter how true your intentions may be, or how much you really do care, you can't change someone if they're unwilling to change. Maybe you leaving will make her realize her true feelings for you... But maybe not. You can't stay hung up on one girl, because then the rest will just pass you by. Goodluck to you in the future dude, and whatever it may have in store for you.
It would be better for you to try to make yourself get over her instead of letting her string you along on the off chance that *maybe* someday she'll want to get back together with you.
... I still wanted to be with him for a long time after that, but I realized that he would never be ready. Even if at some point he claimed to be, I knew he would always be thinking about his ex who he was in love with.
It's not worth waiting around. If she's not ready now, it's not likely that she'll be ready later, even if you stick around. I know how hard it is to try to make yourself get over someone. I dated this guy 13 years ago, and still sometimes want to be with him.
I've been in pretty much the same situation. It was my ex bf who I was first with when I was 20. I didn't see him for a few years after he broke up with me, but I thought about him all the time. The next time I saw him, I asked him if he wanted to get back together and he said he wasn't ready for a relationship, but he made it sound like maybe sometime soon he would be ready. So I kind of got my hopes up at first, but then I found out that he was in love with his ex girlfriend...
My recent situation/break-up has been different in specifics but similar in all of the relevant aspects... I enjoy your videos very much and am sorry to see such an articulate dude going through such a heart-rending time. I hope making this video helps; it's incredible how taking a step away from the situation can help you find the words you wished you had at the time. My only advice to you is to keep busy with your obvious talents. Good luck.
It's fucked. Give her up, forget about her, move on. Do not hesitate. Do not allow her to keep you on a string while she checks out other prospects and you wait around being 'loyal'.
I'm going to assume you're open to commentary, since you've posted this online. You're sensitive, passionate, intelligent and involved. And kind of adorable. Still...
It bothers me so much that you would complain about your girlfriend not wanting a relationship when you have been making out with someone else. That's not OK. I can't preach to you since I don't know you, but if you can't stay away from that, how can a girl trust you from across the country? You saying you kept yourself from sleeping with the girl at the party makes it worse. You were conscious enough for that, but not to decide your girlfriend was more important.
I know how this feels. I will never know how you feel, but I know what it feels like for what you are going through. And now I've come to this point where I have put my wants for a companion in a tranquil state. The more I want or feel the need to want, I suffer. I believe that through patience and finally finding my "way" that someone will come along on their own will, without I having to reach for them. I don't know if what I said will help, but its better than saying nothing.
If ever their were a time for the subject women to post a reply video this is it. Whomever you are, please attach a video reply to this outcry for your position or status in this relationship...
BillyJHoward 1 year ago
If ever their were a time for the subject women to post a reply video this is it. Whomever you are, please attach a video.
BillyJHoward 1 year ago
You mantion about some Jason, and in your other video you said about your old friend who is with her husband Jason.So I thought that's the girl.........aaaa ...but maybe not :-P
pixiechristmas 1 year ago
@pixiechristmas oh right. different guy.
Plomomedia 1 year ago
So this is that girl who make your audio work.Does she haa a husband?
pixiechristmas 1 year ago
@pixiechristmas I dont understand, please explain.
Plomomedia 1 year ago
Stop feeding her ego. Drop obsession and enjoy LIFE! It only gets better. I'll pray for you today.
etsko 1 year ago
Stuff happens man. Relationships are always complex and complicated things. I wish I understood them better. I guess the only advice I could give is the same advice you gave yourself, cheer up and try to get over her better this time. But again, that advice coming from me is advice coming from someone completely ignorant of the specifics of the situation.
vasniltere 1 year ago
You're really good at overthinking things.
iNNkvaRt 1 year ago
One word: Mixtape
Works every time.
copstack 1 year ago
2 sides of the coin... on one hand i feel very sorry for you... but on the other it's good to see that behind all that professional work is still a person who feels and functions like any other... my apologies if that sounds cold... just thoughts...
madjo0 1 year ago
I recall a few years ago I felt I was in a similar situation. I took a dive into a different world, Japan, to try my luck somewhere else. It was a major change and it helped me reflect on new things in my life and to gain perspective on the things I left behind.
Maybe not the move you need to make, but big changes helped me.
Hope you figure your stuff out man.
fighting4air 1 year ago
when you're sad, just stop and be awesome instead.
UchihaVino 1 year ago 3
@UchihaVino LOL sound advice. sound advice.
Plomomedia 1 year ago
I have found that no matter how true your intentions may be, or how much you really do care, you can't change someone if they're unwilling to change. Maybe you leaving will make her realize her true feelings for you... But maybe not. You can't stay hung up on one girl, because then the rest will just pass you by. Goodluck to you in the future dude, and whatever it may have in store for you.
lissahxox 1 year ago
It would be better for you to try to make yourself get over her instead of letting her string you along on the off chance that *maybe* someday she'll want to get back together with you.
autumnsylver 1 year ago
... I still wanted to be with him for a long time after that, but I realized that he would never be ready. Even if at some point he claimed to be, I knew he would always be thinking about his ex who he was in love with.
It's not worth waiting around. If she's not ready now, it's not likely that she'll be ready later, even if you stick around. I know how hard it is to try to make yourself get over someone. I dated this guy 13 years ago, and still sometimes want to be with him.
autumnsylver 1 year ago
I've been in pretty much the same situation. It was my ex bf who I was first with when I was 20. I didn't see him for a few years after he broke up with me, but I thought about him all the time. The next time I saw him, I asked him if he wanted to get back together and he said he wasn't ready for a relationship, but he made it sound like maybe sometime soon he would be ready. So I kind of got my hopes up at first, but then I found out that he was in love with his ex girlfriend...
autumnsylver 1 year ago
My recent situation/break-up has been different in specifics but similar in all of the relevant aspects... I enjoy your videos very much and am sorry to see such an articulate dude going through such a heart-rending time. I hope making this video helps; it's incredible how taking a step away from the situation can help you find the words you wished you had at the time. My only advice to you is to keep busy with your obvious talents. Good luck.
matzamafia 1 year ago
It's fucked. Give her up, forget about her, move on. Do not hesitate. Do not allow her to keep you on a string while she checks out other prospects and you wait around being 'loyal'.
iamacyborg 1 year ago
I'm going to assume you're open to commentary, since you've posted this online. You're sensitive, passionate, intelligent and involved. And kind of adorable. Still...
LeftyHandedGuns 1 year ago
@LeftyHandedGuns
It bothers me so much that you would complain about your girlfriend not wanting a relationship when you have been making out with someone else. That's not OK. I can't preach to you since I don't know you, but if you can't stay away from that, how can a girl trust you from across the country? You saying you kept yourself from sleeping with the girl at the party makes it worse. You were conscious enough for that, but not to decide your girlfriend was more important.
LeftyHandedGuns 1 year ago
@LeftyHandedGuns you're 18. things change...
Plomomedia 1 year ago 3
Disregard Females
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msampson3d 1 year ago 4
@msampson3d LOL
Plomomedia 1 year ago
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roseapple73 1 year ago
This has been flagged as spam show
@msampson3d hehe
roseapple73 1 year ago
I hope the girl watches this and listens closely. Whatever comes next, who knows. Take it easy man.
RankAndFileGuy 1 year ago
I know how this feels. I will never know how you feel, but I know what it feels like for what you are going through. And now I've come to this point where I have put my wants for a companion in a tranquil state. The more I want or feel the need to want, I suffer. I believe that through patience and finally finding my "way" that someone will come along on their own will, without I having to reach for them. I don't know if what I said will help, but its better than saying nothing.
NateJ0385 1 year ago
Relationships are fucking hard, specially long distance relationships... I'd know ._.
orenco 1 year ago