This really broke my heart! Who ever raised you did a great job! You have a beautiful forgiving heart! I cant imagine giving my daughter up for any reason but many women say they wouldnt do what I do now. I am active duty military and Ive deployed twice, leaving my baby. I felt that I was doing what I had to do in order to take care of her. So in a way, I understand your mom. I want the best for my daughter and your mom wanted the best for you! God bless you!
& to Jelena2112 there are several reasons why people give their children up, Most of the time it is because of Stability reasons MONEY, and we dont want our children moving around, taken from one school to the next, only to make the childs life miserable for them. So maybe you should think a little different. Its not because we dont want them its all about them and on the other hand if you give up your child simply because you didnt want them then thats a different story.
To any mother hesitating to write a letter to their child before relinquishing them, I say go for it. I was never able to hear my mother's voice or read a letter from her. Trust me, one letter will immensely help your son or daughter through a lifetime of loneliness.
I traced & met my biological mother a few years ago- WORST MISTAKE EVER.
I don’t know what I was hoping to find, but she turned out to be a FILTHY woman living in a dirty house frequented by various male callers. Basically, although nearing 60 she eked out a living as a prostitute bringing a few minutes’ loveless rutting to her tragic clients, even taking one upstairs to her putrid bed as I tried to talk to her. I walked out holding my Bible close, shamed to be spawned from such dross.
You are so lucky to have gotten her letter and to know SHE ALWAYS HAS LOVED YOU, I am also a Birthmom and my son was 2 1/2 when he was given up/ taken from me and I can personally tell you ITS A HARD THING TO LiVE WITH FOR THAT MANY YEARS...Im sure she cried all the time just like I DO! Be lucky she is still alive some people dont even want to see their birthmoms. Your a wonderful person for giving her some closure!!! Hope that you will put a reunion video on here to show the good things to come
i was taken from my mother at 9 days old,im 16 years old going on 17 in january,i met my mother on may 30,2011 she came from virginia to South Carolina to find me, i hadnt talked to her in 6 years. until the beginning of may. i knew i had to meet her as soon as possible im in virginia now,social services took me again,until i turn 18 im counting down the days,i visit her every week,im here to tell you it gets better.
Im glad you got such a thoughtful letter from your birthmother! I wish I had gotten at least one thing from mine. I hope all goes well for you and you end up meeting her if you haven't already! :)
It's hard to write... The letter. I've written so many to my unborn daughter, but nothing I write fully expresses the depth to which I love her. I cried so much while reading this... she is due to arrive in 6 weeks. Her adopting parents just came to visit and I like them very much. I know she will be happy and taken care of. But that doesn't make it any easier when I so badly want to be a mom and take care of her. I don't know what to say to make her know just how much she means to me.
I know when you are extemely young (newborn-toddler) when taken its even harder to remember where you last lived or may never of heard her real name before the illegal adoption. If you know of the town in the province, or even the past address you can go back ask the past landlord if he/she knows where she moved to. If so you are more lucky of a person. you then go to the next, if she isnt still staying there follow the same route. Or if you knew one of her family members or friends. could ask
Of the same or worse. I do know of the issues even after you find out who your mom is and where she is. There is still the issue of the real reason, along with if she is still comfortable enough to be re-acquainted with the once was child. I infant live in canada even though youtube calls me American. If I decide to get back into my course work would you want me to try to find her for you? Do you have any clue what her name is and possible area where she might live?
@ thetravelfoot i saw it came to my inbox here but i cant seem to hunt it down here. Anyways yes I know, and it does depend on the adoption's company. I know I have been taking courses til they have been halted, due to a shady CPS here that made it so hard for me to survive let alone keep up with my course work "private investigations" Public adoption vs. Private adoption makes all the difference. And I do know about falsified adoptions, in life I tend to meet alot of people with issues of
Certainly they can . One adult daughter has already been in contact with her birth family and knows all the details. I'm not one bit jealous and even help her to process all that she must about the situation. My other girls may never be able to find out the whys of their births. My youngest WILL know it is because she has a birth defect that she was abandoned. Bottom line though......we all have to get here from someone's womb and we honor those first moms for giving them life.
My mom was 16 when she had me and watching this just made me fall to tears... I love my mom so much and would do anything to see her just once.. to be in her arms again would be the most amazing thing in the world... I just can't stop crying now... I want my mommy back ;-(
I am looking for my birthparents. I was born 12/23/1984 in Rochester, NY at RGH weighing 7lbs. I was given the name Mary Theresa. My birthmother gave me a letter saying I had my maternal grandma's blue eyes (sorry they changed to brown mom), my dad's cleft, and her small ears. My bio parents were 21. My dad was in college. My mom was in college studying special ed. He was Italian and my mom was Irish, German, and French (Americans). She is 5ft 5. He is 5ft 9. She's Catholic. Please contact me!!
OMG Balling. I have been searching for my birth parents since the moment I could. I hope they feel the same way and want to find me but I doubt it. I have looked everywhere but don't have any identifying info. I am so happy you found each other, it gives me hope.
I gave my daughter up and it is the hardest thing to live with I love her sooo much and speak with her but she doesnt know cause they wont tell her its been 18 yrs
this made me cry. a lot. i had a baby when i was 14 and gave him up for adoption. i am still in contact with his parents. i was also adopted myself, and i remember the first letter i wrote to him. it was a lot like that. and the letter my birthmom wrote me was also a lot like that. adoptees should know that their birth moms love them more than anyone could. and its not strangers raising you if you were adopted. so many people dont understand adoption.
@il0vedusty i also had a baby at 14. and gave her up for adoption. her first birthday is on wednesday. I was adopted as well. My birthmothers letter was like this. I saw your comment and couldnt help but reply. haha. idk why. But adoption is a miracal. (sp?) anyways. adoption is the most selfless thing you can do. No one gets that your giving your baby up because you love her to much to keep her. I wish people would be more understanding.
Most unmarried mothers in the 1960's & 70's had absolutely no support, were often drugged to the gills by hospital staff, coerced by social workers and made to believe they had nothing to offer their babies. I was 17and powerless against the wave of scorn and brainwashing I was subjected to, especially as they drugged me in the hospital. I was made to believe if I loved my child I would stop being so selfish wanting to keep her, and sign the adoption papers and so let her have a better life.
@enchantedwood im really sorry, i never knew, ive never had kids, im 14 so i guess its would be a bit..wrong. when i was born, my mum abused me, then left me in the streets to die, so i guess its just my opinion and i guess it always will be..nobody came forward for me, they got the chance but nobody came forward. nobody cared about me, they left me with heart problemswhich i still suffer from, i always wonder if my parents are out there somewhere..i doubt they care if they are..
Hard for me to understand this. My grandmother lost her husband at 32 and she already had 5 little girls (the youngest was 2 yrs old). She didn't have any family to help her because she was orphan. She kept her children, worked hard cooking (she was the best) for others until she got to open a small cafe, bought a house and sent all the children to school (two teachers, two secretaries, one accountant). She didn't remarry...
@DjPetrov this is one of the meanest things I've ever read. I had a baby 17 & my parents wouldn't let me keep her. I had ONE boyfriend in high school... had my daughter, then married my next boyfriend when I was 20...divorced at 30, remarried at 31 to the love of my life. THAT does NOT a slut make. I suffered for 25 years until I found her on 5-27-2010. I feel sorry for you when this comment you wrote shows up in your life...and it will..that's a guarantee. Your mother? God bless her heart.
im adopted and dont know my birthparents, i wonder if my birthmother ever felt sorry, because, like you said, its am absolutely amazing thing for someone to do. give up a child they carried for nine months, and them giving them up to something that you know is going to be the best thing for them. i admire my birth mother for the fact that she was strong enough to carry me, and then give me up to something better.
I too am searching for my birthmother. She left me a letter saying who looks like what and whose features I have (I look just like my dad). I'm very thankful to her for that!
this made me cry, i just gave birth to my little girl and i had to put her up for adoption, i wanted what was best for her. hardest thing i ever done.
@TheTravelfool My children are amazing gifts to this world. They are going to change this world. They have already changed my life. They bless people wherever they go......they bless me just by being themselves. They have an awesome destiny that I know they will fulfill and I belive in them everyday. You m ust have misunderstood my heart for my girls. They are growing up to love others and believe in the goodness of God no matter the situation of their birth.
@dancer4thelord nice way to get around the bush. What it comes down to is your kids, not you...so when they are 18 if they wish to find their biological family and/or learn of their biological family's medical and ancestry they BLOODY WELL CAN MATE!
@TheTravelfool the street is 2 way street. At a certian time the mother can send a letter stating what she wants to say, along with if she'd like to see the once was child when they are old enough. The once was child can look into it threw their adoption center that was used to adopt the child out. they can find out if there is one there. and in the end if all goes well both will be able to meet.
The words are chosen so strongly that mark in my heart. I can't understand it all ,but what I understood from it ,made me cry. I offer my respect for the bio Moms and adop parrents.one gives a piece of their heart and the other is making it part of his heart.You have got big heart, people.
Just having an explanation available as to why adoption placement occured will change a life- support adoptees rights to truth! Youre very lucky to have access to a reason and a warm letter :)
did you find ur birth mother? i am an adoptive child and my birth mother left me a letter. I met her 3 years ago. I cried throughout ur video and hope u do find her. thank you for sharing ur story.
What a beautiful letter she wrote to you. I could feel her love for you when I was reading it. You are so lucky that she did that for you. I"m also an adult adoptee but at the time I was given up everything was closed adoption so I have no records and no idea who my birthmother is. I do hope to find her though. I plan on starting to search soon. Thanks again for sharing this. Bless you and her.
my momma chose drugs over me. even tho, the dr.s said they would help her.
she lost me within a few weeks... my dad? i know he has another family. he didnt even know i was born. and im still looking. everyday.. to see a reflection of my face.
@iLoveCrissAngel01 Your birth mom was sick. Drug addiction is a nasty, nasty thing that just rips families apart. I am sorry she was not strong enough to get clean. I am sorry she made such horrible choices leaving you and your siblings to feel the repurcusions of her bad choices. Somewhere in your heart you must know there was a point in her life when she was a beautiful person. Pray that she is there again now. Do you know how to search for your birthfamily (if old enough)?
hey bro i hope sumday u can find her or atleast have the opprtunity to...i have a letter just like this in my dresser. it hurts to read but at the same time i understand as u do. my mom was 13 when i was taken away. i kno wu realy dnt care about what i have to say but its gud to know im not the only one whos has a letter from a mom i never knew. if ur looken for her i wish u the best of luck. im still looking for my mom
i was given up for adoption in 1959 to abusive parents. met my bio mom who didn't really like me either~wish abortion was legal then. my biomom said that is what she wanted to do. my life has been horrible. adoptive family didn't really want me and bio family doesn't want me either.
omg that made me relive my expierence! I had to adopt my son out when I was 19 years old it was the toughest decision!! but I know I have support a little not alot because alot of people dont agree but i have few support and these videos like yours make me feel like I am not alone in the pain....and grieving! thanks!
@heavensentprincess1 It's not always that easy, especially for those who are rape victims. I would prefer adoption over abortion any day... I hope I'm not offending anyone's opinion on the matter.
Don't give your kid up for adoption. They would rather live with you. You are their mother. If you couldn't raise them yourself, CHANGE! Don't let society make you think you can't do it. YOU know you CAN.
you are soo lucky! i was adopted also, but i was adopted from china, i have an amazing life now. but my mother wasn't allowed to leave a note it was too dangerous, and also illegal but she couldnt keep me. i dont even know why. your birth mother is so sweet. i dont know where she is or how old she is or even her name. i wish i knew more, and i can only hope she loved me but the family i have now gives me more than enough love. thanks for posting this your are wonderful!
David, I am 20-years-old, and I placed my beautiful little boy into the loving arms of his forever-family on February 22, 2010. His name is David. Reading the letter from your birthmother, and especially your reply to her made my heart swell. You said exactly what I hope my sweet little boy will be able to say to me one day. Thank you for sharing your story. It gives me strength as I long for my little angel.
I miss my twins every day. it is a horrible lonesome longing that never goes away. I hope someday they will both know that I thought of them every day and every minute of those long days....
im adopted i was born on the floor bronx nyc failure to thrive with a broken leg my mom dint take me to the hospital so my grandmom did i was a crack baby i hated my mom up until i was 14 ur lucky to hav a mom tell her she loved u my mom failed to do tht sometimes i go thru a emo state nd cut myself wishing i wasnt born but im adopted nd i hav lovin parents nd noone can take tht pride from me not even if tht bitch came back
@dae0987 b4 u judge, i work w/ severe at risk youth includin crack heads and i lived in the south bx so i know where u comin' from. ppl do CRAZY things for crack and u cudda been a product of rape. when ppl are on crack, they are no longer ppl. maybe yur mama was a good woman til the crack took ova.
I met my birthmother almost a year ago and she can't even remember my birthday. I'm glad yours has a soul. I gave my son up 9 weeks ago now and I can't imagine being that way! I'm glad that you wrote the reply. Being a birthmother myself, I know it would mean everything to know that you're not angry. I hope my birth son will feel the same way.
i want u to kno at first ur son will not feel the same way he will hate you he will wonder if you loved him nd why u game him away when hes in his teen years he will understand it was better for him i hated my mom all my heart even wrote a song tellin her i hated her decated the song GO TO SLEEP BITCH to her thn i relized she did this for me if she could take care of me she wouldnt of left me then again maybe she dint when hes older tell him how much u love him like my mom failed to write me
Man i really wanna adopt a kid! for all those people who want their kids to have a better life i would so want to adopt a kid! but later in life cause i'm in grade 10 right now .
so sad that our materialistic society forces young girls to feel that they can't give their baby this or that, so the baby would be better off without them. all the baby wants is it's mommy. desperately poor kids still love their parents. adoptees are often made to feel that if they are angry about being relinquished that they are ungrateful for the adoptive parents who they also love. women, think again before giving up your baby! you can do it!
I couldn't do it. Even with all the help there is out there (which isn't much), it's hard to do. I still see my daughter, but it's not the same as raising her.
and do what? live off of the tax payers? It's not about the baby not getting Nintendos and brand new cars, it's about self-lessness and putting someone before yourself. Every living baby deserves to be loved just like you and me. I think Birth MOthers are very brave for doing what they do. You may be bitter towards them forever asinine reasons, but face it, birth mothers are very brave for doing it.
I am a 21 year old adoptee and my bio sister found me about a week ago. I am trying to write a letter to her parents (my bio parents) but I don't know what to say.
My sister and I are meeting and a week, but I want to send bparents a letter, to start to get to know them and have them know me.
Birth parents- if your son or daughter were writing you a letter, what would you want to know/find out about them. What would be most important to you?
It is great you want to have a relationship with your birth parents. I just gave my precious baby boy over to a family for adoption on Monday and am counting the seconds until I can see his beautiful face again (it is an open adoption.) I would want to know anything about him he would tell me. His hopes and dreams, his goals, what he loves and what he hates, anything. Honestly, just you contacting them will mean the WORLD to them. And that is an understatement.
@kah1215 I am a birthmother. Funny enough I am sitting in front of the computer trying to figure out what to write in a letter to my 11 yr old birthson for the first time. He is curious about me, and I still hurt so much I have never been able to see a photo. I hope your meeting went well and you were able to find what you were looking for in that relationship. All I ever want to hear him say as an adult is that he is happy, and has had a good life. That is all I have ever wanted. Blessings 2 U
im adopted my father and mother did the exact other thing since my mom had Schizophrenia she was not thinging straight and my father mad used and sold drugs in my grandmothers house they gave me drugs to get "rid " of me then my father hurt me in many ways i was one day taken away put in fostercare my mom is probibly dead im 13 my dad just got let out of prison and my grandma is probibly dead so i was in fostercare till 4 got a single mother to adopt me dieng of diebetes slowly no other family
this made me start bawling. i'm adopted and i know you understand what it's like to have a birthmother who cared about you so much to give you up... for a better life.. For a new life. My twin and I were adopted over 20 years ago. This video was awesome. My birthmother wrote me a similar letter and I can't read it without crying. I hope to meet her and thank her one day. Thanks for posting that!
Thank you for sharing that. I too am a "birthmother". July 30th was the one year anniversary of the day I gave my daughter up. It still hurts. This gives me hope. I hope she can forgive me too.
Thats sweet that she gave you a letter. My social worker had given my parents pictures of me with my birth mother when i was a baby. My sister found them the other day. My parents claim they just forgot about them.
my sister found a letter sayin what our respective natural parents looked like, their family background and etc, nothin identifiable, i was 17 wen she found them and had never known anything at all, dunno if they were ever going to give them to us, they didnt know what to do. but i wasnt going to ask for them! tiny things like that make a difference.
I'm a birth mother and placed my daughter when I was 17 for the same reasons your mother did. Our adoption is open and I see her often. but I am married with a one year old now and I see my daughter all the time, but I wonder if she will ever understand.
I'm keeping a journal for her for when she is older. I hope she understands, and I'm so glad you posted this :) It shows the love and positive perspective of adoption :)
Thank you for sharing this. I am a birth mother and I would give anything to hear the words you said to your mother from my daughter I placed for adoption. You are a strong young man. Good luck in your search. I hope you find her someday.
dude i felt touch..... i was separated from my mum for a year and a half and i cant stand the pain.... i hope u can find your mum.. it will be nice to have a mum's love and care...
yeah. i'm adopted too. i never saw my real dad and my real mom took off when i was 5 (10 years ago). i don't know where they are or even if they are still alive. its hard not knowing were your actual parents are. and the worst part is is that some people think it will all be ok if they replace them with a new set of parents.
i'm an adopted mum myself and my son is in contact with his birth family and i really hope tat u find ur birth mum and tings work out as it shld b. It's tough for majority of birth mum to let go their child.
As I used to tell my son's bio mum that does not mean u are a bad mother just because u give up ur kid and not necessarily u r a gd mother just because u kept ur kid.
I cried and I am not usually the person to cry. I am adopted too and I searched for my biological mother for 3-4 years...I finally found her. If you wanted to find her it would be okay to search..it's not wrong you know. God bless you.
yeah, I hired someone to search on my behalf--the only way Washington State will allow it--and they looked for 2 years. When they finally found my birth mother, and called her, she said "No thanks, I'm not interested", and hung up the phone. To call her back would have been "harassment", so they couldn't tell me any more about her, and I was never allowed to contact her. But I found a half sister anyway. Now my birth mother is dead and I've never heard her voice. I cried when I found out.
Hey David, I really hope you find your birth mother. Don't ever be afraid to take the first step in finding her, she is waiting for you to find her. I find my birth mom last year on May 10th and we still keep in touch. She told me that she was waiting for me to find her and I did 22 years later. Good luck David in finding her. If it was a closed adoption, get a hold of the lawyer and get some information so you can find her...
Hi David, I hope you find your Birth Mother one day. Don't ever give up. I just found my Birth Mother a year and a half ago and I am 47! Good Luck on your journey!
WOW! How mature she must have been at 16. How much she loved you. My heart goes out to both you and her. I hope you find her one day. Where were you adopted? Was she from the same state?
i sing that same song for my baby girl the one by brian adams i hope u find him some day i found my girl on picture trail she had a web site whit all of her pictures on there and she look just like me shes 16 now i have not seen her in person yet but we emailing eachother some times she da's not wana talk to me on the phone yet dont no why. god bless u hope u find him soon ask jesus to help u and he will
I recentnly called my birth mother for the first time and the second i heard her voice i just cried for an hour while my brother talked to her. Its so emotional and i only could tell her "i love you '
before i hung up and started crying . I am soon turning theage when she had me and i could never imagine being 4 months pregnant right now.
iwos givein up at 12 moth old snd only now i hve herd from her i ws the happist time of my life does any one have tips on wot 2 do when i meet her thanx
I too was adopted I my met my bio mother 8 years ago now. You can spend a lifetime deciding what to say and do but the truth is when you will know when you meet her what to do. For me I was so happy and so was she we hugged each other she was crying and said sorry and then we sort of felt like family straight away and were laughing and joking and I was telling her about my life. The important thing is not to be angry with her or show upset at your adoption until u know eachother better.
Of course I cried through this entire video as well.
I am a birthmom. I placed my beautiful and wonderful son through an open adoption. He was born on November 17, 2008. He is the best thing that's ever happened to me and I love him very much. I journal to him (much like your bmom wrote you a letter) in hopes that he will forgive me.
I can relate to every single thing your birthmom went through and why she decided to place you. Thank you so much for this video. It's a blessing.
I can't remember the last time I cried this much...
I was adopted from Chile to Norway when I was only a couple of months. I guess my mother had a quite similar story as your mother, she was so young, and wasn't able to raise me by her own, since my father left when she told him that she was pregnant. And she was poor as well. But I don't think I ever will be able to forgive her. But I hope I'll meet her again some day :( After all, she's my mom..
This is beautiful I think the birthmom's get pushed way into the shadows and many, not all would like to stay that way, This video however proves otherwise. beautiful so beautiful it made me cry , true love for the birthmother here true love.
this video made me cry...i'm a birth mother and was reunited with my son last December. Strange thing is..we actually worked at the same store!! The same thoughts went through my head back in 1985 when I gave him up for adoption. Thank you for posting this! I hope you find her!
this is so sad my baby had a baby in feb she 16 now she has hers and he a angel this just makes me thank of her b/c she trys so hard to do ever thing right and not ack for help
David, Not a day goes by that we don't thank our Heavenly Father for our son's birthmother. May God bless you, your adoptive parents, and that miracle birthmom who gave you life. Thanks for the video. It was inspiring!
Wow, could I ever relate to the part of that letter that was from your birthmom. I too am a birthmom, only my birthson is only 4 yrs old. Love the end of the video :)
As the adoptive mother of 2 adopted children, one birth mother wrote a similar letter and the other birth mother choose not to write a letter. God bless you for giving your son the gift of live and giving the adoptive family the opportunity to have a small slice of your huge gift.
Birth parents everywhere, trust me, adoptive families love their children's birth families!
Hi David ... I am also a birth mother. I had a little girl in December 2000. I wrote her a very similar letter that I have tucked away until she's a little bit older and can understand more about her adoption. She knows who I am, and I used to visit her and her family when she was a toddler. We still keep in touch via email, letters and phone calls. Thank you for sharing a part of your story.
David, thank you so much for posting this. I've been crying the whole video. I'm a birthmother--gave birth to my son on May 20, 2008. I've been wanting to write him a letter but I can't make it perfect. Sounds weird but I believe your mother wrote it over and over until she had it perfect for you. Luckily my adoption is an open one, but it is still the hardest thing in the world. As I said, thank you again for this video, it is helping me cope with everything. Remember your mother loves you. (o:
Thanks for your touching response. I don't know if a perfect letter would be possible to be honest with you. Trust me, I've tried. I think we just have to settle with what we can do the best, and let the rest go in peace. The only thing that would be perfect for me, would be to see her face-to-face. You are very fortunate to have an open adoption. God bless you.
David, You're so sweet! I pray that you find your birthmother some day, and that you will be reunited with her in ways that would be a blessing for both of you. God Bless you!
No, thank YOU! I'm amazed at all the people that this video has touched, it just goes to show how many people out there deal with the exact kind of thing that I am dealing with, that we are not alone out there.
I dont know ya, and im sitting here watching this at 4am, i rarely cry but this got me. I've been trying to find my birth mother for the last year with pretty much no results, close to giving up. But yeh, at the risk of sounding corny, this vid brought my hopes back up. Thanks for sharing that.
wow, I thought I was moved until the closing lines of your message to your Biological Mom then you had me bawling...beautiful, I am sure her letter brought you a much greater sense of peace and understanding and your gesture and message is beautiful and even if it never reaches her it obviously resonates with many and gives them some comfort and peace
The letter brought great amount of peace to me, and it answered many questions that I long had. I found it while sorting through some files in my room, getting ready for a new school-year. I'm glad I discovered it this late, I don't think I would have understood it much if I had found it when I was younger. In two more years, I can meet her through the adoption agency, and I look foward to that day every second of my life.
That's how I felt, and why I made the video. I just couldn't get everything down on paper, so instead, I decided to make a tribute with her letter, and my response to it. You did the right thing, giving up your son. Giving him up means that you saw the fact that you were simply too young to raise him on your own, and wanted him to have the best life that he could. I am certain that he will forever be grateful for that.
Oh man, I'm sitting here bawling my eyes out. I'm a Birthmother, who on Christmas Day 1979 surrendered my daughter. I just found her last year. We have yet to meet face to face, I'm sending her this video link.
Thanks for the comment! I'm glad that you were touched by my video. It's nice to know that there are birth mothers like there like yourself, whom have found their birthchildren. I sure hope I meet my birthmother someday!
Wow, I never thought that my video would be so important and touching to so many people. Today, it reached 500 views. Thank-you all for all of your positive feedback on it, it means a lot to me to know that there are other birth-children like me out there who have had positive situations, and birth-mothers like mine who have left letter's like mine did. Thank you all so much, it means a lot to me =]
Thank you. I am a birthmother also...my son Ryan was born in 1999. His birthday is just a couple of days away. I am so blessed to have found your video tonight. His was a closed adoption. Your words touched my soul. God Bless you. Your parent(s) have so much to be proud of...This is a beautiful, and loving tribute to your bmom.
I got very emotional watching this,i started sobbing,but this was very special to me,I am a birthmother,i gave my beautiful daughter up December 7th 2007,thank you for this,thank you for sharing.
This is so awesome...thank you for sharing. My birthdaughter is 8 years old and I sent a similar letter with her. I have that little bit of fear that one day she will be very mad at me for what I did, thanks for making it feel a little better!
This really broke my heart! Who ever raised you did a great job! You have a beautiful forgiving heart! I cant imagine giving my daughter up for any reason but many women say they wouldnt do what I do now. I am active duty military and Ive deployed twice, leaving my baby. I felt that I was doing what I had to do in order to take care of her. So in a way, I understand your mom. I want the best for my daughter and your mom wanted the best for you! God bless you!
mayaspalace 1 week ago
& to Jelena2112 there are several reasons why people give their children up, Most of the time it is because of Stability reasons MONEY, and we dont want our children moving around, taken from one school to the next, only to make the childs life miserable for them. So maybe you should think a little different. Its not because we dont want them its all about them and on the other hand if you give up your child simply because you didnt want them then thats a different story.
KSS3995 2 weeks ago
i dont get people giving their baby up....looks so cruel to me... =(
jelena2112 1 month ago
To any mother hesitating to write a letter to their child before relinquishing them, I say go for it. I was never able to hear my mother's voice or read a letter from her. Trust me, one letter will immensely help your son or daughter through a lifetime of loneliness.
dinochickforever 1 month ago
I traced & met my biological mother a few years ago- WORST MISTAKE EVER.
I don’t know what I was hoping to find, but she turned out to be a FILTHY woman living in a dirty house frequented by various male callers. Basically, although nearing 60 she eked out a living as a prostitute bringing a few minutes’ loveless rutting to her tragic clients, even taking one upstairs to her putrid bed as I tried to talk to her. I walked out holding my Bible close, shamed to be spawned from such dross.
SuperTruth77 1 month ago
You are so lucky to have gotten her letter and to know SHE ALWAYS HAS LOVED YOU, I am also a Birthmom and my son was 2 1/2 when he was given up/ taken from me and I can personally tell you ITS A HARD THING TO LiVE WITH FOR THAT MANY YEARS...Im sure she cried all the time just like I DO! Be lucky she is still alive some people dont even want to see their birthmoms. Your a wonderful person for giving her some closure!!! Hope that you will put a reunion video on here to show the good things to come
KSS3995 2 months ago
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KSS3995 2 months ago
i was taken from my mother at 9 days old,im 16 years old going on 17 in january,i met my mother on may 30,2011 she came from virginia to South Carolina to find me, i hadnt talked to her in 6 years. until the beginning of may. i knew i had to meet her as soon as possible im in virginia now,social services took me again,until i turn 18 im counting down the days,i visit her every week,im here to tell you it gets better.
prayer1138 3 months ago
Im glad you got such a thoughtful letter from your birthmother! I wish I had gotten at least one thing from mine. I hope all goes well for you and you end up meeting her if you haven't already! :)
095Kara 4 months ago
It's hard to write... The letter. I've written so many to my unborn daughter, but nothing I write fully expresses the depth to which I love her. I cried so much while reading this... she is due to arrive in 6 weeks. Her adopting parents just came to visit and I like them very much. I know she will be happy and taken care of. But that doesn't make it any easier when I so badly want to be a mom and take care of her. I don't know what to say to make her know just how much she means to me.
alyciaann 4 months ago
I know when you are extemely young (newborn-toddler) when taken its even harder to remember where you last lived or may never of heard her real name before the illegal adoption. If you know of the town in the province, or even the past address you can go back ask the past landlord if he/she knows where she moved to. If so you are more lucky of a person. you then go to the next, if she isnt still staying there follow the same route. Or if you knew one of her family members or friends. could ask
lezhotty83 6 months ago
Of the same or worse. I do know of the issues even after you find out who your mom is and where she is. There is still the issue of the real reason, along with if she is still comfortable enough to be re-acquainted with the once was child. I infant live in canada even though youtube calls me American. If I decide to get back into my course work would you want me to try to find her for you? Do you have any clue what her name is and possible area where she might live?
lezhotty83 6 months ago
@ thetravelfoot i saw it came to my inbox here but i cant seem to hunt it down here. Anyways yes I know, and it does depend on the adoption's company. I know I have been taking courses til they have been halted, due to a shady CPS here that made it so hard for me to survive let alone keep up with my course work "private investigations" Public adoption vs. Private adoption makes all the difference. And I do know about falsified adoptions, in life I tend to meet alot of people with issues of
lezhotty83 6 months ago
Certainly they can . One adult daughter has already been in contact with her birth family and knows all the details. I'm not one bit jealous and even help her to process all that she must about the situation. My other girls may never be able to find out the whys of their births. My youngest WILL know it is because she has a birth defect that she was abandoned. Bottom line though......we all have to get here from someone's womb and we honor those first moms for giving them life.
dancer4thelord 7 months ago
My mum had a baby girl when she was fifteen ( my now 19 year old sister)
and was cast out by her own mother and father
she had no sisters and her brothers wouldnt help
she had no one
the birth father didnt want to know either
she struggled but she did it
she now has 4 kids and still isnt married
just because you get pregnant young doesnt mean you cant raise your child ,
but i do undertsand that some people might not be able to
i feel sorry for people that never meet there mums . x
XscenesarahleighX 8 months ago
My mom was 16 when she had me and watching this just made me fall to tears... I love my mom so much and would do anything to see her just once.. to be in her arms again would be the most amazing thing in the world... I just can't stop crying now... I want my mommy back ;-(
4drakebell 8 months ago
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I am looking for my birthparents. I was born 12/23/1984 in Rochester, NY at RGH weighing 7lbs. I was given the name Mary Theresa. My birthmother gave me a letter saying I had my maternal grandma's blue eyes (sorry they changed to brown mom), my dad's cleft, and her small ears. My bio parents were 21. My dad was in college. My mom was in college studying special ed. He was Italian and my mom was Irish, German, and French (Americans). She is 5ft 5. He is 5ft 9. She's Catholic. Please contact me!!
TheTravelfool 8 months ago
:'(
093009tiony 9 months ago
omg... that made me cry!.... she really loves you sooo soo much!!!! hope youll find each other! god bless
princess184sugar 9 months ago 3
aww this is a great video. i hope that u have been able to find ur mom and if not that she one day comes upon this and knows that u are ok with her.
jjac31456287 10 months ago
OMG Balling. I have been searching for my birth parents since the moment I could. I hope they feel the same way and want to find me but I doubt it. I have looked everywhere but don't have any identifying info. I am so happy you found each other, it gives me hope.
Skye3719 10 months ago
Were not a all a perfect person Thats true
bongnavaro24 10 months ago
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i was adopted your so lucky to have gotten a letter all i know is her name gypsy
brookemcburney1 1 year ago
i was adopted your so luck to have gotten a letter all i know is her name gypsy
brookemcburney1 1 year ago
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clarejful 1 year ago
I gave my daughter up and it is the hardest thing to live with I love her sooo much and speak with her but she doesnt know cause they wont tell her its been 18 yrs
TheMFDGrind 1 year ago
simply beautiful David. I cried, as I do every time I watch this. Have yo u found her yet?
TheTravelfool 1 year ago
this made me cry. a lot. i had a baby when i was 14 and gave him up for adoption. i am still in contact with his parents. i was also adopted myself, and i remember the first letter i wrote to him. it was a lot like that. and the letter my birthmom wrote me was also a lot like that. adoptees should know that their birth moms love them more than anyone could. and its not strangers raising you if you were adopted. so many people dont understand adoption.
il0vedusty 1 year ago 9
@il0vedusty i also had a baby at 14. and gave her up for adoption. her first birthday is on wednesday. I was adopted as well. My birthmothers letter was like this. I saw your comment and couldnt help but reply. haha. idk why. But adoption is a miracal. (sp?) anyways. adoption is the most selfless thing you can do. No one gets that your giving your baby up because you love her to much to keep her. I wish people would be more understanding.
illinoisbabyforever 6 months ago
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asdahjby 1 year ago
if she did love you then she wouldnt have left you. i'd rather my parents helped me bring up my child, than some random person i dont even know....
asdahjby 1 year ago
Most unmarried mothers in the 1960's & 70's had absolutely no support, were often drugged to the gills by hospital staff, coerced by social workers and made to believe they had nothing to offer their babies. I was 17and powerless against the wave of scorn and brainwashing I was subjected to, especially as they drugged me in the hospital. I was made to believe if I loved my child I would stop being so selfish wanting to keep her, and sign the adoption papers and so let her have a better life.
enchantedwood 1 year ago
@enchantedwood im really sorry, i never knew, ive never had kids, im 14 so i guess its would be a bit..wrong. when i was born, my mum abused me, then left me in the streets to die, so i guess its just my opinion and i guess it always will be..nobody came forward for me, they got the chance but nobody came forward. nobody cared about me, they left me with heart problemswhich i still suffer from, i always wonder if my parents are out there somewhere..i doubt they care if they are..
asdahjby 1 year ago
@enchantedwood I wish more people knew this. You should write a book!
TheTravelfool 1 year ago
@asdahjby
how dare you say that?? do you have any idea what you're talking about? go screw yourself. you immature naive little prick.
burgerking337 1 year ago
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therussianchick1234 1 year ago
Hard for me to understand this. My grandmother lost her husband at 32 and she already had 5 little girls (the youngest was 2 yrs old). She didn't have any family to help her because she was orphan. She kept her children, worked hard cooking (she was the best) for others until she got to open a small cafe, bought a house and sent all the children to school (two teachers, two secretaries, one accountant). She didn't remarry...
iocantoetu 1 year ago
I wish I could find my parents :(
ilovedmf 1 year ago
i hope that someday god helps you 2 to cross paths,and i hope that its everything you have ever imagined!
oseguera85 1 year ago
i hope that someday god helps you 2 to cross paths,and i hope that its everything you have ever imagined!
oseguera85 1 year ago
This made me ball my eyes out.
qmovqueen 1 year ago
David.. if you've not found your birthmother yet, i'd like to help. please contact me at sharpek118@aol.com
SharpeGirl38 1 year ago
David.. if you've not found your birthmother yet, i'd like to help. please email me at sharpek118@aol.com
SharpeGirl38 1 year ago
@DjPetrov this is one of the meanest things I've ever read. I had a baby 17 & my parents wouldn't let me keep her. I had ONE boyfriend in high school... had my daughter, then married my next boyfriend when I was 20...divorced at 30, remarried at 31 to the love of my life. THAT does NOT a slut make. I suffered for 25 years until I found her on 5-27-2010. I feel sorry for you when this comment you wrote shows up in your life...and it will..that's a guarantee. Your mother? God bless her heart.
SharpeGirl38 1 year ago
im adopted and dont know my birthparents, i wonder if my birthmother ever felt sorry, because, like you said, its am absolutely amazing thing for someone to do. give up a child they carried for nine months, and them giving them up to something that you know is going to be the best thing for them. i admire my birth mother for the fact that she was strong enough to carry me, and then give me up to something better.
aSignInTheTrees 1 year ago
1 of the best videos on YT and 1 of the most well written letters I have ever seen!
Have you registered with ISRR Soundex David?
TheTravelfool 1 year ago
I too am searching for my birthmother. She left me a letter saying who looks like what and whose features I have (I look just like my dad). I'm very thankful to her for that!
TheTravelfool 1 year ago
this made me cry, i just gave birth to my little girl and i had to put her up for adoption, i wanted what was best for her. hardest thing i ever done.
manicmode 1 year ago
@manicmode giving her up may not have been
TheTravelfool 1 year ago
So beautiful~! I have 4 adopted children and they are my precious gifts....knowing there will be painful moments for them all....moms and children.
dancer4thelord 1 year ago
@dancer4thelord they are not gifts. a wagon is a gift. not people. slave children used to be bought as gifts
TheTravelfool 1 year ago
@TheTravelfool My children are amazing gifts to this world. They are going to change this world. They have already changed my life. They bless people wherever they go......they bless me just by being themselves. They have an awesome destiny that I know they will fulfill and I belive in them everyday. You m ust have misunderstood my heart for my girls. They are growing up to love others and believe in the goodness of God no matter the situation of their birth.
dancer4thelord 7 months ago
@dancer4thelord nice way to get around the bush. What it comes down to is your kids, not you...so when they are 18 if they wish to find their biological family and/or learn of their biological family's medical and ancestry they BLOODY WELL CAN MATE!
TheTravelfool 7 months ago
@TheTravelfool the street is 2 way street. At a certian time the mother can send a letter stating what she wants to say, along with if she'd like to see the once was child when they are old enough. The once was child can look into it threw their adoption center that was used to adopt the child out. they can find out if there is one there. and in the end if all goes well both will be able to meet.
lezhotty83 6 months ago
The words are chosen so strongly that mark in my heart. I can't understand it all ,but what I understood from it ,made me cry. I offer my respect for the bio Moms and adop parrents.one gives a piece of their heart and the other is making it part of his heart.You have got big heart, people.
mmarx11 1 year ago 3
What a beautiful letter and I hope you do find your bio mom one day! Much luck!
momcubed76 1 year ago
I was cyring when i read this! I want a letter from my birthmom how'd she find you!?
Horseridr22 1 year ago
@Horseridr22 I just cried my eyes out at this
TheTravelfool 1 year ago
Just having an explanation available as to why adoption placement occured will change a life- support adoptees rights to truth! Youre very lucky to have access to a reason and a warm letter :)
InkChickPinUp 1 year ago 3
did you find ur birth mother? i am an adoptive child and my birth mother left me a letter. I met her 3 years ago. I cried throughout ur video and hope u do find her. thank you for sharing ur story.
icedevilinred 1 year ago
What a beautiful letter she wrote to you. I could feel her love for you when I was reading it. You are so lucky that she did that for you. I"m also an adult adoptee but at the time I was given up everything was closed adoption so I have no records and no idea who my birthmother is. I do hope to find her though. I plan on starting to search soon. Thanks again for sharing this. Bless you and her.
Kathy :)
kll510 1 year ago
thats not fair...
I Was taken away, and
so were my 5 brothers and sisters.
my momma chose drugs over me. even tho, the dr.s said they would help her.
she lost me within a few weeks... my dad? i know he has another family. he didnt even know i was born. and im still looking. everyday.. to see a reflection of my face.
to find my brothers and sisters..
my father. and my mother....
its not fair.
iLoveCrissAngel01 1 year ago
@iLoveCrissAngel01 Your birth mom was sick. Drug addiction is a nasty, nasty thing that just rips families apart. I am sorry she was not strong enough to get clean. I am sorry she made such horrible choices leaving you and your siblings to feel the repurcusions of her bad choices. Somewhere in your heart you must know there was a point in her life when she was a beautiful person. Pray that she is there again now. Do you know how to search for your birthfamily (if old enough)?
skychop31 1 year ago
hey man thanks for the post it was a beautiful letter, God bless both of you, and your adoptive family i hope u get to meet her one day:)
Crownz47 1 year ago
hey bro i hope sumday u can find her or atleast have the opprtunity to...i have a letter just like this in my dresser. it hurts to read but at the same time i understand as u do. my mom was 13 when i was taken away. i kno wu realy dnt care about what i have to say but its gud to know im not the only one whos has a letter from a mom i never knew. if ur looken for her i wish u the best of luck. im still looking for my mom
sj2merdead 1 year ago
i was given up for adoption in 1959 to abusive parents. met my bio mom who didn't really like me either~wish abortion was legal then. my biomom said that is what she wanted to do. my life has been horrible. adoptive family didn't really want me and bio family doesn't want me either.
1chickenmom 1 year ago
@1chickenmom . Thanks Debbie Downer. I mean it sucks that you've had it hard, but this is supposed to be a positive video. Geez!!
momcubed76 1 year ago
omg that made me relive my expierence! I had to adopt my son out when I was 19 years old it was the toughest decision!! but I know I have support a little not alot because alot of people dont agree but i have few support and these videos like yours make me feel like I am not alone in the pain....and grieving! thanks!
heavensentprincess1 1 year ago
@heavensentprincess1 It's not always that easy, especially for those who are rape victims. I would prefer adoption over abortion any day... I hope I'm not offending anyone's opinion on the matter.
inupuppy101 1 year ago
@heavensentprincess1 Oops! Sorry! That first post was meant for melissacarl2002.
Still I admire the strength it must have taken you to make that decision, I don't know if I would be able to do the same.
inupuppy101 1 year ago
Don't give your kid up for adoption. They would rather live with you. You are their mother. If you couldn't raise them yourself, CHANGE! Don't let society make you think you can't do it. YOU know you CAN.
melissacarl2002 1 year ago
omg, I love this. Although not part of the triad, it really touched me.
SPAYPET 1 year ago
omg, I love this. Although not part of the triad, it really touched me.
SPAYPET 1 year ago
you are soo lucky! i was adopted also, but i was adopted from china, i have an amazing life now. but my mother wasn't allowed to leave a note it was too dangerous, and also illegal but she couldnt keep me. i dont even know why. your birth mother is so sweet. i dont know where she is or how old she is or even her name. i wish i knew more, and i can only hope she loved me but the family i have now gives me more than enough love. thanks for posting this your are wonderful!
NYSkater1994 1 year ago
Thats just such a, awesome thing to have. Im adopted and my birth mum didnt write me a letter, but hey. Have u or will u try and find her?
XrussianbitchX 1 year ago
David, I am 20-years-old, and I placed my beautiful little boy into the loving arms of his forever-family on February 22, 2010. His name is David. Reading the letter from your birthmother, and especially your reply to her made my heart swell. You said exactly what I hope my sweet little boy will be able to say to me one day. Thank you for sharing your story. It gives me strength as I long for my little angel.
BrownEyedMuse 1 year ago 2
Wow this is beautiful and brought tears to my eyes, thankyou for sharing. I am a birth mom of a 33 year old and hope to reunite one day.
TorontoRocks2 1 year ago
Wow this is beautiful and brought tears to my eyes, thankyou for sharing. I am a birth mom of a 33 year old and hope to reunite one day.
TorontoRocks2 1 year ago
Wow this is beautiful and brought tears to my eyes, thankyou for sharing. I am a birth mom of a 33 year old and hope to reunite one day.
TorontoRocks2 1 year ago
wow such beautiful letters, brought me to tears todays my birthsons 1 month birthday...i have yet to write his letter
callmeonthemoon 1 year ago
I hope this is real because it is incredibly sweet and sentimental.
momcubed76 1 year ago
I was adopted in 1971. Sometimes I'm pissed at my biological mother. This helps. I'm in tears. Thanks.
jorloff 1 year ago
this was incredible close to bringing me to tears, infact i have a little wet dropplet comming from my eye. that was so sweet :D
PrincessHv101 1 year ago
I am almost in tears you have great strength my dear ,it took a lot of courage and maturity selflessness to love your daughter that much .
misteeq64 1 year ago
I miss my twins every day. it is a horrible lonesome longing that never goes away. I hope someday they will both know that I thought of them every day and every minute of those long days....
mbgreenberg000 1 year ago
im adopted i was born on the floor bronx nyc failure to thrive with a broken leg my mom dint take me to the hospital so my grandmom did i was a crack baby i hated my mom up until i was 14 ur lucky to hav a mom tell her she loved u my mom failed to do tht sometimes i go thru a emo state nd cut myself wishing i wasnt born but im adopted nd i hav lovin parents nd noone can take tht pride from me not even if tht bitch came back
dae0987 2 years ago
@dae0987 b4 u judge, i work w/ severe at risk youth includin crack heads and i lived in the south bx so i know where u comin' from. ppl do CRAZY things for crack and u cudda been a product of rape. when ppl are on crack, they are no longer ppl. maybe yur mama was a good woman til the crack took ova.
i got fam whose done murder and I still love em.
don't cut. hold ice ((hugs))
TheTravelfool 1 year ago
I met my birthmother almost a year ago and she can't even remember my birthday. I'm glad yours has a soul. I gave my son up 9 weeks ago now and I can't imagine being that way! I'm glad that you wrote the reply. Being a birthmother myself, I know it would mean everything to know that you're not angry. I hope my birth son will feel the same way.
highnote19 2 years ago 2
i want u to kno at first ur son will not feel the same way he will hate you he will wonder if you loved him nd why u game him away when hes in his teen years he will understand it was better for him i hated my mom all my heart even wrote a song tellin her i hated her decated the song GO TO SLEEP BITCH to her thn i relized she did this for me if she could take care of me she wouldnt of left me then again maybe she dint when hes older tell him how much u love him like my mom failed to write me
dae0987 2 years ago
you are a wonderful child!!!
maggiebridget09 2 years ago
°cry°
Noiizii 2 years ago
that was really sad :'[
w1ck3dad4m 2 years ago
David, please update us if you do finally meet your mom.
tinjmail 2 years ago 19
Man i really wanna adopt a kid! for all those people who want their kids to have a better life i would so want to adopt a kid! but later in life cause i'm in grade 10 right now .
NGxREALITYxFANTASY 2 years ago
thats beautiful
Antoinnette71 2 years ago
I am too a Birth Mother, after 28 years, I found her within 4 days, And the feelings I always felt would Happen did, She Hates me.
But she says Im a really Nice Person.
Thats not her true feelings.
But its Ok, Because I knew it was gonna turn out this way for Various reasons.
But this song is awesome.
runnrbabe 2 years ago
So sorry for you
Jelliestarry 2 years ago
so sad that our materialistic society forces young girls to feel that they can't give their baby this or that, so the baby would be better off without them. all the baby wants is it's mommy. desperately poor kids still love their parents. adoptees are often made to feel that if they are angry about being relinquished that they are ungrateful for the adoptive parents who they also love. women, think again before giving up your baby! you can do it!
somnambul75 2 years ago
I couldn't do it. Even with all the help there is out there (which isn't much), it's hard to do. I still see my daughter, but it's not the same as raising her.
geigernator09 2 years ago
and do what? live off of the tax payers? It's not about the baby not getting Nintendos and brand new cars, it's about self-lessness and putting someone before yourself. Every living baby deserves to be loved just like you and me. I think Birth MOthers are very brave for doing what they do. You may be bitter towards them forever asinine reasons, but face it, birth mothers are very brave for doing it.
thatgirlkelly1 2 years ago
I am a 21 year old adoptee and my bio sister found me about a week ago. I am trying to write a letter to her parents (my bio parents) but I don't know what to say.
My sister and I are meeting and a week, but I want to send bparents a letter, to start to get to know them and have them know me.
Birth parents- if your son or daughter were writing you a letter, what would you want to know/find out about them. What would be most important to you?
Any help is very appreciated : )
kah1215 2 years ago
It is great you want to have a relationship with your birth parents. I just gave my precious baby boy over to a family for adoption on Monday and am counting the seconds until I can see his beautiful face again (it is an open adoption.) I would want to know anything about him he would tell me. His hopes and dreams, his goals, what he loves and what he hates, anything. Honestly, just you contacting them will mean the WORLD to them. And that is an understatement.
justpeachy918 2 years ago
@kah1215 I am a birthmother. Funny enough I am sitting in front of the computer trying to figure out what to write in a letter to my 11 yr old birthson for the first time. He is curious about me, and I still hurt so much I have never been able to see a photo. I hope your meeting went well and you were able to find what you were looking for in that relationship. All I ever want to hear him say as an adult is that he is happy, and has had a good life. That is all I have ever wanted. Blessings 2 U
bluestorm34 1 year ago 2
So i guess ill be ready to go back into fostercare and were about to loose our house.
berrykari 2 years ago
im adopted my father and mother did the exact other thing since my mom had Schizophrenia she was not thinging straight and my father mad used and sold drugs in my grandmothers house they gave me drugs to get "rid " of me then my father hurt me in many ways i was one day taken away put in fostercare my mom is probibly dead im 13 my dad just got let out of prison and my grandma is probibly dead so i was in fostercare till 4 got a single mother to adopt me dieng of diebetes slowly no other family
berrykari 2 years ago
this made me start bawling. i'm adopted and i know you understand what it's like to have a birthmother who cared about you so much to give you up... for a better life.. For a new life. My twin and I were adopted over 20 years ago. This video was awesome. My birthmother wrote me a similar letter and I can't read it without crying. I hope to meet her and thank her one day. Thanks for posting that!
TRloveUE 2 years ago
Thank you for sharing that. I too am a "birthmother". July 30th was the one year anniversary of the day I gave my daughter up. It still hurts. This gives me hope. I hope she can forgive me too.
geigernator09 2 years ago
There is nothing to forgive, You chose LIFE! You gave her a gift that she will have forever. I admire your courage.
nagaempress 2 years ago
Very beautiful thanks for sharing
marajade619 2 years ago
OMG! Thank you soooo much for sharing this with the world. Birthmom2 :)
jodimode1 2 years ago
Thats sweet that she gave you a letter. My social worker had given my parents pictures of me with my birth mother when i was a baby. My sister found them the other day. My parents claim they just forgot about them.
drpepper234 2 years ago
my sister found a letter sayin what our respective natural parents looked like, their family background and etc, nothin identifiable, i was 17 wen she found them and had never known anything at all, dunno if they were ever going to give them to us, they didnt know what to do. but i wasnt going to ask for them! tiny things like that make a difference.
Pippitypopify 2 years ago
Yeah I dont think my parents realized how important something like that would be to me and my sister.
drpepper234 2 years ago
THIS IS WONDERFUL! IT GIVES ME HOPE!
I'm a birth mother and placed my daughter when I was 17 for the same reasons your mother did. Our adoption is open and I see her often. but I am married with a one year old now and I see my daughter all the time, but I wonder if she will ever understand.
I'm keeping a journal for her for when she is older. I hope she understands, and I'm so glad you posted this :) It shows the love and positive perspective of adoption :)
acwtgr 2 years ago 2
Goodness, I held in all the tears until you put your response. That was beautiful. I never got a letter from my mother like that, you are lucky.
6eloved 2 years ago 2
this is really great it made me cry iwish i had somethinglike this from my mbirth mom
googledude26129 2 years ago
Hi David,
Thank you for sharing this. I am a birth mother and I would give anything to hear the words you said to your mother from my daughter I placed for adoption. You are a strong young man. Good luck in your search. I hope you find her someday.
Heather
hls276 2 years ago
awhhhh i hope you find herr :)
it made me cry
xx
xthatsxproperxcoolx 2 years ago
Wow! that was amazing!! she did do the right thing tho. that's really thoughtful for a 16 year old. i hope u find her..if u want to! :]
TheOneTheOnlyElly 2 years ago
dude i felt touch..... i was separated from my mum for a year and a half and i cant stand the pain.... i hope u can find your mum.. it will be nice to have a mum's love and care...
kaffoges 2 years ago
yeah. i'm adopted too. i never saw my real dad and my real mom took off when i was 5 (10 years ago). i don't know where they are or even if they are still alive. its hard not knowing were your actual parents are. and the worst part is is that some people think it will all be ok if they replace them with a new set of parents.
mattschat 2 years ago 2
i'm an adopted mum myself and my son is in contact with his birth family and i really hope tat u find ur birth mum and tings work out as it shld b. It's tough for majority of birth mum to let go their child.
As I used to tell my son's bio mum that does not mean u are a bad mother just because u give up ur kid and not necessarily u r a gd mother just because u kept ur kid.
lolazz22 2 years ago
I cried and I am not usually the person to cry. I am adopted too and I searched for my biological mother for 3-4 years...I finally found her. If you wanted to find her it would be okay to search..it's not wrong you know. God bless you.
--Em
avengem 2 years ago
yeah, I hired someone to search on my behalf--the only way Washington State will allow it--and they looked for 2 years. When they finally found my birth mother, and called her, she said "No thanks, I'm not interested", and hung up the phone. To call her back would have been "harassment", so they couldn't tell me any more about her, and I was never allowed to contact her. But I found a half sister anyway. Now my birth mother is dead and I've never heard her voice. I cried when I found out.
mountainbirch 2 years ago
I feel your pain... good luck.
AntieBadoooo 2 years ago 2
Oh wow I actually started crying. This is so sad! xx
18orova 2 years ago 2
Hey David, I really hope you find your birth mother. Don't ever be afraid to take the first step in finding her, she is waiting for you to find her. I find my birth mom last year on May 10th and we still keep in touch. She told me that she was waiting for me to find her and I did 22 years later. Good luck David in finding her. If it was a closed adoption, get a hold of the lawyer and get some information so you can find her...
-Kelly
thatgirlkelly1 2 years ago
Hi David, I hope you find your Birth Mother one day. Don't ever give up. I just found my Birth Mother a year and a half ago and I am 47! Good Luck on your journey!
Hanauborn 2 years ago
Very sweet hun! i hope u find her one day!
Megan1Indiana 2 years ago
WOW! How mature she must have been at 16. How much she loved you. My heart goes out to both you and her. I hope you find her one day. Where were you adopted? Was she from the same state?
skyeslilmama 2 years ago
i sing that same song for my baby girl the one by brian adams i hope u find him some day i found my girl on picture trail she had a web site whit all of her pictures on there and she look just like me shes 16 now i have not seen her in person yet but we emailing eachother some times she da's not wana talk to me on the phone yet dont no why. god bless u hope u find him soon ask jesus to help u and he will
dollydemetro 2 years ago
omg i cried lol
girlslikeboys22 2 years ago
this is so beautiful. i really hope she sees it one day.
jensterz07 3 years ago
I recentnly called my birth mother for the first time and the second i heard her voice i just cried for an hour while my brother talked to her. Its so emotional and i only could tell her "i love you '
before i hung up and started crying . I am soon turning theage when she had me and i could never imagine being 4 months pregnant right now.
supermac18num1fan 3 years ago
iwos givein up at 12 moth old snd only now i hve herd from her i ws the happist time of my life does any one have tips on wot 2 do when i meet her thanx
manutdmad2007 3 years ago
I too was adopted I my met my bio mother 8 years ago now. You can spend a lifetime deciding what to say and do but the truth is when you will know when you meet her what to do. For me I was so happy and so was she we hugged each other she was crying and said sorry and then we sort of felt like family straight away and were laughing and joking and I was telling her about my life. The important thing is not to be angry with her or show upset at your adoption until u know eachother better.
adopteeh3ll 3 years ago
Of course I cried through this entire video as well.
I am a birthmom. I placed my beautiful and wonderful son through an open adoption. He was born on November 17, 2008. He is the best thing that's ever happened to me and I love him very much. I journal to him (much like your bmom wrote you a letter) in hopes that he will forgive me.
I can relate to every single thing your birthmom went through and why she decided to place you. Thank you so much for this video. It's a blessing.
Kudos!
bmom08cmcd 3 years ago
i was born on december 18, 1989
i was adopted from mexico and i'm going to meet my birth mother the day after tomorrow
i'm so excited, so nervous and just so thankful.
chappies89 3 years ago
I can't remember the last time I cried this much...
I was adopted from Chile to Norway when I was only a couple of months. I guess my mother had a quite similar story as your mother, she was so young, and wasn't able to raise me by her own, since my father left when she told him that she was pregnant. And she was poor as well. But I don't think I ever will be able to forgive her. But I hope I'll meet her again some day :( After all, she's my mom..
Very touching video. 5stars.
mlando91 3 years ago
This is beautiful I think the birthmom's get pushed way into the shadows and many, not all would like to stay that way, This video however proves otherwise. beautiful so beautiful it made me cry , true love for the birthmother here true love.
raffynjenny 3 years ago
This is a beautiful video. Being adopted myself I am still trying to get over the hurt I feel. God Bless.
SassyGirl010 3 years ago
this video made me cry...i'm a birth mother and was reunited with my son last December. Strange thing is..we actually worked at the same store!! The same thoughts went through my head back in 1985 when I gave him up for adoption. Thank you for posting this! I hope you find her!
ctallady 3 years ago
this is so sad my baby had a baby in feb she 16 now she has hers and he a angel this just makes me thank of her b/c she trys so hard to do ever thing right and not ack for help
angiejeffoler 3 years ago
David, Not a day goes by that we don't thank our Heavenly Father for our son's birthmother. May God bless you, your adoptive parents, and that miracle birthmom who gave you life. Thanks for the video. It was inspiring!
THe Johnsons
brandiannjohnson 3 years ago
Wow, could I ever relate to the part of that letter that was from your birthmom. I too am a birthmom, only my birthson is only 4 yrs old. Love the end of the video :)
dynamicentry 3 years ago
As a birthmom myself, I can only hope my first born son can say the same to me. very touching video. your momS should be proud.
missbarnett05 3 years ago
nice vid d-money
boscelts 3 years ago
As the adoptive mother of 2 adopted children, one birth mother wrote a similar letter and the other birth mother choose not to write a letter. God bless you for giving your son the gift of live and giving the adoptive family the opportunity to have a small slice of your huge gift.
Birth parents everywhere, trust me, adoptive families love their children's birth families!
Terea
kfsths 3 years ago 4
I am thankful every single day for that gift that she gave me, as are my adoptive parents. Thanks for your kind words.
-David Aldridge
minerallad 3 years ago
Hi David ... I am also a birth mother. I had a little girl in December 2000. I wrote her a very similar letter that I have tucked away until she's a little bit older and can understand more about her adoption. She knows who I am, and I used to visit her and her family when she was a toddler. We still keep in touch via email, letters and phone calls. Thank you for sharing a part of your story.
bunnyluv41 3 years ago
David, thank you so much for posting this. I've been crying the whole video. I'm a birthmother--gave birth to my son on May 20, 2008. I've been wanting to write him a letter but I can't make it perfect. Sounds weird but I believe your mother wrote it over and over until she had it perfect for you. Luckily my adoption is an open one, but it is still the hardest thing in the world. As I said, thank you again for this video, it is helping me cope with everything. Remember your mother loves you. (o:
BirthMotherNikkole 3 years ago
Thanks for your touching response. I don't know if a perfect letter would be possible to be honest with you. Trust me, I've tried. I think we just have to settle with what we can do the best, and let the rest go in peace. The only thing that would be perfect for me, would be to see her face-to-face. You are very fortunate to have an open adoption. God bless you.
-David Aldridge
minerallad 3 years ago
David, You're so sweet! I pray that you find your birthmother some day, and that you will be reunited with her in ways that would be a blessing for both of you. God Bless you!
bunnyluv41 3 years ago
Amazing, thanks for sharing!
ostmoefamily 3 years ago
No, thank YOU! I'm amazed at all the people that this video has touched, it just goes to show how many people out there deal with the exact kind of thing that I am dealing with, that we are not alone out there.
-David Aldridge
minerallad 3 years ago
thnx for this... makes me able to understand (possibly)why my Mother gave me up...beautiful letter.
tink830 3 years ago
You are most certainly welcome, that is one of the reasons that I decided to share the letter.
-David Aldridge
minerallad 3 years ago
I dont know ya, and im sitting here watching this at 4am, i rarely cry but this got me. I've been trying to find my birth mother for the last year with pretty much no results, close to giving up. But yeh, at the risk of sounding corny, this vid brought my hopes back up. Thanks for sharing that.
MickQuick07 3 years ago
No, you don't sound corny at all. You sound like a person with a mission, and I hope that you succeed.
-David Aldridge
minerallad 3 years ago
wow, I thought I was moved until the closing lines of your message to your Biological Mom then you had me bawling...beautiful, I am sure her letter brought you a much greater sense of peace and understanding and your gesture and message is beautiful and even if it never reaches her it obviously resonates with many and gives them some comfort and peace
mowsey321 3 years ago
The letter brought great amount of peace to me, and it answered many questions that I long had. I found it while sorting through some files in my room, getting ready for a new school-year. I'm glad I discovered it this late, I don't think I would have understood it much if I had found it when I was younger. In two more years, I can meet her through the adoption agency, and I look foward to that day every second of my life.
-David Aldridge
minerallad 3 years ago
OK! thats really weird i have never cried not even once for 4 years! and now after this video is my first tear after four years!
SweetNorah 3 years ago
Wow, I can't stop crying.
I'm a birth mother too, I'm 22 and my son is now 7.
I can't write a letter, because I don't think I could say anything, other than; "you should be with me" :'-(
shrinkingviolett 3 years ago 2
That's how I felt, and why I made the video. I just couldn't get everything down on paper, so instead, I decided to make a tribute with her letter, and my response to it. You did the right thing, giving up your son. Giving him up means that you saw the fact that you were simply too young to raise him on your own, and wanted him to have the best life that he could. I am certain that he will forever be grateful for that.
-David Aldridge
minerallad 3 years ago
Oh man, I'm sitting here bawling my eyes out. I'm a Birthmother, who on Christmas Day 1979 surrendered my daughter. I just found her last year. We have yet to meet face to face, I'm sending her this video link.
shorekitten
shorekitten 3 years ago
Thanks for the comment! I'm glad that you were touched by my video. It's nice to know that there are birth mothers like there like yourself, whom have found their birthchildren. I sure hope I meet my birthmother someday!
-David Aldridge
minerallad 3 years ago
Wow, I never thought that my video would be so important and touching to so many people. Today, it reached 500 views. Thank-you all for all of your positive feedback on it, it means a lot to me to know that there are other birth-children like me out there who have had positive situations, and birth-mothers like mine who have left letter's like mine did. Thank you all so much, it means a lot to me =]
-David Aldridge
minerallad 3 years ago
thank you for this amazing video!
DWD420 3 years ago
Thank you. I am a birthmother also...my son Ryan was born in 1999. His birthday is just a couple of days away. I am so blessed to have found your video tonight. His was a closed adoption. Your words touched my soul. God Bless you. Your parent(s) have so much to be proud of...This is a beautiful, and loving tribute to your bmom.
Thank you...
icequeensmelted 3 years ago
I got very emotional watching this,i started sobbing,but this was very special to me,I am a birthmother,i gave my beautiful daughter up December 7th 2007,thank you for this,thank you for sharing.
RaZoReDbABe 3 years ago
This is so awesome...thank you for sharing. My birthdaughter is 8 years old and I sent a similar letter with her. I have that little bit of fear that one day she will be very mad at me for what I did, thanks for making it feel a little better!
mizgeministarz 3 years ago