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  • I self harm and have for many years now. im 17 and suffer from depression, anxiety, bpd, bipolar, bulimia and psychosis. I've overdoesed many times and also been on life support. i cut most days and burn as well as tablets and poisons as well as many other things. I dont believe i could describe self harm any better than you have and thankyou for posting it!!

  • true! ive cut, and btw this song was in Cyberbu//y

  • i just tried to tell my mom. she completely ignored it. fuck my life

  • THE SONG IS "SIA- BREATHE ME"

  • I love this vid.

    I self-harm, badly, and I want to stop.

    I'm thinking about telling my parents, do anyone have any tips so that they wont freak too much? They'e really the freak-out people and they're probably gonna ground me if I tell them, so if anyone could give me some advice on how to make them not overkill.

    I'm thinking about letting my boyfriend, who knows everything and supports me alot, being there when I tell them. Do you think this is a good idea?

    Please, help me with this!

  • this vid makes me wanna cry. i agree that its embarrassing to talk about and im hoping that noone i know finds this comment, (but i doubt they will) because too many of my friends know about me already. it all just came out one week. i guess almost everyone saw it when i had to scratch my arm, my scars tend to itch alot and now i just feel paranoid like everyones always looking at me when theyre not. i moved away so noone at my new place knows but im still paranoid. however im glad im not alone.

  • I don't know what to say, exept for... thank you so much. I have problems. In a twisted way, it's always nice to be reminded that there ARE others. Many, many others. We all need help. Again, thank you.

  • I cut myself a little, but only when im really upset so ive got it under control. Some people do it way too often

  • @jesmalu you bring up an interesting point, having autism is a risk factor. I am a cutter ( have SI'ed for years). I will soon be doing some volunteer work for autisum.org as a befriender (to try to achieve even them smallest amount of self worth). What the heck should I do if I find out the person I'm responsible for does it as well? will I be to blame? will I have to inform my manager?

  • the name of the song is (breath me).............

  • Thank You So Much <3

  • ive cut myself since i was in the 4th grade. to remove the feeling from the inside.. to... the outside.. so i can show wuts hurting when it hurts ...inside... i cant handle it.. its when u see the blood ur like.. this hurts.. b/c i did it.. its bleeding thats why it hurts.. and its only worse at night. im currently going to be 22 years old... i think its safe to say.. i have a problem... none of that other shit works..

  • ive cut myself since i was in the 4th grade. to remove the feeling from the inside.. to... the outside.. so i can show wuts hurting when it hurts ...inside... i cant handle it.. its when u see the blood ur like.. this hurts.. b/c i did it.. its bleeding thats why it hurts.. and its only worse at night. im currently going to be 22 years old... i think its safe to say.. i have a problem... none of that other shit works..

  • I think some of you may like my video as well? Idk...watch it if u feel like it

  • Great video <3

  • so manny peaple did it but so manny peaple can recovery anytime im in recovery now i lost 2 teeth and some skin do to self harm but i feel good about recovery and dont worry we are all human we do stuff that we dont understand in life but there is always help each problem got a solution

  • Thank U SOOOO Much!!!

  • self injury consumes your life. it consumed mine.

  • I have self harmed since about 12 years old, your video is spot on, i have cut, broken bones, burnt. punched and headbutted walls. I can't stop wonder if i ever wil.

  • i want to stop so bad :(

  • I cut my self but i do it so i dont have to concentrate on the emotional pain involved with life

  • hi, im trying to get more people watching my videos, and subscribing etc, this vid really affectedme, and i wadered if anyone could check out my videos? btw, i love thesong.

  • I used to cut myself....I sometimes still wish I could....It really helped me...I didn't do it for attention....I faked a smile everday. No one ever saw through it. You just kinda explained my feelings. I did it to feel alive, some people do it because they feel it to be punishment. Like it's all their fault. It isn't. Remember that! You are important and no deserves to be punished for a crime they did not commit. We mostly punish ourselves though. Don't. You have no reason to.

  • what does SI mean?

  • it was suppose to be since it was spelt si'n or if she used it a different way it might have ment self injure lol

  • We all need help, support, love!

  • It gives me something to think and learn from, which is always a good thing.

  • I use to cut myself before for unknown reasons but now as I watch these videos.I

    now kinda know why it's hard to trust and get close to people. vm

  • Any1 thinking of sarting to self harm dont do it. Because I understand the way you feel. Please tell an adult about this because I have seen to many people go through its horrible effects.

  • 3:32 works and theres no mark afterwards like 10 min after

  • 1:12 How would SI Help someone Take controll of an uncontroll of a uncontrollable situation. That makes no sence at all, If you just feel even worse when you see whats left afterwards your dun with yourself.

  • A lot of people feel all of their emotional pain leave them when they SI. Instead of talking, they SI.

  • :'( this is deep

  • the importance of a good shrink with u is massive,even tho they may seem like enemies who will tell ur parents everything.some will,some won't.its up for US to find who's honest. SI may help,but as you said, BE SAFE. dont go deep in this idea. dont try suicide. it might not work, you might have serious consequences,like me.now,if i could go back i would've learned all i know bfore doing SI. u can b depressed and SI. after doing it u WILL be even worse at some point as time go by.

    b safe jesmalu

  • i made a video of my scars

  • I have one main reason why i SI-- BEEN BULLIED ALL MY LIFE BASICLY!

  • same with me although i don't SI/SH

  • I used to "scratch "my leg when I was younger, I did it for a long time, then on halloween when was trying on my custom she saw my leg and she freaked, I havent done it for 3 or 4 years now ,and I got help so Im doing better

  • song is Breathe Me by Sia. one of my favourites

  • I've cut me self , a friend linked this video and i personally think its really strong ... God ...

    Name of the song is ?

    Thanks For UL ^^,

  • thank you for taking time to watch!

  • i do it nd i like it. there is nothing wrong with it, ppl r just 2 pu**y 2 take the truth that cuttin is a good thing. that stuff can't replace it nd ppl need 2 stop trying 2 find things 2 replace it,, b/c nothing beats seeing you'r blood flow.

  • @dropdeadkim it's breath me by sia

  • @dropdeadkim Breathe Me-Sia

  • @dropdeadkim Breathe Me- Sia

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  • thnks 4 the triks but doesnt help at all 2 numb i guess

  • im really embarassed to say tht i self harm

  • Wow this video is amazing its everything i want to tell people like my mum and the stupid fxcking counciller and it explains the ways to deal with it. its brilliant. thanks for the help info i'm gonna try the red marker thing i already tried the ice cubes (i got bored) and the rubber band (just didn't work)

    x

  • yh ive tried stuff lyk tht aswell, it rly jst dnt wrk the sme as cuttin does

  • i cut and cut and cut. til theres pain. and that is not even enoughe

  • I have seen many videos of this, but this is just exceeding it all....

    I tried the marker though, and it did not really help me....

  • this video is excellent, thanks x

  • what song is in this video??

  • Britney Spears - breathe me

  • The songs is not by britny spears. its

    Song: Breathe-Sia

  • breathe-sia (itt`s on her `clolour the small one` album)

  • wat do you mean by trigger?

  • when something triggers, something reminds you of another thing & upsets you. so my video may trigger someone to think of something else that reminds them. like if i watched the video, i can say i got triggered by a picture, ...omg its tough to explain..

  • @woahXgirl94 for people who are addicted to cutting, seeing pictures or hearing about cutting can either greatly upset them and cause them to shut down, or make them WANT to cut just because of the pictures. i can look at pictures and hear about it now without wanting to, but when i first got addicted to it at 11(started at 10) if i saw a picture of someones cutting or heard something about si, it made me want to.

  • @woahXgirl94 something reminds you of something negative. eg. someone watches this, something makes them remember a time that they cut of a time they were depressed or something bad that happened, and it makes them rly upset. that could in turn make somebody si.

  • am i becoming depressed?.......

  • ryc: i dont know. maybe see a doctor to find out?

  • i just got done haveing a fight with my parents. i used to feel warm and clean when i would get home but now i feel like i have to hide. ive been crying everynight sence the beginning of high school. i feel like im losing my friends... i was an a student now im a c to b student. i feel like im losing everything. this rollercoaster wont stop. i dont know what else to do........

  • but girls who cut themselves is a turn on for me

  • Why is that a turn on?

    Being one of those people sucks sooo much.

  • really like ur vid, i'm 28 and i cut but i dont want help, i might talk to someone one day but all my friends left me behind, its my only way to feel alive instead of numb

  • I passed this video to few of my friends. And this makes me so sad. Ah

  • Hey great videa x what song is this?

  • it's in the info.... "breathe me, by sia"

  • There was me thinking that all we all really need is love. And with children, the worse the self-harm, the bigger the PERCEIVED love-deficit.

    For 'love' read 'attention'. (And for attention read love).

    With adult self-harm, the child's habits are ingrained, sadly. But it's really the same thing.

    If you care, always be on the lookout for attention seekers. They really need attention!

    And you know that's true because we all do.

  • I belong to recoveryourlife and try to promote the site where and when I can.

    Just wanted to say a quick thanks for taking the time to make this vid.

  • hey, this is a pretty good video...but just to let you know, The rubber band things works for a while, but then it gets really old, it it leaves really mad makes when its done hard enough

  • i know how you feel.

    but are you getting advice or help?

    coz ive been talking to my school nurse about it. and shes helping me. but it is really hard.

  • thank you ...... i really wish to meet someone like me .... see, cauz i dont really have a reason to SI, but i cant stop ...... !! :'( ...... but this video helps.

  • Thank you for making this video. At 1:25 there's an image of a word cut into skin... Knowing I'm not alone in that...knowing I'm not the only person to struggle with this makes a difference.

  • i have so many scars...

    and if it wasnt for a friend i wouldnt be here.

    unfortunately it will take more than a video to help me, but this is a very good thing for the ones who find better ways to deal

  • ever tried DBT?

  • i feel numb icut

  • i cut...and this video explains why. people at school say ''shes doing it coz she thinks shes cool'' but i feel so lifeless inside and numb...and it just hurts even more when they say these thangs..and now i cant stop cutting

  • Numb as in no emotions?? If so me too O_o I'm not depressed any more, but after the meds, that made me have no emotions is even worse -_- So I cut, and even better for me, bang me head against things trill I'm dizzy and feel at ease... hard to explaine...

  • no numb as in horrible...sad like i cant ''feel'' yer and i understand

  • Oh I thought it was being emotionless. I hate this emotionless numb state, I would rather be sad again, just to feel again.

  • i do understand, just try & keep safe & try DBT if you haven't heard of it.

  • very well done video, thanks!

  • You're outstandingly brave and beautiful. TY for sharing your videos w/ us. Some people are immature online & like to hate on other people's videos. Don't take their comments seriously. U R above that.

    I think you're beautiful & resilient. I don't know what trauma happened 2 you or who did it, but the fact that you're here, now, is proof that good can overcome bad.

    Anyone who hurts a child or an animal is ill to say the least. I admire u so much!

    Have a good day & stay strong.

    Linds

  • I self harm but not that bad i feel i don't do enough of it when I see self harm and depression i feel i want to be more like that i do it for attention but then i keep it s secret. I have mild scitsofrinia but they don't say to do it. ive ony told to people and one just looked sakred and carried on as normal the other asked why and just ignored it but i really wanted to talk but i don't waht to push them.

  • great video

  • thanks!

  • thnx for the tps ... i likes the ice one.

  • does it work for you?

  • 2:28 i sccoool

  • I remember when I used to SI. I've been clean for a month. It hurts when your family finds out and their reaction is to accuse you of being crazy. Just thinking about it makes me ache. They never once tried to help me, they always pushed me away. And when I finally told them why I did what I did, they wouldn't believe me. They said I made it all up. That's probably what hurt the most. Cutting was my way of balancing out the pain. I thought I'd feel better if I felt the same on the outside. Eh..

  • I hear the pain as a past cutter can (15 years).

    I will be in DBT training soon for my job as a certified peer support specilist and am scared I will give in to impulces of old copeing habets.

    need to cry soon and decompress...

  • ummm, not to be an ass, but i thought this had to do with how to swallow razor blades without destroying my esophagus, cause it was in the related videos menu to a magic trick vid, and i thought this was some safety precaution thing, the whole "self injury awareness" but yea, i was wayyyyyy off target on what i was looking for. sorry

  • Wishing you didnt have the feelings is right for everyone, No one that feels this way wants the feelings, most of the time the only thing we want is love, someone that accepts and wont judge us, someone that will just come into our life and stop everything wrong, make it all right, Cuttings not really a bad thing just not safe. be carfull, be curtiouse to others, just remember, thers ALWAYS someone to talk to =) if anyone wants to talk you can message me- Jeremy

  • People who want to cut themselves are trying to release deep rooted pain inside themselves. I remember I wanted to cut myself when i was in 5th grade. I picked up a razor blade and then put it up to my skin and then hid the blade from myself. THE NEXT DAY I was in the basement and saw the t.v. on.....there was someone talking on one of the first talkshows with 3 guests who cut themselves. I listened to them and didn't feel alone. I never looked for that blade again...for them.

  • What is this song.

  • Breathe Me by SIA :)

  • i feel the same ... all those words describe what is going on inside me every second minute hour . i wish i did not have the feelings... they just wont go away

  • great video by the way, ifeel you trust me

  • well this is my tune. and i dont cut but know the dangling and finger tips on the edge turning blue just hanging on and not realy knowing if i am going to make it , one tear down my face, dripping off the edge of my cheek , falling and letting go ... freedom?? ... peace... end of pain ?..... no more hurt? ..... not afraid to die... want to live ... but so so overwhelmed to the point of just letting go of the whole vicious cycle of pain and destruction, not mattering to any one or thing,= Me...

  • *hugs* i can understand. hang in there

  • i almost fainted because of cutting.. did that ever happen to you?

  • no, u cuttin too deep or losing too much blood? be careful

  • I'm wishing everybody a harm-free day one day a week.

  • this is a beautiful and powerful video jessie. thank you.

  • teh one was goood with the rubberbant. and ice too! i felt loverd when i vatched the video

  • great vid.

  • have u got any advice like to stop doin it...coz i really want to but im like strugglin..so if u can plz help x

  • im hoping you are able to keep yourself safe

  • powerful way to get the message across. thanks.

  • thanks for watching

  • there is no help i self harm well i used to less than a month ago and it everyday i feel like it will happen again everyday i feel more and more alone there is no help what if my family is not supportive wat if they are part of the reason for my self harm and all where is the support everyone talks about cuz i dont see it
  • there are support groups online for people who need the extra support. check it out. you'd find a lot of people who undestand.

  • My family is also like that, and I used to feel iccolated and alone to, things change dont worry, I cantsay im better now cuz my gf just left me but things will work themselves out, and no ones going to help you unless you reach our your hand for it =) im here to talk to if you want

  • omg lol most ov ths stuff spesh the part were its on bout the rubber band n ice wow i got told off the hospital i used to do it n sumtimes i feel like doin over n over agen but i tell my self tht my family love me n tht they wunt like me to die - so i bare with it and things always turn out the best when u dont do it n u dnt feel like u HAVE to do it thank you if u hav read this x x x Rachael - aged [[ 14 ]] x x x

  • that helps me sometimes with the rubber band

  • this is a really good video....there aint no stereotype or nuffin there shud be way more or this stuff its rad

  • thanks

  • I self-harmed once, but I don't understand why, I guess I wanted to see how brave I could be, now I try to hide the cuts but at the same time I want someone to know or someone I can show them to. When I look at the cuts on my legs, I am very scared and it disgusts me...I just don't understand

  • common. glad you dont do it anymore.

  • i self harm you are not alone

  • hugs

  • A great vid, describes everything perfectly, and although the reasons are different it is totally all about expression. SI can last a lifetime, but with the right support system it

    can be dealt with and perhaps overcome.

    Thanks for sharing this.

  • yea

  • This video is really great. I hope that it helps to bring more awareness to the pain that you and I and many others share.

  • thanks for watching

  • it's very real and this video is excelent for understanding thie state os mind

  • thanks

  • The answer is Jesus! I know He will set you free. I myself feel love for you but none can love like He does. Ask Him and He will free you from this devil of self injury in the name of JESUS CHRIST!

  • That is so terrible.

    I hope and pray you find peace enough

    within yourself to forgive yourself and others.

    If people truly loved one another there would be no reason to SI.

    Maybe one day the world will grow up.

  • wow this is the first vid ive seen that doesnt say stuff like if u know som1 hu SI's tell their parents or stuff..thnx 4 puttin it up, its helped me a lil

  • awesome video, i've cried watching this

    i do some of those things

  • who dose this song???????

  • its on the side bar & at the end of the video

  • Omg i cried during this. May i ask a question? Ok here it is, if you have anxiety when your kid, does this mean you will be trying to hurt yourself when you get older? Like it gets worse each year you get older? Please tell me! I need to know so bad!

  • is drinking a form of si?

  • yes

  • yes. in extreme cases. IE: you drink til you pass out repeatedly to cope with life.

  • *nods*

  • Jesus helps me to not self injure, maybe He could help you too:)

  • great video i have self injured since i was 11 as well. I've tried markers and ice and such when i was much younger. but this is great advice! and informative! great job for saying triggering! thats important. ppl need to know that. anyway thanks for sharing. =)

  • cutting isn't as much painful as you think. during cutting there are endorphines, which are hormones that makes the pain feeling like you snipped you finger a lil bit at wood. endorphines makes you feel better.

    thats the reason why cutting ,helps" for some minutes.

  • yeah,..

  • It must be painful and That would reason enough not to cut oneself in my opinion.

    So you say they do this to feel something because they don't feel much they just feel 'numb'. so does that mean when you cut yourself you aren't sad? because you're numb so I think that means you aren't really feeling much emotion or am I very wrong about what feeling numb means?

  • when im numb,i want to feel, therefore i end up hurting myself. worse in fact.

  • Hi, I've just watched this and some of your other videos about SI. Well done for being so honest. I wondered - do you have DID as well as BPD? I hope today is a good one for you..

  • yes, was diagnosed with DID /PTSD & borderline.

  • You explain SI and its link to dissociation very well. Your videos will help many to understand SI, I'm sure.

  • yea...thats what i was tryin to do & still want to. thanks for watching.

  • In 10 words explain this vid, this feeling? lol

  • eh?

  • I can't finish watching it to much,the singer sounds like you don't you think?.

  • nope, not me ;)

  • Love the vid..

  • thanks

  • cool vid

    but i feel bad for ppl that do that

    and its also hard to understand too

    cuz how can anyone just cut them selfs

    it hurts so much!!

  • The ppl do that do understand, have many reason for doing it. For ppl that don't understand usualy say to them you idiot..

    But seriously calling someone an idiot cus they are inflecting pain on themself doesnt help. Just makes things worse..

    But I like your comment.

  • i agree

  • thanks, im not offended nor bothered by this. your the idiot for bothering to watch it in the first place. you dumb fuck!

  • You're a fucking bastard, my dad DID kill himself from this kind of stuff and here you are saying all this shit about self-harmer's, why don't you go fuck yourself!

    People like you make me sick!

  • You're a fucking bastard, my dad DID kill himself from this kind of stuff and here you are saying all this shit about self-harmer's, why don't you go fuck yourself!

    People like you make me sick!

  • yep...

  • Wasn't saying it to you. Was saying it to the Almostskater4 person.

    I think you do great videos.

  • o i knew that =) was agree with you.

  • Why are you watching the vid If u feel the way you do??

    You can't realy stumble onto a vid like this either.. lol

  • Love the music you picked.

  • I'm sorry I haven't watched this before, this was very very good, very real, I appreciate your honesty and openness. I hope your information can help parents and those who live with this.