i am having alot of trouble disiding wether or not my boyfriend is the right one. when i am around him, well being in the relashionship hurts me inside, bings about i dont know why i just dont understand i have mixed up feel up felling about him i love him to bits but inside i have diffrent fellings i honestly dont know what to do i am having a hard time finding out what to do. i need help
beautiful :] i clicked on this because I need to break up mainly because he ignores me so much, and even though he constantly says 'i love you' he doesnt seem to truly care about me nor i him. To me he likes me as 'the hot girl who all my friends like' but when we hang out he ignores me and does his own thing, when i ask him to do things with me he doesnt ever really want to
I saw this video, and I knew it was time to leave a guy that wasn't for me. He made me feel like I was nothing, and he mistreated me in ways that I can describe. But when I finally cut the cord for good, I found a man that makes me feel like the beautiful queen that I am. And His name is Jesus Christ. And the only tears I cry are tears of joy. Thank you for this video. It REALLY spoke to me. Definetly a favorite!!!!
I was able to get my ex girlfriend back with " Surviving a Breakup: Getting Back Your Ex For Good" by Matthew Mehra. I found it on Amazon for the Kindle. It was pretty inexpensive and worked in my case. Anyone looking to get back with an ex boyfriend or girlfriend should check it out.
thank you dear for this advices, it's do help for real, i have tried what you said once and it did work but now i couldn't do it anymore, i feel like i love that person, and i know that person is a lair, but what can i say easy come easy go.
it's been long i didn't meet my self esteem..i know it's here inside of me..but i just don't find it..but when you said "honor yourself"..i almost cry..but then your soft voice make me calm..
i love your video. right now i need to get the courage to break up with what i feel is the love of my life. i just want to feel better. his abuse and lies have become to much. and i need to walk. but theres so much as to why i havent left. i go back and forth in my mind and cant seem to get up the nerve. i love him so much. he loves me. but i cant see it REALLY working. i found your video a very healing one. im going to watch your others now. thank you.
My comment continued - But then again it is his fault that I am. He was texting (Insert name here) from his past a few months back. And when i asked him to tell this person that he is with me because (Inset name here) didn't know he was. He said no. So he was texting (Insert name here) basically as a single person. And i'm never gonna know what those texts said. I also found texts of a "Straight" lad saying 'I wish i was gay i'd treat you so right' I love him so much. But i need help. Anyone.
@FizzledJelly Hey I know I'm 6 months late (just came across this video), I'm guessing it's too late for advice but I hope everything has gone well and that you're feeling good. How did it go? What did you do?
My comment continued - Yet he goes out clubbing without me quite frequent. I love him so much, he is the funniest guy i've ever met and i never want to lose him. There is certainly something special between us. It almost feels like fate but i don't believe i'm supposed to be like how i am because of him. I used to be such a fun loving, nice person. And now i'm always miserable and mardy because i'm constantly worrying about what he's doing. I just wish i wasn't so paranoid. ...
My comment continued - And just constantly worrying about where he is and who he's with. There have been times in the past where he has met up with these people from his past whilst we were together. And i have been told that one of them tried to kiss him and told him to leave me. Now i am expected to just keep my mouth shut and just trust him but deep down i don't and it's turned me into something i'm not. He's tries to control what clothes i wear and he also doesn't let me go out clubbing. ...
My comment continued - I have a chance to just get away, and go live with my mum who lives up north in the UK. or i have a second option. To stay where i am now and stay with the man i love. But the man who also causes me alot of hurt. I don't know if i am strong enough to leave him because i can't bare the thought of seeing him with someone else. But i need to do something because of what he's doing its almost turning me into an insane person. I am constantly checking up on what hes doing ...
My comment continued - Because of these feelings we have had for each other we keep punishing each other for our pasts. And he keeps showing interests in these people he has had pasts with whilst we had feelings for each other. And it's hard for me to sit here and watch him do that when i have removed people from my life for him. He even once said, 'If we hadn't got together i probably would have done stuff with (Insert name here) and (Insert name here) two of the people from his past. ...
Hi, i'm a guy btw. Dunno if you're willing to help me since you're religious but i need advice. I have been with my current boyfriend for almost a year now. It will be our 1 year anniversary in march. Before we got together we were best friends, for 2 years. So it almost feels like we have been together for 3 years because we both had feelings for each other the time we were friends. Now thatmight seem like a nice thing but really its caused alot of problems. I have no characters remaining haha.
i really love this video, honestly. i am in love with a boy, and hes the only one i have ever loved, the only boy ive ever known. hes everything to me. we ended up fighting a few weeks ago and he wanted a break. it was the most awful time ever.. and now were together and everythings different. beside the point, i could and still can never say how i feel without him getting upset.. he never calls. only texts me back sometimes. and doesnt say sweet things anymore.. i wanna leave but i cant :(
im 12 and i have two crush on to boy 1st crush he very nice cute but is keeping me a secreit 2nd crush nice cute and whount keep me a secreit wich one 1 or 2 plz help me
I just got a new boyfriend, its only been less den 12 hours since our relationship but instead of feeling happy, sumthing feels wrong , i feel kinda empty, i like him and he feels the same but sumthing doesnt feel right, can u plz give me advice on wat to do, it wud mean alot to me THNX ^^
Wait, you did this video in your office at work? Lol, I'm sorry but it's just funny to think of someone walking in and going "uhhhh what are you doing?". haha, unless this is your actual work work.
And still be friends with him? I really need an advice.. Umm, my older comment is down in the comment page. I didn't wrote in one comment becouse it was to big lol
Well, I really hope you will return me on this, And, I tried to cry but I just can't...!
The tears doesn't come out .. Please, come back with an answer.. Thanks.
My nickname is MsShirly, So you can see the first story of mine and the question..
Umm.. I have a problem. I really want an advice from you :)
I'm 14 and a half, Yeah i'm kinda young but still.. There is someone that I love for so many years.. And we got together , a less then a month he broke up with me on facebook, told be that he doesn't feel anything to me.. Even when we were together from the start he didn't want me..He wanted to love me but it didn't seem to work. He really want to be friends with me. But now, I love him even more then before.. How do I get over this?
@MsShirly Honestly if he kept you around waiting and lied to you about how he felt then he is just not worth it. If he ever cared about you he would never keep that lie for so long.
i want to know what to do when your a single mom and your child has a disabilty but you want love and what do men feel about dateing a women with a child thats disabled
@karlena82 You trust that there is a great man out there for you who will accept you and your child and when it is time and you are ready, he will show up!
@lovein30days Hate to be a realist here but that will barley happen. Men are avoiding single moms like the plauge. Did you know that most single moms carry emotional baggage into their next relationship and are more likley to devorce again. Men know that devorce will lead to their financial downfall. All you should concentrate on is teaching your son to think carefully about what relationship he gets into so what happend to your husband dosen't happen to him.
Thank you, you really really helped me somehow. You did encourage me. :) I'll have to break up with him in a few days, even if he's really in love with me I think. But when I don't love him, I guess it's better to be honest, right? ...
Shay I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 9 months and I really love him but I don't really know what to do we live together. And my cell phone is under his name and all my family is 500 miles away. please help me i dont know what to do
@kaedeecornelious I'm in the same situation, but we are married and have been together almost 7 years and have a child. It will be a LOT easier for you to break up with him now than it will for you to do it 7 years later with a child. And you can get your cell phone turned off and get a new one. Much simpler than divorce and custody.
It's hard to let go of someone you have grown to love!!!! But the moderator is right....if the relationship is progressing, if the person isn't showing you with they're actions that they love or care about you, you must let them go...it's better to let go, rather than holding on. I say that when you break up, you should erase all contact info and go at least 60 days of no contact...it gets a little bit easier after that.
thanks for the advice, you helped me, a lot. what ive been through , was hell, and i've been hurting myself, thanks for revealing some emtions, that i know arent supposed to be in a healthy relationship.
hi..the video is helpfull,.but my situacion is: I've been with a guy for 3 years now and I think I've only been happy like in the first 5 months..he makes me feel bad, he continues to do things I ask him not to, he lies to me etc and I already know that I want to break up with him 'cause I'm not happy, and I don't love him that much and I know I'd be fine without him and my problem is not hurting him 'cause he kinda deserves it, but I just don't have the guts to say "it's over".help me please.
hi shay i was just wondering where i can book an appointment with you to ask a question and where i can buy the book? Great advices, and iam glad that there are people like you that gives people hope to keep looking for the one and never settle thank you
Thank you so much. I broke up with my boyfriend about a month ago because I realized that I didnt feel good about myself when I was with him. You helped me realize that I made the right choice and youre very inspiring.
I think healing works differently for all of us. I did the 90 day no contact. I sms'ed about 3 times every time I drank wine...Until I saw him one day and I realised NO i dont want this dude anymore. Now I am flirting with a handsome, nice guy but I will take things slow cos I dont want a relationship yet, but I love his attention.
lmfao"Keep Your Panties On.!" Anywayz,Everytime i Imagine the Guy of my Dreams,All i See is this Boy i Like name Alex,I try to Imagine Another Guy and EVERYTIME i do I see his face.!
Angela, it may be hard but committing yourself to misery or someone who does not value or respect u is harder--neither is it good 4 u or your children. Set an example 4 them by SHOWING them what loving, valuing and respecting yourself looks like. Also, whether u are 2gether or not he is still responsible for providing and having a relationship w/ them. Whatever the case hold your head up and do what u need to do 4 U and your kids.
i need to chose between my best guy friend who is amazing btu i dont like him more than a friend.and my fboyfriend....he doesnt compliment me everday like he used to and the excitement is gone...and i know i need to choose my best friend..but i need help figuring out HOW im going to break up with him...this hurts so much..but i know im just wasting my time with someone i dont really like...
i just found out my boyfriend has been cheatin with my best friend hes been talkin to her on facebook and ect then 2days after i found out he split up with me i cant not talk to him cuz i have to sit next to him in school so buut my current boyfriend is not happy with me siting next to him girls i need help can somone send me some advice
I just broke up with my bf of two years, I loved him but it wasnt healthy. We were both paranoid and I felt like I was losing myself and becoming more and more unhappy so although im crying now I know I will get through it.
this girl told me at school that i shouldnt watch your videos because im not black and they wouldnt help me, but she was wrong. after all the advice i have received, your advice has been the most helpful. you really understand and god put you into this world to help our women. thank you so much!
I feel like I'm dieing when I'm not with my boyfriend...but when I'm with him i feel like I'm losing myself.. when we are together (in person) he is great but when we are not together he is awful! i don't know if its because he doesn't know how to show his feelings! i just don't know what to do please help me!
im a man. its funny how much regret women show after breaking up. what happened to self-asteem and true feeling? damn, gimme a time machine so i can go back to the royal ages.
My boyfriend is talking to woman and then when i come in the room he acts like he wasnt talking. Then when i ask him what was he doing he ALWAYS says she was asking me out.. I find that hard to believe. He does this so many times that i lost count! Please help me
i get exactly how yu feeel !! i catch my boyfriend talkin to other girls on his facebook n other social sites n den i ask him about it he says dey we`re asking for his number and trying to ask him out , he does dah same thing over again :(
Wow this is amazing. This has to be the best breakup advice I've ever heard... Thank you so much for posting this. It really pushed me to finally do the right thing... and your "value your v" vid was so true it made me cry. Do you think it would be a good idea to remove him from facebook?
your a fucking awesome I LOVE YOU!!! your good but yet funny!!! please I think we need to hang out!!! I totally love the religous beliefs!!! and think you ROCK
wow, this video is great, your words are very wise, and I especially like what you said about your beliefs, I think even if youre not religious you can relate to that, because I believe in fate. I think it helps you to stay positive. What you said about listening to your heart was very helpful, and about feeling worse with him than on your own. I think I am at that point where i am more unhappy with him than alone. He is putting me down, making me feel bad about myself.
Shay in response to your married man video, Also a married man will not marry his mistress because he KNOWS his mistress knows he can't be trusted, even if only in the back of his mind he knows it.
omg thank you very much! you make me feel better. my bf older than me for 17 years, and he had sex with another woman, i forgived him because i love him alot, he is my first man that i had sexual relationship. he trying to breke up with me but i just can`t picture myself without him! just now i realized that i need to break up with him. that he`s just a looser and i`m a diva queen if he want to lose such a beautiful and smart woman like me. i will lket him go. thank you very much.
well....i have a big problem...you see...i have a relationship with a really nice guy and my parents are making my life a mess....they dont want him and every single day i dont know what to do....i am thinking of braking up with him but ....when i see him i change my mind....btw...the video really helps.....(sorry 4 my english ;) ^^
I just broke up with my girlfriend, and i feel bad because when i told her we should let it burn, she started crying, the next day i asked for her forgiveness and that i wanted her back, she told me it was too soon, and i'm going to have to live with this mistake for the rest of my life
how many times a day does she get hit on? geez! too many to count! i can listen to her all day - even she was reading the yellow pages. damn she has all the cards in her hand - i wonder if she has her own money - nah that would be too good to be true - she's only with men with a perfect FICA score and makes at least 7 figures
Your voice is so calming...you should really think about making one of those cds that lul people to sleep. I watch your videos at night and listen to what you have to say and then I listen to it again right before I go to bed so you can put me to sleep. Some people have voices that make me wish I was deaf. Your voice is extremely pleasant. You should really think about the cd thing. That would be another good business venture for you.
I have been with my bf for 4 years now and lately we fight a lot. It always goes around circles- fighting and making up. Jet fighting seems much frequent than happy moments. We abuse each other emotionally all the time. I feel like I have turned into this sad person and I was never meant to be like this. I feel like I love him less every day but thought of breaking up scares me so much. I am stuck.....
I think I am close enough to make a choice now to leave him. At the end of the day you should be strong and believe that you deserve all the happiness in the world and if it's not working you have to save yourself. If it was meant to be you'll get back together again. Hope you are ok x
I believe the problem with women is they seek boys and not men. Women meet a guy. He shows you a little attention, so you sleep with him. Now you are considered "boyfriend" or "girlfriend" and perhaps shacking up. He decides to abuse you and sleep with other women. Now you don't know what to do. Well that shouldn't be hard. You leave. He has no commitment to you or vice versa. Ladies, take notes. Before you give up, make sure there's a ring on your finger.
REALLY MEN AND WOMEN ARE STUPID i mean men stay with women no matter what for sex and and women stay with men no matter what for the attention or because they so called love them
I'm trying to get out of a three year long emotionally abusive relationship. The only thing that is stopping me is that I feel bad for him, and I feel like I'm an awful person. He says that I'm all he has, so if I leave him...Does that make me terrible?? I still love him. I love him so much but.... I can't handle this anymore. It's too much, and everytime he says that he'll change he never follows through. Help? IDK what to do. I'm at my wit's end here...
i am going tthrough the same thing.. and i know exactly how you feel. Except its been two years not 3.. They never changee.. and its soo stressful..the only difference is is that he wont ever allow me to break up with him..definitely an emotional abusive person..Im just as lost as you are and its good to know that i am not the only one..
wow i feel the exactly same way and when i try to tlak it out wh him and end it he somehow brings me back by saying stuff like no just give it a little longer i can be the man u want me to be... so i need advice too if you have any poibnters.
i feel like this break ups hurt if both parties had feelings involve then both parties will hurt,so just go through the heartaches and pains for however long it take b4 its ova then move on.because thats reallity.we all know the possibity of getting in a relationship it might be forever in most cases (not)especially this generation or break up. so take your time move slow as you can and really get to know a person b4 having sex and starting a relationship.
Its so hard because he has hurt me and i never was allowed to be mad at him for more than an hour. well he upset me, I got mad, I went out to clear my mind and he flips out and now he wont speak to me, answer my calls and he says i fucked up on him... i dont get it.
Honey you know what that is...its called SELFISH. If you gotta tip toe and hold back because you dont want to hurt his feelings or piss him off...then frankl he aint really giving your feelings any thought. If i were YOU i would honestly find something to occupy my time and let HIM call YOU. He should be apologizing to YOU. Its days since u posted this so not sure what happ...but PLEASE for yourself...do not run him down...
I need help! I have been with my man for 5 years and I love him but yet i cry and am unhappy. I tip toe everything around him to not get him mad but he always does what he wants. I am so confused. ..... Ahh
I been with my bf, who is 12 years older than me 4 almost 6 years now! and like all the other women I am confused on weather to brake up or stay with him! u see, he is never sweet 2 me, he always leave me out of important decissions or events, and he is not helping me with the wedding plans! he dont hit me or abuse me, but he is very cold! he never do anything special, & I can't help feeling lonely! I spend most of my days crying and thinking about leaving! He treds that he wil die if i leave!
U know what to do. U R simply afraid 2 do it. If you've been with a man 4-- 6 years who is cold and insensitive towards U, search your heart and ask yourself how much U love YOURSELF. ACCEPT the truth about your situation. LOVE and ACCEPT that U deserve better. B willing 2 let go and allow God 2 heal and open your life for the best. U can't expect from others what U are not willing 2 give yourself. Love, dignity and respect. U are worth it!
I got a method I share with my girls all the time. Get a calendar a write a checkmark or an ex for everyday you are happy or sad. Then after a while check it. You will be able to look at your relationship more objectively.
You Talk So Much Sence. I Used To Have So Much Confidence, Now I Dont Have Any. He Would Look At Girls All The Time And It Makez Me Feel Like Crap. He Knowz How Much It Hurtz Me.. But He Stay Doin It. Sucks So Bad
Sweetie there is better waiting for you. Step back and trust. When you move on she will regret it if you were a good man and come back BUT you would have found better. Give your self time to heal and be open to true love coming into your life:)
I love your advice. You will make an excellent mother. Excellent mentor you are, relationships expert Ms Shay thanx for the wisdom imparted. I love your advice.
um people need to quit so called believing in "Romantic Love" it doesn't exsist, it is only hormonal, it isn't real, when in the hell is everyone gonna wake up, if it was real then nobody would be breaking up and the divorce rate wouldn't be as high as it is. Wake up people, Just wake up!!!!!
Thanks for posting. I really needed this.
snoop5118 1 month ago
i am having alot of trouble disiding wether or not my boyfriend is the right one. when i am around him, well being in the relashionship hurts me inside, bings about i dont know why i just dont understand i have mixed up feel up felling about him i love him to bits but inside i have diffrent fellings i honestly dont know what to do i am having a hard time finding out what to do. i need help
ThePurdypurdy 2 months ago
beautiful :] i clicked on this because I need to break up mainly because he ignores me so much, and even though he constantly says 'i love you' he doesnt seem to truly care about me nor i him. To me he likes me as 'the hot girl who all my friends like' but when we hang out he ignores me and does his own thing, when i ask him to do things with me he doesnt ever really want to
piano123player2 2 months ago
My girlfriend got bored with our friendship so I quit calling her. We had been dating for three years and i just quit calling her.
Cainkane1 5 months ago
I love when you said "you're holding on tightly to a penny while God has a million dollars in store for you", very true and encougaging
Yaiyasmin 5 months ago 6
I saw this video, and I knew it was time to leave a guy that wasn't for me. He made me feel like I was nothing, and he mistreated me in ways that I can describe. But when I finally cut the cord for good, I found a man that makes me feel like the beautiful queen that I am. And His name is Jesus Christ. And the only tears I cry are tears of joy. Thank you for this video. It REALLY spoke to me. Definetly a favorite!!!!
LeftEye2pac 6 months ago in playlist LeftEye2pac's Favorited Videos
Thank you so much for your advice girl. Ladies, take it from me, never EVER fall in love with a man who is Bipolar!! Even if he seems okay at first.
78fancynancy 6 months ago
if your boyfriend tells you he has a child should u break up with him??
1414latina 7 months ago
Thank you
meggiluvable 8 months ago
aaaah!!! how about 56 days...is just that i wanna explain to him why i broke up .... :s
laujazmina 9 months ago
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I was able to get my ex girlfriend back with " Surviving a Breakup: Getting Back Your Ex For Good" by Matthew Mehra. I found it on Amazon for the Kindle. It was pretty inexpensive and worked in my case. Anyone looking to get back with an ex boyfriend or girlfriend should check it out.
newfnshow031 9 months ago
thank you dear for this advices, it's do help for real, i have tried what you said once and it did work but now i couldn't do it anymore, i feel like i love that person, and i know that person is a lair, but what can i say easy come easy go.
HemoOo2 9 months ago
Good advice, your so pretty ! and so basically you need to make plans to get over him.
TalkTrashToTheToliet 10 months ago
it's been long i didn't meet my self esteem..i know it's here inside of me..but i just don't find it..but when you said "honor yourself"..i almost cry..but then your soft voice make me calm..
mnjesyed 11 months ago
THANK YOU!
09lamia 1 year ago
i love your video. right now i need to get the courage to break up with what i feel is the love of my life. i just want to feel better. his abuse and lies have become to much. and i need to walk. but theres so much as to why i havent left. i go back and forth in my mind and cant seem to get up the nerve. i love him so much. he loves me. but i cant see it REALLY working. i found your video a very healing one. im going to watch your others now. thank you.
blondestprincess 1 year ago
My comment continued - But then again it is his fault that I am. He was texting (Insert name here) from his past a few months back. And when i asked him to tell this person that he is with me because (Inset name here) didn't know he was. He said no. So he was texting (Insert name here) basically as a single person. And i'm never gonna know what those texts said. I also found texts of a "Straight" lad saying 'I wish i was gay i'd treat you so right' I love him so much. But i need help. Anyone.
FizzledJelly 1 year ago
@FizzledJelly Hey I know I'm 6 months late (just came across this video), I'm guessing it's too late for advice but I hope everything has gone well and that you're feeling good. How did it go? What did you do?
Yaiyasmin 5 months ago
My comment continued - Yet he goes out clubbing without me quite frequent. I love him so much, he is the funniest guy i've ever met and i never want to lose him. There is certainly something special between us. It almost feels like fate but i don't believe i'm supposed to be like how i am because of him. I used to be such a fun loving, nice person. And now i'm always miserable and mardy because i'm constantly worrying about what he's doing. I just wish i wasn't so paranoid. ...
FizzledJelly 1 year ago
My comment continued - And just constantly worrying about where he is and who he's with. There have been times in the past where he has met up with these people from his past whilst we were together. And i have been told that one of them tried to kiss him and told him to leave me. Now i am expected to just keep my mouth shut and just trust him but deep down i don't and it's turned me into something i'm not. He's tries to control what clothes i wear and he also doesn't let me go out clubbing. ...
FizzledJelly 1 year ago
My comment continued - I have a chance to just get away, and go live with my mum who lives up north in the UK. or i have a second option. To stay where i am now and stay with the man i love. But the man who also causes me alot of hurt. I don't know if i am strong enough to leave him because i can't bare the thought of seeing him with someone else. But i need to do something because of what he's doing its almost turning me into an insane person. I am constantly checking up on what hes doing ...
FizzledJelly 1 year ago
My comment continued - Because of these feelings we have had for each other we keep punishing each other for our pasts. And he keeps showing interests in these people he has had pasts with whilst we had feelings for each other. And it's hard for me to sit here and watch him do that when i have removed people from my life for him. He even once said, 'If we hadn't got together i probably would have done stuff with (Insert name here) and (Insert name here) two of the people from his past. ...
FizzledJelly 1 year ago
Hi, i'm a guy btw. Dunno if you're willing to help me since you're religious but i need advice. I have been with my current boyfriend for almost a year now. It will be our 1 year anniversary in march. Before we got together we were best friends, for 2 years. So it almost feels like we have been together for 3 years because we both had feelings for each other the time we were friends. Now thatmight seem like a nice thing but really its caused alot of problems. I have no characters remaining haha.
FizzledJelly 1 year ago
god bless you! u r the best
SadieandSerenity 1 year ago
i really love this video, honestly. i am in love with a boy, and hes the only one i have ever loved, the only boy ive ever known. hes everything to me. we ended up fighting a few weeks ago and he wanted a break. it was the most awful time ever.. and now were together and everythings different. beside the point, i could and still can never say how i feel without him getting upset.. he never calls. only texts me back sometimes. and doesnt say sweet things anymore.. i wanna leave but i cant :(
EndlessColor 1 year ago
im 12 and i have two crush on to boy 1st crush he very nice cute but is keeping me a secreit 2nd crush nice cute and whount keep me a secreit wich one 1 or 2 plz help me
tessa3080 1 year ago
what do i do if he ceping you a secrit
tessa3080 1 year ago
I'd probably drop the word DIVA, on urban dictionary there are several definitons of the word that imply manipulative gold digger
TimpBizkit 1 year ago
Thank you so much. This video really helped me. :)
SinisterDahlia 1 year ago
I'm 14, and I just got a boyfriend, but now I want to break up for 3 reasons:
1.) I just don't think I'm ready to date ( I thought at first I was, but I'm not...)
2.) He's way too hyper for me
3.) I sometimes feel uncomfortable around him
Can you help me???
wesleyluvr9 1 year ago
I just got a new boyfriend, its only been less den 12 hours since our relationship but instead of feeling happy, sumthing feels wrong , i feel kinda empty, i like him and he feels the same but sumthing doesnt feel right, can u plz give me advice on wat to do, it wud mean alot to me THNX ^^
01msmysterious 1 year ago
Guy watching this... I feel that about my now ex.
ihrainovs18 1 year ago
keep your panties on xD
ChocolateLover2121 1 year ago
Wait, you did this video in your office at work? Lol, I'm sorry but it's just funny to think of someone walking in and going "uhhhh what are you doing?". haha, unless this is your actual work work.
cryss1996 1 year ago
one of your eyebrows are thicker than the other. :p
suniga101 1 year ago
I really wish i had seen this video before
aemnaemz 1 year ago
And still be friends with him? I really need an advice.. Umm, my older comment is down in the comment page. I didn't wrote in one comment becouse it was to big lol
Well, I really hope you will return me on this, And, I tried to cry but I just can't...!
The tears doesn't come out .. Please, come back with an answer.. Thanks.
My nickname is MsShirly, So you can see the first story of mine and the question..
MsShirly 1 year ago
Umm.. I have a problem. I really want an advice from you :)
I'm 14 and a half, Yeah i'm kinda young but still.. There is someone that I love for so many years.. And we got together , a less then a month he broke up with me on facebook, told be that he doesn't feel anything to me.. Even when we were together from the start he didn't want me..He wanted to love me but it didn't seem to work. He really want to be friends with me. But now, I love him even more then before.. How do I get over this?
MsShirly 1 year ago
@MsShirly Honestly if he kept you around waiting and lied to you about how he felt then he is just not worth it. If he ever cared about you he would never keep that lie for so long.
TheVampiresnight 1 year ago
i want to know what to do when your a single mom and your child has a disabilty but you want love and what do men feel about dateing a women with a child thats disabled
karlena82 1 year ago
@karlena82 You trust that there is a great man out there for you who will accept you and your child and when it is time and you are ready, he will show up!
lovein30days 1 year ago 14
@lovein30days Hate to be a realist here but that will barley happen. Men are avoiding single moms like the plauge. Did you know that most single moms carry emotional baggage into their next relationship and are more likley to devorce again. Men know that devorce will lead to their financial downfall. All you should concentrate on is teaching your son to think carefully about what relationship he gets into so what happend to your husband dosen't happen to him.
CpsLock3 3 months ago
what is she talking about
527199 1 year ago
are you psychologist ? u look like one
03Pugliese 1 year ago
omg thank you i needed this :[ im such a confused person...
hinatacluts14 1 year ago
omg i wanna break up with him so bad but i feel so mean and evil and horrible when i do it!
HunnyBunny191495 1 year ago
thanks for the advise i finally got rid of him xxxxxxxxxxx
donna2090 1 year ago
Thank you, you really really helped me somehow. You did encourage me. :) I'll have to break up with him in a few days, even if he's really in love with me I think. But when I don't love him, I guess it's better to be honest, right? ...
:)
julivuela 1 year ago
thank you so much
PerfectMistakeDG 1 year ago
Shay I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 9 months and I really love him but I don't really know what to do we live together. And my cell phone is under his name and all my family is 500 miles away. please help me i dont know what to do
kaedeecornelious 1 year ago
@kaedeecornelious I'm in the same situation, but we are married and have been together almost 7 years and have a child. It will be a LOT easier for you to break up with him now than it will for you to do it 7 years later with a child. And you can get your cell phone turned off and get a new one. Much simpler than divorce and custody.
birdbath318 1 year ago
it's just really hard to get over someone just like that when you really love him
superdupermomo 1 year ago
yea yea bla bla bla boring
raphita80cc 1 year ago
It's hard to let go of someone you have grown to love!!!! But the moderator is right....if the relationship is progressing, if the person isn't showing you with they're actions that they love or care about you, you must let them go...it's better to let go, rather than holding on. I say that when you break up, you should erase all contact info and go at least 60 days of no contact...it gets a little bit easier after that.
Annazayla 1 year ago
welll i got the point when to say 2:41 - 2:53 and yea my boifriend i think it wasnt good for me do you think i sould break up with him
carmen22064 1 year ago
You are a genius
Pufflesarufflesaroo 1 year ago
thanks for the advice, you helped me, a lot. what ive been through , was hell, and i've been hurting myself, thanks for revealing some emtions, that i know arent supposed to be in a healthy relationship.
obikelaulbai 1 year ago
hi..the video is helpfull,.but my situacion is: I've been with a guy for 3 years now and I think I've only been happy like in the first 5 months..he makes me feel bad, he continues to do things I ask him not to, he lies to me etc and I already know that I want to break up with him 'cause I'm not happy, and I don't love him that much and I know I'd be fine without him and my problem is not hurting him 'cause he kinda deserves it, but I just don't have the guts to say "it's over".help me please.
MrsAxelia 1 year ago
hi shay i was just wondering where i can book an appointment with you to ask a question and where i can buy the book? Great advices, and iam glad that there are people like you that gives people hope to keep looking for the one and never settle thank you
MsCuutie 1 year ago
No break up sex diva!! lol I like your advice a lot! You should do something like "How to fall back in love again!" I think you'll do well on that!
annasupa 1 year ago
You are so right about the 30 days and 60 days. After that I don't feel so attached to him anymore. He can kiss my ass. Opps! No break-up sex haha...
RTypeMuseumKids 1 year ago
Thank you so much. I broke up with my boyfriend about a month ago because I realized that I didnt feel good about myself when I was with him. You helped me realize that I made the right choice and youre very inspiring.
xcgirl311 1 year ago
Your Tone of Voice makes me soo calm, let alone what ur sayin.. thankyou sooo much. Your video really helped me :)
xxnobody 1 year ago
I think healing works differently for all of us. I did the 90 day no contact. I sms'ed about 3 times every time I drank wine...Until I saw him one day and I realised NO i dont want this dude anymore. Now I am flirting with a handsome, nice guy but I will take things slow cos I dont want a relationship yet, but I love his attention.
kennysandiso99 1 year ago
sometime dieing in a relationship is good for the women to go through as it realates to enlightment
ruebenshaw 1 year ago
She Speaking The Truth..
uglypeople07 1 year ago
lmfao"Keep Your Panties On.!" Anywayz,Everytime i Imagine the Guy of my Dreams,All i See is this Boy i Like name Alex,I try to Imagine Another Guy and EVERYTIME i do I see his face.!
JaslenaLove 1 year ago
You're definitely intelligent and understanding.
This will definitely help others out. Hahah don't know about each guy being a loser though
xxjojanxx 1 year ago
I like you! Thank you our DIVA! :)
Jevgenija111 1 year ago
i love listening to you.. i YouTube you after my break up and i really felt relaxed and okay with mu decision ;]
clashair 1 year ago
i love the tips you really helped he get over him thank you
bianca187x 1 year ago
aww she has the sweetest puppy dog eyes in this video!!! She looks like such a sweet heart!!!
cmeefull 1 year ago
what do you do if you have kids with him kinda makes it hard to not see him to help get over him
angelaxoxox 2 years ago
Angela, it may be hard but committing yourself to misery or someone who does not value or respect u is harder--neither is it good 4 u or your children. Set an example 4 them by SHOWING them what loving, valuing and respecting yourself looks like. Also, whether u are 2gether or not he is still responsible for providing and having a relationship w/ them. Whatever the case hold your head up and do what u need to do 4 U and your kids.
darkempress67 2 years ago
lol break up sex
brittaneyUSA 2 years ago
i need to chose between my best guy friend who is amazing btu i dont like him more than a friend.and my fboyfriend....he doesnt compliment me everday like he used to and the excitement is gone...and i know i need to choose my best friend..but i need help figuring out HOW im going to break up with him...this hurts so much..but i know im just wasting my time with someone i dont really like...
fitegrl13 2 years ago
thanks shay, you are beautiful
snl71 2 years ago
i just found out my boyfriend has been cheatin with my best friend hes been talkin to her on facebook and ect then 2days after i found out he split up with me i cant not talk to him cuz i have to sit next to him in school so buut my current boyfriend is not happy with me siting next to him girls i need help can somone send me some advice
ARE ALL BOYS THE SAME OR WHAT
1996gobby 2 years ago
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1996gobby 2 years ago
i love the video and your tips!
opelerkultazz 2 years ago
Amen guurl!
7thPlace 2 years ago
I just broke up with my bf of two years, I loved him but it wasnt healthy. We were both paranoid and I felt like I was losing myself and becoming more and more unhappy so although im crying now I know I will get through it.
CuteCleverBlonde 2 years ago 30
@CuteCleverBlonde
same here, it was codependancy,he was an alcoholic, you can´t help them
mamuumi 8 months ago
this girl told me at school that i shouldnt watch your videos because im not black and they wouldnt help me, but she was wrong. after all the advice i have received, your advice has been the most helpful. you really understand and god put you into this world to help our women. thank you so much!
punkernickle27 2 years ago 3
I feel like I'm dieing when I'm not with my boyfriend...but when I'm with him i feel like I'm losing myself.. when we are together (in person) he is great but when we are not together he is awful! i don't know if its because he doesn't know how to show his feelings! i just don't know what to do please help me!
JimiJo14 2 years ago
You're amazing!. Now I'm sure of what i'm going to do!. Love you GirL!. xD
zaritalop96cute 2 years ago
lol ur spunky ^.^ a lil uptight but i like you(:
cmbhearts 2 years ago
im a man. its funny how much regret women show after breaking up. what happened to self-asteem and true feeling? damn, gimme a time machine so i can go back to the royal ages.
MrY2P 2 years ago
My boyfriend is talking to woman and then when i come in the room he acts like he wasnt talking. Then when i ask him what was he doing he ALWAYS says she was asking me out.. I find that hard to believe. He does this so many times that i lost count! Please help me
Smilepink234 2 years ago
i get exactly how yu feeel !! i catch my boyfriend talkin to other girls on his facebook n other social sites n den i ask him about it he says dey we`re asking for his number and trying to ask him out , he does dah same thing over again :(
xR4H1L4x 2 years ago
i like you!!!!! im goin thru somethings & ur messege is making me think!!! thank you!
Diiamondbull3tz 2 years ago
Wow this is amazing. This has to be the best breakup advice I've ever heard... Thank you so much for posting this. It really pushed me to finally do the right thing... and your "value your v" vid was so true it made me cry. Do you think it would be a good idea to remove him from facebook?
ohhhshitty 2 years ago
I love you !! :D you're so wonderful..
i love your advice so much ! and religion, good :D
bossyboots221 2 years ago
Wow this really helped me thank you so much :)
patenaudedanielle 2 years ago
i like u :)
tranquilbluesky 2 years ago
I LOVE YOU, YOU ARE MY BEST FRIEND!
Gabow 2 years ago
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that is some really great advise
johnnieandclara 2 years ago
your are amazing!
0kaila0 2 years ago
your a fucking awesome I LOVE YOU!!! your good but yet funny!!! please I think we need to hang out!!! I totally love the religous beliefs!!! and think you ROCK
jenbopper29 2 years ago 2
waw... Thank you... =)
this really helped xoxo
SeyPriinceesss 2 years ago
i want to talk to her sorta in person, this helps but only touches part of it.. and i want to talk to her
emilyameaker 2 years ago 2
does anyone know her e-mail address?
emilyameaker 2 years ago
LOL, thats right! Keep the panties on!!!!
quita51238 2 years ago
does anybody kno her email address
TeareaJ 2 years ago
no she didnt
auroraionaa 2 years ago
wow, this video is great, your words are very wise, and I especially like what you said about your beliefs, I think even if youre not religious you can relate to that, because I believe in fate. I think it helps you to stay positive. What you said about listening to your heart was very helpful, and about feeling worse with him than on your own. I think I am at that point where i am more unhappy with him than alone. He is putting me down, making me feel bad about myself.
abitofwhimsey 2 years ago 4
Shay in response to your married man video, Also a married man will not marry his mistress because he KNOWS his mistress knows he can't be trusted, even if only in the back of his mind he knows it.
madika1 2 years ago
wнen вreaĸιng υp wιтн мy вoyғrιend, нe тold мe "yoυ'll never ғιnd anyone lιĸe мe ever!" ι тнoυgнт тo мyѕelғ " ι ѕнoυld нope noт. yoυ're тнe ĸιnd ι wanт тo geт rιd oғ."
XSBloodSourX 2 years ago 42
what writing is that?
RRRoroxo 2 years ago
i agree with you but i stay friends with my ex's cause i think its harder to get over a heart break when u hate each other
sk8erchik95 2 years ago
this is legit! thanks for your wisdom, sincerity, and positivity!
elizmerritt 2 years ago
i got drunk and watched this video... i broke up with him... i love him a lot and wanna be with him... but he`s just not into me....
slimlady1937 2 years ago
Loved this video! You keep it real, yet you still have a gentle spirit. Thanks.
YampyPie 2 years ago
omg thank you very much! you make me feel better. my bf older than me for 17 years, and he had sex with another woman, i forgived him because i love him alot, he is my first man that i had sexual relationship. he trying to breke up with me but i just can`t picture myself without him! just now i realized that i need to break up with him. that he`s just a looser and i`m a diva queen if he want to lose such a beautiful and smart woman like me. i will lket him go. thank you very much.
slimlady1937 2 years ago
well....i have a big problem...you see...i have a relationship with a really nice guy and my parents are making my life a mess....they dont want him and every single day i dont know what to do....i am thinking of braking up with him but ....when i see him i change my mind....btw...the video really helps.....(sorry 4 my english ;) ^^
meaw650 2 years ago
I like you.. I really do. Your tone of voice are passive and relaxing.
speedracer2005 2 years ago 4
I like you too...lol, it's nice to see a fellow St Thomian:) Thanks for the support and compliment.
SYDD
lovein30days 2 years ago
I just broke up with my girlfriend, and i feel bad because when i told her we should let it burn, she started crying, the next day i asked for her forgiveness and that i wanted her back, she told me it was too soon, and i'm going to have to live with this mistake for the rest of my life
Deathstar931 2 years ago
thx alot!
tattahitotsu 2 years ago
how many times a day does she get hit on? geez! too many to count! i can listen to her all day - even she was reading the yellow pages. damn she has all the cards in her hand - i wonder if she has her own money - nah that would be too good to be true - she's only with men with a perfect FICA score and makes at least 7 figures
Lepercolonyowner 2 years ago
Your voice is so calming...you should really think about making one of those cds that lul people to sleep. I watch your videos at night and listen to what you have to say and then I listen to it again right before I go to bed so you can put me to sleep. Some people have voices that make me wish I was deaf. Your voice is extremely pleasant. You should really think about the cd thing. That would be another good business venture for you.
rosieparez 2 years ago
I have been with my bf for 4 years now and lately we fight a lot. It always goes around circles- fighting and making up. Jet fighting seems much frequent than happy moments. We abuse each other emotionally all the time. I feel like I have turned into this sad person and I was never meant to be like this. I feel like I love him less every day but thought of breaking up scares me so much. I am stuck.....
vivaforever09 2 years ago 2
I totally understand what you are going through because that is exactly what is happening to me.
azukita18 2 years ago
I think I am close enough to make a choice now to leave him. At the end of the day you should be strong and believe that you deserve all the happiness in the world and if it's not working you have to save yourself. If it was meant to be you'll get back together again. Hope you are ok x
vivaforever09 2 years ago
I believe the problem with women is they seek boys and not men. Women meet a guy. He shows you a little attention, so you sleep with him. Now you are considered "boyfriend" or "girlfriend" and perhaps shacking up. He decides to abuse you and sleep with other women. Now you don't know what to do. Well that shouldn't be hard. You leave. He has no commitment to you or vice versa. Ladies, take notes. Before you give up, make sure there's a ring on your finger.
rtampa2003 2 years ago 2
REALLY MEN AND WOMEN ARE STUPID i mean men stay with women no matter what for sex and and women stay with men no matter what for the attention or because they so called love them
tyakack 2 years ago
>> make sure there's a ring on your finger
I don't see what you mean. CAn you elaborate?
Battery9876 2 years ago
@Battery9876 Marriage
TimpBizkit 1 year ago
so true
vivaforever09 2 years ago
I'm trying to get out of a three year long emotionally abusive relationship. The only thing that is stopping me is that I feel bad for him, and I feel like I'm an awful person. He says that I'm all he has, so if I leave him...Does that make me terrible?? I still love him. I love him so much but.... I can't handle this anymore. It's too much, and everytime he says that he'll change he never follows through. Help? IDK what to do. I'm at my wit's end here...
kvhansel 2 years ago
i am going tthrough the same thing.. and i know exactly how you feel. Except its been two years not 3.. They never changee.. and its soo stressful..the only difference is is that he wont ever allow me to break up with him..definitely an emotional abusive person..Im just as lost as you are and its good to know that i am not the only one..
mlromo210 2 years ago
wow i feel the exactly same way and when i try to tlak it out wh him and end it he somehow brings me back by saying stuff like no just give it a little longer i can be the man u want me to be... so i need advice too if you have any poibnters.
db112887 2 years ago
you have great advice some of us need your advice
ABSstore 2 years ago
thnx 4 the advice ill take it
hotty4life01 3 years ago
Shes good.... Lolz
webkinzlovers11 3 years ago
this is the 1st vid, i every seen of u. and i became hook just like that ..to ur channel. :)
fee20luv 3 years ago
sooo true!
soundviewbx 3 years ago
you are my idol! you have great advice! you go sista!
pomegraniteparadise 3 years ago
Thank you so much for this video!
I was in a bad relationship for 10 months.
The guy would put me through guilt trips by telling me that if I ever left him, he would never be able to love anyone else.
He would also put me through guilt trips by buying me lots of expensive gifts and doing all kinds of favors for my family.
When I finally got the guts to break up with him, he went crying to my mother...luckily I didn't fall for it
Marikafan 3 years ago
Good for you. I wish I was half as brave as you are.
azukita18 2 years ago
i feel like this break ups hurt if both parties had feelings involve then both parties will hurt,so just go through the heartaches and pains for however long it take b4 its ova then move on.because thats reallity.we all know the possibity of getting in a relationship it might be forever in most cases (not)especially this generation or break up. so take your time move slow as you can and really get to know a person b4 having sex and starting a relationship.
fetti001 3 years ago
This is on point. Good advice!
Emmarose81 3 years ago
Its so hard because he has hurt me and i never was allowed to be mad at him for more than an hour. well he upset me, I got mad, I went out to clear my mind and he flips out and now he wont speak to me, answer my calls and he says i fucked up on him... i dont get it.
MVMV28 3 years ago
Honey you know what that is...its called SELFISH. If you gotta tip toe and hold back because you dont want to hurt his feelings or piss him off...then frankl he aint really giving your feelings any thought. If i were YOU i would honestly find something to occupy my time and let HIM call YOU. He should be apologizing to YOU. Its days since u posted this so not sure what happ...but PLEASE for yourself...do not run him down...
lukki7ster 3 years ago
I need help! I have been with my man for 5 years and I love him but yet i cry and am unhappy. I tip toe everything around him to not get him mad but he always does what he wants. I am so confused. ..... Ahh
MVMV28 3 years ago
Email me sweetie.
SYDD
lovein30days 3 years ago
I been with my bf, who is 12 years older than me 4 almost 6 years now! and like all the other women I am confused on weather to brake up or stay with him! u see, he is never sweet 2 me, he always leave me out of important decissions or events, and he is not helping me with the wedding plans! he dont hit me or abuse me, but he is very cold! he never do anything special, & I can't help feeling lonely! I spend most of my days crying and thinking about leaving! He treds that he wil die if i leave!
princessdulce101 2 years ago
I dont know what to do! I just love him but I am also hurting alot! plz advise me! =(
princessdulce101 2 years ago
U know what to do. U R simply afraid 2 do it. If you've been with a man 4-- 6 years who is cold and insensitive towards U, search your heart and ask yourself how much U love YOURSELF. ACCEPT the truth about your situation. LOVE and ACCEPT that U deserve better. B willing 2 let go and allow God 2 heal and open your life for the best. U can't expect from others what U are not willing 2 give yourself. Love, dignity and respect. U are worth it!
darkempress67 2 years ago
@MVMV28 you love him yet you cry and are unhappy? that's NOT love.
theamazingsupergirl 1 year ago
@MVMV28 hey i just saw you message are you still with that guy, your saying sounds like the same thing i have now, just curious what you did :)
sharonsparrow 1 year ago
@MVMV28 I'm going thru the exact same thing!!
dayna133 1 year ago
I got a method I share with my girls all the time. Get a calendar a write a checkmark or an ex for everyday you are happy or sad. Then after a while check it. You will be able to look at your relationship more objectively.
TiffanySouthall 3 years ago 6
You Talk So Much Sence. I Used To Have So Much Confidence, Now I Dont Have Any. He Would Look At Girls All The Time And It Makez Me Feel Like Crap. He Knowz How Much It Hurtz Me.. But He Stay Doin It. Sucks So Bad
Neneliiciiousz 3 years ago 2
You're amazing I cried right here :( you rock 5/5
pinkserenity03 3 years ago
my girlfreind broke up with me and i love her so much id do anything for her but she wont take me back =,[
auroraionaa 3 years ago
Sweetie there is better waiting for you. Step back and trust. When you move on she will regret it if you were a good man and come back BUT you would have found better. Give your self time to heal and be open to true love coming into your life:)
SYDD
lovein30days 3 years ago
To: auroaionaa. Did she tell you why she left?
mindyourbizok 2 years ago
thank you so much...your advice really helps a lot ....
sjviernes26 3 years ago
This was the best information in the world. This really helped me! Your an angel sent from the sky :)
chtaimetoupie 3 years ago 5
wow you made me cry...well not you mabye, but that hole situation. youre great, great calm voice..
luckylojsan 3 years ago 2
amasing.
h4239gjdp 3 years ago 2
ur fuckin amazing. I LOVE U . i cant wait til my boyfriend calls me cus its SO OVER!!!!!
xobrownneyedqtxo 3 years ago 4
thx for the advice on how to get over a guy. he proved to me that he's not worth my love. im starting to get over him... :)
sinbisejinseungwan 3 years ago 3
Great post!
ejuanir 3 years ago
Your wonderful, beautiful, great and it is so nice to listen to you
lena2m 3 years ago 4
I don't know when you'll get back to me. But I Need advice ASAP!!!!
I NEEEED to breakup with my overly emotional, unmanly, attention-seeking boyfriend. However, his b-day is on the 25th of this month!!
6Fruits6Basket6 3 years ago
I love your advice. You will make an excellent mother. Excellent mentor you are, relationships expert Ms Shay thanx for the wisdom imparted. I love your advice.
hugandkissme33 3 years ago 3
★★★★★ Good, solid advice.
donnamateo 3 years ago 4
um people need to quit so called believing in "Romantic Love" it doesn't exsist, it is only hormonal, it isn't real, when in the hell is everyone gonna wake up, if it was real then nobody would be breaking up and the divorce rate wouldn't be as high as it is. Wake up people, Just wake up!!!!!
Puregrl05 3 years ago