For those of you looking for reading material, I recommend Adoption Healing (2 books, one for mums, one for adoptees) by Joe Soll, and The Primal Wound by Nancy Verrier - excellent for adoptees, adoptive parents and for mums. For those of you whose other half will not meet you, please know that it is not because they don't care, it's because they are too afraid of their pain. We all got hurt through this process; only some of us are strong enough to face it. It's all just so very, very sad.
This is very sweet. Thank you for making this video. I chose an open adoption for my son. He was born three months ago so it is all brand-new but I hope that he always knows how much I love him and why I placed him for adoption.
wow... thank you so much for making this video. It has me crying. I am a birthmother of 18 years that was forced into relinquishing my baby when I was a senior in high school. It was a closed adoption.. I have contacted my daughter and unfortunately she wants nothing to do with me... and her parents do not want me in her life. So the hole in my heart continues... I don't think the pain of losing her will ever end.
What an amazing video. WOW not much more to say. I am an adoptee. Unfortunately, my Birth Mother doesn't want to meet or know me. I so feel your pain. I hope you meet her, to the future. Most people who search do have amazing results. Of course I did meet her daughter that she kept after being married and we have an amazing relationship. That dream did come true for me.
this video is beautiful....i am also adopted and i related so much to everything that you said...i found my birthparents on facebook almost a year ago and it has been wonderful, although i still find it hard sometimes dealing with all the feelings and emotions that will still probably always be there...it is nice to know that i'm not the only one out there that feels that way...thank you.
What a wonderful way to tell your story. I am actually a Birth grandmother. I have been feeling guilty for not raising my grand daughter myself. I think about her everyday and she will be 21 on 5/5/09 and I hope she will want to meet us and her mother. Your video was encouraging to me. However I still am in need of talking to someone.
My birthmother gave me up for adoption 38 years ago, she wanted to keep me but unfortunately her mother would not allow her to-Saturday just gone having traced my birthmother we met for the first time, it was like looking at myself in a mirror. I want you to hear from my side, that I held no resentment towards my mother or my grandmother; I was given a wonderful life elsewhere - and now finally i am complete again and we have so much catching up to do-never give up hope and never feel guilty.
The song is by Plumb, "In My Arms". All the best with meeting your birth mom, let me know how that goes. I remember what the first meeting with my birth mom was like and there are a billion emotions you go through.
and another btw I know my baby girl is more than okay! The best choice I ever made and I do get to see her once a year (live across country from each other)
That's awesome that you get to keep in touch with her, good for you! Thanks for sharing that, I really appreciate it! I was hoping that birth moms would get to read this even if my birth mom doesn't.
I agree with you both.. I thought I couldn't go on without my son. This video is very encouraging, so encouraging that I've decided to write a journal to give to my son when (not if) I meet him again.
I really think that writing a journal for your son would be a really good idea, because I know from an adoptee's point of view that it would really help to understand what the birth mom went through because my birth mom won't really talk about that part at all and it's hard to get closer to her then.
I am a birthmother and please know that video brought some much needed comfort to my soul. I pray my birthson will understand my choice when he is older. Thankyou so much for bringing some comfort to my soul cause today has been one of those days that seem like my pain is to unbearable to carry today. A beautiful, beautiful story. Thanks for sharing it.
Thank for you sharing your story as well, please know if you ever need to talk or vent or anything, send me a message and we can email or something because I completely understand how hard it can be some days. You're in my prayers.
I am an adoptee and this brought tears to my eyes because if I could I would love for my bmom to see this and know this is how I feel and that I'm ok and I hope she is also. Again very emotional and how I feel. Thank you
Yeah, I am an adoptee too. I've met my birth mom already and I think the part of our relationship where we get stuck is that she can't forgive herself for the past. But that stops us from having a relationship now because if she ignores her choice to put me up for adoption, then the 18 years of my life until adulthood didn't exactly happen and we can't talk openly.
I can imagine it would be hard for her too. Be patient, I don't think she really ignores it, it just probably a terrible time in her life. And yes whether she really had a say so, or if her parents made the choice for her, she probably feels guilty. Just be open and know that it is a healing process and will and can take some time. And no I have not found my 1st mom, but have heard from some who have and it can be hard on both partys. Leave the door open.
if your goin to ask me... i dont wana see my birthmom...
nytdreamer15 2 years ago
For those of you looking for reading material, I recommend Adoption Healing (2 books, one for mums, one for adoptees) by Joe Soll, and The Primal Wound by Nancy Verrier - excellent for adoptees, adoptive parents and for mums. For those of you whose other half will not meet you, please know that it is not because they don't care, it's because they are too afraid of their pain. We all got hurt through this process; only some of us are strong enough to face it. It's all just so very, very sad.
Sammicsno 3 years ago
Thanks for your comment, I support it 100%.
pyrotechnataca 3 years ago
This is very sweet. Thank you for making this video. I chose an open adoption for my son. He was born three months ago so it is all brand-new but I hope that he always knows how much I love him and why I placed him for adoption.
courtneym4577 3 years ago
wow... thank you so much for making this video. It has me crying. I am a birthmother of 18 years that was forced into relinquishing my baby when I was a senior in high school. It was a closed adoption.. I have contacted my daughter and unfortunately she wants nothing to do with me... and her parents do not want me in her life. So the hole in my heart continues... I don't think the pain of losing her will ever end.
nurseterilyn 3 years ago
What an amazing video. WOW not much more to say. I am an adoptee. Unfortunately, my Birth Mother doesn't want to meet or know me. I so feel your pain. I hope you meet her, to the future. Most people who search do have amazing results. Of course I did meet her daughter that she kept after being married and we have an amazing relationship. That dream did come true for me.
Gabbycr68 3 years ago
*sniff* I am a Birth Mom, what a beautiful video. It has been 30 years since his adoption, my heart still aches.
middlechildtoo 3 years ago
Please know that I understand how hard your decision was to make. If you never need to talk or tell your story, send me a message!
pyrotechnataca 3 years ago
thank you,pyro :)
rudytrue2u 3 years ago
this video was beautiful! made me bawl my eyes out....i am also adopted and was able to relate to this video sooo much! thank you for posting it!
jessicakayleigh 3 years ago
this video is beautiful....i am also adopted and i related so much to everything that you said...i found my birthparents on facebook almost a year ago and it has been wonderful, although i still find it hard sometimes dealing with all the feelings and emotions that will still probably always be there...it is nice to know that i'm not the only one out there that feels that way...thank you.
jessicakayleigh 3 years ago
This video is amazing. I chose adoption for my daughter. It is open but I still worry about how she will feel one day!
Mommy2JB 3 years ago
What a wonderful way to tell your story. I am actually a Birth grandmother. I have been feeling guilty for not raising my grand daughter myself. I think about her everyday and she will be 21 on 5/5/09 and I hope she will want to meet us and her mother. Your video was encouraging to me. However I still am in need of talking to someone.
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KathieK2008 3 years ago
My birthmother gave me up for adoption 38 years ago, she wanted to keep me but unfortunately her mother would not allow her to-Saturday just gone having traced my birthmother we met for the first time, it was like looking at myself in a mirror. I want you to hear from my side, that I held no resentment towards my mother or my grandmother; I was given a wonderful life elsewhere - and now finally i am complete again and we have so much catching up to do-never give up hope and never feel guilty.
DENDARBY 3 years ago
that was beautiful, i will meet my birthmother now living on the opposite side of the world in two months. BTW what was the song playing?
jonboy062 3 years ago
The song is by Plumb, "In My Arms". All the best with meeting your birth mom, let me know how that goes. I remember what the first meeting with my birth mom was like and there are a billion emotions you go through.
pyrotechnataca 3 years ago
tissue please!!
I loved this video! Is that Plumb?
btw..
I am a birth mom!! Thanks so much!
and another btw I know my baby girl is more than okay! The best choice I ever made and I do get to see her once a year (live across country from each other)
myheartbelongs2afish 3 years ago
That's awesome that you get to keep in touch with her, good for you! Thanks for sharing that, I really appreciate it! I was hoping that birth moms would get to read this even if my birth mom doesn't.
pyrotechnataca 3 years ago
I agree with you both.. I thought I couldn't go on without my son. This video is very encouraging, so encouraging that I've decided to write a journal to give to my son when (not if) I meet him again.
naysa1077 3 years ago
I really think that writing a journal for your son would be a really good idea, because I know from an adoptee's point of view that it would really help to understand what the birth mom went through because my birth mom won't really talk about that part at all and it's hard to get closer to her then.
pyrotechnataca 3 years ago
I am a birthmother and please know that video brought some much needed comfort to my soul. I pray my birthson will understand my choice when he is older. Thankyou so much for bringing some comfort to my soul cause today has been one of those days that seem like my pain is to unbearable to carry today. A beautiful, beautiful story. Thanks for sharing it.
stephandcoles1stmom 3 years ago
Thank for you sharing your story as well, please know if you ever need to talk or vent or anything, send me a message and we can email or something because I completely understand how hard it can be some days. You're in my prayers.
pyrotechnataca 3 years ago
I am an adoptee and this brought tears to my eyes because if I could I would love for my bmom to see this and know this is how I feel and that I'm ok and I hope she is also. Again very emotional and how I feel. Thank you
dm12359 3 years ago
Yeah, I am an adoptee too. I've met my birth mom already and I think the part of our relationship where we get stuck is that she can't forgive herself for the past. But that stops us from having a relationship now because if she ignores her choice to put me up for adoption, then the 18 years of my life until adulthood didn't exactly happen and we can't talk openly.
pyrotechnataca 3 years ago
I can imagine it would be hard for her too. Be patient, I don't think she really ignores it, it just probably a terrible time in her life. And yes whether she really had a say so, or if her parents made the choice for her, she probably feels guilty. Just be open and know that it is a healing process and will and can take some time. And no I have not found my 1st mom, but have heard from some who have and it can be hard on both partys. Leave the door open.
dm12359 3 years ago